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TAbLe of ConTenTs

�7–�9 Total Recall Key Answers to the Total Recall questions

found in the student booklet on pages 5 and 8

�0 Practice Test A two-part test covering main aspects of

the LAP; eight short-answer questions and a case study to evaluate skills. The short-answer part of the test can be used as a guide for note taking, as a formative test, as a summative test, etc.

��–�� Practice Test Key Answers to the short-answer questions

and the rating scale for the test activity found in the Practice Test

�4–�6 Posttest A two-part test consisting of 20 multiple-

choice questions and a skill-related activity that assess student understanding of using appropriate assertiveness

�7–40 Posttest Key Descriptive answers to the multiple-choice

questions and the rating scale for the test activity found in the Posttest

4� Posttest Grader A listing of correct responses to the

multiple-choice questions

4� Glossary Definitions of words defined in the LAP

and other words with which students may not be familiar

4�–44 Questionnaires Student and teacher questionnaires

that can be sent to MBAResearch to improve the LAP

4 So What? Rationale for studying how to use appropriate

assertiveness

4–�4 Discussion Guide An outline of the content in the student

booklet of LAP-EI-018—Assert Yourself (Assertiveness). In addition, discussion questions have been included throughout the content to build classroom discussion/interaction.

4–�4 Presentation Slides Optional visual support for the LAP can be

obtained in graphics presentation software. The slides to be shown are numbered within the monitor icon (e.g., ).

�4 The Gray Zone An ethical dilemma associated with using

appropriate assertiveness in the workplace

�5–�� Transparencies Eight simple transparency masters are

provided to support the Discussion Guide and are numbered throughout the outline.

��–�4 Directions for Activities Directions are provided for four activities that

reinforce the lesson. Two of the activities are designed for completion by an individual student, while the other two provide prepa-ration and process information for group completion.

�5–�6 Individual Activity �: Behavior Clues short-answer activity with answer guide

�� Individual Activity �: Individual creative presentation activity

�� Group Activity �: Brainstorming activity for determining how to use appropriate assertiveness

��–�4 Group Activity �: Brainstorming activity for determining how to use appropriate assertiveness

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obJeCTIVes

Slide/Transparency Number Message

A Explain the nature of assertive behavior. B Demonstrate assertive behavior.

dIsCussIon GuIde

� • Why learn to demonstrate assertive behavior?

A. Olivia is facing a big deadline at work on Friday.

B. It’s Wednesday, and she has just enough time left in her schedule to complete the project.

C. One of her coworkers approaches her and asks for help on a different project.

D. Olivia can react in three different ways:

1. Passively—“Sure, I’ll help you. I’ll just stay late to finish my own project.”

2. Aggressively—“No way! I’m busy, and you’re bothering me right now.”

3. Assertively—“I have to meet my deadline on Friday, but if I have any extra time I will help you.”

E. Assertiveness is the happy medium between passiveness and aggressiveness.

F. When you’re assertive, you look for win-win situations whenever possible.

G. Learning to be assertive is an important skill for life and for the workplace.

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A � • Assertiveness creates “win-win” situations.

A. Have you ever heard of a “win-win” situation?

1. Maybe this term doesn’t make sense to you—shouldn’t there be one winner and one loser?

2. Not necessarily!

3. In many situations, you can behave in a way that benefits yourself and others at the same time.

4. It all depends on if you act passively, aggressively, or assertively.

DISCUSSION #�: Ask students to describe “win-win” situations they’ve been in.

B. Passive behavior:

1. Conduct in which people fail to exercise their own rights or to respect their own needs

2. A passive person usually displays an attitude based on the desire to avoid conflict at all costs.

C. Aggressive behavior is conduct based on a willingness to ignore the rights of others and to take advantage of them to achieve personal goals.

D. Assertive behavior, or assertiveness, is the ability to express yourself, communicate your point of view, and stand up for your rights, principles, and beliefs.

DISCUSSION #�: Ask students to describe passive and aggressive people they have known.

• Differences in behaviors:

A. The main difference between assertiveness and aggressiveness is that assertive people exhibit confidence while respecting their own rights and the rights of others.

1. On the other hand, aggressive behavior is not based on respect.

2. Aggressive people ignore the rights of others and take advantage of them.

3. Their goal is to win, no matter how others are affected.

B. Like assertive people, aggressive people don’t hesitate to express their thoughts or opinions.

1. However, they often pressure or force others to go along with their wishes, and they may refuse when others make requests of them.

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2. They don’t seem to mind if they embarrass or hurt others in the process of achieving their goals.

3. Aggressiveness can take many forms:

a. Name-calling

b. Lying

c. Manipulation

d. Threatening

e. Blaming

f. Insulting

g. Even nonverbal acts, such as slamming a door or giving a “dirty” look

4. Sometimes, aggressive behavior is referred to as attack behavior.

DISCUSSION #�: Ask students if they can think of more forms of aggressive behavior. How do these forms take shape in the workplace?

C. Aggressive people often attack passive people because passive people try to avoid conflict and do not respect their own rights.

1. They have trouble expressing their thoughts and opinions.

2. They give in because they think other people’s needs are more important than their own.

3. They often turn themselves into victims, allowing others to choose outcomes for them instead of standing up for themselves.

4. Many times, they end up feeling hurt and helpless.

D. Because they respect both themselves and others, assertive people look for “win-win” solutions to problems.

1. Passive people don’t respect themselves, so they often end up in “lose-win” situations in which they’re taken advantage of.

2. Aggressive people don’t respect others, so they often force “win-lose” solutions on others.

3. Only assertiveness offers a solution in which there needs to be no loser.

a. Being assertive does not always mean that you will get exactly what you want.

b. Searching for “win-win” solutions means you must be willing to compromise when necessary.

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A � • How to recognize assertive behavior:

A. Assertive people communicate honestly.

B. They tell others what they think and how they feel.

C. They stand up for their rights.

D. They don’t take advantage of others, and they also don’t let others take advantage of them.

E. They know how to ask for help when they need it.

F. They know how to refuse others when necessary, but they do it in a way that is not offensive and does not hurt other people’s feelings.

G. They are direct and upfront instead of being manipulative.

1. For example, your boss needs someone to work overtime tonight, but you have important family plans you don’t want to miss.

2. Instead of deflecting attention off yourself and suggesting to your boss that you think a coworker might like to have the overtime, just tell her that you can’t do it.

3. This is part of honest communication.

DISCUSSION #4: Ask students if they can think of any more ways to recognize assertive behavior.

