you are not your own. · sex in marriage is an act of worship that is done for god’s glory. (1...
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! Youarenotyourown.
! Sexualintimacyinmarriageisnotonlyorultimatelyforyou.
TWOGUIDINGTHESES
! IntheRomanEmpirewhere4kindsofmarriageswerecommon
! “Tentcompanionship”betweenamanandawomanslave
! “Commonlawmarriage”! “Purchasedmarriage”! “Traditionalmarriage”
! Paulwaswritingtocorrectthatfaultythinking
UNDERSTANDTHECULTUREINWHICHTHENEWTESTAMENTWASWRITTEN
! ItwascreatedbyGOD! ItwasstillcalledHONORABLEaftersinhadenteredtheworld(Prov.5:18-19;Heb.13:4)
! SexinmarriageisanactofWORSHIPthatisdoneforGod’sGLORY.(1Cor.10:31)
PRINCIPLE1—SEXINMARRIAGEISPUREANDHOLY(1COR.7:2)
! Sexualrelationsinmarriagearenotonlyholy,buttheyaredesignedtokeepusholy.
! Withthestatementinverse2,Godsays“NO”totheCorinthianphilosophyofverse1andexhortsbelieverstoengageinafullconjugallifewiththeirspouses.
PRINCIPLE2—SEXINMARRIAGEISAGIFTTOPROTECTOURPURITY
! Whilesexispartofmarriage,sexdoesnotequalmarriage.(It ’snotallaboutsex.)
! ThemostsignificantreasonformarriageisasanexpressionofourloveforChrist.
PRINCIPLE3—SEXISNOTTHEBASISFORMARRIAGE. MARRIAGEISNOTFIRSTANDFOREMOSTAPHYSICALUNION
! What1Corinthians7:3means
! Someimplicationsofthisverse:
! Themessageofthisversecanbemadeinfourwords:“DON’TDEPRIVEYOURSPOUSE.”
! SexualintimacyinmarriageisnotaSUPERFLUOUSextra:itisamutual(joyful)OBLIGATION.
! SexualintimacyinmarriageisanexpressionofSELFLESSGIVING.
PRINCIPLE4-THEPRIMARYGOALOFSEXISGIVING—PROVIDINGFORYOURSPOUSE(1COR.7:3)
! Theword“authority”meansCONTROL
! BothhusbandandwifehavetheSAMEcommand.
! SexualintimacyinmarriagetestsyourwillingnesstoSUBMITtoyourmate’sAUTHORITY.
! Butdon’thusbandsandwiveshavedifferentlevelsofsexualdesire?
PRINCIPLE5—GODHASCREATEDBOTHHUSBANDANDWIFEWITHEQUALABILITYTOSATISFYEACHOTHER
! “Depriving”isafailureto“fulfillone’sduty”forSELFISHreasons.
! ThereareonlythreeconditionsforABSTINENCEwithinmarriage(theymustallbemet):
! ItisaMUTUALagreement
! IthasaDEFINITEend! ItisforaSPIRITUALPURPOSE
PRINCIPLE6—SEXISTOBEREGULAR,RECIPROCAL,ANDCONTINUOUS(1COR.7:5)
! TherearealsothreemoreCONSIDERATIONS(warnings)aboutabstinence:
! LimitabstinenceinmarriagesothatSatan’sPURPOSESareTHWARTED
! LimitedabstinenceisPERMITTED,itisnotCOMMANDED
! “SPIRITUALLIFE”isnevertobeapretextfordenyingyourmate
PRINCIPLE6—SEXISTOBEREGULAR,RECIPROCAL,ANDCONTINUOUS(1COR.7:5)
! Howoftenshouldcoupleshavesex?
! SexshouldbeoftenenoughtoSATISFYeachother(1Cor.7:4,Prov.5:19)
! SexshouldbeoftenenoughtoavoidTEMPTATION(1Cor.7:5)
! Sexshouldbeconsiderate,PREFERRINGeachother(Phil.2:3-4)
PRINCIPLE6—SEXISTOBEREGULAR,RECIPROCAL,ANDCONTINUOUS(1COR.7:5)
! Truth1:Ignoringafather’sbest(andloving)counselproducesfoolishness(v.1)
! Truth2:Indulgingadulteresseswilldiminish(notdestroy)shepherdingopportunities(v.2)
! Truth3:Justbecauseitsoundsgooddoesn’tmeanitisgood(vv.3-4)
! Truth4:Adulteroussinisdeadly(vv.5-6)
PRINCIPLE7—SEXUALSINLOOKSENTICING. ITISALIE(PROV.5:1-14)
! Truth5:Stayasfarawayfromadulteryaspossible(vv.7-8)
! Truth6:Adulterywilldrain“life”fromyourlife(vv.9-11)
! Truth7:Adulteryonlyproducesregret(ultimately)(vv.12-14)
PRINCIPLE7—SEXUALSINLOOKSENTICING. ITISALIE(PROV.5:1-14)
! Truth1:Listeningtoafather’sbest(andloving)counselproduceswisdom(v.1)
! Truth2:Avoidingadulteresseswillprovideshepherdingopportunities(v.2)
! Truth3:Evaluatingwords&emotionstruthfullywillprotectyourheart(vv.3-4)
PRINCIPLE7—SEXUALSINLOOKSENTICING. ITISALIE(PROV.5:1-14)
Therearealsocorrespondingandoppositetruthstotheseprinciples:
! Truth4:Martialfaithfulnessisajoyfulfruitoflife(vv.5-6)
! Truth5:Maritalfaithfulnesscanbeattainedandenjoyed(vv.7-8)
! Truth6:Maritalfaithfulnesswillsupplement“life”toyourlife(vv.9-11)
! Truth7:Maritalfaithfulnessproducesjoyandgratitude(vv.12-14)
PRINCIPLE7—SEXUALSINLOOKSENTICING. ITISALIE(PROV.5:1-14)
! DelightinthePERSON
! “Rejoice…”! “…inthewife…”! “…ofyouryouth”
! DelightintheSEXUALRELATIONSHIP! Bewareoffalsedelights(v.20)
PRINCIPLE8—SEXISFORPLEASURE(PROV.5:18-19)
PRINCIPLE9—SEXISFORGOD’SGLORY(PROV.5:20-23)
! Everyonehasa“gracious”giftfromGod—someforCELIBACY,someforMARRIAGE.
! Whichevergiftyouhave,useitforGod’sGLORY(1Cor.6:20).
PRINCIPLE10—BOTHSEXANDCELIBACYAREGOD’SGRACIOUSGIFTS—USETHEMGRACIOUSLY(1COR.7:7-9)
! Renewyourmind—
! Sexisanactofworship! Sexisaboutobedience! Sexisaheartrevealer,notaheartsolution! Sexisagifttogive,notarighttotake! Sexisadelight(inmarriage)
IMPLICATIONS—WHATYOUWILLWANTTOTEACHYOURCOUSELEESABOUTBIBLICALSEXUALITY:
! Putoff—
! EveryperversionofGod’ssexuality! Manipulating,pleading,orforcingrelationswithyourspouse
! Anger,bitterness,andresentmentwhenIdon’tgetwhatIwant
IMPLICATIONS—WHATYOUWILLWANTTOTEACHYOURCOUSELEESABOUTBIBLICALSEXUALITY:
! Puton—
! ThemindofChrist
! Actsofservicefor1)yourspouse,and2)others! Givingsexualitytoyourspouseasanexpressionofloveforher/himandyourloveforChrist
! ThankGodforeveryactofintimacy—andevery“denial.”
IMPLICATIONS—WHATYOUWILLWANTTOTEACHYOURCOUSELEESABOUTBIBLICALSEXUALITY: