trying to get my ex girlfriend back - 3 impulses to avoid when trying to get your ex girlfriend back

Trying to Get My Ex Girlfriend Back - 3 Impulses to Avoid When Trying to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back

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“I’m trying to get my ex girlfriend back, but I’m really not sure what to do next. Help!” That is a phrase that is heard often. Below, you will not only find out steps to take to get her back, but also 3 impulses you need to avoid!

When you are trying to get your ex girlfriend back, there is also a realization that you must come to before you read any further…there is NO surefire, guaranteed method for getting her back. Some relationships simply are done and nothing you can do will change that. This is a fact that you may indeed need to wrap your head around at some point.

However, if you are searching for answers about getting her back, you are most likely serious about at least trying, so let’s look at a few things that have proven effective for other men in the past, and also some impulses you will want to avoid at all costs.

Impulse #1: You may want to yell and scream at them for breaking up with you

Many guys in your situation feel upset and perhaps betrayed that their girlfriend left them. This is a natural emotion. However, you need to put it to the curb if you are serious about getting her back.

Instead: Be civil to her and treat her nicely. Return things to her that were at your house or apartment. Try to keep things light…joke around with her. Make the environment a pleasant one and not one that is tense. Treating her civil may not seem like a big deal right now, and may even be difficult depending on the specifics of your break up, but it could play a large role in the two of you reconciling.

Impulse #2: You may want to decide how things are going to happen

Often guys are so anxious to get their previous relationship going again, that they do not care if their girlfriend is still in town or far away. They just want it to start right back up again ASAP. This tends to be a mistake.

Instead: You need to let your ex girlfriend decide how things are going to develop (I know..that is not always an easy pill to swallow). However, if you are serious about getting your ex girlfriend back, you need to let the relationship develop again naturally. It is not something that can be forced. Guys often like to be in control, so this impulse often is the most difficult one to deal with.

You need to be the guy that she sees at social events now and then. Maybe have lunch with her here and there. Get to be her friend again. But take it slow and your chances of getting her back will greatly increase.

Impulse #3: You may want to force the issue

Again, it is often a natural tendency for men to want to be the driving force behind things. Guys will often contact their ex right away and demand an answer from them as to getting back together. For obvious reasons (she just broke up with you….hello!!!) this is an impulse that often leads to driving your ex girlfriend even farther away.

Instead: Give your ex girlfriend space and instead of focusing on her, focus on yourself for a bit. Get back on your feet and show her that you can indeed live without her, even though you may indeed desperately want her back. By showing her that you have moved on with your life, she may begin to see what she gave up in the first place and the feelings that led her to fall in love with you in the first place may begin to reignite.

HR Maguire is dedicated to helping people resolve their relationship and marital issues. His articles are a must read for anyone who is looking to either salvage or further enhance their relationship.

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