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Chat with Principal and HOD. How to support your child to prepare for PSLE (For P6 Parents). 10 February 2012. How to support your child to prepare for PSLE. Focus of sharing : What is the PSLE ? Child Parents School. How to support your child to prepare for PSLE. What is the PSLE ? - PowerPoint PPT Presentation

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  • Chat with Principal and HOD

    How to support your child to prepare for PSLE (For P6 Parents)10 February 2012

  • How to support your child to prepare for PSLE

    Focus of sharing : What is the PSLE ?ChildParents School

  • How to support your child to prepare for PSLE

    What is the PSLE ?An emplacement test Easy, average and difficult questionsWithin syllabus Thinking, application and process skills

  • How to support your child to prepare for PSLE

  • How to support your child to prepare for PSLE

  • CHILD

    Ownership He/She owns the outcomes. He/she can determine what to do.He/She is in charge.

  • CHILD

    AccountabilityHe/She is responsible for the outcomes.He/She is aware of the importance of the PSLE-He/She should be self-motivated

  • CHILD

    Doing well in the PSLE is for self and not for parents.

  • CHILD - Develop a SMART strategy for goal setting

    Questions to ask oneself :

    Specific - What specifically do I intend to achieve?Measurable - How do I know when I have achieved them ?Achievable - Are my goals achievable?Realistic - Are my goals realistic ?Time frame - When will I have to accomplish it ?

  • CHILD

    No one can stop child from achieving the best result.

  • CHILD NO LIMIT

    What does he want ? How can he accomplish it ? Action plan ?

  • CHILD

    If he does not believe he can do it, nothing will get done.

  • CHILD

    Do not look back at past failures.

  • CHILD

    What must he do now ? Draw up a time table with time frame - be realistic - break time ?Take some time to look back how was his time spent the day before / over weekend.

  • CHILD

    Know his/her own weaknesses /strengths

  • CHILD

    Know his /her own strengths and weaknesses - obstacles What must he / she do first ? What help does he / she need ? Any habits that need to be changed ?

  • PARENTS Understand the stress, pressure and anxiety faced by your child :coping with homework,coping with tuition,coping with parents expectation Fear of past failurecoping with friends in schoolschool projects, tests and examinationspeer pressurecomputer distractionHandphone distraction

  • PARENTSInvolvedInnovativeInformativeImpartialInspiring

  • PARENTS - INVOLVEDPresence and Pleasure :Show interestSet exampleShow care and concern

  • PARENTS - INNOVATIVEPhysical Environment :ConduciveResources:Assessment booksOn-line researchIncentives:OutingsRewards / breaksGames

  • PARENTS - INFORMATIVECommunication and ConnectingDiscuss school happeningsGuide childHow help can be renderedShare your own journey in education

  • PARENTS IMPARTIALBe objective and not subjectiveDo not make comparisons Do not bring up unpleasant past. Avoid over-pressuring ListenObserve

  • PARENTS INSPIRINGBe positiveTalk about narrowing gaps instead of failures Look at improvement tangible and intangibleAcknowledge strengths and effortCome up with strategies to help

  • Tips to Help your child If you are disappointed with your childs result :

    Work through your disappointment before you talk to your child. This will ensure that you don't vent your anger / frustration on him / her.

    Attend to your child's feelings. Tell him that you know he /she is disappointed too.

    Share with him real life examples of failure and emphasize the importance of learning from mistakes.

    Engage your child to move on, set targets and actions again, after he has worked through his disappointment.

  • Tips to Help your child

    Children sometimes mask their sadness and disappointment with a "can't-be bothered" attitude. So you shouldn't judge them before you talk with them.

    Sometimes children seem to rebel by not doing work or appear lazy. That could be a real possibility that they do not know how to do the work.

    Children can be stressed too. Their coping mechanism may be limited. They need help to cope.

    Find out what can trigger off your childs motivation.

  • How to support your child to prepare for PSLE

  • How to support your child to prepare for PSLE

  • How to support your child to prepare for PSLE

  • Practical actions : Be interested - Spend quality time togetherDo school work together, encourage questions and processes in thinkingStudy with themSet target with themPlan time table with themSet and review time frame.

    How to support your child to prepare for PSLE

  • How to support your child to prepare for PSLE

  • How to support your child to prepare for PSLEPartnership with teachers :Communicate with teachersBalance tuition work Monitor homeworkDiscuss lessons learnt and application

  • How to support your child to prepare for PSLEBe with your childBelieve in your child Balance your influenceBeware of your reaction

  • *Before we begin, I wld like to take a few moment for you to answer this question. What does that mean ? This is important as it helps us define our role and the actions that follow*I trust that your answer is similar to this. Up to this point, do you feel as if you are taking the PSLE being stressed ,anxious, anger, frustrated , etc and blessedly your child is not feeling this but in fact can be upset or angry that you are pressuring them. They may even be wondering why their parents are so worried about. I wld like you to take a few steps back and reflect on how you are whenever you think about PSLE and how you have been trying to make your child wake up and be more serious and the many times when you are so stressed that you lose your cool and can become quite unreasonable, in the eyes of the child.*Remember your child is taking the exam, not you. Hence he/she must feel the ownership of the exam. Its his/her exam, not parents. *We need to inculcate the value of responsibility and accountability some thing that most chn would have learnt eg being reprimanded for doing wrong and praised for doing right. Learning not to blame others our chn are not too young to understand this value. It can even gives a sense of achievement and a purpose for chn. Our chn may be childish and playful at times but they are actually quite mature in their thinking and the desire to be responsible and accountable.*I had ever asked a group of youths on why they wanted to do well in their A levels and surprising many of them felt it was for their parents. That help me , since becoming a teacher, to drive home to my pupils the need to do well for a brighter future. It is important for our chn to realise the importance of doing well for their future, not relying on parents. Ask them what they want to be when they grow up. I believe many of them have high aspiration no one wants to be a without a good job. During the P6 career seminar, all our pupils had expressed their career hope. Many of them had no plans on how to get there some stop at PSLE and not further to going to schools of their choice, understanding the networking of people and the importance of the PSLE. Sit down with your child, share your own struggle in the PSLE and the work you have put in to be what you are today. For some of us, we made mistakes or were not very serious and as a results h ad to work very hard for a living now, etcLead them to set their own goal. We asked our pupils to set their targets only.*It is important for your child to know and believe this. Like the advertisement, The SKY is the limit, nothing can stop us fr doing our best. Do not allow past failure, fears to cast doubt on his ability. Good to share stories of real-life success of people who rose above to achieve their dreams. *Talk about this. Dont assume and dont decide for him. Be careful not to let your child thinks that he is doing it for you. If you feel that his dream is too small, you need to be sensitive to help him realise he has greater potential but remember to respect him too. In talking about how to accomplish it, the easy path may be a way for you to impress upon him that there are more exciting, challenging path with greater prospect. Work out steps with him bond relationship too.*It is important for your child to know and believe this. Like the advertisement, The SKY is the limit, nothing can stop us fr doing our best. Do not allow past failure, fears to cast doubt on his ability. Good to share stories of real-life success of people who rose above to achieve their dreams. *Talk about past failures, fears, etc.share your own too.*You may be surprise that many time slots are spent without doing or even remembering what you have dont. share my own experience as a youth.*Talk about this. Focus on strengths some of our pupils have very low self image lack confidence. WHY ? It is because we do not celebrate success but more feedback for weaknesses. Try to recall what have your praised your child since the school starts or last few months compared to reference to failures, weaknesses, misbehaviours etc*Show your child that you are there for him, have gone the path , have struggled demonstrate your involvement. Work out systematic steps and go with him all the way. Sometimes its not that your child does not want to improve but it may be that he does not know how. His mistake has gone deeper and he is lost but could not share with you. No one likes to be reprimanded *School is not as easy a time as when you were students. Look at the many things they have to juggle, with the additional temptations of the computer, the society, etcCare welfareConcern what and how child is doingCreative resourcefulCommunicate share and address issue

    *If your child is doing work

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