braggs church of christ preaching outline · men want to be respected and women want to be loved...

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••BRAGGS BRAGGS CHURCH OF CHURCH OF ••BRAGGS BRAGGS CHURCH OF CHURCH OF CHURCH OF CHURCH OF CHRISTCHRIST

CHURCH OF CHURCH OF CHRISTCHRIST

Preaching outline

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Being A Being A GodlyGodlyWifeWife

3IntroductionIntroduction

•• Men want to be respected and Men want to be respected and women want to be lovedwomen want to be loved•• Eph. 5:33Eph. 5:33

•• Men want to be respected and Men want to be respected and women want to be lovedwomen want to be loved•• Eph. 5:33Eph. 5:33•• Nevertheless let every one of you in Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so particular so love his wifelove his wife even as even as himself; and the wife see that she himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.reverence her husband.

•• Nevertheless let every one of you in Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so particular so love his wifelove his wife even as even as himself; and the wife see that she himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.reverence her husband.

4To Respect Your Husband To Respect Your Husband You Must You Must Love HimLove Him

•• First love is infatuationFirst love is infatuation•• As the years go by this turns into As the years go by this turns into a deep lovea deep love

•• First love is infatuationFirst love is infatuation•• As the years go by this turns into As the years go by this turns into a deep lovea deep lovea deep lovea deep love•• Titus 2:4Titus 2:4•• “…teach the young women… to “…teach the young women… to love their husbands”love their husbands”

a deep lovea deep love•• Titus 2:4Titus 2:4•• “…teach the young women… to “…teach the young women… to love their husbands”love their husbands”


•• DiscontentmentDiscontentment is one of Satan’s is one of Satan’s greatest tools in destroying a greatest tools in destroying a marriagemarriage

•• DiscontentmentDiscontentment is one of Satan’s is one of Satan’s greatest tools in destroying a greatest tools in destroying a marriagemarriage•• Phil. 2:3Phil. 2:3--44•• Phil. 2:3Phil. 2:3--44

6Phil. 2:3Phil. 2:3--44

•• “Let“Let nothing nothing be donebe done through through selfish ambition or conceit, but in selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem lowliness of mind let each esteem

•• “Let“Let nothing nothing be donebe done through through selfish ambition or conceit, but in selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. 4 Let others better than himself. 4 Let each of you look out not only for each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the his own interests, but also for the interests of others” interests of others”

others better than himself. 4 Let others better than himself. 4 Let each of you look out not only for each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the his own interests, but also for the interests of others” interests of others”

7To Respect Your Husband To Respect Your Husband You Must You Must Submit To HimSubmit To Him

•• SubmitSubmit = humble obedience to = humble obedience to another’s willanother’s will•• Submit to husbands will as long Submit to husbands will as long

•• SubmitSubmit = humble obedience to = humble obedience to another’s willanother’s will•• Submit to husbands will as long Submit to husbands will as long •• Submit to husbands will as long Submit to husbands will as long as it agrees with God’s willas it agrees with God’s will•• Submission is viewed in a Submission is viewed in a negative way today!negative way today!

•• Submit to husbands will as long Submit to husbands will as long as it agrees with God’s willas it agrees with God’s will•• Submission is viewed in a Submission is viewed in a negative way today!negative way today!


•• The modern idea is the man The modern idea is the man “putting the woman in her “putting the woman in her place”place”------an overbearing and an overbearing and

•• The modern idea is the man The modern idea is the man “putting the woman in her “putting the woman in her place”place”------an overbearing and an overbearing and cruel husbandcruel husband•• This is far from what the Lord This is far from what the Lord expects of a husbandexpects of a husband•• 1 Pet. 3:11 Pet. 3:1

cruel husbandcruel husband•• This is far from what the Lord This is far from what the Lord expects of a husbandexpects of a husband•• 1 Pet. 3:11 Pet. 3:1


•• 1 Pet. 3:1 1 Pet. 3:1 •• “Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection “Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may obey not the word, they also may

•• 1 Pet. 3:1 1 Pet. 3:1 •• “Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection “Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may obey not the word, they also may obey not the word, they also may obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;”conversation of the wives;”

obey not the word, they also may obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;”conversation of the wives;”


•• Eph. 5:22 Eph. 5:22 •• “Wives, submit yourselves unto your “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.”own husbands, as unto the Lord.”

•• Eph. 5:22 Eph. 5:22 •• “Wives, submit yourselves unto your “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.”own husbands, as unto the Lord.”•• All Christians submitAll Christians submit to God; to the to God; to the elders; to government rulers; elders; to government rulers; •• Christ submitted to the FatherChrist submitted to the Father

•• All Christians submitAll Christians submit to God; to the to God; to the elders; to government rulers; elders; to government rulers; •• Christ submitted to the FatherChrist submitted to the Father

11To Respect Your Husband You To Respect Your Husband You Must Be Must Be Faithful To HimFaithful To Him

•• Adultery is widespread today and Adultery is widespread today and widely acceptedwidely accepted•• This sin we must avoidThis sin we must avoid

•• Adultery is widespread today and Adultery is widespread today and widely acceptedwidely accepted•• This sin we must avoidThis sin we must avoid•• 1 Cor. 7:21 Cor. 7:2•• Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.every woman have her own husband.

•• 1 Cor. 7:21 Cor. 7:2•• Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.every woman have her own husband.

12To Respect Your Husband To Respect Your Husband You Must You Must Forgive HimForgive Him

•• A forgiving spirit may be missing in A forgiving spirit may be missing in many marriages todaymany marriages today•• Eph. 4:32Eph. 4:32 “And be ye kind one to “And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving another, tenderhearted, forgiving

•• A forgiving spirit may be missing in A forgiving spirit may be missing in many marriages todaymany marriages today•• Eph. 4:32Eph. 4:32 “And be ye kind one to “And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving another, tenderhearted, forgiving another, tenderhearted, forgiving another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you.”Christ's sake hath forgiven you.”

another, tenderhearted, forgiving another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you.”Christ's sake hath forgiven you.”

13Five Key Needs Men Have Five Key Needs Men Have Regarding RespectRegarding Respect

•• 1. 1. Respect his judgmentRespect his judgment —— respect respect his knowledge, opinions and his knowledge, opinions and decisionsdecisions•• 2. 2. Respect his abilitiesRespect his abilities ------ men often men often

•• 1. 1. Respect his judgmentRespect his judgment —— respect respect his knowledge, opinions and his knowledge, opinions and decisionsdecisions•• 2. 2. Respect his abilitiesRespect his abilities ------ men often men often •• 2. 2. Respect his abilitiesRespect his abilities ------ men often men often try to figure things out for try to figure things out for themselves & if they can, it makes themselves & if they can, it makes them feel like menthem feel like men

•• 2. 2. Respect his abilitiesRespect his abilities ------ men often men often try to figure things out for try to figure things out for themselves & if they can, it makes themselves & if they can, it makes them feel like menthem feel like men


•• 3. 3. Respect in communicationRespect in communication ------try hard not to continually try hard not to continually remind him of something he remind him of something he hasn’t done hasn’t done –– or something he or something he

•• 3. 3. Respect in communicationRespect in communication ------try hard not to continually try hard not to continually remind him of something he remind him of something he hasn’t done hasn’t done –– or something he or something he hasn’t done hasn’t done –– or something he or something he needs to do. Word your needs to do. Word your sentences in a way that does not sentences in a way that does not show disappointment.show disappointment.

hasn’t done hasn’t done –– or something he or something he needs to do. Word your needs to do. Word your sentences in a way that does not sentences in a way that does not show disappointment.show disappointment.


•• 4. 4. Respect in publicRespect in public ------ Try not to Try not to criticize him in public, put him criticize him in public, put him down or even question his down or even question his judgment in front of othersjudgment in front of others

•• 4. 4. Respect in publicRespect in public ------ Try not to Try not to criticize him in public, put him criticize him in public, put him down or even question his down or even question his judgment in front of othersjudgment in front of othersjudgment in front of othersjudgment in front of othersjudgment in front of othersjudgment in front of others


•• 5. 5. Respect in our assumptionsRespect in our assumptions ------Try not to jump to negative Try not to jump to negative conclusions about him. Don’t conclusions about him. Don’t assume the worst!assume the worst!

•• 5. 5. Respect in our assumptionsRespect in our assumptions ------Try not to jump to negative Try not to jump to negative conclusions about him. Don’t conclusions about him. Don’t assume the worst!assume the worst!assume the worst!assume the worst!assume the worst!assume the worst!

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•• Lesson From Southwest Lesson From Southwest Lectureship book, HONORING Lectureship book, HONORING CHRIST; CALLING FOR CHRIST; CALLING FOR

•• Lesson From Southwest Lesson From Southwest Lectureship book, HONORING Lectureship book, HONORING CHRIST; CALLING FOR CHRIST; CALLING FOR GODLY HOMES, lesson 11 by GODLY HOMES, lesson 11 by Luann Stewart RogersLuann Stewart RogersGODLY HOMES, lesson 11 by GODLY HOMES, lesson 11 by Luann Stewart RogersLuann Stewart Rogers

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CHURCH OF CHURCH OF CHRISTCHRIST

Outline for handout

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Being A Being A Godly_______Godly_______

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•• ________ want to be respected ________ want to be respected and women want to and women want to be__________be__________

•• ________ want to be respected ________ want to be respected and women want to and women want to be__________be__________•• Eph. 5:33Eph. 5:33 Nevertheless let every Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so one of you in particular so love his love his wifewife even as himself; and the wife see even as himself; and the wife see that she that she reverence her husband.reverence her husband.

•• Eph. 5:33Eph. 5:33 Nevertheless let every Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so one of you in particular so love his love his wifewife even as himself; and the wife see even as himself; and the wife see that she that she reverence her husband.reverence her husband.


•• First love is infatuationFirst love is infatuation•• As the years go by this turns into As the years go by this turns into a ____________ lovea ____________ love

•• First love is infatuationFirst love is infatuation•• As the years go by this turns into As the years go by this turns into a ____________ lovea ____________ lovea ____________ lovea ____________ love•• Titus 3:4Titus 3:4 “…teach the young “…teach the young women… to love their husbands”women… to love their husbands”

a ____________ lovea ____________ love•• Titus 3:4Titus 3:4 “…teach the young “…teach the young women… to love their husbands”women… to love their husbands”


•• __________________________________ is one of is one of Satan’s greatest tools in Satan’s greatest tools in destroying a marriagedestroying a marriage

•• __________________________________ is one of is one of Satan’s greatest tools in Satan’s greatest tools in destroying a marriagedestroying a marriage•• Phil. 2:3Phil. 2:3--44•• Phil. 2:3Phil. 2:3--44

24Phil. 2:3Phil. 2:3--44

•• “Let“Let nothing nothing be donebe done through through selfish ambition or conceit, but in selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem lowliness of mind let each esteem

•• “Let“Let nothing nothing be donebe done through through selfish ambition or conceit, but in selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. 4 Let others better than himself. 4 Let each of you look out not only for each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the his own interests, but also for the interests of others” interests of others”

others better than himself. 4 Let others better than himself. 4 Let each of you look out not only for each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the his own interests, but also for the interests of others” interests of others”


•• ____________________________ = humble = humble obedience to another’s willobedience to another’s will•• Submit to husbands will as long Submit to husbands will as long

•• ____________________________ = humble = humble obedience to another’s willobedience to another’s will•• Submit to husbands will as long Submit to husbands will as long •• Submit to husbands will as long Submit to husbands will as long as it agrees with God’s willas it agrees with God’s will•• Submission is viewed in a Submission is viewed in a negative way today!negative way today!

•• Submit to husbands will as long Submit to husbands will as long as it agrees with God’s willas it agrees with God’s will•• Submission is viewed in a Submission is viewed in a negative way today!negative way today!


•• The modern idea is the man The modern idea is the man “putting the woman in her “putting the woman in her place”place”------an overbearing and an overbearing and

•• The modern idea is the man The modern idea is the man “putting the woman in her “putting the woman in her place”place”------an overbearing and an overbearing and cruel husbandcruel husband•• This is far from what the This is far from what the ____________expects of a husband____________expects of a husband•• 1 Pet. 3:11 Pet. 3:1

cruel husbandcruel husband•• This is far from what the This is far from what the ____________expects of a husband____________expects of a husband•• 1 Pet. 3:11 Pet. 3:1


•• 1 Pet. 3:1 “Likewise, ye wives, be 1 Pet. 3:1 “Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not husbands; that, if any obey not

•• 1 Pet. 3:1 “Likewise, ye wives, be 1 Pet. 3:1 “Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word, they also may without the word be won by the the word be won by the conversation of the wives;”conversation of the wives;”

the word, they also may without the word, they also may without the word be won by the the word be won by the conversation of the wives;”conversation of the wives;”


•• Eph. 5:22 “Wives, submit Eph. 5:22 “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.”husbands, as unto the Lord.”

•• Eph. 5:22 “Wives, submit Eph. 5:22 “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.”husbands, as unto the Lord.”•• All _________ submitAll _________ submit to God; to to God; to the elders; to government rulers; the elders; to government rulers; •• Christ submitted to the________Christ submitted to the________

•• All _________ submitAll _________ submit to God; to to God; to the elders; to government rulers; the elders; to government rulers; •• Christ submitted to the________Christ submitted to the________

29To Respect Your Husband You To Respect Your Husband You Must Be Must Be Faithful To HimFaithful To Him

•• Adultery is widespread today and Adultery is widespread today and widely _______________________widely _______________________•• This sin we must avoidThis sin we must avoid

•• Adultery is widespread today and Adultery is widespread today and widely _______________________widely _______________________•• This sin we must avoidThis sin we must avoid•• 1 Cor. 7:21 Cor. 7:2 Nevertheless, to avoid Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.her own husband.

•• 1 Cor. 7:21 Cor. 7:2 Nevertheless, to avoid Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.her own husband.

30To Respect Your Husband To Respect Your Husband You Must You Must Forgive HimForgive Him

•• A forgiving spirit may be A forgiving spirit may be _________________ in many _________________ in many marriages todaymarriages today•• Eph. 4:32Eph. 4:32 “And be ye kind one to “And be ye kind one to

•• A forgiving spirit may be A forgiving spirit may be _________________ in many _________________ in many marriages todaymarriages today•• Eph. 4:32Eph. 4:32 “And be ye kind one to “And be ye kind one to •• Eph. 4:32Eph. 4:32 “And be ye kind one to “And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you.”Christ's sake hath forgiven you.”

•• Eph. 4:32Eph. 4:32 “And be ye kind one to “And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you.”Christ's sake hath forgiven you.”

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••Putting Respect Putting Respect Into ActionInto Action

•• (From Luann Stewart Rogers)(From Luann Stewart Rogers)

••Putting Respect Putting Respect Into ActionInto Action

•• (From Luann Stewart Rogers)(From Luann Stewart Rogers)


•• 1. Respect his judgment1. Respect his judgment——respect his respect his knowledge, opinions and decisionsknowledge, opinions and decisions•• 2. Respect his abilities 2. Respect his abilities ------ men often men often try to figure things out for try to figure things out for

•• 1. Respect his judgment1. Respect his judgment——respect his respect his knowledge, opinions and decisionsknowledge, opinions and decisions•• 2. Respect his abilities 2. Respect his abilities ------ men often men often try to figure things out for try to figure things out for try to figure things out for try to figure things out for themselves & if they can it makes themselves & if they can it makes them feel like menthem feel like men

try to figure things out for try to figure things out for themselves & if they can it makes themselves & if they can it makes them feel like menthem feel like men


•• 3. Respect in communication 3. Respect in communication ------try hard not to continually try hard not to continually remind him of something he remind him of something he hasn’t done hasn’t done –– or something he or something he

•• 3. Respect in communication 3. Respect in communication ------try hard not to continually try hard not to continually remind him of something he remind him of something he hasn’t done hasn’t done –– or something he or something he hasn’t done hasn’t done –– or something he or something he needs to do. Word your needs to do. Word your sentences in a way that does not sentences in a way that does not show disappointment.show disappointment.

hasn’t done hasn’t done –– or something he or something he needs to do. Word your needs to do. Word your sentences in a way that does not sentences in a way that does not show disappointment.show disappointment.


•• 4. Respect in public 4. Respect in public ------ Try not to Try not to criticize him in public, put him criticize him in public, put him down or even question his down or even question his judgment in front of othersjudgment in front of others

•• 4. Respect in public 4. Respect in public ------ Try not to Try not to criticize him in public, put him criticize him in public, put him down or even question his down or even question his judgment in front of othersjudgment in front of othersjudgment in front of othersjudgment in front of othersjudgment in front of othersjudgment in front of others


•• 5. Respect in our assumptions 5. Respect in our assumptions ------Try not to jump to negative Try not to jump to negative conclusions about him. Don’t conclusions about him. Don’t assume the worst!assume the worst!

•• 5. Respect in our assumptions 5. Respect in our assumptions ------Try not to jump to negative Try not to jump to negative conclusions about him. Don’t conclusions about him. Don’t assume the worst!assume the worst!assume the worst!assume the worst!assume the worst!assume the worst!

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•• Lesson From Southwest Lesson From Southwest Lectureship book, HONORING Lectureship book, HONORING CHRIST; CALLING FOR CHRIST; CALLING FOR

•• Lesson From Southwest Lesson From Southwest Lectureship book, HONORING Lectureship book, HONORING CHRIST; CALLING FOR CHRIST; CALLING FOR GODLY HOMES, lesson 11GODLY HOMES, lesson 11GODLY HOMES, lesson 11GODLY HOMES, lesson 11

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