WELCOME TO THE SMG DEVELOPMENT PROGRAM WEBINAR 2

FIVE STEPS TO SELF-AWARENESS

5 STEPS TO SELF AWARENESS

AREA OF APPLICATION EXAMPLE: CONTROLLING AND PROTECTING

ARROGANCE

AUTOCRATIC

DRIVEN

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WHAT IS MY AREA OF APPLICATION? WHAT CAN I EXPERIMENT WITH AROUND THIS?

Arrogance:• measures your tendency to project a large ego–behaviour that is experienced as

superior, egotistical and self-centred.

Driven:• measures the extent to which you are in overdrive.

Autocratic:• measures your tendency to be forceful, aggressive and controlling.

Using IM, give us your ideas: What could be your ‘area of application’ if you wanted to shift this

perception?

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STEP ONE: MY AREA OF APPLICATION

I would like to come across as more empatheticand collaborative to be able to engage people’s heartsas well as their minds in order to engender true buy-in

vs. just receiving compliance.

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STEP TWO: INITIAL REFLECTION IN COFFEE WITH SELF – ASK MYSELF:

What’s happening right now?• I am being too direct with what I say.• I cut people off.• I solve too soon/jump in too soon.• I make people feel like I don’t care

by not listening, or by being distracted.

• I show frustration and impatience.Using IM, give us your ideas: What actions could you take

if you wanted to shift these behaviours?

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STEP THREE: PLANNING ACTION

What can I do about it?• Paraphrase.• Ask more questions – be curious.• Frame to soften my response.• Use a different physiology.• Reflect back feeling.

Who might be interested in helping?• Let my 2IC know I’m experimenting with this.

What are the constraints around the situation?• Sometimes I need to get other stuff done so I

won’t do this.• Sometimes I don’t like doing it; it doesn’t feel

natural or comfortable.

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STEP FOUR: OBSERVING AND REFLECTING DURING THE WEEK

During interactions, meetings etc.

Reminder prompts during the week:• meeting planning/prep• diary• phone• Post-it® notes • notebook• on your desk• 2IC• during your commute.

Am I remembering to DO my five actions, especially if I feel

frustrated or impatient?

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STARTING SELF-REFLECTION

At first it will probably feel like

“Well, damn, I did it again!”

as you catch yourself after the fact.

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STEP FIVE: COFFEE WITH SELF EACH WEEK

Reflection: Learning journal prompts

Going to the balcony!

1. Conversations, meetings, interactions?

2. Where was I able to use what I set out to experiment with? My five steps?

3. Did it work? Or not?

4. What can I learn from this?

5. How did it feel to do it/work with this area of application?

What can you CSS (Continue, Stop, Start) for the following week around this area of application?

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CONTINUING SELF-REFLECTION

Eventually, through repetition and reflection, you are able to catch yourself in the act:

“Here, I am doing it again!”

As you catch yourself in the moment

BE A FLY ON THE WALL!

But you still may not be able to ‘do’ the new actions all the time, or at all.

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CONTINUING REPETITION & REFLECTION

Catching yourself after the fact and reflecting each week.

“Well, damn, I did it

again!”

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RESULTS IN GREATER SELF-AWARENESS

“Here Iam doing it again.”

Eventually catching yourself in the moment and making a different choice.

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POLL: WHAT MIGHT YOU BE THINKING AND FEELING DURING THIS TRIAL-AND-ERROR PROCESS?

1. I criticise myself for making the same mistake over and over, thinking ‘why can’t I get this?’

2. I give up; I’m too busy to deal with this, I’ll do it later.

3. I am frustrated and annoyed, but do it anyway, observe the emotion and be ok with it – at least sometimes.

4. I congratulate myself on the mistakes, because at least I’m catching myself and trying something new.

5. I feel that mistakes are good: now I can learn; let’s try it again and see what happens!

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BONUS STEP: COFFEE WITH SELF EACH MONTH

LEARNING JOURNAL PROMPTS FOR THE MONTH

GOING TO THE BALCONY ABOVE THE BALCONY!

1. What key insights have I gained so far through the program and the process of reflection and repetition?

2. How do I think of myself differently as a leader in the university community?

3. What strengths have I identified and furthered this month?

What can you CSS (Continue, Stop, Start) for the following month around this area of application?

• What needs to change? What else am I thinking? What other actions should I try?

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BALANCING POSSIBLE + AND – FEELINGS

It takes effort to create new habits!

Area of application for growth:

1.Uncomfortable2.Feels unnatural3.I don’t do it well

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BALANCING POSSIBLE + AND – FEELINGS

Balancing the effort it takes to create new habitswith clear contributions you make through your current strengths.

Area of application for growth:

1.Uncomfortable2.Feels unnatural3.I don’t do it well

Remembering my strengths and contribution:

1.Strengths inventory2.My leadership

journey3.My values 4.Informal feedback

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Focusing on my strengths

1. What are my values? • Realigning my moral compass.

2. Strengths inventory • How they have helped me succeed.

3. Leadership journey • Where have I been, what have I learned?

4. Informal feedback loops• Informally calibrating your self-perception.

The five steps in this webinar are also outlined in the self-awareness section of the OLE

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SUMMARY OF THE FIVE STEPS

Reflect in coffee with self:

Step one: area of application

Step two: initial reflection

Step three: actions for the week

During the week = repetition

Step four: experiment with actions, observe self and reflect.

Reflect in coffee with self:

Step five: what’s working? CSS

Bonus step: each month – balance the scales!

The value that you addthrough your area of

application will be a result of your

reflection and repetition.

Enjoy the experimentation!