habit 1 be proactive

Try this now

• While reading this slide• Imagine your consciousness alone up in the corner of the room.• Through your mind’s eye back in the corner,• Do you see yourself reading?• Can you feel that your body is another person?

What actually is Self Awareness?

• Conscious knowledge of one's own character, feelings, motives, and desires.• Reason why can make significant advances from generation to

generation.• Find that our actions aren’t good.• We can learn from others.

The Social Mirror:

• "You're never on time.“• "This is so simple. Why can't you understand?" • “Even a baby could do this”

• Types:Genetic determinism: your grandparents did it to you.Psychic determinism: your parents, upbringing, childhood.Environmental determinism: your boss, economy, culture.

Proactive:

• Taking initiative.• Responsible for our own lives.• Initiative and the responsibility to make things happen. • Do not blame circumstances for behavior.

It is not what happen to us, but OUR response to what happens to us that hurts us.

I am responsible for my attitude toward the inevitable misfortunes that darken life. Bad things do happen; how I respond to them defines my character and the quality of my life. I can choose to sit in perpetual sadness or I can choose to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift I have.

Reactive:

• Affected by physical environment.• Affected by social environment.• Driven by feelings, by circumstances, by conditions, by their

environment.

Where do you fall on this scale?

VERY REACTIVE

MODERATE VERYPROACTIVE

The teacher didn’t give me a good grade!

The teacher wasn’t fair with me.

The teacher isn’t qualified enough.

She never explained well.

WHAT YOU

NEEDTO

DO?

Language of Proactive People

• There’s nothing I can do.• They make me so mad.• That’s the way I am.• I don’t have the time.• They do that to me.• I have to do this.• I can’t, that’s me.

Language of Reactive People

• Let’s look at what we can do.• Let’s choose a different approach.• I will do this.• I am in control of my own feelings.• I can do this.• I choose.• I will.

If you face a problem

How do YOU know you are doing it right?

• Direct Control: problems involving our own behavior.• Indirect Control: problems involving other people's behavior.• No Control: problems we can do nothing about.

How Do We Start Being Proactive?

• Self-Awareness• Imagination• A Healthy Conscience• Independent Will

Chasing after the poisonous snake that bites us will only drive the poison through our entire system.

It is far better to take measures immediately to get the poison out.

Thank You! Presented by: Fareeha Mahmood