bridal magazine - spring/summer 2012

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And other lifetime celebrations.

Spring/Summer 2012

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And other lifetime celebrations.

Transform a venueThe right colors and lighting can make a reception hall sing, page 4.

What’s new?Visiting local bridal shows is a great way to get ideas for little (or big) things to add to a wedding, page 6.

Shopping dayPicking a dress can be a fun and memorable experience. Read about a day in the bridal shop, page 8.

Seating how-toTips for organizing the biggest part of the reception — the people, page 10.

I doPortraits from local photographers at local venues, page 12.

Planning makes perfectTips for keeping the big day fairly stress-free, page 18.

Rings? Cake?Read about where these customs came from, page 22.

Finding ‘the dress’A wedding gown skeptic fi nds the perfect dress, page 24.

In writingLetters add deeper meaning to ceremony, page 26.

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On the cover:Weather permitting, the outdoors can provide a unique setting for a wedding. Read about a few local outdoor favorites on page 14.

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BY CINDY CRAIN NEWMAN

for the Daily News

When you enter the wedding room inside the pic-turesque Paper Moon storefront at 510 S. Saginaw Road in Midland and sit down with wedding spe-cialist and owner Sue MacKellar, the conversation

quickly turns to the art of transformation. How, for example, do you turn a large hotel event room

where everyone in town has attended business meetings into a breathtaking fantasyland for your wedding reception? Or how do you turn a township hall with 150 mismatched chairs into a color-coordinated banquet room where guests enter and go “Wow!”?

It’s all about managing the details, and the answers are to be had from MacKellar who has been a regional leader in the business of planning corporate events and weddings for the past 32 years.

“Above all, you want a pretty room for event impact, and to achieve that you need to color it,” MacKellar said. “Ninety-nine percent of the time, the chair color at your facility is not the color of your event. No matter how much money you put on the table in pink fl owers, you’re not going to have a pink wedding. But put on white chair covers with pink sashes, and for under $20 a table you’re done. Then you can do a simple fl ower and simple candles. People will remember the room when they walk in. They’ll say: ‘This room is beautiful!’.”

MacKellar’s team includes her partner Ed Morris and their staff at Paper Moon and their new division called “Linens & Chair Covers by design”. MacKellar talks to brides fi rst of all about budget. “Then within their budget, the linens, chair cov-ers, and sashes will have the biggest impact of changing the room to their wedding colors.”

Since every facility has different kinds of chairs-even many kinds within one facility — MacKellar has learned to carry a wide inventory of styles and colors of chair covers. Unless she knows the facility, she recommends that the bride bring a sample chair from her reception hall. She’s also become a fabric expert, carrying a wide variety of colorful fabric sashes to tie around chair backs in fabrics from polyester and satin to organza. She works with fabric swatches from bridal companies to match bridesmaid dress colors.

“Popular sash colors change with fashion. Chocolate brown was the top color for the last two years. Three brides recently have asked about charcoal grey. This year, popular colors are navy blue, a turquoise/jade blue, yellow, black and white, and a hot pinkish color they’re calling honeysuckle. They’re also mixing colors-like hot pink with kiwi green and tangerine with hot pink. They’re using colors from the color wheel in ways that you just didn’t see traditionally done before. That’s great, because color just makes people happy,” MacKellar said.

MacKellar uses a variety of other transformational tricks in reception halls to enhance mood and decor. She’ll install curtain backdrops to hide kitchen doorways behind the head table. She’ll custom-make colored cushions for chairs or add colored runners on tables. She’ll hide remote-controlled sparklers in centerpieces which are set off when the bride and groom are toasted. She’ll use colored accent lighting on a bare wall or curtain and mirror tabletops to refl ect lighting.

Or she’ll often use colored or white twinkle lights under skirt-ing on the head table and cake table. “When the lights go down for dancing, it’s nice to have those tables glowing. Lighting has been our biggest investment in the last two years to keep up with lighting trends. With energy-effi cient LED lighting,

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we can mix the colors in the computer and better match colors or even project a rainbow of color.”

One impact-producing decoration which has been popular with brides recently is an 8-foot crystal tree which is on display in her wedding room. “Bling is in this year-everything crystal and glit-tery. The crystal tree was the hit of both wedding shows (in January). You can up-light color it. You can add fresh fl ow-ers, ribbons, dried fl owers. You can use it indoors or outdoors. Small ones can be used as cost-effective table centerpieces instead of fl owers.”

