you can totally screw up as a mom and still raise great kids

Parenting 201

because you still have questions

Lynn Dorman, PhD

http://www.amazon.com/dp/B005007V0W

The one and only parenting advice book you will need!

Why? Because it tells you that you need not listen to the parenting experts [including me.]

I call myself the anti-expert expert

http://parenting201.org

Ask yourself:

• Me?

• The books?

• You?

Who is raising your

child or children?


There are parenting books that spell out what to do, when, tell you exactly how to play with yourchildren, and what exactly to say to them under specific circumstances.


If that is what you are looking for – let me say upfront this is NOT the book for you!!

Please do not buy it!!


Your child is yours!

Not mine

Not the other authors

Not your parents

Not your in-laws

Not you neighbors

Not those concerned others


Being a parent is the hardest –

yet most rewarding thing you

will do in your life….


You will feel overwhelmed!


Having a child is a major undertaking; one that

often leaves you wondering on a daily basis:

did I do the right thing?

did I make a mistake?

how will this affect my kid?


Or:

What do I do when [x] occurs?

What do I do to get [child] to do [x]?

Do I reward? Punish? If so – for what?

How do I reward or punish?


It’s a long list of questions when you fill in the x’s –

and there are no specific answers that anyone can give you...


When I am asked, I pose back a whole lot more questions:


Why do you ask?

What about the situation is important for your child?

What about the situation is important for you?

Is this your issue or the child’s?

What else is going on in your home, work?


Mostly I want you to think about:

Is this issue really worth a big fight?


I don’t give answers – I give lots of information, advice, ask questions and let you know about potential consequences.


You then make your own intelligent decisions

based on all this thinking!


I did this questioning as a parent and as a therapist; I do it as a professor, a coach and an author.


I can’t really tell you how to live your life or raise your kids.

I am not you!

You are not me!


I raised my son this way and he is now one fine, thinking, concerned-about-the-world adult!

Moms are allowed to brag – always!

[Tattoos? I have one too –

he bought it for me as

a birthday present!]


Did I make mistakes along the way?

Of course I did! I’m human!


Did we come out ok? Yes!

Why? Because at the heart of parenting is the communication between you and your child.


You can always make it better tomorrow –

or even later today.


Slow down and take a deep breath!

Say “I’m sorry.”


An “I’m sorry,” a hug, kiss, smile, touch, or saying “I love you” goes a long way in countering any

mistakes you think you made.


YES!!

You Can Totally Screw Up As A Mom And Still Raise Great Kids









you can totally screw up as a mom and still raise great kids

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