why is it so difficult to forgive?

Why Is It So Difficult to Forgive?

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• Forgiveness is not “I will look down on you and turn the other cheek so that I can be a martyr”


• Forgiveness is not “I will be the judge, jury and executioner, and forgive but never forget”


• Lack of forgiveness eats away at you • Cancer • Blocked arteries • Other ailments


• What is forgiveness?


• We have conflict throughout our lives and on many levels • Work colleagues • Friends • Relatives • Ourselves


• We cannot avoid conflict • We are all actors on the stage

called life • Conflict forces us to learn about

ourselves


• Sometimes the lessons are easy • Clash on a sports field • Forgive your opponent for

hurting you as part of the game


• Other times the lessons are more serious • A friend stabs you in the back • You ignored the warning signals and

your intuition • You chose to let the situation get out of

hand


• Do you say “Now I know that next time I should trust my intuition”?

• Do you say “that person is a so-and-so and I will never forgive him” ?


• While you lie awake and get angry about how you were treated, that person sleeps like a baby and does not care


• The lesson is all about • You • Your experience • Your understanding

• And none about the person you need to forgive


• Why is it so difficult to forgive?


• We get stuck on the thoughts of injustice

• We never move on


• Ask yourself “What am I learning” every time the thought appears.

• Eventually the answer will appear


• When you no longer have “negative” thoughts about the person you need to forgive, the answer appears.


• When you fully understand, the knowledge is embedded in your body cells

• Then you have forgiven and you can move on


• How long does forgiveness take?

• How long is a piece of string?


• Start moving from resentment to forgiveness today

• Ask “What’s in it for me?” • Keep going until you have

forgiven all your enemies


Thank You

why is it so difficult to forgive?

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