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a mentoring program for you by Vienda Maria


COACH | WRITER | CREATIVEI coach emerging, inspired women like you who are ready to powerfully activate their own guidance system, to create thriving semi-nomadic, unconventional lives.

I am esconced by what comes to me naturally: being creative and helping people; combined my extensive and intensive life experiences and knowledge: boundless world travel, a BA in experiences and knowledge: boundless world travel, a BA in Psychology, sedulous self-study, and inspired realizations and insights, that have brought me to this exquisite juncture.


Make sure you have scheduled a weekly time slot for ourcoaching session, that you can stick to for the remainder of the program, as we will be speaking at the same time each and every week. Details are in your email.

Coaching calls will take place on Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday and Saturday of each week of the #10DaysofFree mentoring program, except for the final week, where you will have had all the hand-holding and except for the final week, where you will have had all the hand-holding and support needed to take action and change your life, now.

Pre-call homework will be sent out every Saturday, which includes a support email as well as a PDF guide. Make sure you have completed it by the time we have our call, so we can use the focus point to guide us.

Your commitment and engagement in our calls is essential in order to get the most out of the program. I need you to be proactive, and listen to you heart and intuition. There are no wrong questions or answers. All of our conversations are completely There are no wrong questions or answers. All of our conversations are completely confidential. Feel free to freely express yourself. That's what mentoring is all about. Having a safe space to truly be you. And of course to grow and learn from that freedom of self expression and self acceptance.


+ Get a binder so you can print out your weekly PDFs and refer back to them whenever you want. Because tangible things are so much more fun and beautiful!

+ Prepare for our coaching calls so we can specifically work through whatever you're stuck on right now, and get you moving into the direction of more fun and freedom.

+ View these 10 weeks as an opportunity to completely reset your current life. Now is the time to take a step back, breath in all the goodness, and prepare yourself for the most amazing new year you could ever imagine! most amazing new year you could ever imagine!

This is your time! Now is the time to step up and shine. It's time to be free.

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In order to feel free, we have to adjust the choices we are making for ourselves in the present moment. Again, take your journal out and answer these 3 questions with as much depth and honesty as possible. We will be talking about this in our first coaching call next week.

What needs to change in life for you to feel Free?

What doyou need to start doing to feel Free?

What do you need to let go of to feel Free?

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Every person you meet has something special to give you - that is, if you are open to receiving it.

Each encounter offers you the gift of greater self-awareness by illustrating what you do and don’t accept about yourself. An honest look will show you that the reactions you have to others give you more information about yourself than about them.

You can never know for sure what motivates other people. But you can learn what you are accepting or judging in yourself.you are accepting or judging in yourself.

“If we learn to open our hearts, anyone,including the people who drive us crazy, can be our teacher.”

Pema Chodron

Homework:When do you judge others, and how is that a reflection of how you feel about yourself? Do you see a connected current between judging and feeling judged?

When we stop judging ourselves and others, we free ourselves to be completely accepting. Instead of living from a space of fear, which is what judgement is all about - we start to live from our hearts. We literally free ourselves from the constraints of being weighed down by judgement. And suddenly, life so is much sweeter, kinder and easier.

Get your journal out and write about a recent experience where you have felt judged and Get your journal out and write about a recent experience where you have felt judged and what that brought up for you. We will be discussing this in our coaching call this week.


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Let the universe do the work

When we have expectations, whether of ourselves, experiencesor others, and they are not met, the way that we think they shouldbe, we don’t allow the magic of life to guide us. Instead we rub upagainst what is happening, and start to try to control everything in life.

This binds us up so tight that any feeling of freedom is lost. Essentially, instead of accepting what is happening, and realising that this is what is meant in that moment, we reject the present moment.is meant in that moment, we reject the present moment.

There are times in life when you just have to let everything go and let the universe do all the work. I call this, the ‘fuck it’ phase.

After all, life always fall into place once you’ve let go of expectationsof how you thought it should go.

Surrender. Let it go. It’s time for the fuck it phase.

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So let's reframe fear, into something tangible, something useful:

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Fear is simply a sensation of discomfort

Fear is the gateway

to your success,to your dreams, to your own

version of reality

You're stuck at the precipice of feeling this massive discomfort, looking back at the comfortable and familiar, and taking a step forward into the unknown. This is where we get to make insurmountable leaps and bounds forwards and overcome your fears. By getting to know what fear is, you disempower it: you get friendly with your devil.


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Homework: Choose something in your life that you really want to do, but that really scares you. What’s the dream there? What’s the outcome you’d like love to experience, but are actually, deep down terrified of? Write out that dream, and the fears, for us to address in our call.


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Do you really, or are you burned out? This type of burnout usually indicates that you are in an environment that leaves you feeling drained and unsupported. When this happens, you may even start to call yourself “lazy.”

Examine your external environment: What situations and people are draining you? Do you feel supported? Do you really lack motivation, or are you just burned out?

1. “I lack motivation.”

Procrastination is a symptom, much like a fever, stomachache, or headache, and it usually boils down to one thing: fear. Which we covered last week.

What is your procrastination a symptom of? What are you afraid of?

2. “I procrastinate too much.”

A quote by Lao Tzu says, “Time is a created thing. To say ‘I don’t have time,’ is like saying, ‘I don’t want to.’” Perhaps the real issue is that you don’t really want to change.

What parts of your current situation do you like, and how do they affect your desire to move forward?

3. “I don’t have time.”

Focusing on external resources, like money, credentials, and skills, is another tactic we useto give ourselves permission to remain stuck. But lasting change starts internally, with thingslike energy, willpower, clarity, and passion; and as your internal resources start to grow, yourexternal resources will naturally start to grow as well.

