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The causes of Miscommunication among
Family Members and their effects to the Child
A Term Paper
Presented to
Ms. Anselma E. Inot
Lourdes College
In Partial Fulfillment
Of the Requirements in
English 2
By
Foi Jerde S. Cabog
Bachelor of Music Major in Piano
March 19, 2014
Acknowledgment
Patience and being honest is the best. The researcher realized that this
research would not been accomplished without God and without the help others.
The researcher would like to thank the following:
To Ma’am Inot, she taught him how to make this research paper. Without
her, he would not have been done with this term paper until the end of time. He is
grateful for her patience and kindness.
To his classmates, thank you for the joy and unforgettable
memories that you shared to him in Lourdes College.
To his ever supportive single mother, Glades Siago. Thank you for being
there for him always in spite of all circumstances. He knows that it is not easy to
be a single mom with three kids and without a husband, even though you’re far
from them, you still able to take your responsibility as a mother. Thank you also
for providing him a laptop and a printer. Without these devices, the researcher
would have been much risky to go to internet cafes. Anyways, he is happy to
have an ever supportive mother like you. He loves you so much.
Table of Contents
Introduction: Communication and Miscommunication.
I. The different types of family structure in communication.
A. Proper Communication
B. Family Structures
1. Socio-Oriented Family Communication Structure
2. Concept-Oriented Family Communication Structure
II. The Four Major Causes of Miscommunication between Parent and Children.
A. Miscommunication Affect Relationships
B. Behavioral Problems
C. Weak Emotional Bonding
III. Common Effects of Miscommunication among family members and to the
Child.
A. Miscommunication Affect Relationships
B. Behavioral Problems
C. Weak Emotional Bonding
IV. How to resolve Parent- Child Miscommunication
A. Child needs to know the task of a parent
B. The need of Attention to children
C. Proper Communication
Introduction
Communication is the activity of transmitting information through the
exchange of conversation. Communication requires completing conversation with
enough supporting details so that to receiver can understand the message of the
sender. Miscommunication means failure to communicate with others.
Miscommunication happens when either a child or parents fails to transmit the
correct information to one another. Every member in the family has different
interpretation of words that can sometimes reject some information of words that
can cause conflicts. (Not Walls a book about interpersonal communication Third
Edition, 1982, 254.)
The purpose of this research is to answer the following questions intend in
threefold. It intends first, to know the family communication structures. Second, to
know what are the various causes of miscommunication in the family and third, to
know how to resolve miscommunication. The researcher aims to help parents
and children to manage miscommunication to a happy living.
I. The different types of family structure in communication.
A family must have a proper communication in order to operate smoothly.
Proper communication plays a big role in interaction between family members.
During the years ahead, you'll experience many of the same growing pains every
parent faces as their child matures and gains independence. But you will have an
additional transition to make. There are two forms of family communication to
avoid miscommunication. (Two types of family communication structure, 2012).
Family Communication has two types of structures. The socio-oriented
family communication structure and the concept- oriented communication
structure, both has different communication skills to children. However both have
positive effects on children. First is the Socio-oriented communication were
practiced more by families from the urban than the rural community.
Furthermore, in socio-oriented family communication, the children are directly
obeying their parents. The children are not allowed to join in decision-making in
the family. Second is the Concept-oriented communication style were higher
among the urban than the rural community. Children are taught to fix
problems by themselves and they are taught to join decision-making in the
family. (Ibid.).
II. The Four Major Causes of Miscommunication between Parent and Children.
The first cause of miscommunication is the context problem, which means
the sender and receiver could not understand each other’s context and language.
Furthermore, women love to express themselves and sometimes they say words
that are misspoken. Mothers and Grandmas talks a lot when they are angry, they
talk so much that sometimes there mouth speaks fast than there mind. This will
cause some members of the family to get hurt specially children. In spite of these
problems, you can solve it by talking and explaining to your child or members in
the family to settle problems. (Remschmidt, Helmut. Children and Adolescents,
1981.).
The second cause is the assumptions between parents and children.
Parent and child makes assumptions because most of the time we talk faster or
slower and pauses that sometimes often jump to their imagination and complete
those unclear words during those pauses. Sometimes our brain works faster than
the sender whom we listen to, that’s why we can create an assumption that can
be the cause of miscommunication. (www.shirleytaylor.com).
The third cause is the generation gap between parents and children.
Parents grew up in a different time with different pressures and problems.
Parents want to understand their child and relate to them, but they can’t relate
their child’s behavior because they have different generation and culture. Without
proper communication, this will cause big problems and conflicts.
(www.livestrong.com.).
