Francis Kong - Inspiring Excellence 2012

Download Francis Kong - Inspiring Excellence 2012

Post on 21-Jan-2016

302 views

Category:

Documents

0 download

TRANSCRIPT

  • INSPIRING EXCELLENCEFRANCISKONG.COM

    2012

  • TABLE OF CONTENTS

    JANUARY

    FEBRUARY

    MARCH

    APRIL

    MAY

    JUNE

    JULY

    AUGUST

    SEPTEMBER

    OCTOBER

    NOVEMBER

    DECEMBER

    FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence 2

  • INSPIRING EXCELLENCEFRANCISKONG.COM

    JANUARY 2012

  • A compilation of post from the personal blog of

    F r a n c i s J. K o n g for the month of January, 2012.

    This eBook and its content is copyright of Francis J. Kong -

    Francis J. Kong, 2012. All rights reserved.

    Any redistribution or reproduction of part or all of the contents

    in any form is prohibited other than the following:

    you may print or download to a local hard disk extracts for your personal and non-commercial use only

    you may copy the content to individual third parties for their personal use, but only if you acknowledge the website as the

    source of the material

    You may not, except with our express written permission,

    distribute or commercially exploit the content. Nor may you

    transmit it or store it in any other website or other form of

    electronic retrieval system.

    This eBook was created and compiled by

    One Awesome Social Media Company Inc.

    www.oneawesomecompany.com

    4FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • "Money runs after a person who is excellent. And then a loser

    keeps on running after money and he never catches up."

    Don't ever change just to impress and please someone. Change

    because it makes you a better person and it leads you to a

    better future.

    When a storm comes at sea, a ship turns to face the tempest. If

    the vessel allows the storm to hit its side, it will capsize. If it

    turns its back to the storm, the storm will drive it wherever the

    wind blows. Only in facing the storm is the ship safe. Says:

    Robert C. Shannon. As we face them we grow in character and

    faith and perseverance. Do not run away from trouble.

    Welcome adversities. This is discipline!

    A friend gave me a beautiful text this morning: In today's info

    age, you cannot UPLOAD love, DOWNLOAD time,

    GOOGLE all the answers in life --- so LOG OUT of worldly

    deeds, LOG ON to GOD. You will surely LIKE the life!

    FACEBOOK is ok, but spend more time with FAITHBOOK

    the BIBLE. Wise words indeed.

    A farmer had one old horse that he used for tilling his fields.

    One day the horse escaped into the hills and when all the

    farmer's neighbors heard about it, they sympathized with the

    old man over his bad luck. "Bad luck? Good luck? Who

    knows? Only God knows. said the farmer.

    A week later, the horse returned with a herd of wild horses

    from the hills and this time the neighbors congratulated the

    farmer on his good luck. "Good luck? Bad luck? Who knows?

    Only God knows" said the farmer.

    Then, when the farmer's son was attempting to tame one of the

    wild horses, he fell off its back and broke his leg. Everyone

    agreed that this was very bad luck. Not the farmer, who

    replied, "Bad Luck? Good luck? Who knows? Only God

    knows.

    Some weeks later, the army marched into the village and

    forced every able-bodied young man to go fight in a bloody

    war. When they saw that the farmer's son had a broken leg,

    they let him stay. Everyone was very happy at the farmer's

    good luck.

    "Good luck? Bad luck? Who knows? Only God knows."

    This ancient Chinese story tells us a lot about whats going on

    in our world. If theres one thing that really amazes me it is the

    5FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • fact that just when the knowledge age is has made men more

    knowledgeable, there is likewise an upsurge of interest into

    the occult (Vampire movies), astrology and mysticism. Visit

    your friendly neighborhood book stores and you will discover

    that the shelves assigned to carry such books have expanded

    tremendously. Man will always hunger and thirst for that

    mysterious dimension which is the spiritual realm and all

    means will be exhausted in order to have a glimpse into the

    future and the unknown.

    Something doesn't seem to connect here. If my life is governed

    by luck whether good or bad, then where would I place God?

    My Bible says that God is in full control and so nothing ever

    happens without His knowledge and control. And so if I

    believe in this, then where will I put luck? It doesnt take a lot

    of intelligence to figure out the fact that being a Christian and

    believing in luck is a contradiction in terms.

    I just make it simple. I do my best and God does the rest and

    Im not going to let any fortune teller tell me how to live my

    life and neither am I going to allow any moronic horoscope to

    dictate what my day will be.

    Sometimes it seems like things are going well, and at other

    times, things seem to be going badly. And we let those things

    dictate our feelings and our outlook on life. When things are

    going well, we're happy and we think God is with us. If they

    are going badly, we get discouraged and think that God must

    have abandoned us. We end up being tossed around by our

    circumstances. And if faith in God is sadly wanting, then the

    tendency is to believe in luck.

    But the apostle Paul wrote in Philippians 4 that he had learned

    to be content, even happy, in all circumstances. He was happy

    when things were bad (he was in jail at the time), and he was

    happy when things were going good as well. That's the great

    thing about being part of God's family. We really don't have to

    worry in our circumstances, because no matter what, we have

    hope in Christ. "We know that in everything, God works for

    the good of those who love him (Romans 8:28).

    Believe me this is such a liberating feeling. To know that my

    life and my future is in Gods hands. So I can travel without a

    charm in my wallet and I can pass under the ladder and enjoy

    seeing a black cat cross my path. Every single fortune teller

    died and remained dead. Jesus Christ rose up from the dead

    and thats why Im putting my trust in Him! It's a spiritual

    discipline we all have to exercise.

    There is none so busy as those who do nothing. No matter how

    busy people are, they always stop & talk about how busy they

    are. :)

    People who talk too much about how busy they are, theyre

    not. Busy people dont even have the time to talk much

    because they work much.

    6FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Work on but take a break every 90 minutes. This way you can

    rest, recharge and still maintain productivity. Takes a lot of

    discipline to do this.

    We all desire relationships in which we are accepted, valued,

    and wanted. We desperately long for this esteem from our

    peers, but seldom experience the real thing. This is why teens

    succumb to peer pressure. This is why people enter into

    disastrous relationships wanting to be needed.

    Inspire your people by appreciation and recognition. This goes

    a long way. Make their work life meaningful.

    What does it take to turn a person into a Judas? What

    motivates someone to betray deep-seated loyalties? Unresolved

    anger and resentment, for one thing. Consider the story of Earl

    Pitts, FBI agent turned Soviet spy.

    According to Evan Thomas in Newsweek, Pitts was raised on a

    farm in Missouri and was recognized as a Future Farmer of

    America. His parents said they disciplined him firmly but

    fairly. He was a captain in the army who regarded himself as a

    patriot. Even today he is described by his wife as a "good

    man." So what happened?

    After getting his law degree and serving as a military

    policeman for six years, in 1983 Pitts realized a lifelong

    ambition by going to work for the FBI. In 1987 he was

    assigned to the New York office, and there his troubles began.

    He did not see how he could afford to live in the Big Apple on

    his $25,000 a year salary.

    Thomas writes, "Morale in the office was poor, and petty

    cheating on expense accounts was rampant. Burdened with

    debt from student loans, Pitts had to ask his father for a loan.

    He felt humiliated. Pitts later told a psychiatrist that he was

    'overwhelmed' by a sense of rage at the FBI."

    One morning he came up with the idea of spying for the KGB.

    That way he could kill two birds with one stone: he could solve

    his money problems and get back at his bosses. He later told a

    psychiatrist, "I was shoved by the bureaucracy, and I shoved

    back.

    Over the next seven years Pitts worked as a Soviet spy and for

    his services received $224,000. When he was finally caught

    and convicted, the judge sentenced him to twenty-seven years

    in prison. At his sentencing the judge asked him point-blank

    why he had become a traitor. Earl Pitts replied, "I gave in to an

    unreasonable anger. "

    Never allow anger to fester. Deal with anger as God prescribes.

    Here is another story:

    Shirley Belleranti shows the negative impact of anger on our

    most important relationships: I remember one summer day

    when my ten-year-old son and a friend were getting a pitcher

    7FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • of lemonade from the refrigerator. I'd spent hours that morning

    scrubbing, waxing, and polishing the kitchen floor, so I warned

    the boys not to spill anything. They tried so hard to be careful

    that they innocently bumped a tray of eggs on the door shelf.

    Of course, it fell, splattering eggs all over my clean floor.

    The boys' eyes widened with alarm as I exploded angrily. "Get

    out of here now!" I shouted, while they headed for the door. By

    the time I'd finished cleaning up the mess, I had calmed down.

    To make amends, I set a tray of cookies on the table, along

    with the pitcher of lemonade and some glasses. But when I

    called the boys, there was no answerthey'd gone somewhere

    else to play, somewhere where my angry voice wouldn't reach

    them.

    Anger separates us from those we want to be near. Anger

    shatters intimacy. It sure does.

    Do not let the sun go down on your anger thats what the Bible

    has to say because the Author know the stuff we are made of.

    God has given us a mind to use and we need to use that mind

    to educate our moods.

    I sure appreciate the fact that God does not blow His top the

    way I do.

    It takes a lot of discipline to be able to deal with anger

    emotions but we simply have to deal with it correctly.

    Just remember this. Anger can sure be an expensive luxury.

    And we simply cant afford it.

    One father complains: My children think that I am an ATM

    Machine. Another dad said: Never date a woman whose father

    calls her "Princess".

    True justice is when our kids have their own kids. Every word

    and deed of a parent is a fiber woven into the character of a

    child which ultimately determines how that child fits into the

    fabric of society. This is why I love to do parenting talks. It's

    important for our country.

    It's a parenting talk this morning and then I get to speak to the

    science teachers this afternoon. I don't charge fees when it

    comes to parents, students and teachers. This is why I love my

    life. Happiness comes through doors you didn't even know you

    left open.

    Think about this. No matter how successful a man is in

    business, he is seldom as smart as his mother thinks, or as

    dumb as his mother in law says he is.

    Somebody asks this question: What is the difference between

    outlaws and in-laws? And here is the answer: Outlaws are

    wanted.

    We lovingly call her Auntie Carmen. If you want to talk

    8FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • about being a people person then Auntie Carmen surely

    qualifies as one of them. We met in church a couple of years

    ago and have become friends. She sent me this beautiful story

    that is credited to anonymity.

    Once upon a time in China , a girl named Li-Li got married &

    went to live with her husband and mother-in-law. In a very

    short time, Li-Li found that she couldn't get along with her

    mother-in-law at all. Their personalities were very different,

    and Li-Li was angered by many of her mother-in-law' s habits.

    In addition, she criticized Li-Li constantly.

    Days and weeks passed. Li-Li and her mother-in-law never

    stopped arguing and fighting. But what made the situation

    worse was that according to Chinese tradition, Li-Li had to

    bow to her mother-in-law and obey her every wish. All the

    anger and unhappiness in the house was causing Li-Li's poor

    husband great distress.

    Li-Li could not stand her mother-in-law any longer so she

    decided to do something about it. Li-Li went to see Mr. Huang

    who sold herbs. She told him about the situation and asked if

    he would give her some poison so that she could solve her

    problem once and for all. The wise Mr. Huang thought for

    awhile, and finally said, "Li-Li, I will help you solve your

    problem, but you must listen to me and obey what I tell you."

    Li-Li said, "Yes, Mr. Huang, I will do whatever you tell me

    to.

    Mr. Huang gave Li-Li a package of herbs. He said, "Li-Li, you

    cannot use a quick-acting poison kill your mother-in-law,

    because that would cause people to become suspicious.

    Therefore, I have given you a number of herbs that will slowly

    build up poison in her body. Every other day prepare some

    delicious meal and put a little of these herbs in her serving.

    Now, in order to make sure that nobody suspect you the day

    she dies, you must be very careful to act very friendly towards

    her. "Don't argue with her, obey her every wish, and treat her

    like a queen." Li-Li was so happy. She thanked Mr. Huang and

    hurried home to start her murder plot against her mother-in-

    law.

    Weeks and months went by and every other day, Li-Li served

    the specially treated food to her mother-in-law. She

    remembered what Mr. Huang said about avoiding suspicion so

    she controlled her temper, obeyed her mother-in-law, and

    treated her like her own mother. After six months, the whole

    household had changed. Li-Li had learned to control her

    temper and she hadn't had an argument with her mother-in-law

    in six months. The mother-in-law now seemed a lot kinder and

    easier to get along. Her attitude toward Li-Li has changed, and

    she began to love Li-Li like her own daughter. She kept telling

    friends and relatives that Li-Li was the best daughter-in- law

    one could ever find. Li-Li's husband was very happy to see

    what was happening.

    So now Li-Li has a problem. The situation has changed but

    what about the poison inside her mother-in-law that would

    eventually kill her.

    Li-Li rushed to see Mr. Huang and asked for his help. She said,

    "Mr. Huang, please help me to keep off the poison from killing

    9FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • my mother-in-law. She's changed into such a nice woman, and

    I love her like my own mother. I do not want her to die because

    of the poison I gave her."

    Mr. Huang smiled and nodded his head. "Li-Li, there's nothing

    to worry about. I never gave you any poison. The herbs I gave

    you were vitamins to improve her health. The only poison was

    in your mind and your attitude toward her, but that has been all

    washed away by the love which you gave to her."

    Now I want you to think about this. You will be amazed at how

    people would change when the change starts with you. And

    couldnt it be possible that God is using other people to work

    on you?

    Never forget. Behind every successful man stands --- a

    surprised mother-in-law.

    The late business philosopher Jim Rohn says: Affirmation

    without discipline is the beginning of delusion. Every single

    successful professional or business person I have met is a

    disciplined person. There can't be any exception to this rule.

    10FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Francis J. Kong is:

    President of Success Options Publishing Company

    President of FunWorks Inc. a member of the Canadian based Mad Science International Group, the worlds number

    one (1) Science educational-entertainment program provider

    for kids.

    Founding member and Director of Inspire Leadership Consultancy

    Francis has extensive work experiences in manufacturing and

    retail as he help founded a popular clothing company and ran a

    retail chain for many years.

    You can hear him in his daily Radio Program Business

    Matters which was given a Year 2007 special citation by the

    Catholic Mass Media Awards.

    You can read him through his Saturday and Sunday column of

    the Business Page of the Philippine Star.

    You can see him as he regularly guests every Monday and

    Thursday morning at the popular morning show Umagang Kay

    Ganda.

    He has been featured in many of the major business

    conventions and conferences both here and abroad.

    Francis is co-recipient of the Anvil Award for Excellence for the staging of the Dr. John Maxwell Leadership Seminar

    Series.

    Recipient of the Year 2006 Gold Quill Philippines Award of merit for Public Speech category sponsored by The

    International Association of Business Communicators.

    Recipient of 2008 Dr. Jose Rizal Award for Excellence in the field of Journalism.

    Francis has been trained and licensed by Maximum Impact of

    Atlanta Georgia to do the Maxwell leadership programs. He is

    also Trained and licensed by The Ziglar Corporation in London

    to do the Ziglar Sales and Presentation programs.

    11FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • He is an author of 14 books:

    His book One Day at a Time has been given a most favorable review by Channel NewsAsia of Singapore.

    His book The Early Bird Catches the Worm: is now translated into the Korean language.

    Francis is married to the former Lilia Nolasco and has three

    children: Bryan 30, Hannah 26 and Rachel 21.

    For more inspiring words from Francis J. Kong, please visit his

    personal blog at http://www.franciskong.com.

    12FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • INSPIRING EXCELLENCEFRANCISKONG.COM

    FEBRUARY 2012

  • A compilation of post from the personal blog of

    F r a n c i s J. K o n g for the month of February, 2012.

    This eBook and its content is copyright of Francis J. Kong -

    Francis J. Kong, 2012. All rights reserved.

    Any redistribution or reproduction of part or all of the contents

    in any form is prohibited other than the following:

    you may print or download to a local hard disk extracts for your personal and non-commercial use only

    you may copy the content to individual third parties for their personal use, but only if you acknowledge the website as the

    source of the material

    You may not, except with our express written permission,

    distribute or commercially exploit the content. Nor may you

    transmit it or store it in any other website or other form of

    electronic retrieval system.

    This eBook was created and compiled by

    One Awesome Social Media Company Inc.

    www.oneawesomecompany.com

    14FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • You like someone "BECAUSE" they have pretty eyes, nice

    smile, or an elegant nose. You love the person "EVEN

    THOUGH" they are not rich, a good cook, or cant put the

    toilet seat down. Liking someone means that you are fond of

    their good traits and loving someone is that you accept that

    other person fully even though they are not always perfect.

    Liking and loving are different. Know the difference. It's easy

    to like but it takes a lot of heart and discipline to love.

    Good people change others. Better people change the system

    but the best people change themselves. And when God changes

    the person the person changes himself/herself, changes the

    system and then they inspire others to change as well. Faith

    and discipline - package deal to change.

    A teacher arranged her young students into a circle. She then

    went around the circle and asked each one a question.

    "Robert, what sound does a cow make?"

    Robert replied, "It goes 'moo.'"

    "Albert, what sound does a cat make?"

    Albert said, "It goes 'meow.'"

    "Oscar, what sound does a lamb make?"

    Oscar said, "It goes 'baaa.'"

    "Noel, what sound does a mouse make?"

    Noel paused, and said, "Uhh ... it goes ... 'clickclick!'"

    This is the age of technology.

    There was a time when mouse used to be a rodent and

    windows were fixtures inside your home. Today you have

    mouse, wireless mouse, mouse that operates with radio

    frequency, track pads is replacing the mice. Disruptive

    technology is here to stay. There was a time when it took a

    long time before a new product is accepted in the market place.

    Today the market eagerly awaits the launching of the next big

    thing in technology.

    I was giving a seminar then and people began to smile, some

    were giggling and a lot more of them began laughing. I asked,

    Whats going on? One brave soul responded and said,

    Francis, you said we need to read books and we need to listen

    to tapes. But nobody listens to tapes anymore. Oh boy, I

    told myself, caught in a time warp. How could I have missed

    that?

    After giving a talk, one lady approached me and said, Francis

    I love your talk. Have you recorded it in a cassette?

    Cassette? I half smiled but thats exactly what happened to

    me. The only difference is that I said, Tape.

    This makes me think. What has happened to the products of the

    past? The hits? The wonders? The breakthrough technology

    that made the world marveled? Products like:

    1. The video recorder? (Circa 1983) The one with the flashing

    12:00? Never figured out what that function was for anyway.

    15FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • 2. Brick (circa 1990) I remember my first cell phone was a

    phone named ANTEL. Compare the size of that today to the

    newer ones my first cell phone was as small as my Coleman

    Water Jug. You charge the battery for 8 hours and you get to

    use it for only 2.

    3. Cloning (same time) The biggest worry at that time was

    not virus but cloning in an Analog platform not digital.

    4. Lets go back way back. Remember phones had party-lines

    and you fight them all the time?

    5. What about Caller ID (circa 1995) Staring at a number that

    came in and you shock the callers by knowing it was them.

    And for those who first saw the light in a hospital after 1990, a

    quick fad then was called the DAT. DAT stands for Digital

    Audio Tape. Sony Corporation introduced this in the mid-

    1980s. This replaced the old cassettes that really lasted many

    years.

    And the CDs came into the picture and is now losing ground

    to Ipods and MP3 Players. A couple of years back I remember

    entering the last 2 days of Tower Records existence in

    America and everything in there was sold for just $2 and less.

    Today online music purchasing gains momentum everyday.

    My son plays the drums for a popular band. He says that their

    first hit became a hit without a CD. It was placed online and

    people here and even in places as far as Belgium and Germany

    listened to it.

    Products of the past. I wonder why as I think about them the

    same products bring back memories of events tied to the same.

    And what about future products?

    I read about scientists and researchers developing the next

    generation paper battery. A supercharged battery that can be

    bent, rolled, twisted and cut to size like a piece of paper. It

    looks like the next great thing; a breakthrough technology

    which becomes todays hit would in a short span of time

    quickly turn into tomorrows museum piece.

    May I make a suggestion? Dont be too much of a hurry in

    having to HAVE that new toy. You spend a great deal for it and

    then a few months later that new thing will be left with just

    the thing when the novelty of newness is gone. Just because

    you are using an old cell phone does not mean youre second-

    class and old. It may mean you are frugal and practical thats

    all.

    Somebody says: The world is getting complicated. Somebody

    just gave me a battery operated paperweight. And youre

    probably asking, Paperweight? Whats that?

    Dont let technology complicate your life. Live it simply but

    live it to the full. With or even without the latest technology.

    Complete the sentence. If at first you dont succeed --- Do not

    try again. Find out what went wrong. Correct the error and then

    try again. It's crazy to continue doing the same thing over

    expecting a different result. Working harder on the same

    mistake is not a virtue. Humble yourself and find out where

    16FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • you went wrong. Then correct it and try again. This takes a lot

    of discipline to do.

    And now more than ever, its important that we commit to a

    lifelong quest for knowledge. Things are changing so rapidly

    that unless we stay up on the learning curve, we will surely fall

    behind.

    Knowledge will not acquire you: you must acquire it. Takes

    discipline to do this.

    After she woke up, a woman told her husband, "I just dreamed

    that you gave me a pearl necklace for Valentine's day. What do

    you think it means?

    "You'll know tonight." he said.

    That evening, the man came home with a small package and

    gave it to his wife. Delighted, she opened it - to find a book

    entitled "The Meaning of Dreams."

    Don't be a cheapskate. Show love and give love every day.

    From an anonymous source comes this beautiful material:

    My face in the mirror isn't wrinkled or drawn.

    My house isn't dirty the cobwebs are gone.

    My garden looks lovely and so does my lawn.

    I think I might never put my glasses back on.

    One of the greatest impediments to progress is denial.

    Be truthful at all times and be a disciplined person.

    A FRENCH PROVERB SAYS: None so busy as those who

    do nothing.

    But what about being too busy all the time?

    The truth is if you are too busy to relax, then you are too busy.

    Technology is a big culprit behind the reason why we become

    so busy.

    Just think about this: Do you remember the predictions about

    the paperless office and the leisure society? Between 1999 and

    2002 global use of paper increased by 22% and we now seem

    to have less spare time than ever. We are also sleeping less than

    we used to, down from 9 hours per day in 1900 to 6.9 hours

    today. Indeed, the benefits of the computer age can be seen

    everywhere except in the productivity statistics, because we are

    inventing new ways of making ourselves busy.

    17FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Still, being too busy seems to be a badge of accomplishment

    and a picture of importance. When people invite me to give a

    talk I pull out my Iphone, check over my calendar and see my

    white spaces occupied with activities. People are impressed.

    They see how busy I am.

    In fact there is a running rumor going around the corporate

    world that it takes them one year in advance to be able to get a

    booking from me. This is of course grossly exaggerated but it

    does take quite a few months lead time to have me schedule a

    date for a speaking or a training engagement.

    And then I go home, exhausted and wondered how I could

    have packed so many activities in so short a time.

    But this is not an exclusive condition for me.

    The obsession with "busyness" can be seen in the way the work

    ethic has invaded childhood. Children must be kept busy at all

    limes. As a result, they are becoming overscheduled and we are

    creating a cohort that cannot think for itself, a generation of

    passive, risk-averse citizens and comfortably numb consumers

    with almost no imagination or self-reliance.

    Children today are expected to do so many hours of back-

    breaking homework. And then rush off somewhere to do music

    lessons. And parents today feel that if they do not push their

    kids hard enough they may not succeed.

    Watch what happens when summer season comes. Parents get

    paranoid and they feel nervous seeing their children idle. And

    so they enroll them in summer courses, sports programs,

    summer programs just to keep them busy.

    Is busyness now an important element to life and living? Could

    we not get used to moments of quietness so we can pull our

    acts together? As I ask these questions I am actually asking

    myself.

    Consider the following new terms:

    TMI or Too much Information better known as information

    overload has a distant cousin, too much choice (TMC). In a

    nutshell, humankind is producing an excess of stuff. The

    amount of new information we produce today is estimated to

    be around 2 billion bytes annually. That's (very roughly) 2

    billion bytes or about 20 billion copies of a typical thick book.

    The average large corporation similarly experiences a doubling

    of the amount of information it produces annually.

    Information is no longer power; power lies in the ability to

    attain and maintain attention. I am not an alarmist but what I

    want people to know is that the pace of life will continue to

    increase and we need to learn how to be quiet.

    This is why my first hour of the day is spent on quiet time.

    Prayer and meditation of Scripture to bring sanity to my being.

    Busyness may not be a good thing when it is done in excess.

    Learn to be quiet. Learn to spend time in solitude as I certainly

    will this coming holiday season.

    So dont just do something, stand there or better still, sit down

    and be quiet.

    18FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Here is an old and sobering story: When a victorious Roman

    general arrived back in Rome, he was given a hero's welcome

    and a triumphant parade of victory. But a philosopher was

    hired to ride beside him in the victory parade. As the victor

    acknowledged the cheers of the crowd, the philosopher kept

    whispering in his ear: "You are mortal. You are mortal." Focus

    on God the Source of all good things.

    Somebody says: My wife suggested a book for me to read to

    enhance our relationship. It's titled: 'Women are from Venus,

    Men are Wrong'. It doesn't have to be this way. Takes a lot of

    discipline to have a very successful marriage.

    I am so excited to speak on marriage this afternoon at St.

    Scholastica Westgrove. Have had years of this in actual

    experience and is included in my bio-data. :)

    Some people are what I call The Plan B people. While I

    value the importance of being prudent and prepared, some

    people would always go to option 2 when they have not

    exhausted their efforts into their original plan.

    Statesman and businessman George Shultz says: 'The minute

    you start talking about what you are going to do if you lose,

    YOU have lost.'' Dont quit too soon. Takes a lot of discipline

    to go through this.

    Our country has gone through many kinds of crisis. Crisis that

    are both man made and considered acts of God. Which in my

    opinion is a very bad term. Why is it that we call a sad natural

    catastrophe an act of god and then when times are good and

    victorious we credit it to ourselves? Maybe this is something

    we should think about.

    Anyways --- We have a very strange way of getting through

    the different crises that have came our way.

    A few days after typhoon Ondoy, I joined a relief operations

    group and we rode a small Bangka and visited the far places of

    the flooded areas in order to distribute relief goods. Guess what

    I saw? Water that has gone beyond house roofs with people

    practically staying on top of their roofs yet you still see a smile

    on their faces.

    They say that as a people we are resilient and I think we are.

    But being resilient alone does not make us stronger. We need to

    evaluate the experience, learn from it and be determined to

    prevent the same problem from occurring in the future. This is

    why this material I got from the Internet really made me laugh.

    It is entitled: 21 Thoughts to Get You Through Almost Any

    Crisis.

    19FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Now here is a warning. Do not take this material seriously.

    This is part sarcasm part plain humor. Following this material

    will be totally disastrous so take this as something humorous

    and again, do not take it seriously.

    Here is the material.

    21 Thoughts to Get You Through Almost any Crisis:

    1. Indecision is the key to flexibility.

    2. There is absolutely no substitute for a genuine lack of

    preparation.

    3. Happiness is merely the remission of pain.

    4. Nostalgia isn't what it used to be.

    5. The facts, although interesting, are irrelevant.

    6. The careful application of terror is also a form of

    communication.

    7. Someone who thinks logically provides a nice contrast to the

    real world.

    8. Things are more like they are today then they have ever been

    before.

    9. Anything worth fighting for is worth fighting dirty for.

    Thats bad.

    10. Everything should be made as simple as possible but no

    simpler.

    11. Friends may come and go, but enemies accumulate. Oh

    how I believe that.

    12. I have seen the truth and it makes no sense.

    13. Suicide is the most sincere form of self-criticism. And its

    the biggest cop out too.

    14. If you think that there is good in everybody, you haven't

    met everybody.

    15. All things being equal, fat people use more soap. Now

    thats being politically incorrect.

    16. If you can smile when things go wrong, you have someone

    in mind to blame.

    17. One-seventh of your life is spent on Monday.

    18. By the time you can make ends meet, they move the ends.

    19. Not one shred of evidence supports the notion that life is

    serious.

    20. There is always one more imbecile than you counted on.

    21. Never wrestle with a pig. You both get dirty and the pig

    likes it.

    Comedienne Lucille Ball says: :The secret of staying young is

    to live honestly, eat slowly, and lie about your age.

    Again, do not take this seriously. Of course all form of lying is

    sinful. But here is the key. When you go through a crisis, pray.

    Never forget that God is in control. Keep your mind clear and

    put your trust in God. This is the only part of the material that

    is serious and truthful. So learn the lessons.

    Leaders who win the respect of others are the ones who deliver

    more than they promise, not the ones who promise more than

    they can deliver. says Mark Clement.

    One winning principle we can all cultivate for life is this:

    Always give more than what we're paid for. Those who keep

    on counting the hours and counting the wages are never happy

    and worst --- they never grow!!

    Happy growing today, this week and the rest of your life.

    20FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • If you want to feel rich, just count the things money cant buy.

    Two kinds of gratitude: The sudden kind we feel for what we

    take; the larger kind we feel for what we give. says E.A.

    ROBINSON.

    There are the givers and there are the takers. The takers of

    course they eat better. But the givers, they sleep better. And the

    takers have higher cholesterol. Have a Great day today!

    "So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for

    the glory of God."

    This special story today found in the web site Daily

    Encounter was written by Commander Eric J. Berryman.

    The USS Astoria (C-34) was the first U.S. cruiser to engage the

    Japanese during the Battle of Savo Island, a night action fought

    8-9 August 1942. Although she scored two hits on the Imperial

    flagship Chokai, the Astoria was badly damaged and sank

    shortly after noon, 9 August.

    About 0200 hours a young midwesterner, Signalman 3rd Class

    Elgin Staples, was swept overboard by the blast when the

    Astoria's number one eight-inch gun turret exploded. Wounded

    in both legs by shrapnel and in semi-shock, he was kept afloat

    by a narrow life belt that he managed to activate with a simple

    trigger mechanism.

    At around 0600 hours, Staples was rescued by a passing

    destroyer and returned to the Astoria, whose captain was

    attempting to save the cruiser by beaching her. The effort

    failed, and Staples, still wearing the same life belt, found

    himself back in the water. He was picked up again, this time by

    the USS President Jackson (AP-37), he was one of 500

    survivors of the battle who were evacuated to Noumea.

    On board the transport, Staples, for the first time, closely

    examined the life belt that had served him so well. It had been

    manufactured by Firestone Tire and Rubber Company of

    Akron, Ohio, and bore a registration number.

    Given home leave Staples told his story and asked his mother,

    who worked for Firestone, about the purpose of the number on

    the belt. She replied that the company insisted on personal

    responsibility for the war effort, and that the number was

    unique and assigned to only one inspector. Staples remembered

    everything about the lifebelt, and quoted the number. It was his

    mother's personal code and affixed to every item she was

    responsible for approving.

    When we always do what is right, the person we help the most

    in many ways is our own self and that of our loved ones.

    So many people miss this. They go to work everyday without

    any purpose or meaning in life.

    So why do you think there are many people bored with their

    work? Maybe because they are not really working. They are

    simply pretending to work. This is why one company came up

    with an innovative policy that says: You pretend to work and

    we will pretend to pay you.

    21FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Do what is right all the time.

    Never allow complacency to creep up on you.

    Develop yourself into a life long learner and keep on growing.

    This is the only way you begin to open wide better

    opportunities for growth.

    As I come into contact with many of the real and successful

    winners in life whether they be in the field of business,

    profession or academe, they all tell the same story. No matter

    how humble their beginnings may have been they all were

    faithful in what they were doing.

    This is why faithfulness is a virtue that you and I should not

    forsake.

    And we are developed more in this area when we remember

    that in everything we do, it is for Gods Glory.

    Start this day with a positive spirit and sustain this week by

    being positive.

    Do not say, "I have to go to work again and I hate my job."

    Say: "I love to go to work today because there are so many out

    there who can't even find work." Develop an attitude of

    gratitude and thank God in everything!

    I am unique. You are unique. There are no two identical petals,

    no two identical leaves. You can go all over the world and you

    will never find someone who is exactly like you. Why?

    Because God is merciful. Just to have one of you is more than

    enough. :)

    And this is why we should never ENVY another. Envy is dumb

    and stupid. It is self-destructive. Learn to celebrate others

    success.

    A Chinese proverb says: A gem is not polished without

    rubbing, nor a man made perfect without trials. So when you

    face some rubbing today, stay positive, stay beautiful, stay

    trusting in God and in plane English --- just stay! Till you get

    through it and start shining.

    22FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Francis J. Kong is:

    President of Success Options Publishing Company

    President of FunWorks Inc. a member of the Canadian based Mad Science International Group, the worlds number

    one (1) Science educational-entertainment program provider

    for kids.

    Founding member and Director of Inspire Leadership Consultancy

    Francis has extensive work experiences in manufacturing and

    retail as he help founded a popular clothing company and ran a

    retail chain for many years.

    You can hear him in his daily Radio Program Business

    Matters which was given a Year 2007 special citation by the

    Catholic Mass Media Awards.

    You can read him through his Saturday and Sunday column of

    the Business Page of the Philippine Star.

    You can see him as he regularly guests every Monday and

    Thursday morning at the popular morning show Umagang Kay

    Ganda.

    He has been featured in many of the major business

    conventions and conferences both here and abroad.

    Francis is co-recipient of the Anvil Award for Excellence for the staging of the Dr. John Maxwell Leadership Seminar

    Series.

    Recipient of the Year 2006 Gold Quill Philippines Award of merit for Public Speech category sponsored by The

    International Association of Business Communicators.

    Recipient of 2008 Dr. Jose Rizal Award for Excellence in the field of Journalism.

    Francis has been trained and licensed by Maximum Impact of

    Atlanta Georgia to do the Maxwell leadership programs. He is

    also Trained and licensed by The Ziglar Corporation in London

    to do the Ziglar Sales and Presentation programs.

    23FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • He is an author of 14 books:

    His book One Day at a Time has been given a most favorable review by Channel NewsAsia of Singapore.

    His book The Early Bird Catches the Worm: is now translated into the Korean language.

    Francis is married to the former Lilia Nolasco and has three

    children: Bryan 30, Hannah 26 and Rachel 21.

    For more inspiring words from Francis J. Kong, please visit his

    personal blog at http://www.franciskong.com.

    24FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • INSPIRING EXCELLENCEFRANCISKONG.COM

    MARCH 2012

  • A compilation of post from the personal blog of

    F r a n c i s J. K o n g for the month of March, 2012.

    This eBook and its content is copyright of Francis J. Kong -

    Francis J. Kong, 2012. All rights reserved.

    Any redistribution or reproduction of part or all of the contents

    in any form is prohibited other than the following:

    you may print or download to a local hard disk extracts for your personal and non-commercial use only

    you may copy the content to individual third parties for their personal use, but only if you acknowledge the website as the

    source of the material

    You may not, except with our express written permission,

    distribute or commercially exploit the content. Nor may you

    transmit it or store it in any other website or other form of

    electronic retrieval system.

    This eBook was created and compiled by

    One Awesome Social Media Company Inc.

    www.oneawesomecompany.com

    26FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • "To err is human - and to blame it on a computer is even more

    so." Says Robert Orben.

    Never master the art of BLAMEstorming. Blaming others

    weakens ones character. Take responsibility for your actions.

    When you have succeeded, stay humble and when you have

    experienced defeat, strengthen your resolve, learn from the

    episode and move forward. This is how winners are made.

    You cannot be in business without conflicts. Conflicts are

    good. Conflicts can be healthy. Conflicts bring out creativity in

    people but conflicts should make you a better person not a

    bitter person. Learn to deal with conflicts professionally. You

    may attack the issues but never attack the person. Treat each

    one with respect. Be civil and be civilized.

    It's been a Great Week!

    We are not made happy by what we have. We are made happy

    by what we appreciate. Offer thanksgiving to God who is the

    Grand Architect of history and change. Welcome change with

    great anticipation and gratefulness.

    From the book entitled More Hot Illustrations for Youth

    Talks as edited by Wayne Rice, is a story about a parakeet and

    a vacuum cleaner but as you listen to it you may observe that it

    deals more than a story about a parakeet. It may actually be

    talking about you and me.

    Theres the story of a woman who had a parakeet named

    Chippie. She loved Chippie because he was such a happy little

    song bird. Chippie's constant chirping just seemed to brighten

    her day. One day, the woman was cleaning the bottom of

    Chippie's cage with a vacuum cleaner when the telephone rang.

    She reached for the telephone without removing the nozzle of

    the vacuum cleaner from the cage, which was a mistake. The

    vacuum cleaner nozzle got pointed in the direction of poor

    little Chippie, and he was suddenly sucked up into the

    machine.

    When the woman looked back at the cage and realized what

    had happened, she was horrified. She dropped the telephone,

    turned off the vacuum cleaner and ripped open the dust bag to

    get to her little bird. Chippie was a real mess, but he was still

    alive. She raced to the kitchen sink and turned the water on full

    force on Chippie. The more she tried to wash him, the worse he

    looked, so she took him to the bathroom and started trying to

    dry Chippie with her hair dryer--full force and high heat.

    Finally she got the bird dry and put him back in his cage.

    27FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Several days later, a friend called and asked how Chippie was

    doing.

    "He's alive," he said, "but he just sits in his cage and stares into

    space. And," she added thoughtfully, "Chippie doesn't sing

    much anymore."

    We all know people who are a lot like Chippie. We know

    young people who once had a song in their hearts. But due to

    circumstances out of their control, they discovered that "life

    sucks." As a result, they aren't singing much anymore.

    I never gave much thought about this until one time I had to

    stay home during a long vacation. The religious holidays took

    a couple of days and the stores were closed, the movies were

    showing nothing but old religious movies and I wasnt at the

    mood of messing around with my computer. The only thing

    that got me going was to watch rented tapes all day long. BY

    the end of the day, I simply found myself staring at the boob

    tube allowing my mind to drift.

    Thinking yet having no thoughts. Looking yet seeing nothing.

    So different from the usual vibrant and hyper active me. My

    wife and my kids noticed this and they laughed because at that

    time and circumstance, I was really a funny figure.

    When they awakened me from my spell, I suddenly realized

    that I have been so accustomed to be moving around, getting

    busy, running all over the place such that I get so caught up

    with the rat race I dont know how to rest any more. No, its

    not burn out, its not anything I know its just a case of getting

    so busy with lifes stupid demands such that my heart cant

    even sing anymore. I may not have noticed this but I probably

    worship my work and work at my play because lifes different

    circumstances do have a tendency to rob our very life away

    from us. In other words, I felt like Chippie. But the question is:

    What about you?

    Have you ever felt a little like Chippie? Have you been abused

    by people you loved? Has your world been turned upside

    down? Have you lost your desire to Sing? Well dont!

    As Chippie found out, there are no "quick fixes." Healing takes

    time. But there is someone who can give you back your song

    and restore your joy. His name is Jesus. "Sing to the Lord a

    new song, for he has done marvelous things" (Psalm 98:1). Its

    no longer strange to find that the Word of God calls Jesus a

    Healer. I guess no one can exist without Him, and that includes

    chippie as well as me.

    Do not call it Monday morning blues. This time call it

    Awesome Monday that will start your Awesome Week! Put

    your mind in the right frame and work to make this week your

    most productive week of your life. And then repeat the process

    next Monday! BE AWESOME!

    If a problem causes many meetings, the meetings eventually

    become more important than the problem, says writer Arthur

    Bloch. Make your meetings productive. Cut to the chase. Stick

    to the agenda. Respect opinions. Make it quick and go back to

    work.

    28FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Our purpose in life is tied to our calling. But our calling will

    always test our character. No matter how noble our calling in

    life is, we need to make sure we develop a Christ-like character

    so as not to destroy the nobility of our purpose. Enjoy the day!

    G K Chesterton says: To be clever enough to get all that

    money, one must be stupid enough to want it.

    And isnt this so true? For the love of money is a root of all

    kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered

    from the faith and pierced themselves with many grieves.

    Never allow money to change you. Dont be that cheap!

    What you hold in your hands will not be as important as what

    you carry in your heart. Make sure you spend this week

    carrying an attitude of gratitude and a firm determination to be

    excellent to make this week the best week of your life. I do.

    The world has lost its Moral Reference. What has replaced

    morality today is the new or maybe not-so-new term called

    political correctness.

    I have attended a session in a business conference. The famous

    book author who was speaking opened the session with a

    claim, I am a Buddhist. I do not understand the relevance of

    that statement to his topic presentation but I gave him the

    benefit of the doubt.

    In another session Ken Blanchard, famous author, trainer and

    speaker had to exert a lot of efforts in explaining why he is of

    the Faith and that he does not intend to use his Christianity

    to convert anyone. And then the thought hit me.

    One famous author and speaker can be proud in declaring that

    he is a Buddhist. But Ken Blanchard has to qualify to

    acknowledge that he is a Christian. This is what happens when

    we have lost the point of moral reference.

    Maybe you are thinking that the issue is about religion? Not

    exactly. Please allow me to qualify. America has been built by

    the Bible. This is why there is a huge area of American Land

    today that is still called the Bible Belt area. But isnt it a

    wonder that today public prayer is already prohibited and the

    10 Commandments have been removed from Court Houses and

    there are attempts to remove the words, In God We Trust

    from the Dollar Bill?

    29FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • I was in my hotel dressing up preparing myself for the training

    session. There was an interview happening in an American TV

    program. The wife secretly poses herself in the nude and does

    Web Sex without the knowledge of her husband. During the

    interview the husband was obviously surprised.

    When asked why she is doing this, "She said I love to do this

    and I also get to make a few bucks in between."

    Husband asked; "Is there any physical contact with any man?"

    The wife shook her head and said, "Absolutely not."

    Husband says, "Who am I to stand in between my wife and

    what makes her happy?

    And the audience broke up in "aaaahhhh!" And applauded the

    husband. Why in the eyes of the audience the husband is a

    hero. He is understanding and he shows his love for his wife in

    spite of the fact that she does porno acts in front of a web cam.

    Here is a question I would like to ask. Would you and I

    applaud our children or daughters for doing the same thing?

    Just to do things that make them happy?

    America has lost it. There is absolutely no point of reference

    that porno is wrong. What is all this about? Is everything all

    about being happy? Some people I know do stupid things and

    they are happy too.

    But why is porno wrong? Now the question becomes hard to

    answer is it not? But when you have a moral reference then the

    answer becomes pretty obvious. "Because you and I are image

    bearers of God. A body given to us as His Temple. And so we

    take care of it because we value it. It's not some cheap device

    you show off to everyone and earn money from it. What makes

    this different now from selling one's body for physical

    pleasure? Not much difference right?

    Let The Scriptures serve as the main point of reference and let

    its Author be the Final Authority for indeed He is. Then we do

    not experience happiness, which is so shallow and is so

    dependent on happenings. We experience true joy that can only

    come from Him.

    After 17 hours of flying time and 12.5 hours of airport waiting

    time I finally made it to Boston for my yearly brain upgrade.

    This is what knowledge is all about. You have to go out of your

    way and seek it. Rarely does knowledge come and interrupt us

    in the middle of our DVD movie watching.

    Same thing with God. We have to seek Him with all of our

    heart and then we'll find Him! Classes start tomorrow and I'm

    excited.

    30FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • A Swedish proverb says: Fear less, hope more. Eat less, chew

    more. Whine less, breathe more. Hate less, love more. And all

    good things are yours. I will add more. In all things give thanks

    to God!

    HENRY BOYE says: "In life, no matter how tall your parents

    were, you still have to do your own growing."

    There's nothing we can do with our ancestry but there is

    everything we CAN do with our legacy. Take charge, be

    responsible and start growing!

    Somebody says, "If we are what we eat then most of us would

    become french fries by now. The truth is we are what we read.

    Jim Rohn says 5 years from now, you and I will be exactly the

    same people today except for two things: the books we read

    and the friends we meet. Read good books and cultivate honest

    and good friends by being one yourself.

    After more than 20 hours of flying time and waiting time

    coming back, can't wait to go back to work. No one can be

    happy unless he or she is productive. Start with a positive

    mindset. Seek wisdom not answers, give encouragement and

    not just help and make this week the most productive and

    meaningful week ever. Today is a gift from God and so are the

    days of the week.

    It is important that we get our math right. The things that count

    are the things that cannot be counted. I am convinced that we

    need to see through the clutter and see Jesus for He is all that

    matters. Youth is fleeting life on this earth is finite and only

    what matters in eternity truly counts. Learn to number our days

    aright so we can have a heart of wisdom.

    Norman Cousins says: "Death is not the greatest loss in life.

    The greatest loss is what dies inside us while we live."

    My father raised us up well and even though we grieve his

    passing last night we rejoice in his arrival in the promised

    place Jesus offered. He passed on in peace because the Prince

    of Peace is in his heart.

    31FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • History teaches us the mistakes we are going to make. This is a

    wise saying. We all should be students of history learning from

    our past mistakes as well as our past successes. Every day is

    class in session and everywhere is a classroom for learning.

    Observe and absorb for today may offer the greatest lesson you

    and I need to learn. Happy Learning.

    A farmers boy decided to get married. His father said to him,

    John, when you get married, your liberty is gone. The boy

    said he did not believe it. The father said, Ill prove it to you.

    Catch a dozen chicken, tie their legs together and put them in

    the wagon. Hitch up the 2 horses to the wagon and drive into

    town. Stop at every house you come to, and whenever you find

    the man is boss, give him a horse. But whenever you find the

    woman is boss, give her a chicken. Youll give away all your

    chickens and come back with 2 horses.

    Is it really that bad? The boy wondered. What is father trying

    to say? That the woman is the head of the house? That she is

    the boss? Still, the boy wouldnt believe.

    Nevertheless, he accepted the proposition and drove to town.

    He had stopped at every house and had given away 10

    chickens when he came to a nice little house and saw an old

    man and his wife standing out on the front lawn. He called to

    them and asked, who is the boss here?

    The man said, I am. Turning to the woman, the boy said, Is

    he the boss?

    The woman replied, Yes, he is the boss.

    The boy asked them to come down to the street. He then

    explained his reason for asking and told the man to pick out

    one of the horses. He said he would bring the horse back to

    him that afternoon. The old man and the old lady looked over

    the horses carefully, and the husband said, I think the black

    horse is the better of the two.

    The wife then said, I think that brown one is in every way the

    better horse. I would choose him.

    The old man took a careful look at the brown horse and said, I

    guess Ill take the brown horse.

    The boy smiled and said, Oh no you wont; youll take the

    chicken.

    Clearly, the woman is still the boss around the house.

    Some times I get really tired of hearing all those jokes about

    certain men being Under the power and authority of their

    wives. All jokes imaginable have been concocted and why is

    this so? Very simple. Because not too many people understand

    Gods design for marriage.

    32FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • You would be amazed at the kinds of things business people

    say about marriage. One guy said that -Marriage is not a word.

    It is a sentence (a life sentence!).

    Another one trying to play with the concept of philosophy

    deduces marriage this way: He says -Marriage is love. Love is

    blind. Therefore, marriage is an institution for the blind. Would

    you believe that?

    One business man tired of all the household chores says that

    the Marriage certificate is just another word for a work permit.

    One wise guy says that you see that the disintegration of

    marriage comes in different stages:

    In the first year of marriage, the man speaks and the woman

    listens adoringly.

    In the second year, the woman speaks and the man listens

    agonizingly.

    And in the third year, they BOTH speak and the NEIGHBORS

    listen excitedly.

    Truth is those who make fun of marriage perhaps is simply

    being defensive about it. Maybe the guys in the office who

    tease men saying that their wives are their bosses are

    themselves being defensive in a way.

    Somebody says: Marriage is an institution in which a man

    loses his Bachelor's Degree and the woman gets her Masters.

    And lastly, another business man says: when a man holds a

    woman's hand before marriage, it is love; after marriage, it is

    self-defense.

    Husband and wife, instead of complementing each other

    collide with each other. This is not an exception, rather it is

    more of a rule. This is an eventuality because both parties in

    the marriage relationship do not understand his and her role.

    Havent you noticed that after attending various marriage

    seminars, the husband and wife goes home even increased the

    intensity of their fights. Simply because they start blaming

    each other. This should not be.

    The Bible says that the husband is to love his wife to the point

    of even dying for her as Jesus Christ gave His life for the

    church. But the womans part is to submit to the authority of

    her husband. Mess up this pattern and your marriage is messed

    up too.

    So the next time you hear those turkeys teasing you just

    because you dont want to go with them to the bar after work

    tonight, they have no idea what marriage is all about. But you

    know better because you know the Word of God.

    The one important quality business owners and executives are

    looking for in their people is initiative. Most people shy away

    and avoid responsibility and then wonder why their career is

    going nowhere.

    Make things happen this week because we will never be happy

    unless we are productive.

    33FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Being ignorant is not so much a shame, as being unwilling to

    learn. We are all ignorant in different subjects anyway. The

    person who pretends to know it all is the true ignorant in

    every way.

    Some people do not want to make a stand. They always want

    to be on the "winning" side. Stand on the side of truth. In the

    face of falsehood silence simply means agreement. We know

    what happens to people who stay in the middle of the road.

    They get run over. He who is not willing to stand for anything

    will fall for everything.

    Some people are blessed with the ability to create wealth.

    There is no need to envy them. We have wealth in many other

    forms. The important thing is to appreciate, to be contented

    with what we have but to never be contented with what we can

    become. Become a person of character, grace, manners and

    values. This is true wealth money cannot buy.

    Take the time to truly rest. Vacations are important.

    But here is the key: The ideal length of a vacation is just long

    enough to be missed and not long enough for them to discover

    how well they can get along without you... :)

    34FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Francis J. Kong is:

    President of Success Options Publishing Company

    President of FunWorks Inc. a member of the Canadian based Mad Science International Group, the worlds number

    one (1) Science educational-entertainment program provider

    for kids.

    Founding member and Director of Inspire Leadership Consultancy

    Francis has extensive work experiences in manufacturing and

    retail as he help founded a popular clothing company and ran a

    retail chain for many years.

    You can hear him in his daily Radio Program Business

    Matters which was given a Year 2007 special citation by the

    Catholic Mass Media Awards.

    You can read him through his Saturday and Sunday column of

    the Business Page of the Philippine Star.

    You can see him as he regularly guests every Monday and

    Thursday morning at the popular morning show Umagang Kay

    Ganda.

    He has been featured in many of the major business

    conventions and conferences both here and abroad.

    Francis is co-recipient of the Anvil Award for Excellence for the staging of the Dr. John Maxwell Leadership Seminar

    Series.

    Recipient of the Year 2006 Gold Quill Philippines Award of merit for Public Speech category sponsored by The

    International Association of Business Communicators.

    Recipient of 2008 Dr. Jose Rizal Award for Excellence in the field of Journalism.

    Francis has been trained and licensed by Maximum Impact of

    Atlanta Georgia to do the Maxwell leadership programs. He is

    also Trained and licensed by The Ziglar Corporation in London

    to do the Ziglar Sales and Presentation programs.

    35FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • He is an author of 14 books:

    His book One Day at a Time has been given a most favorable review by Channel NewsAsia of Singapore.

    His book The Early Bird Catches the Worm: is now translated into the Korean language.

    Francis is married to the former Lilia Nolasco and has three

    children: Bryan 30, Hannah 26 and Rachel 21.

    For more inspiring words from Francis J. Kong, please visit his

    personal blog at http://www.franciskong.com.

    36FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • INSPIRING EXCELLENCEFRANCISKONG.COM

    APRIL 2012

  • A compilation of post from the personal blog of

    F r a n c i s J. K o n g for the month of April, 2012.

    This eBook and its content is copyright of Francis J. Kong -

    Francis J. Kong, 2012. All rights reserved.

    Any redistribution or reproduction of part or all of the contents

    in any form is prohibited other than the following:

    you may print or download to a local hard disk extracts for your personal and non-commercial use only

    you may copy the content to individual third parties for their personal use, but only if you acknowledge the website as the

    source of the material

    You may not, except with our express written permission,

    distribute or commercially exploit the content. Nor may you

    transmit it or store it in any other website or other form of

    electronic retrieval system.

    This eBook was created and compiled by

    One Awesome Social Media Company Inc.

    www.oneawesomecompany.com

    38FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • If something is wrong with your cellphone, you do not consult

    your washing machine manual.

    If something is wrong with your TV, you do not consult your

    DVD manual.

    When your life is in disarray you don't consult your business

    manual. You consult your Bible. Do not master the Bible. Let

    the WORD master you.

    It was June 18, 1815, the Battle of Waterloo. The French under

    the command of Napoleon were fighting the Allies (British,

    Dutch, and Germans) under the command of Wellington. The

    people of England depended on a system of semaphore signals

    to find out how the battle was going. One of these signal

    stations was on the tower of Winchester Cathedral.

    Late in the day it flashed the signal: "W-E-L-L-I-N-G-T-O-N---

    D-E-F-E-A-T-E-D- -." Just at that moment one of those sudden

    English fog clouds made it impossible to read the message.

    The news of defeat quickly spread throughout the city. The

    whole countryside was sad and gloomy when they heard the

    news that their country had lost the war. Suddenly the fog

    lifted, and the remainder of the message could be read. The

    message had four words, not two. The complete message was:

    "W-E-L-L-I-N-G-T-O-N- - -DE-F-E-A- T-E-D- - -T-H-E- - -E-

    N- E-M-Y!" It took only a few minutes for the good news to

    spread. Sorrow was turned into joy, defeat was turned into

    victory!

    So it was when Jesus was laid in the tomb on the first Good

    Friday afternoon. Hope had died even in the hearts of Jesus'

    most loyal friends. After the frightful crucifixion, the fog of

    disappointment and misunderstanding had crept in on the

    friends of Jesus. They had "read" only part of the divine

    message. "Christ defeated" was all that they knew. But then on

    the third day--Easter Sunday--the fog of disappointment and

    misunderstanding lifted, and the world received the complete

    message: "Christ defeated death!" Defeat was turned into

    victory; death was turned to life! Such a beautiful and

    inspiring story taken from the book, Illustrations Unlimited

    edited by James S. Hewett.

    Imagine what and how the disciples felt the day and night

    before the Resurrection.

    Men who have given up everything in order to follow Christ

    and now distraught to see their Messiah crucified and died on

    the cross. Some times we get into the case of the disciples and

    criticize them for their lack of faith but how would we have

    responded had we been in their sandals then? I wonder.

    There is such a tone of finality to the word death. Its like the

    final curtains are down. Its the End. Finito as the Italians

    would say. I cannot type Chinese characters from my

    keyboards but its just as gloomy as it sounds. Finished!

    Dead! Thats All Folks!

    39FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Or is it? Do you know that the One who dies on the first Good

    Friday is familiar with death but He treated it in another way?

    Let me tell you why.

    The Moody bible Institute in Chicago stands tall and erect right

    in the heart of the windy city. I have visited it and I have at one

    time spent a few hours in their impressive library browsing

    over some of their books. This institution is named after the

    very popular evangelist name Dwight L. Moody.

    As a young man, D.L. Moody was called upon suddenly to

    preach a funeral sermon. He hunted all throughout the four

    Gospels trying to find one of Christ's funeral sermons, but

    searched in vain. He found that Christ broke up every funeral

    he ever attended. Death could not exist where he was. When

    the dead heard his voice they sprang to life. Jesus said, "I am

    the resurrection, and the life."

    And then the glorious Sunday came. The stone could not hold

    Him, death could not conquer Him and the only One who

    conquered death lived and rose again to assure us and comfort

    us that in Him we may have life too. Dont ask me how this is

    done Im not a theologian. Heck --- Im not even religious. Im

    just a businessman who believes. And this is why in Him I

    invest my entire life. That particular Saturday sure is a lonely

    one but its the lull before the Rise! Death now carries no more

    sting. For those who believe.

    Put your work aside and just think about this for a moment.

    Your perspective in the board room will be different from you

    perspective in the operating room when that time comes but

    the Rise on Sunday will give you hope.

    Somebody said: The stone was rolled away from the door, not

    to permit Christ to come out, but to enable the disciples to go

    in. And that is the very essence of the Christian faith.

    DA Harvard University research study involved two groups of

    100 Harvard graduates between the ages of 65 and 75. The 1st

    group retired at age 65 while the other group continued to be

    employed for another 10 years. In the first group - those who

    retired at 65 - 7 out of 8 were dead by age 75. In the second

    group of 100 men who continued to work - only 1 out of 8 was

    deceased by age 75. According to Gordon Botting, "The Stew

    Pot", 04 '98.

    Good people do not retire, they re-fire. do not call it Monday

    morning blues. This time call it Awesome Monday that will

    start your Awesome Week! Put your mind in the right frame

    and work to make this week your most productive week of

    your life. And then repeat the process next Monday! BE

    AWESOME!

    Sometimes the trouble with being a parent is that by the time

    you're experienced you're usually unemployed. Children grow

    up and parents grow old and moments are lost without creating

    pleasant memories of time spent well together.

    40FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Enjoy your family. Every family tree always produces nuts!

    And I am the biggest one in ours. Let there be love and

    laughter in yours too!

    The way you spend your time is the way you live your life.

    You can make more money, friends and open more businesses

    but there is always a limit to time. Spend in only on the things

    that truly count like --- eternity with Christ?

    Oswald Chambers says: All heaven is interested in the cross

    of Christ, all hell terribly afraid of it, while men are the only

    beings who more or less ignore its meaning.

    Carrying the cross does not mean carrying a problem. When

    Jesus carried His; He was on a mission to die for us. Everyone

    who carried the cross died on the cross but Jesus bodily

    resurrected to offer us life and hope. Today is a good day to

    reflect on this.

    Many men will talk about the character of Jesus and how

    beautiful His teachings are but only a few would find it

    comfortable to talk about the Christ of the cross and His

    sufferings for us. Yet without the cross and Jesus' Resurrection

    there is no hope for mankind.

    Oswald Chambers says: Calvary means "the place of a skull"

    and that is where our Lord is always crucified, in the culture

    and intellect of men.

    The cross and the resurrection is a great study and it takes a lot

    of humility to understand it.

    Lent is always a good time for us to rest and more importantly

    to reflect. Maybe this is why we call it Holy week. 7 days for

    us to purposely meditate and pray so that we can survive the 51

    "unholy" ones.

    I did a little research. Mel Gibson in his movie The Passion of

    the Christ made it a little easier to grasp the situation. The

    cross today adorn many a man and womans necks as a nice

    piece of jewelry and what many people fail to understand is the

    fact that during the early days the cross symbolized a curse and

    it was not something to be proud of.

    The cross consisted of a perpendicular stake with a crossbeam

    either at the top of the stake of shortly below the top. The

    height of the stake was usually little more than the height of a

    man. A block or a pin was sometimes driven into the stake to

    serve as a seat for the condemned person, giving partial

    support to his body. Sometimes also a step for the feet was

    fixed to the stake.

    41FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Victims of crucifixion did not usually die for 2 or 3 days. But

    this was determined by the presence or absence of the seat and

    the footrest, for a person suspended by his hands lost blood

    pressure quickly, and the pulse rate was increased. Usually the

    victim had been severely scourged before crucifixion took

    place. Total collapse through insufficient blood circulation to

    the brain and the heart would follow shortly. If the victim

    could ease his body by supporting himself with the seat and

    footrest, the blood could be returned to some degree of

    circulation in the upper part of his body. To fix the hands to the

    cross beam either cords or nails and cords were used;

    sometimes the feet were nailed also. When it was desired to

    bring the torture to an end, the victim's legs were broken below

    the knees with a club. It was then no longer possible for him to

    ease his weight, and the loss of blood circulation was

    accentuated. Coronary insufficiency followed shortly. The

    victim's offense was usually published by a crier who preceded

    him to the place of execution. Sometimes it was written on a

    tablet, which was carried by the condemned man himself. The

    cross in the olden days was a symbol of a curse. Today many a

    man and woman use it to adorn their necks. This is the image

    of Friday.

    But Sunday brings us to a different message.

    As a young man, Chicago based minister D.L. Moody was

    called upon suddenly to preach a funeral sermon. He hunted all

    throughout the four Gospels trying to find one of Christ's

    funeral sermons, but searched in vain. He found that Christ

    broke up every funeral he ever attended. Death could not exist

    where he was. When the dead heard his voice they sprang to

    life. Jesus said, "I am the resurrection, and the life."

    And here is another story. Margaret Sangster Phippen wrote

    that in the mid 1950s her father, British minister W. E.

    Sangster, began to notice some uneasiness in his throat and a

    dragging in his leg. When he went to the doctor, he found that

    he had an incurable disease that caused progressive muscular

    atrophy. His muscles would gradually waste away, his voice

    would fail, his throat would soon become unable to swallow.

    Sangster threw himself into his work in British home missions,

    figuring he could still write and he would have even more time

    for prayer. "Let me stay in the struggle Lord," he pleaded. "I

    don't mind if I can no longer be a general, but give me just a

    regiment to lead." He wrote articles and books, and helped

    organize prayer cells throughout England. "I'm only in the

    kindergarten of suffering," he told people who pitied him.

    Gradually Sangster's legs became useless. His voice went

    completely. But he could still hold a pen, shakily. On Easter

    morning, just a few weeks before he died, he wrote a letter to

    his daughter. In it, he said, "It is terrible to wake up on Easter

    morning and have no voice to shout, 'He is risen!'--but it would

    be still more terrible to have a voice and not want to shout."

    Dont shout: Its back to work again on Tuesday!

    Its great to shout: Christ is Risen!

    42FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Christianity is a religion of the open tomb. The stone was

    rolled away from the door, not to permit Christ to come out,

    but to enable the disciples to go in.

    "He is Risen!" Three powerful words that offers Hope for the

    future providing power to live and win for the present.

    May you have this victory too!

    Vacation time is almost over. Be excited to go back to work.

    "There is nothing better for a man than to rejoice in his work."

    says the wisest man who ever walked the earth.

    Work is the least expensive way to occupy your time. A

    successful Silicon Valley executive says: "Our credo is work

    hard, play hard and don't worry about the difference between

    work and play. There isn't any.

    Every business commits customer service errors. I experienced

    one last week. Called up and aired my concern. All I wanted

    was an apology but all I ever got was an excuse. I promised

    myself never to do business with that company again unless

    they train their people on the art and science of "Service

    Recovery.

    Here is the lesson for today: Never mess up an apology with

    an excuse." Same principle for business is theme principle for

    life and living.

    Off to Singapore for some speaking and training commitments.

    Just one thought for the day: Do not trade your dreams for

    debts. Do not sleep well at night until you have paid it off.

