Getting By or Getting Better

“The Power of Personal Choice”

Presented by Wayne Hulley

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See

Getting the Results We Deserve

Get Do

Personal Perceptions

Actions Taken

Results Achieved

Tell Ourselves A New Story

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Getting By or Getting Better

Getting By ComplianceHead

Getting Better

CommitmentHead& Heart

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Getting Better Is A Choice

ResponseStimulus Choice

ResponseStimulus

The quality of your choices determines your level of

RESPONSE -ABILITY

Choice, not chance, determines human destiny

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Getting Better By Choice

Present Situation Response Future

Situation

Circle of Influence

Circle of Concern

Adapted – Stephen Covey – 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

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Change Your Results

Change Your Mind

Change Your Behavior

Is It Worth Doing?

Can I Do It?

Deliberate PracticeMonitor and Feedback

Getting Better = Change

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Is It Worth Doing?Personal Motivation – The Fire Within

To Live To Love

To Learn To Leave A Legacy

Adapted – Stephen Covey – 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

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Getting Better - Can I Do It?

Getting Better

Be Nice Focus on the Important

Take Time Be a Leader

Manage Emotions

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The Power Of Nice1. Nice is luckier in love. Low-key, congenial people have one-half the divorce rate – University of Toronto2. Nice makes more money. People who are cheerful, helpful and possess a service mindset get promoted 71% more. Primal Leadership3. Nice is healthier. Americans who volunteer and provide support to others have a 60% lower premature death rate. University of Michigan 4. Nice spends less time in court. Doctors who spent an average of 3 minutes longer with a patient never got sued. Malcolm Gadwell - Blink

The Power of Nice – Thaler and Koval – Doubleday - 2006

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Find Time For the Important

Urgent

Important

Not Important

Q1 Management

Q2 Leadership

Q3 Deception

Q4 Waste

OthersYou

Adapted – Stephen Covey – 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

Not Urgent

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Take TimeWe take time on things that matter to us.

When we take time with people to listen, support and encourage we are telling them we care.

Children spell love, TIME.

Emotional Intelligence Model

Self Awareness

Social Awareness

Self Management

Relationship Management

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Personal Competence

Social Competence

What I See What I Do

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Getting Better By Being a Leader

Leaders are influencers. Influencers find strategies to

that lead to change in themselves, others and

situations.

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Influence and Leadership

Character

Who you are

Competence What you know

and can do

InfluencePositive Change

Leadership

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Choosing Not To Lead “Getting By”

Negative Situation

Action Choices

• Complain

• Bad Mouth

• Subvert

• Join Others

• Transfer

Result Negative Situation Continues

Choosing To Lead “Getting Better”

Negative Situation

Action Choices

•Work In Your Circle of Influence

•Offer Alternatives

•Implement Incremental Actions

Result Opportunity For Positive

Change

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Your Ability To InfluenceWho You Are What You Can Do

•Integrity

•Work Ethic

•Treatment of Others

•Motives

•Level of Initiative

•Contribution

•Discipline

Principle Based Position/Title Based

•Awards

•Fame

•Ranking

•Wealth

•Rare Accomplishments

•Compared With Others

Getting Better – Be Honest With Yourself

The B TheoryM

otiva

tion

Skills

Honey

Bees

Bumble

Bees

Drones S.O.B.’S

Low High

High

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AND THEN SOME…these three little words are the secret to success. Successful people always do what is expected…and then some.“They are thoughtful of others, they are considerate and kind…and

then some.

They meet their responsibilities fairly and squarely…and then some.

They are good friends and helpful neighbors…and then some.

They can be counted on in an emergency…and then some.

I am thankful for people like this, for they make the world a better place.

Their spirit of service is summed up in these three little words…

And then some.” Carl Holmes

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Eight Questions A Day1. Do I want to be right or kind?

2. Will it matter a year from now? How about 100 years from now?

3. If I had an extra hour a day what would I do with it?

4. Is life an emergency?

5. When someone throws me the ball do I have to catch it?

6. When I die who will care?

7. Do I wrap my life around another’s weakness?

8. Do I live each day as if it were my last?It may be!

How could I create an extra hour a day?

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The Most Critical Question When Getting Better Matters

What is it you do everyday that makes others’ lives better?

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The Dash

D.O.B. D.O.D.

“The Difference We Make in Our Lifetime”