101 questions before getting engaged

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101 Questions to ask Before You Get Engaged

What do you love but afraid to say you love it?What are your guilty pleasures?

What makes life exciting?

What do your friends admits most of you

What are you most proud of?

How do you know a guy is right for you?

Have you ever fell for someone just

What makes him specifically stands out from therest?

What makes you really happy?

What's your favorite memory?

What's the one thing you can't say no to?

What are you really good that would surprise me?

1. What makes it easy for you to be open andvulnerable and what makes it difficult?

!. What is your greatest fear or concern aboutbeing married? What have you done to addressthese concerns?

". #f you were to marry in what way would you


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maintain a healthy $interdependence$? What wouldyou depend upon each other for and what wouldyou take personal responsibility for?

%. &escribe how you were disciplined as a child. #fyou have children how will your discipline be thesame and how will it be different than what youexperienced?

. What are reasons a person would want tospend the rest of their life with you and " reasons

why they wouldn't?(. What have you learned from your previousrelationships that will make you a better partner forsomeone at this time?

). &escribe your spiritual journey over the past 1*years including high and low points.

+. What are " of the most vivid memories you canrecall from birth to age 1+?

,. We hear a lot today about compatibility. Whatdoes this mean to you?

1*. -o what extent do you see the way you bothcommunicate as similar and in what way is it

different? What does the phrase $learn to speakyour partner's language$ mean to you?

11. When a person marries they sever the cord ofdependency on and allegiance to their parents. #f


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you marry which of these will be the most difficultto sever and why?

1!. #s it easy or difficult for you to pray with a

person you're in a relationship with and for whatreason?

1". -o what degree are you a saver or a spenderwhen it comes to money?

1%. How has your relationship with esus /hristchanged since this current relationship?

1. &escribe what your life was like before you metyour current partner. &escribe what you were likebefore you met your current partner.

1(. &reams and aspirations are very important.Have your partner write their response to $#f # wereto marry # would02$ /omplete this phrase 1*

times.

1). What are the 3uestions about me you'vealways wanted to ask but never have?

1+. What do you think are 4od's purposes formarriage?

1,. What are your beliefs about prenuptialagreements?

!*. #n a relationship what part of giving of yourselfdo you struggle with?


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!1. What are your beliefs about pornography andto what degree has this ever been a part of yourlife? How recently?

!!. #f # were a doctor and you were describing yourmedical history for me what would it entail?56ccidents hospitali7ations diseases of any kindincluding H#896#&: syphilis herpes or others.;

!". #f something really bothered you about mehow would you go about expressing it to me?

!%. What would those in your prior relationshipssay about you? What did you learn from them?

!. What is there about my life and personality thatconcerns you at this time?

!(. How has your relationship with 4od changed inthe past years? How has your partner's

relationship with 4od changed in the past years?

!). How would you keep romance alive if you wereto marry?

!+. What are habits you're glad you have and you wish you didn't?

!,. Who are the people in your life that haveinfluenced you the most and in what way?

"*. /ould you describe the people in your life whoare the easiest to get along with and those who arethe most difficult?


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"1. 1* years from now where would you like to beemotionally? How about spiritually? How abouteconomically? What about family si7e?

"!. What was your family's economic level andemotional environment like when you were growingup? #n what way do you see this affecting your lifetoday?

"". When you are sick how do you want others torespond to you? When a significant person in your

life is sick how do you respond?"%. What brings you the greatest satisfaction inlife and what do you think it is about you thatbrings the greatest satisfaction to the


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",. How would you rate your friendships with thoseof the same sex? 1; $>asy 0 it's a snap$@ !;$Whatever 0 # can take them or leave them$@ !;

$-hey're hard work but worthwhile$@ %;$&iscouraging 0 they let you down$@ ; Aot sureif #'ve had a deep friendship.$

%*. What was your last relationship like and whatare " reasons you're confident the relationship isover and you can move forward?

%1. What do you wish you could say to your motherand father that you've never said to them?

%!. /an you think of any loss in your life thatyou've never fully grieved over?

%". What are adjectives you would select todescribe your relationship with your father?

%%. What are adjectives you would select todescribe your relationship with your mother?

%. -hese are all of the activities that # enjoy doing5list them;. Bf all these things which ones wouldn'tyou enjoy doing with me?

%(. What was the lowest point or most difficult time

in your life and how did you handle it?

%). &escribe how you handle stress and frustration.What creates the greatest stress and frustration inyour life?


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(. What will your relationship be like with yourparents siblings and friends after you marry? -hesame or different? #f different in what way?

). #f you were to marry what would be thehardest adjustment a person would have to makein order to live with you?

+. How much do you value $personal time$ 0time to yourself to reflect study or recreate?

,. What is your idea of a $family$? What would

you change about your family and how you wereraised? What steps would you take to make thesechanges?

(*. What are your financial responsibilities andgoals? how capable are you in budgetingbalancing checkbooks shopping patterns? How

stressful are these things to you? What debts doyou have at this time and have you ever filed forbankruptcy?

(1. What has been the greatest amount of debtyou've experienced?

(!. How do you know you're in love with yourpartner?

(". What do you think the :cripture means in>phesians =! and !! when it says $Husbandslove your wives just as /hrist loved the church$and $Wives submit yourselves to your husbands$?


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(%. #f # could talk with your parents what wouldthey say # needed to know about you?

(. Who are you? 5How would you describe who

you are to another person?;

((. How would you complete these sentences? F$#n marriage a wife should02$ F $#n marriage ahusband should02$

(). What are the experiences in life you wouldwant the person you married to have had? What

are the experiences in life you would not want theperson you married to have had?

(+. Who are the couples that you know who havegrowing healthy marriages?

(,. Bn a scale of * to 1* to what extent do youexperience guilt or anguish over your previous

relationships? How might this guilt be affecting youin building a relationship with another individual?

)*. What are the various jobs you've held and forhow long? What did you like and dislike about eachone?

)1. What are your hobbies and interests aside from

work? How much time and energy go into theseand would this change or stay the same if you weremarried? #f you spend a lot of time on the computeror cell phone how would you adjust this to work ina marriage?


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)!. #f you were to marry what would you receivefrom marriage that you wouldn't have if you wereto remain single?

)". What has been your source of informationabout marriage? Garents friends classes books?What would you do to learn more about marriageafter you're married?

)%. What are the areas of your life you must controland those areas in your life you would like to

control?). What television programs and movies havemade an impact on your life and in what way?

)(. &uring a conflict a person either yieldswithdraws compromises wins or resolves. Whichof these tends to be your style?

)). #f you inherited a large sum of money andcould afford to live anywhere in the world wherewould it be? #n addition what would you love to dothat you can't do now? How would you use themoney? Would you still want me in your life?

)+. What was the best experience you've ever hadat church and what was the worst? How involveddo you want to be in a local church?

),. What about your partner makes you proud ofthem?


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+*. #f you could ask 4od any 3uestions at this timewhat would they be?

+1. &escribe how you came to know the


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doing and which of those would be meaningful toyou if # were to do them with you?

,*. What foods do you enjoy and what are your

feelings about eating healthy?

,1. Golitically where do you find yourself 0liberal middle of the road conservativeultraconservative? sing the same scale where doyou find yourself spiritually?

,!. &o you feel you need to compromise or

sacrifice anything to be a part of this relationship?

,". What are the biggest fears in your life?

,%. &o you like animals? What animal would youlove to have as a pet that you don't or cant have atthis time? How would you work it out if yourpartner wanted an animal and you didn't?

,. #f # messed up in a decision whether inbusiness or just in general how would you shareyour frustration about my decision with me?

,(. Who are the people in your life you've neededto forgive and how did you accomplish this?

,). -ake note of the fruits of the :pirit found in4alatians =!!= $Iut the fruit of the :pirit is lovejoy peace patience kindEness goodnessfaithfulness gentleness and selfEcontrol. 6gainstsuch things there is no law.$ Bn a scale of *E1*


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where do you see yourself on each one of the traitsat this point in your life?

,+. How fre3uently do you have contact with your

former partner if any and in what way? What isthe purpose of the contact? What feelings do youexperience on these occasions?

,,. &o you believe you and # should be honestabout everything in our relationship or shouldsome things be kept private? #f # asked your past

partners if you were honest and trustworthy howwould they answer?

1**. How many times have you been married5including any annulments;?

1*1. What do you envision in the future for thisrelationship?

What are you passionate about?

Jy dear jujubee everyday it's you # want to see

your smile awakens the joy inside of me

# wake everyday with messages from your heart

# feel you here even when we are miles apart

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