Goal setting

Why some people become rich and some merely make a living

Is it because of knowledge or because of being busy. Every body is busy and busy

Father and Son wanted to give 500/- why it is so, because one hour I will be with you.

Goal

Gurukul exercise – glass jar and rocks

Goal post is missing how come we play the game of basket ball.

Cater pillars roamed and roamed and died of hunger.

Sunday schedule very very free – but Monday very very busy. For some people the

whole life is a Sunday.

People without goals end up working for people with goals.

We are here as a accident and die as accident

Pan shop fellow – where does the road go – I said, I don,t know, car stopped

Then take any road it would take you there

Lizard, street dog ,

Wg cdr Sharma dog example – what would you do even if you catch one vehicle.

How do you know, you wasted time, because whatever you wanted to achieve, you

could not achieve them.

Goals , difference between activities and accomplishment

Tasks are different.

100 Rs notes fell down on the way from bank.

What is a goal, any thing that forwards my life.

Stretch, sense of direction and purpose, out of reach but not out of sight.

Example of person falling down, daughter eloped.

Morning happens, evening happens but goals do not happen.

Many want to become rich,

To spend you must have

To have you must save

To save you must get

To get you must sweat

To sweat you must work

To work you must plan

To plan you must have a goal.

We all spend so much time to plan for a picnic or a party but not our life – planning a

vacation that planning for life.

We don’t get inside a bus without a number plate, train without the name, and the

aeroplane does have a number. But why people go through life, without knowing

where they are

Would you achieve whatever you dream – yes, but unless you dream how can you

achieve any thing at all.

Dreams –when you give direction, plan and action they become

Goals helps to bridge gap between what you are and what you can be.

Surgeon – engineer order out of chaos, planning engineer

Politician – who created the chaos.

3% people from Harvard university had goals – 20 years later only they became rich.

Bill Clinton – president’ house breakfast meeting, he told John F Kennedy, I want to

become a person like you and the president.

Focus – magnifying glass – discipline – what you are

Arjun eye of the bird

Arise , and awaken stop not, till the goal is reached. Swami Vivekananda

The secret of religion lies not in theories but in practice. To be good and to do the good

– that is the whole of religion.

Fix up your own goals :

5. Many people discover that the main reason for waste of time is lack of important

goals.

Goals reflect our purpose in life and have widespread impact on our lives. If you do not

stand for

something, you will fall for anything.

Goals have the following criteria :

(a) Personal

(b) Practical

(c) Positive

(d) Time bound

(e) Flexible

(f) Measurable

For fixing a worth-while goal, the following list may help you immensely.

GOAL CLUES

(a) New home (o) Increase earnings

(b Home Improvements (p) New position

(c) Lose weight (q) Family activity

(d) Professional skill (r) Become more patient

(e) Long vacation (s) Additional education

(f) Spiritual goals (t) Short vacation

(g) New hobby (u) Increase savings

(h) Closer friends (v) Pay debts off

(j) Co-worker communication (w) Manage something better

(k) Start exercising (x) Stop smoking

(l) Family communication (y) New honour(m) Solve a problem (z) More spontaneity

(n) Play with children (aa) More marital satisfaction

Now do the following four exercises for 2 minutes each

(a) Write down all the goals that you would like to accomplish in the

next 5 years

(Use your imagination)

(b) List all goals you hope to accomplish next year.

(c) List all goals you want to accomplish in the next 6 months.

(d) Write all goals for the next one month.

Now run through all the four lists and give priorities using A,B,C format :

(a) The items you rank as being most essential and desired.

They are your “Must do” things.

(b) The items that could be put off for a while, but still important.

They are “Desirable to do”.

(c) The items that could be put off indefinitely with little or no harm.

They are your “Can wait’s”.

Pick up 2 “A”s from each of your lists to form “A” priority goals. Now that you

have formed current major life goals indicating time against each goal, set aside

time everyday to work on your “A” priority items. Remember that planning today

means a more relaxed tomorrow. An ounce of planning is worth a pound of

work. One hour spent on effective planning saves 3-4 hours in execution. Most

of us suffer from guilt feeling over the way we spend our time in an unproductive

way. Finally the guilt itself may come in the way of productive work. Guard

against the vicious cycle. Allocate your time according to your priorities to help

you keep focused on important goals. Maintain “To-do” lists and “Not to-do” lists e.g. telephone calls, handling the visitors. Learn to say “No” for things on

low priority items or work unfairly heaped on you.

VISUALIZATION

30. Visualization is the process of creating and seeing a mental picture of the

kind of thing you want to have or do, or the kind of person you want to be.

Visualization goes hand in hand with auto-suggestion. Auto-suggestion without

visualization is mechanical repetition and will be ineffective. In order to see

results, auto-suggestion must be accompanied by feelings and emotions

(visualization).

31. The big question is : Is 21 days of conscious effort a heavy price to pay to

change a lifetime for the better ? It all sounds simple but it is not easy. I am not

surprised to see how few people go through this routine.

Why are Goals Important ?

On the best sunny day, the most powerful magnifying glass will not light

paper if you keep moving the glass. But if you focus and hold it, the paper will

light up. That is the power of concentration.

DREAMS

People confuse goals with dreams and wishes. Dreams and wishes are

nothing more than desires. Desires are weak. Desires become strong when

they are supported by

Direction

Dedication

Determination

Discipline

Deadlines

That is what differentiates a desire from a goal. Goals are dreams with a

deadline and an action plan. Goals can be worthy or unworthy. It is passion,

not wishing, that turns dreams into reality.

Steps to turn a dream into reality :

1. Have a definite, clear written goal.

2. Have a plan to accomplish it.

3. Read the first two twice a day.

Why Don’t More People Set Goals ?

There are many reasons, including :

1. A pessimistic attitude – Always seeing the pitfalls rather than the

possibilities.

2. Fear of failure – What if I don’t set goals and if they don’t make it,

then they haven’t failed. But they are failures to begin with.

3. A lack of ambition – This is a result of our value system and lack of

desire to live a fulfilled life. Our limited thinking prevents us from

progress. There was a fisherman who, every time he caught a big

fish, would throw it back into the river, keeping only the smaller

ones. A man watching this unusual behavior asked the fisherman

why he was doing this. The fisherman replied, “Because I have a

small frying pan”. Most people never make it in life because they

are carrying a small frying pan. That is limited thinking.

4. A fear of rejection – If I don’t make it, what will other people say ?

5. Procrastination – “Someday, I will set my goals”. This ties in with a

lack of ambition.

6. Low self-esteem – Because a person is not internally driven and

has no inspiration.

7. Ignorance of the importance of goals – Nobody taught them and

they never learnt the importance of goal-setting.

8. A lack of knowledge about goal-setting – People don’t know the

mechanics of setting goals. They need a step-by-stem guide so

that they can follow a system.

PRACTICAL GOAL SETTING

List all the goals you would like to achieve in your life, no matter how outrageous

they may appear right now. You should consider every area of your development

such as:

Career Goals – positions you would like to achieve; how you would like to

develop within your company. Where you would like to see yourself in two, three

& five years.

1. 6.

2. 7.

3. 8.

4. 9.

5. 10.

Educational Goals – for your further development; courses you would like to

attend; qualifications you would like to attain.

1. 6.

2. 7.

3. 8.

4. 9.

5. 10.

Personal Goals – write down everything you have ever wanted to achieve

(spiritual, physical, financial, material, recreational) the places that you would like

to visit & everything you have always wanted out of life.

1. 6.

2. 7.

3. 8.

4. 9.

5. 10.

Domestic & Family Goals – what you would like to achieve for your family; what

the family would like to do together (improved relationships, going on holidays as

a unit etc), plans for putting children through college.

1. 4.

2. 5.

3. 6.

Social Goals – what are the ways you would like to contribute to the society?

1. 4.

2. 5.

3. 6.

Prioritize the goals

List in order of priority, the 10 goals that you consider to be the most important at

this stage of your life. Action steps required to achieve above goals.

1. 6.

2. 7.

3. 8.

4. 9.

5. 10.

The first step for any successful living is to have specific goals to be

achieved within a stipulated period of time. Goals can be internal and

external. Internal Goals are set to improve one’s Personality and Character.

External Goals relate to achievement of something concrete in life. Achievements

are what you contribute to the Society and Prosperity is what society offers you

for your achievement. Goals must be pin pointed and specific. You must

have burning desire to achieve something great and outstanding in life. A very

great achievement is nothing but a series of small accomplishments

117. After choosing right career in life it is necessary to set Goals synchronizing

with the career chosen.

CELEBRATING LIFECongruity means maintaining balance, harmony & Appropriateness in life

WHEEL OF LIFE EXERCISE

Friend 10

Father 10 10 Son-in-law

Husband 10 10

Boss

Son 10 10

Subordinate

10

Brother

Do this exercise once every three months.

(Shape of the wheel of life improving relations)

RoleHusband

Father

Son

Brother

Son-in-law

Friend

Boss

Subordinate.

MODULE – 7

GOALSList your goals

1 to 5 goals in each area

Family

Career / Financial / Business

Social

Physical

Spiritual / Personal

Mental/knowledge (Job Skills)

Prioritize your list

Family.

Financial / Business

Social

Physical

Spiritual/Personal

Mental

MODULE – 7

GOALS

List your want and needs :

WANTS

NEEDS

1. 1.

2. 2.

3. 3.

4. 4.

5. 5

6. 6

7. 7

8. 8

9. 9

10. 10

MODULE – 7

GOALS

1 YEAR PLAN

Starting Date :

Completion Date :

Week 1 Week 2 Week 3 Week 4 Week 5January

FebruaryMarch

AprilMay

JuneJuly

AugustSeptember

OctoberNovember

December

EXERCISE

One impersonal goal setting activity – Format

Step # 1 My Goal is. (Identify, be specific-measurable, with completion date)

Step # 2 Test

Step # 3 Why is it important

Step #4 Why have I not already achieved this goal. (Winners to do it inspite

of…….)

Step # 5 Action Plan – How can I ?

Three things you could do to add value to your –

Organisation

Family

Society