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- Tommy Sheppard, M.Ed (counselling)
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- Friendship Parent-child Boss-worker Dating Relationships Boyfriend-girlfriend Boyfriend-boyfriend Girlfriend-girlfriend Sibling Teacher-student Acquaintance Roommate
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- Mutual Respect Trust Honesty Support Fairness/Equality Separate Identities Good Communication
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- Does he or she get how cool you are and why? (Watch out if the answer to the first part is yes but only because you're acting like someone you're not!) The key is that your partner is into you for who you are for your great sense of humor, your love of reality TV, etc. Does your partner listen when you say you're not comfortable doing something and then back off right away? Respect in a relationship means that each person values who the other is and understands and would never challenge the other person's boundaries.
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- You're talking with a person from French class and your partner walks by. Do they completely lose their cool or keep walking because they knows you'd never cheat on them? It's OK to get a little jealous sometimes jealousy is a natural emotion. But how a person reacts when feeling jealous is what matters. There's no way you can have a healthy relationship if you don't trust each other. Trusting Lets you hang out with your friends Understands when you have to change plans Lets you wear what you want Not Trusting Calls you every second of the day and demands information Wont let you change plans or makes you feel guilty Gets jealous when other people are talking to you
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- This one goes hand-in-hand with trust because it's tough to trust someone when one of you isn't being honest. Have you ever caught your partner in a major lie? Like they told you that they had to work on Friday night but it turned out they were at the movies with their friends? The next time they say they have to work, you'll have a lot more trouble believing them and the trust will be on shaky ground.
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- It's not just in bad times that your partner should support you. Some people are great when your whole world is falling apart but can't take being there when things are going right (and vice versa). In a healthy relationship, your significant other is there with a shoulder to cry on when you find out your parents are getting divorced and to celebrate with you when you get the lead in a play.
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- You need to have give-and-take in your relationship, too. Do you take turns choosing which new movie to see? As a couple, do you hang out with your partner's friends as often as you hang out with yours? It's not like you have to keep a running count and make sure things are exactly even, of course. But you'll know if it isn't a pretty fair balance. Things get bad really fast when a relationship turns into a power struggle, with one person fighting to get his or her way all the time.
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- In a healthy relationship, everyone needs to make compromises. But that doesn't mean you should feel like you're losing out on being yourself. When you started going out, you both had your own lives (families, friends, interests, hobbies, etc.) and that shouldn't change. Neither of you should have to pretend to like something you don't, or give up seeing your friends, or drop out of activities you love. And you also should feel free to keep developing new talents or interests, making new friends, and moving forward.
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- We all know how many different meanings the little phrase "no, nothing's wrong" can have, depending on who's saying it! But what's important is to ask if you're not sure what he or she means, and speak honestly and openly so that the miscommunication is avoided in the first place. Never keep a feeling bottled up because you're afraid it's not what your partner wants to hear or because you worry about sounding silly. And if you need some time to think something through before you're ready to talk about it, the right person will give you some space to do that if you ask for it.
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- Healthy relationships maintain a balance between the individuals involved in the relationship.
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- If the relationship is all about ME, then I am focusing on getting my needs met and expect you to make my needs your priority as welland your needs suffer. If the relationship is all about YOU, then I am focusing on getting your needs met at the expense of my own. If the relationship is about US, then we are both focused on the relationship that we lose our individuality. you
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- In a healthy relationship, YOU, ME and US are in balance most of the time. However, sometimes YOU or ME may need more attentionand thats ok. us
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- A relationship is unhealthy when it involves mean, disrespectful, controlling, or abusive behavior. Some people live in homes with parents who fight a lot or abuse each other emotionally, verbally, or physically. For some people who have grown up around this kind of behavior it can almost seem normal or OK. It's not!
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- When a partner uses verbal insults, mean language, nasty putdowns, gets physical by hitting or slapping, or forces someone into sexual activity, it's a sign of verbal, emotional, or physical abuse. Ask yourself, does my partner: get angry when I don't drop everything for him or her? criticize the way I look or dress say I'll never be able to find anyone else who would date me? keep me from seeing friends or from talking to any other guys or girls? want me to quit an activity, even though I love it? ever raise a hand when angry, like he or she is about to hit me? try to force me to go further sexually than I want to?
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- There are lots of different reasons why people break up. Growing apart. You might find that your interests, ideas, values, and feelings aren't as well matched as you thought they were. Changing your mind or your feelings about the other person is another. Perhaps you just don't enjoy being together. Maybe you argue or don't want the same thing. You might have developed feelings for someone else. You've discovered you're just not interested in having a serious relationship right now.
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- Most people go through a break-up (or several break-ups) in their lives. If you've ever been through it, you know it can be painful even if it seems like it's for the best.
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- Some people avoid the unpleasant task of starting a difficult conversation. Others have a "just-get-it- over-with" attitude. But neither of these approaches is the best one. Avoiding just prolongs the situation (and may end up hurting the other person more). And if you rush into a difficult conversation without thinking it through, you may say things you regret. Something in the middle works best: Think things through so you're clear with yourself on why you want to break up. Then act.
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- DOS: Think over what you want and why you want it. Take time to consider your feelings and the reasons for your decision. Be true to yourself. Even if the other person might be hurt by your decision, it's OK to do what's right for you. You just need to do it in a sensitive way. Think about what you'll say and how the other person might react. Will your BF or GF be surprised? Sad? Mad? Hurt? Or even relieved? Thinking about the other person's point of view and feelings can help you be sensitive. It also helps you prepare. Do you think the person you're breaking up with might cry? Lose his or her temper? How will you deal with that kind of reaction? Have good intentions. Let the other person know he or she matters to you. Think about the qualities you want to show toward the other person like honesty, kindness, sensitivity, respect, and caring. Be honest but not brutal. Tell the other person the things that attracted you in the first place, and what you like about him or her. Then say why you want to move on. "Honesty" doesn't mean "harsh." Don't pick apart the other person's qualities as a way to explain what's not working. Think of ways to be kind and gentle while still being honest. Say it in person. You've shared a lot with each other. Respect that (and show your good qualities) by breaking up in person. If you live far away, try to video chat or at least make a phone call. Breaking up through texting or Facebook may seem easy. But think about how you'd feel if your BF or GF did that to you and what your friends would say about that person's character! If it helps, confide in someone you trust. It can help to talk through your feelings with a trusted friend. But be sure the person you confide in can keep it private until you have your actual break-up conversation with your BF or GF. Make sure your BF/GF hears it from you first not from someone else. That's one reason why parents, older sisters or brothers, and other adults can be great to talk to. They're not going to blab or let it slip out accidentally.
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- DON'T: Don't avoid the other person or the conversation you need to have. Dragging things out makes it harder in the long run for you and your partner. Plus, when people put things off, information can leak out anyway. You never want the person you're breaking up with to hear it from someone else before hearing it from you. Don't rush into a difficult conversation without thinking it through. You may say thi
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