4 • Being assertive has many benefits, especially in the workplace:

A. You will increase your self-esteem and develop more confidence.

1. This can lead to your taking on more responsibility and possibly to faster promotions and raises.

2. Self-confidence also helps you to realize that it’s okay when others don’t agree with you—you can still maintain your own opinion.

B. You will feel more in control of your career when you are able to communicate clearly with coworkers, managers, supervisors, and clients.

C. Relationships with your peers will be more equal.

1. You won’t feel as if you are being ignored or “put upon” to do all the work.

2. You will feel respected instead of letting people walk all over you.

D. There will be less stress when you don’t worry about responsibilities that aren’t yours.

E. You will be more aware of who you are as a person and as an employee—this knowledge can help you to capitalize on your strengths and minimize your weaknesses.



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DISCUSSION #5: Ask students if they can think of any more benefits of assertive behavior.

5 • Barriers to being assertive:

A. Some people do not like conflict of any kind, and will do anything to avoid a disagreement.

B. Others are afraid that being assertive will ruin a friendship or offend a boss or coworker.

C. Some are afraid that people will mistake their assertiveness for aggressiveness or arrogance.

D. People sometimes think that they will be embarrassed or hurt if they are assertive.

E. They often believe that they have no control over their behavior and cannot be assertive.

6 • By developing certain basic beliefs about yourself and your rights, you can start to be assertive:

A. The foundation of assertiveness is respecting yourself.

1. If you respect yourself, you will be able to stand up for yourself.

2. That leads you to believe that other people should also respect you.

3. When you defend yourself from disrespectful treatment, you are teaching others not to treat you that way again.

a. For example, a coworker yells at you for making a mistake.

b. Politely, but firmly, tell that person not to yell, but to explain the mistake in a calm tone of voice.

4. Assertive people can accept that everyone makes mistakes sometimes, including themselves.

DISCUSSION #6: Ask students if they have ever had to defend themselves from disrespectful treatment. What was the situation? What did they do or say? How did it turn out?

B. You must believe that your thoughts, feelings, ideas, and opinions are as important as anyone else’s.

1. And, you must understand that you have the right to express those thoughts, feelings, ideas, and opinions.

2. However, you should do this in a way that doesn’t offend or threaten others.

3. If you try to force your ideas on others, you are stepping over the line from assertiveness to aggressiveness.



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C. You know that your needs are as important as the needs of others.

1. Furthermore, you have the right to ask others to respond to your needs.

2. Sometimes, they will not be able to meet your needs, and you must be prepared to accept that.

3. You should realize that you will not always be able to respond to others’ needs.

4. It is important for you to learn that it is okay to refuse.

5. No matter what the situation, you have the right to choose the way in which you will respond.

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7 • Steps for exhibiting assertive behavior:

A. Step One—Learn to say “no.”

1. It’s okay to say “no.”

a. Often, people avoid saying “no” because they don’t want to upset others or let them down.

b. They think others won’t like them if they say “no.”

c. However, if you cannot do what someone else wants you to do, or you don’t want to do it for a legitimate reason, the best solution is simply to say “no.”

2. Saying “no” at work can be a sticky subject.

a. There are times when you can’t reasonably say “no,” such as when your man-ager assigns you a new project or when a client has an unbreakable deadline.

b. However, there are times when saying “no” is necessary and even makes you a better employee.

c. Wouldn’t it be better to say “no” to a project that requires software skills you don’t have, than to say “yes” and not be able to complete the work correctly?

d. The trick to saying “no” is to do it nicely, remaining polite and explaining the reason you cannot say “yes.”

DISCUSSION #7: Ask students to discuss times they’ve had to say “no.” Why was it easy or difficult for them to do so? What was the outcome?

B. Step Two—Communicate directly.

1. Assertive people are upfront and direct.

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2. They know how to clearly communicate their wants, needs, opinions, and ideas.

3. A good way to express your thoughts clearly is to use “I” statements.

a. These statements are direct, powerful, and easy to understand.

b. Here are a few examples of “I” statements:

1) “I want to take the lead with this new client.”

2) “I think we should adjust the budget for next quarter.”

3) “I like this cover for the annual report better than the other one.”

4) “I won’t be able to work on Saturday.”

5) “I’ve decided not to take that training class because it interferes with my schedule.”

DISCUSSION #�: Ask students to give more examples of “I” statements they might use at work.

C. Step Three—Be kind and considerate.

1. Being assertive means respecting others’ rights as well as your own.

2. In the process of being direct, it is also important to consider the other person’s point of view.

3. A coworker might ask you to take on some of his responsibilities while he is away on vacation next week.

4. You have an important project, however, that is due next week as well.

5. You understand why your coworker needs your help, but your own project comes first.

6. What should you do?

a. In some cases, you may need to ask questions.

b. If your coworker needs help, it might be useful to know what kind of help.

1) Does he need you to cover the majority of his job duties?

2) Does he simply want you to check his e-mail once a day to make sure there are no emergencies with his clients?

c. Finding out what is needed will help you develop an answer.

d. To be assertive when answering your coworker, sympathize and try to relate.

e. Let him know that you realize his request is important.

f. However, your project is important also, and it must be your first priority.

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g. Offering to help as much as you reasonably can may be a solution.

1) You might say, “If your client has an urgent need, I will try to meet it, but it might be better for you to talk to our manager about this before you leave.”

2) This approach is a polite way of saying “no.”

3) You are being assertive by letting your coworker know that your work is equally important.

4) Also, you are offering a solution that will result in a “win-win” situation.

5) You complete your project, offer to help if you can, and suggest to your coworker that your manager can be part of the solution as well.

h. A passive person might have said “yes” to the request at the expense of his/her own work outcomes.

i. An aggressive person might have said “no” in a rude manner.

j. Being assertive is a much better choice.

DISCUSSION #9: Ask students if they can think of more ways to show kindness and consideration while still being assertive.

D. Step Four—Be assertive both verbally and nonverbally.

1. Assertiveness stems from your attitude and the set of beliefs that you adhere to.

2. Once you are assertive on the inside, it’s time to express your assertiveness through your behavior.

3. You can exhibit assertive behavior both verbally and nonverbally.

4. It’s important to learn how to do both.

5. Verbal assertiveness

a. The old saying that “practice makes perfect” is true when it comes to learning to be assertive.

b. This is particularly true if you have a hard time expressing yourself through the use of words.

c. Fortunately, there are several ways that you can practice being verbally assertive:

1) Start conversations.

a) Don’t wait for others to talk to you.

b) Talk about what interests you while you let others talk about their own interests as well.

c) The secret is to make sure both sides have equal time to talk.

