Chapter Nine:Chapter Nine:

Communication in Personal RelationshipsCommunication in Personal Relationships

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Personal Relationships...Personal Relationships...

…are voluntary commitment between

irreplaceable individuals who are

influenced by rules, relational

dialectics, and surrounding contexts.

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Defining Personal Defining Personal RelationshipsRelationships

Uniqueness

Commitment

Passion

Investment

Relationship Rules

Affected by Context

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Defining Personal Defining Personal RelationshipsRelationships

Relational Dialectics

Autonomy/Connection

Novelty/Predictability

Openness/Closedness

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Managing DialecticsManaging Dialectics

Neutralization

Separation

Segmentation

Reframing

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Evolutionary Course of Evolutionary Course of Personal RelationshipsPersonal Relationships

Friendships

Role-limited Interaction

Friendly Relations

Moving towards Friendship

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Evolutionary Course of Evolutionary Course of Personal RelationshipsPersonal Relationships

Friendships

Nascent Friendship Nascent Friendship

Stabilized Friendship

Waning Friendship

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Romantic RelationshipsRomantic Relationships

Escalation

Individuals

Invitational Communication

Explorational Communication

Intensifying Communication

Revising Communication

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Romantic RelationshipsRomantic Relationships

Navigation

Ongoing Process of Communicating to

Sustain Intimacy

Preventive Maintenance and Repairs

Relational Culture

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Romantic RelationshipsRomantic Relationships

Deterioration

Intrapsychic Processes

Dyadic Processes

Social Support Processes

Grave Dressing Processes

Resurrection Processes

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Challenges in Personal Challenges in Personal RelationshipsRelationships

Adapting to Diverse Communication Styles

Dealing with Distance

Creating Equitable Romantic Relationships

Resisting Violence and Abuse

Violence in Relationships

http://www.chebucto.ns.ca/CommunitySupport/Men4Change/violencerelate.html

Violence in Relationships

http://www.chebucto.ns.ca/CommunitySupport/Men4Change/violencerelate.html

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Abuse in RelationshipsAbuse in Relationships

The Cycle of The Cycle of AbuseAbuse

Stage 1 Tension

Stage 2Explosion

Stage 3 Remorse

Stage 4 Honeymoon

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Violence in RelationshipsViolence in Relationships

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Negotiating Safer SexNegotiating Safer Sex

Barriers to Safe Sex

More Embarrassed to Talk about Sex than

to Have it

Erroneous and Dangerous Misconceptions

Debilitated by Drugs or Alcohol

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