Detachment Parenting – Its Impacts and Guidance Parent

Types of Parent

The detached parents have a shallow well for feelings. They seldom express their feeling of affection and concern for their children. They find difficulties in expressing their love and rarely talk to their children. Apparently, they appear to be indifferent to their children emotional needs. They hardly touch their children let alone pat them on their head. The detached parents are not able to meet their intimacy needs. Their children often feel neglected, abandoned and unwanted.

Parenting Style

The detached parents do not make an effort spend quality time with their children. They hardly do things together with them. They find the chatters of children annoying and prefer a serene and quiet environment. Apparently they are often misunderstood as cold and forbidding. The detached parents lack the ability to bond with their children emotionally. They appear to be insensitive and uncaring toward their children. Often they keep their love and affection for their children in their heart. The detached parents are quiet, reserved and seldom communicate with their children. Should they be any enquiries from their children their answers are short, brief or monosyllabic.The detached parents seldom share their interests. Outing with their family is often a very rare occasion. The detached parents lack empathy. They could not put themselves in the shoes of their children in handling their problems. Their

children may find them insensitive to their needs and feelings.

Impacts of Parenting Styles

Children who perceived that they are repeatedly isolated, abandoned and uncared for by their parents generally develop numerous psychological difficulties and problematic behavior such as attachment disorder. They feel insecure and alone. Apparently they may become protective, hostile, self-centered, suspicious, and will learn to take care of themselves in view that they can’t depend on others. Their lack the trust and self-worth may develop a fear of developing an intimate and meaningful relationship with others. As a result they become anti-social and find difficulty in connecting and bonding with people. They are generally unhappy and are prone to drug and substance abuse.

Guidance to Parenting

Below are some tips for detachment parents to improve their parenting:

- Show more love and care and concern for your children well being

- Take your children out for family outings - Invite your children’s friends to come to celebrate

their birthday or other special occasions- Try to do things together with your children at home- Be sensitive to their feelings- Do things together as a family to instill a sense of

belongingness

- Show concern about your children welfares by demonstrating your interest in what they are doing

- Develop a warm and nurturing home environment - Encourage your children to make more friends- Teach your children to help others in needs- Share your interests and hobbies with your children

Listen to your children and help them to resolve their predicaments

- Give appropriate support to your children - Encourage your children to express their feelings- Spend some quality time playing with your children - Teach your children to empathize and be sensitive to

others’ feelings - Give your children a lot of hugs and kisses