what is conflict?
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WHAT IS
CONFLICT? From the dictionary:
Friction or opposition resulting from actual or perceived
differences or incompatibilities.
Origin
Late Middle English: from Latin conflict- ‘struck together, fought’,
from the verb confligere, from con- ‘together’ + fligere ‘to strike’; Conflict is drama, and how
people deal with conflict shows
you the kind of people they are
Stephen Moyer
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The sources of conflict
Control over resources
Interdependent work; individual approaches
Differences in goals
Communication problems
Differences in perceptions and values
Work environment
Difference in personality and attitude
Unclear authority structures…. And so onEuropass Teacher Academy - Conflict Management
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WHY
CONFLICT IS
USUALLY
CONSIDERED
A BAD THING
We have a negative attitude toward conflict primarily because we
haven’t learned constructive ways to deal with it–in fact, the
converse is true: we have learned destructive ways of handling
conflict.
As children, as students and as employees (and too often as spouses)
we have experienced losing in a conflict because parents,
teachers and bosses use/d their power to win at our expense.
Even though we know the feelings of resentment, anger, dislike, even
hostility that we experience as a result of losing, the win-lose
posture is deeply ingrained and when we get in positions where we
have power over people, we often choose to win at their expense.
Linda Adams, President of GTI
https://viaconflict.wordpress.com
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WHY
CONFLICT
CAN
ACTUALLY BE
A BENEFIT
1. It raises and address problems
2. Conflict contributes to social change ensuring both
interpersonal and intergroup dynamics remain fresh and
reflective of current interests and realities
3. Conflict serves to “discourage premature group decision
making,” forcing participants in the decision making process
to explore the issues and interests at stake
4. Conflict between groups produces intra-group unity as the
conflict provides the opportunity for increased intra-group
cooperation while working towards the group’s common goal
for the conflict’s outcome
5. Helps find benefits from diversity
https://viaconflict.wordpress.com
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WHEN IN CONFLICT, WE HAVE 5 BASIC
CONFLICT-HANDLING POSITIONS WE CAN
CHOOSE:
1. In Avoiding, neither you nor I satisfy our concerns.
2. In Accommodating, I satisfy your concerns at the
expense of my own.
3. In Competing, I satisfy my concerns at the expense of
yours.
4. In Compromising, we both give up half of our
concerns in order to satisfy the other half.
1. In Collaborating both you and I approach the conflict
as a mutual problem, allowing us to discover
alternatives which satisfy all of our concerns.
The Thomas-Kilmann Conflict
Mode Instrument
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thomas kilmann tool
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SO, WHAT’S YOUR CONFLICT
MANAGEMENT STYLE?
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THE WORLD’S
BIGGEST EYE
CONTACT
EXPERIMENT
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qSLJ3JDIDgY
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AN EASY-TO-REMEMBER 5-STEP PROCESS THAT
CAN APPLY TO CONFLICT:
1. Step away
2. Prepare
3. Focus on the problem, not the person
4. Meet face-to-face and keep eye-contact
5. Seek a WIN/WIN solution
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THE C.A.L.M. MODEL:
C - CLARIFY the issue
A - ADDRESS the problem
L - LISTEN to the other side
M - MANAGE your way to resolution
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Aldo Civico, Phd Anthropologist,
founder of the International Institute for Peace
“I remember the time I went to see a guerrilla leader in a high-security prison in Colombia.
I wanted to explore with him the conditions for cease-fire negotiations between his group
and the government. When we met, he was very guarded, almost aggressive. I could tell he
didn’t trust me at all. I was coming on behalf of an American academic institution, and he
suspected I was affiliated with the CIA. I knew I had to shift his perception, if I wanted to
have the chance for an open conversation about the possibility for ceasefire talks.
To produce that shift, I used an Italian technique. He had a small kitchen in his
cell, and I suggested I teach him how to make a Bolognese pasta and that we
cook together. We did, and we bonded. A few months later, I was one of the
facilitators of ceasefire negotiation between the government and the leader's
guerrilla group”.
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Rapport
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RAPPORT BUILDING IS AT THE ROOT OF EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION
Rapport building might be required within your family, for your spouse or children.
You can avoid conflicts with your spouse or better understand the thought processes of your
child once a good rapport is developed. It is very important in professional life as well, for getting along
with superiors, teammates and subordinates. Rapport building is vital to group meetings, discussions or
decision-making, where a good rapport can avoid conflicts, misunderstandings and arguments.
Lisa Christiansen, PhD.
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HOW TO BUILD RAPPORT TECHNIQUE:
THE MATCHING AND MIRRORING METHOD
-Body postures and gestures
-Rhythm of the breath
-Energy level
-Tone of voice
If you take the lead, find out if the other person will follow.
You can do something different, such as scratching your
ear, shifting into a new position or changing your pitch or
tone of voice. Once a good rapport has been built, the
other person will unconsciously follow you. He will try to
match your action, by shifting position or changing his tone
as well.
When these tests are successful, it indicates that a solid
rapport has been built.
Mirroring and matching are two techniques used to gain rapport at the unconscious level. This is possible by
becoming like the person with whom you need to make a connection. They involve:
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THE 3 DON’TS OF CONFLICT RESOLUTION
Blaming Judging Getting overly Emotional
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CONFLICT SCENARIOS GAMEGet into small groups of 4 or 3
people, consisting in 2 or 3 actors
and 1 observer.
Each group will receive a paper
with a “conflict scenario” and a
Role Play Graphic Organizer.
Act out the scenario and try to
resolve the issue, either with the
C.A. L. M. model, the 5 steps process
or the Rapport technique if possible.
How would you mediate/solve a conflict without
blaming, judging, getting overly emotional?
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SCENARIO 1
T graduated from high school a year ago and lives at
home with his parent, P. T needed a year to figure out
what to do with life. As the year has unfolded, T has
been spending more and more time in front of the
television, going out until all hours, and sleeping in
late. P has not said anything about this behavior,
hoping that eventually T would figure things out. T has
a part-time job (two nights a week at a restaurant,
waiting tables), but does not contribute to the
household expenses. P agreed that T could have a year
to save money before having to contribute. T does
work around the house, but often has to be asked or
reminded. P would like T to start acting more like an
adult, but every time they discuss this topic, they have
an argument. Now the year is coming to a close and P
asked T to sit down and discuss what is going to
happen next. T got upset and said that it was unfair of
P to start charging room and board. Discussions have
stalled, with T becoming more resentful and P feeling
unsure how to handle the whole situation.
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SCENARIO 2You will play the role of three people in an elevator that
suddenly stops.
Each character has a particular attitude:
1. Aggressive: He/She is a compulsive smoker and he/she can’t
spend more time without his/her cigarette;
2. Assertive: He/She hates cigarette smoke and he/she can’t
bear anyone smoking around him/her;
3.Passive: He/She only smokes when he/she is nervous.
Try to solve the situation.
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Who can be in conflict at school?
• Student vs. Student
• Group of students vs. Individual student
• Teacher vs. Student
• Teacher vs. Teacher
• Teachers vs. Administration/Management
• Teachers vs. Families
• Families vs. Families
• Families vs. Administration
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Please provide one or more examples of strategies used in your
classroom to prevent and/or deal with conflict.
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Conflict Resolution as part of a class system
Establish and post steps for conflict resolution in your classroom.
Review them often.
Encourage students to first find a solution on their own before
requesting an adult’s help. An adult might interfere or not fully
understand. “Whoever has the problem has the solution.”
Discuss the possible consequences of different behaviors.
Use role plays for more “advanced” groups.
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How can you help your students?
Some practical ideas
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ACTIVE LISTENING
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A BAD
LISTENER
What’s wrong in this
conversation?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sr1uS8KZbto
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We often take listening for granted, as something easy and natural.
But real genuine listening it is something that needs to be learned and practised every day.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=3&v=saXfavo1OQo
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“We were born with two ears and one mouth so that we can hear twice as much as we speak”
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1. Ask open
questions
2. Summarise
3. Reflect
4. Clarify
5. Give words of
encourageme
nt
6. React
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NOW IT’S YOUR TURN!
1. Think about one problem you are dealing with and get into pair
2. Take turns of 2 minutes to talk about it with your mate
3. When it is your turn to listen, do it practicing the previously
mentioned tips
4. Try to give truly helpful responses!