feel the fear and do it anyway by angela greyling
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www.XtraordinaryWomen.co.za 04 September - Xtraordinary Women Somerset West Networking Event TOPIC: Feel The Fear & Do It Anyway It's not about working harder - It's about removing the obstacles. The talk will explore the world we work and live and how to ensure that our purpose does not become busyness. The truths about fear will be revealed and you will be challenged to think about the assumptions you hold regarding your true potential. Participants will be left with 3 practical ways of how to ‘hold’ their fears from a place of self-power. About Our Guest Speaker: Angela Greyling – VisionWorx. Having been drawn to people, their behaviours and emotions, and a desire to develop individuals, Angela studied a BA Degree in Industrial Psychology at Rhodes University. Her career has included working in the distance learning environment as a Student Advisor, Recruitment Consulting, Managing teams of Recruitment Consultants, owning a Training Consultancy – Outsourced Training Solutions – and for something completely different, owning a Florist. Her interest in psychology also led her to being trained as a Life Line Counsellor and more recently completing a Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) Coaching Practitioner Certification Course. Today Angela runs her own business called VisionWorx – www.visionworx.co.za. Her fascination with why some individuals are able to cope better with stress and fear than others led her to the work of Dr Susan Jeffers. Angela is now a Licensed Trainer for the workshop Feel the fear and do it anyway. All these career choices had to do with motivating, listening, developing, training and assisting people to be the very best they could be. Her 10 years management experience has given her many opportunities to not only develop individuals, but also look at the efficiencies of teams, systems and rely on tried and tested strategic frameworks to ensure that people’s strengths are aligned to a team’s mission and objectives, which are in turn aligned to the organization’s vision. The workshops that she has developed, have been a personal quest, drawn from her training knowledge, experience with people who she has managed, motivated and coached, vast sales experience and her innate desire to make things better than when she found them!TRANSCRIPT
Feel the fear and do it anyway®
Feel the fear…
Psychological OR Educational?
“… and by re-educating the mind you can accept fear as a simple
fact of life rather than a barrier to success.”
Dr Susan Jeffers
The world we live and work in
1. The Manic Society
Life has become FASTFast = SuccessDo NOT confuse:
Speed with progress Adrenaline with purpose Urgency with importance
The world we work and live in
2. The Busy Generation
Busyness has become our PURPOSEThe look of success versus the FEEL of success
The world we work and live in
3.The Hyperactive Workplace
The new formula for work:Greater speed + fewer resources +
constant uncertainty + Increased competition + longer hours = Increased pressure for higher profits
GOAL in life: Productive as possible OR valuable as possible?
The world we work and live in
4. The Joyless Economy
Living better – Enjoying it less
What is success?How do we measure it?How do we reward it?How do we celebrate it?How do we sustain it?
Study on stress
The picture to follow has 2 identical dolphins in it. It was used in a case study on stress levels at St. Mary's
Hospital, London.
Look at both dolphins jumping out of the water.
The dolphins are identical. A closely monitored
scientific study revealed that, in spite of the fact
that the dolphins are identical, a person under
stress would find differences in the two dolphins.
Identical dolphins
Interesting facts about stress
1.No difference between BIG and small stress2.Stress causes parts of the brain to shut down
The 3 levels of fear
5 truths about fear1. The fear will never go away as
long as you continue to grow.2. The only way to get rid of the fear
of doing something is to go out and …do it.
3. The only way to feel better about yourself is to go out and…do it.
4. Not only are you afraid when facing the unknown, so is everyone else.
5. Pushing through fear is less frightening than living with the bigger underlying fear that comes from a feeling of helplessness.
Who are you without your fear?
What would you be able to do? Who would you be able to be? What would you be able to say? How would you feel about yourself?
What are your assumptions?
What % of the things that you have feared, have come true?
What does fear mean to you? What is your REAL fear? What is the history of this fear? What is the purpose of this fear? What would help you to let go of this
fear? What is the Payoff of this fear?
How do you ‘hold’ fear?
PAIN POWER
Paralysis ChoicesProcrastinationOpportunitiesDepression ExcitementBlaming ResponsibilityUncertainty ClarityNo control 90% controlExternal focus Internal FocusThoughts Actions
Comfort zone
1. Negative to positive self-talk
Your perception
and focus determine
the quality of your
experiences –
Interpret as
1.Pleasant
2.Painful
3.Positive
4.Negative
Pain to power language
Pain PowerI can’t I won’t
I should I could
It’s not my fault I’m totally responsible
It’s a problem It’s an opportunity
I hope I know
If only Next time
What will I do? I know I can handle it
I was wondering if… My intention is to…
Can I…. I will…
2. Act as if…
• Our minds cannot tell the difference
between a thought and the
actual experience
• When we have a strong
associated thought our
bodies react to that thought
Act as if…
Act as if…
3. Reframing
Reframing
4. Contrastive analysis
The last time I did…. I succeeded.
How can I use those feelings, thoughts and behaviour in this situation?
Feel the fear and do it anyway…