    Money borrowed does not belong to you. Benjamin Franklin

    says: "Creditors have better memories than debtors.

    What you hold in your hands will not be as important as what

    you carry in your heart! Spread joy around today in the work

    place. Never mind the skeptics.

    Had a great time speaking in the 10th Annual Secretaries'

    Summit held at Marina Mandarin, Singapore. Today I speak to

    the wonderful people of Mediacorp on Creativity and

    Innovation. I learn so much in the process. To teach another is

    the best way to learn but am guided by William Arthur Ward's

    words of wisdom: The mediocre teacher tells. The good

    teacher explains. The superior teacher demonstrates. The great teacher inspires. And by God's grace this is what I aspire to do.

    43FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Vance Havner says, "God uses broken things. It takes broken

    soil to produce a crop, broken clouds to give rain, broken grain

    to give bread, broken bread to give strength. It is the broken

    alabaster box that gives forth perfume." God uses mightily

    those who have been hurt deeply and in this aspect, brokenness

    is a great blessing.

    A fisherman from the city was out fishing on a lake in a small

    boat. He noticed another man in a small boat open his tackle

    box and take out a mirror. Being curious the man rowed over

    and asked, "What is the mirror for? "That's my secret way to

    catch fish," said the other man. "Shine the mirror on the top of

    the water. The fish notice the spot of sun on the water above

    and they swim to the surface. Then I just reach down and net

    them and pull them into the boat."

    "Wow! Does that really work?"

    "You bet it does."

    "Would you be interested in selling that mirror? I'll give you

    Php2,000.00 for it."

    "Well, okay."

    After the money was transferred, the city fisherman asked, "By

    the way, how many fish have you caught this week?"

    "You're the sixth," he said.

    Thats a fine catch and the word for this is MOMENTUM.

    Have you ever watched a basketball team scores continuously

    every time they do down the court, forces the opponents to

    commit turnovers maybe three times in a row what would the

    opposing coach do? He would call a time out. And why does

    he have to do this? Because he wants to break the

    MOMENTUM!

    When someone tells you they're "on a roll," that's momentum.

    When the sales are coming in, money is pouring in thats

    momentum.

    When the invitations continue to come and every time you give

    a performance the reviews are all so positive that is

    momentum.

    When you're consistently beating deadlines on a project, that

    too, is momentum. So now you have a big project and so many

    people are involved. How do you build momentum to keep

    your team on course and accomplish your intended goals?

    May I offer a couple of suggestions? The philosophy behind

    momentum is to first understand that you build momentum by

    accumulating small successes. Doug Firebaugh says: "The

    44FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • secret to Momentum in life can be found in the word

    Momentum... you create it Moment by Moment..."

    The bigger the project, the bigger is the payoff as long as

    momentum is there.

    So here are a few suggestions:

    1. LET MOMENTUM BE PART OF YOUR PLAN

    Have everyone know that the entire team will push all speed

    ahead once they know how to create momentum.

    2. TARGET A FEW SMALL WINS

    These may be initiatives that do not cost much, easy to carry

    out, does not meet much objections and a few small wins give

    your team the starting push to get momentum going. Choose

    these small projects, get them done because this is your way of

    telling the team that you are now on the move.

    3. LET SMALL WINS LEAD TO BIGGER GOALS

    The reason why suggestion number 2 is crucial it is because

    you gain the energy and the zeal and most importantly the

    optimism to be able to tackle bigger goals. But may I suggest

    that you focus only on important thing and not too many of

    them. Trying to do too much at once may cause a diffusion of

    focus and demoralization in the group. You need at least 1 big

    win to be able to tackle some more.

    4. CELEBRATE YOUR SUCCESS

    Once you see the successes coming in celebrate publicly. Send

    e-mails, put it on your company newsletters, congratulate

    everyone in your team and make sure their bosses are copy

    furnished. Praising people publicly is one of the best non-

    monetary motivational tools you can use that prepare them

    raring to do more and achieve even bigger goals.

    It takes a leader with a grand vision to be able to achieve great

    success.

    Peeking through a peephole is no way to stay motivated when

    you're moving toward a goal. The big picture is important. The

    leader with the big dreams--big goals--big rewards--big faith

    is the one who can keep his people moving through obstacles

    and fatigue and discouragement.

    Study Jesus in the New Testament and find out how he

    discipled a handful of rowdy disciples and had them achieve

    great things that turned the whole world upside down. Best

    leadership lesson ever if you were to ask me.

    There are people you can make friends with but only for a day.

    Many for a few weeks, perhaps a few for months or years.

    Only the rare and few are for a lifetime. These are rare but they

    are God's gifts to you. Treasure them. Be a good friend

    yourself. This week, do something special for them.

    Education's purpose is to replace an empty mind with an open

    one. Says Malcolm Forbes. Today I will have the privilege to

    45FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • speak to 400 educators this morning and speak on parenting

    tonight. So few people have the privilege of doing this and this

    is why of all men I am so blessed!

    Somebody says: My other brother-in-law died. He was a

    karate expert, then joined the army. The first time he saluted,

    he killed himself.

    Be careful with your strengths. Use them right and use them

    well.

    Much of our human life has very little to do with the physical.

    You and I are spiritual beings. We are made up of thoughts,

    feelings, intentions, choices and many of which deals with the

    issues of the soul. Poor is the person blessed with physical

    faculties but is impoverished in the spirit.

    Would you like to have more creative ideas for your business?

    Talk to your front liners and not just your managers. Use the

    five magic words that would work wonders: I would like your

    opinion.

    Studies show that simply asking for anothers opinion

    significantly enhances your positive image of that individual.

    People want to talk and they want to be heard. So may I have

    your opinion as well?

    There is only one thing that can overcome the power of choice

    and that is to be chosen. A person who has a sense of destiny

    cannot be stopped. It is important to know one's calling in life.

    This gives us a sense of purpose.

    There are times when I have to go to our domestic airports

    regularly. There are so many out of town speaking

    engagements that bring me to the airport at early hours in the

    morning and as uncomfortable as this maybe it is now part of

    my life I have learned to live with.

    Many things happen in airports. Long lines, short lines, put

    your bags, remove your shoes, socks with holes socks without

    holes and some without socks and for the life of me I cannot

    understand why people have to remove their slippers and

    sandals too and let it slide through the x-ray machine. Theyre

    probably scanning for germs and bacteria. Part of the job I

    guess.

    There are so many interesting people inside the airport. There

    are so many interesting people inside the lounge. And I say this

    without exaggeration, there has never been an airport

    46FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • experience of mine without running into someone I know or

    someone who happens to know me. A participant in my

    seminars, an audience in my talk or maybe somebody who

    would call my attention because they recognize me from this

    column. Overall, apart from the sleepiness and the predictable

    food inside the lounge my airport experiences have been pretty

    good.

    And then I am always on the lookout for drama.

    Drama that happens right before my eyes.

    Big Shots, and Big People they come in different sizes and

    shapes and characters.

    Big Shots come with many body guards. One to carry his

    suitcase, another to pave the way so there wont be traffic and

    delay, maybe one or two more whose only job is to look

    menacing. And may I say that they are quite good at what they

    are doing. I am sure security inside the airport is lacking and

    that is why they need to bring their personal guards with them.

    Big Shots make a grand entrance. Here the drama is about to

    unfold. What a sight to behold. Accompanied by airport

    officials I presume because they wear those huge IDs on their

    chest. These Big Shots need not fall in line. They are public

    servants you know and as such they expect to be served. And

    then I turn around and my smile meets the smiles of other

    passengers who begin to shake their heads. Maybe our

    thoughts are on the same wave length. What a reflection of our

    country. The values we hold dear.

    Perks and privileges of a democratic government is this it? I

    really dont know.

    Maybe the wise guy who said this was right:

    An autocratic government is run by an autocrat.

    An oligarchy is run by oligarchs.

    A communist government is run by communists.

    A monarchy is run by a monarch.

    And a democratic government is run by demons.

    Of course this is not true but when you see sights like these

    you tend to believe it is.

    The irony is that there is no respect and admiration from those

    who watch the drama unfolding. They shake their heads, they

    mumble words I cannot hear and then they move on.

    And then there are the Big People. I see them and I recognize

    them because they are known and they are famous. But they

    are inconspicuous and they try their best to stay that way. No

    fanfare no accompanying officials with huge ID on their chests

    and they do fall in line. Greet them and they greet you back.

    Move over and let them go first and they refuse with a smile,

    say a little Thank you and gain the admiration of people

    around them. These are not the Big Shots. These are the Big

    People.

    There is a big difference between the Big Shots and the Big

    People. Humility is what differentiates them.

    Maybe I am just tired and maybe having to wake up so early

    just to go to the airport to catch my morning flight has made

    me critical and cynical and I apologize for this. But would

    47FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • you blame me if I wish I could see more public figures

    displaying humility and serving because this is what they are

    called to do?

    We still have a lot of growing up to do dont we?

    Borrowing a famous line from famous American comedienne

    Lily Tomlin and revising it a little for the local context:

    Ninety eight percent of the adults in this country are

    decent, hardworking, honest Filipinos. It's the other lousy two

    percent that get all the publicity. But then, we elected them.

    Everything rises and falls on leadership and I pray to God that

    He gives us good leaders.

    Go to work with joy and gladness in your heart today. This just

    may define your theme for the week. Never mind the critics.

    Albert Einstein's theories came under attack; even an anti-

    Einstein organization was set up. When a book was published

    entitled 100 Authors Against Einstein, he retorted, 'If I were

    wrong, then one would have been enough!"

    Do what is right and not what people say.

    Take your limitations with grace. Helen Keller (born blind),

    Albert Einstein (refugee) and Abraham Lincoln (born poor)

    never complained about their plight. This is why they're great.

    Dynasties do not last, they are destroyed because of the golden

    spoon treatment.

    THE FOUR-TO-ONE RULE: For every criticism you make of

    someone's job performance, make sure you give the person

    four compliments.

    The saddest words in pen or tongue are the words: "It might

    have been." Life, love and business involve risk taking. Each

    day is a gift from God and a great adventure to experience.

    Live your life to the full. There will never be another day like

    today.

    There are some institutions who teach that it is right for one to

    believe that he is right but it is wrong to for one to believe

    others are wrong. So what happened is that these people want

    us to cultivate our thinking process without coming to a

    rightful conclusion. I don't know why but some times I feel

    that many have educated themselves to imbecility.

    Where there is no frame work of morality, there is only

    relativity and the stupidity of being unable to determine right

    from wrong. God's Word could never be wrong and this should

    be the basis of our moral framework.

    48FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • I dont like chain letters and I can assure you I dont participate

    in one too. But once in a while I get to receive something that

    is worth sharing and this happens to be one of them.

    I studied the long chain of names wherein this material has

    been circulating through the Internet and the only lament I

    have is that there is no mention as to the authors name and

    identity.

    It is a true story though as claimed and the moment my friend

    Cynthia sent it to me, I knew this one is so important I just

    have to share it with you.

    I have simply entitled this, It Could Have Been You.

    Jenny was so happy about the house they had found.

    For once in her life twas on the right side of town.

    She unpacked her things with such great ease.

    As she watched her new curtains blow in the breeze.

    How wonderful it was to have her own room.

    School would be starting; she'd have friends over soon.

    There'd be sleep-overs, and parties; she was so happy.

    It's just the way she wanted her life to be.

    On the first day of school, everything went great.

    She made new friends and even got a date!

    She thought, "I want to be popular and I'm going to be,

    Because I just got a date with the star of the team.

    To be known in this school you had to have a clout,

    And dating this guy would sure help her out.

    There was only one problem stopping her fate.

    Her parents had said she was too young to date.

    "Well I just won't tell them the entire truth.

    They won't know the difference; what's there to lose?"

    Jenny asked to stay with her friends that night.

    Her parents frowned but said, "All right."

    Excited, she got ready for the big event

    But as she rushed around like she had no sense,

    She began to feel guilty about all the lies,

    But what's a pizza, a party, and a moonlight ride?

    Well the pizza was good, and the party was great,

    But the moonlight ride would have to wait.

    For Jeff was half drunk by this time.

    But he kissed her and said that he was just fine.

    Then the room filled with smoke and Jeff took a puff.

    Jenny couldn't believe he was smoking that stuff.

    Now Jeff was ready to ride to the point

    But only after he'd smoked another joint.

    They jumped in the car for the moonlight ride,

    Not thinking that he was too drunk to drive.

    They finally made it to the point at last,

    And Jeff started trying to make a pass.

    A pass is not what Jenny wanted at all

    49FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • (and by a pass, I don't mean playing Football.)

    "Perhaps my parents were right...maybe I am too young.

    Boy, how could I ever, ever be so dumb."

    With all of her might, she pushed Jeff to stay away:

    "Please take me home, I don't want to stay."

    Jeff cranked up the engine and floored the gas.

    As Jeff drove on in a fit of wild anger,

    Jenny knew that her life was in danger.

    She begged and pleaded for him to slow down,

    But he just got faster as they neared the town.

    "Just let me get home! I'll confess that I lied.

    I really went out for a moonlight ride."

    Then all of a sudden she saw a big flash,

    "Oh God, Please help us! We're going to crash!"

    She doesn't remember the force of impact.

    Just that everything all of a sudden went black.

    She felt someone remove her from the twisted rubble,

    And heard, "call an ambulance! These kids are in trouble!

    Voices she heard...a few words at best.

    But she knew there were two cars involved in the wreck.

    Then wondered to herself if Jeff was all right,

    And if the people in the other car were alive.

    She awoke in the hospital to faces so sad.

    "You've been in a wreck and it looks pretty bad.

    These voices echoed inside her head,

    As they gently told her that Jeff was dead.

    They said "Jenny, we've done all we can do.

    But it looks as if we'll lose you too."

    "But the people in the other car?" Jenny cried.

    "We're sorry, Jenny, they also died."

    Jenny prayed, "God, forgive me for what I've done

    I only wanted to have just one night of fun."

    "Tell those people's family, I've made their lives dim,

    And wish I could return their families to them."

    "Tell Mom and Dad I'm sorry I lied,

    And that it's my fault so many have died.

    Oh, nurse, won't you please tell them that for me?"

    The nurse just stood there-she never agreed.

    But took Jenny's hand with tears in her eyes.

    And a few moments later Jenny died.

    A man asked the nurse, "Why didn't you do your best

    To bid that girl her one last request?"

    She looked at the man with eyes so sad.

    "Because the people in the other car were her mom and

    dad."

    This story is sad and unpleasant but true,

    So young people take heed, it could have been you.

    I dont think I should say more.

    50FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Not every one has the right to have a formal education. (some

    do not have money). But every one should have the drive to get

    educated.

    Do not think out of the box. Get out of the box and do some

    thinking. As long as the determination is there, there will

    always be a way.

    In the digital economy, we turn obsolete the moment we finish

    writing our resume. The challenge is: Will there be new things

    added to my resume should I prepare one today? What new

    things would I learn today? Never be satisfied with the status

    quo. Level up everyday.

    51FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Francis J. Kong is:

    President of Success Options Publishing Company

    President of FunWorks Inc. a member of the Canadian based Mad Science International Group, the worlds number

    one (1) Science educational-entertainment program provider

    for kids.

    Founding member and Director of Inspire Leadership Consultancy

    Francis has extensive work experiences in manufacturing and

    retail as he help founded a popular clothing company and ran a

    retail chain for many years.

    You can hear him in his daily Radio Program Business

    Matters which was given a Year 2007 special citation by the

    Catholic Mass Media Awards.

    You can read him through his Saturday and Sunday column of

    the Business Page of the Philippine Star.

    You can see him as he regularly guests every Monday and

    Thursday morning at the popular morning show Umagang Kay

    Ganda.

    He has been featured in many of the major business

    conventions and conferences both here and abroad.

    Francis is co-recipient of the Anvil Award for Excellence for the staging of the Dr. John Maxwell Leadership Seminar

    Series.

    Recipient of the Year 2006 Gold Quill Philippines Award of merit for Public Speech category sponsored by The

    International Association of Business Communicators.

    Recipient of 2008 Dr. Jose Rizal Award for Excellence in the field of Journalism.

    Francis has been trained and licensed by Maximum Impact of

    Atlanta Georgia to do the Maxwell leadership programs. He is

    also Trained and licensed by The Ziglar Corporation in London

    to do the Ziglar Sales and Presentation programs.

    52FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • He is an author of 14 books:

    His book One Day at a Time has been given a most favorable review by Channel NewsAsia of Singapore.

    His book The Early Bird Catches the Worm: is now translated into the Korean language.

    Francis is married to the former Lilia Nolasco and has three

    children: Bryan 30, Hannah 26 and Rachel 21.

    For more inspiring words from Francis J. Kong, please visit his

    personal blog at http://www.franciskong.com.

    53FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • INSPIRING EXCELLENCEFRANCISKONG.COM

    MAY 2012

  • A compilation of post from the personal blog of

    F r a n c i s J. K o n g for the month of May, 2012.

    This eBook and its content is copyright of Francis J. Kong -

    Francis J. Kong, 2012. All rights reserved.

    Any redistribution or reproduction of part or all of the contents

    in any form is prohibited other than the following:

    you may print or download to a local hard disk extracts for your personal and non-commercial use only

    you may copy the content to individual third parties for their personal use, but only if you acknowledge the website as the

    source of the material

    You may not, except with our express written permission,

    distribute or commercially exploit the content. Nor may you

    transmit it or store it in any other website or other form of

    electronic retrieval system.

    This eBook was created and compiled by

    One Awesome Social Media Company Inc.

    www.oneawesomecompany.com

    55FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Somebody says "Every person is holding an invisible sign that

    says: "Please make me feel important!" This is so true. Make

    someone feel important especially the people way down there

    in the organizational chart. (janitors, messengers, security

    guards, etc)

    Greet them, smile at them and simply make them feel

    important and one this is guaranteed. You will feel joy!

    Be wary of people who agree with you all the time. Either he

    or she is a fool or the person is ready to skin you. Do not

    constantly seek for the things you want to hear. Real friends

    are those who will tell you things you NEED to hear. Be wise

    but be gentle.

    It would be wise to heed the words of Victor Hugo when he

    said: "You can resist an approaching army but no one can resist

    an idea whose time has come!

    Wisdom is having the ability to read the signs of the times and

    this has to be sought. It is not given.

    At a college reunion, thirty years after graduation, one man

    said to another, "See that fellow over there? Well--he's gotten

    so bald and so fat he didn't even recognize me!" Look at the

    mirror. Do not see through a window.

    How would you know whether you are a mother or not?

    Well, you Know You're a Mother When....

    1. You count the sprinkles on each kid's cupcake to make sure

    they're equal.

    2. You have the time to shave only one leg at a time.

    3. You hide in the bathroom to be alone.

    4. Your kid throws up and you catch it.

    5. Some one else's kid throws up at a party. You keep eating.

    6. You consider finger paints to be a controlled substance.

    7. You've mastered the art of placing large quantities of

    pancakes and eggs on a plate without anything touching.

    8. Your child insists that you read "Once Upon a Potty" out

    loud in the lobby of Grand Central Station and you do it.

    9. You cling to the high moral ground on toy weapons, your

    child chews his toast into the shape of a gun.

    10. You hope ketchup is a vegetable, since it's the only way

    your child eats.

    11. You can't bear the thought of your son's first girlfriend.

    12. You hate the thought of his wife even more.

    56FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • 13. You find yourself cutting your husbands' sandwiches into

    cute shapes.

    14. You can't bear to give away baby clothes - it's so final.

    15. You hear your mother's voice coming out of your mouth

    when you say, "NOT in your good clothes!"

    16. You stop criticizing the way your mother raised you.

    17. You donate to charities in the hope that your child won't

    get that disease.

    18. You hire a sitter because you havent been out with your

    husband in ages, then spend half the night checking on the

    kids.

    19. You use your own saliva to clean your child's face.

    20. You say at least once a day, "I'm not cut out for this job",

    but you know you wouldn't trade it for anything.

    Motherhood. And this is why having one day a year paying

    tribute to mothers may be a noteworthy thing to do but it is my

    belief and conviction that mothers deserve more credit than

    that.

    First, let me tell you how Mothers Day got started.

    The earliest Mother's Day celebrations can be traced back to

    the spring celebrations of ancient Greece in honor of Rhea, the

    Mother of the Gods. During the 1600's, England celebrated a

    day called Mothering Sunday. Celebrated on the 4th Sunday

    of Lent (the 40 day period leading up to Easter*),"Mothering

    Sunday" honored the mothers of England.

    During this time many of the England's poor worked as

    servants for the wealthy. As most jobs were located far from

    their homes, the servants would live at the houses of their

    employers. On Mothering Sunday the servants would have the

    day off and were encouraged to return home and spend the day

    with their mothers. A special cake, called the mothering cake,

    was often brought along to provide a festive touch. As

    Christianity spread throughout Europe the celebration changed

    to honor the "Mother Church" - the spiritual power that gave

    them life and protected them from harm. Over time the church

    festival blended with the Mothering Sunday celebration .

    People began honoring their mothers as well as the church.

    In the United States Mother's Day was first suggested in 1872

    by Julia Ward Howe (who wrote the words to the Battle hymn

    of the Republic) as a day dedicated to peace. Ms. Howe would

    hold organized Mother's Day meetings in Boston, Mass ever

    year. In 1907 Ana Jarvis, from Philadelphia, began a campaign

    to establish a national Mother's Day. Ms. Jarvis persuaded her

    mother's church in Grafton, West Virginia to celebrate Mother's

    Day on the second anniversary of her mother's death, the 2nd

    Sunday of May. By the next year Mother's Day was also

    celebrated in Philadelphia.

    Ms. Jarvis and her supporters began to write to ministers,

    businessman, and politicians in their quest to establish a

    national Mother's Day. It was successful as by 1911 Mother's

    Day was celebrated in almost every state. President Woodrow

    Wilson, in 1914, made the official announcement proclaiming

    Mother's Day as a national holiday that was to be held each

    year on the 2nd Sunday of May. While many countries of the

    world celebrate their own Mother's Day at different times

    57FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • throughout the year, there are some countries such as Denmark,

    Finland, Italy, Turkey, Australia, and Belgium which also

    celebrate Mother's Day on the second Sunday of May. And of

    course here in our own country, we became conscious of

    Mothers Day because Department stores and shopping malls

    remind us always.

    May I make suggestion? That we honor the many mothers

    who are working as overseas Filipino workers sacrificing

    themselves for their families this time?

    The Bible says: Honor your father and your mother and on this

    special occasion it would be good to also remember the

    gallantry, nobility and the sacrifice Filipino mothers all over

    the world are doing for their families.

    One proverb says it best: That one mother can take care of ten

    children, but ten children can't take care of one mother.

    A wise person says: "The difference between ordinary and

    extraordinary is that little extra!" Do your best work today and

    for the rest of this week. Do not be a painter, be an artist.

    Always give more than what you are paid for. This is the path

    to success.

    Anybody who is afraid to look bad is a loser. He is the same

    person you can beat every time. CNN founder Ted Turner says:

    If you never quit, youre never beaten. Quitters have never

    won. Winning has nothing to do with how you look, it has

    everything to do with your tenacity and resolve to win. The

    question is not How do I look? The question is How am I

    going to solve this.

    "A teacher affects eternity; he can never tell where his

    influence stops." says Henry Brooks Adams. This afternoon Ill

    speak to more than 400 public school teachers which will be

    held in CCF St. Francis Square. Again, it's time for me to give

    back to what they have given me.

    Most trouble is produced by those who don't produce anything

    else. They complain, criticize and suck up the life, and energy

    of other people. Be positive and be productive. This is the path

    to joy and happiness.

    Facing difficulties? Two ways to meet them. Change the

    difficulty or change yourself. Life difficulties are intended to

    make us better, not bitter. And don't melt like butter.

    58FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Croft Pentz says: An ounce of mother is often worth more than

    a ton of clergy.

    A nation's strength or moral fiber is judged by the quality of its

    mothers. Almost all of history's greatest workers had godly

    mothers. This is why we honor them everyday.

    Have you ever been bumped off from a flight? I have. And I

    can assure you its not a very pleasant experience. Specially if

    you have a connecting flight to catch.

    So what do you do when youre caught in a situation like this?

    Fret, whine, moan and groan? Threaten to sue the airline?

    Sure, they give us a pass that offers free food but truth is we

    hate the inconvenience.

    You may find this hard to believe but I have conditioned my

    mind to thank God for the inconvenience and simply trust in

    His plans. Listen to the story told by T. W. Wilson.

    One day many years ago I was in Atlanta, Georgia, trying to

    catch a plane to Charlotte, North Carolina, so that I could visit

    my father and mother. I got my ticket at the last minute, and I

    was seated on the plane when all of a sudden the flight director

    spoke: "Mr. Wilson, please." I raised my hand. "You'll have to

    deplane," he said, "because another man had bought his ticket

    before you, but he was late getting to the terminal."

    I must confess that I complained. "What kind of a business are

    you running?" I asked. They took my baggage off the plane.

    The next flight was several hours later, so instead of waiting, I

    took a taxi to the bus depot in Atlanta. A bus was ready to

    leave, and I was told to board and then purchase my ticket

    when we arrived at the next stop. When we reached that stop, I

    phoned my father to tell him that I was taking a bus instead of

    a plane. He answered the phone, asking, "Who is this?"I said,

    "It's T. W."

    "Oh, son. Oh, son . . ." he said repeatedly. It really didn't

    make sense to me.

    Finally he said, "Son the plane that you told me you would be

    on crashed and all 23 people were killed." I was stunned. It

    dawned on me that God had spared my life and that he had

    some more work for me to do!

    Suppose God had worked things out in the way that I had

    wanted I would be dead and not able to minister today. This

    is why I chose Romans 8:28 to be my life's verse: "We know

    that all things work together for good to them that love God, to

    them who are the called according to His purpose" (KJV).[1]

    Well, it looks like Mr. Wilson really knows what hes talking

    about. Considering his dramatic experience.

    59FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Now heres the problem. Most of us do not have dramatic

    experiences like Mr. Wilson in our story and when

    inconveniences come into our lives, we complain.

    But what we fail to realize is that every single inconvenience

    that has happened in our lives, when we allow our 20-20

    hindsight vision see it with an open heart, we would realize

    that God has used them to build us up to become stronger in

    the process. We begin to realize that our prayers were not

    answered and what a relief they were not.

    Trusting God gives us inner peace. Relinquishing control and

    allow His hand of divine providence to rule our lives make us

    enjoy the gift of life that God has given.

    Mary Beth says these are the symptoms of Inner Peace

    1. A tendency to think and act spontaneously, rather than on

    fears based on past experiences.

    2. An unmistakable ability to enjoy each moment.

    3. A loss of interest in judging other people.

    4. A loss of interest in judging self.

    5. A loss of interest in interpreting the actions of others.

    6. A loss of the ability to worry.

    7. Frequent, overwhelming episodes of appreciation.

    8. Contented feelings of connectedness with others and

    nature.

    9. Frequent attacks of smiling.

    10. An increasing tendency to let things happen; And finally,

    11. An increased susceptibility to love, and to freely receive

    the love extended by others, as well as the uncontrollable urge

    to extend it. So trust God when something you want to happen

    dont and something you want to do you cant. Say a word of

    prayer and give thanks. Trust God for He knows whats best for

    us.

    By the way, when youre in business like me, you get to sign a

    lot of contracts. And contracts always refer to disasters,

    calamities and negative events and happenings as acts of

    God.

    Listen. Gods acts are for good and not for evil. So stop

    complaining and start trusting. Always remember that there are

    only two certainties in life. No. They are not death and taxes.

    The 2 certainties in life are these:

    1. That there is a God and

    2. Youre not Him.

    So put your trust in Him

    [1] By T. W. Wilson, DECISION, November 1998

    The insights and comments are fantastic! Combine all of your

    thoughts and put that into a book will equal if not surpass the

    "money" books you find in stores today. So here now is the

    start of my one-liner practical money management tips for this

    week."A small house is always better than a large mortgage."

    60FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Two men with no money, yet the one who is debt free is still

    richer than the one who owes people money.

    A latte a day takes your savings away!

    Lending people money is not good for their health. It may

    cause amnesia.

    Money is a wonderful slave but a terrible task master; never be

    enslaved to it.

    It's amazing that the Bible never says money is the root of all

    evil....it's the LOVE of money that is!

    A wise and trustworthy person is one who values his principles

    more than money.

    LOVE IS A DECISIONThis is an old one but it still is funny to me.

    Ever heard of the Seven Ages of the Married Cold?

    Heres how it operates:

    During the 1st year of marriage, everything was still so hot and

    romantic--The husband says, "Oh, sweetie pie, I'm really

    worried about those nasty sniffles you have! There's no telling

    what that could turn into with all the germs that's been going

    around. I'm going to take you right down to the hospital and

    have you admitted for a couple days of rest. I know the food is

    lousy there, so I'm going to bring you some takeout from our

    towns best Italian restaurant. I've already arranged it with the

    head nurse."

    2nd year--"Listen, honey, I don't like the sound of that cough. I

    called the doc and he's going to stop by here and take a look at

    you. Why don't you just go on to bed and get the rest you

    need?"

    3rd year--"Maybe you better go lie down, darling. When you

    feel lousy you need the rest. I'll bring you something--do we

    have any canned soup around here?"

    4th year--"No sense wearing yourself out when you're under

    the weather. When you finish those dishes and the kids' baths

    and get them to bed, you ought to go to bed yourself!

    5th year--"Why don't you take a couple aspirin?"

    61FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • 6th year--"You ought to go gargle or something, instead of

    sitting around barking like a dog!"

    7th year--"For Pete's sake, stop sneezing. Are you trying to

    give me pneumonia? You'd better pick up some tissues while

    you're at the store."

    I like Gary Smalley and the way he writes. Hes a specialist in

    the area of marriage and family. I would like to share with you

    an article he wrote entitled: Love is a Decision. Heres how

    it goes.

    If your marriage relationship doesn't have a destination, how

    will you know when you arrive? And why wait for love to

    materialize out of stardust, when you could choose excitement

    and romance - now?

    There is a simple yet profound plan for a marriage of depth and

    warmth and excitement! Plan, you ask? Exactly! Good

    marriages are no accident. The rules are simple enough; you

    just need them outlined for you to follow in a profound guide.

    Tough times can strike any family relationship. But deciding to

    love - in practical ways outlined here - can result in

    relationships that are tougher than tough times.

    Six elements to staying in love, included in Love is a Decision,

    are:

    1. Making your spouse feel truly honored

    2. Learning the art of touching - tenderly

    3. Keeping courtship alive in your marriage

    4. Re-opening a heart closed by anger

    5. Building - or rebuilding - trust in a relationship

    6. Becoming best friends with your family

    These six elements are the keys to Love. Love is not an

    emotion, love is not a feeling, love is not happen-stance. Love

    is a Decision. Love is waking up every day committed to

    honoring your mate by implementing the above six keys. If

    you want to have a great relationship, guess what, it's up to

    you.

    We see so many couples come through our live events and

    counseling sessions that want us to "fix" them. They want a

    better, more fun-filled and intimate marriage, but they don't

    know how to reach it. The most common and most

    fundamental thing these couples are lacking is the knowledge

    that love is a decision.

    If you want to wake up each and every morning excited about

    your marriage, then deciding to do this is the first step. If you

    don't know how to make this first, most basic step, then Love is

    a Decision will help you get there!

    They say that marriages are made in heaven, but God leaves

    the maintenance to men.

    Harold Green says: In the business world, everyone is paid in

    two coins: cash and experience. Take the experience first;

    62FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • the cash will come later. There is something fascinating about

    cash. A sign in a store says: In God we trust; all others must

    pay cash. Funny how cash can look so big when you take it to

    church, and so small when you take it to a store. Cash is not

    king. God is!

    It's not motivation that leads to action. Actions precedes

    motivation. You need to put in effort to take the 1st step and

    make today the best day of your life......everyday!

    A young and brilliant participant in my seminar said, "I am

    now working in my fourth company in 3 years. I always felt

    like I was no longer growing and so I would move to the next

    company. But the most important thing I have learned from

    this seminar is that growing IS my own business and

    responsibility not the company's." I am so happy she realized

    this and have no doubt she is well on her way to success.

    People who are proud and self-centered are like arithmetic;

    they add trouble, subtract pleasure, divide attention, and

    multiply ignorance. Humility is always the better choice.

    You can get ideas everywhere. Paul McCartney says: "I used to

    drive out to Johns house. He lived out in the country, and I

    lived in London. I remember asking the chauffeur once if he

    was having a good week.

    He said, I'm very busy at the moment. I've been working eight

    days a week.' And I thought, 'Eight days a week! Now there's a

    title.' " To have a great idea you need to have lots of ideas.

    Somebody says: People are strange: they want the front of the

    bus, the back of the church, and the center of attention.

    Winners know how to set their priorities right.

    My daughter Rachel taught me how to love. I know that a dog

    is a mans best friend but I never cared about them. I mean --- I

    dont hurt them, kick them or eat them but I just didnt feel like

    having them as pets. Fish, yes. Turtles, I have. But dogs?

    Let me be frank. I love to play with them but I dont like their

    pooh poohs and their peepees.

    Guess what? One day Rachel just brought home a puppy. I got

    so upset because she broke my rules. But the moment I saw

    that cute little white Japanese Spitz. I fell in love. And within

    one months time, we now have 1 Chow Chow, the Spitz and

    of course 3 Siberian Huskies.

    63FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • One morning, I walked slowly to the cage where the youngest

    of all our dogs was staying. So engrossed was I with Georgia,

    (thats the name of the youngest Huskie), I never noticed that

    there was a piece of extended GI sheet and it cut through my

    forehead.

    Blood flowed. Not too serious because no sewing was

    requiredbut an ugly cut nevertheless. And I had a whole

    week full of speaking engagements before me.

    A cut! And now a scar. It will be months before the scar go

    away. Its not that bad.

    You know what? A lot of people carry scars through out their

    lives. The scars never left them. Maybe some time in the past,

    something happened. A piece of metal or a rock shattered your

    peace. Maybe the rock hit in adolescence when your heart was

    broken. Maybe you made it into adulthood before the window

    was cracked. But then that piece of metal came.

    Was it a phone call? We have your daughter at the station.

    Youd better come down.

    Was it a letter on the kitchen table? The letter said, Ive left.

    Dont try to reach me. Dont try to call me. Its over. I just

    dont love you anymore.

    Was it a diagnosis from the doctor? Im afraid our news is not

    very good.

    Was it a letter from the government? We regret to inform you

    that your son is missing in action.

    Whatever the rock or the piece of metal that was, the result was

    the samea shattered piece and a broken heart.

    The scar on my forehead is still visible. But a lot of scars in

    peoples lives cannot be seen but its there. The pain is not

    forgotten and the healing has not taken place. And suddenly

    God was not so easy to see.

    The moment the rock struck, the metal became a reference

    point for you. From then on, there was life before the pain and

    life after the pain. Before your pain, the view was clear; God

    seemed so near. After your pain, well, he was harder to see. He

    seemed a bit distant . . . harder to perceive. Your pain distorted

    the viewnot eclipsed it, but distorted it.

    Ive got news for you. Jesus is called the Healer. But you have

    to be willing to be healed. Jesus is the Redeemer but you have

    to be willing to be forgiven. Release the pain and let there be

    clarity of eyesight. Let the vision see, nearer to God you will

    be.

    When you cant see Him, trust Him. Jesus is closer than youve

    ever dreamed. Your scars cannot be deeper than the ones He

    carried on His hands and on His side.

    C. S. Lewis says: God whispers to us in our pleasures, speaks

    in our conscience, but shouts in our pains: it is his megaphone

    to rouse a deaf world. Question is: Are you listening?

    64FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • My father taught me: there are three things I cannot pretend to

    have if I don't have it:

    1. Money

    2. Strength

    3. Wisdom

    Be real. Work hard. Exercise and learn continuously.

    A team is made up of different people. Together much is done,

    alone not much. Celebrate each persons differences. Doug

    Floyd says: "You don't get harmony when everybody sings the

    same note."

    Do not be late for meetings and appointments. Being late is

    stealing other people's time. Showing up early is a sign of true

    professionalism.

    65FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Francis J. Kong is:

    President of Success Options Publishing Company

    President of FunWorks Inc. a member of the Canadian based Mad Science International Group, the worlds number

    one (1) Science educational-entertainment program provider

    for kids.

    Founding member and Director of Inspire Leadership Consultancy

    Francis has extensive work experiences in manufacturing and

    retail as he help founded a popular clothing company and ran a

    retail chain for many years.

    You can hear him in his daily Radio Program Business

    Matters which was given a Year 2007 special citation by the

    Catholic Mass Media Awards.

    You can read him through his Saturday and Sunday column of

    the Business Page of the Philippine Star.

    You can see him as he regularly guests every Monday and

    Thursday morning at the popular morning show Umagang Kay

    Ganda.

    He has been featured in many of the major business

    conventions and conferences both here and abroad.

    Francis is co-recipient of the Anvil Award for Excellence for the staging of the Dr. John Maxwell Leadership Seminar

    Series.

    Recipient of the Year 2006 Gold Quill Philippines Award of merit for Public Speech category sponsored by The

    International Association of Business Communicators.

    Recipient of 2008 Dr. Jose Rizal Award for Excellence in the field of Journalism.

    Francis has been trained and licensed by Maximum Impact of

    Atlanta Georgia to do the Maxwell leadership programs. He is

    also Trained and licensed by The Ziglar Corporation in London

    to do the Ziglar Sales and Presentation programs.

    66FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • He is an author of 14 books:

    His book One Day at a Time has been given a most favorable review by Channel NewsAsia of Singapore.

    His book The Early Bird Catches the Worm: is now translated into the Korean language.

    Francis is married to the former Lilia Nolasco and has three

    children: Bryan 30, Hannah 26 and Rachel 21.

    For more inspiring words from Francis J. Kong, please visit his

    personal blog at http://www.franciskong.com.

    67FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • INSPIRING EXCELLENCEFRANCISKONG.COM

    JUNE 2012

  • A compilation of post from the personal blog of Francis J.

    Kong for the month of June, 2012.

    This eBook and its content is copyright of Francis J. Kong -

    Francis J. Kong, 2012. All rights reserved.

    Any redistribution or reproduction of part or all of the contents

    in any form is prohibited other than the following:

    you may print or download to a local hard disk extracts for your personal and non-commercial use only

    you may copy the content to individual third parties for their personal use, but only if you acknowledge the website as the

    source of the material

    You may not, except with our express written permission,

    distribute or commercially exploit the content. Nor may you

    transmit it or store it in any other website or other form of

    electronic retrieval system.

    This eBook was created and compiled by One Awesome Social

    Media Company Inc.

    69FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • The key to effective time management is the management of

    self. Understanding ones priority, values and worth is

    extremely important.

    There was a couple who used to go to England to shop in the

    beautiful stores. They both liked antiques and pottery and

    specially teacups. This was their twenty-fifth wedding

    anniversary. One day in this beautiful shop they saw a beautiful

    teacup. They said, May we see that? Weve never seen one

    quite so beautiful. As the lady handed it to them, suddenly the

    teacup spoke. You dont understand, it said. I havent

    always been a teacup.

    There was a time when I was red and I was clay. My master

    took me and rolled me and patted me over and over and I

    yelled out, let me alone, but he only smiled, Not yet.

    Then I was placed on a spinning wheel, the teacup said, and

    suddenly I was spun around and around and around. Stop it!

    Im getting dizzy! I screamed. But the master only nodded

    and said, Not yet.

    Then he put me in the oven. I never felt such heat. I wondered

    why He wanted to burn me, and I yelled and knocked at the

    door. I could See him through the opening and I could read his

    lips as he shook his head Not yet.

    Finally the door opened, he put me on the shelf, and I began to

    cool. There, thats better, I said. And he brushed and painted

    me all over. The fumes were horrible. I thought I would gag.

    Stop it, stop it! I cried.

    He only nodded, Not yet.

    Then suddenly he put me back into the oven, not like the first

    one. This was twice as hot and I knew I would suffocate. I

    begged. I pleaded. I screamed. I cried. All the time I could

    see him through the opening nodding his head saying, Not

    yet.

    Then I knew there wasnt any hope. I would never make it. I

    was ready to give up. But the door opened and he took me out

    and placed me on the shelf. One hour later he handed me a

    mirror and said, Look at yourself. And I did. I said, Thats

    not me; that couldnt be me.

    Its beautiful. Im beautiful. I want you to remember, then,

    he said, I know it hurts to be rolled and patted, but if I had left

    you alone, youd have dried up. I know it made you dizzy to

    spin around on the wheel, but if I had stopped, you would have

    crumbled.

    I knew it hurt and was hot and disagreeable in the oven, but if I

    hadnt put you there, you would have cracked. I know the

    fumes were bad when I brushed and painted you all over, but if

    I had done that, you never would have hardened; you would

    not have had any color in your life.

    70FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • And if I hadnt put you back in that second oven, you wouldnt

    survive for very long because the hardness would not have

    held. Now you are a finished product. You are what I had in

    mind when first began with you.

    I guess by now you already know what the story is all about.

    Pains, trials, difficulties in life. A non-stop, continuous action-

    packed adventure. Thats what life is and the blows, well, they

    keep coming. Guess whats happening? The Master is putting

    us His clay into the oven in order to break us, mold us and

    form us into His image.

    God knows what Hes doing (for all of us). He is the Potter,

    and we are His clay.

    He will mold us and make us, so that we may be made into a

    flawless piece of work to fulfill His good, pleasing, and perfect

    will.

    Think about it. Our every area of strength comes from our past

    oven-experience. This is why were strong today and that

    strength, is used to help others and bring glory to His name.

    Helen Keller says I thank God for my handicaps, for through

    them, I have found myself, my work and my God. Warren

    Wiersbe noted that when God permits his children to go

    through the furnace, he keeps his eye on the clock and his hand

    on the thermostat. As for me the best thing to do is to

    remember that I am but clay. But what a privilege it is to have

    Christ as my Master. So let the molding continue until the day

    He completes the work He has begun in me.

    Those whose hearts are following God will always be

    challenged by those who are not. How true it is that you will

    know a man not only by his friends but by his enemies.

    How is your hope level this week?

    Wise men say: The secret of motivation is hope. You dont

    have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great.

    Love your enemies. This is not only a biblical principle we

    need to apply but this is effective because it will drive your

    enemies crazy!

    We need to send our emotions to school. Feelings need

    education and should be subservient to the will. Emotions will

    either serve us and without education emotions will shame us.

    Successful people master their moods and emotions well.

    71FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • People will pay more to be entertained than educated. Great

    people talk about ideas. Average people talk about events.

    Small people talk about people.

    To the wise money is a wonderful tool. To the greedy money is

    a lethal drug. To the givers money is a blessing. To the takers

    money is their master.

    Love your enemies. This is not only a biblical principle we

    need to apply but this is effective because it will drive your

    enemies crazy!

    We need to send our emotions to school. Feelings need

    education and should be subservient to the will. Emotions will

    either serve us and without education emotions will shame us.

    Successful people master their moods and emotions well.

    We need to send our emotions to school. Feelings need

    education and should be subservient to the will. Emotions will

    either serve us and without education emotions will shame us.

    Successful people master their moods and emotions well.

    Look at how the cycle of fatherhood works:

    At 4 years of age: My Daddy can do anything.

    7 years: My Dad knows a lot, a whole lot.

    12 years: Oh, well naturally Father doesnt know that

    either.

    14 years: Father? Hopelessly old-fashioned.

    21 years: Oh, that man is so out-of-date. What did you

    expect?

    25 years: He knows a little bit about it but not much.

    30 years: Maybe we ought to find out what Dad thinks.

    35 years: Lets ask Dad what he would do before we make a

    decision.

    40 years: I wonder what Dad would have thought about that?

    He was pretty smart.

    50 years: My Dad knew absolutely everything.

    60 years: Id give anything if Dad were here so I could talk

    this over with him. I really miss that man.

    Now thats life isnt it?

    My kids are grown up. Its heartening to know that the more

    they mature the more Fathers Day mean a lot to them.

    72FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • It took me this long to realize that I never knew what was

    going in their hearts when they were younger.

    When they were youngerI felt bad when they forget my

    birthdays.

    When they were youngerI felt bad when they did not even

    greet me Happy Fathers Day!

    When they were youngerI felt bad when they rushed out of

    the house to be with their friends on Christmas eve.

    When they were youngerI felt bad when they seem to be

    spending more time with their friends than with their folks.

    But now that Im a little older and a little wiser I realize

    theyre all part of the stages of life.

    My kids never forget my birthday this time.

    My kids make sure they stay home with us on Christmas eve.

    My kids surprise me with a little something on Fathers Day.

    Fathers Day to me now is both a joy and a worry as my kids

    are growing up. I am always afraid they are going to give me a

    present that I couldnt afford.

    I love my kids and they are all growing up very well indeed.

    My son and I wrote a book on Paren-Teen entitled: Why

    dont you grow updad!

    Not only is it a funny book but in it he expressed his love and

    his sentiments being a son.

    Ive accomplished many things in life though I would love to

    accomplish a lot more.

    I have had people given me standing ovations and glowing

    evaluations to my seminars and speeches and I feel very much

    fulfilled in what I am doing.

    God has blessed me over the years and He has occupied me

    with gladness of heart.

    Similarly I have gone through tremendous challenges in life

    both in the business fields as well as in the personal areas too.

    I have had business partners who cheated meI have had

    friends who betrayed meI have had people I respect for so

    long. lied, condemned and deceive me. And thats all right.

    All part of lifes different stages but the bottom line is that

    when I hit home, my wife and my kids are all there for me and

    then nothing else matters any more.

    73FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • God is number One in my life. Next to Him is my wife and the

    people who come next are my kids. My businesses and career

    follow.

    This is the order or my lifes priorities.

    Fathers Day is not just receiving gifts from my wife and kids.

    They already are.

    Family happiness is homemade.

    This is why I am home most of the time.

    It is important to be humble in victory and to be gracious in

    defeat. Pacman shows both. In my book, he won!

    Do not allow yesterday to use up too much of today. Its a

    brand new week. No one can move forward with eyes fixed on

    the rear view mirror. Have a Great Day and a Great Week!

    There is a diminishing returns on happiness based on money

    and things. Only in God is there a continuous joy.

    Do not expect God to one day say, Well done, youve left so

    many things behind.

    Edward B. Butler says: One man has enthusiasm for 30

    minutes, another for 30 days, but it is the man who has it for 30

    years who makes a success of his life. Faithfulness is the key

    to long term sustainable success.

    What you acquire by reaching your destination isnt as

    important as what you become by reaching your destination.

    There are many who have reached their goals but in the

    process has destroyed their character. This is not success. This

    is a great loss! We need to work on our character every day of

    our lives.

    Many are called but few actually return the message

    Always be courteous. Return calls. Do not be late for

    appointments. Deliver on your promises and be an inspiration

    to others.

    74FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • If you want to go to bed tonight with satisfaction for a day well

    spent, you need to wake up early this morning with the

    determination to do so. Determination precedes satisfaction.

    Popular author and motivator Zig Ziglar tells us a story.

    Many people set low ceilings on their expectations and

    capabilities. In the process, they place themselves in a box.

    Alexander Whortley took that a step further and literally lived

    in a box. It was a mini-trailer, three feet wide, four feet long,

    and five feet high. He lived there until he died at the age of 80.

    His box was made of wood, had a metal roof, and it housed

    him and all his meager belongings. Regardless of where he

    worked, Whortley chose to spend his life in that cramped

    space, even though larger, more comfortable quarters were

    always available.

    Few of us live in a box. However, too many of us have a

    tendency to box ourselves in and continue to do things one

    way because weve always done it this way. In many cases,

    time and experience have proven that this way is the best

    way. However, I challenge you to periodically take a long walk

    or quietly sit and think about the way you do things. Ask

    yourself if there might not be a better way. Could your

    procedures be simplified? Are they necessary at all? Could

    they be done more cheaply or efficiently? Could your product

    be longer?

    Shorter? A different shape? Another fabric? Another color?

    Sometimes you can come up with simple ideas that make a big

    difference. Incidentally, one advantage of a continual personal-

    growth-and-education way of life is that the broader and

    deeper your knowledge base, the more creative your problem

    solving approach to life.

    Simple example: For years mens coats had an inside pocket

    only on the right where pens and other items were kept. One

    day somebody had a thought: Since most men are right-

    handed, why not put a pocket on the inside left so that they can

    reach in, extract the pen with their right hand, and begin

    writing? Not monumental, but it saves a second or two and its

    sold lots of suits.

    Thats thinking out of the box.[1]

    Famous playwright George Bernard Shaw says: Imagination

    is the beginning of creation. You imagine what you desire, you

    will what you imagine and at last you create what you will.

    Some people wait for that flash of inspiration but it never

    comes.

    The thing is to get you to start doing something and then the

    inspiration does come.

    75FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • People who think out of the box are usually people with

    multiple interests.

    They love music, they love arts, theyre into sports, they adore

    literature, they study history, they travel and they dont confine

    themselves into one solitary thing.

    Prominent professor and psychologist Frank Barron says: The

    creative person is both more primitive and more cultivated,

    more destructive and more constructive, a lot madder and a lot

    saner, than the average person.

    And before you start thinking of somebody you know in the

    office realize that the person is the one that stares right back at

    you from the mirror.

    You can think out of the box. You can be creative.

    Learn a second language, take up a new craft.

    Enroll in cooking lessons, go and join a skydiving club, go out

    there and enjoy life and pretty soon you will discover that

    youre adding strength and resource to your creativity.

    You know what makes us different from animals?

    We are created in the image and likeness of God and God is the

    Creator.

    This is why He has gifted us with creativity too so that we can

    enjoy this wonderful gift of His, this thing called life.

    Enjoy it and live it to the fullest.

    [1] Adapted from Zigs book, SOMETHING ELSE TO SMILE

    ABOUT, published by Thomas Nelson. Zig Ziglar On Getting

    Out of the Box

    A persons values are revealed more by the questions asked

    than the answers given.

    When your loved ones call to report an accident and your

    immediate question is: Is the car damaged badly? or Are

    you all right? tells a lot about what you value.

    Be sure you are asking the right questions but more

    importantly, be doubly sure that you have the right godly

    values in your system.

    An amateur is a person who is always giving you the benefit of

    his inexperience. A professional asks questions before airing

    out an opinion. An amateur cites clichs and thinks he or she is

    being wise. A professional evaluates, probes and studies before

    offering advice. We all start as amateurs but we need to learn

    and work our way up to being professionals. Make everyday a

    learning day.

    76FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • There are many business owners who do not value their

    peoples opinions. They just want them to be honest but to act

    stupid or to be stupid. These are owners whose business will

    never last.

    Best to have honest cut creative people who are fired up with

    energy. Even business owners need to learn how to lead.

    I must do something will always solve more problems than

    Something must be done. I have interviewed CEOs and

    business owners. Integrity is a given.

    But the most sought quality they are looking for is initiative.

    Do not wait to be told what to do. Make things happen. Go and

    do it.

    Chris Widener has a very interesting thing to tell. In his weekly

    e-magazine he entitles this: Stop Just Writing About Your Past

    and Start Writing Your Future!

    Listen to Chris:

    Dwight D. Eisenhower says: The history of free men is never

    written by chance, but by choice their choice.

    Many people spend a lot of time on their history. Some do it

    purposefully with such hobbies as journaling, while others

    simply write and rewrite their history over and over in their

    minds. Depending upon the way you go about this, this can be

    good or bad. If you are doing it so you can reflect back on your

    life, thats good.

    If you are doing it so you can learn from your past, thats good

    too. Unfortunately, many people do it simply as a subconscious

    act of running themselves into the ground over and over.

    What you write in your mind is an act of mental discipline,

    just as what you write on a sheet of paper is a discipline. Keep

    that in mind. So if this is true, that we can make a choice as to

    what we want to write, both literally and figuratively, we have

    an extraordinary opportunity! Instead of going over and over

    our past, we can choose to write our future!

    Have you ever thought about writing your future before it even

    happens to you? Well now you can and you will! Here is a

    process that will let you determine and write your own future!

    Choose to choose your own future. If you dont make the

    decision to accept responsibility for your own future, then you

    are choosing to not write your future. You must choose to

    choose. Do you?

    77FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Determine what you want your future to be. Be specific.

    What do you want to earn?

    Where do you want to live?

    What do you want to weigh?

    What do you want to do for a living?

    What do you want to do in your leisure time?

    How much do you want to retire on?

    If you dont know the answers to these questions then you may

    as well not even begin to write your future. Take some time to

    answer them fully.

    Get a good understanding of your strengths and weaknesses. If

    you are going to write your future, you will have to have a

    sober understanding of what you are good at and what you are

    not particularly good at. Maybe ask a good friend or your

    spouse to give you an honest appraisal of your strengths and

    weaknesses.

    Focus on playing to your strengths while ever improving your

    weaknesses.

    Be sure that what you are doing is utilizing your strengths to

    their fullest.

    And you dont want to forget your weaknesses, even while you

    are trying to stay away from them. Instead, set smaller goals

    for improvement in your areas of weakness while you set grand

    goals for the areas you are strongest in!

    Get out a three pieces of paper.

    On the top of one, write, One year from today I will

    On the next write, Three years from today I will

    On the last write, Ten years from today I will

    Then begin to fill them out.

    Make commitments to yourself. As you write them, end each

    sentence with a transition to how you are going to do it. For

    example, you may write, One year from today I will Have

    $4800 in my saving account by saving $400 per month.

    Start putting only information into your mind that will benefit

    the fulfillment of the kind of life you are writing about. For

    example, if you have a hard time spending money rather than

    saving it, you should probably cancel all of the catalogues that

    come each day that entice you to spend. Instead, spend the time

    you would have spent thumbing through catalogues going

    through financial growth material instead.

    78FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Discipline yourself to spend your time in a manner that will

    help you get to your goals. For example, cut out five hours of

    television a week and spend that time on your goals instead.

    That would be a difference of 260 hours in the next year!

    Wow! What could you do with another 260 hours? Almost

    anything!

    You do not have to be a paper cup blowing to and fro in the

    wind! You do not have to live at the whims of other people or

    circumstances. You CAN choose your future! You can write it

    out just the way you want it to happen! Yes, ups and downs

    will come but you will outlast them and eventually arrive at

    your destiny. Then, when you get to the end of your life, you

    will know how it all turns out because you will have been the

    author! Get going write your future!

    Nice advice from Chris but I think he forgot the most

    important one.

    Love God and put your faith in Christ.

    Believe me when you are His child, your name is already

    written in the Book of Life and thats the best plan for your

    future that could ever have been written.

    Hard work spotlights the character of people: some turn up

    their sleeves, some turn up their noses, and some dont turn up

    at all. Says Sam Ewig

    Reflect on the duties you have been avoiding today. Face them

    this week and work on it. You will be happy you did.

    A patient limped into the doctors clinic. The doctor gave the

    patient a large pill. As the nurse asked him questions, the

    patient limped over to the sink and swallowed the pill. Then

    the doctor returned with a bucket and said, Now drop the pill

    in the bucket and well soak your foot.

    Always wait for instruction or you just may put your foot into

    your mouth

    When an opportunity arises, we need to pray: Lord, let me

    focus on the good that will be done and not on the gold that

    would be gained. The heart of the issue is always the issue of

    the heart.

    The three hardest words to say are, I was mistaken. Only

    people with class are comfortable saying it. Those who pretend

    to be perfect make themselves objects of ridicule. He who

    humbles himself will be exalted but he who exalts himself will

    be humbled.

    79FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Have you ever met leaders who are gentle and caring? They

    inspire me all the time. Only the strongest of men are gentle.

    The brash and the rude use their insolence as a cover for their

    insecurities. Be wise as a serpent but gentle as a dove.

    Leadership is not a title. And neither is it an entitlement.

    Leadership is not a right. Therefore it is a responsibility. Some

    bosses behave more like jerks who oppress rather than inspire.

    These people without skills and they need some serious

    training.

    We all make mistakes. When looking for faults, use a mirror

    not a telescope. Correct the mistakes, learn from it and strive to

    do better. This is where we convert mistakes into lessons and

    weaknesses into strength.

    The three hardest words to say are, I was mistaken. Only

    people with class are comfortable saying it. Those who pretend

    to be perfect make themselves objects of ridicule. He who

    humbles himself will be exalted but he who exalts himself will

    be humbled.

    A friend forwarded me an article that is so interesting I want to

    share it with you.

    The title of the article is this. Are you a carrot, an egg or

    coffee?

    A daughter complained to her father about her life and how

    things were so hard for her. She said, Father, I do not know

    how I am going to make it. I just feel like giving up. Im tired

    of fighting and struggling.

    It seems as though every time one of my problems is solved, a

    new one comes along. I just cant take it anymore.

    Her father took her to the kitchen. He filled three pots with

    water and placed them each on high heat. Soon the pots came

    to a boil. In one pot of boiling water, he placed carrots. In the

    second, he placed eggs, and in the last pot, he placed coffee

    beans. He let them sit and boil, without saying a word.

    The daughter impatiently waited, wondering what he was

    doing.

    Twenty minutes later, he turned off the burners. He strained the

    water from the carrots and placed them in a bowl. He lifted the

    eggs out and placed them in another bowl.

    80FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Then he ladled the steaming coffee into a bowl.

    Turning to her he asked, What do you see? Carrots, eggs,

    and coffee, she replied. He brought her closer and asked her

    to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft and

    mushy. He then asked her to take an egg and break it. After

    pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally,

    he asked her to sip the coffee. She smiled as she tasted its

    flavor and smelled the rich aroma.

    She humbly asked, But what does it mean, Father? He

    explained that each of them had been plunged into boiling

    water, but each had reacted differently. The carrot went into

    the water strong and hard but after being subjected to the

    boiling water, it softened and became weak.

    The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its

    soft, liquid interior. But after sitting in the boiling water, it

    became hard on the inside.

    The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they

    were in the boiling water, the water did not really change

    them. They changed the water!

    Which are you? the father gently asked his daughter.

    When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond?

    Are you more like a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?

    When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond?

    Are you more like a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?

    How about you? Are you the carrot that started out strong and

    hard long ago, but with the pain and adversity of your life

    struggles, did you become soft and lose your strength? Are

    you the egg that started out soft inside? Were you a fluid spirit,

    but after the pain of death, abuse, rejection, poor health,

    divorce, or a layoff, have you become hardened? Your outer

    shell might look the same, but have you become hard-boiled

    and toughened in your spirit and your heart?

    Or are you like the coffee bean? The bean that was plunged

    into the rapidly boiling water actually changed the hot water

    and gave it flavor and aroma, reaching its peak flavor at 212

    degrees Fahrenheit! THAT IS HOT WATER!

    When people say bad things about you, do your praises to the

    Lord continue or do you blame Him? When the hour is the

    darkest and your trials are their greatest, does your worship

    elevate to a higher level or do you desert Him?

    When you feel burdened by your own troubles, do you still

    reach out and help others? How do you handle adversity? Are

    you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean? When you get plunged

    into hot water, anything that is bringing you pain, like being

    plunged into the adversities of life, be like the coffee bean.

    When things are at their worst, you will get stronger and make

    things better around you, and you will always leave a

    fragrance.

    ------------

    You know what? The article is so nice I dont want to add

    anything to it anymore.

    81FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Francis J. Kong is:

    President of Success Options Publishing Company

    President of FunWorks Inc. a member of the Canadian based Mad Science International Group, the worlds number

    one (1) Science educational-entertainment program provider

    for kids.

    Founding member and Director of Inspire Leadership Consultancy

    Francis has extensive work experiences in manufacturing and

    retail as he help founded a popular clothing company and ran a

    retail chain for many years.

    You can hear him in his daily Radio Program Business

    Matters which was given a Year 2007 special citation by the

    Catholic Mass Media Awards.

    You can read him through his Saturday and Sunday column of

    the Business Page of the Philippine Star.

    You can see him as he regularly guests every Thursday

    morning at the popular morning show Umagang Kay Ganda.

    He has been featured in many of the major business

    conventions and conferences both here and abroad.

    Francis is co-recipient of the Anvil Award for Excellence for the staging of the Dr. John Maxwell Leadership Seminar

    Series.

    Recipient of the Year 2006 Gold Quill Philippines Award of merit for Public Speech category sponsored by The

    International Association of Business Communicators.

    Recipient of 2008 Dr. Jose Rizal Award for Excellence in the field of Journalism.

    Francis has been trained and licensed by Maximum Impact of

    Atlanta Georgia to do the Maxwell leadership programs. He is

    also Trained and licensed by The Ziglar Corporation in London

    to do the Ziglar Sales and Presentation programs.

    82FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • He is an author of 14 books:

    His book One Day at a Time has been given a most favorable review by Channel NewsAsia of Singapore.

    His book The Early Bird Catches the Worm: is now translated into the Korean language.

    Francis is married to the former Lilia Nolasco and has three

    children:

    Bryan 26, Hannah 22 and Rachel 17.

    For more inspiring words from Francis J. Kong, please visit his

    personal blog at http://www.franciskong.com.

    83FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • INSPIRING EXCELLENCEFRANCISKONG.COM

    JULY 2012

  • A compilation of post from the personal blog of

    F r a n c i s J. K o n gfor the month of July, 2012.

    This eBook and its content is copyright of Francis J. Kong -

    Francis J. Kong, 2012. All rights reserved.

    Any redistribution or reproduction of part or all of the contents

    in any form is prohibited other than the following:

    you may print or download to a local hard disk extracts for your personal and non-commercial use only

    you may copy the content to individual third parties for their personal use, but only if you acknowledge the website as the

    source of the material

    You may not, except with our express written permission,

    distribute or commercially exploit the content. Nor may you

    transmit it or store it in any other website or other form of

    electronic retrieval system.

    This eBook was created and compiled by

    One Awesome Social Media Company Inc.

    www.oneawesomecompany.com

    85FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • There are 3 questions we would not want to ask one day:

    What happened? How did I get here? What was I

    thinking?

    Life is a summary of the choices we make from day to day.

    Make sure you make the right choices every day.

    Approach any project or promotions not from the point of

    having selfish gain, but from the point of serving good.

    This is why I am so excited to do my monthly two-day

    leadership seminar workshop and excited to meet the many

    who have enrolled. This will be physically tiring but with

    certainty would be extremely fulfilling.

    You can do much by helping people feel better about

    themselves. Realize that everyone listens to the same radio

    station almost all the time. The call letters of this station are:

    MMFG-AM and this stands for: Make Me Feel Good About

    Myself.

    Encourage someone today!

    Progress has less to do with speed and more to do with

    direction. Do not be impatient. Many wrong life decisions are

    made simply because one could not wait. As long as you are in

    the right direction, be patient, be diligent, be excellent and

    enjoy the scenery along the way.

    It has been said that every man until today is still trying to live

    up to his fathers expectations or still correcting his fathers

    mistakes.

    I need to be a good father and take my parenting role seriously.

    Having successful children producing successful homes is top

    priority in my life agenda.

    Hes a character isnt he?

    I hear that expression all the time.

    Its usually used to describe somebody who seems to act, talk

    or behave in a peculiar way.

    But if we go right down to the issue what is character really?

    A Greek proverb says: Character is habit long continued.

    86FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Listen to what motivator Jim Rohn has to say.

    Could creating your character be likened to an artist creating a

    sculpture? In my opinion, I believe that character is not

    something that just happens by itself, any more than a chisel

    can create a work of art without the hand of an artist guiding it.

    In both instances, a conscious decision for a specific outcome

    has been made. A conscious process is at work. Character is

    the result of hundreds and hundreds of choices you make that

    gradually turn who you are, at any given moment, into who

    you want to be. If that decision-making process is not present,

    you will still be somebody. You will still be alive, but may

    have a personality rather than a character.

    Character is not something you were born with and cant

    change like your fingerprint. In fact, because you werent born

    with it, it is something that you must take responsibility for

    creating. I dont believe that adversity by itself builds

    character and I certainly dont think that success erodes it.

    Character is built by how you respond to what happens in your

    life. Whether its winning every game or losing every game.

    Getting rich or dealing with hard times.

    You build character out of certain qualities that you must create

    and diligently nurture within yourself.

    Just like you would plant and water a seed or gather wood and

    build a campfire. Youve got to look for those things in your

    heart and in your gut. Youve got to chisel away in order to

    find them. Just like chiseling away the rock in order to create

    the sculpture that has previously existed only in your

    imagination.

    But do you want to know the really amazing thing about

    character? If you are sincerely committed to making yourself

    into the person you want to be, youll not only create those

    qualities, but youll continually strengthen them. And you will

    recreate them in abundance even as you are drawing on them

    every day of your life. Just like the burning bush in the

    biblical book of Exodus, the bush burned but the flames did not

    consume it. Character sustains itself and nurtures itself even as

    it is being put to work, tested, and challenged. And once

    character is formed, it will serve as a solid, lasting foundation

    upon which to build the life you desire.

    Right to the point. Jim Rohn always has a way of doing that.

    Every single day offers choices we make that either makes or

    breaks our character. For after all, our lives is simply a

    summary of the choices we make from day to day.

    In one of the seminars I gave, somebody stood up to ask me

    this question: How would I know whether the decision I make

    is right or wrong?

    My answer is this. We all need a reference point wherein we

    base our moral choices on. Im a Bible kind of guy. I make my

    decision based on what the Good Book says. And indeed its

    87FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • like sculpture. Chiseling away the useless parts and building

    those that are useful.

    Character is defined by what youre willing to do when the

    spotlight has been turned off when the applause has died down,

    and no one is around to give you credit.

    Never forget.

    It is possible that through ability we may get to the top, but it

    is always character that would keep us there.

    It has been said that A man should be mourned at his birth,

    not at his death. But how could we not mourn when we suffer

    a loss?

    Today this country suffers the loss of a person I highly respect;

    entrepreneur, educator and family friend Brendan Yu. But his

    influence, his inspiration and the lives he has touched lives on

    and multiply.

    I have made a great discovery! I have discovered who the real

    rich people are.These are the people who enjoy their

    families, enjoy their work, enjoy their food and enjoy their day.

    Be rich today and everyday of your life.

    KEEP ON MOVINGI have stumbled into a lot of good ideas for business and I

    realize one thing: That I can only stumble on ideas if I keep on

    moving. Mistakes are inevitable but they open up

    opportunities. Those who stay still do not make mistakes but

    they dont win either! So keep moving.

    DESPERATIONDesperation makes fools out of wise people. Desperation

    makes people do unethical things. We need to go through the

    process of dong only that which is right. God is more

    concerned with our character than our short-term success.

    WHAT IS A COMPROMISE?Compromise is best defined as finding good reasons to do

    wrong things.

    If the heart is not settled on God then it will certainly settle on

    something or someone else. God should be our dwelling place.

    BEST BUSINESS ADVICEThe celebrated business leader of the recent past says:

    No matter what youve done for yourself or for humanity, if

    you cant look back on having given love and attention to your

    own family, what have you really accomplished? In my

    book this is one of the best business advice he has given.

    88FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • BETWEEN THE SIMPLE AND

    THE COMPLEXThe mark of an intelligent person is his ability to simplify the

    complicated and the mark of stupidity is the one who

    complicates the simple.

    Life is simple. Love God love others.

    LOVE WHAT YOU DOBob Dylan says: A man is a success if he gets up in the

    morning and gets to bed at night, and in between he does what

    he wants to do.

    Do you love what you do or do you only do what you love?

    Success is not only about doing what you love but learning to

    love what you do.

    POWER AND POWERFULDo something good with your power, dont just be good at

    being powerful.

    Leaders guide their people to do what is right and not what is

    wrong. Everything rises and falls on leadership. says John

    Maxwell and he is so right.

    INTERRUPTIONSLife is a test in patience. And your patience will be tested in

    four different ways. The first one is INTERRUPTIONS.

    God usually sends us interruptions to develop our patience.

    A PIANISTS PATIENCEThe great pianist and composer, Ignacy Paderewski, was once

    asked by an admirer how he had reached such a state of

    perfection in his field. It must have involved a lot of patience,

    the admirer remarked. Everyone has patience, said

    Paderewski. I learned to use mine.

    WHAT IS A CRISIS?What is a crisis?

    A crisis is simply something, someone or some event that

    comes in between you and your goals unexpectedly. Thats all

    it is.

    Your patience will be tested by INTERRUPTIONS, your

    patience will also be tested by INCONVENIENCES.

    NO LONE RANGERSmall dreams are reached alone. Great dreams require others.

    You cannot succeed alone no matter how talented or skillful

    you are.

    THE STATIONHere is an old article written by Robert J. Hastings. The title is

    The Station. I love it as it is filled with wisdom, I hope this

    material will bless your heart as it blessed mine.

    The Station

    Tucked away in our subconscious minds is an idyllic vision in

    89FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • which we see ourselves on a long journey that spans an entire

    continent.

    Were traveling by train and, from the windows, we drink in

    the passing scenes of cars on nearby highways, of children

    waving at crossings, of cattle grazing in distant pastures, of

    smoke pouring from power plants, of row upon row of cotton

    and corn and wheat, of flatlands and valleys, or city skylines

    and village halls.

    But uppermost in our minds is our final destinationfor at a

    certain hour and on a given day, our train will finally pull into

    the station with bells ringing, flags waving, and bands playing.

    And once that day comes, so many wonderful dreams will

    come true. So restlessly, we pace the aisles and count the

    miles, peering ahead, waiting, waiting, waiting for the station.

    Yes, when we reach the station, that will be it! we promise

    ourselves.

    When were eighteen. . . win that promotion. . . put the last

    kid through college. . . buy that 500 SL Mercedes Benz. . . pay

    off the mortgage. . . have a nest egg for retirement.

    From that day on we will all live happily ever after. Sooner or

    later, however, we must realize there is no station in this life,

    no one earthly place to arrive > at once and for all.

    The journey is the joy.

    The station is an illusionit constantly outdistances us.

    Yesterdays a memory, tomorrows a dream.

    Yesterday belongs to a history, tomorrow belongs to God.

    Yesterdays a fading sunset, tomorrows a faint sunrise.

    Only today is there light enough to love and live.

    So, gently close the door on yesterday and throw the key away.

    It isnt the burdens of today that drive men mad, but rather the

    regret over yesterday and the fear of tomorrow.

    Relish the moment is a good motto, especially when coupled

    with Psalm 118:24, This is the day which the Lord hath made;

    we will rejoice and be glad in it.

    So stop pacing the aisles and counting the miles. Instead, swim

    more rivers, climb more mountains, kiss more babies, count

    more stars. Laugh more and cry less. Go barefoot oftener. Eat

    more ice cream. Ride more merry-go-rounds. Watch more

    sunsets. Life must be lived as we go along.[1]

    Hastings is right. Life must be lived as we go along. Need I say

    more?

    [1] Robert J. Hastings

    THE PASTFor the lost sinner, the past is a heavy anchor that drags him

    down; but for the child of God, the pasteven with its sins and

    mistakesis a rudder that guides him forward. Faith makes the

    difference.

    AUTOMATIC RESPONSESImpatience comes from our automatic responses. Develop a

    new way to look at things. This grows our patience.

    90FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • LIVING AND LAUGHINGThose who cant laugh at themselves leave the job to others.

    Learn to learn from life and to laugh as you live. The best way

    to cheer yourself up is to cheer somebody else up. This makes

    us more patient.

    WHOS IN CONTROL?I am the master of my fate and the captain of my soul. Says

    Invictus.

    I did it my way. Croons Sinatra and we know we fail. Try to

    release our insistence to control and leave it to God who

    controls everything. This develops patience.

    LEARN FROM OYSTERAn irritation inside the oyster produces a pretty pearl.

    Irritations in life can produce strength and patience.

    Do not let trials pull you down. Allow trials to strengthen you.

    Stand on what is right. Do what is right not what is convenient.

    FACE THE FEARTo get rid of fear, you need to act on the issue. When you

    wait, put off or postpone you simply increase fear.

    Be positive. Develop a positive mindset and disposition.

    The French writer Robert Mallet said, Many pessimists end

    up by desiring the things they fear, in order to prove that they

    are right.

    INVESTMENTSA person who does not invest will never amount to anything.

    Before you profit, you should first invest.

    There is no short cut to success.

    Short term gains equals long term pains.

    Start investing in yourself today.

    ANESTHESIAJames Simpson, a young Scottish lad was born in 1811.

    He was the 7th child of a Scottish family. Even as a young boy

    the entire family saw that young James was a genius. And so

    the 6 other brothers and sisters together with the father who

    was a baker running in bankruptcy pooled all of their resources

    together and supported James in his studies.

    At the age of 14 he graduated from the University of

    Edinburough.

    At the age of 16 he got his degree in medicine.

    At the age of 18 he had his MRCS.

    At the age of 28 he became a professor.

    This young man could not forget an incident in his life.

    He says that when he walked into his first medical classroom

    he saw a surgery in operation.

    A woman found herself in a situation wherein one of her limbs

    had to be amputated.

    And James said what happened in that room is something that

    he would never get out of his mind that day.

    91FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • James saw that the limb was sawed and severed from its body

    and there was no anesthetic. Nothing there to help alleviate her

    pain. As this young woman screamed in unbridled hysteria, he

    just stood there literally swallowing his own spit out of fear

    because he realized he was seeing such an agony he has seen

    for years as he gave his life to the medical practice.

    But as he looked he built up one thing in his mind.

    He was determined.

    He determined that he will do something or he will make

    something that would help alleviate the pain during surgery.

    One day he discovered chloroform.

    And he administered it for the first time.

    And the woman who gave birth, having been administered

    James Simpsons anesthetic, felt so grateful and so elated she

    actually called her daughter, Anesthesia.

    Victory for Simpson?

    Yes. But as you look into his story further you would realize

    some more important events that happened to his life.

    A little boy of his got sick. And despite his medical knowledge

    there simply was no way for him to cure his son and he lost

    him.

    His closest medical colleague a Dr. Liston died rather

    suddenly.

    Things like these began to break him and James began his

    search.

    And in his search he found Christ.

    And then his questions were all answered.

    The principle is so clear.

    Where there is pain you would find people searching for but

    where there is prosperity, you would find people clenching

    their fists at God.

    Brokenness has its use in Gods economy.

    And maybe this is the reason why there are people who mock

    God, clench their fists at Him and denounce everything that is

    associated with Him. Because there is no brokenness and

    because there is no need.

    But the same person who refuses Christ is inflicted with a life

    threatening disease, the hardened heart humbled and softened

    would begin to seek Him. And I have seen this happen time

    and time again.

    However, there are those whose hearts even grow harden when

    faced with pain. The clenched fists grow tighter and they drive

    themselves farther and farther away from God.

    A mystery I will never understand while Im here on this side

    of heaven.

    Im glad that many years ago I faced pain and I searched for

    Him and He found me.

    Its been years. And God has been merciful and faithful.

    Seek Christ with all of your heart and you will find Him.

    Let your pain usher you into His Peace and Comfort.

    C. S. Lewis says: God whispers to us in our pleasures, speaks

    in our conscience, but shouts in our pains: it is his megaphone

    to rouse a deaf world.

    The question is, are you listening?

    92FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • FUNNYBONEThe wishbone will never replace the backbone. says Will

    Henry. But to live life with joy, always be conscious you too

    have a funnybone.

    HARD TO RECOVER3 Things that are hard to recover.

    1. Words said in oppressive anger.

    2. Opportunity missed because of idleness or fear of

    inconvenience.

    3. Promises made but left unfulfilled.

    All these devalue a persons character. They will not lead to

    long term sustainable success.

    93FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Francis J. Kong is:

    President of Success Options Publishing Company

    President of FunWorks Inc. a member of the Canadian based Mad Science International Group, the worlds number

    one (1) Science educational-entertainment program provider

    for kids.

    Founding member and Director of Inspire Leadership Consultancy

    Francis has extensive work experiences in manufacturing and

    retail as he help founded a popular clothing company and ran a

    retail chain for many years.

    You can hear him in his daily Radio Program Business

    Matters which was given a Year 2007 special citation by the

    Catholic Mass Media Awards.

    You can read him through his Saturday and Sunday column of

    the Business Page of the Philippine Star.

    You can see him as he regularly guests every Monday and

    Thursday morning at the popular morning show Umagang Kay

    Ganda.

    He has been featured in many of the major business

    conventions and conferences both here and abroad.

    Francis is co-recipient of the Anvil Award for Excellence for the staging of the Dr. John Maxwell Leadership Seminar

    Series.

    Recipient of the Year 2006 Gold Quill Philippines Award of merit for Public Speech category sponsored by The

    International Association of Business Communicators.

    Recipient of 2008 Dr. Jose Rizal Award for Excellence in the field of Journalism.

    Francis has been trained and licensed by Maximum Impact of

    Atlanta Georgia to do the Maxwell leadership programs. He is

    also Trained and licensed by The Ziglar Corporation in London

    to do the Ziglar Sales and Presentation programs.

    94FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • He is an author of 14 books:

    His book One Day at a Time has been given a most favorable review by Channel NewsAsia of Singapore.

    His book The Early Bird Catches the Worm: is now translated into the Korean language.

    Francis is married to the former Lilia Nolasco and has three

    children:Bryan 26, Hannah 22 and Rachel 17.

    For more inspiring words from Francis J. Kong, please visit his

    personal blog at http://www.franciskong.com.

    95FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • INSPIRING EXCELLENCEFRANCISKONG.COM

    AUGUST 2012

  • A compilation of post from the personal blog of

    F r a n c i s J. K o n gfor the month of August, 2012.

    This eBook and its content is copyright of Francis J. Kong -

    Francis J. Kong, 2012. All rights reserved.

    Any redistribution or reproduction of part or all of the contents

    in any form is prohibited other than the following:

    you may print or download to a local hard disk extracts for your personal and non-commercial use only

    you may copy the content to individual third parties for their personal use, but only if you acknowledge the website as the

    source of the material

    You may not, except with our express written permission,

    distribute or commercially exploit the content. Nor may you

    transmit it or store it in any other website or other form of

    electronic retrieval system.

    This eBook was created and compiled by

    One Awesome Social Media Company Inc.

    www.oneawesomecompany.com

    97FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Do something good with your power, dont just be good at

    being powerful.

    Leaders guide their people to do what is right and not what is

    wrong. Everything rises and falls on leadership. says John

    Maxwell and he is so right.

    Do not think youre the smartest in your group. Surround

    yourself with people smarter, keep your mouth shut, listen and

    learn.

    No matter how high our educational attainment is, the fact is

    that we are all ignorant but only in different subject matters.

    Would you like to be free from stress? Just tell the truth all the

    time. You dont have to remember what you said the last time.

    When a person is truthful all of his or her facts will be

    consistent.

    Nothing ruins the truth like stretching it.

    There is a big difference between knowing the truth and living

    the truth. The biggest distance is about 18 inches. That from

    the head to the heart. We need to walk our talk and live our lip.

    Credibility matters!

    A good architect can improve the looks of an old house merely

    by discussing the cost of a new one.

    If you can afford it then buy a new house but if you dont then

    dont get imprisoned in debt and squander your future

    opportunities.

    Dr. James Dobson says: The key to a healthy marriage is to

    keep your eyes wide open before you wed and half closed

    thereafter. so true isnt it?

    I dont expect my marriage to work and this is why I work on

    my marriage everyday.

    The Ilocana and I entertained the thought of sending our kids

    to study in another country. At least for a little while. To have

    our children travel and experience a change in environment

    would have been an effective means of education.

    But we immediately changed our minds the moment we heard

    of yet another shooting. A smiling kid enters his school, pulled

    out a gun and methodically shot his friends and classmates.

    Why? Whats happening to the young people in the world

    today?

    98FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • An American friend of mine sent me an e-mail and this is his

    analysis.

    In light of the recent shooting in Massachusetts, lets see, I

    think it started when Madeline Murray OHare complained she

    didnt want any prayer in our schools, and we said OK.

    Then someone said you better not read the Bible in school ---

    The Bible that says, thou shalt not kill, thou shalt not steal, and

    love your neighbor as yourself. And we said, OK.

    Dr. Benjamin Spock said we shouldnt spank our children

    when they misbehave because their little personalities would

    be warped and we might damage their self-esteem. And we

    said, an expert should know what hes talking about so we said

    OK, we wont spank them anymore.

    Then someone said teachers and principals better not discipline

    our children when they misbehave. And the school

    administrators said no faculty member in this school better

    touch a student when they misbehave because we dont want

    any bad publicity, and we surely dont want to be sued.

    (Theres a big difference between disciplining and touching,

    beating, smacking, humiliating, kicking, etc.) And we accepted

    their reasoning. Then someone said, lets let our daughters

    have abortions if they want, and they wont even have to tell

    their parents. And we said, thats a grand idea.

    Then some wise school board member said, since boys will be

    boys and theyre going to do it anyway, lets give our sons all

    the condoms they want, so they can have all the fun they

    desire, and we wont have to tell their parents they got them at

    school. And we said, thats another great idea. Then some of

    our top elected officials said it doesnt matter what we do in

    private as long as we do our jobs. And agreeing with them, we

    said it doesnt matter to me what anyone, including the

    President, does in private as long as I have a job and the

    economy is good.

    And then someone said lets print magazines with pictures of

    nude women and call it wholesome, down-to-earth

    appreciation for the beauty of the female body. And we said we

    have no problem with that. And someone else took that

    appreciation a step further and published pictures of nude

    children and then stepped further still by making them

    available on the Internet. And we said theyre entitled to their

    free speech.

    And the entertainment industry said, lets make TV shows and

    movies that promote profanity, violence, and illicit sex. And

    lets record music that encourages rape, drugs, murder, suicide,

    and satanic themes. And we said its just entertainment, it has

    no adverse effect, and nobody takes it seriously anyway, so go

    right ahead.

    Now were asking ourselves why our children have no

    conscience, why they dont know right from wrong, and why it

    doesnt bother them to kill strangers, their classmates, and

    themselves.

    Probably, if we think about it long and hard enough, we can

    figure it out.

    99FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • I think it has a great deal to do with WE REAP WHAT WE

    SOW. Listen.

    Kids are not a short-term loan, they are a long-term

    investment!

    We want whats best for them, we better teach them the Word

    of God by introducing them to the God of the Word because

    nothing better ever comes close.

    I have observed this truth many times: In many cases, refusal

    to do what is right is not due to a lack of intelligence but due to

    pride, envy or greed. The heart of the problem is the problem

    of the heart. This is why we watch our actions cautiously by

    watching our hearts carefully.

    If you arent fired with enthusiasm, you will be fired with

    enthusiasm. says coach Vince Lombardi. The gap between

    enthusiasm and indifference is filled with failures. Dont just

    do what you love. Love what you do.

    Being charming and charismatic is not the same as being

    trustworthy. In fact the word charisma in the dictionary is

    located near the word charlatan. I would rather deal with one

    who speaks frankly and truthfully than one who pretends to be

    gentle and kind but hits people behind their backs. Be truthful

    all the time.

    Somebody says: A smile is the cheapest way to improve your

    looks, even if your teeth are crooked.

    Theres just a million and one things to be grateful about. So

    we put a smile on our faces and to God we give thanks.

    A smile instantaneously increases our face value and..it

    could be quite contagious too!

    There are things we should be serious about and there are

    things we can take lightly. It is the wise person who

    understands the difference and does what is right all the time.

    One wise person says: I always knew that looking back on my

    tears would someday make me laugh, but I never knew that

    looking back on my laughter would someday make me cry.

    A wise man learns by the experience of others. An ordinary

    man learns by his own experience. A fool learns by nobodys

    experience. Be willing to be corrected. It takes humility for a

    person to achieve success.

    100FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Are you fond of trivia?

    I am.

    Heres a list of information that may or may not help you but

    will always be interesting for you to know. Information that

    covers many subject matters found in America but would be

    amusing for us to know.

    The first couple to be shown in bed together on prime time TV

    was Fred and Wilma Flintstone.

    Every day more money is printed for Monopoly than the US

    Treasury.

    Men can read smaller print than women can; women can hear

    better.

    Coca-Cola was originally green.

    It is impossible to lick your elbow.

    The state with the highest percentage of people who walk to

    work: Alaska.

    The percentage of Africa that is wilderness: 28% while The

    percentage of North America that is wilderness: 38%

    The cost of raising a medium-size dog to the age of eleven:

    $6,400

    The average number of people airborne over the US any given

    hour: 61,000.

    Intelligent people have more zinc and copper in their hair.

    (That is of course assuming that they have hair)

    The worlds youngest parents were 8 and 9 and lived in China

    in 1910.

    The youngest pope was 11 years old. (Im not making this up.

    Read history books.)

    The first novel ever written on a typewriter: Tom Sawyer.

    Those San Francisco Cable cars are the only mobile National

    Monuments.

    Each king in a deck of playing cards represents a great king

    from history:

    Spades King David

    Hearts Charlemagne,

    Clubs Alexander, the Great

    Diamonds Julius Caesar

    And if you like math, you might be thrilled to know that

    111,111,111 x 111,111,111 = 12,345,678,987,654,321

    If a statue in the park of a person on a horse has both front legs

    in the air, the person died in battle. If the horse has one front

    leg in the air the person died as a result of wounds received in

    battle. If the horse has all four legs on the ground, the person

    died of natural causes.

    I am. is the shortest complete sentence in the English

    language.

    101FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Hersheys Kisses are called that because the machine that

    makes them looks like its kissing the conveyor belt.

    Question. Half of all Americans live within 50 miles of what?

    Answer. Their birthplace

    Most boat owners name their boats. What is the most popular

    boat name requested?

    Answer is Obsession

    Q. What do bulletproof vests, fire escapes, windshield wipers,

    and laser printers all have in common?

    A. All invented by women.

    Q. What is the only food that doesnt spoil?

    A. Honey

    Q. There are more collect calls on this day than any other day

    of the year?

    A. Fathers Day

    Q. What trivia fact about Mel Blanc (voice of Bugs Bunny) is

    the most ironic?

    A. He was allergic to carrots.

    Q. What is an activity performed by 40% of all people at a

    party?

    A. Snoop in your medicine cabinet.

    In Shakespeares time, mattresses were secured on bed frames

    by ropes. When you pulled on the ropes the mattress tightened,

    making the bed firmer to sleep on. Hence the phrase

    goodnight, sleep tight.

    It was the accepted practice in Babylon 4,000 years ago that

    for a month after the wedding, the brides father would supply

    his son-in-law with all the mead he could drink. Mead is a

    honey beer and because their calendar was lunar based, this

    period was called the honey month we know today as the

    honeymoon.

    In Scotland, a new game was invented. It was entitled

    Gentlemen Only Ladies Forbidden. and thus the word GOLF

    entered into the English language.

    AND FINALLY, Here is a great piece of information you

    might want to know.

    Roses are red, violets are blue.

    Thats what they say, but it just isnt true!

    Roses are red and apples are too,

    But violets are violetviolets arent blue!

    An orange is orange, but Greenlands not green.

    A pinkys not pink, so what does it mean?

    102FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • To call something blue when its not, we defile it.

    But ah, whats the differenceits hard to rhyme violet![1]

    Life is beautiful. It is a gift from God.

    Live it well and enjoy each moment.

    [1] Source: Laugh & Lift,

    http://www.premiumhealth.com/laughlift/

    Have you ever been criticized? Tell me about it. Do not

    despair. Albert Einstein theories came under attack; an anti-

    Einstein organization was even set up. But Einstein remained

    unconcerned about these critics.

    All great people have been criticized and attacked.

    When a book was published entitled 100 Authors Against

    Einstein, he retorted, If I were wrong, then one would have

    been enough!

    Weakness of attitude becomes weakness of character says

    Albert Einstein.

    A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will

    annoy enough people to make it worth the effort. All things

    being equal, the person with a positive attitude WILL get the

    promotions and the person with a negative one will not.

    Work on your likeability factor daily.

    Think time is important. Dont go on auto-pilot.

    There are people who live from day to day without a thought.

    Guess what?

    Zombies dont think.

    Success is delayed because of the following things:

    I cant do it, it wont work, I cant figure it out.

    There is a way to get through this. Just mentally add one more

    word. YET

    I cant do it YET. It wont work YET. I cant figure it out

    YET.

    And then carry the resolve to work on it and do not

    procrastinate. Everything is a mind-set issue.

    Delay success no longer.

    103FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Andy Stanley says: You are a unique blend of past

    experiences, current circumstances, and future hopes and

    dreams. Wisdom allows you to customize the decision-making

    process to your specific professional, financial, and relational

    dimensions. Dont miss this opportunity. Many people are

    knowledgeable but are not wise. They make stupid decisions.

    The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom.

    Jacquie Sewell apologizes to Robert Fulghum because she

    uses his popular book Everything I needed To Know About

    Life I learned In Kindergarten, reshapes it and came out with

    an article entitled: Everything I needed To Know About Life I

    Learned From A Jigsaw Puzzle.

    Let me share it with you.

    Here are the lessons:

    1. Dont force a fitif something is meant to be, it will come

    together naturally.

    2. When things arent going so well, take a break. Everything

    will look different when you return.

    3. Be sure to look at the big picture. Getting hung up on the

    little pieces only leads to frustration.

    4. Perseverance pays off. Every important puzzle went together

    bit by bit, piece by piece.

    5. When one spot stops working, move to another. But be sure

    to come back later (see #4).

    6. The creator of the puzzle gave you the picture as a

    guidebook. Refer to the Creators guidebook often.

    7. Variety is the spice of life. Its the different colors and

    patterns that make the puzzle interesting.

    8. Working together with friends and family makes any task

    fun.

    9. Establish the border first. Boundaries give a sense of

    security and order.

    10. Dont be afraid to try different combinations. Some

    matches are surprising.

    11. Take time often to celebrate your successes (even little

    ones).

    104FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • 12. Anything worth doing takes time and effort. A great puzzle

    cant be rushed.

    13. When you finally reach the last piece, dont be sad. Rejoice

    in the masterpiece youve made and enjoy a well-deserved

    rest.[1]

    We can actually learn life lessons from everything that we see

    around us. We just need to keep our eyes and ears open.

    I guess one of the greatest tragedies in life is for intelligent

    people to be very wise and knowledgeable about many things

    in life except life itself.

    How ironic it is to find people who have messed up their lives

    thoroughly and when you study them carefully, they had talent,

    they had intelligence, they had education but they simply do

    not know how to live.

    Intelligent businessmen unfaithful to their wife, abandoning

    the family and hurting the kids.

    Educated career people exchanging friendship for the job

    promotion, talented winos and drug dependents, you see them

    everywhere. They do not know how to live.

    Listen. We dont just live our lives naturally, we live it

    skillfully. Similarly, we dont just expect our marriages to

    work. We work on our marriage.

    This is why Im still learning.

    Every morning when I meditate on the Bible I am learning. I

    talk to the Author and I hear Him talk and Im learning.

    I choose my books carefully and when I read the experiences

    and advices from well known authors who have shown a great

    track record of success in life Im learning from them. When I

    go to church and I listen intently to the message Im learning.

    And then, life is no longer an inscrutable puzzle, the pieces

    begin to fit into place.

    I guess you understand what Im saying.

    [1] Copyright 2001 Jacquie Sewell (jsewell416@hotmail.com).

    One thing I have observed is that noisy people are not

    productive. They toot their own horns their voices are loud but

    they do not perform well.

    The quiet ones are the dangerous ones. They may be silently

    accomplishing much and because they are productive, they do

    not have time to indulge in useless revelries.

    Be excellent in what you do and here is one important advice I

    want to share with you: Make a noise quietly.

    105FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • You know your children are growing up when they stop asking

    you where they came from and refuse to tell you where theyre

    going.

    I missed all my 3 kids the last 2 days as all 3 were busy in

    church helping out with the relief goods for the flood victims.

    No prodding from me as they themselves shelved out money.

    Makes me so proud. They dont even have to tell me where

    they are going because I trust them.

    Trust is the foundation of relationship.

    3 Things that are hard to recover that will have a negative

    impact on your integrity and reputation:

    1. Lies told.

    2. Decisions that benefit the self at the expense of others.

    3. Unethical practices.

    Proverbs 29:27 The righteous detest the dishonest; the wicked

    detest the upright.

    Do not be in a hurry to buy replacements for things lost in the

    flood. Start with necessities first, entertainment tools can come

    later. Do not enter unnecessary debt and create more problems.

    Make time your friend.

    You are not the smartest person in your organization just

    because you are a leader. A great leader surrounds himself with

    people who are smarter. And in the process the people make

    the leader smarter. Humility is a virtue and pride is a weakness.

    Dont believe everything people say. Its dangerous for

    business. The person that agrees with everything with you is

    either dumb or too smart and hes getting ready to skin you.

    One businessman says: In negotiations you should be so

    observant in everything. You must be a combination of

    Sherlock Homes and Sigmund Freud. This is a fallen world.

    Only God can see the heart meanwhile we check our own.

    REUNIONSHusband: Dear, do you remember John Williams; the student

    body president at our high school? I saw him today.

    Wife: That was 35 years ago.

    Husband: I know. In fact, he has gotten so bald and so fat he

    didnt even recognize me.

    At my age, Ive seen it all, done it all, heard it all. I just cant

    remember it all. High school reunions reflect lives as

    summary of decisions they made through the years.

    106FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Here is a collection of amusing signs and the businesses they

    represent:

    1. From a Plumbing Truck, the sign says: We repair what

    your husband fixed.

    2. Pizza shop slogan: 7 days without pizza makes one Weak

    (w-e-a-k).

    3. At a tire shop : Invite us to your next blowout.

    4. Door of a plastic surgeons office: Hello, can we pick your

    nose?

