Understanding Bereavement, Grief and Loss with grief... Understanding Bereavement, Grief and Loss Bereavement is a normal response to the powerful stress of loss. The loss of others through death is a universal experience ...
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Counseling Services- KSU 232 English/Counseling Services Bldg. 785-532-6927 Understanding Bereavement, Grief and Loss Bereavement is a normal response to the powerful stress of loss. The loss of others through death is a universal experience and it can be one of the most distressing events of our lives. Over 80% of college students report the death of at least one loved person in their livesgrandparents, parents, siblings, teachers, and friends. And, each year thousands of college students themselves die because of accidents, illnesses, trauma, and, suicide. In fact, at any one time, over 20% of college undergraduates have lost a loved one within the previous year, and over 35 % within the previous 2 years. Everyone responds to these losses in their own wayno one response is correct or necessary, however, emotional and physical symptoms can seem overwhelming and perhaps even feel frightening. Feelings of Grief can include shock, which protects from the impact of the loss for a while disbelief, because it must be a mistake anger toward oneself for doing/not doing something toward the deceased for dying toward God for allowing this to happen blaming oneself, the deceased, anyone denial, not allowing feelings to surface fear, wondering if it always will hurt so bad sadness, overwhelming feelings of loss, lack of interest in usual things tearfulness anxiety, running and intrusive thoughts, worrying relief that suffering is over for the deceased longing to make everything as it used to be depression, isolation, loneliness numbness, no feelings at all helplessness, in specific or general ways avoidance of pleasurable activities neediness, not wanting to be alone or to have to make decisions irritability, everything is annoying explosive emotions, outbursts of anger or sadness preoccupation with the loss difficulty with even routine decisions startling easily feelings of unreality disinterest in usual activities guilt about feelings relief about continuing to live Physical reactions to Grief can include fatigue digestion problems headaches dizziness shakiness weakness changes in sleep nightmares changes in eating skin problems A grieving person may have strong feelings that follow each other within a short period of time. Sometimes a person will feel several feelings at the same time. All of these feelings are normal and healthy, and they are a part of the healing process. Try not to be surprised or frightened by them. These feelings are an expression of grief and the pain of loss. There is no timetable for bereavement or for its intensity. Some people do not seem to show obvious signs of grief; their post-loss adjustment can be as healthy as those who show more traditional grief. Never assume to know how a bereaved person feels or what they are experiencing in their loss. How bereavement is experienced is not a measure of how much the loss is felt nor is it a measure how much the person was loved and is missed. There is no right way to grieve. Some ways that likely will help during bereavement include eat regularly sleep enough get some exercise keep routines as much as possible avoid big decisions ask for help allow emotions, and allow a break from emotions use spiritual strengths spend time with people continue to plan things for personal growth and enjoyment Offering Support to Others Following a traumatic event, even one that happened far away yet affects us, each of us may experience some variation of a stress reaction. The response to such an overwhelming event is normal; and the response may be mild, moderate, or severe. The form and severity of the reaction varies with each individual. Common symptoms include: difficulty concentrating, anxiety or depression, feelings of numbness, loss of appetite, sleep difficulties, nightmares, or feeling helpless. Generally, these symptoms will abate with time. There are many ways to offer support to someone who has experienced a loss or trauma: 1. Acknowledge the event: a. talk about what happened b. be present to them, spend time with them 2. Offer to listen: a. validate their experience b. allow them to repeat things c. often their questions don't need answers 3. Offer Support, no answers a. ask them how they are doing b. be with them for the long haul 4. Offer specific help a. help around the house b. cook a meal and take it to them c. run an errand 5. Be prepared for some changes due to the event a. new behaviors b. new attitudes c. things you did not expect and could not anticipate 6. Be alert for serious problems a. watch for depression b. talk about what you are observing c. let them know that you care To help with your own reactions, please: Talk with others whom you trust about your reactions; Eat well, exercise, and rest as well as you can; Limit the amount of media coverage you watch if you feel flooded or overwhelmed by the news; Recognize that your reactions are normal and that the symptoms will improve with time. See additional professional support when needed. A small number of people develop a more complicated grief. They seem to lose meaning in their lives and the general business of living. They withdraw from relationships, continue to be preoccupied with the deceased person, and often experience a break in their personal belief systems. They are stuck in their grief. It is important to help these people connect with their pastor, their physician, or a mental health professional. Most people, however, have an adaptable resilience after even great loss. They again engage in their own lives, continuing with the love and memories of the deceased person as an important part of their own history. So, although grief generally is not resolved, it is reconciled and it allows making new memories and having new love. In fact, many people find new meaning in their own lives during bereavement; they reconnect with their own strengths and dreams, often deepening their spiritual foundation and their relationships.
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