discipline with love and logic
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DISCIPLINE WITH LOVE &
LOGIC
Developed B y:
Foster Cl ine & J im Fay
www. loveand log ic .com
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Pr inc ip les of Love & Log ic
To enhance student self-conceptby nurturing behavioralcompetence & responsibility
To encourage student control,thinking & making wise choices
To hold students accountable fortheir choices & decisions & help
them learn problem solving byusing empathy & logical
consequences.
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Confront ing Disc ip l ine
Myths
Cline & Fay (1988) believe in
addressing principles advocated by
other approaches
Students should be warned inadvance of the consequences forviolating rules
That when students break rules,consequences should follow
immediately Teachers should only expect respect
from their students & not careabout being liked by them.
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Love & Logic Be lie fs
z Students have to be held
accountable, but consequences donot have to be delivered immediately:can be delayed/extended
z Students do not need to always know
in advance what consequences ofproblem behavior is: can be
extended/delayedz Teachers need to work on
establishing relationships of respectand positive rapport with students.
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Rules o f Love & Log ic : #1
zAdults take care of themselves by
setting limits that are enforceablein loving ways without anger,lecture.
Adults avoid anger, warnings,
threats etc.
adults use enforceable statements
Children are offered choicesLimits are maintained with
compassion & understanding
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Rule # 2
z Childhood misbehavior is treatedas an opportunity for gainingw isdom by the child and the adult
hands it back to the child in lovingways.
In a loving way, the adult holdsthe child accountable for solvingthe problem in a w ay that doesnot create a problem for others
Adults offer choices w ithin lim its
adults use enforceable statements& provide delayed/ extendedconsequences w ith empathy.
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Sam ple Em pat h ic
Responses
z It really hurts
when.
z It is sad when.z This sounds really
z Bummer, I know youwanted things to bedifferent
zYour feeling real...
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Delayed or Ant ic ipa t ory
Consequences
Problems with Immediate Consequences4Most of us have problems thinking of one
4We own the problem rather than handing it over to thestudent & end up thinking more than the child.
4We are forced to react while we & the child are upset
4We do not have time to put together a reasonable plan& often end up making threats
4We live in fear that some kid will do something that wewont know how to handle with an immediate
consequence Consequences:
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Using Delayed/Ex t ended
Consequences
z Sincere empathy is essential
z calmly say to the student:
Ohthat kind of behavior is aproblem. I will have to dosomething about that. I am busyteaching, so I will get back to you
about it later. Try not to worry.
If the student continues, thenhave them wait outside class toaddress the issue while youcontinue to teach.
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Using t he I -CAN Model
I=Identify one specific behavior
C=Consider: consequences an adult wouldexperience under similar circumstances
A=Ask others for help in designing a Love& Logic intervention
N=Never give up! Keep asking for help asyou treat one behavior at a time
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St eps For Using Non-verbal
SIGNALS
S=Specify one behavior to work on
I=Individually meet with the student
G=Give the student a description of thedesired behavior change
N=Note that you want to use a signal to
avoid embarrassmentA=Always practice the signal first
L=Let the signal be your first strategy to
cue desired behavior
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Guiding Chi ld ren To Solve
Thei r Ow n Prob lem s
Empathy: e.g. How sad..; I bet that hurts
Send the power message: what do you think you are
going to do?Offer choices: e.g. Would you like to hear what otherkids have tried?
Have the child state the plan & consequences & ask:how do you think that will work?
Give permission for the child to either solve the problemor not.
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The Road t o Sel f
Conf idence:
R Risk
R Struggle
RAchievementRAttribution
Translates to:I am forced to stand
on my own two feet, paddle my
own canoe & solve my ownproblem with guidance from caring
adults in my life.