Bullying

Presented by:

Dr. Caren Baruch-Feldman, Harrison Avenue School

and

Mrs. Shelly Simon, Harrison Youth Council

BullyingWhat is Bullying?

Bullying is a repeated and or chronic, pattern of hurtful behavior involving intent to maintain an imbalance of power.

1. Repeated2. Intentional 3. Power differential

Bullying vs. Teasing • Teasing happens

between friends or among people of equal power.

• The teaser will often back off when he/she knows he/she hurting his/her friend.

• Teasing is part of life and relationships.

• However, teasing can turn into bullying.

Types Of Bullying

• Physical

• Verbal

• Emotional/Relational

• Cyber Bullying

Cyber Bullying

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bdQBurXQOeQ

Before you post something on line ask yourself these questions.

• How would I feel if my grandmother read this?

• Would it be ok if this posting was on the front page of a newspaper?

• Would I say this to somebody’s face?

Cyber Bullying

• Read your posts out loud before sending.

• Don’t write anything when you are angry or very upset.

• Be the same person you are on-line as you are in life.

• IF YOU WOULDN’T SAY IT, DON’T SEND IT !

Who Is Involved in Bullying?

• BULLY

• TARGET

• BYSTANDER

Who Are the Bullies?

• High Self-esteem• Can Be Popular• Have Many Friends• Charming to Adults• Lack Empathy• Manipulative

• Aggressive• Have Aggressive

Friends• Need Power and

Control• Thrive on Emotional

Reactions of Targets

Who are Targets? • Bullies will find any excuse to pick on a

target (e.g. too tall, too small, too fat, too skinny, too smart).

• The likelihood of more bullying increases the more emotional the target is in reaction to the bullying.

Who are Bystanders?

• Bystanders want to do the right thing…why don’t they?– Fear of retaliation or

getting bullied themselves

– Kids may not know what they should do

• Bullies interpret bystanders silence as approval.

• Research shows that bystanders may have the BIGGEST IMPACT on a bully situation.

What a Bystander Can Do

• http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6tfwR0VikQ0&feature=related

• BUSTER – Dr. Michelle Borba

• B = Befriend a victim. • U = Use a distraction.• S = Speak out and stand

up. • T = Tell or text for help. • E = Exit alone or with

others. • R = Give a reason or a

remedy.

Learning from Our Mistakes

• For people who may have been bullied or targets who may have over reacted… the hope is to learn from these events and remember that we are all works in progress.

• Give all people another chance.

Summary

• What is bullying? Repeated, intentional, and power differential.

• The power of the Bystander.• B.U.S.T.E.R.• Personal Responsibility

What Are We Going To Do To Create a Culture of Kindness for Our Community?