Other ideas to be found are wedding card mailboxes, over-sized, framed table assignment lists on easels, decorative cake stands, confetti cannons and feather

banners. The Paper Moon store can pro-vide invitations, escort cards, place cards, and table menu cards. “We can assist with the full wedding as bridal consul-tant and coordinator,” MacKellar said.

Over the years, MacKellar has col-lected endless ideas from working with hundreds of brides, grooms, and their parents. She has acquired cake decorating skills, and she even earned a builder’s license so she would know how to construct things and would understand how they work. She’s provided inspiration, creativity, detail-focused implementation, and budget-ary counsel. Often she’s even had to be a mediator between couples and between parents and their children as they make decisions.

“Most brides come in with pictures from bridal magazines of things they like. If they tell me what they like about each picture, I know exactly what they really want for their wedding. We can take the design elements from their inspiration pictures and bring it to something they can afford.

“It’s a lot of work, but it’s my passion. When the bride and mother walk into the room and start crying and say that every-thing they’ve been dreaming of is there in front of them-well, it’s very satisfying to see the emotion they feel from the work that you’ve done.”

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If reception halls have mismatched chairs, the solution can be to use chair covers and decorative sashes to upgrade the look. This hall was staged by Sue MacKellar and her team from Linens & Chair Covers by design of Midland.


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BY CINDY CRAIN NEWMAN

for the Daily News

This season’s bridal shows are great sources of ideas for weddings, receptions, and showers. Besides

the ever-popular fashion shows with the latest in bridesmaid and wedding dresses on the runway, vendors offer a multitude of fun and different ways to create memorable and enjoyable events for your special wedding guests.

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there’s an All Smiles Foto Booth at the wed-ding recep-tion, guests c a n h a v e fun posing together for pictures. Up to six people c a n b e i n t h e b o o t h together for four different shots to be taken five seconds apart. The resulting photo strip is given to guests, and an on site booth host then puts a second photo strip into a scrapbook for the bride and groom. Guests can also sign the scrapbook page with their photos. Photos can be taken in black and white or color. The booth can be color-coordinated to the wedding colors and is stocked with silly hats, crowns, funny glasses, fake noses, and stuffed animals to include in photos or not. The bride and groom also receive a CD of all the photos. “It’s an awesome memory of all of your guests at your wedding,” said Carol Dembowske of All Smiles Foto Booth, Pinconning. For more info: www.allsmilesfotobooth.com, [email protected], (989) 213-6697

Capture great memories on video

With a video camera positioned over the reception’s dance floor, the whole night can be captured—father/daughter

dance, fi rst dance for bride and groom, conga line, and more. Anthony Lazzaro of Sound Productions in Clare said that watching the video “makes for a great laugh 10 years down the road.” To ensure that the bride and groom make a great entrance on video into the reception hall, Sound Productions also offers two fun special effects. “One big thing we just added on is the carbon dioxide cannon,” Lazzaro said. It produces a fog-like effect. “Imagine going to a big concert or sport-ing event, and when they introduce the players, the cannon goes off, and their grand entrance is unique and memo-rable. We treat the wedding couple as if they are the stars for the night—which they are.” The use of confetti hand throws makes for another photogenic and color-ful entrance. “You select 10 people and give them confetti hand throws which produce little streamers. It doesn’t stick to you. When done, the people with it in their hands just wad it up into a little ball and throw it away. Halls love it. It’s mess-free and clutter-free,” Lazzaro said. For more info: www.soundproductions.com, [email protected], (989) 386-2221.

Have a unique bridal shower

Stoneware, cookie sheets, skillets, and kitchen gadgets are needed by the bride and groom setting up their fi rst kitchen, and all are available from The Pampered Chef. A bride can register online with The Pampered Chef wedding registry and have a friend or family member host a special wedding shower. A company sales consultant can provide a recipe demonstration, cooking tips, and the opportunity to sample the results. “At the shower, I demonstrate or highlight the things the bride wants,” said Sue Ellen Spaedt, Saginaw-based indepen-dent sales director for The Pampered Chef. Then guests can select a gift for the bride and groom from their wed-ding registry and even order something for themselves. “It’s a very nice way for brides to stock their kitchens,” Spaedt said. For more info: www.pampered-chef.biz/suespaedt, [email protected], (989) 799-3717.

Why settle for just one cake fl avor?

