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The Power of Positive ParentingConducted by[Practitioner Name]
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Today’s Agenda
• Overview of Triple P • Being a parent• Five key principles of positive parenting• Take home messages• Question time
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Overview of Triple P
• Triple P = Positive Parenting Program
• Developed in Australia• 30 years of research• Used in 22 countries• Local program sponsored by
First 5 Santa Cruz County
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Triple P Services
• Seminars: General parenting information– The Power of Positive Parenting– Raising Confident, Competent Children– Raising Resilient Children
• Workshops: Brief help with specific and common parenting issues
• Groups: Brief (4 sessions) or In-depth (8 sessions)
• One on One Consultations : Brief (1-4 sessions) or In-depth (10 sessions)
• Additional Triple P Support
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Our hopes and dreams
• To raise healthy well-adjusted children who have the skills to: – communicate their needs– get on with others– try to do their best – manage their emotions– feel good about themselves
• In a safe, secure, loving and low-conflict environment
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• Parenting can be:– rewarding– enjoyable– demanding– frustrating– exhausting
• We all learn through trial and error• Every parent has to develop their own
goals and approach to discipline
Being a parent
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Employment opportunity
One couple to raise a child. No experience necessary. Applicants must be available 24 hours per day, 7 days a week, and must provide food, shelter, clothing and supervision. No training provided. No salary - applicants pay $180,000 over the next 18 years. Accidental applications accepted. Single people may apply but shouldbe prepared for twice the work.
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Most parents:• are confident in their parenting (77%) • find parenting rewarding (86%)• find parenting fulfilling (89%)
The good news
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The tough part of parenting
Children’s behavior
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The challenge
• Some misbehavior is normal • Some discipline problems are
inevitable• Managing everyday behavior
problems can prevent more serious ones
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Positive parenting
• Promoting children’s development and managing their behavior and emotions in a positive way
• Building strong relationships• Good communication• Emphasizing the positive• Planning ahead to prevent problems• Using everyday situations and creating
opportunities to help children learn
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• Develop skills
• Do better at school
• Build friendships
• Feel good about themselves
• Have fewer behavioral and emotional problems
• Less likely to become involved in drug abuse or delinquent behavior
Benefits for children
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Benefits for parents
• Feelings of confidence and competence in parenting
• Less depression• Less stress• Less conflict with their partner• Less conflict with their children
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Skills children need
• Good communication and social skills
• Ability to manage feelings• Independence skills• Problem solving skills
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5 core principles
1. Creating a safe, interesting environment
2. Having a positive learning environment
3. Using assertive discipline
4. Having realistic expectations
5. Taking care of yourself
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Principle 1Creating a safe, interestingenvironment
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Strategies
• Develop predictable routines• Provide supervision• Have interesting things to do
Tips for safety:• Teach your child road safety rules• Provide safety equipment• Be safety conscious near schools • Teach your child about personal
safety
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Benefits
Children: • feel secure and wanted• are safe• live in a predictable world• have lots of interesting things to do• have opportunities to learn
Parents:• can be more relaxed
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Having a positive learningenvironment
Principle 2
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Strategies
• Spend time with your child• Speak nicely• Chat and listen often• Share your own experiences• Be affectionate• Use descriptive praise• Give your child attention • Use incidental teaching• Get involved in your child’s school
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Promoting Development
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Promoting Self-Control
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Principle 3Using assertive discipline
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How discipline helps
Discipline helps children learn to:• accept necessary rules and limits• develop self-control • consider others• express their feelings in ways that
respect the needs of others• take responsibility for their actions
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Discipline works best when:• children live in a predictable world• children receive plenty of attention for
good behavior• parents have reasonable expectations• parents use fair, predictable
consequences consistently• parents support each other
When discipline works
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Strategies
• Prepare in advance• Arrange activities• Set some ground rules• Praise good behavior• Watch and supervise• Use planned ignoring for minor
misbehavior• Use your voice effectively
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Strategies
• Use directed discussion for rule breaking
• Give clear, calm instructions– start instructions– stop instructions
• Take away a problem activity • Back up instructions with quiet time• Use time-out for serious misbehavior
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Principle 4Having realistic expectations
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Strategies
Consider:• Your expectations of your child
– What do I expect?– Is this rule necessary?– Can my child understand / do this?
• What other parents expect • What your child’s school expects• Your expectations of yourself
– Are my expectations reasonable?
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Principle 5Taking care of yourselfas a parent
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Balancing work and family
• Have realistic expectations of yourself • Reduce unnecessary commitments• Develop good transition time routines• Avoid conflict after work and prepare
for the ‘second shift’• Teach your child to be independent• Organize good, reliable child care
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Negative thinking
Unhelpful thoughts:• He knew I was tired• She did that on
purpose to upset me• He’s never going to
learn • She’s just bad
Helpful thoughts:• We were both tired• Maybe she’s bored
when I’m on the phone• It will take time for him
to learn• Her behavior is
annoying
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• Notice when you are feeling upset with your child
• Identify what negative / unhelpful things you are saying to yourself about the situation, particularly why it is happening
• Try to change negative thoughts to helpful, more rational thoughts
Changing how you think
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Working as a team
• Talk with your partner and other caregivers about daily experiences with your child
• Share the workload fairly• Reach agreement on discipline• Back each other up• Model problem solving skills • Hold regular problem solving
discussions
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Take home messages
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• Make your family a priority• Create a warm, loving, safe environment • Encourage your child’s learning • Use assertive discipline • Have reasonable expectations • Take care of yourself:
– look after your own needs– balance work and family responsibilities– talk back to negative thinking– work as a team
Take home messages
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•Review it with your partner or by yourself.
•Review it this week!
•Choose one strategy you learned today to try at home.
Tip Sheet
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• Attend the next seminar [insert date]
• Contact [insert name] for more services [insert info]
• Contact First 5 Santa Cruz County for more services (831) 465-2217 or [email protected] or visit www.first5scc.org
Next Steps
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Stay Connected
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Question time
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Positive Parenting…Small changes,Big differences