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2) Say what you think, but remember to be tactful.

a) It is usually better to express positive thoughts, if possible, because people are less likely to be offended by positive comments.

b) For example, instead of starting off by saying that you don’t like the new computer system, try to think of one or two good things about it first.

3) Ask questions.

a) You won’t always have all the information you need.

b) Don’t be afraid to speak up.

c) Your managers and coworkers would much rather have you ask for information than to complete a job task improperly.

4) Request help.

a) Don’t hesitate to ask for help when you have a good reason.

b) However, ask in a courteous manner, and be willing to accept it if someone cannot help you.

5) Refuse requests.

a) This goes back to learning to say “no.”

b) You will not always be able to help when you are asked.

c) Most people will understand if you give a brief, but polite, explanation.

d) You don’t need to give a dozen excuses.

DISCUSSION #�0: Ask students to think of more ways to demonstrate verbal assertiveness.

6. Nonverbal assertiveness

a. When you are trying to be assertive, it is important to use the right body language to reinforce your message.

b. Your body language is a nonverbal way of being assertive.

c. First, look other people in the eye when you speak to them.

1) However, don’t maintain a steady stare because that can indicate aggression.

2) Look away from time to time, but make eye contact when you look back.

d. Use facial expression to support what you are saying.

1) The expression on your face tells as much about what you are thinking as the words you say.

2) For example, smile when you hear good news or frown when you disagree.



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e. Relax your face and shoulders.

f. Use posture, the way you hold your body, to express assertiveness.

1) For example, stand up straight and lean toward the person with whom you are interacting to show your interest.

2) Or, cross your arms over your chest to show that you do not like what you are hearing.

3) Stand close enough to others to communicate easily without being too close.

DISCUSSION #��: Ask students to think of more ways to demonstrate nonverbal assertiveness.

E. Step Five—Be firm.

1. You’ve learned to say “no” while still respecting the rights of others and demonstrating kindness and courtesy.

2. You’ve shown your assertiveness both verbally and nonverbally.

3. But, what if someone still refuses to respect your right to stand up for yourself?

4. Then, it is necessary for you to be firm.

5. Continue to say “no,” and don’t give in.

6. You can still be polite, for example, saying that you know your decision is a disappointment, but that you have made up your mind.

7. Then, change the subject.

8. That makes it clear that you are no longer discussing the subject.

9. During such a conversation, it is important to remain calm and not become angry or upset.

a. Speak at a normal volume.

b. Don’t raise your voice or yell.

c. You don’t want to say something that you will regret later.

d. Keep your self-control.

e. If you feel you are starting to lose it, take a couple of deep breaths.

f. Count to 10 slowly.

g. These techniques help you to relax.



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10. Restate your position.

11. If all else fails, walk away.

12. Tell the person that you’ll talk about it later.

• Always keep in mind that being assertive is a skill that anyone can learn.

A. You can become assertive, even if you think you are usually passive.

B. It may take time, but it is worth the effort.

C. Once you’ve mastered the art of being assertive, you’ll be able to communicate honestly while still respecting yourself and others.

D. Assertiveness is a skill you will use throughout your life and your career.

� • The Gray Zone

A. Assertiveness is an important skill to possess in the workplace.

B. However, demonstrating assertiveness with your managers and supervisors can be tough.

C. Let’s say your new manager has updated your work schedule and created deadlines that you think are unreasonable.

D. You don’t want to question the manager’s authority over the schedule but, at the same time, you don’t want to receive a poor performance review for missing your deadlines.

E. What should you do?

F. Is it okay to be assertive and tell your manager that you can’t accept the deadlines?



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• Olivia— just enough time to make her deadline

• Coworker wants help.

• Three ways to react: • Passively (lose-win)

• Aggressively (win-lose)

• Assertively (win-win)

• Assertiveness— important skill


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Types of behavior

n Passive: • Failing to respect your own

rights/needs

• Avoiding conflict at all costs

n Aggressive: • Ignoring the rights of others

• Taking advantage of others to achieve personal goals

n Assertive: • Expressing yourself

• Communicating your point of view

• Standing up for your rights, principles, beliefs


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Recognizing Assertive behavior

• Communicating honestly

• Telling others what you think and feel

• Standing up for your rights

• Not taking advantage of others or letting yourself be taken advantage of

• Asking for help when you need it

• Refusing others when necessary

• Being direct and upfront instead of manipulative


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• Increased self-esteem and self-confidence

• Increased control over career

• Equalized relationships with peers

• Decreased stress

• Increased self-awareness

benefits of Assertiveness


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barriers to Assertiveness

• Avoiding conflict or disagreement

• Not wanting to hurt a relationship

• Being afraid to be seen as aggressive

• Fearing embarrassment

• Believing you have no control over your behavior


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basic beliefs of Assertiveness

• You respect yourself.

• You expect respect from others.

• You stand up for yourself.

• You accept mistakes.

• You believe in the importance of your thoughts and feelings.

• You believe in your right to express your thoughts and feelings.

• You ask others to respond to your needs.

• You refuse others when necessary.

• You exercise your right to choose your own response.


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• Learn to say “no.”

• Communicate directly.

• Be kind and considerate.

• Be assertive both verbally and nonverbally.

• Be firm.

steps for exhibiting Assertive behavior

“ no.”


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• Demonstrating assertiveness in the workplace

• Is it okay to say “no” to your manager’s deadlines?


dIReCTIons To THe InsTRuCToR

Individual Activities

These activities are designed to reinforce individual student understanding and skill in demonstrating assertiveness. Read the two activities, and select the one that better meets the individual’s needs.

1. Duplicate the handout Behavior Clues on page 25. When the student has completed the activity, provide him/her with a copy of the answer guide on page 26.

2. Ask the student to create a visual presentation representing the core beliefs of assertiveness found in the LAP. Encourage her/him to be creative and to make the presentation personal. S/He might choose to create a poster, a photo book, a slideshow, a computer presentation, etc. When the student has finished, ask him/her to make a presentation to the class.

Group Activities

These activities are designed to provide group reinforcement and practice in demonstrating assertiveness. Read the two activities, and select the one better suited to the group’s needs.

1. Preparation: No advance preparation is needed for this activity.

Process: Divide the class into five equal groups. Assign each group one step in the process of exhibiting assertive behavior:

• Learn to say “no.”

• Communicate directly.

• Be kind and considerate.

• Be assertive both verbally and nonverbally.

• Be firm.

Give the groups 10–15 minutes to brainstorm for ways to complete these steps effectively. When the groups have finished, ask them to share their ideas with the class.

2. Preparation: No advance preparation is needed for this activity.

Process: Divide the class into three equal groups. One group is “passive,” one group is “aggressive,” and one group is “assertive.” Read the following situations out loud, and allow the groups time to formulate responses based on their assigned behavior type. Ask the class to discuss the different responses that are possible for the same situations. If time allows, rotate behavior types through the groups, or allow groups to come up with their own situations to discuss.

Situation #1. A coworker is insisting on attending a meeting between you and a client. The coworker is not involved in the project, and you don’t want him/her there. How do you respond?


Situation #2. You’re the team leader, and the team needs to decide which design to use for a new billboard. Most team members like Design A, but you and a few others prefer Design B. You truly feel it will be more effective. It’s time to make the final decision. What do you do?

Situation #3. Your manager has asked you to work on Saturday, but you’ve committed to attending a friend’s graduation party. You don’t want to let your manager down, but you don’t want to let your friend down either. What do you do?

dIReCTIons To THe InsTRuCToR (cont’d)


beHAVIoR CLues

Directions: For each of the following statements, determine if the speaker is displaying passive behavior, aggressive behavior, or assertive behavior. Write your answers in the spaces provided. When you have finished, ask your instructor for a copy of the answer guide.

1. “I don’t care if you were here first. I need to use the copier now.” ____________

2. “I can’t eat lunch with you today because I have to meet with a client, but we can reschedule for Friday if you’d like.” ____________

3. “Sure, you can use my computer since yours isn’t working. I’ll just work on something else for a while.” ____________

4. “Yes, I can switch shifts with you. I just need to cancel dinner with my friend.” ____________

5. “No, I can’t switch shifts with you. I already have plans. Sorry.” ____________

6. “No, I can’t switch shifts with you. Don’t ask me again!” ____________

7. “I need you to finish mailing these brochures for me while I’m on vacation next week. Have it done by Wednesday.” ____________

8. “I’m really behind on this project and need help. If you’re not busy later this afternoon, would you mind pitching in?” ____________

9. “I wish the team would listen to my ideas.” ____________

10. “I would like to be in charge of the task force.” ____________

11. “I can’t believe you made such a stupid mistake! You’ve ruined this whole report.” ____________

12. “I know you’re disappointed, but I can’t stay late tonight. You’ll have to ask someone else.” ____________


beHAVIoR CLues—AnsweR GuIde

1. “I don’t care if you were here first. I need to use the copier now.” ____________

2. “I can’t eat lunch with you today because I have to meet with a client, but we can reschedule for Friday if you’d like.” ____________

3. “Sure, you can use my computer since yours isn’t working. I’ll just work on something else for a while.” ____________

4. “Yes, I can switch shifts with you. I just need to cancel dinner with my friend.” ____________

5. “No, I can’t switch shifts with you. I already have plans. Sorry.” ____________

6. “No, I can’t switch shifts with you. Don’t ask me again!” ____________

7. “I need you to finish mailing these brochures for me while I’m on vacation next week. Have it done by Wednesday.” ____________

8. “I’m really behind on this project and need help. If you’re not busy later this afternoon, would you mind pitching in?” ____________

9. “I wish the team would listen to my ideas.” ____________

10. “I would like to be in charge of the task force.” ____________

11. “I can’t believe you made such a stupid mistake! You’ve ruined this whole report.” ____________

12. “I know you’re disappointed, but I can’t stay late tonight. You’ll have to ask someone else.” ____________

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ToTAL ReCALL KeY

OBJECTIVE A (Page 5 of student LAP)

1. Passive behavior is conduct in which people fail to exercise their own rights or to respect their own needs. A passive person usually displays an attitude based on the desire to avoid conflict at all costs.

2. Aggressive behavior is conduct based on a willingness to ignore the rights of others and to take advantage of them to achieve personal goals.

3. Assertive behavior, or assertiveness, is the ability to express yourself, communicate your point of view, and stand up for your rights, principles, and beliefs.

4. The main difference between assertiveness and aggressiveness is that assertive people exhibit confidence while respecting their own rights and the rights of others. On the other hand, aggressive behavior is not based on respect. Aggressive people ignore the rights of others and take advantage of them. Their goal is to win, no matter how others are affected.

5. Assertive people communicate honestly. They tell others what they think and how they feel. They also stand up for their rights. They don’t take advantage of others, and they also don’t let others take advantage of them. Assertive people know how to ask for help when they need it. They also know how to refuse others when necessary. But, they do it in a way that is not offensive and does not hurt other people’s feelings. Assertive people are direct and upfront instead of being manipulative.

6. Benefits of assertiveness:

• You will increase your self-esteem and develop more confidence. This can lead to your taking on more responsibility and possibly to faster promotions and raises. Self-confidence also helps you to realize that it’s okay when others don’t agree with you—you can still maintain your own opinion.

• You will feel more in control of your career when you are able to communicate clearly with coworkers, managers, supervisors, and clients.

• Relationships with your peers will be more equal. You won’t feel as if you are being ignored or “put upon” to do all the work. You will feel respected instead of letting people walk all over you.

• There will be less stress when you don’t worry about responsibilities that aren’t yours.

• You will be more aware of who you are as a person and as an employee. This knowledge can help you to capitalize on your strengths and minimize your weaknesses.

7. Some people do not like conflict of any kind, and will do anything to avoid a disagreement. Others are afraid that being assertive will ruin a friendship or offend a boss or coworker. Also, they are afraid that people will mistake their assertiveness for aggressiveness or arrogance. People sometimes think that they will be embarrassed or hurt if they are assertive. Finally, they often believe that they have no control over their behavior and cannot be assertive.


