fetlife handle: nymphet_lolita so that’s how you do it! i was doing it all wrong. put it in the...

FetLife Handle: Nymphet_Lolita

So that’s how you do it! I was doing it all wrong. Put it

in the mouth, not the ear!

Next up: Nymphet_Lolita - Bratting


Bratting – I've had a lot of practice


What is bratting in BDSM?

Xeromag Glossary - BRAT: A submissive who may refuse to obey a dominant's commands, tease or taunt the dominant, or engage in other activity intended to provoke a response, often a punishment response.


What is bratting in BDSM?

My Definition – BRAT: Someone who uses “creative disobedience” as either part of a negotiated scene or relationship that allows a “safe space” to break the rules


“Good” Bratting

“PITA” Bratting

Playful Flirtatious Respectful

CONSENSUAL

Hostile Annoying Malicious

UNWANTED

Defiant? Willful?

There's a line –


Possible responses to bratting that is crossing the line

That “look” An annoyed swat or “behave” Using the brats full name

There's a line – How to tell when it's been crossed?


Love 'Em or Hate 'Em?


SAM – Smart Ass Masochist

My Opinion – SAMs are a very particular sub-set of brats seeking a specific punishment response, often associated with brats who cross the line


Topping from the Bottom

Bottom line – if it's negotiated it's not “topping from the bottom”

If you don't like the brats behavior use real punishment to correct the behavior or address the behavior during negotiations or time-outs


Who are Brats?

Typically thought of as “s” type (bottom/sub)

Brats are frequently attention whores/sluts

Can a “D” type be a brat?


Who are Brats?

Tops - Out-bratting your brat? Princess/Prince? Sadistic brat?

I want a pony and I want it now!


Who Plays with Brats?

Enjoy push/pull dynamicSense of Humor

Enjoy funishment and playPatient!!!Thick Skin


When to Brat?

When it's negotiated as part of a scene or ongoing relationship dynamic

Know your partner!!If it's not a good time for them then they will not be able to

appreciate the brat's creativity and the “line” will move


Where to Brat?

Public – may not be the best place to brat Semi-public (play space) – is it allowed? Is it tolerated? Will your

partner be pleased or embarrassed with the behavior? Private – best place when you need to get your full-on brat-on


Why Brat?

Because it's FUN and you and your partner enjoy it


How to Brat?

Scenes that work well for bratting - Consensual Non-Consent Predicaments Age Play (big/little, Daddy/girl, etc) Pet Play Switch Fights


How to Brat?

Funishment versus Punishment

Gives the brat the attention they are looking for and will

encourage similar bratting in the future

Examples:Spanking, playing, verbal volley,

etc

The brat must not like the punishment – can be very brat

specific Examples:

Silent treatment, time-outs, expressing disappointment, early

bedtime, etc


How to Brat?

Brat Tactics - Incitement/Instigate Pranks Coy Puppy Eyes Loopholes


How to Brat?

Channel The Inner 3-year Old


How to Brat?Tips for Communicating with a Brat

Brats use their behavior to communicate their desires and intentions in a playful and charming way

Listen to what you're brat is really sayingNegotiate where the “line” is and when's it's gone too

farKeep funishment and punishment separate

Have fun!!!


Resources:Funishment:http://pleasepunish.me/https://ladyaconite.wordpress.com/2009/10/04/for-every-samsmart-ass-masochist-there-is-one-rosreally-obnoxious-sadist/

Bratting:http://dominantguide.com/1525/the-brat-ownership-guide/http://dominantguide.com/1535/out-bratting-the-brat/http://msmargaretdavis.blogspot.com/2012/12/brat-please-explain.html?zx=27e346f03db252f3http://www.biglittlepodcast.com/2011/04/episode-8-bratting/https://sirstompsalot.wordpress.com/2011/10/12/regarding-brats/http://www.takeninhand.com/in.defence.of.brats.everywherehttp://clarissethorn.com/2011/11/12/bdsm-roles-topping-from-the-bottom-and-service-top/http://www.notjustbitchy.com/topping-from-the-bottom/

Creative disobedience:http://blogs.scientificamerican.com/guest-blog/2011/07/07/the-educational-value-of-creative-disobedience/http://www.science20.com/rogue_neuron/creativity_crime_passionhttp://www.oprah.com/spirit/How-to-Embrace-Your-Inner-Brathttp://www.slideshare.net/andreakuszewski/bil-creative-disobedience3114akfinal

http://pleasepunish.me/

https://ladyaconite.wordpress.com/2009/10/04/for-every-samsmart-ass-masochist-there-is-one-rosreally-obnoxious-sadist/

https://ladyaconite.wordpress.com/2009/10/04/for-every-samsmart-ass-masochist-there-is-one-rosreally-obnoxious-sadist/

http://dominantguide.com/1525/the-brat-ownership-guide/

http://dominantguide.com/1535/out-bratting-the-brat/

http://msmargaretdavis.blogspot.com/2012/12/brat-please-explain.html?zx=27e346f03db252f3

http://www.biglittlepodcast.com/2011/04/episode-8-bratting/

https://sirstompsalot.wordpress.com/2011/10/12/regarding-brats/

http://www.takeninhand.com/in.defence.of.brats.everywhere

http://clarissethorn.com/2011/11/12/bdsm-roles-topping-from-the-bottom-and-service-top/

http://www.notjustbitchy.com/topping-from-the-bottom/

http://blogs.scientificamerican.com/guest-blog/2011/07/07/the-educational-value-of-creative-disobedience/

http://www.science20.com/rogue_neuron/creativity_crime_passion

http://www.oprah.com/spirit/How-to-Embrace-Your-Inner-Brat

http://www.slideshare.net/andreakuszewski/bil-creative-disobedience3114akfinal


… or you could tie them up and then bratting isn’t an

issue.

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