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WELCOME. CONFLICT RESOLUTION. Presented by NAIW (International) Written by: Chris Kelly-Storbeck, CPCU, CPIW, DAE Janet M Stambaugh, AIM, CPCU, CPIW. What is Conflict. - PowerPoint PPT PresentationTRANSCRIPT
Presented by NAIW (International)Written by: Chris Kelly-Storbeck, CPCU, CPIW, DAE Janet M Stambaugh, AIM, CPCU, CPIW
Come into collision or
disagreement, be contradictory,
at variance, or in opposition;
clash
Controversy, quarrel: conflicts
between parties
Discord of action, feeling, or
effect; antagonism or opposition
Incompatibility or interference
The Way I See It
The Way You See It
The Way It Is
Disagreement resulting from differences in:
Attitudes
Beliefs or Perceptions
Needs
Values
Power
Feelings and Emotions
Personalities
SpontaneousAdaptiveDefiant
ControllingNurturingReasoning
Attitudes, Beliefs & Perceptions, Needs, Values, Power, Personality Differences
Poor communicationMembers not involved in decision
makingRumor millResources are insufficient
Attitudes, Beliefs & Perceptions, Needs, Values, Power, Personality Differences
Personal chemistry
Leadership problems
Stepping on toes
Power struggle
The Crusade
The Contest
The DisagreementThe Problem
Symptoms: Differences and conflicting
goals exist Feeling of discomfort in each
other’s presence Short lived anger Denial of hostile feelings
Symptoms: Objectives of conflicting parties
tend toward self-protection Elements of shrewdness and
calculation Language shifts from specifics to
general Hostility, negative humor, and
derision are present
Symptoms: Shift from self-protection to winning Objectives become more complexPeople begin to take sides, seeking
victoryOvergeneralization, distortionPersonal attacks are common
Symptoms: Objectives change from winning to
wanting to hurt and/or get rid of others
The issue is more important than the good of the group
Being right and punishment become themes
Language often becomes ideology
<Brain
Identify your “hot buttons”Manage your behavior
Change your expectationsAccept people the way they arePresume a positive intentionAsk for helpDo not react to other’s behaviorTake responsibility for your own
feelings
Take notes with permissionMaintain good eye contactAsk questions – Clarify issuesStay curious
Now why did you do that
That wasn’t very smartYou know better than
thatWhat were you thinkingDon’t be sillyWhy didn’t you
Young people have no respectThey should know betterIt’s just a minor problemIf these people could just talk
right
I am so clumsyI can’t do thatI am just no good at thatI never understand these thingsThis is typical of something I would
do
ImpatienceSarcasm and ComplainingJargonExplaining too muchDiscounting compliments Avoiding responsibility
Avoid responsibility by blaming others for
Your Feelings
Separate people from the problem
Focus on facts not emotionsInvent optionsUse objective criteriaConsider consequences