OBJECTIVE B (Page 8 of student LAP)

1. Five steps to exhibiting assertive behavior:

a. Learn to say “no.” The first step in being assertive is to remember that it’s okay to say “no.” Often, people avoid saying “no” because they don’t want to upset others or let them down. They think others won’t like them if they say “no.” However, if you cannot do what someone else wants you to do, or you don’t want to do it for a legitimate reason, the best solution is simply to say “no.” Saying “no” at work can be a sticky subject. There are times when you can’t reasonably say “no,” such as when your manager assigns you a new project or when a client has an unbreakable deadline. However, there are times when saying “no” is necessary and even makes you a better employee. The trick to saying “no” is to do it nicely, remaining polite and explaining the reason you cannot say “yes.”

b. Communicate directly. Assertive people are upfront and direct. They know how to clearly communicate their wants, needs, opinions, and ideas. A good way to express your thoughts clearly is to use “I” statements. These statements are direct, powerful, and easy to understand.

c. Be kind and considerate. Remember that being assertive means respecting others’ rights as well as your own. In the process of being direct, it is also important to consider the other person’s point of view. Sympathize and try to relate. This approach is a polite way of saying “no.”

d. Be assertive both verbally and nonverbally:

Verbal assertiveness:

• Start conversations.

• Say what you think, but remember to be tactful. It is usually better to express positive thoughts, if possible, because people are less likely to be offended by positive comments.

• Ask questions. You won’t always have all the information you need. Don’t be afraid to speak up.

• Request help. Don’t hesitate to ask for help when you have a good reason.

• Refuse requests. You will not always be able to help when you are asked. Most people will understand if give a brief, but polite, explanation. You don’t need to give a dozen excuses.

ToTAL ReCALL KeY (cont’d)

8. The foundation of assertiveness is respecting yourself. If you respect yourself, you will be able to stand up for yourself. That leads you to believe that other people should also respect you. When you defend yourself from disrespectful treatment, you are teaching others not to treat you that way again. Assertive people can accept that everyone makes mistakes sometimes, including themselves. Then, you must believe that your thoughts, feelings, ideas, and opinions are as important as anyone else’s. And, you must understand that you have the right to express those thoughts, feelings, ideas, and opinions. However, you should do this in a way that doesn’t offend or threaten others. If you try to force your ideas on others, you are stepping over the line from assertiveness to aggressiveness. Also, you know that your needs are as important as the needs of others. Furthermore, you have the right to ask others to respond to your needs. Sometimes, they will not be able to meet your needs, and you must be prepared to accept that. Finally, you should realize that you will not always be able to respond to others’ needs. It is important for you to learn that it is okay to refuse. No matter what the situation, you have the right to choose the way in which you will respond.


Nonverbal assertiveness:

Your body language is a nonverbal way of being assertive. First, look other people in the eye when you speak to them. However, don’t maintain a steady stare because that can indicate aggression. Look away from time to time, but make eye contact when you look back. Use facial expression to support what you are saying. The expression on your face tells as much about what you are thinking as the words you say. Also, use posture, the way you hold your body, to express assertiveness. Stand up straight and lean toward the person with whom you are interacting to show your interest. Or, cross your arms over your chest to show that you do not like what you are hearing. Stand close enough to others to communicate easily without being too close.

e. If someone still refuses to respect your right to stand up for yourself, then it is necessary for you to be firm. Continue to say “no,” and don’t give in. You can still be polite, for example, saying that you know your decision is a disappointment, but that you have made up your mind. Then, change the subject. That makes it clear that you are no longer discussing the subject. During such a conversa-tion, it is important to remain calm and not become angry or upset. Speak at a normal volume. Don’t raise your voice or yell. Also, you don’t want to say something that you will regret later. Keep your self-control. Sometimes, this is very hard to do. If you feel you are starting to lose it, take a couple of deep breaths. Count to 10 slowly. These techniques help you to relax. Then, restate your position. If all else fails, walk away. Tell the person that you’ll talk about it later.

ToTAL ReCALL KeY (cont’d)


PRACTICe TesT

Part I—60 points

Directions: Answer each of the following questions. Use a separate sheet of paper to record your responses.

OBJECTIVE A

1. Describe passive behavior. (3 points)

2. Describe aggressive behavior. (3 points)

3. Describe assertive behavior. (3 points)

4. What is the difference between aggressive behavior and assertive behavior? (3 points)

5. List and describe five benefits of assertiveness. (15 points; 3 points each)

6. Explain five reasons why people may be unable to demonstrate assertiveness. (15 points; 3 points each)

7. What core beliefs are essential to assertiveness? (3 points)

OBJECTIVE B

8. Describe the five steps to exhibiting assertive behavior: (15 points; 3 points each)

a. Learn to say “no.”

b. Communicate directly.

c. Be kind and considerate.

d. Be assertive both verbally and nonverbally.

e. Be firm.

Part II—40 points

Directions: You just landed a new job, and you’re ready to demonstrate assertive behavior at work. Write a plan for how you will complete this task. Be sure that your plan addresses the steps outlined in the LAP.

Suggested Criteria Levels: Part I—48 points Part II—32 points


PRACTICe TesT KeY

Part I—60 points

OBJECTIVE A

1. Passive behavior is conduct in which people fail to exercise their own rights or to respect their own needs. A passive person usually displays an attitude based on the desire to avoid conflict at all costs. (3 points)

2. Aggressive behavior is conduct based on a willingness to ignore the rights of others and to take advantage of them to achieve personal goals. (3 points)

3. Assertive behavior, or assertiveness, is the ability to express yourself, communicate your point of view, and stand up for your rights, principles, and beliefs. Assertive people communicate honestly. They tell others what they think and how they feel. They also stand up for their rights. They don’t take advantage of others, and they also don’t let others take advantage of them. Assertive people know how to ask for help when they need it. They also know how to refuse others when necessary. But, they do it in a way that is not offensive and does not hurt other people’s feelings. Assertive people are direct and upfront instead of being manipulative. (3 points)

4. The main difference between assertiveness and aggressiveness is that assertive people exhibit confidence while respecting their own rights and the rights of others. On the other hand, aggressive behavior is not based on respect. Aggressive people ignore the rights of others and take advantage of them. Their goal is to win, no matter how others are affected. (3 points)

5. Benefits of assertiveness: (15 points; 3 points each)

• You will increase your self-esteem and develop more confidence. This can lead to your taking on more responsibility and possibly to faster promotions and raises. Self-confidence also helps you to realize that it’s okay when others don’t agree with you—you can still maintain your own opinion.

• You will feel more in control of your career when you are able to communicate clearly with coworkers, managers, supervisors, and clients.

• Relationships with your peers will be more equal. You won’t feel as if you are being ignored or “put upon” to do all the work. You will feel respected instead of letting people walk all over you.

• There will be less stress when you don’t worry about responsibilities that aren’t yours.

