barbara thurmond #3 african american leadership course family and community

8/2/2019 Barbara Thurmond #3 African American Leadership Course Family and Community

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FAMILY AND COMMUNITY

THE AFRICAN AMERICAN

EXPERIENCE

African AmericanLeadership Course

The Kwanzaa Gallery

Instructor: Frank M.

Johnson


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INTRODUCTION

Candidates in the Rite of Passage

will learn to adopt and integrate

personal skills developing family

and community to enhance our

capacity for good work andservice to in this life.


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SUMMARY OF COURSE

Importance of the Family Unit

The Value of Parenting: The Price of Children

How to Enhance The (Village) CommunityDevelopmental Issues of Families and Community

Strategic Planning for African American Family

and Community DevelopmentBecoming and Engaging Developmental

Contributors


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WHO IS IN

ATTENDANCE?

Candidates in the Rite ofPassage Program learning to

adopt and integrate personalskills to enhance their capacityfor good work and service to

family and community in thislife.


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AGENDA

The Family Unit

Parenting: The Price of Children

The CommunityFamily and Community Developmental

Issues

Strategic Planning for African AmericanDevelopment

Developmental Contributors


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OVERVIEW

Candidates in the Rite ofPassage will learn to adopt and

integrate personal skillsdeveloping family andcommunity to enhance our

capacity for good work andservice to in this life.


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CONNECTIONS

Just as the individual is a product of the family

and community, so the current status of the

community is the result of family and individualdevelopment, to date.

It takes a village to raise a child, and a well raised

child to advance the village (community).

Everyone must find and play a role in thedevelopment of the community, as well raised

children aspiring to or becoming adults.


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VOCABULARY

Contributors

Strategic Plan

SectorsOrganizations

Synergy

NetworkingMiscommunications

Underemployment

Societal Roles

Consumerism

Unqualified MemberProcess Improvement

Cohesion

AccountabilityRole Models

Inappropriate Leader


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VOCABULARY

Empowerment

Impotent

Research &Development

Insufficient


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THE FAMILY UNIT

Defining Family

Author G.K.

Chesterton

Politician Giuseppe

Mazzini

Pope John Paul II

Bill Cosby Author/Poet Maya

Angelou


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FAMILY

The family is the test of freedom;because the family is the only thing that

the free man makes for himself and byhimself.

G. K. Chesterton (18741936), British

author. Fancies Versus Fads,DramaticUnities (1923).


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FAMILY

The Family is the Country of the heart. There is anangel in the Family who, by the mysterious influenceof grace, of sweetness, and of love, renders the

fulfillment of duties less wearisome, sorrows lessbitter. The only pure joys unmixed with sadnesswhich it is given to man to taste upon earth are,thanks to this angel, the joys of the Family.

Giuseppe Mazzini (180572), Italian nationalistleader. The Duties of Man, ch. 6 (184458; tr. 1907).


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FAMILY

As the family goes, so goes the nationand so goes the whole world in which

we live.Pope John Paul II [Karol Wojtyla] (b.

1920), Polish ecclesiastic, pope. Quoted

in: Observer (London, 7 Dec. 1986).


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Traditional African Family

Structure

Family is extended to the community, as an

integral part of the whole

Family includes totality of political, social andreligious activity of the community

Males: Economic providers, disciplinarians and

teachers

Females: Socialization process of children,

marketing and community childcare

All member dependent on each other, living and

deceased as a Sociological brotherhood


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Black Families in the Slave

Community

Established brotherhood continued and

maintained

Elders respected and honoredSlavery introduced psychological trauma of

separation and conflict of values imposed

Family roles shifted, males becamesubservient; females dominant


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Effect of Emancipation on the

Black Family

Family bond slightly strengthened and

improved

Marriages became legalizedA documented (married) family cold not be

sold away

Some families managed to achieve a stableform of family life


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Effect of the Northern

Migration on Family

The family as a unit was severely impacted

Families broke apart due to the search for

job opportunitiesMember were willing to depart to get away

from persecution

Whatever stability was recovered, was nowdisrupted again


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Geographic / Social Mobility

Enabled some families to move toward

stability and achievement

Educational potential was a means of upwardmobility

Occupational opportunities were opening

Income became paramount to education andopportunity

Overcrowded ghettos were created for housing.