What in your external environment leaves your internal environment feeling uninspired, unsupported, and lifeless? Are you using your external resources effectively?

4. “I don’t have the resources.”


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Focusing on some arbitrary time and date by which you’re supposed to have accomplished X, Y, and Z means neglecting to enjoy the amazing journey unfolding right in front of your eyes. After all, who created this timeline by which you’re supposed to live your life anyway?

Do you hold yourself to an arbitrary timeline by which you’re supposed to have accomplished X, Y, and Z? Do you compare yourself to others? What do you really want to change in your life, and what baby steps can you take in that direction?

5. “It’s too late to change.”

If you feel like you have so many responsibilities that you can’t manage to carve out time to start changing your life, then chances are your “responsibilities” have become an excuse for not taking care of yourself.

Who and what are consuming your time and energy? Are these people and situations really your responsibility? How can you start to take responsibility for your own life?

6. “I have too many responsibilities.”

If you feel like you don’t know who you are, then chances are you’ve been neglecting yourself for a very long time.

What do you want in life? Where do you want to see yourself in 6 months? A year? What are your values and goals?

7. “I have no clue who I am.”

Depending on how you chose to look at it, not knowing where to start can either be liberating or completely overwhelming. But it’s usually just an excuse. If there is no clear place to start, then there is no wrong place to start!

Start somewhere—anywhere. Will you commit to spending time alone, each and every day, to explore these limiting beliefs? Because when it comes to making changes in your life, all you need to do is “Smile, breathe, and go slowly.”

8. “I have no clue where to start.”


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Choose 1 of those limiting beliefs that you want to work on during our call this week, and write down some notes in your journal, to get clarity around it before we talk.

Feel free to explore more of those limiting beliefs in your life. If you truly want to set yourself free, you have to learn to face what is holding you back. And work through that. This where your journal plays an important role to delve deeper into your beliefs and thought patterns to work them out.

Here is a useful guide on how to do exactly that:Here is a useful guide on how to do exactly that:http://viendamaria.com/2014/05/a-4-step-guide-to-releasing-reframing-old-habits-blockages-beliefs-patterns/

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Resistance stops you from having, doing and being all that you can in life.

It’s the feeling you get when you feel like you “have to”, “must” or “should” do something – when you want things to be different – and is experienced as negativity, usually as a judgement.

Resistance comes from and creates separation because wanting things to be different makes you feel like you aren’t already good enough, making you want to protect yourself by resisting.

We think that resisting protects us and keeps us in control but it actually makes us more controllable because we close ourselves off. It’s like a closed, defensive existence that limits our capacity to change and limits the flow of life.and limits the flow of life.

It is a limiting belief that you create to protect other limiting beliefs, a shield that stops you from truly living.

You think that your resistance stops you from suffering but it actually causes your suffering and limitation. The situation always is as it is – neutral – it’s your resistance that causes you to feel stuck. When there’s no resistance, there’s no stuckness and you are free to change and improve.

Your resistance is often far worse than the situation itself and makes you reactive, limiting your ability to handle what is going on and truly improve the situation.

In essence, resistance is non-acceptance and it keeps you stuck.In essence, resistance is non-acceptance and it keeps you stuck.


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First, you can’t try to change resistance. That’s just more resisting.

Don’t try to be in any state other than the one you are in right now because trying to change what already is creates more resistance.

Begin by acknowledging the resistance. Notice it. Become aware of it. Feel it. Don’t think about the resistance, feel it. Feel how conflictingly stuck it feels. Become fully aware of what you are feeling at the moment of resistance. Fully feel it. Go into it. Welcome it. Allow it to be there, just for now. Fighting it hasn’t made it go away so welcome it just for now. When you become fully for now. Fighting it hasn’t made it go away so welcome it just for now. When you become fully aware of the resistance, you’ll see how trivial and pointless and empty it is.

Often that will be enough to make it dissolve and release.

Another option that you always have, in any situation, is to accept.

Accept. Accept the resistance. Allow it to be there. Welcome it. Don’t resist the pain and stuckness, allow it to be there. Accept it fully. Your non-acceptance creates it, your acceptance makes it evaporate and dissolve.

As soon as you accept the resistance and accept how you feel right now, your acceptance alchemises your resistance into peace.

Acceptance is entirely a perceptive process made within. You accept your feelings about the situation and what is right now, not the situation itself. You can still change the situation and take action but any action will come from a place of freedom, free of the limitation of resistance.


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Finally, either take action or don’t. Decide to do something about the situation or don’t.

Indecisiveness will create more wanting to change what you’re experiencing, more resisting.

Non-resistance gives you freedom. It doesn’t mean that you do nothing, become a passive walkover or accept undesirable situations, it just means that you don’t create inner conflict about what you’re experiencing.

Non-resistance means that any action you take is non-reactive and comes from a place of Non-resistance means that any action you take is non-reactive and comes from a place of power and flexibility instead of from a place of defensive, closed-off stuckness.

Resistance distorts our perceptions and distracts us from our majestically resplendent and limitless nature.

When you stop resisting, life becomes deliciously more real, you become more real, and more simple. You no longer need to protect yourself. You stop layering distorted protective clouds of resistance over reality. It would seem that you become defenceless without the “protection” of resistance but it is only through non-resistance and acceptance that the “protection” of resistance but it is only through non-resistance and acceptance that you can live truly free, immersed in reality, completely unleashed.


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But how do you learn to trust yourself?How do you let go of the fears, the what if’s, and the trepidations about the wild unknown that lies ahead? How can we learn to trust our ourselves?

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When you fixate on controlling outcomes so that you can have things your way, you encounter...

