who gets grandma’s yellow pie plate?? montguide mt199701hr 1
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Who Gets Grandma’s Yellow Pie Plate??
MontGuide MT199701HR
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Who Gets Grandpa’s Watch?
Transferring Non-titled property
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Everybody has property
• Titled• Non-titled
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Titled Property
•Owner identified on a written document
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Titled Property includes:
• Real Estate• Savings & Checking
Accounts, CDs• Motor Vehicles• Machinery• Stocks & Bonds
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At death, titled property passes by:
•Written Will•Montana Intestate Succession Statutes• Contractual Arrangements
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Contractual ArrangementsJoint Tenancy (jtwros)
• John Doe and Mary Doe as Joint Tenants with Right of Survivorship and not as Tenants in Common
• Survivor Recieves
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Contractual ArrangementsDesignated Beneficiaries
• Life insurance• Annuities • Retirement Plans
(IRAs, KEOGHs, SEPs)
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Contractual ArrangementsPayable on Death (POD)• Accounts at financial
institutions• At death, ownership
passes to POD beneficiaries
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Contractual ArrangementsTransfers on Death (TOD) Accounts
• Stocks• Bonds• Mutual Funds
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SummaryTitled property passes
• Written Will• Montana Law of Intestate
Succession• Contractual
Arrangements
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Non-titled Property Ownership
Owner is not identified with a written document
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Non-titled property:
• Guns• Tools• Furniture• Dishes• Linens & needlework• Collections
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Personal Belongings
• Wedding photographs• Baseball glove• Books• Christmas decorations• Jewelry
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Facing Difficult Issues
•Death•Loss of family members
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Different Perceptions
• What is fair• Depends on what they feel
“entitled” to• Who or what they have done
for parents
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Lack of Communication
• Individuals are not asked–What is important to them–What they think or feel
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Assumptions are made
• Intentions• Goals• Perceptions
that may be inaccurate
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Decision making delayed
• Until crisis occurs • Immediate action
requiredDeathMove into nursing home
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Transfer of non-titled property can create challenges among family
Why??
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Different Meanings
•Personal belongings have different meanings for each individual
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Emotional Value• Sentimental value or meaning
attached to item may be more important than the financial or dollar value
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What is fair?
• Difficult to divide items with sentimental value in a way considered fair to all parties
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Different Perceptions• People have different perceptions
of what is a fair process & what are fair results
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Difficult to Talk
• Talking about one’s possessions may be more personal than talking about other types of financial assets
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Process of Saying Goodbye
•A type of grieving that may not be needed in transfer of titled property
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Issue of Ownership
• No proof of ownership exists
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Who is family???
• Who has a right to make decisions?– Biological– In-laws
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6 Factors to Consider
Transferring Personal Property
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Understand Sensitivity of Issue
Factor 1
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Sentimental Value
• Memories• Emotions• Feelings
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Facing Loss & Transitions• Grieving loss of family member• Selling the home in which they grew
up • Facing increasing dependence of an
elder
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How to Begin
•Ask what ifs:–“Dad, what if you were no
longer able to live here? What would you like to have us do with…..”
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How to Begin
• Natural opportunities• Move to smaller home
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Determine What to Accomplish
Factor 2
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Sort Out Goals• Maintain privacy?• Improve family relationships?• Be fair to all
involved?
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Potential Goals (con’d)
• Keep memories• Contribute to society• Preserve heritage
& history
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Determine what fair means in context of your family
Factor 3
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Perceptions…...
Fair……..is not always equal
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Equal Considers
• Number of items
• Dollar value
• Emotional value
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Equitable Considers
•Distinctive circumstances of family members
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Differences Into Account
• Contributions over years
• Needs (financial, emotional, physical)• Age, birth order, marital
status, gender• Personal interest in item
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Assumptions
• What assumptions do members of your family have about what is fair when transferring non-titled personal property?
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Identify the meaning of objects
Factor 4
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Meanings will Differ
• Age• Marital status• Gender• Birth order
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Special Objects• Serve as props for telling
family stories
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Owners of Non-titled PropertyIdentify Special Objects
• Describe item• Why item is special• Who should receive it• Why
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For Children or Other Potential Receivers of Non-titled Property
• Describe special objects• Item is special to me because….• If someone else received this
item I would feel…..
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Recognize Distribution Options & Consequences
Factor 5
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Montana Uniform Probate Code
Written Will Paragraph
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To: My Family, Devisees, or PR
This is my separate listing of tangible personal property that I referred to in my Last Will and Testament. Please distribute the items below to the persons I have named.
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Separate listing
Itemmy Grandma Ray’s Opal Ring
my niece, Bethany Harpermy Montana Sapphire Ring, my friend, Barbara Johnson
Date Signature
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Verbal or “someday promises”
• Misunderstandings when more than one person feels he/she has been promised same item.
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Caution: Verbal or “someday promises”
• May cause problems when items break, are sold or lost, or are given to another person before “someday” arrives.
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Masking Tape/Labeling
•May fall off, be removed, or become illegible.
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Masking Tape/Labeling
• Is not legally binding
• Must have will & valid list of tangible personal property
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Private Auction
• Potential Consequences
• Wealthier bidders can outbid others
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Public Auction• Potential Consequences• Items go to individuals outside family
• Income to estate or property owner if living
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Family Distribution Methods
• Shake Dice• Draw Numbers• Preference based on
Gender Birth order
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Agree to manage conflicts if they arise
Factor 6
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Sources of Conflict
1. Lack of communication
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Sources of Conflict
2.Unresolved• Family tensions• Personal
Relationship issues
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Tensions• Power & control
among family members
• Envy & jealousy• Greed & selfishness• Inability to compromise
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Listen for Feelings
• Respect & care about family members ideas & thoughts
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Reflective listening
• Listen for feelings • Reflect those
feelings in your own words back to the person speaking
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Minnesota Survey Participant
“You never really know a person until you share an inheritance with them!”
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Remember
• No perfect method of transfer• Each method has consequences • More transfer options are available when
transfers are planned prior to death
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