When a selection of multi-flavored gourmet cupcakes are offered, every wedding guest will fi nd a favorite. creamy dreamy orange, peanut butter cup, white chocolate peppermint, rocky road, and carrot cake are just a few of the more than 60 fl avors offered for weddings in mini and large cupcake versions by The Gourmet Cupcake Shoppe of Midland. It also has a new location in Saginaw. Arranged on tiered cake stands, cupcakes can emulate the look of a tiered wedding cake. Brides can also order a 6-inch round cake for the cake cutting ceremony. At a scheduled appointment, up to 10 fl avors can be tasted. For more info: www.TheGourmetCupcakeShoppe.com, (989) 631-4103.

Brighten up your outdoor venue

When an outdoor wedding venue needs a little brightening up, wedding specialist Sue MacKellar of Midland’s Paper Moon recommends feather ban-ners. “They’re a nice backdrop behind the wedding party that doesn’t interfere with nature. They’re simple, they fl ut-ter in the wind, and they kind of defi ne your space. They can be on the outside of where the bride and groom are stand-ing, or bordering the aisle where she’s walking in and you turn toward her and take her picture. They add some extra color and height to the already beauti-ful surrounding of nature,” MacKellar said. “We’ve done them in wildfl ower fields that parents planted knowing their daughter was getting married, on

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Highlights from area bridal showsbeaches at Traverse City, or in people’s yards. They’re flowing and soft, especially on a lakefront with a breeze off the water. Lighting gives them a whole different look at night.” For more info: www.papermoonrentals.com

Just sail away!Hold your wedding or

reception on the water and even under sail. The Bay-Sail nonprofit organization in Bay City charters its two Appledore schooners for special events from 25 to 48 people. The schooners have been chartered for events on the Saginaw River out of their

docking location in Bay City and also out into Saginaw Bay. “It’s definitely a nontradi-tional and unique experience to have an onboard wedding ceremony,” said Ciara Velas-quez of BaySail. “We provide catering services with a full menu. The wedding couple can have little bands. We can provide the offi ciator. It can be a river ceremony or they can go out on the bay. The boat is usually stopped when you’re having your ceremony. A lot of couples tend to get mar-ried by the lighthouse (on the river).” For more informa-tion: www.baysailbaycity.org, [email protected], (989) 895-5193.


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A day at the dress shopStory and photos by Cynthia J. Drake

It’s a fact of life: Anytime you’ve got a group of women together and a roomful of gowns, “the girls” are going to get a lot of attention.

“The girls,” of course go by lots of different names — “ta-tas” being one of the more benign euphemisms (though in the company of women, the terms are certainly not always benign).

Today, nearly all the names are invoked to express the agony of wrangling the equally praised and maligned anatomical part into a bridesmaid’s dress.

On a Saturday morning, Sempliners Bride and Formal of Bay City — Mich-igan’s oldest bridal salon — is buzzing with bridesmaids and their ringleaders (a.k.a. the brides). The women descend upon the gown racks near the back of the store to examine the creations of Alfred Angelo and After Six, all in hopes of fi nd-ing something that will fl atter a range of body types.

“Kristy, if you make us wear this, we might not be in your wedding!” shouts one of Kristy Lysakowsky’s relatives from behind a dressing room curtain. Laughing ensues.

A bridesmaid who is too small for the sample size gown she’s trying on is stuffed with something resembling a bolster pillow behind her back, giving her the illusion of being a hunchback. Other bridesmaids struggle with zipping the dresses and come out holding up the bodice with both hands.

One by one, they bravely emerge wrapped in variations on the same satin theme, and the group voices its collective opinion.

“I like the other one better.”“If that doesn’t look good on her we’re

not even going to bother.”“I don’t like how this one squishes ‘the

girls.’”Marion Seelinger is working her magic

in a tiny workshop in the belly of Sem-pliners. Next to her no-frills basement workspace sits a miniature Christmas tree and other assorted holiday decora-tions.

Seelinger pulls a needle through a beaded applique to tack it to a dress. “It came to us this way,” she says, pointing to the line of droopy appliques on the bodice.

Seelinger is actually a seamstress by title, but it might be more accurate to call her an engineer. When everyone is “oohing” and “ahhing” over the intri-cate beadwork and lace, the slight, curly blonde woman with glasses dangling around her neck is mainly looking at the inside, the guts, of the dresses. She’s get-ting a sense of how they’re constructed, how much fabric each one will allow her to take out or nip in to best wrangle those pesky busts, waists and hips into place.

She tells brides and bridesmaids what’s possible, and after 30 years of working at Sempliners, they’d better believe her.

At 68 years old, she says, “I will prob-ably work here until I have to slide down the stairs and climb up on my hands and knees. I wouldn’t know where else to work.”

Upstairs another bridal party is as-sembling — mothers of the bride and groom, bridesmaids and the fl ower girl — to watch bride Kasie Nowosatka of Bay City try on her dress.

In the meantime, 8-year-old Jenna Kus-mierz of Munger has been keeping the party entertained with her comical reac-

Left, Tiffany Walker helps her sister Kasie Nowosatka pick her dress for her wedding on Aug. 11.

tions to the proposed fl ower girl dresses they’ve been trotting out. Frilly juvenile ones get a wrinkled nose, soon tossed out in favor of more mature bridesmaid-style gowns.

A few weeks ago, Nowosatka and her sisters came to Sempliners and had their “Say Yes to the Dress” moment. There actually wasn’t any need for Nowosatka to say “yes” to anything, said her sister, Tiffany Walker: “All her sisters loved it.” And that was enough for Kasie.

After Walker finishes lacing up the back of her sister’s gown, she steps back for a moment and the group takes in the vision of the bride in the mirror.

“I would say my son’s heart is going to melt even more,” said Julie Kellerman of Essexville, dabbing at her eyes. “She looks like an angel.”

Kusmierz is over in the corner slipping oversized high heels over her colorful print socks.

Later on when activity at the shop dies down, sales associates — in earlier years of Sempliners history, they would’ve been referred to as “shop girls” — Helen

Sabot and Stephanie LaGore rest their heels behind the cash register talking to Seelinger.

It hasn’t been a day for high sales, but then again, it often isn’t in an industry where it isn’t unheard of for a customer to pay 12 visits before deciding on a bridesmaid’s gown.

“I just have to stay patient,” says LaGo-re. “People don’t like to be pushed.”

In an era of high-pressure sales à la TLC’s “Say Yes to the Dress” and big box bridal stores, the little shop on Wa-ter Street stays afl oat by offering a more intimate experience.

It’s not uncommon to run into a bride who is the third generation of her family to purchase her wedding dress there. Grandmothers and mothers who also shopped at Sempliners share in the mo-ment, remembering what it was like pick-ing out their own gowns. The styles may have changed — Seelinger said they’ve gone “from big and poufy to strapless,” but the customer service remains the same.

And that’s good news for the girls, no matter which ones you’re talking about.

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Jenna Kusmierz, 8, slips a bridal heel over her colorful socks while the other women in Kasie Nowosatka’s bridal party pick out dress colors.

Brandi Keene of Midland sweeps through the rack of gowns at Sempliners looking for “the one” for her September wedding.


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One aspect of wedding planning that tends to send people into panic is wedding reception seating arrangements. The thought of having 200 friends and family members together under one roof -- and then attempting to seat them next to an acceptable group of people -- can cause some couples to hyperventilate.

Every family has its ups and downs, and there are certain people who get along well and a few who clash. Ensuring that a wedding is memorable for all the right reasons (and not for the brawl at table 3) is why seating arrangements are so impor-tant. Many couples can use a little advice when seating guests, while others would love another person to handle the seating arrangements for them.

Here are some guidelines for setting up reception seating arrangements.

• Place yourselves, as well as the bridal party, at a separate table that is in a prime location in the room. Be sure to allow the spouses or dates of bridal party members at the same table so couples remain together.

• Some couples choose to seat both sets of parents at one table together -- the parents' table. Grandparents may also be seated at this table, depending on the number of people each table can accommodate.

• If children under the age of 7 are invited, they should be seated with their parents. Children between ages 7 and 14 can

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be seated at a separate kids' table.• Be mindful of guests with disabilities or mobility issues.

Seat them close to the door, bathrooms or food station.• Instead of separating the bride and the groom's family to

separate sides, intermingle the tables to promote conversa-tion.

• Consider arranging guests by common interests at each table, seating business associates or parents' friends together.

• Take into consideration people who have relationship rifts and try to seat them separately. But don't stress about this too much because it won't be possible to accommodate everyone. You'll have to hope that at your wedding a certain level of decorum will preside.

• It's not unheard of to let guests seat themselves. This takes the pressure of fi nding a seat for everyone off of you as a couple and enables you to think about the other tasks at hand. This can take place at a buffet wedding or a smaller affair

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The Great OutdoorsBY CINDY CRAIN NEWMAN

for the Daily News

When nature is the setting for your wedding, your event’s memories and photos can in-clude beautiful river or wetlands scenery and natural fl ora and fauna. But the bride and groom do have to keep in mind that there are variables in nature, said Deana Beckham, rental coordinator for the Chippewa Nature Center, just three miles from downtown

Midland.She tells the humorous story of a wedding that occurred at the Center’s boat launch last year on

the Chippewa River’s riverbank. “They had written their own vows, and the wind picked up and blew the vows right into the river while they were reading them. But the groom just got down into the river and got them, and they continued.”

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That sort of fl exibility and informality can make a wedding very successful at the Chippewa Nature Center which has been making its facilities available for weddings just since last year. “It can be a no-fuss approach to a wedding for nature enthusiasts,” Beckham said. “It’s a natural, quiet, and peaceful setting. It lends itself well to simple ceremonies. You can just walk up to your space and start your ceremony.” A recent wedding couple invited its guests to fi rst hike the trails and enjoy the outdoors before hav-ing a chili meal in one of the classrooms, followed by the wedding ceremony.

For small weddings of 15-20 guests, on site covered pavilions can be rented at three locations within this 1,200-acre property of woodlands, wetlands, rivers, and upland fi elds. One is on the Arbury Trail and overlooks the Pine River. A second, at the end of Homestead Road, connotes the feeling of being out in a meadow. A third is at the Wetlands site and offers guests views, hikes, and photo opportunities of Muskrat, Heron, Tree-frog, and Dragonfl y Marshes.

The larger River Overlook setting in-side the Visitors Center can be used for up to 100 guests who can view through glass the surrounding panorama of the Pine River and trees, fl owers, and wild-life. This vista is ever-changing based on the season, and may include the occa-sional canoe or kayak passing by or even bald eagles, mink, and herons.

Alex and Ashley McKelvy were the fi rst couple married at CNC in its River Over-look setting in July 2011. “We chose it for its natural setting,” Alex McKelvy said. “I grew up (in Midland) volunteering at CNC and brought Ashley to the grounds the fi rst time she visited Midland while we were dating. A love of nature and the outdoors is something we have always shared. We especially value the aesthet-ics of an undomesticated landscape over that of a cultivated area such as a garden or golf course. For us, it’s what really sets CNC apart from any other option in the area. We ultimately chose the shelter of the River Overlook as it combined the beauty of the river without having to worry about the vagaries of weather.”

Alex and Ashley are both now work-ing on their PhDs in biology at City

University of New York in New York City. Ashley studies the ecology of bird populations and how they are infl uenced by fragmented habitats. Alex studies the historical biogeography and evolution of snakes and other reptiles, primarily in North America.

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outdoor wedding setting, hundreds of couples have chosen Dow Gardens in the middle of the city of Midland. Dur-ing the prime wedding season of May through October, this 110-acre botanical garden has hosted up to six weddings on a weekend day in two key locations, said Ben Tierney, rental coordinator for Dow Gardens.

Up to 300 wedding guests can be ac-commodated at the Peninsula Site which is a grassy peninsula surrounded by wa-ter with views of a scenic Alden B. Dow red bridge and a stone-like bridge which are the often-used setting for wedding party photos. “Depending on the time of year, there may be blooming rhododen-drons, crabapples, and hydrangeas, and

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the magnolia trees can be pretty spec-tacular in the spring. We purposefully don’t have big beds of annuals at this site, because we don’t want to clash with a particular color scheme of the wedding party,” Tierney said.

A second location, the Pineside Site, is described by Tierney as having “a more rustic, woodsy, and intimate feel to it. There are large pine trees and a big row of blooming rhododendrons in the spring. There’s a very large ostrich fern bed which is light green in color to con-trast nicely with the dark greens of the pines in photos. And there is the Herbert H. Dow refl ecting pool with a fountain in the middle of it.” The Pineside Site can seat up to 100 guests in chairs with additional standing room.

When planning a summer outdoor wedding, Tierney makes easy-to-imple-ment suggestions to the wedding couple which can add to the comfort of their guests’ experiences. “For really warm weather weddings, I recommend that bottled water be provided so guests can reach in the cooler and grab one before they sit down. The couple can also make their wedding program into a useful, handheld fan shape.”