Chaos. Struggle. Lack of Flow. Brick walls. Dead ends. Stress.

You create problems. And then what happens? You do your best to fix the problem and you simply make the problem worse. The more you try to fix a problem, the more you focus on the problem, and the more of the problem you get.

Doing things your way = getting in the way. When you try to hustle your way to your desired outcome, you are simply interfering. When you try to impose force, things will fall desired outcome, you are simply interfering. When you try to impose force, things will fall apart. The more you push, the more the Universe resists.

A few weeks ago there was a lot going on in my life. I was blessed with a huge pile of rather challenging experiences to which I could not resolve no matter how hard I tried. There was a long list of situations that needing solutions, and I could not see any resolution in sight. The Universe was (lovingly) teaching me how to release my final grips of control.

I was finding myself getting whipped up in fits of anxiety. I was fretting about how things were going to unfold, and why they were not going according to my schedule. I could feel myself becoming more and more tense, and as much as something inside me was myself becoming more and more tense, and as much as something inside me was yelling "just let go" I could not seem to do it.

So I started practicing some of the principles I will share with you in a moment. I can now look back on the events over the past few weeks and breathe a huge sigh of relief to see that somehow magically and beautifully everything has sorted itself out. And I have done pretty much nothing to fix these problems, all I simply did was get out of the way.

What happens when you try to do things your way?

What happens when you let go and get in the flow?


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I would love to hear your stories of times where you have applied this to your own life...

Have you ever had the experience of trying to make something happen your way, and experiencing roadblocks. And then as soon as you relaxed, let go and got out of the way,

everything fell into place? Journal it out in preparation for our next call.

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Of being aware of all the abundance that permeates your everyday existence.

Gratitude is the art of noticing your life.


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HomeworkI want you to answer the question for yourself. What kind of universe do you live in? And what kind of universe do you want to love in? We will be discussing this further.

Remind yourself: I live in a friendly universe that will support any thing or desire that is aligned with the universal source of all.

I’ve found that by shifting my belief about the nature of the universe, I attract whatever I desire into my life. I desire love. I desire peace. I desire health. I desire happiness. I I desire into my life. I desire love. I desire peace. I desire health. I desire happiness. I

desire prosperity. And that, is true freedom.

Your answer to this question will make all the difference in terms of how you live your life and what kind of Divine assistance you attract.

Remember that you get what you think about, whether you want it or not. So if you believe that this is an unfriendly universe, you’ll look for examples to support this point of view. You’ll anticipate people attempting to cheat, judge, take advantage of, and otherwise harm you. You’ll blame the antagonistic, inhospitable cosmos for not cooperating with you in the fulfillment of your desires. You’ll point the finger at cooperating with you in the fulfillment of your desires. You’ll point the finger at belligerent people and bad luck for the kind of world we all live in.

I implore you to see the universe as a warm and supportive one because you’ll look for evidence to support this view. When you anticipate that the universe is friendly, you see friendly people. You look for circumstances to work in your favor. You anticipate good fortune flowing into your life.

is it helpful and supportive or hostile and unsupportive?

One of the most important decisions you’ll ever make is choosing the kind of universe you exist in:


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HomeworkIn your journal answer these 3 questions:

What are you deeply passionate about?What are you are genetically encoded for — what activities do you feel just “made to do”?What makes economic sense — what can you make a living at?

Are you answers in alignment with what you are doing in your day-to-day life right now?

If your answers come up no, no, and no – then stop doing it. Shut ‘er down. Take it off your plate. If your answers come up no, no, and no – then stop doing it. Shut ‘er down. Take it off your plate. Let it die. Cease. And exhale a sigh of relief. It’s time to let that stuff go.

Look back on this year and get very clear about what sucked. What didn’t work, got mired with resentment, felt onerous, weighed you down?

A note on resentment: you can’t continue to do things you fully resent and think they’re going to transform into enjoyable activities over time. It just doesn’t work that way. Think of resentment as a blaring, mega-watt STOP sign. And stop.

Now write out your own personal STOP DOING list. When we next speak, I’ll be asking you:Now write out your own personal STOP DOING list. When we next speak, I’ll be asking you:

WHAT’S YOUR STOP DOING LIST?

Stopping = more time for what matters most.

If we are to realise our intentions: our dreams of a life filled with waaaaay more freedom - what we stop doing is just as important as what we start and continue to do.

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Starting = focused intention towards fulfilling dreams and goals.

And here’s the flip side of the coin. While saying yes to everything is a surefire way to wear yourself out, there are some things that we need to open up to and say YES to, way more. If we don’t say yes to our dreams, there is no way we will ever come anywhere near them, right?!

Too often, we are looking for external approval for the things that we want in our lives, and are too afraid to say yes to.


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Intuition = expansion, peace, love, consciousness, connection, presence.

Fear = contraction, negative thoughts, anxiety, worry, ego, disconnection from Life + the present moment.

Have you ever wondered whether that strong thought or belief that has crossed in the hemisphere between your brows and your crown are real?

Sometimes to have the insight of real TRUTH can be a challenging thing as the mind chatter is noisy and makes it hard to distinguish between the clarity of intuition and fear based thoughts.

Let's distinguish the elements of experience like this:

Freedom is following your intuition. It comes from within.


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When I talk about following your heart, I’m not referring to your physical heart, clearly. Although I’m sure it plays a part.

I’m pointing to the area in the middle of your chest, because that is often where I feel the energy that I call my heart, and that most people refer to when they tell you to listen to your heart.

It’s also known as the fourth chakra, the heart chakra. It is often associated with love, wisdom, and compassion.wisdom, and compassion.