The fourth cause of miscommunication is the Messy thinking in
communication, it occurs when a person speaks at the middle of a conversation
without finishing his/her conversation of information. Messy thinking usually
happens when you are stress or high emotion. This act can cause problems. In
other words, before you speak, choose a language that is precise, clear, and can
be easily understood. (www.moneychrashers.com).
III. Common Effects of Miscommunication to family members and to the Child.
Miscommunication can damage connections because it breaks down the
flow of a smooth communication. Some couples get to the point where they stop
talking to each other. Miscommunication can weaken relationships because a
relationship can’t be successful without proper communication. (Digas,
Relationship, 2009.).
Miscommunication can also cause behavioral problems. Parents who fail
to communicate with their children properly will cause children to unexpressed
difficult emotions that may cause behavioral issues. Kids also act out when their
parents fail to communicate with them, it cause so called battle grounds in the
family. (Remschmidt, Children and Adolescents.1981.).
Miscommunication between parents and children can also cause weak
emotional bonding. Communication between parents and children helps
strengthen your emotional bonds. It also helps your child feel secure and safe.
While improper communication creates emotional problems. Furthermore, the
most common effect of miscommunication is the Trust issues. Parents and Child
creates trust in the family with proper communication. However, improper
communication causes trust issues that may lead to misunderstandings. (Ibid).
IV. How to resolve Parent- Child Miscommunication
Children need to know that their parents are in charge and that they make
the final decisions involving all task in the family. At the same time, parents need
to understand what it means to be in charge. Correct them in a right manner, but
at appropriate times. Also, challenge yourself to arrange situations in a way that
ensures the success of your child. Often, parents and children do not
communicate properly with one another. It is important to understand when and
how to listen, and when and how to be listened to. Listening is a good way so
that the parent is in-charge, as well as promotes better communication. In turn,
better communication fosters increased respect. Increased respect results in
children following the rules. (Skinner, Child Behavior Guide, 2011.).
Your child learns that misbehavior gains your attention. That attention is
reinforcing. Attention is attention, despite your intention. Remember, misbehavior
occurs for a reason. It is acquired through learning. It is based on experience,
and it is selfish. If your child receives attention from you for positive actions, they
will want to continue to gain that attention. Furthermore, when you begin to
actively change your attitude, you will feel better about yourself as a parent. In
turn, your child will be positively affected. Remember, children are reactive to the
moods and behaviors of their parents. (Little, A lack of communication in the
Family, 2011.).
Proper communication in the family is extremely important because it enables
us to express our feelings, concerns, and needs. Open and direct communication
can let the family members to express their differences as well as love and
concerns. Furthermore, Co- parenting can sometimes called team parenting or
open parenting. Co- parenting needs proper and direct communication to
success of their children’s future and self- esteem. (Sala, Train Up a Child, 2010,
148.).
Conclusion
Communication is the activity of conveying information through the
exchange of thoughts, messages, or information, Miscommunication means
failure to communicate with others. Family is a group of people affiliated by
consanguinity, affinity, or co-residence.
According throughout research those families out there need proper
communication in order to operate smoothly. Communication within the family
plays a crucial role for present and future understanding of intrapersonal.
According to his research, there are two types of family communication
structures. The socio- oriented family communication structure and the concept-
oriented family communication structure are the two types of family
communication structure. The causes of miscommunication are context problem,
assumptions, generation gaps, and Missy thinking. These four major causes of
miscommunication affect relationships, Behavior, Weak Emotional bonding and
trust issues.
The researcher recommends this topic for further research so that a
parent or a child can be aware of their actions, ways of talking, and ways of
parenting skills. If ever there’s a student that will revise this topic, he or she
needs allot of effort to add more values for the readers.
Bibliography
A. Books
a. Stewart, John R. Bridges Not Walls a book about interpersonal
communication Third Edition. New York: Publishing Company, 1982,
254.
b. Remschmidt, Helmut. Children and Adolescents. USA: The Willey
Company, 1981.
c. Mifflin, Houghton. Berko Wolvin Wolvin Sixth Edition communicating.
USA. Prince-Hall Company, 1983, 42-43.
d. Sala, Harold J. Train Up a Child. Philippines. Philippine Publishing
House Inc., 2010, 148.
B. Internet
a. Skinner, Rachel. “Child Behavior Guide”, 2011. www.child-behavior-
guide.com .
b. Digas, Angela. “How miscommunication can damage relationships”,
2009. (www.relating360.com )
c. Nwddermeyer, Dorothy M. “Relationship’s Problem Created by
Miscommunication”, 21 March 2005. www.ezinearticles.com.
d. Little, Mark. “A lack of communication in the Family”, 21 November
2011. www.livestrong.com
e. Lewis, Micheal. “Common Miscommunication” 2014.
www.moneychrashers.com
f. Author, Unknown. “Two types of family communication structure”,
2012. www.ehow.com
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