    5. Sign at the psychics Hotline: Dont call us, well call

    you.

    6. At a Towing Company: We dont charge an arm and a leg.

    We want tows.

    7. Billboard on the side of the road: Keep your eyes on the

    road and stop reading these signs.

    8. On an Electricians truck: Let us remove your shorts.

    9. In a Nonsmoking Area: If we see smoking we will assume

    you are on fire and take appropriate action.

    10. On Maternity Room Door: Push, Push, Push.

    11. At an Optometrists Office If you dont see what your

    looking for youve come to the right place.

    12. On a Taxidermists window: We really know our stuff.

    13. In a Podiatrists office: Time wounds all heels.

    14. On a fence: Salesmen Welcome, Dog food is expensive.

    15. Outside a Muffler Shop: No appointment necessary, well

    hear you coming.

    16. In a Veterinarians waiting room: Be back in 5 minutes,

    Sit! Stay!

    17. Inside a Bowling Alley: Please be quiet, we need to hear a

    pin. In the front yard of a funeral home: Drive carefully,

    well wait.

    18. In a counselors office: Growing old is mandatory, growing

    wise is optional.

    I wish life would be simple.

    You put up a sign and people would understand you or you put

    up a sign and things would be all right. But it just doesnt

    happen that way.

    Supposed we could be like a computer?

    If you messed up your life, you could press Alt, Ctrl, Delete and start all over!

    To get your daily exercise, just click on run!

    If you needed a break from life, click on suspend. Hit any key to continue life when ready.

    To get even with the neighbors, turn up the sound blaster.

    To add/remove someone in your life, click settings and control panel.

    To improve your appearance, just adjust the display settings.

    If life gets too noisy, turn off the speakers.

    107FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • When you lose your car keys, click on find.

    Help with the chores is just a click away.

    You wouldnt need auto insurance. Youd use your diskette to recover from a crash.

    We could click on send and the kids would go to bed immediately.

    To feel like a new person, click on refresh. Click on close to shut up the kids and spouse.

    To undo a mistake, click on back.

    Is your wardrobe getting old? Click update.

    If you dont like cleaning the litter box, click on delete.

    But life is not a computer and neither could putting up a sign

    makes life all right.

    Too many people wake up in the morning and allow their lives

    to run on auto-pilot.

    We need skills to live life successfully.

    Attend seminars. Read books.

    Attend church and pay close attention to what the ministers are

    saying.

    And most importantly, read the Bible.

    Stay connected to its Author.

    He created us and He knows whats best for us.

    And when one day our stay in this planet is over, perhaps the

    best sign that could speak of us is an arrow that points towards

    heaven.

    For that is all that matters.

    Wimbledon champion Venus Williams says: So what if you

    fail? At least youll know what not to do when you try again.

    Corrie Ten Boom says: When a train goes through a tunnel and

    it gets dark, you dont throw away the ticket and jump off. You

    sit still and trust the engineer. Having problems? Trust in God

    the engineer.

    Success and failures come and go. God is constant. This is how

    character is built.

    108FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Francis J. Kong is:

    President of Success Options Publishing Company

    President of FunWorks Inc. a member of the Canadian based Mad Science International Group, the worlds number

    one (1) Science educational-entertainment program provider

    for kids.

    Founding member and Director of Inspire Leadership Consultancy

    Francis has extensive work experiences in manufacturing and

    retail as he help founded a popular clothing company and ran a

    retail chain for many years.

    You can hear him in his daily Radio Program Business

    Matters which was given a Year 2007 special citation by the

    Catholic Mass Media Awards.

    You can read him through his Saturday and Sunday column of

    the Business Page of the Philippine Star.

    You can see him as he regularly guests every Monday and

    Thursday morning at the popular morning show Umagang Kay

    Ganda.

    He has been featured in many of the major business

    conventions and conferences both here and abroad.

    Francis is co-recipient of the Anvil Award for Excellence for the staging of the Dr. John Maxwell Leadership Seminar

    Series.

    Recipient of the Year 2006 Gold Quill Philippines Award of merit for Public Speech category sponsored by The

    International Association of Business Communicators.

    Recipient of 2008 Dr. Jose Rizal Award for Excellence in the field of Journalism.

    Francis has been trained and licensed by Maximum Impact of

    Atlanta Georgia to do the Maxwell leadership programs. He is

    also Trained and licensed by The Ziglar Corporation in London

    to do the Ziglar Sales and Presentation programs.

    109FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • He is an author of 14 books:

    His book One Day at a Time has been given a most favorable review by Channel NewsAsia of Singapore.

    His book The Early Bird Catches the Worm: is now translated into the Korean language.

    Francis is married to the former Lilia Nolasco and has three

    children: Bryan 26, Hannah 22 and Rachel 17.

    For more inspiring words from Francis J. Kong, please visit his

    personal blog at http://www.franciskong.com.

    110FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • INSPIRING EXCELLENCEFRANCISKONG.COM

    SEPTEMBER 2012

  • A compilation of post from the personal blog of

    F r a n c i s J. K o n gfor the month of September, 2012.

    This eBook and its content is copyright of Francis J. Kong -

    Francis J. Kong, 2012. All rights reserved.

    Any redistribution or reproduction of part or all of the contents

    in any form is prohibited other than the following:

    you may print or download to a local hard disk extracts for your personal and non-commercial use only

    you may copy the content to individual third parties for their personal use, but only if you acknowledge the website as the

    source of the material

    You may not, except with our express written permission,

    distribute or commercially exploit the content. Nor may you

    transmit it or store it in any other website or other form of

    electronic retrieval system.

    This eBook was created and compiled by

    One Awesome Social Media Company Inc.

    www.oneawesomecompany.com

    112FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Korean proverb says: Power lasts ten years, influence not

    more than a hundred. You may have power and use it to boost

    your ego and pocketbook. You may not want to know the

    conversation that takes place behind your back. Others use

    influence to touch lives and they will not be easily forgotten. If

    youre in a position of leadership, you need to know that

    youre given a stewardship of influence.

    Thomas D Kempis says: Its good for us to encounter troubles

    and adversities from time to time, for trouble often compels a

    man to search his own heart. It reminds him he is in exile here,

    and that he can put his trust in nothing in this world. Troubles

    in business can bring us closer to God or harden our hearts.

    Dont be hardened. Stay close to God for He is bigger than any

    of your problems.

    It was many centuries ago in a remote village in India. Word

    began to spread that something was about to happen that no

    one had seen in their lifetime the prince was coming to visit

    their forgotten little village.

    Everyone was excited but no one was more excited than the

    village beggar. Every day he eked out another day by sitting by

    the road with his little cup, hoping to get enough money to buy

    the rice to live one more day. He actually had two cups one for

    collecting money and one for his few grains of rice. But now

    the prince was coming the wealthy prince! When the prince

    finally arrived, the beggar mustered his most impassioned

    appeal Alms! Alms for the poor! And the prince stopped. The

    beggars heart was pounding furiously.

    Give me your cup of rice.

    That was all the prince said. The beggar slumped down in

    disbelief. Here was the wealthiest man in the land, asking for

    his lousy little cup of rice.

    The beggar was about to refuse, but instead he reached in and

    he put three grains of rice in the princes hand. The prince

    turned to his servant and said, Bring me the bag of gold. The

    beggar could hardly contain himself as he eagerly stretched out

    his empty collection cup. The prince reached into his bag and

    placed three grains of gold in the beggars cup. And then he

    disappeared, never to return but leaving the beggar to wonder

    for the rest of his life . . . what would have happened if I had

    given him my whole cup of rice.

    Do you know why certain people remain poor? Because they

    are a people of small dreams and little visions. I have met rich

    people who are insensitive and greedy. Their riches is stuck on

    the things of this earth and its a sad thing to see them unable

    to use money but are being used by it.

    This we understand. While these so-called rich people may be

    endowed with the material things of this world in all

    113FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • reality they are indeed poor.

    But you know what breaks my heart?

    Its when I see poor people who are so self-absorbed

    wallowing in self-pity and thinking that the world owes them a

    living and while we lament the fact that they may not have the

    convenience of the well-to-do, what I cannot understand is that

    they are greedy too.

    Now some people would say they have to be greedy because of

    self-preservation. They have very little and thats why they are

    holding on to it tightly.

    Yet I have known poor people who are charitable and

    generous. They may not have the convenience of the wealthy

    too but they carry joy and peace in their hearts. And I bet you

    that given time, these people will progress in life because they

    have understood the law of investment. When you give you

    receive. When you hold back you are deprived. Greatness of

    character is never dependent on your tax bracket; it is

    dependent on the largeness of your heart.

    The same thing with the Christian life.

    Only those who know how to give it all, invest all of them to

    the Living God would ever experience the fullness of life.

    Those who hold back, unable to let go will never experience

    Gods fullness of Purpose in their lives.

    I have seen ministers who never progress. A closer look at it

    would indicate that they have never given their all.

    I have seen Christians who live defeated lives. A closer look at

    them would reveal that they tend to compromise on their stand.

    Coming to God like a beggar is the picture of the part of

    Scriptures that says: Blessed are the poor in spirit for they

    shall inherit the kingdom of heave, But when God asks the

    beggars meaning you and me to hand over to Him our little

    cup of rice. Are we willing or not?

    Simone Kesseler is in the PR business and he says: Every

    time you answer the phone you have an opportunity to prove

    yourself. Everything you do is an advertising for yourself, from

    how you talk to everyone from the teaboy upwards. Everything

    is positioning, everything is public relations. This is why you

    treat each person in your organization with respect. Greet and

    thank them at all times.

    Here are some good quips about selling:

    Sell the benefit, not your company or the product. People buy

    results, not features. Jay Abraham.

    114FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Boxing promoter Don King says: If you want to sell a steak,

    you cant just have the sizzle, you gotta have sauce.

    And my favorite is:

    Earl Wilson says: To sell something, tell a woman its a

    bargain; tell a man its deductible. Features tell. Benefits sell.

    If you were going to die soon and had only one phone call to

    make, who would you call and what would you say? And why

    are you waiting? Stephen Levine

    We make a living by what we get but a life by what we give.

    Study as if you were going to live forever; live as if you were

    going to die tomorrow. Says Maria Mitchell.

    Live a good honorable life. This is what makes life enjoyable.

    The best inheritance you can leave your children is a good

    example. Shouting to make your children obey is like using the

    horn to steer your car, and you get about the same results.

    The best way to keep children home is to make the home

    atmosphere pleasant and let the air out of the tires.

    Dorothy Parker

    Teaching kids to count is fine, but teaching them what counts

    is best. Bob Talbert

    If youre not prepared to be wrong, then youll never have

    come up with anything original. Kids arent afraid of being

    wrong. Adults are.

    We run companies the same way. We stigmatized mistakes.

    All children are born artists; to remain artists as we grow into

    adult life is a challenge. Weve educated ourselves out of

    creativity.

    Creativity is as important as literacy. Treat it with the same

    status.

    Getting ready to speak to some 500 Filipino audience in Paris

    tonight. Wherever we are in the world, we are warm and caring

    and this is a gift that God has given.

    1. Cop-outs. They set no goals and make no decisions.

    2. Hold-outs. They have a dream, but afraid of the challenges.

    115FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Theyve lost their childlike faith.

    3. Drop-outs. When the going gets tough, they quit. They dont

    pay the toll.

    4. All-outs. They set goals. They never quit. They keep on

    keeping on, even when the toll gets heavy. Theyre dedicated.

    Theyre committed.

    What is the difference between Ability, Motivation and

    Attitude?

    Ability is what you are capable of doing.

    Motivation determines what you can do.

    Attitude determines how well you do it.

    All things being equal, attitude plays the most vital role.

    Ive known of talented and extremely skillful people who

    never go far in life because of their lousy attitude.

    I am so inspired with the warmth of Filipinos here in Europe.

    In many of my talks, the photo sessions took almost as long as

    my speech. Laughter, happiness, joy are there. There is

    eagerness to connect and relate. This is what makes Filipinos

    unique. Its more fun to be a Filipino!

    We all make mistakes. Not all of us appreciate its value.

    World champion figure skater Michelle Kwan remembers . . .

    When I was five years old, the first skating lesson I learned

    was: how to fall. My instructor was wise. He knew that until I

    learned to fall, I couldnt learn how not to fall. You see? Your

    mistakes will be your best friends if you let them teach you.

    Im sure youve many friends too.

    Youre never too old to become younger. We do not stop

    playing because we are old; we grow old because we stop

    playing.

    Think Young. Aging is for wine.

    The old believe everything; the middle aged suspect

    everything; the young know everything, says writer Oscar

    Wilde. Actor John Barrymore says: A person is not old until

    regrets take the place of dreams.

    So tell me now. How young are you?

    116FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Am back home from the wonderful European tour speaking to

    our lovely Filipino community organized by Filinvest

    International. Every day was inspiring.

    Will fly to Cebu tomorrow morning and fulfill a business

    responsibility.

    I work fast, I drive myself hard and I really walk fast but this

    time I could not God is teaching me to slow down. Ever

    since the Ilocana had her stroke last year; I have to slow down

    and consider her pace.

    Great lesson to learn..we all need to be sensitive to other

    peoples pace and my impatience will only cause frustration

    and stress out other people too.

    Had dinner with the kids last night. Picked us up from the

    airport. This got me thinking.

    Burn the midnight oil. Pull an all-nighter. Sleep at the office.

    All these may not necessarily be badges of honor. Working

    more makes me think and feel important. But working harder

    and working more does not mean you care more or you get

    more done. It only means you work more and nothing else.

    Dont bring your briefcase home. Spend time with the kids. Its

    more rewarding; believe me.

    ALBERT EINSTEIN had a disregard for the tyranny of

    custom. Once as guest of honor at a dinner party, he was called

    on for a speech.

    Ladies and gentlemen, I am sorry, but I have nothing to say,

    he said and sat down. Arose and added, In case I do have

    something to say, Ill come back.

    Six months later he wired the president, Now I have

    something to say. Another dinner was held, he made his

    speech.

    We always want new things, new cars, new clothes the latest

    smart phones. But when it comes to friends, we always want

    old friends because we have shared with them our life and

    our past. They were friends long before we got famous or

    wealthy (or poor). And this is why they are our true wealth.

    Find true friends by being one yourself.

    I am a public speaker and one of the most important thing I

    have learned in my life is that people want to be appreciated,

    not impressed. They want to be regarded as human beings, not

    as mere sounding boards for other peoples egos. They want

    117FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • to be treated as ends in themselves, not as means towards the

    gratification of anothers vanity. When speaking express truths

    and not impress people.

    There are 2 kinds of discontent in this world; the discontent

    that works and the discontent that wrings its hands. The first

    gets what it wants, and the second loses what it had. There is

    no cure for the first but success, and there is no cure at all for

    the second.

    Learn to be contented with what you have but never be

    contented with what you can become. The better you become

    the more you will have.

    Always do right. This will gratify some people and astonish the

    rest.

    You cannot stand out if you constantly try to fit in.

    Doing right entails courage but the end results will always

    bring fruits of righteousness. Be brave then You are on Gods

    side so who can be against you?

    A businessman was highly critical of his competitors

    storefront windows. Why, they are the dirtiest windows in

    town, he claimed. Fellow business people grew tired of the

    mans continual criticism and nitpicking comments about the

    windows. One day over coffee, the businessman carried the

    subject just too far. Before leaving, a fellow store owner

    suggested the man get his own windows washed. He followed

    the advice, and the next day at coffee, he exclaimed, I cant

    believe it. As soon as I washed my windows, my competitor

    must have cleaned his too. You should see them shine. No

    wonder all the windows the critical shop-owner saw was dirty.

    It was simply because he was looking at them through his own

    dirty show windows.

    Now. Doesnt this remind you of many people in the work

    place?

    Critical, negative, nitpicking and you dont like to be near

    them. Who would anyway?

    I know a businessman who complains all the time. Give him a

    glass with water in it and hell see it as half-empty, never half-

    full. Bring him to a movie and hell look at the flaws behind

    the production of the film. Bring him to church and hell doze

    off. Later on waking up and complaining that the minister

    doesnt know how to teach. He sees the whole world as ugly

    and boring but what he fails to realize is that hes ugly and

    boring himself.

    Critical people always point their fingers and put the blame on

    others. They have forgotten the philosophy behind the pointing

    finger. That every time you have one finger pointing at

    somebody you have three other fingers pointing back at you.

    118FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • If you dont believe me then try it for yourself.

    Confucius once declared, Dont complain about the snow on

    your neighbors roof when your own doorstep is unclean.

    Life is short and its a wonderful gift from God. Dont spend

    and waste those precious moments being critical and

    judgmental. Try to look at the beautiful side of every person,

    place and situation and then youll find life exciting.

    I came across a wonderful poem entitled: Criticism and I

    would like to share it with you. Credit is given to the worlds

    most famous author and his name is anonymous. By the way,

    do you know how sad I feel every time I come across a

    wonderfully written material and the author could not be

    identified.

    But anyway, heres the poem. Listen to it. Enjoy it and learn

    from it.

    If an impulse comes to say

    Some un-thoughtful word today

    That may drive a friend away,

    Dont say it!

    If youve heard a word of blame

    Cast upon your neighbors name

    That may injure his fair fame,

    Dont tell it!

    If malicious gossips tongue

    Some vile slander may have flung

    On the head of old or young,

    Dont repeat it!

    Thoughtful, kind, helpful speech,

    Tis a gift promised to each

    This the lesson we would teach:

    Dont abuse it!

    Blaise Pascal says: Cold words freeze people, and hot words

    scorch them, and bitter words make them bitter, and wrathful

    words make them wrathful. Kind words . . . soothe, and quiet,

    and comfort the hearer.

    And the Word of God in Ephesians 4: 29 says: Do not let any

    unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is

    helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it

    may benefit those who listen.

    Its a beautiful day after all! Being positive is a choice.

    Start this week on a positive tone and be thankful we have

    work to do.

    Start this week with this thought:

    Big people are always giving someone credit and taking blame;

    little people are always seeking credit and giving blame.

    119FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Every time I talk to students and ask them a question: What is

    love? invariably someone in the crowd would shout: Love is

    blind. And I will say that is the most stupid understanding of

    what love is.

    Most love people know is selfish. The God-kind of love

    isnt! Here is my take on this: Love is what is left of a

    relationship after all the selfishness has been removed. And

    Louise Beal says it right: Love thy neighbor as thyself, but

    choose your neighborhood.

    The people to worry about are not those who openly disagree

    with you, but those who disagree with you who are too

    cowardly to let you know. And then they move silently

    underground. Always do what is right even if it is unpopular.

    Always show up early. Had to re-purchase another set of plane

    tickets for Singapore because the accompanying credit card

    number was not made available by the organizers who invited

    me. Lesson learned. Have to check details like these. Fraud is

    prevalent and other countries do not have requirements like

    ours. The PAL staff was sympathetic and handled the situation

    well.

    A fellow walked up to a panhandler and politely remarked:

    Youre not too old and you look reasonably fit. Why dont

    you try to get a job?

    I cant. I inherited this business from my father.

    Fathers should be intentional in shaping, molding future

    winners in their kids. No business or profession is more

    important than this.

    From one of my favorite web sites Wit and Wisdom comes this

    beautiful article by Donald & Vesta Mansell in Sure as the

    Dawn.:

    I want to share this with you. Many years ago in one of the

    Southern states, a woman from the city and her country cousin

    were traveling in a horse-drawn carriage through a dense forest

    when darkness overtook them. There was no moon, only a bit

    of starlight. Soon it was impossible to see the road.

    The city dweller became a bit frightened when she thought

    they had lost their way, but her country cousin seemed

    unconcerned. She stopped the horse, stepped to the ground,

    walked around a bit, and came back, saying she had found the

    road. She got back into the carriage, and they continued on

    their way.

    120FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • As they went along, the city dweller noticed by the dim

    starlight that her companion, instead of looking down at the

    ground, was looking up. Why, she asked, are you looking

    up when the road is below us?

    Because, her friend explained, that is the only way I can tell

    where the road is. The trees have been cleared to make way for

    the road. On a night like this it is impossible to see the road,

    but by looking up I can tell where the road is by the stars in the

    open sky.

    This is the way it is on the road of life. As we travel along,

    there are times when trials and perplexities close in around us

    as black and impenetrable as the darkness in a dense forest on

    a moonless night. At such times many lose their way but this

    need not happen! When the downlook, and even the outlook,

    are dark and forbidding, never forget that the uplook is bright.

    Take comfort in the fact that the darkness and the light are

    both alike to God (Ps. 159:12). He can see when we cant see

    a thing. Even when the sun is shining and everything seems

    bright and clear, it is always wise to look to heaven, where God

    rules, for no road is safe unless He is guiding.[1]

    What a beautiful article wouldnt you agree?

    At a time when everything seems bleak; one look at your local

    newspapers and you get this fuzzy little feeling like theres no

    more hope for this country. Political leaders not after the good

    of our country but after their own petty personal agenda,

    business people insensitive to the needs of their employees,

    career people unfaithful to their companies and professional

    people short changing their clients. Enough reason to make

    you feel that the whole world is caving in.

    But just as the skies are dark, the stars shine the brightest. Just

    when the outlook is bleak and the downlook permeates the

    more we need the uplook.

    Oswald Chambers says: A saints life is in the hands of God

    as a bow and arrow in the hands of an archer.

    God is aiming at something the saint cannot see; he stretches

    and strains, and every now and again the saint says, I cannot

    stand any more. But God does not heed; he goes on stretching

    until his purpose is in sight, then he lets fly. We are here for

    Gods designs, not for our own.

    Charles Haddon Spurgeon says: As sure as ever God puts his

    children in the furnace, he will be in the furnace with them.

    Friends, you many not like what I have to say but I can assure

    you everything that is happening is good for our country as

    long as we learn the lesson and we put our trust in Him.

    Hope for the best; get ready for the worst; then take what God

    chooses to send. In Him, you will never fail. So look up.

    [1] By Donald & Vesta Mansell in Sure as the Dawn,

    copyright (c) 1993

    121FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Many have been betrayed and cheated by the people they

    trusted. But the law of sowing and reaping will always apply to

    cheaters sooner or later.

    Meanwhile it would be good to heed this sagely advice.

    Frank Crane says: You may be deceived if you trust too much,

    but you will live in torment if you dont trust enough. Learn

    from the experience but do not abandon trust. Here is my take

    on this: Trust in God but lock your doors.

    One principle that I have learned in life is that knowing the

    truth and living the truth are two different things. Old clich

    but rings true we need to walk the talk but lets just add one

    more thing we also need to live the lip. Building trust takes

    time. Destroying it takes a second.

    Respect is more important than fame, credibility more

    important popularity. Be sure that youre seeking the right

    things.

    Seek quality rather than luxury. Seek refinement rather than

    fashion. Seek respect rather than popularity. When your words

    do not match your actions and your lips do not match your life,

    then no one would respect you.

    Its like somebody saying Id kill for a Nobel Peace

    Youve failed. So what? I have. Thank God! Ive

    learned..and now I win! This is how it works!

    Keep on going and the chances are you will stumble on

    something, perhaps when you are least expecting it. I have

    never heard of anyone stumbling on something sitting down.

    Charles F. Kettering

    So be encouraged. Keep on learning!

    Wheres home for you? a stranger asks a fellow traveller on

    a plane. Wherever she is, comes the reply, as the man points

    at his wife..says Robert Fulgum

    I fly to Davao tomorrow morning, do a talk and then rush back

    in the afternoon and proceed to Baguio to do talks on marriage

    Saturday and Sunday. I love doing this. Because The Ilocana is

    with me and that is where home is.

    Teenage pregnancies in this country is now second highest

    through South East Asia? Isnt this shocking? Now this is one

    thing that is not More Fun in the Philippines.

    122FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Many young people mistake sex for love. When the love from

    the parents is full, then they dont need to look for it

    somewhere else. Invest in your family all the time and the best

    thing to do for our kids is to love their mom!

    A man lay on his deathbed, harassed by fear because he had

    harbored hatred against another. He sent for the individual with

    whom he had had a disagreement years before; he then made

    overtures of peace. The two of them shook hands in friendship.

    But as the visitor left the room, the sick man roused himself

    and said, Remember, if I get over this, the old quarrel stands.

    [1]

    Talk about forgiveness. Or the lack of it rather.

    Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each

    other, just as in Christ God forgave you. says Paul the

    Apostle in (Ephesians 4:32)

    From the Web Site Wit and Wisdom comes this beautiful

    observation. Some years ago during a visit to Yellowstone Park

    one writer observed that the only animal the grizzly bear would

    share food with was a skunk. It wasnt that the grizzly bear

    wanted to share his food but rather that he chose to. With one

    swing of his powerful paw he could have crushed the skunk.

    So why did he allow the skunk to eat with him?

    Because he knew the high cost of getting even. Clever bear!

    Undoubtedly he learned the hard way. Strange that we humans

    often arent as smart. Sometimes we carry grudges for years,

    often repressing them from conscious memory, and end up

    hurting ourselves more than the ones we would like to get even

    with. We fail to see how damaging an unforgiving spirit is.

    In his book, None of These Diseases, Dr. S.I. McMillen says,

    Medical science recognizes that emotions such as fear,

    sorrow, envy, resentment and hatred are responsible for the

    majority of our sicknesses. Estimates vary from 60 to nearly

    100 percent.

    I read about one patient who was told by his doctor. If you

    dont cut out your resentments, I may have to cut out a part of

    your intestinal tract.

    Fortunately the man took the doctors advice. He had been

    nursing a bitter grudge against a former business partner. He

    went to see this man, resolved their difference, and forgave

    him. When he returned to the doctor, his physical condition

    had cleared up. Smart man!

    The reality is what we fail to forgive keeps us bound to and by

    the past. Forgiveness sets the hurt person free. Thats why

    Jesus told Peter we need to forgive seventy times seven; that is,

    to keep on forgiving so we dont become bitter and resentful.

    123FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Buddy Hackett says: Dont carry a grudge. While youre

    carrying the grudge the other guys out dancing.

    Mahatma Gandhi says: he weak can never forgive.

    Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.

    William Arthur Ward says: Forgiveness is a funny thing-it

    warms the heart and cools the sting. And all of these are

    wonderful suggestions but heres the most important one:

    Jesus Christ says in Mat 6:14 If you forgive those who sin

    against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you

    refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins.

    And so its our choice really and I do hope and you and I

    would learn to make the right choice.

    [1] G. Ray Jordan - James S. Hewett, Illustrations

    Unlimited (Wheaton: Tyndale House Publishers, Inc, 1988) p.

    216.

    124FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Francis J. Kong is:

    President of Success Options Publishing Company

    President of FunWorks Inc. a member of the Canadian based Mad Science International Group, the worlds number

    one (1) Science educational-entertainment program provider

    for kids.

    Founding member and Director of Inspire Leadership Consultancy

    Francis has extensive work experiences in manufacturing and

    retail as he help founded a popular clothing company and ran a

    retail chain for many years.

    You can hear him in his daily Radio Program Business

    Matters which was given a Year 2007 special citation by the

    Catholic Mass Media Awards.

    You can read him through his Saturday and Sunday column of

    the Business Page of the Philippine Star.

    You can see him as he regularly guests every Monday and

    Thursday morning at the popular morning show Umagang Kay

    Ganda.

    He has been featured in many of the major business

    conventions and conferences both here and abroad.

    Francis is co-recipient of the Anvil Award for Excellence for the staging of the Dr. John Maxwell Leadership Seminar

    Series.

    Recipient of the Year 2006 Gold Quill Philippines Award of merit for Public Speech category sponsored by The

    International Association of Business Communicators.

    Recipient of 2008 Dr. Jose Rizal Award for Excellence in the field of Journalism.

    Francis has been trained and licensed by Maximum Impact of

    Atlanta Georgia to do the Maxwell leadership programs. He is

    also Trained and licensed by The Ziglar Corporation in London

    to do the Ziglar Sales and Presentation programs.

    125FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • He is an author of 14 books:

    His book One Day at a Time has been given a most favorable review by Channel NewsAsia of Singapore.

    His book The Early Bird Catches the Worm: is now translated into the Korean language.

    Francis is married to the former Lilia Nolasco and has three

    children: Bryan 26, Hannah 22 and Rachel 17.

    For more inspiring words from Francis J. Kong, please visit his

    personal blog at http://www.franciskong.com.

    126FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • INSPIRING EXCELLENCEFRANCISKONG.COM

    OCTOBER 2012

  • A compilation of post from the personal blog of

    F r a n c i s J. K o n gfor the month of October, 2012.

    This eBook and its content is copyright of Francis J. Kong -

    Francis J. Kong, 2012. All rights reserved.

    Any redistribution or reproduction of part or all of the contents

    in any form is prohibited other than the following:

    you may print or download to a local hard disk extracts for your personal and non-commercial use only

    you may copy the content to individual third parties for their personal use, but only if you acknowledge the website as the

    source of the material

    You may not, except with our express written permission,

    distribute or commercially exploit the content. Nor may you

    transmit it or store it in any other website or other form of

    electronic retrieval system.

    This eBook was created and compiled by

    One Awesome Social Media Company Inc.

    www.oneawesomecompany.com

    128FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Cheer up! Remember today is the tomorrow you worried about

    yesterday.

    Last weeks schedule was heavy. But God has blessed each

    one.

    And now its a brand new week and it starts with this

    wonderful day.

    You cannot serve two masters. Either you serve God or you

    serve money and the worst of them all is when people serve

    money and uses God as an excuse for his or her greedy heart.

    Stay away from these people. They misrepresent the Name

    they profess.

    Love is a command, not just a feeling. Somehow, in the

    romantic world of music and theater we have made love to be

    what it is not. We have so mixed it with beauty and charm and

    sensuality and contact that we have robbed it of its higher call

    of cherishing and nurturing. This statement from Ravi

    Zacharias should be understood by the young and old alike.

    I spoke to more than 300 college students yesterday. Ran out of

    time and the kids were all wonderful.

    What drives you? What keeps you? What is the purpose and

    meaning behind what you do?

    These are questions we all need to answer. You and I need to

    be Purpose-Driven and not Pera-Driven. God has not called us

    to be successful. God has called us to be faithful.

    Have you ever met people who insist on being right even

    though he or she is clearly in the wrong? They are so

    despicable arent they?

    Humility is not in them and their pride and stubbornness is just

    a disguise for their insecurity. You and I cannot be right all the

    time. Only God is. And this is why we need to be willing to

    accept correction.

    Here is a worthy saying: There is something wrong with you

    if you insist on being right all the time.

    129FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Cant wait to speak tonight in Waterfront Hotel Cebu. This is

    what I have been called to do and this is what delights me

    every time I do it.

    Any man or woman who has a sense of calling and destiny

    finds joy, meaning and fulfillment in his or her labor. And they

    can hardly be stopped.

    A heart that is not settled on The Lord will always settle for

    something or someone else. How much of God is there in your

    life? Is God just an 8am service in your day? Maybe 10? 12?

    Let God rule in your heart every moment and yes..dont

    forget to go to church.

    Let me try to impress you with the following words I will use.

    Now listen to this carefully and figure out if you can decipher

    it. Here goes:

    In promulgating your esoteric cogitation or articulating your

    superficial sentimentalities, and amicable philosophical or

    psychological observations, beware of platitudinous

    ponderosity.

    Let your conversational communications possess a compacted

    conciseness, a clarified comprehensibility, a coalescent

    cogency, and a concatenated consistency.

    Eschew obfuscation and all conglomeration of flatulent

    garrulity, jejune babblement, and asinine affectations. Let your

    extemporaneous descanting and unpremeditated expatiation

    have intelligibility and voracious vivacity without

    rodomontade or thrasonical bombast.

    Sedulously avoid all polysyllabic profundity, pompous

    prolificacy, and vain vapid verbosity.

    Sounds Greek to you? You bet. Now lets simplify it. With all

    the words I said, it simply means in short: Be brief and dont

    use big words.

    I have been asked this question frequently. Francis, as a public

    speaker what tips could you give me to improve my speech?

    I have also experienced being invited to an event. And then the

    guest of honor arrives late, destroys the whole program, sends

    the organizers into a state of panic and then advised me that

    my original talk of 45 minutes will now have to be delivered in

    10 minutes. Isnt that frustrating? But these are the realities of

    life.

    130FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • If you want my advice allow me to offer them to you. Well, I

    wont pretend to be an expert but there are 2 strong ideas

    regarding public speaking and here they are: Make sure you

    have finished speaking before your audience has finished

    listening, says Dorothy Sarnoff. In other words, do not bore

    them to death.

    Constantly talking isnt necessarily communicating. Make

    sure that you are giving out words that would benefit the

    audience and not yourself. Learn to use an economy of words

    to deliver a profound message.

    The famous motivational speaker Denis Waitley says only a

    mere 3,000 words separate the winners from the losers and so

    the moment you increase your vocabulary arsenal you

    automatically increase your intelligent quotient.

    Consider these:

    - Pythagorean theorem: 24 words

    - The Lords Prayer: 66 words.

    - Archimedes Principle: 67 words.

    - The 10 Commandments: 179 words.

    - Lincolns Gettysburg address: 286 words.

    - The U.S. Declaration of Independence: 1,300 words.

    - The U.S. Government regulations on the sale of cabbage:

    26,911 words.

    Maybe what this means is that the lesser the words, the more

    efficient things are? I really dont know.

    SAY IT WITH FEWER WORDS is an article written by

    Patricia Fripp. It deals with communications. Patricia says:

    Youve got a great, major presentation, and suddenly youre

    asked if you can get your message across in five minutes!

    Dont panic. For todays television generation, sound bites can

    be more powerful than lengthy dissertations. Heres how to

    compress your speech without losing impact.

    1. Dont apologize or mention that you usually have much

    more time. Be confident that you can communicate in five

    minutes.

    2. Begin fast. Start with an attention-getting statement such as,

    Your job wont exist five years from now, or In the next 5

    minutes I want to convince you the best action you can take

    is

    3. Use a strongly visual story. Illustrate your points how it is

    now, how it will or could be with a story so vivid that the

    audience can see it.

    4. Divide your 5 minutes into three parts. Present a problem, a

    payoff, and your point of view: The number one piece of

    advice I can give you today is, your story illustrates your

    idea and your walk away line could be what will happen if they

    do what you suggest!

    Ever wondered why Jesus spoke so few words yet the lessons

    are so profound they outlast time? Thats how it is done. So

    learn from the Master Himself.

    131FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • The main factor that separates the good from the great is the

    heart factor. If you cannot do great things, do small things in a

    great way. The difference between the ordinary and the

    extraordinary is that little extra. Put your heart into it.

    Off to Baguio today and prepare to speak to the business

    community tomorrow.

    One of the greatest perks of my life is to meet new people. The

    downside of this is that it is extremely hard for me to

    remember names and faces. I guess when you meet hundreds

    of people every week, you just have to cope. But I learn from

    them in every encounter and this is such a great bonus for me!

    Make each day a learning day!

    Dont feel entitled to anything you didnt sweat and struggle

    for says Marian Wright Edelman. The person who bullies his

    or her way to obtain an advantage is a cheat and a loser. Same

    thing for people who grab the credit and the account from

    others. They close their own doors for future opportunities.

    A Swedish proverb says: The best place to find a helping hand

    is at the end of your own arm.

    Some people are so dependent on others they even allowed

    others to do the thinking for them. Learn to be self-reliant.

    Have faith in God but do hard work to achieve great things.

    There is one common thing with people who fail in life, career,

    business or marriage and family. They fail because of their

    pride, ego and unwillingness to accept correction. Humility is

    key virtue needed for success.

    I like what management expert Ken Blanchard says when he

    said: EGO in the negative means Edging God Out when the

    right kind of ego means Exalt God Only.

    The world would be a better place if only humility and not ego

    reigns.

    Here is a great lesson I have learned. When great men fell they

    fell not because of their weaknesses but they fell in the area

    132FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • of their strengths. This is why we need to surrender our

    strength and abilities to God who gave it to us in the first place.

    This gives us the humility to experience long term sustainable

    success.

    The dangers to a mans fall is unguarded strength and untamed

    passions. Watch yours.carefully!!!

    Gods Word and Gods laws are intended for our pleasure.

    Doing things His way brings us perpetual novelty. Do what is

    right, pure and godly. You would not want to go to the dark

    side. Go to church today and be refreshed!

    What does it take to be healthy and to stay healthy? Answer?

    Self-discipline.

    One businessman said: I joined a health club last year, spent

    about Twelve thousand Pesos. Havent lost a pound.

    Apparently, you have to show up.

    Another one rationalizes: I dont exercise at all. If God meant

    us to touch our toes, he would have put them further up our

    body.

    One stoic looking person thought long and hard and came up

    with this conclusion: The advantage of exercising every day is

    that you die healthier.

    Another person says: I like long walks, especially when they

    are taken by people who annoy me.

    And this is my personal favorite: My grandmother started

    walking five miles a day when she was 60. Shes 97 now, and

    we dont know where the heck she is.

    It takes an enormous amount of self-discipline to stay healthy.

    While I get to be invited to speak on vital life issues and

    principles on how to be successful in business and in

    professional life, I would not forget to mention that once health

    is neglected and sickness comes then everything weve worked

    for amount to very little.

    One wealthy businessman says: I can assure you that there is

    no glamour in a 14 karat golden bedpan.

    Last year The Ilocana and I made a tour of 12 European cities

    and I had the privilege to speak to more than 5000 Filipinos

    courtesy of Filinvest Sales International. It was memorable

    experience for us both. I experience the warmth, the hospitality

    and most importantly the hunger of our people to learn.

    That was 15 months ago. This time we were invited back. My

    first speaking assignment was to train the leaders of this

    organization and the event was held in the lovely city of

    Prague. And then we proceeded to Paris, Brussels and London

    133FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • to do the public events where almost a thousand people

    attended.

    What a joy it is to see familiar faces that journeyed with us last

    year as I spoke to our OFW community, embassy officials and

    community leaders. After pleasantries were exchanged and the

    never ending photo sessions concluded, I saw a need that made

    me change a major part of my lesson and shifted to a lot of talk

    and tips on how to keep ones self healthy.

    Its amazing what a difference a year makes. Many of these

    talented leaders are successful. Their income has increased,

    their targets reached and are excited to achieve even more but

    it takes someone from the outside like me to see them 15

    months later to notice the additional weight they have

    accumulated over that short period of time.

    This time I taught on how important mind, body, soul and

    spiritual health development are all integral towards ones

    quest for success. And I seriously emphasized the need to be

    healthy and to stay healthy.

    People ask me where I get the energy to do more than 330 talks

    in a year. Well its no secret. I watch what I eat. I exercise. I

    take in a lot of vitamins and with the grace of God maintain a

    healthy lifestyle. Health is now a priority in my life. I have

    endorsed a shoe brand, I have endorsed a luggage brand and I

    have endorsed a technology shop and lately (with permission

    to mention) I have endorsed Conzace a multi-vitamin brand

    that offers enough amount of Zinc as a vital part ingredient for

    nutrition. I am more determined to promote health and

    wellness these days because health is an investment we need to

    make and we cant afford to lose.

    The good thing about all these is that these leaders in Europe

    are serious in learning and they have committed to lose their

    weight and stay healthy. Even before the event finished, they

    have committed to run their own version of The Biggest

    Losers Program and apart form just gaining sales and hitting

    targets, this time they will hit another target which is by losing

    weight and I have no doubt that should I get to meet them

    again next year, they would all have turned healthier, better

    looking, trim, fit and achieving more than they could have ever

    imagined.

    Meanwhile, you and I put on our exercise gears, take a lot of

    vitamins and nutritional products, eat right and make this God-

    given life productive.

    There is a thin line between being persistent and being

    stubborn. You may be optimistic but if you are not realistic

    then you will make a wrong decision. Check your heart

    motives.

    To be debt free is good and financial independence should be

    understood in a better way. If money is your hope for

    134FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • independence, you will never have it.

    The only real security that a man can have in this world is a

    reserve of knowledge, experience and ability. says Henry Ford

    If you want to feel rich, just count the things money cant buy.

    This is a very timely reminder for me: A Brilliant Mind is

    useless without a Humble Heart. You make an IMPRESSION

    with what you SAY but you make an IMPACT with what you

    DO.

    Somebody says: Some people choose to focus on pain, misery

    and despair while others focus on joy, happiness and

    possibilities? This is why some people live and stay in the past

    while others are excited about the future. This is the power of

    attitude. Life is not what happens. Its how you take it.

    Have you ever been under a boss who acted more like a jerk

    than a leader? Have you ever resigned from your job simply

    because you could not stand your boss?

    Jerks like these do a lot more damage to the business because

    they drive away their assets. Find a way to have them trained

    for leadership skills. Respect them still but make sure you

    never become like them one day.

    Most people think that their lives would improve if they could

    get a little from those who have more.

    How much better could it be if only the same people could

    learn a little from those who know more.

    On the outskirts of town, there was a big old pecan tree by the

    cemetery fence. One day two boys filled up a bucket with

    pecans and sat down by the tree, out of sight, and began

    dividing the nuts.

    One for you, and one for me. One for you, one for me, said

    one boy. Several were dropped and rolled down toward the

    fence.

    Another boy came riding along the road on his bicycle. As he

    passed, he thought he heard voices from inside the cemetery.

    He slowed down to investigate.

    Sure enough, he heard, One for you, one for me. One for you,

    one for me.

    He just knew what it was. Oh my, he shuddered, Its Satan

    and the Lord dividing the souls at the cemetery.

    135FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • He jumped back on his bike and rode off. Just around the bend

    he met an old man with a cane, hobbling along.

    Come here quick, said the boy, You wont believe what I

    just heard. Satan and the Lord are down at the cemetery

    dividing up souls.

    The man said. Beat it, kid, cant you see its hard for me to

    walk?

    When the boy insisted, the man hobbled to the cemetery.

    Standing by the fence they heard, One for you, one for me.

    One for you, one for me.

    The old man whispered, Boy, youve been tellin the truth!

    Lets see the devil himself.

    Shaking with fear, they peered through the fence, yet were still

    unable to see anything. The old man and the boy gripped the

    wrought iron bars of the fence tighter and tighter as they tried

    to get a glimpse of Satan.

    At last they heard, One for you, one for me. And one last one

    for you. Thats all. Now lets go get those nuts by the fence,

    and well be done.

    They say the old guy made it back to town 5 minutes before

    the boy.

    Are you afraid of ghosts? Dont be. Be afraid of men rather

    than ghosts.

    Ive been fooled, swindled, cheated, deceived and taken

    advantage of by men but never by ghosts.

    My Bible tells me to resist even the Devil himself and he will

    flee from me. It's human beings we need to be careful about.

    Halloween is coming. I dont exactly like it.

    Movies, television and cable stations begin to show all those

    creepy, scary and mindless little movies about ghosts and

    monsters scaring the living daylights out of our kids and

    messing up proper theology. Having fun in one thing but to

    begin to espouse a certain kind of belief because of it is

    another.

    Here is a short discourse on its source and history.

    A long time ago, the ancient pagan Druids of Great Britain

    began their year on the first day of November. On the eve of

    the last day of the year the ghosts, the spirits and the witches

    were supposed to have had their last fling of the year. And the

    Druids built bonfires to scare them away. The Roman Catholic

    Church, in the 700s, set aside the first day of November for

    honoring all saints. It was called All Saints Day. The evening

    before became known as All Hallows Eve. Thus the custom

    of the pagans and the celebration of the church were combined

    into the holiday we now call Halloween, and its celebrated on

    the 31st day of October.

    136FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • The children of Scotland were the first to use jack-o-lanterns.

    And the Irish started the custom of going from house to house

    to ask for food and money. But it was the Americans who

    originated the playing of pranks. If given a treat, thered be no

    trick. Their cry was, Trick or treat! And Filipinos, the

    perennial copycats that we are celebrate Halloween too without

    understanding.

    What bothers me is the theology behind. The Bible says that it

    is appointed for man to die once and then comes immediately,

    the judgment. So its either the eternal microwave oven or

    eternal presence with the Lord Jesus Christ. No in-between-

    creatures.

    And this is why Im not afraid of ghosts. Its really the men I

    did business with that scared me. Funny but when I get around

    to think deeper on this. It just occurs to me that they look

    scarier than the ghosts too. Especially when theyre cheating in

    business. Trick or treat?

    Pleasing God is the most exhilarating experience of them all.

    This is what worship is all about. Go to church today and start

    this week refreshed. There is nothing better and more

    important than having an intimate one-on-one relationship with

    Jesus Christ.

    A poor man can be happy; but a happy man isnt poor. Start

    this day and the rest of the week with this thought.

    When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often

    we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one

    which has been opened for us. says Helen Keller.

    If I look back today, the good things I now enjoy are the

    byproducts of the challenges I endured. Stick to God and stick

    to good and He delivers.

    Watch out for temptations. When something carries the

    potential to destroy us it always looks beautiful. And when we

    have bitten the forbidden fruit thats when sin rears its ugly

    head. Think of the consequences of our actions. The words

    Bahala na has destroyed countless lives and many have not

    yet learned.

    Flight to Butuan cancelled. Frustrating not for me but for the

    delegates awaiting. Realities of life. Bad weather conditions

    137FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • but I would rather be down here feeling a little bit frustrated

    than to be up there rolling in turbulence.

    Life is not what happens, its how we take it. God always has a

    better plan.

    Cant wait to be with the mechanical engineers in their

    convention tomorrow morning and cant wait to speak to the

    men of Alliance tomorrow evening.

    Each day is a gift from God and I love to make the best of it

    for His sake.

    What if? Worrying about the future.

    If only Words worrying about the past.

    Meanwhile we let the most important resource slip out of our

    hands the Present.

    God is in the details. This is why He feeds the birds.

    Put your trust in Him and carry the power to live one day at a

    time.

    Here we go again.all the media hype about ghosts and

    supernatural things as Halloween approaches.

    Do not be afraid of ghosts. Be fearful of people who are

    dishonest. I have never heard of ghosts who are corrupt but I

    have heard of ghost projects. There are people who do more

    harm to others than ghost. Can you think of one?

    There is no fellowship between light and darkness. Right and

    wrong cannot co-exist and if it does is called compromise.

    Be honest. Be truthful and do not stand unrighteousness.

    Choose what is right all the time. This builds character and

    leads to long term sustainable success.

    This is a great piece of advice. somebody says:

    First I was dying to finish high school & start college.

    & then I was dying to finish college & start working.

    & then I was dying to marry & have children.

    & then I was dying for my children to grow old, & finish

    school.

    & then I was dying to retire.

    & now, I am dying

    & suddenly I realized, I FORGOT TO LIVE

    Each day is a gift from God. Live it well.

    138FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Heres my question.

    How does an ordinary man become an extraordinary person?

    ORINARY MEN BECOMES EXTRAORDINARY WHEN

    THEY UNDERSTAND THE RIGHT PRIORITIES, AND

    WORK ON THEM. [1]

    There are extraordinarily good people and then again there are

    extraordinarily people who are evil too.

    In a book entitled Ordinary Men authored by historian

    Christopher Browning touching on Holocaust, one critic said:

    The most frightening aspect of Brownings book is the

    knowledge it conveys to us that it was not a few brutes, but

    many good and ordinary men, who committed murder for

    Hitler.

    One might think that the men who engineered such atrocities

    were somehow of a different breed, perhaps genetically

    predisposed or psychologically imbalanced. I do not mean to

    mitigate the power of false beliefs or influence of a mob

    mentality, yet I cannot escape the fact that those capable of

    such ghastly acts against millions of people were, by all

    accounts, ordinary men.

    Malcolm Muldgridge, perhaps considered as one of the most

    respected Christian with a brilliant mind of the 20th century

    tells us his own story.

    It is a story of a time when he was a journalist in India, and left

    his residence one evening to go for a swim. As he entered the

    water, across the river he saw a woman bathing. Muldgridge

    impulsively felt the allure and temptation of the moment. He

    had often felt this kind of struggle but had resisted because he

    was a married man.

    On this occasion, however, he wondered if he could cross the

    line of his conscience, and swam furiously toward the woman.

    His mind fed him the fantasy that stolen waters would be

    sweet.

    Finally only a few feet away from her, he emerged from the

    water and looked at the woman. At once he realized that he

    was looking into the eyes of a leper a toothless old woman

    was grinning at him. He was gripped with disgust and thought,

    What a dirty lecherous woman! when suddenly the rude

    shock of it dawned upon him. It was not the woman who was

    lecherous; it was his own heart.

    Jeremiah says it correctly. In the Bible the prophet says the

    heart of man is deceitfully and hopelessly wicked. This is why

    ordinary people become extraordinarily evil.

    How then can an ordinary person turn out to be an extra-

    ordinary servant of God?

    139FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Let me tell you how. When that person understands priorities.

    Let me give you a list of it.

    In our relationship with God:

    1. Its Worship before Work

    2. Attitude before Activity

    3. Its being Gods Son before being Gods Servant

    4. Enjoyment of God before Enduring for God

    5. Being before Doing

    6. Obedience before Sacrifice

    7. Fruit of the Spirit before Gifts of the Spirit

    In our prayer life and bible study:

    1. Listening to God before Asking from God

    2. Gods Word before Tradition of men

    3. Spirit of the Word before Letter of the Word

    4. Facts before Feelings

    5. Heart before Head

    In our work for God:

    1.Gods will before our desires

    2. Holiness before Evangelism

    3. Making Disciples before Getting members

    4. Teaching before Socializing

    5. Quality before Quantity

    6. Motive comes before Methods

    7. Faithfulness comes before Success

    8. Prayer comes before Planning

    9. Faith comes before Logic

    In Our Life With Others:

    1. Forgiving comes before Correcting.

    2. Contributing to others comes before Competing with Others.

    3. Humility towards others comes before Authority over

    Others.

    4. Gentleness comes before Firmness with Others.

    5. Relationship comes before Organization.

    6. Appreciation comes before Judging Others.

    Perhaps just like me, you need only to look as far as your own

    life to see that your heart is bent on following its own devices

    and falls short of what God intends.

    But God stands ready to forgive sin and offer new life for those

    who honestly seek Him. He has the power to change ordinary

    men into becoming extraordinary beings provided we know the

    priorities.[2]

    By the way, the difference between ordinary and

    extraordinary is that little extra.

    Victor Hugo says: The future has several names. For the

    weak, it is the impossible. For the fainthearted, it is the

    140FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • unknown. For the thoughtful and valiant, it is ideal.

    The future always looks bright for me because I know that God

    has a plan for me a plan for success and not calamity but I

    need to align my actions with His will in order for this to

    happen.

    Look at today as valiant and the rest of the week as ideal

    and the rest of your life as Fulfilled!

    What we know limits what we can imagine. Be wary of the

    experts in your work place. They have a position to guard.

    Young kids dont.

    Do not presume to be an expert. Always have a beginners

    mind.

    I am currently being offered a wonderful opportunity to

    communicate. Technically, I have never done this before but I

    am so excited with the challenge. Gives me another

    opportunity to stretch and learn. Stretch and learn this should

    be the way to level up!

    For some people, their lifestyle is really a deathstyle.

    They are so absorbed with style they forget to work on the

    substance. They live on debt, they wear signature clothes and

    accessories they cannot afford it.

    Be real. Be authentic. Be simple. Be frugal. Be wise.

    141FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Francis J. Kong is:

    President of Success Options Publishing Company

    President of FunWorks Inc. a member of the Canadian based Mad Science International Group, the worlds number

    one (1) Science educational-entertainment program provider

    for kids.

    Founding member and Director of Inspire Leadership Consultancy

    Francis has extensive work experiences in manufacturing and

    retail as he help founded a popular clothing company and ran a

    retail chain for many years.

    You can hear him in his daily Radio Program Business

    Matters which was given a Year 2007 special citation by the

    Catholic Mass Media Awards.

    You can read him through his Saturday and Sunday column of

    the Business Page of the Philippine Star.

    You can see him as he regularly guests every Monday and

    Thursday morning at the popular morning show Umagang Kay

    Ganda.

    He has been featured in many of the major business

    conventions and conferences both here and abroad.

    Francis is co-recipient of the Anvil Award for Excellence for the staging of the Dr. John Maxwell Leadership Seminar

    Series.

    Recipient of the Year 2006 Gold Quill Philippines Award of merit for Public Speech category sponsored by The

    International Association of Business Communicators.

    Recipient of 2008 Dr. Jose Rizal Award for Excellence in the field of Journalism.

    Francis has been trained and licensed by Maximum Impact of

    Atlanta Georgia to do the Maxwell leadership programs. He is

    also Trained and licensed by The Ziglar Corporation in London

    to do the Ziglar Sales and Presentation programs.

    142FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • He is an author of 14 books:

    His book One Day at a Time has been given a most favorable review by Channel NewsAsia of Singapore.

    His book The Early Bird Catches the Worm: is now translated into the Korean language.

    Francis is married to the former Lilia Nolasco and has three

    children: Bryan 26, Hannah 22 and Rachel 17.

    For more inspiring words from Francis J. Kong, please visit his

    personal blog at http://www.franciskong.com.

    143FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • INSPIRING EXCELLENCEFRANCISKONG.COM

    NOVEMBER 2012

  • A compilation of post from the personal blog of

    F r a n c i s J. K o n gfor the month of November, 2012.

    This eBook and its content is copyright of Francis J. Kong -

    Francis J. Kong, 2012. All rights reserved.

    Any redistribution or reproduction of part or all of the contents

    in any form is prohibited other than the following:

    you may print or download to a local hard disk extracts for your personal and non-commercial use only

    you may copy the content to individual third parties for their personal use, but only if you acknowledge the website as the

    source of the material

    You may not, except with our express written permission,

    distribute or commercially exploit the content. Nor may you

    transmit it or store it in any other website or other form of

    electronic retrieval system.

    This eBook was created and compiled by

    One Awesome Social Media Company Inc.

    www.oneawesomecompany.com

    145FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • The living dead and the zombies I see do not make their

    dwelling in cemeteries, many of them are behind their office

    desks.

    And there are bosses who act more like jerks and vampires

    who suck the lifeblood out of their people. Halloween exists

    every day in many work places. Do you agree?

    This is why training is necessary.

    Today is a luxury for me. I have time to prepare my materials

    for the radio, script for TV and the preparation for my once-a-

    year BIG EVENT for March 1 next year. Ive got great new

    lessons & great speakers to inspire people to become better and

    achieve success.

    It takes a lot of time to prepare for a good thing. And the

    preparation for me is everyday, holidays included.

    Somebody says, I put a mirror on my TV set. I wanted to see

    what my family looked like.

    These days are best spent with the family and to reflect on

    what is important. Every family tree always produces nuts. So

    enjoy each others differences and express love in the strongest

    way possible. Do not let these days go to waste.

    The real content of the heart is shown during the times

    prosperity. When we are poor we are humble. When we

    prosper we may become different. This is why we need to

    prepare our hearts even before we prosper.

    If the heart is right, even when things go wrong they will turn

    out right but if the heart is wrong, even the good things done

    will become wrong. The heart of the problem is the problem of

    the heart.

    But we immediately changed our minds the moment we heard

    of yet another shooting. A smiling kid enters his school, pulled

    out a gun and methodically shot his friends and classmates.

    Why? Whats happening to the young people in the world

    today?

    There are 2 constants in life. Most people would say that the 2

    constants in life are death and taxes. And they are right but

    allow me to make a twist out of this clich. The 2 constants in

    life is not just death and taxes, the two constants in life is that

    there is a God and you are not Him.

    146FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • But going back to the other 2 constants. Death and taxes. In my

    mind it simply means undertakers and tax collectors would

    have to classify in this category too. Death and taxes.

    Undertakers and tax collectors, they make quite a pair.

    It makes me wonder what Jesus saw in Matthew. A tax

    collector. A scum of the earth. Despised and hated by his

    fellow Jews because collectors during those times could pocket

    as much as they can after they have fulfilled their quotas for

    the Roman government.

    People ducked when they saw collectors coming. Not only

    was Matthew a tax collector, he was a public tax collector.

    Some collectors did their business underground. They hired

    runners to do their dirty work Matthew did his own.. He was

    the leech at the bottom of the pit. He pulled his top of the line

    Super Saloon Limousine right into the busiest commercial

    districts, set up his table and held out his hand. And thats when

    Jesus called him.

    HRD practitioners all over the world would shake their heads

    in unbelief. How can anyone decide to recruit a tax collector to

    do the work of evangelism?

    But on the other hand, you have to wonder what Jesus saw in

    Matthew. Look at him. Dirt under his nails. Callused hands.

    Holes in his sandals. No headquarters. No office. No

    committee. No clout with the local church.

    The clergy wont give him the time of day His followers look

    more like porters in a harbor or pool sharks than seminarians.

    And thats nothing. Imagine this carpenter claiming to be the

    Messiah?

    Quite a pair, these two. You have to wonder what they saw in

    each other. whatever it was, it mustve been something.

    Matthew heard the call and never went back. He spent the rest

    of his life convincing folks that the carpenter was the King.

    Jesus gave the call and never took it back. He spent his life

    dying for people like Matthew, convincing a lot of us that if he

    had a place for Matthew, he just might have a place for us.

    Quite a pair, Jesus & Matthew.

    These keen observations from Max Lucado made me think. As

    I flipped over the pages of his Inspirational bible, I smiled to

    myself. Matthew was the scum of the earth, he exhibited his

    mischief publicly. Crude. No finesse. So unlike me.

    While Matthew was the scum of the earth I was the toast of the

    town. Young, ambitious, graduated top of the school and

    rubbing elbows with models and celebrities. Matthew did his

    atrocity in public, I did it in private.

    Cheated on my wife, cheated on practically every business

    deals I entered into. Bought my business friends and corrupted

    them in the process. But thats the way of the world I reasoned

    and I guess I was right.

    But something happened some 20 plus years ago. This

    underground scum of the earth met the Lord Jesus Christ and

    147FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • has been His since then. Theres a marked difference between

    Matthew, the tax collector and me. Matthew responded to the

    call when the human hands of the carpenter called him. This

    criminal in his executive suit responded in faith to the

    Resurrected Christ.

    Matthew and Jesus. Francis and the Risen Christ. They sure

    make quite a pair.

    Youll do quite all right so be in Him too.

    Do not be disappointed when people shoot down your ideas.

    The biggest person with the biggest ideas can be shot down by

    the smallest person with the smallest mind. Think big anyway.

    Who is a faultfinder? A faultfinder is a person with a bad

    memory who never remembers the good, or a person with a

    good memory who always remembers the bad. Do you know of

    anyone in your life who is like this?

    Be a good-finder. And make this world a better place.

    Beware of a manipulator: he shakes your hand one minute and

    pulls your leg the next.

    Beware the opportunist: he has no use for people he cannot

    use.

    Avoid people like these but more importantly make sure we do

    not become like them. Be kind. Serve and always do good

    without expectations of rewards for there is One who will.

    Make this day productive!

    There is a big difference between praise and flattery. Praising

    comes from an honest and humble heart. Flattering comes from

    deceitful and a defective heart. This is why Wendell Philips

    says: Many men know how to flatter. Few men know how to

    praise. Check the heart motive at all times for after all, God

    sees the heart.

    I have an observation: no matter how rich, powerful, brilliant

    or influential a person is, that person cannot escape the fact

    that he or she has a God appetite within.

    Its a beautiful day. Pray, go to church and be in intimate in

    fellowship with Him.

    Modern day computer generated graphics and animation are

    really magnificent things to behold. Even cartoons today

    148FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • impress us with their marvelous technological advances not

    only in the movies but in home entertainment and video games

    as well. This is why Max Lucados story in his book entitled

    God Came Near could propel us to one of those funny

    computer animated cartoons in our imagination as he tells us

    the story of the 4 candles. Let me share it with you. Lucado

    says:

    A few nights ago a peculiar thing happened. An electrical

    storm caused a blackout in our neighborhood. When the lights

    went out, I felt my way through the darkness into the storage

    closet where we keep the candles for nights like thisI took

    my match and lit four of them

    I was turning to leave with the large candle in my hand when I

    heard a voice. Now, hold it right there.

    Who said that?

    I did. The voice was near my hand.

    Who are you? What are you?

    Im a candle.

    I lifted up the candle to take a closer look. You wont believe

    what I saw. There was a tiny face in the wax.a moving,

    functioning, flesh like face full of expression and life.

    Dont take me out of here!

    What?

    I said, dont take me out of this room!

    What do you mean? I have to take you out. Youre a candle.

    Your job is to give light. Its dark out there.

    But you cant take me out. Im not ready, the candle

    explained with pleading eyes, I need more preparation.

    I couldnt believe my ears. More preparation?

    Yeah, Ive decided I need to research this job of light-giving

    so I wont go out and make a bunch of mistakes. Youd be

    surprised how distorted the glow of an untrained candle can

    be..

    All right then, I said. Youre not the only candle on the

    shelf. Ill blow you out and take the others! But just as I got

    my cheeks full of air, I heard other voices.

    We arent going either!

    .I turned around and looked at the three other

    candles.You are candles and your job is to light dark

    places!

    149FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Well, that may be what you think. Said the candle on the far

    leftYou may think we have to go, but Im

    busy.Im meditating on the importance of light. Its

    really, wellvery enlightening..

    And you other two, I asked, are you going to stay in here as

    well?

    A short, fat, purple candle with plump cheeks that reminded

    me of Santa Claus spoke up. Im waiting to get my life

    together. Im not stable enough.

    The last candle had a female voice, very pleasant to the ear.

    Id like to help, she explained. but lighting the darkness is

    not my gift..Im a singer. I sing to other candles to

    encourage them to burn more brightly.

    she began a rendition of This Little Light of

    Mine.the other three joined in, filling the storage room

    with singingI took a step back and considered the

    absurdity of it all. Four perfectly healthy candles singing to

    each other about light but refusing to come out of the closet.[1]

    One thing I like with Lucado is that he uses words and pictures

    to make you see. But I guess youre beginning to get the point

    arent you?

    So many reasons, so many excuses yet instead of Christians

    who are called to be light of the world go out there and show

    light and warmth you have them bunched together worrying

    about their own petty little things, confined in their petty little

    worlds.

    Let me add 4 more candles I know:

    The first is the Legalist candle. They dont want to do their

    jobs because according to them, the world deserves their

    darkness. Let judgement come to them. The second is the

    Scholar candle spends most of his time in the library poring

    over voluminous books. Still understanding the true meaning

    of darkness in Greek and Hebrew. The third is the Talented

    candle She sings only to a select crowd. Her favorite songs

    are: You light up my life and Come On Baby Light My

    Fire.. And then there is the Gracious candle He lets his

    life be burned and used up to bring light to a dark and cold

    world.

    Question: When was the last time you presented the gospel to

    someone? Are you scared to be the light-giver that God has

    created you to be? Pray today that God would bring you

    opportunities to share your faith and give you the courage to

    take them. Now step out in faith and keep your eyes open!

    So let your light so shine so that the world may see your good

    deeds and glorify god who is in heaven.

    An egotist talks to you about himself, a gossip talks to you

    about others, and a brilliant conversationalist talks to you about

    you.

    150FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Talk to your people today but let them talk about themselves

    and you genuinely listen. Make this the theme of this week and

    you will be surprised at how much you could learn.

    "Whats the difference between crime and politics? In crime,

    you take the money and run

    I hope that this time, the elected officials will be people of

    honor and integrity and most importantly, people who

    genuinely love our country dont you? I do.

    Somebody asked me: Francis, how much time do you set

    aside for study?

    I thought about it and I guess this is really how it is: I study

    all the time and the few times that I do not I am doing

    something else..

    Life lessons never cease. We just need to observe and absorb.

    The worst thing about history is that every time it repeats itself

    the price goes up. And now its Php12 Billion and counting!

    So victimized by scams and Ponzi schemes. The recent one is

    terrible. My heart goes out for them. Why do things like these

    keep on repeating? Please give me your thoughts and opinions.

    Some people pay their bills when due, some when overdue,

    and some never do. Fulfill obligations. Protect the name. Its

    more precious that gold and silver.

    A church is a hospital for sinners, not a museum for saints.

    says L. L. Nash. Dont go to church today if you think youre

    perfect. You should be crucified instead. Go and be refreshed.

    Start this week by being positive. Dont worry too much about

    people who keep on slandering. If you are not noticed then you

    are not efficient. Remember: When you are being kicked from

    behind, it means you are in front of the pack.

    Henry Ford says: It has been my observation that most people

    get ahead during the time that others waste. Spend your time

    learning. Be productive. This is wealth management.

    Weve had bad times. Some of us still are.

    151FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Tough times? Say this:

    This is temporary. Rock bottom? No way else to go but up.

    Trust God to get you through. Never give up hope.

    Today marks my 301st talk for the year. I love what I do and

    do what I love. This is why work is never work for me. Do not

    do what you love but learn to love what you do.

    "A friendship founded on business is better than a business

    founded on friendship says John D Rockefeller. So be careful.

    Many a friendship has been betrayed because of business. Do

    you know of any?

    If you want something youve never had, you need to do

    something youve never done. You cannot have a different

    result when you keep on doing the same things. Choose to

    change.

    Every blessing is a test on our character while every test is a

    blessing in disguise. When we have challenges, lessons are

    being taught, when we have blessings, we need to stay humble

    and give credit to God. Tests and Blessings. They form who we

    are and what we become.

    What are the things you keep? Some people collect coins, other

    stamps. And then there are those who keep their baseball or

    NBA cards. We never know. But the question I want ask you is

    this. What do you keep?

    Heres a touching article written by an unknown author

    entitled: Some Things You Keep. Listen to this carefully.

    Some things you keep. Like good teeth. Warm coats. Bald

    husbands.

    Theyre good for you, reliable and practical and so sublime

    that to throw them away would make the garbage man a thief.

    So you hang on, because something old is sometimes better

    than something new, and what you know is often better than a

    stranger. These are my thoughts.

    They make me sound old, old and tame, and dull at a time

    when everybody else is risky and racy and flashing all thats

    new and improved in their lives. New careers, new thighs, new

    lips, new cars. The world is dizzy with trade-ins. I could keep

    track, but I dont think I want to.

    I grew up in the fifties with practical parents -a mother, God

    bless her, who washed aluminum foil after she cooked in it,

    152FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • then reused it and still does.

    A father who was happier getting old shoes fixed than buying

    new ones. They werent poor, my parents, they were just

    satisfied. Their marriage was good, their dreams focused. Their

    best friends lived barely a wave away. I can see them now, Dad

    in trousers and tee shirt and Mom in a housedress, lawn mower

    in ones hand, dishtowel in the others. It was a time for fixing

    things a curtain rod, the kitchen radio, screen door, the oven

    door, the hem in a dress.

    Things you keep. It was a way of life, and sometimes it made

    me crazy. All that refixing, reheating, renewing, I wanted just

    once to be wasteful. Waste meant affluence. Throwing things

    away meant thered always be more. But then my father died,

    and on that clear autumn night, in the chill of the hospital

    room, I was struck with the pain of learning that sometimes

    there isnt any more. Sometimes what you care about most

    gets all used up and goes away, never to return.

    So, while you have it, its best to love it and care for it and fix

    it when its broken and heal it when its sick. Thats true for

    marriage and old cars and children with bad report cards and

    dogs with bad hips and aging parents. You keep them because

    theyre worth it; because youre worth it.

    Some things you keep. Like a best friend that moved away or a

    classmate you grew up with, there are just some things that

    make life important. people you know are special. and

    you KEEP them close!

    End of article.

    And so, back to the question. What are the things you keep?

    Money in a bank? That magnificent piece of diamond you

    bought from Tiffanys? Not necessarily bad but not very

    important either. Theyre just expensive but theyre not

    important.

    What I would like to keep is friendship with people. Id like to

    keep those precious moments our small group share once a

    week when we would just take time out, sit in one of those

    coffee shops, discuss important issues in life, share Gods Word

    and have a good time.

    Id like to keep those precious memories of my kids growing

    up, those days I started courting my high school sweetheart

    who would one day turn out to be the mother of my kids.

    Id like to keep the company of those wonderful church folks I

    mingle with.

    These are the things I like to keep but most importantly, I

    would really love to keep my love for God growing stronger

    and stronger every day.

    I would like to keep my pledge of faithfulness to my wife and

    keep my promise to my kids that they do not have to be afraid

    that one day their dad will no longer go home.

    153FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Let me tell you a story.

    Joeys teacher sent a note home to his Mother saying, Joey

    seems to be a very bright boy, but spends too much of his time

    thinking about girls. The Mother wrote back the next day, If

    you find a solution, please advise. I have the same problem

    with his Father.

    Thats the one thing I dont want to keep.

    My Mondays and Thursdays start 3:45AM as I get up early and

    prepare for Umagang Kay Ganda (UKG). Love the discipline

    of having to hit the bed early. Rising up early and doing so

    much work. Always learning!

    A miser one who lives poor so that he can die rich. I wonder

    why the root word of MISERABLE is MISER & ABLE.

    Be generous today and for the rest of the week. Be a cheerful

    giver and open doors to greater blessing. Time, talent and

    treasure, these are things you can share.

    Your attitude is more important than your skills. Work on it

    more. It opens to a world of opportunities.

    All things being equal the person with the better attitude gets

    promoted. All things being not equal the person with the better

    attitude STILL gets the promotion.

    If you have been criticized and charged with many things; their

    opinion is not your reality. Continue the work. Positive people

    influence. Negative people tear down. Stay positive yourself!

    Bite-size wins today lead to BIG-time championships

    tomorrow. Dont shy away from work. Just get things going

    and get things DONE!

    154FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Francis J. Kong is:

    President of Success Options Publishing Company

    President of FunWorks Inc. a member of the Canadian based Mad Science International Group, the worlds number

    one (1) Science educational-entertainment program provider

    for kids.

    Founding member and Director of Inspire Leadership Consultancy

    Francis has extensive work experiences in manufacturing and

    retail as he help founded a popular clothing company and ran a

    retail chain for many years.

    You can hear him in his daily Radio Program Business

    Matters which was given a Year 2007 special citation by the

    Catholic Mass Media Awards.

    You can read him through his Saturday and Sunday column of

    the Business Page of the Philippine Star.

    You can see him as he regularly guests every Monday and

    Thursday morning at the popular morning show Umagang Kay

    Ganda.

    He has been featured in many of the major business

    conventions and conferences both here and abroad.

    Francis is co-recipient of the Anvil Award for Excellence for the staging of the Dr. John Maxwell Leadership Seminar

    Series.

    Recipient of the Year 2006 Gold Quill Philippines Award of merit for Public Speech category sponsored by The

    International Association of Business Communicators.

    Recipient of 2008 Dr. Jose Rizal Award for Excellence in the field of Journalism.

    Francis has been trained and licensed by Maximum Impact of

    Atlanta Georgia to do the Maxwell leadership programs. He is

    also Trained and licensed by The Ziglar Corporation in London

    to do the Ziglar Sales and Presentation programs.

    155FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • He is an author of 14 books:

    His book One Day at a Time has been given a most favorable review by Channel NewsAsia of Singapore.

    His book The Early Bird Catches the Worm: is now translated into the Korean language.

    Francis is married to the former Lilia Nolasco and has three

    children: Bryan 26, Hannah 22 and Rachel 17.

    For more inspiring words from Francis J. Kong, please visit his

    personal blog at http://www.franciskong.com.

    156FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • INSPIRING EXCELLENCEFRANCISKONG.COM

    DECEMBER 2012

  • A compilation of post from the personal blog of

    F r a n c i s J. K o n gfor the month of December, 2012.

    This eBook and its content is copyright of Francis J. Kong -

    Francis J. Kong, 2012. All rights reserved.

    Any redistribution or reproduction of part or all of the contents

    in any form is prohibited other than the following:

    you may print or download to a local hard disk extracts for your personal and non-commercial use only

    you may copy the content to individual third parties for their personal use, but only if you acknowledge the website as the

    source of the material

    You may not, except with our express written permission,

    distribute or commercially exploit the content. Nor may you

    transmit it or store it in any other website or other form of

    electronic retrieval system.

    This eBook was created and compiled by

    One Awesome Social Media Company Inc.

    www.oneawesomecompany.com

    158FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Be careful who you share your weaknesses with. Some people

    cant wait for the opportunity to use them against you. In my

    experience most people do and only a few can be trusted. Have

    you ever had one of these nasty experiences? Learn from the

    lesson.

    I dont know what the day holds but I know Who holds the

    Day. Love God. Trust God. Go to church today.

    A woman is dying of AIDS. A minister is summoned. He

    attempts to comfort her, but to no avail. I am lost, she said.

    I have ruined my life and every life around me. Now Im

    going painfully to hell. There is no hope for me.

    The priest saw a framed picture of a pretty girl on the dresser.

    Who is this? he asked. The woman brightened. She is my

    daughter, the one beautiful thing in my life."And would you

    help her if she was in trouble, or made a mistake? Would you

    forgive her? Would you still love her? Of course I would!

    cried the woman; I would do anything for her! Why do you

    ask such a question? Because I want you to know, said the

    minister, that God has a picture of you on His dresser.

    [1]How important it is for people to know that accepting Jesus

    Christ as Lord and Savior means accepting the love of God and

    His forgiveness. I was seated across a very successful

    businessman in an Italian restaurant and I never had any idea

    that our talk would take an entire 4 and a half hours.

    He was troubled. Had problems with his finances like most

    business people do today. But as we talked about a lot of things

    the one thing that struck me was when he said, You know,

    Ive done some very crazy things in my life before I became

    serious with God. I love Him and I know that He is punishing

    me for that. No wonder the guy was troubled, Hes got a

    faulty theology. And this is no time for me to offer comfort.

    This is the time for me to correct his views on God. He must

    have seen the sudden serious look on my face when I said,

    Listen, youre wrong.The moment you accepted Christ you

    have been forgiven. All of your sins, past, present and future.

    Thats what the cross is all about. Thats why He died for you.

    You may have done stupid things in the past and perhaps

    youre still paying the consequences for such but thats not

    Gods punishment upon you.

    And then I had to spend a lot of time talking about Gods

    forgiveness. The businessman is not alone. Guess how many

    people walk the streets everyday carrying the excess baggage

    of guilt and fear in their lives ignorant of Gods forgiveness.

    People who are in Christ some times forget to wear their

    badges. You know what that badge is? Its the assurance in the

    Book of Romans wherein Paul says, there is therefore no

    condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. And maybe

    this is why they have no joy in their lives.

    159FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Oswald Chambers says: The most marvelous ingredient in the

    forgiveness of God is that he also forgets, the one thing a

    human being can never do. Forgetting with God is a divine

    attribute; Gods forgiveness forgets.

    George Arthur Buttrick says: God does not wish us to

    remember what he is willing to forget. Some times human

    beings are more unforgiving than God but that doesnt change

    His character.

    So, the next time you feel that God could not love you and

    would not forgive you, remember that He has a picture of you

    on His dresser.

    [1] The Jokesmith, Published by Edward C. McManus, 44

    Queens View Road, Marlborough

    When you wake up in the morning with a grim determination

    to improve you will go to bed with the full feeling of

    satisfaction. What areas of personal improvement should I

    work on today? A good start towards long term success.

    Every now and then I will feature excellent businesses and

    excellent customer service. Bulgogi Brothers in Greenhills 5 is

    one of them. My family and friends enjoyed it last night and I

    am going back there with new friends. Businesses that really

    take care of their clients get more business and this is

    inevitable.

    One of my favorite words is Chill! It has helped me in many

    difficult situations. Here is a question I need to ask myself

    constantly: Francis, are you working hard or should you rather

    wait? There are things you can work for there are things you

    have to wait for. Wise people know the difference. Maybe you

    can find this useful. So chill!

    Take some time to think. A minute of thought is worth more

    than an hour of talk. Some people just talk and talk without

    thinking while wise people think first before they open their

    mouths. Do you know of such people?

    The successful person will tell you: I got to the top fighting

    laziness and ignorance everyday.

    Laziness is defined as: Getting into the habit of taking a rest

    even before youre tired!Where do you usually find lazy

    people? Tell me all about it.

    160FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Anger is a fascinating thing. The language you use when you

    are angry is your first language actually. And here is another

    thing about anger: Never forget what someone says to you

    when they are angry because that is usually when the truth

    comes out.

    Procrastination is a success-killer. Because of this many have

    been turned into murderers. They kill time. One of the most

    dangerous words you can use is the word Later. One of

    these days is none of these days and there might not be one.

    When it comes to exercise, I find that many people come up

    with the craziest reasons and cook up creative excuses for not

    exercising. One businessman friend of mine says: I am in

    shape. Round is the shape.

    Another one says: Ive started an exercise program. I do 20

    sit-ups each morning. That may not sound like a lot, but you

    can only hit that snooze button so many times.

    An honest one among them said this. I dont exercise at all. If

    God meant us to touch our toes, he would have put them

    further up our body.

    And then the philosopher says: The advantage of exercising

    every day is that you die healthier.

    But this one is my favorite. Somebody says: My grandmother

    started walking five miles a day when she was 60. Shes 97

    now & we dont know where she is!

    If you are in your late 20s and you do not exercise, chances

    are you wont notice anything. If you are in your late 30s and

    you do not exercise you will notice that you are beginning to

    develop muscles in the wrong places mostly in the stomach

    area and they are really fats. When you reach your 40s all

    sorts of sickness begin to surface. You begin to experience

    funny pains and aches in the different places of your body.

    When you reach your late fifties you begin to pay. All those

    years of neglect and harmful lifestyle will begin to take its toll

    on you. And when we reach our 60s you probably will run out

    of resources to payfor the medical bills.

    I have seen good people lose their entire lifetimes savings

    because of poor health and meanwhile their cardiologist buys a

    brand new Mercedes Benz.

    I have a weighing scale in my bathroom. I make sure I weigh

    myself same time every morning in order to monitor my

    weight. There was a time when I had to squat down just to see

    the numbers on my weighing scale.

    I take my vitamins daily. I take lots of them under a doctors

    supervision. There is no one pill that can provide everything I

    need, I take vitamins in its right dosage including Zinc which I

    161FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • find is in sufficient dosage in Conzace, a brand I use every day.

    I stay away from sweets, I exercise regularly and I watch

    carefully what I eat. How else would I be able to do more than

    300 talks, trainings and seminars in a year and travel the world

    in doing so?

    This reminds me of a story wherein the bathroom scale

    manufacturer was very proud of the new model being

    introduced at the trade fair. Proudly, the manufacturer said in

    his well-prepared sales pitch: Listen to these features: its

    calibrated to one hundredth of a pound; it can measure your

    height as well, in feet or meters; it gives you a readout via led

    and it can even tell your weight by means of a human-voice

    simulator.

    Very impressive, says an overweight prospect. But before I

    place an order would you mind if I try it out first?

    Be my guest, said the manufacturer graciously.

    But no sooner had the overweight spectator taken his place on

    the scale than a loud, synthesized and computerized human

    voice loudly announced: One at a time please, one at a time!

    As a result, there was no sale that day.

    One woman said, I noticed my husband standing on the

    bathroom scale, sucking in his stomach. Thinking he was

    trying to weigh less with this maneuver, I commented, I dont

    think that is going to help.

    Sure it does, he said. Its the only way I can see the

    numbers.

    Its easy to add pounds and but its so difficult to lose them.

    This is why exercise takes a lot of discipline and determination

    but its good for us. It teaches us to prioritize the important

    things in our lives. Health is wealth yet only a few are serious

    enough to take care of this investment. Make sure you do.

    If I go to bed early to be in shape for a speaking engagement

    next morning, the more I should tonight because tomorrow I go

    to church.

    Somebody says Give God what is right.not what is left. So

    true isnt it?

    In victory as in defeat, Manny displays tremendous grace. That

    for me is the character of a true champion. Wouldnt you wish

    political candidates who lose would behave the same way?

    With grace, honor and dignity just like our boxer Manny?

    Thats my wish.

    Its not just talent. Its not just smarts. You need to be

    determined. Determination trumps smarts any time all the time.

    Be determined to be successful today and every day of your

    life.

    162FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Remember this: The day goes slow but the years go fast. Make

    every moment count. The way you spend your time is the way

    you spend your life. Dont waste life.

    Suddenly my kids are all grown up and I am glad had great

    moments with them.

    Convictions will always be tested. And when you stand on it

    you are STRENGTHENED. When you compromise you are

    weakened. Be brave & strong. Never find good reasons to do

    wrong things.

    I am a fan of Michael Jordan but I am a follower of Jesus

    Christ. This is the difference between knowledge and intimacy.

    Do we simply know God or are we intimate with Him? Big

    difference between the two! Dont lose Jesus in the midst of all

    this Christmas celebrations.

    I have the best pick-up line for single men and here it is:

    Ive got a job!

    My most important advice to my two daughters:

    Never make the mistake of falling for cute looking guys who

    are irresponsible. You will regret this for the rest of your life!

    Do you agree with this line of thought?

    Those who have been hurt deeply, God can use greatly. There

    is no testimony without a test, no message without a mess. So

    true isnt it? Dont forget to go to church today.

    You better watch out,

    You better not cry,

    You better not pout,

    Im telling you why

    It wont look good on your personnel record.

    The latest thing in other countries is for young boys to have

    naked pictures of their girlfriends in their cell phones.

    NOT COOL! This is so stupid and dumb. The body should be a

    private garden reserved for the one we will enjoy in marriage,

    not a public park for the mob to exploit, loiter an litter.

    163FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • When somebody calls you, text you, or left you a message then

    you should call back, text back and give a reply. This is being

    ethical, respectful and polite. If you dont do this then youre

    not. Its a weakness of character. A block for tomorrows

    success opportunity.

    Havent you noticed with the way we watch television? Three

    channels are no longer enoughwe need a hundred and three

    now. And the entertainment hunger still cannot be quenched.

    Just when we need to spend more time and moments reading

    intelligent books and doing more thinking. Such a waste of

    resource.

    Have you ever met people who behave more like jerks rather

    than humans? They crack jokes and they think theyre funny

    but they come across as insulting and offensive.

    They may have education yet they do not have culture. So

    what do you do with people like these? Actually, these are the

    exceptions. Most people I know are polite and decent so

    concentrate on the beautiful and not on the ugly! And always

    thank God that He equips us to see the difference.

    Thank you! These are two words used too often it may have

    lost its luster. To make it work it has to be specific. So let me

    put this principle into practice.

    I would like to close the year by saying: THANK YOU

    1. For the leadership and staff of FunWorks for making this

    year the best year ever. Rara has done a great job and has

    brought inspiration to everyone in the company.

    2. For the young but dedicated and hard-working staff of

    Inspire Leadership Consultancy. They have gone through the

    process of reorganization and did it so well, obtained so many

    new clients. The ever charming GM Binky has performed way

    beyond our expectations.

    3. For Ana Cristobal for patiently managing the book sales and

    collections and for being strict yet deep inside, remaining as

    one of the kindest people in planet earth.

    4. For all those who keep on viewing this page providing me

    the inspiration and encouragement to continue doing what I am

    doing. And this even include the hecklers and the jesters who

    has given me more reasons to understand that the work of

    inspiring people needs to continue.

    Have a Blessed Christmas and by the way --- the world will not

    end today. It is just the beginning of another beautiful life

    ahead.

    164FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • This is what I have learned:

    GRATITUDE GENERATES GENEROSITY!!!

    I still have so many people I need to thank. My small group,

    my closest friends, my high-school friends and many others.

    Time to bring my family for a vacation. I may be out of touch

    for a day but once I land and settle down I will immediately do

    what I love doing.touch base with you through FB.

    It was a long flight, it was stressful and tiring but the moment

    the plane lands, clearing immigration and customs; and you see

    the welcoming arms of your loved ones saying: Welcome all

    your tiredness disappears. NOTHING BEATS FAMILY!

    Happiness is not based on money and the greatest proof of

    that is our family! says heiress Christina Onassis. If you have

    a happy family, you have happiness in a great measure.

    Jesus was born in a borrowed manger and He was buried in a

    borrowed tomb. A poor mans borrowed manger and a rich

    mans borrowed tomb. Jesus did not come to teach us to be

    powerful but to be humble? His gift to us was not wealth and

    power but salvation. This is the true reason for the season.

    Have a Blessed Christmas!

    Christmas. Celebrationspartiesgiftsdecorations and so

    forth and so on.

    Look at the storeshave you realized how commercialized

    Christmas has become?

    A GRANDMOTHER took her grandson to see Santa Claus in a

    department store after purchasing about a dozen Christmas

    gifts. Santa gave the boy a little present.

    What do you say to Santa? prompted grandma.

    Charge it, said the little boy.

    In our country the economy is not in a very good shape. The

    times are hard but not hard enough to stop people from

    celebrating.

    Somebody says: I never knew how hard the times are until I

    got to talk to Santa Claus. I asked him how Rudolph is and he

    says, Delicious!

    Now heres a funny article I got from the Internet authored by

    Laura Walton and she persists in believing that Santa Clause is

    165FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • a woman. I went through it and I laughed at it. Because it

    seems to make sense. So why dont I share this with you and

    you be the one to decide whether Santa is indeed a woman or

    not.

    Heres how it goes:

    Santa is a womanIm convinced it must be true.

    So many things he takes credit forMost men just will not do.

    He spends his days in shopping mallsPassing out candy and

    gum sticks.

    He gabs with moms and kids alikeAnd takes great party

    pics.

    Santa always keeps a listAnd always checks it twice.

    Why, isnt that the storyOf every womans life?

    Santas into arts and craftsHes always making toys

    And he keeps tabs on all the neighborhood kidsKnows the

    nice girls and boys

    Santa likes to decorateThey say he has a flair

    He can do the trees all by himselfKnows which ornament

    goes where,

    Santa does not mind asking directionsTheres a lot of

    deliveries, you know

    To houses all over the universeIn cities high and low

    Santa makes a fashion statementThat few other men would

    copy

    In a fur-trimmed suit of velvet redNever wrinkled, never

    sloppy

    Yes, Santa Claus there is a VirginiaAnd a Mary, Sue and

    Jane

    You must know all of them quite wellFor you are much the

    same

    Santa has to be a womanIts the only thing thats right

    Who else would work on holiday presentsAll hours of the

    night[1] End of article.

    Noware you convinced that Santa is probably a woman?

    And here are other reasons why Santa cant possibly be a man:

    Men cant pack a bag. Men would rather be dead than caught

    wearing red velvet. Men would feel their masculinity is

    threatened, having to be seen with all those elves. Men dont

    answer their mail. Men would refuse to allow their physique to

    be described even in jest as anything remotely resembling a

    bowlful of jelly. Men arent interested in stockings unless

    somebodys wearing them. Finally, being responsible for

    Christmas would require a commitment.

    Now dont take this seriously.

    I dont believe in an overweight person wearing red pajamas

    with a stocking on his or her headI believe in Jesus born as a

    baby during the first Christmas as Gods grace and mercy to

    send us a Savior because you and I are dead in our sins.

    Jesus not Santa. And this is the serious part.

    [1] Copyright 2000 Laura Walton. Permission is granted to

    send this to others, but not for commercial purposes.

    166FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • When man reaches out to God and he never could, God is pure

    and holy and His standards are just too high, then that effort is

    called religion. When God in His mercy reaches out to man

    because of His love, sending His one and only son Jesus to die

    for us on the cross, then that is no longer religion, that is called

    CHRISTMAS!

    A Blessed Christmas to you all! Okay. Now that the world did

    not end on December 21, lets just be wise and live each day as

    if it were the last. This way we do only that which is

    meaningful.

    Just attended the wonderful Christmas Eve service at Menlo

    Park and John Ortberg reminds us that the very first Christmas

    was not a time of peace but of turmoil yet God declares the

    words: Do not be afraid! Some may be hurting, some may be

    sad but God is with us. Do not be afraid.

    A story is told of a teacher in Africa taught the nationals that

    people gave each other gifts on Christs birthday as an

    expression of their joy.

    A student gave this teacher a beautiful seashell as a gift. When

    asked where he had discovered such an extraordinary shell, the

    native said he had walked many miles to a certain bay, the only

    place where these shells could be found. The teacher was

    deeply moved and told the young man how much he

    appreciated his gift, to which the native replied, Long walk,

    part of gift. Its not the price of the gift but the long walk

    behind it.

    People who grow the most are people who have been pushed

    the most. Dont be afraid of challenges. Learn, grow and be

    spectacular this coming year. Those who go through life with

    the minimum amount of challenges are the those who exhibit

    the least amount of growth. Comfort destroys usefulness.

    As the year ends, there will be massive media hype on

    predictions and fortune-telling. Much like the Mayan calendar

    thingy. I love the philosopher who said: Shallow people

    depend on luck, intelligent people believe in cause and effect.

    Luck is when preparation and opportunity intersects. As for

    me, its very hard to reconcile Gods sovereignty and luck.

    Time to grow up!

    167FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • As the year comes to a close, there are bridges we must cross

    and there are bridges we must burn. Ask God to give us the

    wisdom to know which is which. Burn the bridges of bad

    influences and bad habits. Cross the bridges of labor and

    discipline to be more productive for service. Love God, love

    family, serve the community and country as these bring in joy

    and fulfillment. Have you considered which bridges to cross

    and which ones to burn? The process is not easy but necessary.

    The text messages are coming while my family and I (minus

    my son who is busy preparing his latest Crazy Katsu branch)

    are in California enjoying our family vacation.

    Around this time of the year I get greets from friends and

    families wishing me a prosperous New Year and these greets

    come in many forms.

    One of the favorites of mine which is credited to anonymity

    has really made me laugh and made me think. Perhaps this will

    also be your reaction as I share this with you.

    Several years ago, someone (author unknown) composed the

    following list of wishes for the New Year: May your hair, your

    teeth, your face-lift, your abs, and your stocks not fall; and

    may your blood pressure, your triglycerides, your cholesterol,

    your white blood count and your mortgage interest not rise.

    May you get a clean bill of health from your dentist, your

    cardiologist, your gastroenterologist, your urologist, your

    proctologist, your podiatrist, your psychiatrist, your plumber,

    and the BIR.

    May you find a way to travel from anywhere to anywhere

    during rush hour in less than an hour, and when you get there

    may you find a parking space.

    May December 31 find you seated around the dinner table,

    together with your beloved family and cherished friends,

    ushering in the New Year ahead. You will find the food better,

    the environment quieter, the cost much cheaper, and the

    pleasure much more fulfilling than anything else you might

    ordinarily do that night.

    May you have the strength to go through a year of electoral

    campaigning, and may some of the promises made be kept.

    May you believe at least half of what the candidates propose,

    and may those elected fulfill at least half of what they promise,

    and the miracle of reducing taxes and balancing budgets

    happen.

    May what you see in the mirror delight you, and what others

    see in you delight them.

    168FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • May the telemarketers wait to make their sales calls until you

    finish dinner, may your checkbook and your budget balance,

    and may they include generous amounts for your church and

    charities.

    May you remember to say I love you at least once a day to

    your spouse, your child, and your parent(s). You can say it to

    your secretary, your nurse, your butcher, your photographer,

    your masseuse, your seamstress, your hairdresser or your

    tennis instructor, but not with a twinkle in your eye.

    May we live as God intended, in a world at peace with the

    awareness of the beauty in every sunset, every flowers

    unfolding petals, every babys smile and every wonderful,

    astonishing, miraculous beat of our heart.

    May God bless you with happiness, great health, peace, and

    much love during the next year and all those that follow.

    To the list above I add one thing:I pray also that you will have

    greater understanding in your heart so you will know the hope

    to which he has called us and that you will know how rich and

    glorious are the blessings God has promised his holy people.

    And you will know that Gods power is very great for us who

    believe. (Eph. 1:18-19, NCV)

    Now do you see what I mean? Who can ever beat this kind of

    New Year Greeting?

    Dont sell yourself short. Your life is more interesting than you

    think. This is why reality shows sell. Time to level up this New

    Year! There is no such thing as an unimportant day. As you end

    the year with reflections, you start the year with hope.

    169FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • Francis J. Kong is:

    President of Success Options Publishing Company

    President of FunWorks Inc. a member of the Canadian based Mad Science International Group, the worlds number

    one (1) Science educational-entertainment program provider

    for kids.

    Founding member and Director of Inspire Leadership Consultancy

    Francis has extensive work experiences in manufacturing and

    retail as he help founded a popular clothing company and ran a

    retail chain for many years.

    You can hear him in his daily Radio Program Business

    Matters which was given a Year 2007 special citation by the

    Catholic Mass Media Awards.

    You can read him through his Saturday and Sunday column of

    the Business Page of the Philippine Star.

    You can see him as he regularly guests every Monday and

    Thursday morning at the popular morning show Umagang Kay

    Ganda.

    He has been featured in many of the major business

    conventions and conferences both here and abroad.

    Francis is co-recipient of the Anvil Award for Excellence for the staging of the Dr. John Maxwell Leadership Seminar

    Series.

    Recipient of the Year 2006 Gold Quill Philippines Award of merit for Public Speech category sponsored by The

    International Association of Business Communicators.

    Recipient of 2008 Dr. Jose Rizal Award for Excellence in the field of Journalism.

    Francis has been trained and licensed by Maximum Impact of

    Atlanta Georgia to do the Maxwell leadership programs. He is

    also Trained and licensed by The Ziglar Corporation in London

    to do the Ziglar Sales and Presentation programs.

    170FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence

  • He is an author of 14 books:

    His book One Day at a Time has been given a most favorable review by Channel NewsAsia of Singapore.

    His book The Early Bird Catches the Worm: is now translated into the Korean language.

    Francis is married to the former Lilia Nolasco and has three

    children: Bryan 26, Hannah 22 and Rachel 17.

    For more inspiring words from Francis J. Kong, please visit his

    personal blog at http://www.franciskong.com.

    171FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence