love song 3 - reconcilable differences - ptr vetty gutierrez - 10am morning service

RECONCILABLE DIFFERENCES

Have you had a disagreement with somebody lately?

Did you consider your side the only correct

side of the story?

Did you consider his/her viewpoint objectively? Or did

you rush into your own judgement about his/her side?

What do youfeel now?

Do you think winning an argument more important

than restoringgood relations?

Generally people choose asmarriage partners, people who

complement us. But later on we discover that these opposite characteristics can also cause

conflicts.

ALL COUPLES

FIGHT

Song of Songs 5:2(She) 2 I slept but my heart was awake. Listen! My beloved is knocking: “Open to me, my sister, my darling, my dove, my flawless one. (What’s on his mind?) My head is drenched with dew, my hair with the dampness of the night.

Song of Songs 5:33 I have taken off my robe—must I put it on again? I have washed my feet— must I soil them again?

THE ROOT CAUSES

OF CONFLICT

UNMET EXPECTATIONS

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SELF-CENTEREDNESS

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IDENTIFY THE BIGGEST ROOT

INYOUR HEART

Song of Songs 5:4-6(She) 4 My beloved thrust his hand through the latch-opening; my heart began to pound for him. (She changed her mind) 5 I arose to open for my beloved, and my hands dripped with myrrh, my fingers with flowing myrrh, on the handles of the bolt.

Song of Songs 5:4-66 I opened for my beloved, but my beloved had left; he was gone. My heart sank at his departure. I looked for him but did not find him. I called him but he did not answer.

TO RESOLVECONFLICT

I WILL ACT AND NOT REACT

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Genesis 2:18

The LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him."(NIV)

Love your wives and do not be harsh with them. Be considerate. Treat them with respect and as

heirs with you of the gracious gift of life.

Love her. Cherish.

You can not eliminate conflicts,

therefore how can we solve them when they arise?

Always remember that we are not opponents but we

are team members?

You can loseby winning?

Don’t try to change your spouse—

change you.

We should work as a team.2

What is reconciliation?

It is not toleration but removal of sin

Romans 5:6-11You see, at just the right time, when we were still powerless, Christ died for the ungodly. Very rarely will anyone die for a righteous man, though for a good man someone might possibly dare to die. But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

Romans 5:6-11Since we have now been justified by his blood, how much more shall we be saved from God's wrath through him! For if, when we were God's enemies, we were reconciled to him through the death of his Son, how much more,

Romans 5:6-11having been reconciled, shall we be saved through his life! Not only is this so, but we also rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received reconciliation. (NIV)

Romans 5:10For if, when we were God's enemies, we were reconciled to him through the death of his Son, how much more, having been reconciled, shall we be saved through his life! (NIV)

Three steps of Reconciliation:

1.Admit the cause of conflict.

James 5:16Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective.(NIV)

2. Ask forforgiveness

Ephesians 4:31-32Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.(NIV)

3.Affirm love for one another.

Galatians 6:1Brothers, if someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should restore him gently. But watch yourself, or you also may be tempted.(NIV)

I WILL FOCUS ON THE GOOD AND NOT THE BAD

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Philippians 4:88 Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.

I WILL TALK AND NOT WALK

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Ephesians 4:26-2726 “In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry,

27 and do not give the devil a foothold.

Song of Songs 6:11(He)

11 I went down to the grove of nut trees to look at the new growth in the valley, to see if the vines had budded or the pomegranates were in bloom.

How to avoidconflicts?

We must feel and

have the love of God

We must be humble.

Be intimate with one another

Be transparent with one another.

Don’t discuss difficult things when one partner is tired.

Be aware of each

other’s mood

FAITHWORKS CHRISTIAN CHURCH GLOBAL

Presented By:Pastor Vetty Gutierrez

FCC Main San Mateo, Rizal, PH 10AM Morning Worship Service,

FEBRUARY 21, 2016Website: http://faithworkschristianchurch.comFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/Faithworks-Christian-Church-Global-292363410916567/