Chapter 7

7:1

What is the Purpose of Dating

� You keep a _____________ attitude about yourself

� You avoid a _________________commitment too early in life

� You make _______________ that are consistent with your long-term goals

Functions of Dating

�  __________________ is the pathway that leads to engagement and marriage

Understanding Others

� Develop close _______________ friendships

�  Learn how others: �  Think and feel � What they like to do � What are their _______________

Understanding Yourself

� Developing a relationship requires that you also share you ___________ and ________________

Providing Companionship

� Dating gives you the opportunity spend time with someone who _____________ your interests.

�  Feelings of friendship may develop into a deeper __________________ as your spend more time with the other person.

Improving Communication Skills

�  _______________ communication is an important part of building any relationship �  Your ___________ and ______________

message need to match � Need to practice ____________ listening

skills

Learning to Negotiate

� Sensitive to the other’s ideas and feelings

� Helps you develop ______________ � Helps you grow _____________ and

emotionally

Learning to Be Responsible

� Provides opportunities to take ___________________

� Show responsibility for other __________________

� Show another person that you _______ about them

Evaluation Personality Traits

�  Find out what _______________ traits you most like in a partner

� Evaluate qualities and find those that do or do not _______________ to you

� What it takes to get along with your dating ________________

�  The qualities you would like to find in your _____________ mate for marriage become easier to identify

Stages of the Dating Process �  ______________ Dating – a group of people

spend time together and develop friendship �  ____________ Dating – a couple will develop

a relations with each other

�  _____________ Dating – a commitment to date only one person

�  The couple may make a _______________ commitment to become engaged for marriage

Group Dating

�  Informal group dating � You can improve your ___________

skills without making the commitment

Pair Dating

�  Two people spend time as a couple building their _______________

�  ____________ date – when another

couple joins a date �  ____________ dating or going out-

commitment to date only each other

The Advantages and Disadvantages of Steady Dating �  Advantages

�  Develop ___________ �  Openness �  ___________ for each

other �  Being themselves �  Resolving and handling

___________ in a positive way

�  Disadvantages �  Limit your

______________ with friends

�  Limit your _________________ to meet new people

�  Break up can be ______________ ○  Feel trapped ○  Feel used or controlled

�  You may not want to hurt the other person

Beginning a Dating Relationship

�  Make your _________________ count �  Be friendly, confident, and _____________ �  Start a conversation �  Listen _______________ to what the

person shares �  Plan some _____________ together

Personal Boundaries �  __________________ Boundaries are limits for behavior

that you will accept in your relationships �  What you are willing to say �  Think �  Do in your relationship has crossed the line

�  When one person in the relationship forces that other to do something ________________ of his/her personal boundaries, it is a sign of abuse

Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship Any kind of physical ______________ Verbal abuse Demands on your ______________ Demands for sexual favors __________________ for your ideas, feelings and person

Ending a Dating Relationship �  Dating relationships end in many ways:

�  May not have enough in ______________ �  Couples may drift apart �  One partner many not feel the relationship is

__________________ close �  Breaking up most difficult if the person who

wants to keep the relationship going ○  Realize your partner will feel ____________ ○  Change your dating patterns ○  Recognize your feelings are normal ○  Emphasize other _______________ of your life

Commitment to marry

� Most people follow the dating process through engagement to ____________

�  _______________ is the formal commitment before marriage

7:2

Romantic Love

�  __________________ – a strong feeling of attraction that tends to be self-centered or one-sided

� Some people are _______________ when this feeling fades

Mature Love �  ______________ love is different from infatuation

�  Characterized by giving and ____________ attitude

�  __________________ to finding and doing what is best for each other

�  You cannot “________” into mature love

�  Mature love _____________ as a relationship grow

The Growth of Mature Love 1.  Develop _________________

2.  Personal Sharing �  ______________ develops

3.  _________________ on each other

4.  Feeling of ___________________

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Making the Decision to Wait

� Set your _______________ boundaries

�  ____________ Pressure

� Media Pressure

Why Wait? �  _____________________ Consequences

�  Values �  Does not mean __________________ �  Self-doubt, guilt, feeling used or abused, fear and lack of ___________

�  Unwanted ______________________

�  Sexually Transmitted _________________ �  Human Papillomavirus (HPV) – genital warts �  Gonorrhea �  Chlamydia �  Genital Herpes �  Syphilis �  Hepatitis B �  HIV/AIDS

Responding to Pressure

� Set your personal ________________ �  Talk to your partner � Avoid _________________ that may

cause you to be _____________ � Never too late to make a decision to

______________

Date or Acquaintance Rape �  ______________ – forced sexual intercourse

�  __________________– sexual intercourse with a dating partner

�  ________________________– occur between friends, classmates, or coworkers

�  Date Rape _________________ cause victims to become physically helpless �  Has no color, smell or taste