east midlands conference 2012 - tony seymour

a r t o f b r i l l i a n c e why settle for anything less than being yourself... brilliantly?

The Art of Being

Brilliant Tony Seymour

a r t o f b r i l l i a n c e why settle for anything less than being yourself... brilliantly?

• Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’

• Actually, who are you not to be? Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking, so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.

• We are all meant to shine, as children do. We are born to manifest the glory that is within us. It is not in some of us; it is in everyone. As we make our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

Nelson Mandela

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mon tue wed thur fri sat sun

What day of the week are you on?

How does this make you feel?

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Could you be happier –

even if nothing in the

world around you

changed?

a r t o f b r i l l i a n c e why settle for anything less than being yourself... brilliantly?

a r t o f b r i l l i a n c e why settle for anything less than being yourself... brilliantly?

a r t o f b r i l l i a n c e why settle for anything less than being yourself... brilliantly?

a r t o f b r i l l i a n c e why settle for anything less than being yourself... brilliantly?

a r t o f b r i l l i a n c e why settle for anything less than being yourself... brilliantly?

What are the barriers to us being brilliant?

a r t o f b r i l l i a n c e why settle for anything less than being yourself... brilliantly?

a r t o f b r i l l i a n c e why settle for anything less than being yourself... brilliantly?

a r t o f b r i l l i a n c e why settle for anything less than being yourself... brilliantly?

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Perception...

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Reality...

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‘busyness’

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a r t o f b r i l l i a n c e why settle for anything less than being yourself... brilliantly?

a r t o f b r i l l i a n c e why settle for anything less than being yourself... brilliantly?

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‘destination addiction’

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Aims?

genuinely

interesting

Challenges you

Combats busyness & Change

transferable

(to work and home)

Great? fun

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Thinking about ‘brilliance’

1. What brings you joy at work? What energises you, no matter what the situation?

2. What impact do you want to have on your ‘customers’ and ‘team’?

3. Give an example of where you found yourself with a bad attitude. If you knew you didn’t want that attitude, why did you have it?

4. Special Super Bonus Question…If you could be a superhero at work, who would you be? What would your special powers be?

a r t o f b r i l l i a n c e why settle for anything less than being yourself... brilliantly?

Positive Psychology • The science of happiness and well-

being

• You can learn to live in the upper reaches of your range of emotions

• The more you practice the easier it becomes!

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lower level (negative)

upper level (positive)

98%

2%

‘mood hoovers’

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Point 1…

Choose to be positive

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a r t o f b r i l l i a n c e why settle for anything less than being yourself... brilliantly?

Killer questions…

a r t o f b r i l l i a n c e why settle for anything less than being yourself... brilliantly?

1. When you’re being a 2%er, what do you:

Look like? Sound like? Feel like?

2. How often are you at your best?

3. What’s stopping you?

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How would the 2% you act if...

1. Someone needs your help when you’re busy

2. A team member makes a mistake

3. You make a mistake

4. You disagree with someone

5. You learn your team is to be inspected by external auditors

6. There’s a long queue at Tesco

7. Your grumpy relatives are coming to stay for a week

8. You’re camping and it’s pouring with rain?

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Emotional Intelligence

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Trigger Feeling

Behaviour Outcome

Steve McDermott

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Point 2…

Understand your impact

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Conscious Mind

Unconscious Mind

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State in the positive

• I don’t want to lose money

• I want to make money

• Don’t be confused

• Please understand

• Don’t forget

• Remember

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• I don’t want to be fed up any more

• I feel brilliant

• I won’t fail

• I will succeed

• I won’t focus on the worst in people

• I will focus on people’s strengths

State in the positive

a r t o f b r i l l i a n c e why settle for anything less than being yourself... brilliantly?

The 4-minute rule

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Be a mood groover

not a hoover

a r t o f b r i l l i a n c e why settle for anything less than being yourself... brilliantly?

The Big 2 1. Choose a positive attitude

2. Understand your impact

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‘Dance with life and you’ll soon get everyone else

dancing.’

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@seymr

tony@artofbrilliance.co.uk

www.artofbrilliance.co.uk

a r t o f b r i l l i a n c e why settle for anything less than being yourself... brilliantly?

The Art of Being

Brilliant Tony Seymour