We could spend time theorizing about what it does and how it works, but what I care about is that it helps me live a passionate, purposeful, and fulfilling life.

I default to listening to my inner GPS, not to an external source, even if it is family, friends, or world-renowned experts. I know what is needed in my life. If I blindly follow advice from others, I’ll end up unhappy, because no one can know what will work for me.

The reason most people aren’t living like this is because it’s been drummed out of them.

“We’ve been told that we should make logical decisions, and that everything should make “We’ve been told that we should make logical decisions, and that everything should make sense. But if you’ve been on this planet for awhile, you know that you can’t really make sense of life. You can’t figure life out.”

So following your heart means listening to your inner guidance. We all have a guidancesystem within us waiting to help us. But we have to be willing to listen.

I also had to learn to listen to my body and heart when it came to making decisions.

To rely on feelings, however, can be challenging. Most of us are switched off to our primal instincts, and instead, let fear, pack mentality and society’s expectations dictate primal instincts, and instead, let fear, pack mentality and society’s expectations dictate our paths.

I have been lured by the sweet promise of safety and security, at my soul’s detriment, and have come very close to settling for a life that was far removed from the one I dreamed of and the one I feel I deserve.

Sometimes the wrong decision is disguised as the easiest. It’s a little trick our minds like to play on us to lull us into a false sense of security.

Our minds seek comfort. Our hearts seek truthOur minds seek comfort. Our hearts seek truth.


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Our worried minds are not on our sides.

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When a choice is made based on a deep and instinctual knowing felt in our gut or heart, we tend to find that the outcome is beneficial for ourselves and our life path. Our bodies are our greatest and wisest guides.

We simply need to learn to recognize and listen to their quiet wisdom, rather than the misleading chitter-chatter of our mind. This way, we will be following a deeper calling — an instinctual and soul-driven knowledge that whatever it is we are drawn to is ultimately the best opportunity for us.

You know those pieces of undeniable wisdom which seem to speak out loud at 3 am? That is our You know those pieces of undeniable wisdom which seem to speak out loud at 3 am? That is our higher self communicating, often when you least expect it. It is our inner guru — the you within you, the divine within… our celestial soul.

“I believe in intuitions and inspirations… I sometimes ‘feel’ that I am right. I do not ‘know’ that I am.” | Albert Einstein

“We have five senses in which we glory and which we recognize and celebrate, senses that constitute the sensible world for us. But there

are other senses — secret senses, sixth senses, if you will — equally vital, but unrecognized, and unlauded.” | Oliver Sacks


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For today, experiment with being aware of your heart. Bring your attention to the center of your chest, and notice what goes on.

There’s nothing else you need to do. If you’ve never connected to your heart, or if it’s been a long time, you may notice some anxiety or fear there. If you do, feel it fully, and stay with it. That’s the only way to let it go.

And then I want you to think about how to bring that into your life even more. If you feel called to, I’d love you to journal about it before our next call.called to, I’d love you to journal about it before our next call.

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If so, you are not alone as these are common choices. But if you don’t take financial matters into your own hands, your chances of having a secure, financial life are slim. The good news is that I know you are capable of creating your own financial freedom.

If you don’t know what to do with money, it will be gone.

Just because you have money does not mean you have financial freedom.

Financial freedom is much more than having money. It’s the freedom to be who you really are and do what you really want in life. And many of us, especially women, lose sight of this by putting others first and playing many different roles such as parent, spouse, employee, friend, and more.

If you want to be financially-free, you need to become a different person than you are today and let go of whatever has held you back in the past. It’s a process of growth, improvement and gaining spiritual and emotional strength to become the growth, improvement and gaining spiritual and emotional strength to become the most powerful, happy, and successful “you” possible. That is the true reward of financial freedom.

What is financial freedom?


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"To turn the tables on frustration, find a long, slow-moving line to wait in — perhaps in the grocery store, bank, or post office, or if you're renewing your driver's license, dare to take on the mother of all lines in the DMV. But here's the switch: instead of getting irritated or pushy, which taxes your system with a rush of stress hormones, take a breath. Tell yourself, 'I'm going to wait peacefully and enjoy the pause.' Meanwhile, try to empathize with the overwrought cashier or government employee. Smile and say a few nice words to the other beleaguered people in line. Use the time to daydream; take a vacation from work or other beleaguered people in line. Use the time to daydream; take a vacation from work or other obligations. Notice the stress release you feel, how your body relaxes. Lines are an excellent testing ground for patience. To strengthen this asset, I highly recommend standing in as many as possible.

"Frustration is a relic from the dark ages of how many of our parents communicated. It makes no biological sense. Patience, on the other hand, allows you to be happier, healthier, more at ease. Keep practicing it. But don't expect others to be patient first. You must be the path forger who sets the tone for reducing exasperation. Give yourself a pep talk: 'I'm going to behave in who sets the tone for reducing exasperation. Give yourself a pep talk: 'I'm going to behave in a new way because the old way isn't working.' Patience is attractive and contagious. When you manifest it, others will too. Subsequently, patience becomes more widespread. It's a progressive approach that reflects a vibrant biology."

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We have spoken quite a lot about emotions, learning to listen to them and truly acknowledge by remaining present, today I wanted to share an excerpt from a fantastic book by Dr Judith Orloff called quite perfectly ‘Emotional Freedom’.

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Uncover the Spiritual Meaning of Frustration, Disappointment, and Patience

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"If you're fed up with letting frustrations get the best of you, consider what every major world religion has to say about patience. Despite fiery disagreements about who or what God is and how to make contact, all these religions agree that patience is the essence of spirituality and thus grants great strength. Judaism says, 'A patient man is better than a warrior.' In Buddhism, bodhisattvas train in this practice to become enlightened. Christianity and Islam deem it a sacred virtue. Patience endows you with faith in yourself and your destiny, an illuminated capacity to deal with frustration and disappointments.capacity to deal with frustration and disappointments.

