The Christian Must Be Very CarefulThe Christian Must Be Very Carefulin All Areas of Lifein All Areas of Life
Eph 5:15“See then that ye walk circumspectly, not as fools, but as wise” (KJV)
• Translated “diligently” (Matt. 2:8; Acts 18:25)• Translated “perfect” (Luke 1:3; 1 Thess. 5:2)• Thayer: “exactly, accurately, diligently”
“Be very careful, then, how you live-not as unwise but as wise” (NIV)
The Christian Must Be Very CarefulThe Christian Must Be Very Carefulin All Areas of Lifein All Areas of Life
WorshipWorship MoralsMorals
FriendshipsFriendships How StudyHow Study
How TreatHow TreatOthersOthers
PersonalPersonalGodlinessGodliness
WhoWhoMarryMarry
WhoWhoMarryMarry
Who One Marries Makes A DifferenceWho One Marries Makes A Difference
• Exo. 34:11-16 - Don’t marry people of land• Deut. 7:3-4 - Don’t marry people of land• Ezra 9-10 - Married people of land
� Identified problem as sin (9:2,10,11,13; 10:10)� Told to separate from those wives (10:11)� People said “...we must do” (10:12)
• Neh. 13:25-26 - Solomon’s wives caused him to sin• Mark 6:17-18 - Herod told his marriage not lawful• 1 Pet. 3:1-7 - Wife concerned about husband
If Must Be Careful Who We MarryIf Must Be Careful Who We MarryThen, Careful Who We Date!Then, Careful Who We Date!
Those WhoDate
Become
Those WhoMarry
CarefulCarefulWho You MarryWho You Marry
I. Marriage is PermanentI. Marriage is Permanent
Permanence of MarriagePermanence of Marriage
1. One man forone woman
2. Must Cleave
3. One Flesh
4. God has joinedthem together
Matt. 19:4-6
1. Do not depart (10)
2. Not divorce (11)
3. Not divorce (12)
4. Not divorce (13)
1 Cor. 7:10-13
One ExceptionOne Exception:
Divorce for Fornication
Matt. 5:32Matt. 19:9
Permanence of MarriagePermanence of Marriage
1 Know ye not, brethren, (for I speak to them that know the law,) how that the law hath dominion over a man as long as he liveth?
2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband.
Romans 7:1-2
CarefulCarefulWho You MarryWho You Marry
I. Marriage is PermanentI. Marriage is Permanent
II. This is the Closest RelationshipII. This is the Closest Relationship
On
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lesh
Gen. 2:24Gen. 2:24Mt. 19:5-6Mt. 19:5-6
Eph. 5:31Eph. 5:31
“A man’s children are pieces of himself;but a man’s wife is himself” - Matthew Henry
Closerthan
Parent / Child
Commandto dwelltogether
(1 Pet. 3:7)
1 Cor. 6:16Marriage involves a blending of personalities
CarefulCarefulWho You MarryWho You Marry
I. Marriage is PermanentI. Marriage is Permanent
II. This is the Closest RelationshipII. This is the Closest Relationship
III. Mate Will Influence YouIII. Mate Will Influence You
Influence
InfluenceEach Other
Each Other
Only natural since:Only natural since:• They are so closeThey are so close• He loves her (Eph. 5:25ff)He loves her (Eph. 5:25ff)• She loves & reverences him (Eph. 5:33; Tit. 2:4)She loves & reverences him (Eph. 5:33; Tit. 2:4)
Influence
InfluenceEach Other
Each Other
• Exo. 34:11-16Exo. 34:11-16 - - “and make your sons play the “and make your sons play the
harlot”harlot”• Deut. 7:3-4Deut. 7:3-4 - “ - “will turn your sons away from will turn your sons away from
following Me”following Me”• Neh. 13:25-26Neh. 13:25-26 - - Solomon’s wives caused him to sinSolomon’s wives caused him to sin
CarefulCarefulWho You MarryWho You Marry
I. Marriage is PermanentI. Marriage is Permanent
II. This is the Closest RelationshipII. This is the Closest Relationship
III. Mate Will Influence YouIII. Mate Will Influence You
IV. Parent to your ChildrenIV. Parent to your Children
Responsible for training childrenResponsible for training children
Eph 6:1Eph 6:1“Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.”
Ezek 16:44Ezek 16:44'Like mother, like daughter!'
A Parent To Your ChildrenA Parent To Your Children
Example to your childrenExample to your children
CarefulCarefulWho You MarryWho You Marry
I. Marriage is PermanentI. Marriage is Permanent
II. This is the Closest RelationshipII. This is the Closest Relationship
III. Mate Will Influence YouIII. Mate Will Influence You
IV. Parent to your ChildrenIV. Parent to your Children
V. May not have a Right to MarryV. May not have a Right to Marry
One whose mate is dead (Rom. 7:2-3)
One who - never married (Matt. 19:5-6)
One who put mate away forfornication (Matt. 5:32; 19:9)
Matt 5:32But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.
Matt 19:9And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
Adultery
Adultery
MarryYou
(have a right)
Another(Not have
a right)
“...and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.”
One whose mate is dead (Rom. 7:2-3)
One who - never married (Matt. 19:5-6)
One who put mate away forfornication (Matt. 5:32; 19:9)
CarefulCarefulWho You MarryWho You Marry
I. Marriage is PermanentI. Marriage is Permanent
II. This is the Closest RelationshipII. This is the Closest Relationship
III. Mate Will Influence YouIII. Mate Will Influence You
IV. Parent to your ChildrenIV. Parent to your Children
V. May not have a Right to MarryV. May not have a Right to Marry