you, success !!! ( 你能行 !!! ) a look at success and what it requires if you really want to be...

You, success !!! ( 你能行 !!!)

A look at success and what it requires if you

really want to be successful in your life.

It happens to all of us. Something blocks our way. So, how can we gain success?

How can we be successful?

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Comparing beauty – a look at two flutes.Which is which and which is more beautiful?

And which do you think has the better sound?

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Burning Bridges – A story 书中有个叫做焚桥（“ Burning Bridges” ）的故事。故事的

主角康塔拉（ Cantara ）是一所特殊学校的所有者。当她被一名黄衣女子问及她创立学校的勇气从何而来时，她讲述了一段她与她朋友之间的故事。康塔拉和那位朋友曾计划着创立一所学校，这所学校将致力于孕育眼界开阔的学生。然而她朋友的不幸去世完全击垮了康塔拉，她确信以她一人之力是绝对办不成这学校的。于是她放弃了她们共同的梦想。然而自那以后康塔拉开始不断的梦到她的朋友。在一次梦中，她朋友给她看了一个墓碑，碑上刻着一些教人如何成功的文字。醒来的第二天，康塔拉去了她朋友的墓地，在快要离开之际，她无意中看到了梦中出现过的那块墓碑。碑上刻着：

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泰勒•唐纳休 1925—1985 如何成功1. Create a burning desire. 拥有一个炙热的梦想。2. Make a plan to attain your purpose. 为你的目标制定一个可

行计划。3. Burn all bridges to the past. (Leave no possible way of retreat—win or perish!) 烧毁一切桥梁（不管结果如

何，成也好败也罢，断掉一切后路，让自己无路可退，只能一心向前）。

4. Stand by the desire until it becomes the dominating obsession of your life and finally a fact. 与梦想同在，直到它占据了你的人生，直到它成为现实。


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康塔拉记下了所有的碑文并开始着手于创立学校。然而她对“烧毁一切桥梁”仍有所顾虑。她是一个大学的教授，她明白一旦辞职去创立学校，她将失去她的退休资格以及很多其他福利。然而当康塔拉再次梦到她朋友之后，她下定决心打电话给院长并辞退了工作。从这以后，康塔拉觉得自己浑身充满了力量。


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故事的最后，康塔拉对黄衣女子说：“这所学校就是这样创办的。对你而言，你想要焚毁怎样的桥梁，又有何种梦想等待你去实现？


Burning BridgesOn the gravestone ( 墓碑 ) of Taylor Donahue it is written “To Be Successful:”

1. Create a burning desire.2. Make a plan to attain your purpose.3. Burn all bridges to the past. (Leave no possible way of retreat ( 撤退 )—win or perish ( 死亡，灭亡 )!)4. Stand by the desire until it becomes the dominating ( 支配 )obsession ( 执着 ) of your life and finally a fact.

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Some acronyms ( 首字母缩略词 ), keywords and expressions to help you be successful:

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PPPPPTTTPARSTSNYNYD Bang for the buck

Intrinsic ( 本质的，内因 ) motivationEnthusiasm ( 热情 )

Routine, daily practiceBucket list ( 遗愿清单 )

Make nurturing friendsTake stock ( 盘点 )annuallyTime is a limited （有限的） resource

The 5 P’s (PPPPP)Proper Planning Prevents Poor Performance

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T T TThingsTakeTime

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PARPlanAct

Reflect

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STSSleep

toServe

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The “Bang for the buck” （货真价实） also called the value proposition. Some call it the cost-to-benefit ratio(比例 ), meaning what is the cost in money, time or other resources compared to the benefit. Also called ROI (return on investment).

Use your time and money wisely. Make sure the investment matches your goals through its output or return.

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MotivationThere are two types of motivation that humans respond to: intrinsic ( 内因 ) and extrinsic (外因 ).

Intrinsic is motivation from within your own heart, soul or mind.

Extrinsic is for external （外部的） reasons.

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MotivationIntrinsic （内因） motivation is “… interest or enjoyment in the task itself, and exists within the individual rather than relying on any external （外部的） pressure”

(Wikipedia)

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MotivationExtrinsic motivation is where you do something“… in order to attain an outcome （成果） , [it ] comes from outside of the individual. Common extrinsic motivations are rewards like money and grades, coercion (强迫 ) and threat of punishment.”

(Wikipedia)

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MotivationIntrinsic motivation:

–leads to greater happiness, –helps us to be more human and –leads to psychological ( 心理的 ) health.

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Enthusiasm

Enthusiasm ( 热情 ) inspires others and ourselves to transcend (超越 ) our limitations （极限）

With real enthusiasm you can accomplish （实现） anything.

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ProcrastinationProcrastination (拖延 ) is the biggest killer of success. When we procrastinate our enthusiasm disappears and we spend time thinking about our problems. This reduces our inspiration and creative flow （创造意识） . Genuine (真诚的 ) enthusiasm gives us focus and encourages us to overcome difficulties quickly.

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EFTSEmbrace ( 拥抱 )

FailureTo

Succeed“Courage is going from failure to

failure without losing enthusiasm”(Winston Churchill)

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DTYTSDon’tTake

YourselfToo

SeriouslyYou can always learn from simple people and from

children.

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A friend once asked Ali Nakajavani how he got so much done. His answer was:1.Each day I do the urgent （紧急的） and the unimportant things first. This gives me a feeling of accomplishment.2.Then I tackle larger projects.3.For the large projects I find it necessary to set aside a block of time for them.

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Routine and HabitsRoutines and habits are powerful parts of our lives. Make good routines and create good habits and they will nurture （培养） you to success.

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Daily PracticeOne form of routine is a daily practice – something that you do every day (especially in the early morning). Examples:Running, meditation (冥想 ), prayer, walking, writing and swimming.Such practices help you start your day on a “good footing” （好的立足点） .

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TIE and Learning to say “NO”When someone asks you to do something, ask

yourself if you have TIE?

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Time

Interest

Energy

NYNYD

Nurture Yourself, Nurture

Your Dreams.

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It is your life.YDYWYD

Your DreamsYour WishesYour Destiny!

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YDYWYD(Your dreams, your wishes, your destiny.)

In the story “Burning Bridges” Ameera comes to Cantara in a dream and says, “…you have the way—you only need the will. Turn aside from fear, lest （免得） like me, you leave this world before you attain the goals you were meant to achieve.”

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I T L

IgnoreThe

Laughter

Why? (Discuss)

A Song: “The Fool on the Hill”

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The Fool On The Hill - The Beatles

Day after day alone on the hill the man with the foolish grin is keeping perfectly still but nobody wants to know him they can see that he's just a fool and he never gives an answer

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But the fool on the hill sees the sun going down and the eyes in his head see the world spinning round


Well on the way, his head in a cloud the man of a thousand voices talking perfectly loud but nobody ever hears him or the sound he appears to make and he never seems to notice


And nobody seems to like him they can tell what he wants to do and he never shows his feelings


Oh…, round, round, round, round, round and he never listens to them he knows that they're the fools but they don't like him


The fool on the hill sees the sun going down and the eyes in his head see the world spinning round

Oh, …round, and round, and round, and round


Start and keep a

Bucket List

A place to write down all the things you want to do before you die.

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Make Nurturing Friends

Choose good friends, those who encourage you and help nurture your dreams.

Let the “dream killers” be friends with each other.

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Take Stock ( 盘点 )of Your Life Once a Year

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MBSFMaintain

BodySoul

Family

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TimeTime is the only limited

resource you have.Use it well.

Use it to support YOUR goals.

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Time ManagementEarlier we mentioned PPPPP but how can we best manage our time?

Work “flat out” (竭尽全力的什么都去做 ) or “do few things but do them well” ( 做少却做精 ) ???

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Time Management Many somewhat successful people use the “work flat out” method of managing their time. This is not a management tool!

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Time ManagementOther successful people use the, “do few things, but do them well” strategy. They concentrate on quality, they focus their energy on what they can do well.

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If You Want Your Dream To Be, by Donovan

If you want your dream to be, Build it slow and surely. Small beginnings greater ends. Heartfelt work grows purely.

(Chorus)

If you want to live life free, Take your time go slowly. Do few things but do them well. Simple joys are holy.

(Chorus)

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Chorus:

Day by day, stone by stone, Build your secret slowly. Day by day, you'll grow, too, You'll know heaven's glory.

Time Management AidsIn order to manage your time (your most valuable resource) it helps to understand the nature of the type of things to come. We should distinguish (区分 ) between:

»Fixed events»Projects with deadlines»Deadlines you create»Reoccurring (重复 ) tasks»Emergencies

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Time Management AidsAs the story of Ali Nakajavani told us sometimes it is necessary to set a block of time aside for large project. Sometimes you need to go away, turn off the phone, keep away from friends, avoid the internet, the TV etc. and work for a week or a month or two months to get a major project done.

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Here is a song of regret. Sing it now so you wouldn’t need to sing it in the future. It is called, “Those Were the Days” by Mary Hopkin.

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Once upon a time there was a tavern (酒馆 )Where we used to raise a glass or twoRemember how we laughed away the hoursAnd dreamed of all the great things we would do

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Those were the days my friendWe thought they'd never endWe'd sing and dance forever and a dayWe'd live the life we chooseWe'd fight and never loseFor we were young and sure to have our way.La la la la...


Then the busy years went rushing by usWe lost our starry (星光般的 ) notions (理想 ) on the wayIf by chance I'd see you in the tavernWe'd smile at one another and we'd say


Those were the days my friendWe thought they'd never endWe'd sing and dance forever and a dayWe'd live the life we chooseWe'd fight and never loseThose were the days, oh yes those were the days.La la la la...


Just tonight I stood before the tavernNothing seemed the way it used to beIn the glass I saw a strange reflectionWas that lonely woman really me?


Those were the days my friendWe thought they'd never endWe'd sing and dance forever and a dayWe'd live the life we chooseWe'd fight and never loseThose were the days, oh yes those were the days.La la la la...


Through the door there came familiar laughterI saw your face and heard you call my nameOh my friend we're older but no wiserFor in our hearts the dreams are still the same


Those were the days my friendWe thought they'd never endWe'd sing and dance forever and a dayWe'd live the life we chooseWe'd fight and never loseThose were the days, oh yes those were the days.La la la la... La la la la...


Choose your path and don’t regret.

Now we will listen to NBA super star, Kobe Bryant tell a story about how to attain success.

Play


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Questions and Answers

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Want to improve your oral English some more?You are welcome to participate in an oral English class using the HILL method. The class is free. Contact Dolly at: 15985194133

You are also welcome to attend the Story Evening and Salon on Monday nights in the College of Foreign Studies, Office 312 at 7 PM.

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