"Viewed through a purely materialistic lens, success means getting what you want when you want it. If you don't, your impatience feels warranted. But from a spiritual standpoint, success means acquiring patience, feeling okay about yourself whether or not you get what you want. Everything is about right attitude. Knowing that your spiritual challenge is to transcend frustration permits you to reframe and resolve the natural, bruised feelings of being let down or derailed. From this, you gain a new understanding. Interestingly, the real purpose of frustration isn't just to frustrate you. It's to prompt you to align with your larger self.frustrate you. It's to prompt you to align with your larger self.

"The paradigm shift here is to realize that disappointments aren't necessarily failures or bad. The Dalai Lama believes, 'When you lose, don't lose the lesson.' Of course, the lesson of surmounting frustrations takes considerable patience; that's the point. I want you to fight for your dreams but also, if you're thwarted, to be able to land on your feet, resilient, centered. Then you're always a winner. Here's the heart of the matter: what if you don't have (or will never achieve) the perfect relationship, perfect job, or perfect health? Rather than getting bitter or losing hope, you can make peace with what is. That is true emancipation from suffering.”make peace with what is. That is true emancipation from suffering.”

This sort of practice can be applied to many different kinds of emotions. For now, however, I’d like you totry bringing patience and presence into moments of irritation and frustration. Become an observer on the shifts you find within you when you come back into your center. Explore those sensations with me and journal them out so we can speak about your experiences in our next call.



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1. Cancel all your plans.

Clear your schedule. No matter what you think you have to do, it’s totally possible to ditch it all for one weekend. If you have commitments, rearrange and reschedule, if you have kids hire a sitter. The same for pets. Your dance card must be totally, totally blank. This leaves room for spontaneous activities to occur.

2. Break out of your comfort zone.

Once your schedule is all clear, choose to do things you don’t normally do. Don’t go through all the trouble of canceling everything only to go to the gym, check your email and dine at your favorite restaurant. Breaking out of your comfort zone may include turning off your computer and your phone, driving to another town, trying an activity you’ve never tried before. Point being: You must do something different to shake things up.

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Here are 6 ways to bring your spontaneity back:

It is the literal freedom of action, to move about, to speak, to do things, to work, to act on the physical world. Physical freedom corresponds to spontaneity of action.

This means bringing into your life, an element of spontaneity.

I really appreciate having routine in my life; it give me the space that I need to be creative and get my work done. But I have to have an element of freedom - of spontaneity - in my daily life, otherwise I feel stuck, bored and life becomes very, very bland.

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3. Treat yourself.

Tell yourself that anything you want (within realistic financial limitations) is yours. For me, this may include a new semi-precious stone ring, a frozen yogurt with as many toppings as I want, an fresh juice from my favorite shop, a new face cream and a tattoo. Speaking of that tattoo …

4. Do something that scares you.

If tattoos are not your thing, try something else that makes your pulse race a little bit. Take a lesson of some sort, ride a motorcycle, go skydiving. I’m still too scared for that, but maybe someday…

5. Follow your every whim.

There’s a little game I like to play called Letting Your Heart Lead the Way. If your heart could dictate where you go, what you do, where would it lead you? The point of the game is not to let your head — but rather your intuition — lead you. Be open to doing whatever you feel like doing every moment. Going to the flea market. Grabbing a yogurt. Hitting a tattoo parlor. Popping into an art gallery. Sitting at an Italian restaurant with a glass of wine. Humor yourself, give into to your every desire (within reason). It helps you glass of wine. Humor yourself, give into to your every desire (within reason). It helps you get back in touch with how you really feel like spending your time.

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6. Don’t feel guilty about it!

All of this doesn’t count if you keep thinking about all the things you should be doing instead. So let the guilt go.


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Choose what’s right for you

Don’t act differently based on the people you are around

Freedom is also the absence of being manipulated or coerced by others or external influences to act in a certain way. It is the lack of physical or emotional pressure from others compelling a given result.

That means that you don’t act differently or make choices that you wouldn’t normally when you are around certain people. Being truly free means being empowered enough to be our authentic selves at all times.

It means that you can always choose to do what’s right for you, in every situation, without being manipulated or controlled by someone else’s ideas of what the outcome should be.manipulated or controlled by someone else’s ideas of what the outcome should be.

HomeworkCan you remember a time, recently, where you made a different choice than you would have if left to your own devices, because you were influenced by someone else? + What did that feel like? + What made you do, what you did? + If you could re-live that moment, how would you handle it differently?

Journal out your answers to these questions, and let’s chat about them in our call.


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In our Western culture, expression of thoughts, preferences and feelings is considered to be a way to express one’s selfhood and thus, freedom of expression becomes a powerful sign of individual freedom. As the value of freedom and individuality are core ideals that define individualist cultures, self-expression, defined as “assertion of one’s individual traits (Merriam-Webster dictionary),” is strongly valued in these cultures. Freedom of speech, which symbolizes an array of different self-expressive acts, such as written Freedom of speech, which symbolizes an array of different self-expressive acts, such as written and spoken words, choices, actions, and artistic endeavors, is one of the most fundamental rights.

Freedom of expression is the foundation of self-fulfillment.Self-expression enables an individual to realize his or her full potential as a human being. The right of individuals to express their thoughts, desires, and aspirations, and to communicate freely with others, affirms the dignity and worth of each and every member of society.

For me, freedom of self-expression is one of my most valued and endeared freedoms. And yet, there are times where I feel socially confined from fully expanding my self-expression to reach all there are times where I feel socially confined from fully expanding my self-expression to reach all parts of myself in that expression.

Fears come up such as “Am I being too silly / loud / gregarious /flamboyant? Am I simply attention-seeking? Is this form of self expression palatable by those around me? Does it even matter what they think?”

While I live a quite unconventional life by many standards, I still feel hemmed up and have a need to reel in my whole self, in order to fit the norms and standards.

Having said that, I also often push those boundaries. I have learnt to express my emotions and Having said that, I also often push those boundaries. I have learnt to express my emotions and experiences eloquently, because I know - as a fellow human being - I am not the only one having them. I know that you share them too. I am not an island drifting alone, but rather, a cell connected to many, many cells who are all living in the same body of universe with me. Therefore my self-expression is simply a reflection of all of us.


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Consider these questions...

+ How to express all of the many parts of yourself?+ What are your creative expressions?+ Where are you holding back within yourself?+ How would you really love to show up in this world?+ Does your work / choice of clothes / music / pastimes reflect who you really are?

Journal this out, including what you might imagine yourslef to be like if you were Journal this out, including what you might imagine yourslef to be like if you were expressing yourself fully. We will talk about this in our call.

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For many people, creative freedom embodies 3 ideals:

1. The freedom to create authentically.2. The freedom to create a life, job, relationships, and greater purpose that represents your deepest values.3. The freedom to create without fear, self recrimination, or judgments (external or internal).

Do any of those ideals speak to you? If you say YES to any, the next big question is Do any of those ideals speak to you? If you say YES to any, the next big question is what does this REALLY mean to you?

In order to obtain creative freedom, you need to begin with a clear awareness of what creative freedom means to you. I mean TO YOU. Not to you spouse, your best friend, your boss, your mother, your children, or to anyone else who influences you.

You need to define what creative freedom means to YOU.

When you think about creative freedom, what do YOU want?

Freedom in creativity.


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If you are part of a toxic friendship, you may be spending time with a friend who takes more than she/he gives, focuses more on her own needs than anyone else’s, demands too much from you, or constantly puts you down or makes little digs at your expense. You know that it’s a toxic friendship, because when that person leaves, you feel tired, drained and exhausted.

Ending a toxic relationship is never easy, but the benefits of creating boundaries in your life and ending anything that takes away from you being the best version of yourself is always a good thing. There are two ways to change your friendship:

1. Address the issues and concerns with the person involved by gently confronting the friend. If you value the friendship and want to turn it around, this is the best approach. You can give your friend a chance to change for the better.

2. If confrontation isn’t an option, just being less available to her/him is ultimately the best 2. If confrontation isn’t an option, just being less available to her/him is ultimately the best option. Sometimes busy is just busy, but suddenly changing your schedule or regular time together serves up a strong message.

Don’t be afraid to let go of people who are no longer in alignment with the person you are, or that you want to become. You are essentially making space for better friendships that are more supportive, kinder and on your wave length. Letting go of what no longer serves you is imperative in creating more freedom in your life - which includes some of the people that are draining you.

Freedom in relationships. (Do you need a friendship/people purge?)

Many years ago, before I learnt to love and approve of myself, I used to allow all sorts of people into my life. Anyone who wanted to be my friend was welcome. Because I just wanted others to like me. And I’d bend over backwards to ensure that they did. Which included letting them walk all over me. This meant that I allowed a lot of toxic relationships and friendships enter my life, which was not only detrimental to my self esteem but also my overall life experience. Because you always get what you allow.

Having toxic friendships can really affect your overall wellbeing as well as your inner growth and Having toxic friendships can really affect your overall wellbeing as well as your inner growth and expansion as a soulful being. It can raise your stress levels and affect your self esteem, plus hit you other areas, such as financially, and drain your resources.

What is a toxic friendship?

How can you purge a toxic friendship?

HomeworkI’d like you to share what friendships and relationships you have let go of, or want to let go of, in your life right now. Journal it out in preparation for our call.


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Love, it turns out, is freedom. By letting each other be free, we can be completely each other’s. Because we are not bound, or tied, or coerced, we can remember the important parts.

Not perfect in their actions, or in their looks, or in their beliefs. Perfect in the way they fit, the way our bodies rest together, the way our words flow like an easy morning, and the way we make each other want to be full—not better, because we are better, separately, and together.and together.

But more—full of joy, and life, and searching for the things that will bring us all of it, because now that we have found that, life can be so incredibly vivid; we are eager and desperate and cannot wait to find the million things that will make us more alive, now that we have found how deeply we can breathe. We can see that there are in fact no limits, and we laugh that we ever thought that there were, and smile because, you are free and I am free, and we are free to be.

We choose to be.We choose to be.

In freedom, we choose everything.

Because we are free.

My romantic heart wants to believe in the One, and perhaps there is a One—a perfect soul-fit, a One that when our souls meet we exhale happy sighs of greeting, of finally, of what took you so long? of it’s been forever, but only yesterday, and always and often have I dreamed of your sweet face.

Freedom in love. Knowing what love really is, and what you love, sets you free.


Pre Call HomeworkBut I think there are probably many Ones. Many soul-fits. Because our souls are old and the universes are many, lifetimes without number and, dearest, I know I have known you before. I have known your touch, and falling for you has been a forgetting to remember, or is it a remembering to forget, because we fit like fate and we play like buddies and we fuck like long separated lovers, laughing and delighted and ravenous to touch, to taste, because it has been a lifetime and only a day since I held you before.

And yes, I will let you go.And yes, I will let you go.

I will let you go, because, like our many soul-fits, we will find each other again.

If it means that you will be happier, or that your life will be richer, or that you will reach for a moonbeam and land on an impossible star, I will cheer you on.

Because love sets us free.

And I will know you again, soul-fit.

It may be forever, or it may be a day.

But we will smile, on the inside, and exhale into each other’s necks, and our hearts will But we will smile, on the inside, and exhale into each other’s necks, and our hearts will beat of adventure and our mouths will smile joy, because we have come together again, carried by warm winds and singing songs too joyfu and mournful for mouths to sing or for ears to hear.

And if we do not?


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Answer these questions:

Are you free? Do you allow your partner freedom? To build, to find their happiness, their life, to let you build and find yours?

To create happiness, and a life together?

To disagree, to lose, to win?

Can we, our egos, allow freedom to let them leave us, if that means their ultimate happiness?

Real love is freedom from attachment. And when it’s real love, it turns out, that doesn’t hurt. When it’s Real love is freedom from attachment. And when it’s real love, it turns out, that doesn’t hurt. When it’s real love, it turns out, that sets us free.

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Big dreams are specific. Often we believe that certain things cannot be done, but when we write them down and give them a deadline, we are coerced to at least give them a try. This changes your mindset and conversation from “I can’t do it” to “well, if I were to do it by the deadline, how would I accomplish it?”

Big dreams are concise. A big dream means little if it cannot be remembered. Your vision should easily fit in a Twitter post! That’s concise, and memorable.

Big dreams are consistent. Your big dream needs to be communicated consistently in every area of your life. Keep consistently showing up every day, step by step for your big dream. And watch what happens.

Freedom is dreaming big.

Passion fuels the rocket, but vision—a big dream—points the rocket to its ultimate destination.


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Answer these questions in your journal:

What is you big dream?How can you accomplish it and by when?How are you going to consistently show up to allow this dream to unfold?

I will be quizzing you about it when we chat!

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1. Plan Out Your Dreams

Unless you know what your goals are, you’ll never take the necessary steps to achieve them.As Stephen Covey quotes in his book, Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, we must “begin with the end in mind.”

The truth is, most of us have never taken the time to sit down and plan out our dreams. We need to have a plan — a blueprint — to help us clarify what we want and how we’re going to get there.

This concept shouldn’t be novel, because we already plan most things in our lives. In university, This concept shouldn’t be novel, because we already plan most things in our lives. In university, we plan which courses to take and calculate the number of credits required to graduate. Fashion designers outline a sketch of the clothing they’ll be producing. Entrepreneurs create a business plan outlining the costs and steps required before launching their company.

(*I must note here that I never wrote a business plan, but I definitely wrote out a plan of what I wanted my life to look and feel like if it was ideal, and then continuously keep adjusting it and making new decisions that align me closer to that vision and dream. This is an organic thing, as I keep growing as a human being, my values and priorities keep evolving as does my dream.)as I keep growing as a human being, my values and priorities keep evolving as does my dream.)

These are the fundamentals to achieving success in anything we do. But we don’t apply these principles when it comes to achieving our ultimate desires.

Invest time in figuring out what your dreams are. If you had $10 million in your bank account today, what would you be doing? What would you have? Who would you be?

Beginning with the end in mind allows us to reverse-engineer our end goal and break it down into small, practical steps that allows us to achieve our dreams one step at a time.

Next, I’m going to share the steps to take to identify and achieve our dreams. Today, we start taking control of our lives to focus on what matters.

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2. It’s Cheaper Than You Think

One of the biggest obstacles most of us think we face when pursuing our dreams is money. The truth is, most adventures and dreams in life don’t cost much all. We only perceive them to be expensive and use those beliefs to keep us from doing what we truly want.

The media has fooled us to believe that only the wealthy tycoons can achieve their dreams and desires. We constantly tell ourselves, “If only I had more money, I could do X.” Thisis what keeps us conservative. It’s what keeps people at their 9-to-5 jobs for years — even decades — because we’re led to believe that life can’t be lived until we have a years — even decades — because we’re led to believe that life can’t be lived until we have a seven-figure number in our bank account. We fall victim to this trap because we’ve never taken the time to break down how much we actually need to fulfil our dreams.

We can apply this method of breaking down costs into any of the dreams we want to achieve.

3. Take Immediate Action

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Again, get out your journal and get as detailed as possible answering these 3 questions:

1. Beginning with the end in mind, what does your dream look and feel like if you were to be experiencing it right now? Write out a plan of what it would take for your dream to become a reality.

2. What are the costs involved in making your dream a reality? Break down the costs. Get really clear on what you need and for what in order for this dream to become a part of your life. part of your life.

3. What are the 3 immediate steps you can take towards your big dream, right now?

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This is a very powerful question that you should ask yourself every day.

First, it gives you a sense of clarity of what you can do and second, it actually breaks down the actions into smaller piece that you can do it within 5 minutes. The most important key is to get you started.

Focus in doing the small action that you can do immediately right now, even if it is just writing a paragraph or making just one phone call. The key is to get you started.

The only difference between extraordinary people and ordinary people, is the action that they take.Successful people take more action and spend more time thinking about the things that they want to accomplish. And it is their discipline and consistency that gives them the results that they want.

And in order to be disciplined and to take action, you have to begin with your mind and your thoughts. You need to learn to ask better and more effective questions. Successful people thoughts. You need to learn to ask better and more effective questions. Successful people ask great questions, thus they get great answers and solutions. They ask motivating quest-ions, thus they get inspired and driven into taking action.

Below are the 7 effective questions that can boost your motivation and help you overcome procrastination right away.

1. What action can I take for just 5 minutes now?

Always go back to your big dream and remind yourself about what you want to accomplish in the future. Your dreams and your goals are what will inspire and motivate you.

Ensure that the dreams you pursue are exciting enough to get you into action. Most people procrastinate because they don’t feel pleasurable to take action. Dream so big, that you feel joyous and excited about it.

2. What dreams do I want to achieve and what goals I want to accomplish?


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The reasons behind why you do things are your source of motivation. Your big WHY is the driving force behind all of your actions. Get clear on why you dream to do or experience what you dream of. Discover what your deeper underlying factor is and use it as a source of motivation to guide you forward.

To give you an example, my big WHY behind the business that I have created is because I believe that the social standards for work in our current world are abhorrent and I stand for the rights of all human beings to live their lives in alignment with the hearts and souls. I believe the rights of all human beings to live their lives in alignment with the hearts and souls. I believe that if I can be a leading example of how this might work, other people, like you, might be inspired to create your own life under your own terms as well. I believe that we are all deserving of a harmonious, peaceful, beautiful life that is supported both financially and soulfully. I also want to be in a position where I have freedom and choice in the way that I spend my time. Because that’s more valuable to me than anything. Those are part of my WHY is do what I do. They are some of my driving factors.

3. Why am I doing this?

Imagine if you take action right now and you reach your goals and your dreams, what would happen? If you make the phone call and manage to close the sale, you will be richer and you can afford to buy the things you want. If you manage to write the book and get it published, you might become a famous author. The possibility is endless.

5. If I do this now, what will happen in the long run?

When you ask yourself what will happen if you don’t do it, you will usually come up with thoughts that only support you take action now, even more.

If you don’t take action right now, you will end up being the same. You are not going to change; you will still be in the same situation and being the same you. So are you going to take action and start to live your big dream right now?

4. If I don’t do this now, what will happen in the future?


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Ask yourself this question right now. Successful people will always ask this question from time to time during the day. They want to make sure they have done what truly matter and what will improve the quality of their life.

So what have you accomplished today? Did you do something that will move you closer toward your dreams? Or you are not being productive at all today?

6. What have I accomplished today?

Use the above set of 7 questions to keep you on track with your big dream. And for our next call I’d like you to break your dream down in actionable steps. At the start of this week’s PDF I asked you to begin with the end in mind. With that vision, lets break down those steps:

Short term action steps:

Medium terms action steps:

Long term action steps:Long term action steps:

I can’t wait to see what you come up with and get more detailed and clearer in those steps with you!

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When you are hesitating whether to take action or not to do it, just imagine what would the person you want to model after would do.

You know it very well that great people will not waste their time playing Facebook or watching TV. So when you act and think like them, you will become them and take massive action to produce the results you want.

7. What would (insert idol here) do if I were them?


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Now, from here on out, you are on your own in this journey.

I know that you can do it, and I am so excited to be your

soulful observer as you make those changes in your life

towards more freedom and living out your dreams.


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Last week we broke things down into actionable steps. Part of the process of creating big dreams is to keep breaking things down into smaller and smaller steps until they become easy daily tasks and you are consistently showing up for yourself and the life you want tocreate.

Today, let’s start here, with a devotion journaling exercise created by the beautiful Alexander Franzen.

It’s time, my friends. Time for some planning. Time to get your priorities on paper.

Here’s a worksheet to help you map out your most important projects and commitments for 2015. Take some time to write down what matters to you.Because… you know what you are here to do.Because… you know what you are here to do.


My name is ___________________ Starting today, I am devoting myself to the following:>>> I am devoting myself to these things because I care about ___________________. They deserve my full focus, attention, discipline and love. Starting today, I am releasing the following [commitments / habits / old projects] from my life:>>>> I am releasing these things because I need to create time & energy for ___________________. These things no longer have a place in my life. I believe that the world needs more ___________________ and that’s what I am here to create.I believe that the world needs more ___________________ and that’s what I am here to create.I may not be able to ___________________, but I can do my part to help. The very next step is to ___________________. And then after that, to ___________________. When things feel overwhelming, I will remind myself that my job is simply to: ___________________. When things feel overwhelming, I will remind myself that my job is simply to: ___________________. I have the power to leave the world, and the people around me, in better condition than I found them. I don’t have to “reach” for that power. I have it, right now.

Anybody can serve. I am devoted. I am focused. I am focused. I am ready. I know what I am here to do. I am officially signing this agreement — with myself — on [date].[your signature here]Every word is true.Every word is true.

DEVOTION: My commitment to myself — and the world — for 2015.


We have been through a tremendous journey together over the past 10 weeks. I have watched you move through challenges, be inspired by realisations and grow in ways, that at first, seemed impossible to you.

And the amazing thing is, it was all YOU. All I did was cultivate the path; you chose the direction, the focus and depth of your journey.

We are always attracting to ourselves, exactly what we need, in exactly the right time.

+ A few of you left jobs that are no longer serving your highest self. + A few of you left jobs that are no longer serving your highest self.

+ Some of you let go of friendships and family obligations that were holding you back.

+ All of you made space for bigger, bolder dreams that will carry you forward.

+ And many of you recognised that freedom was something that you already had, as long as you let go of the walls that kept you feeling imprisoned. Because it’s all really just an illusion.

It has been such a pleasure to be here with you, and speak with you every week. To get to know you, your unique idiosyncrasies and the beauty that shines from your souls.get to know you, your unique idiosyncrasies and the beauty that shines from your souls.

Thank you, from the depths of my heart, for choosing me to be there alongside you the past 10 weeks.

It has been an honor.


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