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Communication and
Conflict Management in Special Education
DoDEA Center for Early Dispute Resolution (CEDR)Fort Stewart
February 16-17, 2011
Anita Engiles, Dispute Resolution Specialist, CADRELeila Peterson, Executive Director, SchoolTalk
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CADRE Priorities
• Promote problem solving and agreement reaching skills
• Implement effective dispute resolution processes
• Enhance state agency and parent center collaboration
• Assist states to implement dispute resolution provisions of IDEA
• Support improved state system performance
• Compile information and data on state systems
• Disseminate knowledge about dispute resolution
CADRE WebsiteExemplar Collection of Resources
RAISE DataBase
Symposia Gallery 2005 National Conference on IEP Facilitation 2006 National Symposium on Dispute Resolution in
Special Education
EspañolVideos and Other Resources
Other Rich Media Listening Skills
Understanding Interests Tale of Two Conversations and Study Guide
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CADRE Activities Result in…
• Vibrant communities of practice
• State dispute resolution system improvement
• Compilation of research and evaluative data
• Improved collaboration and dispute resolution skills
• Reduced use of adversarial dispute resolution processes
• Increased use of early dispute resolution processes
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Workshop Objectives
Participants will gain an awareness of:
• the sources and dynamics of conflict
• different styles for approaching or managing conflict
• ‘listening to understand’ as an essential relationship and communication skill
• the difference between ‘positions’ and ‘interests’
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Workshop Objectives (cont.)
Participants will become:
•familiar with the continuum of special education dispute resolution options, including innovative approaches to prevention and early resolution
•aware of skills required to promote positive parent-professional relationships and increase productive communication
•familiar with CADRE, The National Center on Appropriate Dispute Resolution in Special Education.
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Assumptions…
• Conflict is a healthy reflection of a diverse and changing society.
• Most parent/school relationships are or can be positive and mutually respectful.
• Skills can be acquired and strategies implemented that facilitate productive relationships.
• Culture influences an individual’s perspective on conflict and how it’s most appropriately approached.
• Workshop participants are already skilled at communicating, negotiating and problem-solving.
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CONFLICT
What does the word“conflict” bring to mind?
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Two Definitions of Conflict
Any situation in which people have apparently incompatible interests, goals, principles, or feelings . . . ~~~
Expressed or repressed struggle Two or more people Interdependent relationship Strong emotion Perceived blockage of needs and/or values
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Sources of Conflict
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Data
Interests
Structure
Values
Relationships
Types of Conflict
Data ConflictsOccur because of disagreements related to data collection, interpretation or evaluation
lack of information misinformation disagreement on which data is relevant how to interpret competing assessment
procedures
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Types of Conflict
Interest Conflicts Occur when a person believes that in order to
satisfy his or her needs, the needs and interests of another must be sacrificed
Interest-based conflicts may occur over substantive issues (such as money, physical
resources, time, etc.) procedural issues (the way the dispute is to be
resolved); and/or psychological issues (perceptions of trust,
fairness, desire for participation, respect, etc.)12
Types of Conflict
Structural Conflicts
Caused by forces external to the people limited physical resources
authority
geographic constraints
time
organizational changes, etc.