Just as at the Chippewa Nature Center, the outdoor setting of Dow Gardens can provide some surprises at times. “Last

year, we had a chipmunk that walked right up the offi ciator’s leg. That added some comedy to the ceremony!” Tierney said. “We’re right in the middle of the city and Midland is sprayed for mosqui-toes, so that’s not an issue. But we are a large property, and wedding guests will be walking quite a bit outside. So couples need to make sure their guests are aware

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One of the biggest mistakes brides make in the begin-ning of planning a wedding is being unrealistic about their budget, said Darcie

Johnson, certifi ed wedding planner and owner of Happily Ever After Events, an event company serving the Great Lakes Bay Region.

In 2011, the average wedding cost $25,631, according to The Wedding Re-port.

“It’s very important to sit down at the beginning of the planning process and get a fi rm handle on how much money you have to work with,” she said. “And, don’t put your wedding on a credit card. Your wedding is one of the most impor-tant days of your life, but you shouldn’t spend the rest of your life paying for it.”

Johnson recommends focusing the bulk of the budget on the things that are most important to the bride and groom.

“If fl owers don’t matter, but a great DJ does, spend less in one area so you have more for the other,” she said.

It also is impor-tant to research the quality and reputat ion of vendors, espe-cially those that will take up a large chunk of the budget.

“Looking back, I wish I would have done a little more research on the vendors we

chose,” said Kristen Squires of Midland. “I was very unhappy with our photogra-pher. I decided to book the photographer at a bridal expo about a year before the wedding. I made a decision that day to put a deposit down. I wish I would have just taken her information, but kept my options open.”

The guest list also can be a point of con-tention within some families. Ultimately, the guest list should be up to the bride and groom, according to Johnson.

“Invite the people whose presence means something to you,” she said. “Friends or co-workers of your parents, neighbors from years ago, old friends

that you haven’t spoken too in years aren’t who matter that day. The people you love and care about are.”

Johnson said planning the big things, such as the photographer, DJ and cake, are the easiest tasks to take care of, but there is much more to planning a wedding.

“They say the devil is in the details for a reason,” she said.

Squires spent a year and half planning her June 2011 wedding.

“We couldn’t do all the work our-selves and delegated the work we could to family and friends we trusted,” she said. “They all came through for us and helped us tremendously. I felt prepared the day of my wedding. I wasn’t scram-bling to get last minute things done and I felt comfortable that I had everything I needed. It allowed me to just relax and enjoy the wedding. It still went by so quickly, but I was able to enjoy the little moments and take it all in.”

To minimize stress, Johnson recom-mends assigning key tasks to people you trust on the day of the wedding.

“It’s the little things that cause the most stress,” she said. “Who will pin on all the corsages and boutonnieres? Who takes care of the unity candle? Who will make

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Johnson recommends hiring a wedding planner for the wed-ding day to help make sure everything goes according to plan. Many wedding planners, including herself, offer rehearsal and wedding day only packages.

“A wedding planner will make sure all your hard work and plans are executed correctly,” she said. “They’ll make sure the day runs smoothly and you aren’t bothered with 101 prob-lems. And, no matter how hard you plan, there will always be problems.”


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Squires was prepared for emergencies as well.“My maid of honor put together an emergency kit,” Squires

said. “She had the obvious essentials, such as extra bobby pins, hair ties, gum, a mini sewing kit, stain remover and perfume. However, she also had some items in there that I thought would be unnecessary, but were actually lifesavers.”

Johnson said “family drama” is one unavoidable problem that comes up in every wedding.

“The best advice I can give is to try to not take any of it per-sonally and try not to let it, in any way, ruin your big day,” she said. “Let people vent if they need too, let them complain, let them give their ‘advice’ but remember that it’s your wedding and your happiness that matters most.”

Both Squires and Miller agree that lastly, on the big day, it’s most important to relax and enjoy the moment.

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were often carried, again for fertility reasons, and after the ceremony, the dill was eaten to encourage lust.

• Bridesmaids: There may be arguments over dresses and how many bridesmaids to have in a wedding party now, but in ancient times it was "the more the merrier." That's because bridesmaids were another measure to keep the bride safe against evil spirits. Essentially the bridesmaids were decoys for the spirits -- dressing like the bride to confuse the spirits or maybe help deter them to leave the bride be.

• Wedding rings: Wearing of wedding rings dates back to ancient Egypt. The round shape of a ring symbolizes eternal love. The ring is worn on the fourth fi nger of the left hand because it is believed this fi nger has a blood vessel that goes directly to the heart.

• Wedding cake: The traditional wedding cake evolved from Roman times when the cake was originally made from wheat. It was broken over the bride's head to ensure fertil-ity. All of the guests eat a piece for good luck. Single women used to place a piece of wedding cake under their pillows in the hopes of fi nding their own husbands.

• Father accompanying the bride: This tradition symbolizes that the bride's father endorses the choice in husbands and is presenting his daughter as a pure bride to that man.

• Kissing the bride: In older times, a kiss symbolized a legal bond. Therefore, the bride and groom kissed to seal the deal on their betrothal.

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Some might call me the anti-bride. I hate d i s l i k e w e d d i n g gowns.

White washes me out, they’re too expensive and I don’t want to look like a damn princess. And, as a 5-foot-tall frugalista, I take issue with the fact that wedding dresses are made for 8-foot-tall women who clearly don’t have thousands in student loans to pay off.

After stalking a dress on eBay last fall, I went to Unique Bridal in Auburn, to try it on. I thought that if I loved the dress, I’d buy the pre-worn version online and be done with it. I ended up hating the dress, but patiently tried on all the others the saleslady brought out for me since I was already there.

One dress stood out in the sea of poofy, beaded, lacy options. It was a cocktail-length chiffon dress. It didn’t feel like a typical wedding dress, which I loved. But, it only had one strap (I hated) and had these huge chiffon roses on the chest and strap (I despised). Since it was my first time at a bridal shop, I decided to check out a few other places.

After visiting a few con-signment shops, I went to David’s Bridal with friends. The shop’s tea-length options were minimal. One dress appeared to be something my mother would have bought for my eight-year-old self. Katie, my maid of honor, was able to fi nd one nice thing to say about it: “Most girls can’t pull off vertical stripes.”

Another tea length dress came to my dressing room as a size 18W. I really couldn’t imagine how it would look since it hung like a heavy cur-tain on my size 4 frame.

Shortly after the disappoint-ing trip, I went Unique Bridal again to try on a lacy Alfred Angelo dress I had found on Pintrest. It was beautiful and

it was on sale — for $650. I could have made room in my budget, but I knew purchas-ing that dress would have been followed by intense buyers’ remorse. I couldn’t justify spending that kind of cash on a dress that I would wear only once and would ultimately end up dragging across a sandy beach in Tra-

verse City. Then, I asked to try on the

cocktail-length chiffon dress again. I had been mentally comparing it to every other dress I tried on, even though I hated parts of it. I thought I might be able to ignore the asymmetrical design and poofy roses since I couldn’t get it out of my mind.

I still had reservations about the strap and roses, but the staff was helpful. They showed me how the dress could easily be altered to become a strapless dress and the roses were removable. We tucked the strap under my arm to hide the roses — and then it happened.

I knew that it was “the dress.” I could see myself walking barefoot on the beach towards Jeremy in this light-weight dress with a flower in my hair. I had found my dream dress.

And, as a discontinued dress, it was the last one in stock and was on sale. I knew I wouldn’t fi nd a better deal when I heard that the dress would only cost me $152, including tax.

The best part: I can dye the dress black after the wedding and truly wear it again.

My advice to brides: Try on everything they throw at you in the bridal salon. Make fun of the ugly dresses and have a sense of humor when they put something you that is 14 sizes too big. Go in with an idea of what you want, but don’t be afraid to try something dif-ferent. Give yourself time to mull over the options. Then, if there is a dress that you can’t get out of your mind, go back to try it again.

It might end up becoming “the dress” with some altera-tions.

Rachel Esterine is a freelance writer for the Daily News.

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“The waterfall is defi nitely a popular photo site for couples. We’ve had some fun pictures of the wedding party run-ning on the Bumps or jumping up in the air on the Bumps. The whole party is often posed across the Sun Bridge or the Alden B. Dow red bridges or even spread out among the boulders in the Boulder Pass. Our garden staff works so hard on our annual beds in the summer, and those are spectacular photo backdrops,” Tierney said.

Even if a wedding is not held in Dow Gardens, many couples choose to just go

there for photos. For a special rate of $20, the entire wedding party is admitted if coming to take pictures. “But it has to be on your wedding day,” Tierney said.

Another outdoor wedding recom-mendation always made by Tierney is for what he calls “rain insurance” — the additional booking of an indoor backup site. Nearby options include space in the Midland Center for the Arts or Whit-ing Forest. Whiting Forest can also be a reception site for up to 80 people in its unique Visitor’s Center which features a fi replace, a view of the forest, and a spa-cious outdoor deck area.

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SALT LAKE CITY - The task assigned by the minis-ter ahead of our May 1999 wedding seemed simple enough: a letter from each of us telling her why - out of all the possible people in the world - we had chosen to marry each other.

The answer, too, seemed simple: love, of course.

“But you can’t use the word love,” the Rev. Con-stance Redding Sidebottom said. “That makes it too easy.”

Sidebottom, 68, a retired United Methodist minister and my aunt, always asks couples for wedding let-ters, and is certain they have transformative power.

“Often weddings are for show,” said Sidebottom, of Polson, Mont. “The sacred-ness is removed by the glitz and the money spent. But when couples are asked to write the letters, they often move to a deeper place. Their effort to be honest and genuine for one an-other is honored by God and made holy.”

Beyond the ban on the word “love,” Sidebottom has other rules about the letters, which she reads out loud during the cer-emony. Bride and groom

are forbidden from sharing their letters with each other ahead of the wedding, and Sidebottom won’t offi ciate without receiving them.

During her 11 years of full-time ministry, not one person has failed to write the letter, although some have cut it close, Sidebottom said. One groom delivered his to her door at 7 a.m. on the day he was to be married.

“Every single bride and groom says they agonize over writing the letters because they understand how important they are,” Sidebottom said.

Nearly every faith tra-dition has a well-scripted formula for wedding cer-emonies. There are specifi c prayers to be offered, scrip-tural passages to be read and vows to exchange.

But the letters bring something different.

T h ro u g h t h e i r o w n words, the couple essential-ly writes their own sermon about life, love and their expectations for marriage, Sidebottom said.

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2006). Warner had not heard of Sidebottom’s letters, but said that, especially in stricter faiths where customized vows are discouraged, they might be a way to satisfy both clergy and the couple.

"And for those who have children, someday those let-ters will be a really valuable gift,” Warner said.

The letters can reveal more about a couple’s individual per-sonalities and tell the “truth about what’s really going on” between hearts, Sidebottom said.

A carpenter she married some years ago, for example, scrawled his thoughts on a bid sheet, while his bride carefully penned hers on beautiful sta-tionery. The contrast made the congregation giggle.

Another groom, a Naval offi cer, compared the bride to his favorite sandwich, peanut butter and jelly.

“He said all these things about the stickiness and the sweetness and the savory, how all the right elements for a per-fect dish had just happened to show up in her,” said Sidebot-tom, who confesses the letter is her all-time favorite. “We couldn’t stop laughing, and we couldn’t stop crying.”

The simple act of reading the letters out loud can add emo-tional heft to a ceremony.

“It’s like the Holy Spirit infus-es the place and it becomes (the couple’s) wedding with God,” Sidebottom said. “Everybody that is there is affected.”

She said many wedding guests have told her their own stories of transforma-tion. Some have been inspired to begin writing anniversary

letters to their spouse.Sidebottom often hears from

couples she has married that the letters have had a lasting impact on their marriage. At a visit to a church where she once was pastor, Sidebottom was approached by a man whose wedding she performed more than 16 years ago.

“He and his wife are still married - always a relief to me - and they read their let-ters every anniversary, and at times in between when life was so hard that they had to remember why they wanted to marry,” she said.

Thirteen years after my own wedding, my husband, Bill Kes-hlear, and I are also still mar-ried, and still writing letters. We write a new one each year and read them out loud to each other on our anniversary.

“It seems to help us re-com-mit somehow, through the ups and downs,” he said.

We keep our letters in a wooden box carved with X’s and O’s, on the dresser in our bedroom. The box was a gift from Sidebottom.

Even now, the letters aren’t easy to write.

Some read like long book re-ports. Others are shorter, more literary and sweet. What’s most interesting to me is how the threads from those fi rst let-ters continue through each of the 24 we’ve written since.

Our commitment to the idea of marriage hasn’t changed, despite our mistakes and mis-steps. We love each other and like each other. We respect each other, and in each other we have found a comfortable place to call home.


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