• You will be more aware of who you are as a person and as an employee. This knowledge can help you to capitalize on your strengths and minimize your weaknesses.

6. Reasons people may be unable to demonstrate assertiveness: (15 points; 3 points each)

• Some people do not like conflict of any kind, and will do anything to avoid a disagreement.

• Some people are afraid that being assertive will ruin a friendship or offend a boss or coworker.

• Some people are afraid that people will mistake their assertiveness for aggressiveness or arrogance.

• People sometimes think that they will be embarrassed or hurt if they are assertive.

• People often believe that they have no control over their behavior and cannot be assertive.


PRACTICe TesT KeY (cont’d)

7. The foundation of assertiveness is respecting yourself. If you respect yourself, you will be able to stand up for yourself. That leads you to believe that other people should also respect you. When you defend yourself from disrespectful treatment, you are teaching others not to treat you that way again. Assertive people can accept that everyone makes mistakes sometimes, including themselves. Then, you must believe that your thoughts, feelings, ideas, and opinions are as important as anyone else’s. And, you must understand that you have the right to express those thoughts, feelings, ideas, and opinions. However, you should do this in a way that doesn’t offend or threaten others. If you try to force your ideas on others, you are stepping over the line from assertiveness to aggressiveness. Also, you know that your needs are as important as the needs of others. Furthermore, you have the right to ask others to respond to your needs. Sometimes, they will not be able to meet your needs, and you must be prepared to accept that. Finally, you should realize that you will not always be able to respond to others’ needs. It is important for you to learn that it is okay to refuse. No matter what the situation, you have the right to choose the way in which you will respond. (3 points)

OBJECTIVE B

8. Five steps to exhibiting assertive behavior: (15 points; 3 points each)

a. Learn to say “no.” The first step in being assertive is to remember that it’s okay to say “no.” Often, people avoid saying “no” because they don’t want to upset others or let them down. They think others won’t like them if they say “no.” However, if you cannot do what someone else wants you to do, or you don’t want to do it for a legitimate reason, the best solution is simply to say “no.” Saying “no” at work can be a sticky subject. There are times when you can’t reasonably say “no,” such as when your manager assigns you a new project or when a client has an unbreakable deadline. However, there are times when saying “no” is necessary and even makes you a better employee. The trick to saying “no” is to do it nicely, remaining polite and explaining the reason you cannot say “yes.”

b. Communicate directly. Assertive people are upfront and direct. They know how to clearly communi-cate their wants, needs, opinions, and ideas. A good way to express your thoughts clearly is to use “I” statements. These statements are direct, powerful, and easy to understand.

c. Be kind and considerate. Remember that being assertive means respecting others’ rights as well as your own. In the process of being direct, it is also important to consider the other person’s point of view. Sympathize and try to relate. This approach is a polite way of saying “no.”

d. Be assertive both verbally and nonverbally:

Verbal assertiveness:

• Start conversations.

• Say what you think, but remember to be tactful. It is usually better to express positive thoughts, if possible, because people are less likely to be offended by positive comments.

• Ask questions. You won’t always have all the information you need. Don’t be afraid to speak up.

• Request help. Don’t hesitate to ask for help when you have a good reason.

• Refuse requests. You will not always be able to help when you are asked. Most people will un-derstand if you give a brief, but polite, explanation. You don’t need to give a dozen excuses.


PRACTICe TesT KeY (cont’d)

Nonverbal assertiveness:

Your body language is a nonverbal way of being assertive. First, look other people in the eye when you speak to them. However, don’t maintain a steady stare because that can indicate aggression. Look away from time to time, but make eye contact when you look back. Use facial expression to support what you are saying. The expression on your face tells as much about what you are thinking as the words you say. Also, use posture, the way you hold your body, to express assertiveness. Stand up straight and lean toward the person with whom you are interacting to show your interest. Or, cross your arms over your chest to show that you do not like what you are hearing. Stand close enough to others to communicate easily without being too close.

e. If someone still refuses to respect your right to stand up for yourself, then it is necessary for you to be firm. Continue to say “no,” and don’t give in. You can still be polite, for example, saying that you know your decision is a disappointment, but that you have made up your mind. Then, change the subject. That makes it clear that you are no longer discussing the subject. During such a conversation, it is important to remain calm and not become angry or upset. Speak at a normal volume. Don’t raise your voice or yell. Also, you don’t want to say something that you will regret later. Keep your self-control. Sometimes, this is very hard to do. If you feel you are starting to lose it, take a couple of deep breaths. Count to 10 slowly. These techniques help you to relax. Then, restate your position. If all else fails, walk away. Tell the person that you’ll talk about it later.

Part II—40 points

Directions: Circle the appropriate value.

Poor Fair Good Excellent

1. Was able to say “no” 0–3 4–5 6–7 8

2. Communicated directly 0–3 4–5 6–7 8

3. Was kind and considerate 0–3 4–5 6–7 8

4. Was assertive both verbally and nonverbally 0–3 4–5 6–7 8

5. Was firm 0–3 4–5 6–7 8



PosTTesT

Part I—60 points

Directions: Identify the correct answer to each of the following questions. Use a separate sheet of paper to record your responses.

OBJECTIVE A

1. A person who tries to avoid conflict at all costs is said to be (3 points)

a. rude. c. aggressive. b. assertive. d. passive.

2. A person who ignores the rights of others is said to be (3 points)

a. motivated. c. aggressive. b. assertive. d. passive.

3. The main difference between assertive people and aggressive people is that assertive people (3 points)

a. try to avoid conflict with others. b. respect their own rights and the rights of others. c. feel free to make requests of others. d. take advantage of others.

4. Which of the following is a characteristic of assertive people: (3 points)

a. They do not ask for help. c. They do not say how they feel. b. They hurt others’ feelings. d. They communicate honestly.

5. Assertive people are direct and upfront rather than being (3 points)

a. manipulative. c. respectful. b. considerate. d. talkative.

6. One of the benefits of being assertive is that assertive people (3 points)

a. feel in control of their careers. b. put forth all of the effort in relationships. c. let people walk all over them. d. worry about doing something they do not want to do.

7. Not liking conflict of any kind and avoiding it at all costs are ___________ being assertive. (3 points)

a. reasons for c. barriers to b. methods of d. advantages of


PosTTesT (cont’d)

8. Which of the following is a basic belief that you must have so you can start to be assertive: (3 points)

a. You have the right to try to force your ideas on others. b. Your thoughts, feelings, ideas, and opinions are important. c. You should always respond to the needs of others. d. Your needs come first in all situations.

9. The foundation of assertiveness is (3 points)

a. making others happy. c. a good education. b. respecting yourself. d. your family.

10. Being assertive means that, no matter what the situation, you have the right to (3 points)

a. do whatever it takes to succeed. c. choose your response. b. raise your voice. d. make others go along with you.

OBJECTIVE B

11. An essential part of exhibiting assertiveness is learning to say (3 points)

a. “no.” c. “I’m sorry.” b. “yes.” d. “Because I said so!”

12. Refusing requests can be a particularly tough task (3 points)

a. when you are sick. c. at work. b. for an aggressive person. d. during the summer.

13. Which of the following is an assertive statement that clearly expresses what you want and need: (3 points)

a. “I think.” c. “I’m not sure.” b. “I might.” d. “I’m in charge.”

14. Assertive people are good at (3 points)

a. managing others. c. calculating. b. writing. d. communicating.

15. When you must refuse a request, what is one way of being assertive while sympathizing with the person? (3 points)

a. Telling a story c. Taking a stand b. Saying you’re sorry d. Offering a solution


PosTTesT (cont’d)

16. Assertive people seek __________ solutions. (3 points)

a. “lose-lose” c. “lose-win” b. “win-win” d. “win-lose”

17. What can you do to practice being verbally assertive? (3 points)

a. Start conversations. c. Raise your voice. b. Stand up straight. d. Make eye contact.

18. It is important to use the right body language when you are being assertive because body language (3 points)

a. helps you to relax. c. replaces nonverbal communication. b. reinforces your message. d. expresses that you are interested.

19. Taking a couple of deep breaths and counting to 10 slowly are techniques that will help you to (3 points)

a. get what you want. c. keep your self-control. b. become more emotional. d. feel superior to others.

20. If someone will not accept your “no” answer, a helpful assertive technique is to (3 points)

a. end your relationship with him/her. c. argue with him/her. b. change your answer to “yes.” d. change the subject.

Part II—40 points

Directions: You’ve always been a passive person, but now you are ready to demonstrate assertiveness, starting at your job. Write a plan for how you will complete this task. Be sure that your plan addresses the steps outlined in the LAP.



PosTTesT KeY

Part I—60 points

OBJECTIVE A

1. d Passive. A person who tries to avoid conflict at all costs is said to be passive. Passive people fail to exercise their own rights or to respect their own needs. Assertive people express themselves, com-municate their points of view, and stand up for their rights, principles, and beliefs. Aggressive people, who are often rude, ignore the rights of others and take advantage of them to achieve personal goals. (3 points)

2. c Aggressive. A person who ignores the rights of others is said to be aggressive. Aggressive people often take advantage of others to achieve their personal goals. A person who ignores the rights of others may or may not be motivated. Assertive people express themselves, communicate their points of view, and stand up for their rights, principles, and beliefs. Passive people fail to exercise their own rights or to respect their own needs. (3 points)

3. b Respect their own rights and the rights of others. Assertive people have a confident attitude based on feelings of self-respect. They respect themselves and others. On the other hand, aggressive people ignore the rights of others and take advantage of them. They feel free to make requests of others. People who are passive try to avoid conflict with others. (3 points)

4. d They communicate honestly. Assertive people communicate honestly. They tell others what they think and how they feel. They know how to ask for help when they need it. They know how to refuse others when necessary, but they do it in a way that does not hurt other people’s feelings. (3 points)

5. a Manipulative. Assertive people are direct and upfront rather than being manipulative. This is part of honest communication. Assertive people may also be considerate, respectful, or talkative, but these qualities are not necessarily associated with being direct and upfront. (3 points)

6. a Feel in control of their careers. People who are assertive feel in control of their careers because they are able to speak honestly. They do not feel as if they are putting forth all of the effort in relationships. They feel respected instead of letting people walk all over them. They have less stress because they do not worry about doing something they’d rather not do. (3 points)

7. c Barriers to. There are barriers to being assertive even though being assertive is the way to go. For one, some people do not like conflict of any kind and avoid it at all costs. They are afraid that being assertive will ruin relationships. They do not want to appear to be aggressive so they do not stand up for themselves. Not liking conflict of any kind and avoiding it at all costs are not reasons for being assertive, methods of being assertive, or advantages of being assertive. (3 points)


PosTTesT KeY (cont’d)

8. b Your thoughts, feelings, ideas, and opinions are important. You can learn to be assertive by developing certain basic beliefs about yourself and your rights. For one, you must believe that your thoughts, feelings, ideas, and opinions are as important as anyone else’s. Also, you have the right to express your thoughts, feelings, ideas, and opinions, but in a way that does not offend or threaten others. If you try to force your ideas on others, you are stepping over the line from assertiveness to aggressiveness. You should realize that you will not always be able to respond to the needs of others. Also, your needs are as important as the needs of others, but others may not be able to meet your needs in all situations. (3 points)

9. b Respecting yourself. The foundation of assertiveness is respecting yourself. If you don’t respect yourself, you can’t expect others to respect you. Assertiveness means you won’t always make others happy. You can be assertive regardless of your educational or family status. (3 points)

10. c Choose your response. Being assertive means that, no matter what the situation, you have the right to choose your response. It does not mean you have the right to make others go along with you, to do whatever it takes to succeed (especially if it means trampling on others’ rights), or to raise your voice. (3 points)

OBJECTIVE B

11. a “No.” An essential part of exhibiting assertiveness is learning to say “no.” When you cannot or do not want to do something, the best solution is to simply say “no.” Saying “yes” all the time is not being assertive, nor is saying “I’m sorry” if it isn’t your fault. “Because I said so!” is a harsh phrase that an aggressive person might use. (3 points)

12. c At work. Refusing requests can be a particularly tough task at work. There are times when you can’t reasonably say “no,” such as when your manager assigns you a new project or when a client has an unbreakable deadline. However, there are times when saying “no” is necessary and even makes you a better employee. Refusing requests isn’t necessarily tougher when you are sick or during the summer. Aggressive people usually have no trouble saying “no.” (3 points)

13. a “I think.” Being assertive involves clearly expressing what you want and need, or what you will not do or what you do not like. An example of an assertive statement is “I think.” This statement is direct and powerful, and easy to understand. Statements such as, “I might” and “I’m not sure,” are not assertive because they do not clearly express your wants, needs, and feelings. The statement, “I’m in charge,” is aggressive rather than assertive. (3 points)

14. d Communicating. Assertive people are good at communicating. Honest, direct communication is essential to exhibiting assertive behavior. Assertive people are not necessarily good at managing others, writing, or calculating. (3 points)



15. d Offering a solution. There are times when you will need to refuse a request. When that happens, sympathize and try to relate. Offering a solution is one way of being assertive while refusing a request. You might say, “I’d like to help, and I will next week when I have more time.” Suggesting a solution often results in a “win-win” situation for both parties. Telling a story might be a way to sympathize, but it is not necessarily assertive. There’s no need to say you’re sorry for not being able to do some-thing. If the person will not take “no” for an answer, it may be necessary to take a stand and be firm. (3 points)

16. b “Win-win.” Assertive people seek “win-win” solutions. They respect their own rights as well as the rights of others. Passive people may find themselves in “lose-win” situations, whereas aggressive people might force “win-lose” or “lose-lose” situations on others. (3 points)

17. a Start conversations. There are several ways that you can practice being verbally assertive. One is to start conversations. Don’t wait for others to talk to you. Talk about what interests you, while you let others talk about whatever they wish. The secret is to make sure both sides have equal time to talk. Standing up straight and making eye contact are examples of body language. You should not raise your voice when you are being assertive. You should speak at a normal volume. (3 points)

18. b Reinforces your message. When you are trying to be assertive, it is important to use the right body language to reinforce your message. Your body language is a nonverbal way of being assertive. For example, leaning toward a person shows your interest, while crossing your arms over your chest shows that you do not like what you are hearing. Body language does not help you to relax. Body language is nonverbal communication rather than verbal communication. Body language can express that you are interested, but it can also express displeasure, boredom, anger, and a wide variety of emotions. (3 points)

19. c Keep your self-control. Keeping your self-control is sometimes very hard to do during conversations in which you tell people that you are unable to help them now. However, this is a time when it is impor-tant to remain calm and not become angry or upset with someone. You don’t want to say something that you will regret later. If you feel yourself starting to lose it, take a couple of deep breaths. Count to 10 slowly. These techniques help you to relax. Taking a couple of deep breaths and counting to 10 slowly will not help you to get what you want, become more emotional, or feel superior to others. (3 points)

20. d Change the subject. If someone will not accept your answer, continue to say “no,” and don’t give in. You can still be polite, saying that you know your decision is a disappointment, but that you have made up your mind. Then, change the subject. That makes it clear that you are no longer discuss-ing the subject. It is not necessary or even possible to end all relationships in which you have dif-ficulty saying “no.” Changing your answer to “yes” would be passive. Arguing would be aggressive. (3 points)



Part II—40 points

Directions: Circle the appropriate value.

Poor Fair Good Excellent

1. Was able to say “no” 0–3 4–5 6–7 8

2. Communicated directly 0–3 4–5 6–7 8

3. Was kind and considerate 0–3 4–5 6–7 8

4. Was assertive both verbally and nonverbally 0–3 4–5 6–7 8

5. Was firm 0–3 4–5 6–7 8


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14. d

15. d

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G L o s s A R Y

1. Aggressive behavior: Conduct based on a willingness to ignore the rights of others and to take advantage of them to achieve personal goals

2. Arrogance: An inflated sense of self-importance

3. Assertive behavior: Conduct based on respect for your own rights and for the rights of others

4. Assertiveness: The ability to express yourself, communicate your point of view, and stand up for your rights, principles, and beliefs

5. Body language: Gestures, facial expression, tone of voice, or any other form of communicating without words; often called “silent language”

6. Manipulate: To control others to your own advantage

7. Need: Something required or essential that is lacking

8. Nonverbal assertiveness: A confident attitude expressed through body language

9. Nonverbal communication: Communication that uses body language instead of words or to support words

10. Passive behavior: Conduct in which people fail to exercise their own rights and to respect their own needs

11. Posture: The way in which you hold your body when sitting, standing, etc.

12. Self-confidence: A positive belief in your own talents, skills, and objectives

13. Self-esteem: How you feel about yourself at any given time

14. Verbal assertiveness: A confident attitude that involves the use of words

15. Verbal communication: Communication that involves the use of words


AsseRT YouRseLf sTudenT QuesTIonnAIRe

Directions: After completing Assert Yourself, please rate the following statements to help MBAResearch improve the LAP. Marking a five indicates that you “strongly agree” with the statement, while selecting a one indicates that you “strongly disagree.” When you have finished, please fax your responses to 614-486-1819 or mail them to MBAResearch at P.O. Box 12279, Columbus, OH, 43212.

1. The information in So What? encourages me to want to know more about 1 2 3 4 5 demonstrating assertiveness.

2. The examples used in the LAP helped to increase my understanding or interest in 1 2 3 4 5 demonstrating assertiveness.

3. The LAP content is clear and easy to understand. 1 2 3 4 5

4. The transparencies are easy to read and to understand. 1 2 3 4 5

5. I liked the application exercise/activity. 1 2 3 4 5

6. I understood the directions for the application exercise/activity. 1 2 3 4 5

7. I better understood how to demonstrate assertiveness after completing 1 2 3 4 5 an activity/application exercise.

8. I easily understood what the test questions were asking. 1 2 3 4 5

9. I guessed and got the right answer to test questions most of the time. 1 2 3 4 5

10. The Gray Zone presents an ethical dilemma that does not have a black-and-white answer. 1 2 3 4 5

11. The Gray Zone really made me think about ethical dilemmas involving 1 2 3 4 5 how to demonstrate assertiveness.

12. What did/didn’t you like about this LAP?


Directions: After completing Assert Yourself, please respond to the following questions to help MBAResearch improve the LAP. When you have finished, please fax your responses to 614-486-1819 or mail them to MBAResearch at P.O. Box 12279, Columbus, OH 43212.

1. What information could be presented in So What? that would compel students to want to know more about demonstrating assertiveness?

2. What information in the student or teacher booklets needs to be changed to make it more accurate, easier to understand, and/or more up-to-date?

3. What anecdotes, examples, etc., could be added to the LAP to increase student understanding or interest in demonstrating assertiveness?

4. Identify specific changes that need to be made to transparencies to make them easier to read and to understand.

5. How would you improve the application exercises and their directions?

6. What specific changes need to be made to test questions so that they will be clearer?

7. How would you change The Gray Zone to make it relate more to demonstrating assertiveness and present an ethical dilemma that does not have a black-and-white answer?

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