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Types of Conflict
Value Conflicts• Occur when people attempt to force one set
of values on others or lay claim to exclusive value systems that do not allow for different beliefs
• Occur when belief systems are perceived to be incompatible
• Often create the most intractable conflicts
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Types of Conflict
Relationship Conflicts
• Occur because of repetitive negative interactions, misperceptions and stereotypes
• Often fuel disputes and lead to escalating spiral of conflict
• Often worsened by poor communication
When a Conflict Escalates, Resolution Becomes more Difficult because:
• Tactics go from light to heavy• Positions become more polarized and risk
averse• Number of people involved expands• Issues expand• Specific issues move to general issues
• Motivations change: Doing well winning hurting other
D. Pruitt and S. H. Kim, Social Conflict (3rd ed. 2003). 16
Psychological Changes Occur in Individuals
• Ambiguous actions are seen as threatening• Inhibitions against retaliation diminish• Communication is reduced• Empathy is reduced • Zero-sum thinking increases (problem-
solving won’t work)
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Group Dynamics Reinforce Conflict
• More militant leadership emerges
• Runaway norms are established
• Contentious group goals dominate
• Group cohesiveness increases
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Communities Become Polarized
• Previously neutral community members are recruited
• Tendency to support the side that seems less blameworthy
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Costs of Conflict
• Financial costs• Educational costs: takes energy away from
instruction, can interfere with needed consistency
• Human costs: stress, burnout, marital discord • Relationships: hurts relationships among people
who have to work together• Societal costs: parents, families, schools divided;
bad press for special education; missed opportunities
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The Five Conflict Handling Modes
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Relationship Goals
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Compromising
Controlling Collaborating
AccommodatingAvoiding
Source: Thomas- Killman Conflict Mode Instrument
Avoiding • What is it:
– Sidestep, postpone, or withdraw from the issue for the present
• When to use it?– When potential harm outweighs
benefits to resolve– When time is needed to collect
information or cool down
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•What is it:Sidestep, postpone, or withdraw from the issue for the present
•When to use it?When potential harm outweighs benefits to resolveWhen time is needed to collect information or cool down
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Relationship Goals
Accommodating
• What is it?– Sacrifice your own personal goals to
satisfy the concerns of the other(s)– Yield to another point of view
• When to use it?– When relationships are most
important– Reach a quick, temporary solution
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Relationship Goals
Controlling
• What is it?Pursue own ends without agreement of
othersAchieving one’s goals is paramount
• When to use it?When unpopular actions must be
implementedWhen dire consequences will be the
result of inaction
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Relationship Goals
Compromising• What is it?
– Quick, mutually acceptable alternatives
– Both parties give up something• When to use it?
– When two parties of equal power are strongly committed to mutually exclusive goals
– To achieve temporary solutions to complex issues
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Relationship Goals
Collaborating• What is it?
– Identifying concerns of each person and finding alternatives that meet both sets of needs
– Finding a solution that fully satisfies needs and concerns of both people
• When to use it?– When relationships & issues are both
important– To gain commitment and acceptance for a
high-quality decision
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Relationship Goals
The Five Conflict Handling Modes
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Relationship Goals
Pe
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Controlling Collaborating
AccommodatingAvoiding
Source: Thomas-Killman Conflict Mode Instrument
Power ImbalancesInherent in Conflict
• Actual and perceived power may differ• Participants may not be equipped or supported
to participate effectively• Cultural differences may contribute• Recognize there are formal and informal forms of
power
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Addressing Power Imbalances• Advocacy• Cultural Competence• Student Involvement• Well-facilitated processes and trained participants• Well-built relationships• Skilled neutral third party helpers
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What are Your Values? Achievement
Advancement/PromotionAdventure AffiliationBalance
Challenging Problems Change/Variety
Close RelationshipsCommunity
CompetenceCompetition
CooperationCreativity
DecisivenessEconomic security
Effectiveness Efficiency
Ethical practiceExcellenceExcitement
Fame Family
Fast Pace FlexibilityFreedom
FriendshipFun
GrowthHealth
Helping OthersHigh Earnings
Integrity Independence
Involvement/participationJob Tranquility
Knowledge Loyalty
Meaningful workMoney
Order (stability)
Physical ChallengePersonal
Development Precision Work
Pressure Power/Authority
Quality Recognition
Respect Reputation
SecuritySpiritualityStability
StatusTime Freedom
TraditionTrust
Work Alone Work w/Others
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Pay Attention to Culture!Cultures have different ways of responding to conflict.
Culture shapes status, relationships and social behaviors with regard to conflict resolution.
Recognize that many people communicate and process information differently.
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Listening
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“Seek first to understand, then to be understood.”
Stephen Covey, “Habit 5” Seven Habits of Highly Effective People
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The Chinese characters that make up the verb “to listen” tell us
something about this skill.
EARS
Communication Loop
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Sender Receiver
Message
Reflective Listening
Filtering Lenses
What Contributes to the Meaning of What We Hear?
Intonation, Inflection, Volume, Speed, and Vocabulary =____%
Appearance, Posture, Gestures, Clothing, Surroundings = ____%
Verbal = ____%
From “Listening to People,” Harvard Business Review
38% 55% 7%
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Listening is a Disciplined Skill
• You can’t do two things at once if one of them is listening well.
• You can’t listen if you are trying to • figure out what to say.
• You can’t listen if you are assuming.
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Three-part Listening
1 speaker (1-2 minutes)
3 listeners:1 listens for content (facts and thoughts)1 listens for feelings (spoken/underlying)1 listens for values
All listeners paraphrase what they heard
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“The most cost-effective component of a dispute resolution system is listening.”
Mary RoweMIT Ombuds & Scholar
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Listening Video
http://www.directionservice.org/cadre/Listening.cfm
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Structure of Problem Solving
Sharing Information Identifying Interests Generating Options Evaluating Potential Solutions
Reaching Agreement
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Positions & Interests
http://www.directionservice.org/cadre/understanding_pos.cfm
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Positions & Interests
Position• Specific solution proposed to resolve problem
- the “WHAT”
Interest • Underlying real need or desire that gives a
position its life (i.e., beliefs, expectations, values, fears, priorities, hopes, concerns)
- the “WHY”44
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Finding the Interests
• What need is the person taking this position attempting to satisfy?
• What is motivating the person?
• What is the person trying to accomplish?
• What is the person afraid will happen if a demand is not fulfilled?
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Questions to Elicit Interests
• “What would having that do for you?”• “What would that mean to you?”• “What would be different if you had that?”• "Why is that solution so important for you?“• “Why are you suggesting…?”• "What if that did/didn't happen?”• “How will you be affected by…?”
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What are Possible Underlying Interests?
• “Jessie will be in Ms. Smith’s classroom this year.”
• “We [parents] want an American Sign Language interpreter in that English Lit class.”
• “I demand an apology now!”
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Facets of Conflict
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People
Process
Problem
Interest-based Negotiation• Aims not to change the other person, but to change
negotiation behavior.• Shifts from ”your position versus mine” to “you and I
versus the problem”.• Involves a mutual exploration of interests to yield
more creative options.• Uses objective criteria.
Adapted from Highnam, K. (2001). Interest-based negotiation,CCSEA 2001 Fall Conference and AGM. Surry B.C., Canada. CCSEA;
Fisher and Ury, Getting to Yes
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Responding to High Energy People
•What behaviors challenge you personally?
• What do you experience?
Structure of Problem Solving
Sharing Information Identifying Interests Generating Options Evaluating Potential Solutions
Reaching Agreement
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Brainstorming
•Develop as many options as possible
•Thinking of an option does not mean committing to it
•No evaluation of options
•All ideas are welcome
Techniques for Generating Options
• Focus on specific interests• Assess needed information• Turn complaints into options• Encourage behavioral options• Shift perspectives• Let there be silence
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Structure of Problem Solving
Sharing Information Identifying Interests
Generating Options Evaluating Potential Solutions
Reaching Agreement
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Evaluating Potential Solutions
•Establish objective criteria
•Compare solution to criteria
•Is this option acceptable to all?
•How realistic is this?
•What obstacles exist?
Structure of Problem Solving
Sharing Information Identifying Interests
Generating Options Evaluating Potential Solutions Reaching Agreement
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Reaching Agreement
• Make a PlanWho? What? When? Where? How?
• What if…? (contingency plans)
Developed by CADRE
(the National Center for Appropriate Dispute Resolution in
Special Education), in association with Leila Peterson and CEDR (DoDEA’s
Center for Early Dispute Resolution)
Contact information:Anita Engiles, [email protected]
Leila Peterson, [email protected] Wayne, [email protected]
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