1

Proverbs on ‘Friendship’

• A friend in n____ is a friend i_____.• A fair-weather friend• Out of s______, out of m_____.• Absence makes the heart grow

f_____.• Lend your money and l____ your

friend.• A man is known by the c____ he

keeps.

2

Proverbs on ‘Friendship’

• A friend in need is a friend indeed.• A fair-weather friend• Out of sight, out of mind.• Absence makes the heart grow

fonder.• Lend your money and lose your

friend.• A man is known by the company he

keeps.

3

Friendship cards

• I expect my friends to ……

4

Article 1: Friendship

1. On average, how many friends do students make?

2. What things draw friends together?

3. How is friendship different from marriage?

5

Answers:1. 62. common interests, similar beliefs

and opinions3. Marriage is an institution, a

contract while friendship is not.

6

Vocabulary

• //1 take sth for granted (lines 1-2)• // 1 intimate relationship (line 6)• //1 Sth is of prime importance (line 8)• //2 to do friends favours (line 5)• break a promise (line 5)• keep a promise• //3 create a powerful bond (line 3)

7

Article 2: Value of friendship

1. Who needs friendship most? Why?

2. Where do people make friends?3. What are friends for?4. Why do men rarely make close

friends?

8

Answers:

1. adolescents and elderly1. Colleagues in the workplace,, neighbours

who live next door, schoolmates in school2. Friends can develop one’s courage, posit

ive attitudes and give moral support.3. Because they don’t confide in others an

d they are shy about sharing their self on a personal level

9

Article 2: Vocabulary

//1 enjoy sb’s company (line 2)//1 derive = get (line 3)//1 alleviate stress (line 6)//2 the former (line 2) the latter (line 3)// 2 develop courage and positive attitu

des (line 5)

10

//3 moral support (line 2)//3 acquaintance (line 5)//3 sociable (line 5)//3 confide in (line 8)//3 negative feelings (line 9)

11

Assignment

Article 3: Use subheadings* Make a table to show the

differences

Article 4: Use prediction * Q: How to heal friendship?

12

Article 3: Friendship in China and the West

Chinese friends• are more lasting• do something for you because of

his position or job• give concrete help e.g. money• expect much from friends, offer

help without waiting to be asked

13

Western friends• are out of sight, out of mind• are based on equality and status• help to think out the problem and

discover the solution• may reject to help with a reason

14

Article 4: How to heal friendship

Q: How to heal friendship?

15

Answer: • give your friend benefit of the

doubt• don’t assume your friends mean to

hurt you on purpose

16

What do you think of when you see a rock?

17

What do you think of when you see an island?

18

What can the lady see out of the window?

19

I am a rock

Fill in the blanks as you listen.

The song you are going to listen to is…

20

The song was written by Paul Simon in 1964 and sung by a duo Paul Simon and Art Garfunkel.

‘That’s a very young song. I wrote that in England. Unquestionably my most neurotic song. When I finished it, I thought ‘Oh man, I can’t be this sick!’

21

I am a rock Sung by Simon and Garfunkel

A winter’s day In a deep and dark December I am alone. Gazing from my window to the streets below On a freshly fallen silent shroud of snow. I am a rock. I am an island.

I’ve built walls A fortress deep and mighty. That none may penetrate. I have no need of friendship; friendship causes pain. It’s laughter and it’s loving I disdain. I am a rock. I am an island.

22

Don’t talk of loveBut I’ve heard the word before.It’s sleeping in my memory.I won’t disturb the slumber of feelings that have died.If I had never loved, I never would have cried.I am a rock.I am an island.

I have my booksAnd my poetry to protect me.I am shielded in my armourHiding in my room, safe within my womb.I touch no one and no one touches me.I am a rock.I am an island.

23

And a rock feels no pain

And an island never cries.

24

Now you’ll listen to the song again and relate it to your personal experience.

25

In groups of four, discuss the following questions:

2. Do you notice anything special in the lyrics?

1.What is the writer’s message about friendship? Why do you think the writer had these ideas?

Hint: (a) Do the words convey a positive ora negative feeling?(b) Why did the writer use the perfect conditional in stanza 3?

3. What do you think the words ‘rock’, ‘island’ and ‘window’ are describing?

26

The writer expressed a negative feeling towards friendship. He described

it as insecure, painful and hurting.

27

The writer thinks if one does not want to get hurt, one needs to build up walls around him, act like a rock, or become an island.

Rock = hard, unfeeling, unsympathetic

Island = isolated, unapproachable,

uncommunicative

28

For question 2:

deep dark silent mighty protect died hiding pain cries shielded disdain died

2. The song writer has used Conditional Sentence Type

_____to show this is a ________________.

3 past situation

1. The following words are used to give a negative meaning.

29

The song writer has used ‘metaphor’ in the song.

‘Metaphor’ - is an imaginative way of describing some-thing by referring to something else which has the qualities that you want to express.’ ( Collins Cobuild English Dictionary p.1044)

For question 3:

‘Rock’ and ‘island’ refer to a broken friendship which cannot be mended. The ‘window’ is the wall isolating the self from the outside world.To protect oneself from getting hurt, one has to close himself by hiding behind books and poetry.

30

Follow-up Assignment 1

• 1. Visit the following website about ‘friendship’

• which offers friendship philosophy, quotes, • poetry and an online forum devoted to • celebrating friendship. You can also read other websites on friendship which interest• you. • • http://www.friendship.com.au

31

2. In about 200-250 words, express your opinion and your experience of ‘friendship’ in your weekly writing.

Follow-up Assignment 2:Follow-up Assignment 2: