getting off the parenting struggle bus with dr. angela searcy

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Struggle Bus

Getting off the Parenting Struggle Bus with Dr. Angela Searcy:

A Model for Positive Parenting

708-845-2343 [email protected] @angelassimplesolutionsAngela Searcy's Simple Solutions © 2017

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Research Shows Challenging Behaviors Are COMMON Among Young Children

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Children have a hard time: Waiting, sharing, knowing how long something will take, talking about emotions, buttoning, following directions, going to sleep, waking up, etc. They get hungry, and tire easily.

Prevention is the BEST intervention! Positive Parenting is all about being proactive!

Knowing It Takes 25 YEARS to fully develop Social Skills Helps you PREDICT and PLAN

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Move past the What to the WHY! Make Sure Your Child Can HEAR and SEE! Make

Sure the is no medical reason for behavior

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I won’t go to bed

Consult your doctor

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I am scarred of Monsters! I won’t wake up

Are YOU disciplined? We put our children back in their own beds until they gave up on sleeping in ours

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Avoid cereal if possible-try eggs, fruit, oatmeal—find what works for you!

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Make Sure there is NO medical reason but a child has to try a new food 7-15 times!

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I won’t eat! WHY? I don’t know what this IS!!!!

Make Your “Expectations” Clear

• Tell your child what to do instead of what not to do. 3 more swings and we will leave. 2 more bites, 5 more mintues, etc.

• Clearly and simply state what you expect your child to do.

• Have age-appropriate expectations.• Use age-appropriate language. Young children

have difficulty with contractions (two words that are combined to form one, such as “don’t” and “can’t”).

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Say the DO instead of the Don’t

• Stop yelling!• Don’t throw your toys!• Stop bothering your sister! • Cut it out.

• Use your inside voice• Your toys go here or you need a

ball• Use kind words • Try to use kind words and hands

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I like to bite things that aren’t food

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Move past WHAT to WHY! I have a sensory need!

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Sensory need, anxious, etc. Get some chewlery from https://www.especialneeds.com Get some gum!

Why? Few words!

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Lifeprint.com

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Why? I am Hungry!

Why? I am Bored!

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Why? I Want Something I Cannot Have

Why? I am Frustrated!

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Turtle Technique at www.vanderbilt.edu/practicalstrategies

Recognize

that you

feel angry.

“Think”

Stop.

Go into shell. Take 3 deep breathes. And think calm, coping thoughts.

Come out of shell when calm and think of a solution.

Use Tools to Help Me Calm Down…

Calm down

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I don’t know what “tidy” looks like

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I won’t do my homework!

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I am cranky! WHY I am a little kid!!!

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When You child Flips OUT! FLIP the Script

• Find out the reason if there is a medical cause –hearing,vision, reflux• Let it take time to work! You are in it for the long haul• Inform your self about your child’s stage of development • Pick your battles! As long as you are safe

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Dr. Angela Nelson-SearcyOR

Simple Solutions Educational Services Page@angelassimplesolutions

@Angela_Searcy

Angela Searcy, EdD.708-845-2343/866-660-3855

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