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The Contemporary Black

Family

The Extended Family provided:

Home for the Elderly

Family Counseling ServicesSocial security

Adoption agency

Childcare centerLoans and economic assistance


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Family

Strengths of Black Families

Strong kinship bonds

Strong children / sibling bondsStrong leadership bonds w/Elderly

Strengthened Work / Religious Orientation

Family roles were adaptable to whomsoever isavailable

Strengthened Achievement Orientation


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Family

Competition between males and females

Family lines more matriarchal vs.

patriarchalMatriarchal families viewed by white

society as inferior system

Blacks are not offended, nor reject amatriarchal family leadership - some

stability vs. none


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PARENTING

The Price of Children

Exchange Value of

ChildrenPARENTS in the

Front Row Seat

PARENTS: In Image

of God in the eyes of a

child


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Children Live What They

Learn If a child lives with criticism,

he learns to condemn.

If a child lives with hostility,he learns to fight.

If a child lives with ridicule,he learns to feel shy.

If a child lives with shame,he learns to feel guilty.

If a child lives with tolerance,he learns patience.

If a child lives with encouragement,he learns confidence.

If a child lives with praise,he learns to appreciate.

If a child lives with fairness,he learns justice.

If a child lives with security,he learns to have faith.

If a child lives with approval,he learns to like himself.

If a child lives with acceptance andfriendship,

he learns to find love in the world.-Author Unknown-


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THE PRICE OF

CHILDREN

This is just too good not to pass on to all.

Something absolutely positive for a change.

I have seen the breakdown of the cost of raising

a child, but this is the first time I have seen therewards listed this way. It's nice.

The government recently calculated the cost ofraising a child from birth to 18 and came up

with $160,140 for a middle income family.Talk about sticker shock! That doesn't even

touch college tuition. But $160,140 isn't so badif you break it down.


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$160K TRANSLATES INTO:

$8,896.66 a year,

$741.38 a month

$171.08 a week

$24.24 a day! Just over a dollar an hour.

Still, you might think the best financial adviceis, "Don't have children if you want to be

rich." Actually, it is just the opposite.


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WHAT DO YOU GET FOR

$160K

Naming rights. First, middle, and last!

Glimpses of God every day.

Giggles under the covers every night.

More love than your heart can hold.Butterfly kisses and Velcro hugs.

Endless wonder over rocks, ants, clouds, andwarm cookies.

A hand to hold, usually covered with jelly orchocolate.

A partner for blowing bubbles, flying kites.


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FOR $160K YOU NEVER

HAVE TO GROW UP

Someone to laugh yourself silly with, nomatter what the boss said or how yourstocks performed that day.

You get to finger-paint,carve pumpkins,play hide-and-seek,

catch lightning bugs, andnever stop believing in Santa Claus.


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FOR $160K YOU NEVER

HAVE TO GROW UP

You have an excuse to keep reading theAdventures of Piglet and Pooh,

watching Saturday morning cartoons,

going to Disney movies, and wishing onstars.

You get to frame rainbows, hearts, andflowers under refrigerator magnets

Collect spray painted noodle wreaths forChristmasHand prints set in clay for Mother's Dayand cards with backward letters for

Father's Day.


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FOR $160K THERE IS NO

GREATER BANG FOR YOUR

BUCKYou get to be a hero just for retrieving a

Frisbee off the garage roof taking the training wheels off a bike

removing a splinter filling a wading poolcoaxing a wad of gum out of bangs,and coaching a baseball team that never

wins but always gets treated to ice creamregardless.


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YOU GET A FRONT ROW

SEAT TO WITNESS THE:

first step first word, first bra first date, and first time behind the wheel.You get to be immortal.You get another branch added to your

family tree, and if you're lucky, a long listof limbs in your obituary calledgrandchildren and great grandchildren.


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IN THE EYES OF A CHILD YOU

RANK RIGHT UP THERE WITH

GODYou get an education in psychology,

nursing, criminal justice, communications,and human sexuality that no college can

match.You have all the power to heal a boo-boo,

scare away the monsters under the bed,patch a broken heart, police a slumberparty, ground them forever, and love them

without limits.So one day they will, like you, love

without counting the cost. That is quitea deal for the price! Love and enjoy your

children and grandchildren


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FATHER

If the new American father feelsbewildered and even defeated, let him

take comfort from the fact that whateverhe does in any fathering situation has afifty percent chance of being right.

Bill Cosby (b. 1937), U.S. comedian,actor. Fatherhood, ch. 5 (1986).


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A FATHERS LOVE

Build me a son, O Lord, who will be strongenough to know when he is weak, and braveenough to face himself when he is afraid;

One who will be proud and unbending inhonest defeat, and humble and gentle invictory.

Build me a son whose wishbone will not bewhere his backbone should be


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A FATHERS LOVE

A son who will know Thee - and that to knowhimself is the foundation stone of knowledge.

Lead him, I pray, not in the path of ease and

comfort, but under the stress and spur ofdifficulties and challenge.

Here, let him learn to stand up in the storm; here,let him learn compassion for those who fall.

Build me a son whose heart will be clear, whosegoal will be high; a son who will master himselfbefore he seeks to master other men;


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A FATHERS LOVE

One who will learn to laugh, yet never forget how toweep;

One who will reach into the future, yet never forget

the past. And after all these things are his, add, I pray, enough

of a sense of humor, so that he may always be serious,yet never take himself to seriously.

Give him humility, so that he may always remember

the simplicity of true greatness, the open mind of truewisdom, the meekness of true strength.

Then I, his father, will dare to whisper: "I have notlived in vain."


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THE COMMUNITY

Developmental Issues

Strategic Planning forDevelopment

OrganizationalDevelopment forDevelopment

The Importance ofIndividualInvolvement


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COMMUNITY

All of childhoods unanswered questions must finally

be passed back to the town and answered there.Heroes and bogey men, values and dislikes, are first

encountered and labeled in that early environment. Inlater years they change faces, places and mayberaces, tactics, intensities and goals, but beneaththose penetrable masks they wear forever thestocking-capped faces of childhood.

Maya Angelou (b. 1928), U.S. author. I Know Whythe Caged Bird Sings,ch. 4 (1969), said of oneshometown.


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COMMUNITY SERVICEThe High Performing Person

FAMILIES

NEIGHBORHOODS

SCHOOLSORGANIZATIONS

PEOPLE

GROUPSBUSINESSES

CHURCHES


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FAMILY / COMMUNITY

DEVELOPEMENTAL ISSUES

Insufficient ParentalInvolvement

Ineffective Education

Inappropriate Leadership Inadequate Organization

Unqualified Membership

Undeveloped SocietalRoles

Soft Critiquing Negative Intragroup

Relations


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SIGNS OF ABUSIVE

BEHAVIOR

Jealousy

Quick Involvement

Isolation

Hypersensitivity Verbal Abuse

Use of Force in Sex

Rigid Sex Roles

Past Battering

Threats of Violence Breaking or Striking

Objects

Use of Force duringArgument

Controlling Behavior

Unrealistic Expectations

Blaming Others for OwnProblems

Blaming Others for OwnFeelings

Cruelty to Children orAnimals

Dr. Jekyll/ Mr. HydeBehavior


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INSUFFICIENT PARENTAL

INVOLVEMENT

Miseducated

Violent

Violence and AbuseSingle Mothers

Absent Fathers

Lack of Involvement

in Youth Development

Lack of Account-ability for Child &

Youth Development

Poor Parenting Skills


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INEFFECTIVE

EDUCATION

Miseducated Youth

No Afro Am R&D

No ParentalInvolvement

Impotent Teachers

Violence in Schools

No Empowerment

Program

System Unresponsive

to Needs

No WorkforceTraining

No Cultural Synthesis

No Community

Orientation


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INAPPROPRIATE

LEADERSHIP

Irresponsible Business

People

Few Positive Imagesfor Youth

No Sponsorships

Need for Role Models

Lack of

Professionalism

Lack of

Accountability

Religious DisunityDrug Lords as Leaders

Violent Leaders

Selfish Politicians

Ineffective

Representation


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INADEQUATE TEAM

ORGANIZATION

No Unity

No Cohesion

No Networking

No Cultural Activity

No Economic Focus

Historically Un-

successful VenturesWomen as Competitors

No Economic Base

No Working Together

No Sponsorship

No Mentorship

Church vs. Business

Church as Business

Need All-for-One

Mentality No Process

Improvement System


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UNQUALIFIED

MEMBERSHIP

Failure to Give Back

to Community

FearFaint-heartedness

Pro-Racism

Building

Accountability

Rite of Passage

No Professionalism

BuildingResponsibility

Leeches

Criminals

Unethical People


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UNDEVELOPED SOCIETAL

ROLE

Selfishness

ME Generation

Erroneous PublicityGovernment Handouts

Lack of Information

Consumerism

Unemployment

Underemployment

DownsizingCrime

No Prayer in Schools

No Rite of PassageNo Cultural Heritage

like Kwanzaa


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SOFT CRITIQUING

Recognizing Success

No Hospitality

Unresponsive toCaring

Lack of

Professionalism

Lack of Pride

No Lessons Learned

Wrong LessonsLearned


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NEGATIVE INTRAGROUP

RELATIONS

Unresponsive to Group

Needs

Elitism

Aggrandizement

Miscommunications

Violence

Not Doing Business w/

Black Business

Power in Numbers

Lack of Involvement

Males vs. Females

Community vs.Business

Businesses are

Discourteous

No Synergy

Resistance to

Networking

DEVELOPMENTAL


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DEVELOPMENTAL

COMPONENT AGENTS /

AGENCIESPrivate SectorOwners / Employers

Business SectorShareholders/ Employees

Independent BBOs Black Owned BusinessesBlack EducatorsLocal, State & Federal

Black Operated Non-Profit Organizations

Black Churches and Affiliated Denominations

Black Media and Marketing Professionals

Black Families, Friends & Diverse Neighbors

Skilled Black Men, Women, Youth and Children

across the Nation

STRATEGIC PLAN FOR


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STRATEGIC PLAN FOR

AFRICAN AMERICAN

DEVELOPMENTPRIVATE SECTOROWNERS/EMPLOYEES

BUSINESS SECTORSHAREHOLDERS/

EMPLOYEES

PARENTS, FAMILY,FRIENDS &NEIGHBORS

MEDIA & MARKETINGPROFESSIONALS

NONPROFITORGANIZATIONS(NPOs)

CHURCHES &AFFILIATED

ORGANIZATIONS

BLACK EDUCATORS/SYSTEM EMPLOYEES

INDEPENDENTBUSINESSES

BLACK OWNED (BBO)

AFRICAN AMERICANDEVELOPMENT PROGRAM

PROPOENT AGENTS

COMMUNICATIONS

ORIENTATION

DELEGATION

VOLUNTARY

PROGRESSIVE

ECONOMIC

EDUCATIONAL

CULTURAL

SOCIAL

POLITICAL

FINANCIAL

O i ti E d i


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Organizations Endorsing

The National Black Family

Empowerment Agenda

NC Association of BlackLawyers

NC Black Elected MunicipalOfficials

NC Black PublishersAssociation

The National Association ofMinority Contractors

Association of Black

Sociologists 100 Black Men

The Women of Color PublicPolicy Institute

The Harvest Institute

O i i E d i


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The National Black Family Empowerment

Agenda

Wilmington

Interdenominational Ministerial

Alliance

NC Black Leadership Caucus

The Federation of Southern

Cooperatives

Eastern NC Civic Association

Pitt County Black Leadership

Caucus Raleigh-Wake Citizens

Association

The Durham Committee

O i i E d i


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The National Black Family Empowerment

Agenda

World Conference of Mayors

National Conference of Black

Mayors

National Black Chamber of

Conference

Georgia Association of Black

Elected Officials

AME Church, Second

Episcopal District Bertie Ministerial Conference

West Roanoke Missionary

Baptist Association


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LOCAL ORGANIZATIONS

Blacks Against Black

Crime

100 Black Men

Studio Art Grow

In My Fathers House

Abuse Shelter

Cultural Concepts

Miracle Making

Ministry

New Hope

Community Center

C & J Enterprises

Augusta Area Cultural

Society

Gents Technology

Services


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CONTRIBUTORS

Hon. Ed McIntyre

Ms. Barbara

Thurmond

Ms. Willie Knox

Mr. Johnny Wilson

Judge David Watkins

Mr. Frank Tomas

Ms. Evelyn Ellis

Barbara & Alvin

Franklin

Mr. Xavier Jones

Dr. Deborah Austin

Creative Impressions

The Augusta Cultural

Society Dance

Ensemble


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CONTRIBUTORS contd

Rev. Robert Williams

Rev. Larry Fryer

Mr. Jamie EatmonMs. Sctonda Kelly

Coach James Quarles


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SUMMARY

Just as the individual is a productof the family and community, sothe current status of thecommunity is the result of family

and individual development, todate.

It takes a village to raise a child,and a well raised child to advancethe village (community).

Everyone must find and play arole in the development of thecommunity, as well raisedchildren aspiring to or becomingadults.


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Belief SystemThe High Performing Individual or System

Whatever A Man

Can Conceive and

Believe, he can

Achieve.

Divine Revelation

Imagination

Inner Vision

Conceptualizations


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Managing TimeThe High Performing Individual or System

Personal Time

Marriage

FamilyPhysical Health

Mental Health

Social ExchangesVocation / Job


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Improved Personal ValuesThe High Performing Person

Family

Friends

Church / Religion Education

Skills

Beliefs

Activities / Hobbies

Culture

Experiences


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The Family of God

Divine Order / Decree

Mirror of Self

Training GroundFruit of Life / Living

Expression of Love

Outside Self

Teachers, Coaches,

Trainers and Guides

WHERE TO GET MORE


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WHERE TO GET MORE

INFORMATION

Cohen, D. (1991). The circle of life: Rituals from the human family album. SanFrancisco: Harper

M.E.C.C.A. (n.d.). African Americans resurrect rites of passage through acomprehensive family & community development model.

Quinn, W. H., Newfield, N. A. & Protinsky, H. O. (1985). Rites of Passage in Familieswith Adolescents. Family Process, 24, pp. 101-111.

McConnel, B. (1989). Education as a cultural process: The interaction betweencommunity and classroom in fostering learning. In J. Allen & J. M. Mason (Eds.), Riskmakers, risk takers, risk

Som, M. (1993). Rituals: Power, Healing and Community. Portland, OR:Swan/Raven& Company.

Warfield-Coppock, N. (1994). The rites of passage: Extending education into theAfrican American community. In M. J. Shujaa (Ed.), Too much schooling too littleeducation: A paradox of black life in white societies. (pp. 375-393). Trenton, NJ: AfricaWorld Press, Inc.


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