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June/July 2014

PROTECT YOURSELF FROM THE SUN

SAGE ADVICE FROM F-M AREA’S OVER-90 CROWD

Fargo-Moorhead’s BIGGEST Family Events Calendar

APPS THAT KEEP KIDS MOVING9

TITLE SPONSOR

Super Heroes• Bank of the West• Bell State Bank & Trust• Cargill Oilseeds

—West Fargo• Famous Dave’s

Bar-B-Que• Floor to Ceiling

Carpet One• FM RedHawks• Gate City Bank• Matrix Properties

Corporation• Mutual of America

• Obermiller Nelson Engineering

• Otter Tail Corporation• ProRehab Physical &

Occupational Therapy• Ramada Plaza & Suites• RD Offutt Co. / RDO

Equipment Co.• Red River Financial• Robert and Laura Spolum• Twin City Garage Door• Valley News Live

Home Run Heroes• 702 Communications• Anda Construction

& Properties• Association for Better

Day Care• Dale Beling• Jenny and Ben Boe• Butler Machinery

Company• Camrud Foss Concrete

Construction• Case New Holland,

Fargo Plant• Cash Wise Foods - Fargo• Bruce and Judy Clark• Courtyard by Marriott of

Fargo-Moorhead• Craig Geron Decorating

Artists• Paul Eidbo• General Equipment

& Supplies, Inc.• Grouser Products, Inc.

• Hanbro Construction, Inc.• Calvin Hornbacher• Doug Lee,

Starion Financial• Loyal Order of Moose-

Minot Moose Family Center 822

• Phillip “Butch” Miller• David and Jenny

Newman• Olaf Anderson

Construction• Caitlin and Tanner

Stoecker• Joy Streed• Superior Insurance

Agency• Robin Swanson• Swanson Health

Products• Victor Lundeen Co.• Würst Bier Hall

Thank you to our Home Run Heroes sponsors who have contributed over $200,000 to The Village Family Service Center since 1999. Through their support they have made this a better community for kids and families. We would also like to thank the FM RedHawks for allowing us to partner on this event. This event couldn’t happen without such a successful hometown team!

If you would like to be included in future sponsorship opportunities, contact Caitlin Stoecker at 701-451-4950 or David Newman at 701-451-4991.

Thanks to all ourHomeRunHeroes2014

1201 25th St. S. Fargo701-451-4900 • 800-627-8220

www.TheVillageFamily.org

When it comes to stroke, every minute counts. The longer the brain is deprived of blood and oxygen the more serious and permanent the damage becomes. The Stroke & Neurovascular Program at Essentia Health offers the most advanced treatments and specialists in the region with an integrated team of board certified experts in Stroke Neurology. That means patients can be treated faster and closer to home. We’re ready to make every minute count so you can make every moment count. Just one more way we’re here with you.

EssentiaHealth.org/ThinkFAST

Every minute counts because every moment counts.

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Happiness is a hot topic right now. Researchers have found links between happiness and improved health—happy people live an average of seven years longer than unhappy people. Pharrell Williams bounces around in his signature hat singing “Happy” and making everyone smile, whether they want to or not. I saw Williams in an interview and he seems to be the happy-go-lucky guy we see in the song. He’s humble, too. He gave accolades to all the music teachers he’d had through the

years—by name. When the interviewer commented that he seemed to be giving credit to everyone else, Williams said, “Well, what am I without them? Just try that for a second. Take all of my band teachers out of this. Where am I? I’m back in Virginia, doing something completely different.”

Have you ever thought about the things that make you truly happy? Certainly it’s different for everyone. Our article, “Pathways to Happiness,” will help you discover the things that make you happy so you can redirect your focus.

Thanks to an article idea from Liz W., who completed our reader response survey last October, we also have an article with advice from the 90-and-over crowd. Writer Megan Bartholomay interviewed people over 90 and shares their opinions on life, friendships, parenting, and marriage. Thank you, Liz, for your spectacular idea.

Ione Swantrom, 91, of Fargo, had these sage words of wisdom for today’s young people: “When parents give you advice, listen to them. Finish school, go to college, never try drugs, take care of your health. Be a positive, honest, forgiving person. Choose good friends. Show love.”

Ione’s advice to parents of young children was just as thoughtful. “Read good books to them, teach them good manners and morals, eat healthy. Discipline them, don’t be afraid to say no, and always love them.”

You’ll find more wonderful advice, like Ione’s, in the article on page 20. Thanks for reading,

YOUR FAMILY z from the editor

Publisher The Village Family Service CenterGary WolskyTammy Noteboom

Editor-in-ChiefKelly Lynch

Graphic Design & LayoutJared Zimney

Advertising Sales ManagerJoy Ryan

Advertising SalesJeff Meyer

Calendar EditorShayna Hendricksen

Copy EditorShayna Hendricksen

The Village Family Service Center Board of DirectorsCarrie Bjorge, David Dougherty, Richard Duysen, Judy Green, Matthew Hallaway, Dr. Richard Hanson, Tammy Hauck, Richard Henderson, Dr. Karen Mellum, Nancy McKenzie, Tom Nelson, Dr. Joy Query, Becky Walen

For advertising, call 701-451-5000

For editorial comments or questions, please call 701-451-4937 or email [email protected]

For subscription information, please call 701-451-4936

Printed by Forum Communications Printing, Fargo, N.D. ©2014 The Village Family Magazine.

All rights reserved. Reproduction in whole or in part without permission is prohibited. The Village Family Magazine is a registered trademark.

The Village Family Magazine does not necessarily endorse content of advertising.

The mission of The Village Family Magazine is to broaden the ability of The Village Family Service Center to improve the quality of people’s lives. In each issue, articles and features will educate and encourage families to develop and maintain positive, constructive relationships.Mail correspondence to:The Village Family Service CenterATTN: Family Magazine1201 25th St. S., Fargo, ND 58103

About the Cover PhotoKennedy (9 mos.)Photography by

Brittney Eischens Photography

June/July 2014 Vol. 18, No. 3

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departmentsz online

6 Nine Apps That Keep Kids MovingSeparating kids from technology gets tougher all the time. Discover trendy apps that make exercise more appealing to your tech-savvy tweens and teens.

z do-it-together

14 A Jam Anyone Can Get IntoLoad up on your favorite berries, gather the kids and a few supplies, and spend a rainy summer afternoon making jam. We show you how.

z generations

20 Senior Moments: Advice From the Over-90 CrowdNearly five centuries of wisdom is packed into this delightful article from five vibrant, local seniors: See what they have to say to us younger folks.

z feature

36 The Heat Is On: Protect Yourself From the SunSunshine, glorious sunshine—it is certainly a welcome sight after our gray, bitterly cold winter. Learn how sunscreen and common sense allow you to enjoy the sun for all it’s worth.

z spiritual

40 Pathways to HappinessIn the pursuit of happiness there are infinite paths to take. Consider these suggestions on ways to bring more happiness to your life.

z consumer

42 Does This Smell Bad To You? How Long Food LastsInstead of sticking your nose into a questionable container of food to determine if it’s edible, follow these handy guidelines.

in every issue

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z events calendar ....24z food & fun ............45z words & wisdom ..46

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YOUR FAMILY z online

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Sixty minutes a day. That’s the minimum amount of physical activity recommended for children, ages 6 to 17, by the Centers for Disease Control. Some kids

meet that goal effortlessly. They can’t wait to walk the dog, belong to a team that practices every afternoon, or nag their parents to go on long hikes and bike rides.

Other kids need a little encouragement to step away from their electronic devices so they can get active. Thankfully, some of that encouragement now comes from the devices themselves. Some very innovative programmers have designed gadgets and apps that promise to make family fitness fun. Which one will be motivating in your household? Look for an app that intersects with things your family cares about. Here are some suggestions.

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JuSt the factS.

Eat-And-Move-O-Matic is a very simple app that answers one question: How many minutes of Activity X will burn the calories in Food Y? This colorful app is easy enough for elementary school kids to understand and use.

Move for Good.

Charity Miles has arranged for up to a million dollars to be donated to good causes—if people use their app to exercise. Simply download the program, choose a charity, tuck your phone in your pocket, and get going. The corporate sponsors kick in a dime for every mile of biking and a quarter for every mile of running. If you exercise together, every phone in the family can donate to a different cause.

tanGible rewardS.

Zamzee is a tiny accelerometer that records motion. When the device, which looks like a flash drive, is clipped onto shoes or slipped into a pocket, your child earns points for any physical activity—sweeping the floor, climbing stairs, jumping rope, dancing, etc. Plug Zamzee into a USB port and kids can see graphic evidence of how active they’ve been. They also earn points that can be donated to charity or used to purchase virtual or real rewards including apps and games.

battinG ballS (or buGS).

Ballstrike and Bugylon turn iPads and Windows 8 tablets into something that resembles a Kinect at a fraction of the price. Just set the tablet upright on a flat surface, step back, and use your body to pop balls (or smash bugs). The app, which has six levels, tracks calories burned and allows your child to share photos of their best moves.

run for Your life.

Zombies, Run! isn’t for little kids, but teens who want to stay fit may find this immersive app very motivating. The user maps the course they plan to run, and then the program devises a story about finding supplies for a community besieged by the undead. Periodically, the app announces that zombies are in the vicinity and their noisy breathing makes most runners pick up the pace. The app includes 33 missions, and players can also incorporate their favorite music.

walk for the world.

The Walk is a better choice for teens (and adults) who don’t care to jog. The game, designed in the UK, starts with the premise that a bomb has exploded in the London underground. The only way to save the world is to carry a package from one end of the British Isles to the other, encountering misadventures along the way. The game is intended to cover three months of walking, long enough for most people to get a good habit established.

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Skye: I think it’s fun because you really get to have fun and dance.Connor: You get to spend a lot of energy.Skye: You get to have a lot of exercise.

Before apps even existed, video game creators started mixing movement into gaming. The technology to track your movement quickly moved from pads on the floor, to controllers you held while playing the game, to cameras in the gaming console. Local youngsters, Connor and Skye, have an Xbox Kinect, and were excited to talk about it.

Kamia: In this app, you select a food and an activity. Then you see how long you would have to do that activity to burn the food’s calories. It’s a good app because it helps people make better food choices.

Brogan: I liked this one. You put your phone in your pocket and then your charity gets a dime for every mile you bike and a quarter for every mile you walk. I chose Special Olympics. It was weird, though. I know I did a mile and it would only say I did 1/10 mile.

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football fanaticS.

NFL Play 60 encourages children to get their 60 minutes of activity by running, turning, and jumping over virtual obstacles. Kids control the character in the game by holding

a phone or tablet that detects their movements. As they progress, they collect hearts from the American Heart Association that make the character invincible, and coins that buy virtual gear from the NFL. Both organizations cooperated to create the game which gives young football fans a fix without risking a concussion.

Good forM for athleteS.

IronKids was developed by the American Academy of Pediatrics to minimize the risk of injuries in young athletes. The 45-minute workout emphasizes the correct way to do exercises that build strength, balance, and endurance, so it’s ideal for teens and pre-teens who want to be in good shape for team tryouts.

peer encouraGeMent— and coMpetition.

Fitocracy makes it very easy to keep track of a fitness routine, especially if it includes repetitive exercises such as weightlifting. Users set goals and earn points by achieving them. More important, Fitocracy taps into the power of social media, making it easy to find other people who enjoy the same kind of workout. Teens can learn from those who are more experienced, exchange encouraging words, and even challenge others to friendly competition.

Of course, sometimes the very best way to get everyone up and moving is to put on the right music. You may already have a playlist of favorites, but if you need some inspiration, check out kidbeatz.com, where you can find family-friendly hip-hop renditions of childhood standards. Buzzle has a list of classic dance tunes suitable for kids (buzzle.com/articles/dance-songs-for-kids.html) and Common Sense Media screens contemporary songs so unexpected lyrics won’t bring your dance party to a screeching halt (commonsensemedia.org/lists/dance-tracks).

Carolyn Jabs, M.A., raised three computer-savvy kids including one with special needs. She has been writing Growing Up Online for 10 years and is working on a book about constructive responses to conflict. Visit www.growing-up-online.com to read other columns.

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YOUR FAMILY z gary’s opinion

By Gary Wolsky, President/CEOThe Village Family Service Center

We recently held a Village Children’s Summit in an effort to review the services we provide to children and families, and to ensure we remain on the cutting-edge of current family treatment methods. We gathered all Village staff who either work directly with families, or provide supervision to those who do, and devoted an entire day to the discussion.

I called the Summit in response to what I’ve been hearing from staff about the changing nature of the issues faced by the children we treat. The number of children with multiple diagnoses has increased dramatically, and the needs of families have changed considerably since I worked directly with them as a counselor. Our profession, like any, is constantly changing, and we are committed to staying nimble and not getting stuck in the way we do things.

I was immensely impressed with the scope of experience represented in the room, the level of licensure, and the stunning and dedicated commitment evidenced by all of those present. As my responsibilities at The Village have evolved, I have moved further away from the world of direct service to children and families. It was wonderful to witness the creativity of this group and to see how we’re currently approaching the children and families we work with throughout North Dakota and Minnesota. I was also gratified

to learn the state of Minnesota considers The Village one of its top providers when it comes to helping troubled families. They have a great deal of confidence in our capabilities and are very grateful for our partnership and our work.

One of our counselors shared a story about a very young child in a child care facility. In her mental health consultation work with the facility, the counselor noticed the baby turned away every time her mother entered the room. Because of her experience, The Village counselor was able to identify the issue and work with the mother to address this behavior. That engagement opened the door for The Village to assist the family with a number of issues.

That is just one of many stories I heard at the Summit. It is vital to share these stories amongst ourselves so we can learn from each other.

In addition to discussing our current efforts, we also identified ways we can adapt our methods as we work to address the needs of young people in our communities. It is our responsibility to stay on the leading edge of treatment modalities, so our clients get the best possible service for which they are paying. It’s the right thing to do to meet their needs, it’s the right thing to do from a business perspective, and it’s the right thing to do from the standpoint of the communities we serve.

The opinions expressed in this column are strictly those of The Village Family Service Center CEO. They do not necessarily reflect the views of the organization, staff, or boards of directors.

Notes from the Children’s Summit

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YOUR FAMILY z m vies

“Hook”PGAvailable on DVD

A work-obsessed married father of two, Peter Banning (Robin Williams) appears to have lost his imagination and sense of wonder, as well as all memory of his true identity: Peter Pan. When the family travels to London to visit “Granny” Wendy (Maggie Smith), Peter’s children, Jack (Fargo native Charlie Korsmo) and Maggie (Amber Scott), are kidnapped by Peter’s old arch enemy, Captain James Hook (Dustin Hoffman). Peter is forced to return to his childhood home, Neverland, where is he reunited with magical Tink (Julia Roberts) and the courageous Lost Boys who are thrilled to have Pan back. With their help, Peter is able to remember his past, regain his adventurous spirit, and once again become Peter Pan. Now he must face Captain Hook in a battle for what Peter rediscovers is truly most important to him—his family.

On DVD

New to Theaters

“Earth to Echo”PGIn Theaters July 2

A group of young friends grab their bikes and take off on a 20-mile adventure into the desert —prompted by their cell phones going berserk and suddenly displaying something that resembles a map. In the dark of night, in the middle of nowhere, they discover a tiny alien that speaks to them through beeps

and whistles—they name him “Echo.” Of course, an alien on American soil is something the government wants to abscond with, so the friends must evade the grown-ups and attempt to get their adorable alien back to outer space. This heartwarming sci-fi flick is sure to be one of summer’s fantastic family adventures. “Earth to Echo” stars Teo Halm, Astro, Reese Hartwig, and Ella Wahlestedt.

“G.I. Joe: Retaliation”PG-13On Netflix Instant Stream

Inspired by the ‘80s cartoon/toy line, this action thriller is the sequel to “G.I. Joe: The Rise of Cobra” which came out in 2009. The G.I. Joes are sent on a mission to Pakistan. After a surprise attack kills their comrades, Roadblock (Dwayne Johnson), Flint (D.J. Cotrona), and Jay (Adrianne Palicki) discover a dastardly plot that reaches to the White House. Apparently, the remaining members of the vile organization, Cobra, are controlling the White House and attempting

to take over the world. The trio must now focus

their energy on saving the world.

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“Ernest & Celestine”PGOn DVD June 10

Celestine, a little mouse who lives underground, is an artist and a dreamer. The other mice are terrified of the huge, lumbering bears who live above them. Celestine gets trapped one day in a trash can in the unfriendly world above and is befriended by a penniless bear named Ernest. The unlikely pair is tormented by their respective communities and hounded by authorities who try to convict them each of befriending the enemy. This delightful, animated story is based on the popular French picture books by Gabrielle Vincent. Voice talent includes Forest Whitaker, Mackenzie Fox, and Lauren Bacall.

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Adults“Missing You”

by Harlan Coben For NYPD detective Kat Donovan, it was déjà vu

and one big punch. The face staring back at her on the dating website was her ex-fiancé, Jeff, the man who left her emotionally sprawling 18 years before. What begins,

however, as an attempt at reconciliation or healing becomes something far more challenging as Kat gains

her first glimpses into a deadly realm where the ruthless feed upon the weak. A very strong Harlan Coben entry

on the heels of the very successful “Six Weeks,” “Missing You” is destined to be a bestseller.

Teenagers“The Here and Now”by Ann Brashares

Prenna James arrived in New York five years ago, but she didn’t come from a different state or even another country; she’s a time traveler. A refugee from a pandemic in Earth’s future, this sweet 17-year-old lives by the rules of her secretive displaced community. According to these dictates, she’s forbidden to have a close relationship with time natives like Ethan Jarves, but being a love-struck young girl, that’s exactly what she does. This is an intense teen dystopian romantic thriller that won’t have to beg for readers. Widely known for penning “Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants,” Brashares has created a fast-paced piece of highly-entertaining science fiction.

Ages 9 to 12“Poached”by Stuart Gibbs

Twelve-year-old Theodore “Teddy” Roosevelt Fitzroy of “Belly Up” fame is back with another cutting-edge case of zoo sleuthing. This time, the victim is not a dead hippo, but a kidnapped koala. Accused of the crime himself, Teddy must sort out the conflicting clues to find the real culprit. This is an entertaining new FunJungle tale to sharpen young minds—and will appeal to both animal lovers and mystery lovers alike.

Ages 4 to 8“How to Babysit a Grandma”

by Jean ReaganJean Reagan and Lee Wildish have

already told us how to babysit a grandpa. Now this writer/illustrator team is back

to instruct kids on the secrets of making every soiree with grandma just as much fun. With cheery digital illustrations and

splendid ideas, the pair makes everyone wish they could spend special time with

their own grandma.

YOUR FAMILY zBook Reviews Courtesy Barnes & Noble, Fargo

Baby & Preschool“A Kissing Hand For Chester Raccoon”by Audrey Penn

During the last 20 years, parents and teachers have passed along the secret of the Kissing Hand to children facing first days of kindergarten, first grade, and other separations. Now younger children can get in on Mama Raccoon’s secret and find comfort in “A Kissing Hand for Chester Raccoon,” a board-book adaptation of the original picture book. This children’s classic conveys the heart of the story in rhyming verse, perfect for read-aloud and easy for even the little ones to remember and recite.

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YOUR FAMILY z mom’s view

By Gwen RockwoodSometimes the best thing you can do for your work is get

away from it. A week’s vacation did the trick; even though I’m up to my neck in laundry and an overflowing email inbox, I’m refreshed and happy to be back at my computer.

I was reminded of a trip we took a few years back that started in sunny Florida and ended with a short cruise to the balmy Bahamas. Before we set sail, we spent one day traipsing through Universal Studios theme parks in Orlando. We planned a strategic route through the parks to make the most of the time we had there. As we walked from the Wizarding World of Harry Potter toward the Jurassic Park rides, we came across a row of carnival games—the kind of sidewalk attractions that lure kids in with stuffed animals and games that seem easy on the surface but are, in fact, nearly impossible.

Our then 9-year-old son, Adam, was immediately drawn to a game with three basketball hoops mounted high above the ground. He asked if he could have five dollars to shoot three balls, and my husband agreed. As soon as Adam took the ball in his hands, I worried that he’d be disappointed when he came up empty-handed. He loves basketball more than oxygen, and missing three shots in front of a crowd of onlookers would be tough on a boy’s ego. The hoop was much higher than his basketball goal at home, and the rim looked smaller.

He launched the first ball into the air with all the strength he had, and we watched it arc up, up, and then swoosh—through the net with ease. Everyone, including the man running the game, stood there in stunned silence for a moment. Then we burst into applause, wondering if it was just a fluke.

Adam’s second shot bounced hard off the rim. Making one shot would earn him a small prize, and making two shots would allow him a choice of any prize in the stand. He took aim once more with the ball and shoved it skyward.

Swoosh! Again it fell through the net, as if it was the easiest game in the world. I glanced around at the other parents who’d stopped to watch and they, too, looked shocked. Like us, they all anticipated defeat because adults know carnival games are typically rigged to work against us and our wallets. But Adam didn’t know that. And I don’t know if he made those two shots because of the countless hours he spends shooting hoops in our driveway or simply because he believed there was no reason why he couldn’t.

Regardless of the reason, he was a winner. The man motioned toward the sea of stuffed prizes behind him and told Adam to choose whichever one he wanted. Adam scanned the choices and pointed toward the biggest one of the bunch—an overstuffed dark green lizard with lime green spots. The man wrangled the lizard down from its perch and handed it to Adam, who beamed with pride as he realized his five-foot lizard trophy was even bigger than he was.

Then we had a new challenge on our hands. How were we going to get through two theme parks with a giant green lizard in tow? And how were we going to get it back home? It was definitely bigger than the plane’s overhead bin.

One of the theme park workers said we could have the giant lizard taken to the park’s front gate so we could pick it up at the end of the day. One problem solved. The second issue was trickier. After our day at the park, we took the gargantuan reptile to a UPS store to have him shipped back to our house, but his size made it an expensive option. Note to fellow parents: It will cost more than 60 dollars to ship a free lizard across three states.

So we lugged Adam’s lizard back to our rental car and decided to take our chances at the airport. On the day we flew home, we schlepped the spotted reptile up to the airline ticket counter and explained our dilemma to the woman checking bags. She assessed the situation, taking note of the proud 9-year-old master of said lizard, and said she’d just check in the lizard along with our luggage—no problem.

We smiled and thanked her and she smiled back in a way that told me she, too, was a parent who understood the giant lizard was more than just a prize. It was a symbol of a boy’s

personal accomplishment. And we would have hitch-hiked all the way home with that lizard on our backs if we’d needed to.

Gwen Rockwood is a syndicated freelance columnist. Send comments to her at [email protected] or write to her in care of this magazine.

The Lizard Who Ate Orlando

Illustration by Trygve Olson

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YOUR FAMILY z dad’s view

By J. Shane MercerMarriage was a big life change. But I think fatherhood

was even bigger. For the first time, I (along with my wife) was totally responsible for every aspect of the well-being of someone who wasn’t me.

I’ve been a dad for almost 10 years now. Fatherhood has changed me, and I’ve learned a lot. For all the new fathers and soon-to-be fathers, here’s a little bit about what to expect and some of the knowledge I’ve gleaned…so far.

Kids don’t care if you’re cool, and you’ll care less, too. You and your 17-year-old friends in that horrible garage band may have signed a blood-sealed pact never to do so, but after you have children, you will purchase a minivan or a station wagon. Yes, you will. The laws of physics dictate it at this point. You simply cannot fit two adults, a car seat, a Pack ’n Play, portable plastic high chairs, diapers, that four-ton diaper bag, three cases of formula, and a side-by-side stroller in your ‘99 Corolla. And, you know what? Here’s the dirty little secret. Probably, at some point along the way, you’ll nestle into that bucket seat and—while you may never say it aloud—think to yourself, “Man, I like this minivan. It rides high, has lots of room, and it’s great for carpooling.” Yes, you will.

Expect your brain not to work as well. Like your aforementioned ‘99 Corolla, your noggin can only hold so much. So the brain will prioritize for you. Remembering to attend that important business meeting will be replaced with making sure a child doesn’t go to school without pants. Given the choice, it’s a relative win.

Your children will be little cavemen and cavewomen. When born, children have basically one way of communicating their needs: screaming at the tops of their lungs. Then, at some point, comes the inevitable fascination with flatulence (and/or belching). At this point in the child’s life, this bodily function and its associated sounds and smells will become a cornerstone of all humor. They will learn ways to mimic flatulation with their armpits, mouths, and any other body part that can trap and then release air in such a manner as to produce a squeaking or fluttering noise.

You may grow stronger in ways that you didn’t realize you were weak. We men are built to protect and defend, and we take great pride in our strength. Many a hernia has been incurred (often following the phrase, “Watch this!”) by men exhibiting that strength…or attempting to. But to be a good father, you have to understand that being strong is about more than brute force. It’s learning to say “no” to yourself, to your own desires. It’s getting up with a sick child so your wife can get some much-needed sleep. It’s giving up the dream of getting your doctorate so there’s enough money for school clothes. It’s reading “The Little Engine That Could” for the 300th time after work instead of falling asleep in your recliner. It’s…well…love.

You will become more familiar with bodily fluids than you could have ever imagined. You will smell and clean up so much poop that you will look forward to nasal mucus.

And, while on the topic of bodily fluids, you will cheer over a successful poop in the potty as enthusiastically as you have ever cheered for your favorite NFL team. And it

won’t be fake. You’ll be genuinely excited. And you will say, “Good job, Timmy” in a high-pitched “Romper Room” voice. It will be unmanly and you will realize how unmanly it sounded and you will feel a little ashamed even though no one else is around. But you’ll still be really excited that Timmy went in the potty, and you’ll call relatives to tell them about it.

You will realize you forgot how awesome Legos are. And you’ll be annoyed by the overly-specific sets with those super-specialized pieces they come with. (Maybe that’s just me. And I actually never forgot.)

You’ll view your father more sympathetically. You’ll understand the weight of stress he carried, and why he was so obsessed with every penny the family spent. You’ll more easily forgive his mistakes as you make your own. You’ll start to understand just how much he did for you, and you

may regret not appreciating it more. And, hopefully, you’ll find a way to tell him so.

J. Shane Mercer is the digital marketing specialist at The Village Family Service Center. He and his wife, Amy, live in Fargo with their three children, Ariana (9), Talia (9), and Will (5).

A Decade of Fatherly Wisdom

Illustration by Trygve Olson

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YOUR FAMILY z do-it-together

By Lara KrupickaArt by 5 Foot 20 Design Lounge

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With the trend in consuming products as close to the source as possible, and the continued rise in food costs, it’s no wonder more people are turning to home canning and preserving. According to Brenda Schmidt, Brand Manager of Fresh Preserving at Jarden Home Brands (manufacturer of the popular Ball and Kerr canning products), sales in the industry grew 40 percent between 2008 and 2011. Making homemade jam may sound daunting, but anyone can do it using basic kitchen skills.

Clare Geinert and her sister, Rachel, both students at NDSU, love making jam every summer with their mom in Nortonville, N.D. “We grow our own strawberries and rhubarb in our garden, and we make several batches of jam over the summer. Getting a jar in a care package from Mom always makes my day,” says Clare.

Try these steps with your family to enjoy your own homemade jam. (These instructions work for blackberries, blueberries, raspberries, and boysenberries. Other fruits and berries may require additional steps.)

Buy or pick your fruitA visit to a pick-your-own farm brings you directly to the

source. It also ensures the freshest produce for canning. Most farms are kid-friendly so everyone can take part in picking. Joy Cox, mom to three young children, says that some of the fun for her comes from watching her kids get excited about picking the fruit because they know it’s for jam.

For those short on time or who live too far from berry farms, a quick trip to a nearby farmer’s market or the local supermarket also works. You’ll need about 2¼ to 4½ pounds of berries per batch of jam.

reserve two to three hoursPlan your jam-making adventure for an uninterrupted block

of time. For more fun, invite some friends to join you. Our family often holds jam-making sessions with friends to share the work and to pass along the skills to others.

set up your work areaClear your kitchen table or counter to make space for your

supplies and for working. Make room on the stove for three pots (one for cooking the jam, one for heating jar lids, and the third for the boiling canner).

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Gather your suppLiesOne of the drawbacks to trying

out home preserving has typically been the expense of investing in supplies. Hot water bath processing (recommended by the USDA) requires a large canning pot with a rack and

accessories, which can cost up to $50. However, Jarden Home Brands offers an inexpensive starter kit, perfect for small canning projects such as this one, that includes a rack and lifter designed to fit a regular stockpot (for under $15).

prepare the fruitRinse berries quickly under cool

water in a colander. Drain briefly. Next, in a large bowl, mash the fruit—a small amount at a time—using a potato masher. Children particularly enjoy this part of the process, so assign them the role of smashing the berries.

prepare coNtaiNersWash jars, rims, and lids in hot,

soapy water. Place lids in small pan with enough water to cover, and heat to simmering (not boiling). Reduce heat to keep warm until ready to use.

To prevent jars from breaking, bring water in your canning pot to a low boil. Turn off heat. Then submerge clean jars for 10 minutes—keeping them in the pot until ready to use.

cook jamTransfer mashed berries to the

saucepot in quantity indicated in pectin instructions. Add pectin. Heat to boiling, then add sugar according to pectin manufacturer’s recommendations. Stir the mixture until dissolved and return to a rolling boil. Cook for one minute, stirring constantly. Be careful to follow times exactly, as the jelling process requires precision. In our house, the kids like counting down the seconds and announcing when time is up.

skim off foamOnce the jam has cooked, remove

from heat, skim foam from surface of cooked jam with metal spoon, and transfer to a separate bowl. Set aside. (Use foam as a fruity topping, a mix-in for cream cheese or whipped cream, or discard.)

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jar the jamPour water out of each heated jar just prior to

using. Then, using the funnel and ladle, scoop jam into jars, leaving a ¼-inch gap between the top of the jar and the jam. Carefully wipe lip of the jar clean, then put on the lid and rim, closing fingertip tight.

process iN hot water BathPlace jars on raised rack in canning pot as soon

as they are filled and capped. When rack is full, slowly lower rack with jars into heated water, until jars are submerged. Return to boiling and boil for 15 minutes. Turn off heat. Carefully remove jars from pot using jar lifter and set on wood cutting board, trivets, or thick towel to cool.

ceLeBrateWhile you clean up, listen for the sound of jar lids

popping as the seals set. Cheer with each pop. You did it! As Cox says, “Knowing that I’m providing something for my family that they thoroughly enjoy brings me a feeling of great accomplishment.” Your jam is made. Spread it on bread. Enjoy!

Freelance writer, Lara Krupicka, enjoys making jam every summer with her daughters after they go blueberry picking.

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Q: I’ve noticed that my son and his girlfriend are becoming very close. I’m worried that he’s losing interest in his friends, school, and other activities. What should I say to him?

A:It’s normal for parents to worry about the decisions that their teens are making, especially when these

decisions could impact their health and future. Keep in mind that discussions about relationships and sexuality can be uncomfortable at first, but they get easier over time. Start the dialogue by asking where he met her, what they have in common, what they enjoy doing together, etc. Be sure to listen attentively when he responds. Although your teenager is not an adult, he’s also not a child anymore. He has developed some of his own attitudes and beliefs. Try to acknowledge and understand his feelings while also expressing your expectations for him.

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Q: If they sell it in the grocery store, it must be safe, right?

A: Well, not necessarily, and especially not for people in recovery. Many medications purchased “over the

counter (OTC)” can be dangerous for people in recovery. So what can you do?

1. Partner with your health care provider. Tell them you are in recovery so they can make recommendations and write prescriptions that protect you.

2. Be curious! Read the labels and always choose alcohol-free products. Ask the pharmacist for help.

3. If you have to be on a narcotic pain reliever, use it exactly as prescribed. Enlist someone you trust to “manage the meds,” and switch to something non-habit forming as soon as possible.

Contact First Step Recovery for more information or to learn more about our adult substance abuse treatment services.

Q: What can my school-age child do to stay busy this summer?

A: Stay active and on the go by participating in Camp Grace.

Most daycares don’t have openings for school-age children during the summer, so what are parents to do? Can an 11- to 12-year-old be home without supervision? These are big decisions facing area families. Much depends on the maturity and independence of the pre-teen. There are a few area programs intended to keep children active in the summer.

Grace Lutheran School offers the community a summer day camp program for children ages 4-12. Camp Grace offers crafts, field trips, swimming days, a summer reading program, breakfast, lunch, and much more to keep your child active and outside as much as possible. The program is limited to 40 campers, so call now to register your child to ensure they have an awesome summer and you have peace of mind while at work.

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Q: Now that I am doing well in Chemical Dependency Treatment and committed to change, why doesn’t my family trust me?

A:Often the addicted person makes promises to quit and change behavior but doesn’t follow through and

families are painfully disappointed many times. Although they continue to be hopeful; they often remain cautious to avoid disappointment and hurt again. It will take time, continued abstinence and behavior change to assure them that you are on the path to recovery.

ShareHouse offers a free Family Education Program to support them as you make your journey into recovery. It meets every Monday evening from 5:30-8:30 at our outpatient facility. ShareHouse has online resources at www.ShareHouse.org. Click on the “Ask A Counselor” link or you can call ShareHouse at 701-282-6561.

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Q:I’m worried about my kids and drugs and alcohol in the summer. What should I do?

A: Summer is a great time to be a kid! However, parents should watch for the following signs of alcohol or drug

use/abuse:• Decreased performance in chores or activities • Change in relationships like a bad crowd, lying, isolating • Mood changes like irritability, angry outbursts • Missing items such as money or alcohol • Rule violations like missing curfew • Health issues like tired all the time or sick more often• Unusual items like eye drops, holes in pop cans, ripped

pages from Bible, foilAdolescence is a time for kids to learn who they are as well

as change. If you feel something is not right, get information. Concerns? Call Lost and Found at 218-287-2089. Or visit with a staff member at a free “Tuesday Table Talk” every first and third Tuesday evening, 6:30-8:00 pm this summer.

Q: My mom was recently diagnosed with cancer. She lives in a nursing home, but has been in and out of the hospital. I’ve wondered about hospice care, but Mom’s doctor and the nursing home staff never mention it. When is the right time to contact Hospice?

A: Patients and family members should learn about hospice at the time of diagnosis. Even if you plan

to pursue curative treatment, it is important to have an honest discussion about all of the options, including end-of-life wishes. Hospice is not just for the last days of life. Rather, it is intended for those with a prognosis of six months or less and offers medical, emotional and spiritual care and grief support for family members—all in the comfort of your home, eliminating hospital stays and ER visits. Our trained experts, including physicians, nurses, CNAs, social workers, chaplains and grief specialists, focus on comfort and quality of life. Anyone can call us to learn more, at any time.

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A video clip of two 100-year-old best friends, Alice Jensen and Irene Cook, recently bombarded the Internet (youtube.com/watch?v=73ZzBcjVcrk).

They’ve known each other for 94 years, can finish each other’s sentences like pros, and are pretty savvy for being centenarians (meaning they are over 100 years old). They know what “selfies” are, and one of them knows who Justin Bieber is (she mistakenly and hilariously calls him Justin Beaver). They also know the secret to lifelong happiness and friendship. And you’d have to in order to tolerate someone for that long!

The viral video made me wonder what nuggets of wisdom nearly century-old seniors from our region might share. So I tracked a few of them down to find out the secret to a healthy, happy, and long life. And

although most of them didn’t care about Justin Bieber, the new iPhone operating system, or give a hoot what a selfie was, they had some pretty interesting and uplifting advice for the rest of us.

Meet 91-year-old Clarice Skjonsby, affectionately known as Nana to almost everyone including her seven children, 16 grandchildren, eight great-grandchildren, and three great-great-grandchildren. Having outlived most of her 15 siblings, Clarice is as whip smart as they come. She reads, plays Scrabble, writes poetry, loves to watch the Twins, and has recently become a Bison football fan. When I asked her what a selfie was, Clarice thought for a moment and then cautiously replied, “Well, I suppose it’s a self-centered person.” Hmmmm, she may be on to something there.

“I think things were much easier in my day,” Clarice says. “People are too unsettled because they have too many things to think about.” And while time marches on and we make our way through 2014, Clarice points out the silver lining. “At the end of the day, people are people. If you’re a good friend, a good sister or brother or mother or father, and you get along with your fellow man, you’re doing the best that you can. That’s all anyone can ask for.”

Those who know Clarice describe her as virtuous, strong, independent, and kindhearted—definitely a woman with values. She credits much of her beliefs about life and

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happiness to her rural North Dakota upbringing and close-knit family. “I’ve always thought family was the most important thing. Family comes first.” And although many of her siblings have passed, she recollects memories of closeness and a yearly must-attend family reunion. “We always supported each other and had a strong bond that was really driven by my mother.”

Gordon “Bob” Boyer, a 93-year-old, matter-of-fact man credits his life accomplishments to education. In a simple mantra, Bob’s advice for life is, “Stay in school. Read lots of books.”

Bob says growing up on a farm didn’t necessarily pave the way for an education. “I had lots of wild adventures out in the country. I used to hunt fox.” He says he and his friends would take his black bay horse, Dick, out with the hounds and hunt fox. He recalls fondly, “There was one time I caught a fox with my gloved hands!” But in the back of his mind, he always planned to go to college. And he did just that.

Majoring in economics and counseling at NDSU, Bob went on to work with delinquent youths at a state-run detention facility. “It was hard work and not a lot of money, but very rewarding.” He doesn’t know if he would do it again and advises kids to do something they are really passionate about, but that also pays the bills. “I lost my dad when I was 10, so I thought I would be able to help other kids.”

Bob was married for many years, until his wife died from Alzheimer’s-related complications. When asked his advice on marriage, he smiles. “Well, people can be friends and get married, but to maintain a relationship is tricky business. Make sure you pick the right partner.”

Loal Tufte, a former school teacher, celebrated her 101st birthday earlier this year and is one of the most spry and talkative seniors around. Her warm smile is infectious, and she has stories about her love of farm life and animals—and she talks until the cows come home. “I just loved growing up with animals,”

Loal says. She specifically remembers being around a plethora of cats in her youth and beams when she recalls crumbling up hamburger to feed to the ravenous beasts.

When asked what advice she would give the younger generation, she stresses the importance of keeping family nearby and respecting parental wishes. “You should enjoy your

life; it’s too short to be unhappy,” Loal laughs and claps her hands gleefully, “but you should listen to your parents and do what they tell you. They know better!” A mother of three children and married for nearly 50 years before her husband passed away, Loal clearly has no regrets about her life. Maybe that’s the secret to making it to 101.

The very unique and proper Ms. Elinor Meyer, age 92, never married or had children, unusual for women of her generation. Stating she never seemed to find the right person, Elinor’s cautious decorum can be summed up in two words that have taken her to her ninth decade: “Think twice!” she says with a broad smile and bright eyes, shaking her finger. “Think twice! The world is very different today and it’s easy to go wrong, so before you make any decision, you’ve really got to think it over.”

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Gordon “Bob” Boyer, 93

Loal Tufte, 101

Elinor Meyer, 92

A government secretary for over 50 years, Elinor says she relied heavily on her eight brothers and sisters for companionship and tells of her childhood living on a dairy farm where she was taught manners and propriety. She urges young people to always be good neighbors and keep smiling. “No one likes a sourpuss. Why not be jolly instead?” Wouldn’t life be better if we just smiled more?

Sweet, smart, and sharp-witted describe Gladys Pranke. At 91 years old, Gladys still quotes her mother when she talks about ways to live a happy and fulfilling life. “Pay attention to what your mother told you. She’s not just making noise; she’s wise and you will thank her one day.”

While she has much to be thankful for, Gladys has seen her share of heartache. She outlived two husbands and recently lost her long-time boyfriend. Gladys said that despite losing love three times, she’d rather have loved and lost than never experienced love at all.

Gladys credits her joyful disposition to her religious upbringing. “I think religion helps play a key role in being a good person,” says Gladys, whose mother read Bible stories

to her and her siblings every night. “My mother always said, ‘If you can’t say something nice, keep your mouth shut.’” And then she jokes, “So, I didn’t have a lot to say sometimes.”

Her advice to parents after having three kids of her own: “I think, especially now, parents need to pay more attention to their kids. In my day, there weren’t so many options; now everything is big. And they’re only so little for so long. Enjoy that time, mothers and dads.”

A hundred years is a long time. And at the thought of turning nearly a century old, it would seem that older folks might have grown tired of the ins and outs of daily life, maybe even given up on life. But these five seniors—who collectively have nearly 500 years of memories, stories, and advice—laugh and smile and talk as if it were a brief moment in time.

Think about it and learn from their advice, because in the blink of an eye, you might be 100, too.

A North Dakota native, Megan Bartholomay is a freelance writer and editor with an addiction to grammar, cats, wine, and good food. She lives in downtown Fargo with her husband, Mike, and their bevy of fuzzy babies.

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Gladys Pranke, 91

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Griffin Thompson is an active little man. At 11 months old, he is a crawling machine, and it won’t be too long before he masters the art of walking. But looking at the rambunctious toddler, you would never guess what he has gone through to reach his first birthday.

Griffin’s mom had a bit of a rough end to her pregnancy. Nicole had to spend 68 days on bed rest at the hospital, but Griffin was born happy and healthy. However, a few months later, Nicole noticed that something wasn’t quite right with her 7-month-old son.

“He was coming down with a fever,” remembers Nicole. “I thought he was just getting a little sick, but then he started throwing up and we took him in.”

A RARE STRAINGriffin had contracted meningitis

due to a very rare strain of bacteria called Haemophilus influenzae.

“He had Haemophilus influenzae type F,” recalls Clifford Mauriello, MD, pediatric infectious disease physician at Sanford Fargo. “He had received his Haemophilus influenzae vaccinations, but they were for Type B. Type F is so rare that it isn’t included in the vaccine.”

Griffin became very sick. His antibody count was extremely low, and he was given medicine intravenously to get his numbers up. He was also on a very strong antibiotic to combat his illness. But soon Griffin developed another problem.

“He began to develop large collections of fluid around the brain, which caused him to have seizures,” states Mauriello. “He also lost the use of his right arm for a period of time due to the fluid gathering around his brain.”

TOGETHER AS A TEAMGriffin had to stay in the hospital for

30 days while he received treatment, and his parents were right by his side the entire time.

“It was so scary,” remembers Griffin’s dad, David. “We just couldn’t believe that this was happening, that we could maybe lose him.”

The fluid around Griffin’s brain was drained, which helped his condition, but he had to be closely monitored by the team at Sanford.

“This really is an excellent team,” says David. “They were always on the same page as to how to care best for Griffin. Dr. Mauriello was especially amazing. He spent so much time just sitting with us, even when we didn’t have an appointment with him, to give us support and encouragement.”

“We can never thank them enough for the care they gave our son,” says Nicole. “They are really some of the best people.”

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right side and has been seizure-free since February. He is making great strides in his development and is doing wonderfully considering what he has had to go through at such a young age.

“We are just so thankful that we could come to Sanford,” says Nicole. “The fact that we had people like Dr. Mauriello so close to where we live was incredibly important. We were able to stay with our son throughout this ordeal and that made such a difference for us.”

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JUNE 2014 EVENTS6.1 Sunday• FM RedHawks vs. Sioux City Explorers. 1 p.m., Newman

Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com

6.2 Monday• Lil’ Fishermen’s Derby. 5-7:30 p.m., Dike East, 100 2nd St. S.,

Fargo, 701-499-6060 or www.fargoparks.com

6.3 Tuesday• FirstChoice Clinic Golf Fore Life Golf Marathon. Call Mona

Franck at 701-237-5902 or visit www.teamfirstchoiceclinic.com• Community Block Party. 5:30-8 p.m., Jefferson School Park,

1622 3rd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com• 4 Luv of Dog Rescue Meet the Dogs. Visit dogs available for

adoption. 6-8 p.m., PetSmart, 1630 13th Ave. E., West Fargo, www.4luvofdog.org

• Adopt-A-Pet Adoption Days. Meet animals available for adoption. 6-8 p.m., Petco, 1126 43rd St. S.W., Fargo, www.adoptapetfm.org

• “Suds.” Musical presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/strawhat

6.4 Wednesday• Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St.

S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com• Happy Harry’s Ribfest. 11 a.m.-11 p.m., Fargodome, 1800 N.

University Dr., Fargo, 701-241-9100 or www.happyharrysribfest.com

• Wine & Beer on the Red. All proceeds support youth programs and educational concerts of the FM Symphony Orchestra. Must be 21+ to attend. 5:30-9 p.m., Ramada Plaza Suites, 1635 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-478-3676 or www.tickets.fmsymphony.org

• “Suds.” Musical presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/strawhat

6.5 Thursday• Community Play Day. 9-11 a.m. & 1-3 p.m., Rheault Farm,

2902 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com• Happy Harry’s Ribfest. 11 a.m.-11 p.m., Fargodome, 1800 N.

University Dr., Fargo, 701-241-9100 or www.happyharrysribfest.com

• Park It. 1-4 p.m., Elephant Park, 100 19th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com

• “Suds.” Musical presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/strawhat

6.6 Friday• Happy Harry’s Ribfest. 11 a.m.-11 p.m., Fargodome, 1800 N.

University Dr., Fargo, 701-241-9100 or www.happyharrysribfest.com

• FM RedHawks vs. Winnipeg Goldeyes. Fireworks game. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com

• “Suds.” Musical presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/strawhat

6.7 Saturday• Buffalo River 5K/10K Trail Run. 8 a.m., visit

www.mnstate.edu/trailrun for details and to register• Share a Story Family Literacy Event. 10:30 a.m.-4 p.m.,

Rheault Farm, 2902 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com

• Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com

• Family, Friends & Neighbors Day Picnic. Picnic lunch, music with the Rockin’ 60s Band, apartment tours. Open to the public. 11 a.m.-1 p.m., Edgewood Vista, 4420 37th Ave. S., Fargo, 701-365-8200

• Happy Harry’s Ribfest. 11 a.m.-11 p.m., Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-241-9100 or www.happyharrysribfest.com

• FM RedHawks vs. Winnipeg Goldeyes. 6 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com

6.8 Sunday• FM RedHawks vs. Winnipeg Goldeyes. 1 p.m., Newman

Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com

To include your event in our family-friendly calendar, email [email protected]. Deadline for the August/September calendar is July 3, 2014.

Although we strive to be as accurate as possible, please call ahead to verify information, registration requirements, or event fees. Due to limited space, we are unable to include all submissions.

Calendar of Events

7.29 FM Humane Society PAWS Walk: Stride for Strays

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• Classical Music Festival. 1-6 p.m., Rheault Farm, 2902 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com

• Bluestem Summer Concert Series: The Beach Boys. 7 p.m., Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S.W., Moorhead, 218-477-6500 or www.trollwood.org

6.9 Monday• Trout Fest. 5:30-7:45 p.m., Woodhaven Pond, 4406 44th Ave. S., Fargo, 701-499-6060 or www.fargoparks.com

• Fargo Rock Concert. 7-9 p.m., Dike West, 310 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com

6.10 Tuesday• Community Block Party. 5:30-8 p.m., Trollwood Park, 3664 Elm

St. N., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com• RiverArts. Carriage rides, craft vendors, concert. 5:30-8 p.m.,

Memorial Park, 210 8th St. N., Moorhead, 218-299-5340 or www.moorheadparks.com (See ad pg. 26)

• FM RedHawks vs. Lincoln Saltdogs. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com

• “Doubt.” Drama presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/strawhat

6.11 Wednesday• Golf for Kids’ Sake. Call 701-237-3367 or email bmitzel@

fmrealestate.com for more information (See ad on this page)• Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St.

S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com• FM RedHawks vs. Lincoln Saltdogs. 7:02 p.m., Newman

Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com

• “Doubt.” Drama presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/strawhat

6.12 Thursday• Park It. 1-4 p.m., Clara Barton Park, 1451 6th St. S., Fargo,

701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com• Wild Rumpus Carnival. Games, face painting, concessions. 5:30-8:30 p.m., A Child’s World, 3100 12th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-298-8047

• Music Montage. 6-8 p.m., Great Northern Park, 425 N. Broadway, Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com

• FM RedHawks vs. Lincoln Saltdogs. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com

• “Doubt.” Drama presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/strawhat

6.13 Friday• Teddy Bear Parade. 10:30 a.m., Dike West parking lot, 310 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com

• Midwest Kid Fest. Educational booths, carnival games, entertainment. 11 a.m.-7 p.m., Island Park, 302 7th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com

• “Doubt.” Drama presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/strawhat

6.14 Saturday• American Diabetes Association Tour de Cure Bike Ride.

15-Mile Family Fun Ride, 35-Mile, 75-Mile, and 100-Mile Century

Ride. Trollwood Park, 3664 Elm St. N., Fargo, 701-234-0123 ext. 6680, [email protected], or www.diabetes.org/tournorthdakota

• Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com

6.15 Sunday• Father’s Day at the Zoo. Dads receive free admission.

10 a.m.-7 p.m., Red River Zoo, 4255 23rd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-277-9240 or www.redriverzoo.org

• Fantastic Father’s Day. Free admission for dads. 1-5 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 or www.childrensmuseum-yunker.org

6.17 Tuesday• Community Block Party. 5:30-8 p.m., Village West Park, 4415

9th Ave. Circle S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com• 4 Luv of Dog Rescue Meet the Dogs. Visit dogs available for

adoption. 6-8 p.m., PetSmart, 1630 13th Ave. E., West Fargo, www.4luvofdog.org

• Adopt-A-Pet Adoption Days. Meet animals available for adoption. 6-8 p.m., Petco, 1126 43rd St. S.W., Fargo, www.adoptapetfm.org

• FM RedHawks vs. Rockland Boulders. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com

• “Funny Girl.” Musical presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Hansen Theatre, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/strawhat

6.18 Wednesday• Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St.

S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com

Coldwell Banker Commercial First Realty presents

The Sixth AnnualGOLF FOR KIDS’ SAKE

benefiting Big Brothers Big Sisters of The Village Family Service Center

DATE: Tuesday, June 11, 2013 LOCATION: The Meadows Golf Course Moorhead, Minnesota

10:00 a.m. Registration begins NOON Shotgun Start, Scramble Format

5:00 p.m. Dinner & Prizes

For more information, call 701.237.3369 or email [email protected]

The Seventh Annual

Wednesday, June 11, 2014

Coldwell Banker Commercial First Realty presents

The Sixth AnnualGOLF FOR KIDS’ SAKE

benefiting Big Brothers Big Sisters of The Village Family Service Center

DATE: Tuesday, June 11, 2013 LOCATION: The Meadows Golf Course Moorhead, Minnesota

10:00 a.m. Registration begins NOON Shotgun Start, Scramble Format

5:00 p.m. Dinner & Prizes

For more information, call 701.237.3369 or email [email protected]

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• Wild West Jamboree. Petting zoo, roping demos, music by Silverado. 5:30-7:30 p.m., Rendezvous Park, 1055 32nd Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org

• FM RedHawks vs. Rockland Boulders. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com

• “Funny Girl.” Musical presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Hansen Theatre, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/strawhat

6.19 Thursday• FM RedHawks vs. Rockland Boulders. 12:30 p.m., Newman

Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com

• Park It. 1-4 p.m., Roosevelt Park, 1220 9th St. N., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com

• Up With Downs Annual Meeting & Family Picnic. All families with a connection to Down syndrome welcome. 5-7 p.m., Rheault Farm, 2902 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-446-8056

• “Funny Girl.” Musical presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Hansen Theatre, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/strawhat

6.20 Friday• “Les Miserables.” Presented by Rural Cass Community Theatre. 7 p.m., Central Cass High School, 802 5th St. N., Casselton, 701-491-8096 or [email protected]

• “Funny Girl.” Musical presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Hansen Theatre, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/strawhat

6.21 Saturday• Doctor Doolittle Day. Learn about veterinary care at the zoo.

Children with a stuffed animal get in free. 10 a.m.-7 p.m., 4255 23rd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-277-9240 or www.redriverzoo.org

• Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com

• Skateboarding Day. 4 p.m., Dike West Skate Park, 310 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com

• “Les Miserables.” Presented by Rural Cass Community Theatre. 7 p.m., Central Cass High School, 802 5th St. N., Casselton, 701-491-8096 or [email protected]

• Bluestem Summer Concert Series: The Fray. 7 p.m., Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S.W., Moorhead, 218-477-6500 or www.trollwood.org

6.22 Sunday• Roger Maris Celebrity Golf Tournament. Visit

www.rogermarisgolf.com for more information• “Les Miserables.” Presented by Rural Cass Community Theatre. 2 p.m., Central Cass High School, 802 5th St. N., Casselton, 701-491-8096 or [email protected]

6.23 Monday• Roger Maris Celebrity Golf Tournament. Visit

www.rogermarisgolf.com for more information• Pepsi Appreciation Day. All day, Davies Rec Pool, 7150 25th

St. S., Fargo, 701-499-6060 or www.fargoparks.com• FM RedHawks vs. St. Paul Saints. 7:02 p.m., Newman

Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com

6.24 Tuesday• Pepsi Appreciation Day. All day, Southwest Rec Pool, 1840

15th Ave. S., Fargo, 701-499-6060 or www.fargoparks.com• RiverArts. Carriage rides, craft vendors, concert. 5:30-8 p.m.,

Memorial Park, 210 8th St. N., Moorhead, 218-299-5340 or www.moorheadparks.com (See ad on this page)

• FM RedHawks vs. St. Paul Saints. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com

• “Barefoot in the Park.” Romantic comedy presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/strawhat

7.1 Go Hawaiian for Hospice

RiverArtsJune 10 & 24, July 8 & 22, August 12

5:30 - 8:00 pm | Memorial Park

2014

Summer SplashJuly 24 | 2-4 pm | Municipal Pool

Summer Events

Parks and Recrea�on

m o o r h e a d p a r k s . c o m2 1 8 . 2 9 9 . 5 3 4 0

Full detai ls about each of these events can be found in the Parks and

Recreation Program Guide!

Watermelon FestivalJune 26 | 2-4 pm | Gooseberry Park

6.18 Wednesday cont.

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6.25 Wednesday• Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes

& Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com

• “Peter Pan Jr.” Presented by FMCT. 2 p.m. & 7:30 p.m., Moorhead High School, 2300 4th Ave. S., Moorhead, 701-235-6778 or www.fmct.org

• FM RedHawks vs. St. Paul Saints. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com

• “Cinderella KIDS.” Presented by FMCT. 7:30 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-6778 or www.fmct.org

• “Barefoot in the Park.” Romantic comedy presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/strawhat

6.26 Thursday• Pepsi Appreciation Day. All day,

Northside Rec Pool, 801 17th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-499-6060 or www.fargoparks.com

• Hornbacher’s Gobble it Up $5 Lunch for United Way. 11 a.m.-1 p.m., local Hornbacher’s locations, www.unitedwaycassclay.org

• Park It. 1-4 p.m., Bennett Park, 1900 58th Ave. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com

• “Peter Pan Jr.” Presented by FMCT. 2 p.m. & 7:30 p.m., Moorhead High School, 2300 4th Ave. S., Moorhead, 701-235-6778 or www.fmct.org

• Watermelon Festival. 2-4 p.m., Gooseberry Park, 100 22nd Ave. S., Moorhead, 218-299-5340 or www.moorheadparks.com (See ad pg. 26)

• “Les Miserables.” Presented by Rural Cass Community Theatre. 7 p.m., Central Cass High School, 802 5th St. N., Casselton, 701-491-8096 or [email protected]

• FM RedHawks vs. St. Paul Saints. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com

• “Cinderella KIDS.” Presented by FMCT. 7:30 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-6778 or www.fmct.org

• “Barefoot in the Park.” Romantic comedy presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/strawhat

6.27 Friday• Midwest Viking Festival &

Scandinavian Hjemkomst Festival. Celebration of Nordic culture. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., Hjemkomst Center, 202 1st Ave. N., Moorhead, 218-299-5511 or www.hcscconline.org (See ad pg. 32)

• “King Arthur’s Quest.” Presented by Missoula Children’s Theater. 2 p.m. & 4:30 p.m., Liberty Middle School, 801 36th Ave. E., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org

• “Les Miserables.” Presented by Rural Cass Community Theatre. 7 p.m., Central Cass High School, 802 5th St. N., Casselton, 701-491-8096 or [email protected]

• Bluestem Summer Concert Series: Trampled By Turtles. 7 p.m., Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S.W., Moorhead, 218-477-6500 or www.trollwood.org

• “Cinderella KIDS.” Presented by FMCT. 7:30 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-6778 or www.fmct.org

• “Barefoot in the Park.” Romantic comedy presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/strawhat

IT’S OKAY

BOOK YOUR TEE TIME ONLINE

IT’S OKAY

IT’S OKAY

to start golfing today

fargogolf.net

if you haven’t played in awhile

To golf a round for business

19 Golf Course Ave N.18 Holes Par 71

232.2825 232.8156 356.3070 232.1445 235.51009 Holes Par 33 18 Holes Par 719 Holes Par 28 9 Holes Par 32

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IT’S OKAYTo Play Golf on one of Fargo Park District’s

FIVE GOLF COURSES

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6.28 Saturday• Midwest Viking Festival & Scandinavian Hjemkomst

Festival. Celebration of Nordic culture. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., Hjemkomst Center, 202 1st Ave. N., Moorhead, 218-299-5511 or www.hcscconline.org (See ad pg. 32)

• Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com

• “Les Miserables.” Presented by Rural Cass Community Theatre. 2 p.m., Central Cass High School, 802 5th St. N., Casselton, 701-491-8096 or [email protected]

• BMX Jam. 3 p.m., Dike West Skate Park, 310 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com

• “Cinderella KIDS.” Presented by FMCT. 7:30 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-6778 or www.fmct.org

6.29 Sunday• “Cinderella KIDS.” Presented by FMCT. 2 p.m. & 7:30 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-6778 or www.fmct.org

JULY 2014 EVENTS7.1 Tuesday• Tie-dye Tuesday. T-shirts extra or bring your own. 10 a.m.- 4 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 or www.childrensmuseum-yunker.org

• Go Hawaiian for Hospice. Luau lunch open to the community; $5 donation suggested. 11 a.m.-1:30 p.m., Choice Financial, 4501 23rd Ave. S., Fargo, 800-237-4629

• “Once on This Island Jr.” Presented by West Fargo Summer Arts Intensive. 2 p.m. & 7 p.m., West Fargo High School, 801 9th St. E., West Fargo, 701-499-1971 or www.westfargotheatre.com

• 4 Luv of Dog Rescue Meet the Dogs. Visit dogs available for adoption. 6-8 p.m., PetSmart, 1630 13th Ave. E., West Fargo, www.4luvofdog.org

• Adopt-A-Pet Adoption Days. Meet animals available for adoption. 6-8 p.m., Petco, 1126 43rd St. S.W., Fargo, www.adoptapetfm.org

7.2 Wednesday• Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St.

S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com• “Once on This Island Jr.” Presented by West Fargo Summer

Arts Intensive. 2 p.m. & 7 p.m., West Fargo High School, 801 9th St. E., West Fargo, 701-499-1971 or www.westfargotheatre.com

• Trollwood Performing Arts School Sun Celebration. Picnic at 5 p.m., performances at 6 p.m., Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S.W., Moorhead, 218-477-6500 or www.trollwood.org

7.4 Friday• Bonanzaville 4th of July Celebration. Bonanzaville, 1351 W.

Main Ave., West Fargo, 701-282-2822 or www.bonanzaville.com• Happy Birthday, USA. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., The Children’s Museum

at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 or www.childrensmuseum-yunker.org

• FM RedHawks vs. Winnipeg Goldeyes. Fireworks game. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com

7.5 Saturday• Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St.

S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com• FM RedHawks vs. Winnipeg Goldeyes. 6 p.m., Newman

Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com

7.6 Sunday• FM RedHawks vs. Winnipeg Goldeyes. 1 p.m., Newman

Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com

• Bluestem Summer Concert Series: Bonnie Raitt. 7 p.m., Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S.W., Moorhead, 218-477-6500 or www.trollwood.org

7.7 Monday• Pepsi Appreciation Day. All day, Madison Pool, 1040 29th St.

N., Fargo, 701-499-6060 or www.fargoparks.com• Waterama. Noon-3 p.m., Madison Pool, 1040 29th St. N., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com

7.8 Tuesday• Pepsi Appreciation Day. All day, Island Park Pool, 616 1st

Ave. S., Fargo, 701-499-6060 or www.fargoparks.com• Tie-dye Tuesday. T-shirts extra or bring your own. 10 a.m.- 4 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 or www.childrensmuseum-yunker.org

• Red River Valley Fair. 11 a.m., RRV Fairgrounds, 1805 W. Main Ave., West Fargo, 701-282-2200 or www.redrivervalleyfair.com

• Farmers’ Market. 3-7 p.m., Moorhead Center Mall northeast parking lot, 510 Center Ave., Moorhead, 218-299-5340 or www.moorheadparks.com

The Red River Zoo is THE place to hold your next

birthday party!

Carousel rides, zoo Carousel rides, zoo admission, birthday cake,

punch, animal presentation and festive set up

all included!Treat bags and Zooper Meals

also available!

To book your child’s party, call To book your child’s party, call

701-277-9240

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• Community Block Party. 5:30-8 p.m., Centennial Park, 4101 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com

• RiverArts. Carriage rides, craft vendors, concert. 5:30-8 p.m., Memorial Park, 210 8th St. N., Moorhead, 218-299-5340 or www.moorheadparks.com (See ad pg. 26)

• FM RedHawks vs. Gary Southshore Railcats. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com

7.9 Wednesday• Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St.

S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com• Red River Valley Fair. 11 a.m., RRV Fairgrounds, 1805 W.

Main Ave., West Fargo, 701-282-2200 or www.redrivervalleyfair.com

• FM RedHawks vs. Gary Southshore Railcats. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com

7.10 Thursday• Community Play Day. 9-11 a.m. & 1-3 p.m., Rheault Farm,

2902 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com• Red River Valley Fair. 11 a.m., RRV Fairgrounds, 1805 W.

Main Ave., West Fargo, 701-282-2200 or www.redrivervalleyfair.com

• FM RedHawks vs. Gary Southshore Railcats. 12:30 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com

• Big Screen Movie Matinee. Bring a blanket or lawn chair. Bleachers will be available. 1 p.m., Veterans Memorial Arena, 1201 7th Ave. E., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org

• Park It. 1-4 p.m., Village West Park, 4415 9th Ave. Circle S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com

• Farmers’ Market & Beyond. 4-7 p.m., South Elmwood Park parking lot, 500 13th Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org

• Museum to Museum, Garden to Garden Walking Tour. 5-8 p.m., Plains Art Museum, 704 1st Ave. N., Fargo, 701-551-6100 or www.plainsart.org

• Music Montage. 6-8 p.m., Great Northern Park, 425 N. Broadway, Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com

• “Fiddler on the Roof.” Musical presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Hansen Theatre, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/strawhat

7.11 Friday• Red River Valley Fair. 11 a.m., RRV Fairgrounds, 1805 W.

Main Ave., West Fargo, 701-282-2200 or www.redrivervalleyfair.com

• “Fiddler on the Roof.” Musical presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Hansen Theatre, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/strawhat

7.12 Saturday• Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St.

S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com• Red River Valley Fair. 11 a.m., RRV Fairgrounds, 1805 W.

Main Ave., West Fargo, 701-282-2200 or www.redrivervalleyfair.com

• Summer Grind. Registration at 3 p.m., event starts at 3:30 p.m., Dike West, 310 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com

• Paul McCartney Concert. 8 p.m., Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-241-9100 or www.fargodome.com

7.13 Sunday• Red River Valley Fair. 11 a.m., RRV Fairgrounds, 1805 W.

Main Ave., West Fargo, 701-282-2200 or www.redrivervalleyfair.com

• StreetsAlive! Noon-5 p.m., visit www.fmstreetsalive.org for details

6.12 Wild Rumpus Carnival

June 2 – August 9For Kids, Teens and Adults

Stories, Movies, Concerts, Crafts, Events and Fun!

www.FargoLibrary.org(701) 241-1472

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Join ThE SuMMEr rEAding ProgrAM

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7.14 Monday• United Way Cass Clay’s School Supply Drive. Donate

school supplies July 14-Aug. 1. Visit www.unitedwaycassclay.org for details

• Farmers’ Market & Beyond. 4-7 p.m., South Elmwood Park parking lot, 500 13th Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org

• Fargo Rock Concert. 7-9 p.m., Dike West, 310 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com

7.15 Tuesday• Tie-dye Tuesday. T-shirts extra or bring your own. 10 a.m.- 4 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 or www.childrensmuseum-yunker.org

• Farmers’ Market. 3-7 p.m., Moorhead Center Mall northeast parking lot, 510 Center Ave., Moorhead, 218-299-5340 or www.moorheadparks.com

• Hawaiian Beach Blast. Inflatable games, beach volleyball, music by Tim Eggebraaten. 5:30-7:30 p.m., Rendezvous Park, 1055 32nd Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org

• Community Block Party. 5:30-8 p.m., Unicorn Park, 4315 18th Ave. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com

• 4 Luv of Dog Rescue Meet the Dogs. Visit dogs available for adoption. 6-8 p.m., PetSmart, 1630 13th Ave. E., West Fargo, www.4luvofdog.org

• Adopt-A-Pet Adoption Days. Meet animals available for adoption. 6-8 p.m., Petco, 1126 43rd St. S.W., Fargo, www.adoptapetfm.org

• “The Sound of Music.” Presented by Gooseberry Park Players. 7 p.m., Frances Frazier Comstock Theatre, Concordia

College, Moorhead, 218-299-3314 or www.gooseberryparkplayers.org

• “Fiddler on the Roof.” Musical presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Hansen Theatre, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/strawhat

• Joan Baez Concert. 8 p.m., Fargo Theatre, 314 Broadway, Fargo, www.fargotheatre.org

7.16 Wednesday• Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St.

S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com• Soroptimist International of Fargo Annual Garden Tour.

1:30-7:30 p.m., call Rachel at 701-235-1547 or Carol at 701-541-5809

• “The Sound of Music.” Presented by Gooseberry Park Players. 7 p.m., Frances Frazier Comstock Theatre, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-299-3314 or www.gooseberryparkplayers.org

• “Fiddler on the Roof.” Musical presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Hansen Theatre, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/strawhat

• “How to Succeed in Business Without Really Trying.” Presented by Trollwood Performing Arts School. 8:30 p.m., Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S.W., Moorhead, 218-477-6500 or www.trollwood.org

7.17 Thursday• Fargo Street Fair. 10 a.m.-9 p.m., downtown Fargo,

www.downtownfargo.com• Park It. 1-4 p.m., Brunsdale Park, 1702 27th Ave. S., Fargo,

701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com• Soroptimist International of Fargo Annual Garden Tour.

1:30-7:30 p.m., call Rachel at 701-235-1547 or Carol at 701-541-5809

• Farmers’ Market & Beyond. 4-7 p.m., South Elmwood Park parking lot, 500 13th Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org

• Toy Theatre Performances. 5-8 p.m., Plains Art Museum, 704 1st Ave. N., Fargo, 701-551-6100 or www.plainsart.org

• “The Sound of Music.” Presented by Gooseberry Park Players. 7 p.m., Frances Frazier Comstock Theatre, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-299-3314 or www.gooseberryparkplayers.org

• “Fiddler on the Roof.” Musical presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Hansen Theatre, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/strawhat

• “How to Succeed in Business Without Really Trying.” Presented by Trollwood Performing Arts School. 8:30 p.m., Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S.W., Moorhead, 218-477-6500 or www.trollwood.org

7.18 Friday• Fargo Street Fair. 10 a.m.-9 p.m., downtown Fargo,

www.downtownfargo.com• “The Sound of Music.” Presented by Gooseberry Park Players. 7 p.m., Frances Frazier Comstock Theatre, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-299-3314 or www.gooseberryparkplayers.org

• FM RedHawks vs. Sioux Falls Canaries. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com

• “Fiddler on the Roof.” Musical presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Hansen Theatre, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/strawhat

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• “How to Succeed in Business Without Really Trying.” Presented by Trollwood Performing Arts School. 8:30 p.m., Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S.W., Moorhead, 218-477-6500 or www.trollwood.org

7.19 Saturday• USA Wrestling. Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo,

701-241-9100 or www.fargodome.com• Fargo Street Fair. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., downtown Fargo,

www.downtownfargo.com• All About Enrichment Day. Activity booths throughout the

zoo. 10 a.m.-7 p.m., Red River Zoo, 4255 23rd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-277-9240 or www.redriverzoo.org

• Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com

• FM RedHawks vs. Sioux Falls Canaries. 6 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com

• “The Sound of Music.” Presented by Gooseberry Park Players. 7 p.m., Frances Frazier Comstock Theatre, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-299-3314 or www.gooseberryparkplayers.org

• “How to Succeed in Business Without Really Trying.” Presented by Trollwood Performing Arts School. 8:30 p.m., Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S.W., Moorhead, 218-477-6500 or www.trollwood.org

7.20 Sunday• USA Wrestling. Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo,

701-241-9100 or www.fargodome.com• German Folk Festival. 11 a.m.-5 p.m., Rheault Farm, 2902

25th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com• FM RedHawks vs. Sioux Falls Canaries. 1 p.m., Newman

Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com

• “The Sound of Music.” Presented by Gooseberry Park Players. 1 p.m., Frances Frazier Comstock Theatre, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-299-3314 or www.gooseberryparkplayers.org

7.21 Monday• USA Wrestling. Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo,

701-241-9100 or www.fargodome.com• Farmers’ Market & Beyond. 4-7 p.m., South Elmwood Park

parking lot, 500 13th Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org

• Movie Night. Dusk, Island Park, 616 1st Ave. S., Fargo, 701-499-6060 or www.fargoparks.com

7.22 Tuesday• USA Wrestling. Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo,

701-241-9100 or www.fargodome.com• Tie-dye Tuesday. T-shirts extra or bring your own. 10 a.m.- 4 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 or www.childrensmuseum-yunker.org

• Farmers’ Market. 3-7 p.m., Moorhead Center Mall northeast parking lot, 510 Center Ave., Moorhead, 218-299-5340 or www.moorheadparks.com

• Community Quest: Out with the Old, In with the New. Registration required. 5-8 p.m., Plains Art Museum, 704 1st Ave. N., Fargo, 701-551-6100 or www.plainsart.org

• Community Block Party. 5:30-8 p.m., Roosevelt Park, 1220 9th St. N., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com

• RiverArts. Carriage rides, craft vendors, concert. 5:30-8 p.m., Memorial Park, 210 8th St. N., Moorhead, 218-299-5340 or www.moorheadparks.com (See ad pg. 26)

7.23 Wednesday• USA Wrestling. Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo,

701-241-9100 or www.fargodome.com• Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St.

S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com• Concerts in the Park. 7-8:30 p.m., Trollwood Park, 3664 Elm

St. N., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com• “How to Succeed in Business Without Really Trying.” Presented by Trollwood Performing Arts School. 8:30 p.m., Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S.W., Moorhead, 218-477-6500 or www.trollwood.org

7.24 Thursday• USA Wrestling. Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo,

701-241-9100 or www.fargodome.com• Park It. 1-4 p.m., Kennedy Park, 4501 42nd St. S., Fargo,

701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com• Summer Splash. 2-4 p.m., Municipal Pool, 800 19th St. S.,

Moorhead, 219-299-5340 or www.moorheadparks.com (See ad pg. 26)

• Farmers’ Market & Beyond. 4-7 p.m., South Elmwood Park parking lot, 500 13th Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org

• Woven Welcome. 5-8 p.m., Plains Art Museum, 704 1st Ave. N., Fargo, 701-551-6100 or www.plainsart.org

• Summer Splash Dash. A non-timed, water-soaked mile run. 5:30 p.m., www.ymcacassclay.org

• “How to Succeed in Business Without Really Trying.” Presented by Trollwood Performing Arts School. 8:30 p.m., Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S.W., Moorhead, 218-477-6500 or www.trollwood.org

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7.25 Friday• USA Wrestling. Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo,

701-241-9100 or www.fargodome.com• FM RedHawks vs. St. Paul Saints. Fireworks game.

7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com

• “How to Succeed in Business Without Really Trying.” Presented by Trollwood Performing Arts School. 8:30 p.m., Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S.W., Moorhead, 218-477-6500 or www.trollwood.org

7.26 Saturday• USA Wrestling. Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo,

701-241-9100 or www.fargodome.com• Children’s Storytime with Cat in the Hat. 11 a.m., Barnes &

Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com• FM RedHawks vs. St. Paul Saints. 6 p.m., Newman Outdoor

Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com

• “How to Succeed in Business Without Really Trying.” Presented by Trollwood Performing Arts School. 8:30 p.m., Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S.W., Moorhead, 218-477-6500 or www.trollwood.org

7.27 Sunday• FM RedHawks vs. St. Paul Saints. 1 p.m., Newman Outdoor

Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com

7.28 Monday• Waterama. Noon-3:30 p.m., Clara Barton Park, 1451 6th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com

• Farmers’ Market & Beyond. 4-7 p.m., South Elmwood Park parking lot, 500 13th Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org

7.29 Tuesday• Tie-dye Tuesday. T-shirts extra or bring your own. 10 a.m.- 4 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 or www.childrensmuseum-yunker.org

• Farmers’ Market. 3-7 p.m., Moorhead Center Mall northeast parking lot, 510 Center Ave., Moorhead, 218-299-5340 or www.moorheadparks.com

• Scavenger Hunt. Camera is needed. 5:30-8 p.m., Maplewood Activity Center, 1504 17th Ave. E., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org

• Community Block Party. 5:30-8 p.m., Bennett Park, 1900 58th Ave. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com

• FM Humane Society PAWS Walk: Stride for Strays. Registration at 6-7 p.m., walk begins at 7 p.m., Lindenwood Park Main Shelter, 1905 Roger Maris Dr., Fargo, 701-239-0077

• 4 Luv of Dog Rescue Meet the Dogs. Visit dogs available for adoption. 6-8 p.m., PetSmart, 1630 13th Ave. E., West Fargo, www.4luvofdog.org

7.30 Wednesday• Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St.

S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com• Concerts in the Park. 7-8:30 p.m., Island Park, 302 7th St. S.,

Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com

7.31 Thursday• Park It. 1-4 p.m., Jefferson West Park, 1904 4th Ave. S., Fargo,

701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com

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• Farmers’ Market & Beyond. 4-7 p.m., South Elmwood Park parking lot, 500 13th Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org

• “Heaven is for Real LIVE.” 7 p.m., Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-241-9100 or www.fargodome.com

PUBLIC LIBRARIESCall or visit the library for more information. Pre-registration may be required.

Fargo Public Main Library102 3rd St. N., Fargo, 701-241-1472 or www.fargolibrary.org• Summer Reading Program: Fizz,

Boom, Read! Visit the library or website for event schedule (See ad pg. 29)

• Chess Club. All ages and abilities invited. Thursdays, 5:30-8:30 p.m.

• Friday Movie. Fridays (except July 4), 1 p.m.

• Mad Science of Minnesota. A hands-on science experience. June 2, 2 p.m.

• Written in Bone. Grades 3-6. Registration required. June 4, 10 a.m. & 11 a.m.

• Baby Rhyme Time. Lapsit storytime for babies (birth-18 mos). June 5 & 19, July 17, 6:30 p.m.

• A Visit from Red River Zoo. June 9, 11 a.m.

• Blue Plate Special: Storytime for Adults. Bring a bag lunch. June 11 & July 9, 12:15-12:45 p.m.

• Flag Day Concert by the 188th Army Brass Band Quintet. June 14, 2 p.m.

• Vaccine Information Event for Parents. Screening of “Invisible Threat” and Q & A session. June 28, 1 p.m.

• Tornado Tidbits with Rob Kupec. July 1, 11 a.m.

• Thursday Movie. July 3, 1 p.m.• Storytime & Craft. PreK-grade 3.

July 8, 10 a.m.• Worm Day & Worm Races. July 8, 1 p.m.

• Hands-On Chemistry with Dr. Graeme Wyllie. Registration required. July 14, 2 p.m. (grades 1-3) & 4 p.m. (grades 4-6)

• Annual Kids’ & Teen Talent Show. Registration required. July 16, 6:30 p.m.

• Yoga for Tots. Best for ages 2-6. July 22, 11 a.m.

• Zumba for Kids. Best for ages 6+. July 22, 7 p.m.

• Celtic Guitarist Jerry Barlow. July 24, 7 p.m.

• Pop-Up STEM Museum. July 30, 2 p.m.

Dr. James Carlson Library2801 32nd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-476-4040 or www.fargolibrary.org• Summer Reading Program: Fizz,

Boom, Read! Visit the library or website for event schedule (See ad pg. 29)

• Friday Movie. Fridays (except July 4), 1 p.m.

• Mad Science of Minnesota. A hands-on science experience. June 2, 11 a.m.

• Tea Time Book Club. June 2 & July 7, 6:30 p.m.

• Storytime & Science. PreK-grade 2. June 4, 6:30 p.m.

• Baby Rhyme Time. Lapsit storytime for babies (birth-18 mos). June 5 & 19, July 17, 10 a.m.

• Storytime & Craft. PreK-grade 3. June 19, 6:30 p.m.; June 30, 11 a.m.

• Thursday Movie. July 3, 1 p.m.• Hands-On Chemistry with Dr.

Graeme Wyllie. Registration required. July 17, 2 p.m. (grades 1-3) & 4 p.m. (grades 4-6)

• Yoga for Tots. Best for ages 2-6. July 21, 11 a.m.

• Zumba for Kids. Best for ages 6+. July 24, 11 a.m.

Northport Branch2714 N. Broadway, Fargo, 701-476-4026 or www.fargolibrary.org• Summer Reading Program: Fizz,

Boom, Read! Visit the library or website for event schedule (See ad pg. 29)

• Storytime & Science. PreK-grade 2. June 3, 11 a.m.

• Storytime & Craft. PreK-grade 3. June 11, 11 a.m.; June 30, 6:30 p.m.

West Fargo Public Library109 3rd St. E., West Fargo, 701-433-5460 or www.westfargolibrary.org• Summer Reading Program: Fizz,

Boom, Read! Call or visit the library for activity schedule

• Children’s Simply Stories. Tuesdays, 10:15 a.m.

• Storytime with Project. For preschoolers and their caretakers. Tuesdays, 1:30 p.m.

• Knitty Giddy. Adult group; bring your own supplies. Tuesdays, 6:30 p.m.

• Friday Morning Movies. Fridays, 10:30 a.m.

• Genealogy Saturdays. A staff genealogist will be available for questions. Saturdays, noon-4 p.m.

• Saturday New Release Movie. June 21, 2 p.m.

• Brain Power! Presented by Sanford Health. June 5, 3 p.m.

• Video Gaming. June 6 & 27, 3:30 p.m.; July 12 & July 26, 2 p.m.

• Magic Show with Jeffrey Salveson. June 7, 2 p.m.

• Sky Lab! See the constellations, create space projects. Lodoen Gym, June 10, 3-4 p.m.

• I’m Rockin’ with Rocks (Geology). June 12, 3:30 p.m.

• Blind Date with a Book. June 16 & July 14, 7 p.m.

• Root Beer Floats. While supplies last. June 24, 3:30-4:30 p.m.

• Professor Freeze! Don Carey from NDSU will work with chemicals. June 26, 7 p.m.

• Salute to Service. Story and craft with a Military Air Guard Soldier. July 1, 1:30 p.m.

• Red River Zoomobile. July 10, 6:30 p.m.

• Winging it is Not an Option! How to make an emergency plan and kit. July 24, 6:30 p.m.

• Summer Reading Program Closing Celebration. July 26, 2-4 p.m.

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Moorhead Public Library118 5th St. S., Moorhead, 218-233-7594 or www.larl.org• Summer Reading Program: Paws to

Read. Call or visit the library for activity schedule

• Lego Club. Call for dates and times• Open Computer Practice. Mondays,

2 p.m.• Storytime. Tuesdays (except June 3),

10:30 a.m.• Baby Bounce. For parents and babies

(up to age 2). Thursdays, 10 a.m.• Origami Skillshare. All ages and

abilities welcome. June 2 & July 7, 6:30 p.m.

• Pet Show. Memorial Park, June 9, 6:30 p.m.

• Storytime Plus. June 14 & July 12, 10 a.m.

• Clay County 4-H Petting Zoo. June 14, 10:30 a.m.-noon

• Teen Craft. June 16 & 30, July 14 & 28, 6:30 p.m.

• Classics Book Club. June 17 & July 15, 6:30 p.m.

• 4-H Pet Snacks. June 21, 10:30 a.m.• Movie Matinee. June 21 & July 19,

2 p.m.• Game Guild. June 23 & July 21,

6:30 p.m.• Yarn Circle. June 26 & July 24, 6:30 p.m.

CLASSESCall for information. Pre-registration may be required.

Bonanzaville1351 W. Main Ave., West Fargo. Call West Fargo Parks at 701-433-5360 to register• Life on the Prairie Day Camp• Planes, Trains & Automobiles

The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 or www.childrensmuseum-yunker.org• O.I.N.K.S.: Outside Inside Neat Kids’

Stuff• Yunkie Summer Science Camp

Early Childhood Family Education Classes for infants to kindergarten entry. Probstfield Center for Education, 2410 14th St. S., Moorhead, 218-284-3400 or https://communityed.moorheadschools.org• Check Us Out!• Construction Fun• Family Fun with Little Ones• Fun with Pete• Morning Play Group

Essentia Health OB Education3000 32nd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-364-8100 or www.essentiahealth.org• Basic Training for New Dads• Breastfeeding Class• Car Seat Safety• Lamaze• Mom’s Helpers• Tender Transitions

Fargo Park District701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com• Accelerated Artists• Artmania• Arts Sampler• Father’s Day Fun• Me-n-My Shadow• Penny & Pals Workshop

FM Ambulance701-364-1758 or www.fmambulance.com• B.L.A.S.T. Babysitting Day Camp• CPR/First Aid

Fraser, Ltd.2902 S. University Dr., Fargo, 701-232-3301 or www.fraserltd.org• CPR/First Aid

Healing Arts Chiropractic3240 15th St. S., Suite C, Fargo, 701-451-9070• How to Stay Young the First 100

Years

Music-n-Playwww.music-n-play.com or 408-857-4341• Sing n’ Sprout: Parent/Child

Christian Music & Movement Class

MSUM College for Kids (See ad pg. 32)Visit www.mnstate.edu/collegeforkids for class offerings

NDSUwww.ndsu.edu/dce• NDSU STEM Kids Camps

Red River Zoo4255 23rd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-277-9240 or www.redriverzoo.org• Critter, Discovery & Explorer Camps

Sanford Health Community Education701-234-5570, 877-234-4240 or www.sanfordhealth.org • Baby’s First Ride• Better Choices, Better Health• Breastfeeding Beginnings• Caring for Your Newborn• C.A.R.S. (Children & Restraint

Systems)• Family & Friends CPR• Honoring Your Health

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June 23 Davies Recreational Pool- 1-5pm, 6-8pmJune 24 Southwest Recreational Pool- 1-5pm, 6-8pmJune 26 Northside Recreational Pool, 1-5pm, 6-8pmJuly 7 Madison Pool & Splash Pad 1-5pm, 6-8pmJuly 7 Waterama- Madison Pool- 12-3pmJuly 8 Island Park Pool- 1:30-4:30pm

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• Infant Massage• Labor – What to Expect• Lamaze• Our Family is Having a Baby• Safe & Sound – Preparing Your Home

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TNT Kid’s Fitness2800 Main Ave., Fargo, 701-365-8868 or www.tntkidsfitness.org• No Bummer Summer Program

Trollwood Performing Arts School218-477-6500 or www.trollwood.org• Shine Music Workshop – Fur,

Feathers & Fun!• Summer Youth Programs

U of M Extension218-236-2005 or www.extension.umn.edu/ParentsForever• Parents Forever

The Village Family Service Center701-451-4900 or www.TheVillageFamily.org• Anger Management• Mindfulness• Parenting with Love & Logic• Relationships 101

The Village Financial Resource Center 701-235-3328 or www.HelpWithMoney.org• Bankruptcy Education• Homebuyer Education• Money Management Education• Tenant Education

West Fargo Park District701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org• Red River Valley Fair Camp

YMCA (See ad pg. 22)701-293-9622, 701-281-0126 or www.ymcacassclay.org• Ultimate Life Summit• Youth Camps & Summer Programs

MUSEUMS & EXHIBITSCall for additional information.

Cass County Museum1351 W. Main Ave., West Fargo, 701-282-2822 or www.bonanzaville.org• Fighting the Fires of Hate: America

& Nazi Book Burnings from U.S. Holocaust Memorial Museum. Begins June 24

Fargo Air Museum1609 19th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-293-8043 or www.fargoairmuseum.org

Historical & Cultural Society of Clay CountyHjemkomst Center, 202 1st Ave. N., Moorhead, 218-299-5511 or www.hcscconline.org • Red River Entrepreneur, Antoine

Blanc Gingras. June 7-July 30

• The Red River Watercolor Society’s 21st Annual National Watermedia Exhibition. June 16-July 26

• Doing Our Part: Clay County in WWII

Plains Art Museum704 1st Ave. N., Fargo, 701-551-6100 or www.plainsart.org• Sabrina Hornung: Trail Dust &

Sentiment• 47 Degrees North: Daybreaks

at Bad Medicine Lake by Wayne Gudmundson

The Rourke Art Museum521 Main Ave., Moorhead, 218-236-8861 or www.therourke.org• 55th Midwestern Art Invitational.

Begins June 18• Rich Borge & Jon Borge: Objects

Found & Claimed. Ends July 13

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By Patricia Carlson

Nothing makes us feel more alive than the sun. Its brightness beckons us to come outside and

play. Its rays warm our skin. Its energy promotes life on earth.

But the sun can also be a real killer.

“At 35, I had to treat skin cancer because of damage done under the age of 18,” says Kate Bohmer, a mom of three from Moorhead. “It is our responsibility to teach our kids to protect themselves from harmful rays just as we teach them about cancer from smoking.”

Seriously DangerousSkin cancer is the most common form

of cancer in the United States. The Skin Cancer Foundation reports that more than 3.5 million skin cancers in over two million people are diagnosed annually. And one in five of us will develop skin cancer in our lifetime.

The most vicious form of skin cancer is melanoma. It is not the most common skin cancer, but it is the most deadly, killing more than 8,700 people in the U.S. annually. Melanomas look like moles and some develop from moles, which is why they can be hard to detect. The only way to diagnose melanoma is a biopsy. That’s when part of the mole is removed and the tissue examined for cancer cells. If caught early on, melanoma is often curable. Sun exposure is a big risk factor for skin cancer. The National Cancer Institute (NCI) also identifies risk factors like skin that burns easily or a large number of moles as playing a role in whether melanoma forms.

Apart from staying out of the sun, sunscreen is still widely considered the best way to avoid exposure to the sun’s power, even though the NCI says its effectiveness hasn’t been proven.

The more we learn about the sun, the more our sun protection practices have to change. For example, for years scientists told us that we only had to worry about the sun’s shortwave (UVB) rays. So we rubbed on gobs of sunscreen that swore to protect us from the sun’s harmful UVB rays. Now we’re learning that the sun’s longwave (UVA) rays are dangerous, too, so our sun care protection routine is evolving again.

The Sunscreen WarsTinosorb S. Mexoryl SX. Tinosorb M.

Never heard of these, right? What about zinc oxide? Or oxybenzone? Or PABA? Sound a little more familiar? Both sets are active ingredients in sunscreen. We can only get the second batch in America, even though many experts agree the first batch is more effective.

What’s the problem? Apparently, there is a holdup in the Food and Drug Administration’s approval process. A 2013 Wall Street Journal article examined the delay and uncovered that eight sunscreen ingredient applications have been pending for years, some as long as a decade. Those same eight ingredients have been available for more than five years in Europe, Canada, South America, Asia, and Mexico. The FDA hasn’t added to its list of approved ingredients for sunscreens for nearly 15 years.

“The process to get approval for ‘better’ sunscreen ingredients has been dragging on for a while now,” explains Katie Ohnstad, Clinic Coordinator and Marketing Assistant at Rejuv Skin and Laser Clinic in South Fargo. “It will be interesting to see what their findings are.”

The FDA tried to remedy the situation by overhauling its labeling guidelines in 2011. Sunscreens that meet FDA standards for both UVB and UVA protection may be labeled “broad-spectrum.” Additionally, any sunscreen with a sun protection factor (SPF) lower than 15 must state that it will not protect against skin cancers on its label. Gone are the days of claiming to be waterproof, too. Sunscreens can only be labeled water-resistant and must include a 40- or 80-minute reapplication warning.

Sunscreen comes in two types: mineral and chemical. Mineral sunscreen reflects UV rays, whereas chemical sunscreen

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absorbs the rays. Clinicians say you may need to try both to determine which type works best for you. If you experience any skin irritation like a rash, bumps, or itchiness, try a different type or brand of sunscreen. Always check the expiration date, too! If your sunscreen is expired, it simply won’t work.

There is no telling how long before we’ll get stateside access to the sunscreens made with Tinosorb S., Mexoryl SX (sometimes called ecamsule), and Tinosorb M. Some people have been able to purchase the products on the Internet.

Practice Safe Sun

What we do know is this: Wearing sunscreen at any age is a must. There are other guidelines you should follow, too. Here’s a breakdown by age of sun-safe practices for you and your family.

Babies and Toddlers

These are among the most critical years for sun protection. “The big idea is that there are serious consequences to not properly preparing your child to be protected from the harmful rays,” says Bohmer.

The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends keeping babies younger than 6 months out of the sun. This is the time to dress your baby or child in lightweight long sleeve shirts and pants. When it’s too hot for clothes and only a bathing suit will do, slather on sunscreen with an SPF no less than 15 for babies 6 months and older. Be cautious of chemicals like PABA and oxybenzone that can irritate children’s skin. Ingredients like zinc oxide, titanium dioxide, and other mineral-based products might be better tolerated. Try to stay out of the sun during peak afternoon hours. You want to

start laying the groundwork for good sun protection habits now because the next decade may prove if your efforts have been worth it.

Tween and TeensThe Skin Cancer

Foundation states that 90 percent of pediatric melanoma cases occur in patients aged 10 to 19. Using broad-spectrum sunscreen with an SPF 15 or higher should be part of your daily routine, even in the winter. Use lotion sunscreen generously.

“Most people apply too little and don’t reap the benefits of the SPF listed on the bottle,” says Rejuv’s Ohnstad. “As a rule of thumb, use about a shot glass full of sunscreen to cover your entire body.”

During periods of heavy activity, it’s important

to remember to reapply sunscreen regularly. If you don’t like lotion, there are plenty of spray sunscreens available; some even have a cooling sensation. And—for goodness sake—stay out of tanning salons (unless you’re going for a spray tan).

20s and 30sThese are the prevention

decades. If you haven’t already established a sun protection protocol, you better start now. Melanoma rates are twice as high in women before age 40. Dermatologists believe that sunblock is the single most important tool in preventing sun damage that leads to fine lines and wrinkles, too. You can find plenty of face moisturizers with built-in sunscreen, but many dermatologists recommend using a regular sunscreen on

top of your moisturizer. Don’t ignore your hands, neck, and decolletage. The skin there is normally more exposed than other parts of your body and will show signs of damage earlier. “A big mistake many people make is forgetting about their lips—ouch!” exclaims Ohnstad. “Make sure you have a lip balm with SPF to protect your lips as well.”

For the truly serious, never go out in the sun without a hat. You’ll want to start checking your body for moles or strange colored spots. NCI recommends following the “ABCDE” approach to help you identify anything suspicious:

• Asymmetry—Are the halves two different shapes?

• Border irregularity—Edges are ragged or blurred

• Color—Uneven blacks, blues, reds, browns, greys, or white

• Diameter—Has the mole grown? Is it larger than a pea?

• Evolving—The mole has changed over the last few weeks or months

Take a picture if you’re concerned and make an appointment with your physician. Discuss the picture and any changes listed above. Your doctor may then refer you for a biopsy.

40s and 50sThis is when you’ll start

to see the effects of your earlier sun care routine, or lack thereof. Sun damage like discoloration or miasma (a brownish-grayish patch) will appear. Visit a dermatologist or examine your skin for moles or oddly shaped or colored freckles. If you haven’t already done so, bump up your SPF from 15 to 30. Laser resurfacing, freezing, or electrofulguration (burning) may be an option if you’ve developed sun spots from sun damage. However, if you

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Why Water Matters, Too!It’s hot. And humid. You’re sweating just walking from your car into

work. And no matter how much you will yourself to do so, you just can’t take another…sip…of…water.

It’s boring. It’s tasteless. It’s annoying to remember to always have a bottle of water with you.

Well, you need to suck it up—literally. Staying hydrated is one of the most important things you and your family need to do to stay well in the heat. Water is a core component to our body—lean body mass contains between 70 to 75 percent water—and it is vital to our survival when soaking up the sun. Water carries heat away from your internal organs through your bloodstream to your skin which allows you to sweat, cooling off your body naturally. Without sufficient water, your body can become dehydrated or even suffer the horrific effects of heat stroke (think fainting, defecating, hallucinating, even death).

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention offers these tips to stay hydrated:

• Drink more water than usual.• Don’t wait until you’re thirsty to drink

more fluids.• Avoid alcohol or liquids containing high

amounts of sugar.• Remind others to drink enough water.If you exercise in extreme heat or for

more than one hour, supplement water with a sports drink that contains electrolytes and carbohydrates (i.e., Gatorade or Powerade—both offer low-calorie options, too).

regularly go out in the sun without sunscreen, sun spots will continue to come back and your risk of developing skin cancer will increase. After 40, melanoma rates are higher in men than in women.

60+Visiting a dermatologist once a year should

be routine by now. You’ll want a doctor to help you keep track of any moles or other skin damage so they can document changes and help prescribe a course of treatment. It’s not too late to use sunscreen, either. If mobility and/or flexibility is an issue as you age, spray sunscreens may be a better option for you. There is less twisting and turning to apply a spray than a lotion, so you’ll be better covered by a spray. The incidence of melanoma in men age 80 and older is three times higher than women of the same age.

No matter what your age, before you step outside into that warm, delightful, and energizing sun, remember your SPF. Your skin will thank you.

Patricia Carlson is a freelance writer from Dilworth whose work regularly appears in publications across the country. She also crafts strategic website and marketing content for small businesses. Check out her work at www.patriciacarlsonfreelance.com.

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North Dakota is the happiest state in the U.S. according to this year’s annual Gallup-Healthways Well-Being Index. Minnesota follows close behind at number four. And why shouldn’t we be happy? We have a strong economy, the air is clean (often cold, but clean), crime is low, and we have our “Minnesota/North Dakota Nice” attitudes. In 2013, Prevention Magazine touted Fargo as one of the 25 happiest (and healthiest) cities in America. But happiness doesn’t just fall into our lives; it is something to be identified, cultivated, and self-directed.

Happiness is a choice. “Every morning when we wake up, we have 24 brand new hours to live,” writes Thich Nhat Hanh, a Vietnamese poet and Buddhist teacher. “What a precious gift. We have the capacity to live in a way that these 24 hours will bring peace, joy, and happiness to ourselves and others.” Here are some pathways to happiness.

Ask yourself, “Am I happy?” That advice comes from life coaches Eden Clark and John Germain Leto who explain: “It’s a simple question—and it’s the basis for life.” Following the question, carefully observe what happens to your body. “Do you feel a sense of contraction or expansion in your body? Does your stomach feel like it’s in knots? Does your heart feel light and open? When you ask yourself about your happiness, try to feel the answer within yourself. It’s there.”

Restructure your life to align with happiness. If, after answering the question, “Am I happy?”, you realize your happiness level needs to increase, then take the necessary steps. A place to start would be to become a student of happiness. That’s exactly what Dawn Kaiser, Lake Park, Minn., is doing this year. She has taken on the adventure of discovering joy in the journey and then sharing those “joy notes” with friends and family on her Facebook page. “I have learned so much about

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Pathways to Happiness

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how to live joy-filled because I have been intentional in finding it in the everyday moments of life.” Dawn says the top lesson she has learned about joy and happiness so far is that “the root of happiness is gratefulness,” and that’s why every day she writes down three things that she can be joyful/grateful for in her life. Her goal at the end of the year is to have 1,000 things written down in her journal of joy to give her encouragement for years to come.

Be happy now. Don’t wait for a more ideal life circumstance. Start now. Learn from this sad tale of delayed happiness from a woman who says, “After working for 51 years, I’m finally nearing retirement and ready to start living my life the way I want.” How unfortunate this woman has postponed life joy and happiness for decades and is only ready to experience it now that she has entered the last years of her life. “Change your life today. Don’t gamble on the future; act now, without delay,” writes French writer and philosopher Simone de Beauvoir.

Embrace the spirit of adventure. That advice comes from Mark Twain, who put it this way: “Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”

Forgive yourself. Living with regret and self-condemnation are not only time wasters, but they are also huge happiness killers. Let go of places from your past where you did not live up to the optimum. Remind yourself you are human, not super human. Everyone, yourself included, gets to make mistakes and have lapses in judgment. When she learned her mother had been diagnosed with advanced cancer, Elizabeth took weeks off work and went to be with her mother. When she died, Elizabeth returned for the funeral and to help settle the estate. Six months later, Elizabeth was plagued by regrets and too many “should haves.” “I should have held her hand...I should have wrapped her in my arms...I should have spent more time with her....I should have done more, etc.,” Elizabeth remembers thinking. Those regrets were eroding her quality of life. Finally, Elizabeth chose to forgive herself and apply self-compassion, not self-condemnation. Today she advises others, “Ask yourself if your pain serves you and choose to release unnecessary suffering by inviting forgiveness.”

Smile more. Your smile will bring happiness to others and, simultaneously, return happiness to you. “The simplest and most reliable way to make someone smile is to smile at him,” says psychologist Marianne LaFrance, author of “Lip Service.” “Smiles are the most contagious kind of facial expression, even among people who don’t know each other,” says LaFrance.

Keep your perspective balanced. When we become unhappy, it’s easy to feel dejected and despondent. Don’t give in to self-pity. Balance your perspective by placing yourself into a larger context. This is what British theoretical physicist Stephen Hawking did. In his book, “My Brief History,” Hawking tells about being diagnosed with amyotrophic lateral sclerosis (Lou Gehrig's disease) in 1963, and being given two years to live. Initially, he was devastated by the diagnosis. “However, while I was in the hospital, I had seen a boy I

vaguely knew die of leukemia in the bed opposite me. It had not been a pretty sight. Clearly there were people who were worse off than me—at least my condition didn’t make me feel

sick. Whenever I feel inclined to be sorry for myself, I remember that boy.” Hawking turned 72 in January.

Learn about happiness from the dying. For several years, Bronnie Ware worked in hospice. Based on her experiences, she wrote the book, “Top Five Regrets of the Dying.” Those regrets are:

• I wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself.

• I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.• I wish I’d had the courage to

express my feelings.• I wish I had stayed in touch with

my friends.• I wish I had let myself be happier.

Ultimately, the level of your happiness depends upon you. In her book, “Happiness,” Joan Chittister writes: “Happiness is within our grasp, but it’s not free. It doesn’t just happen. It takes a reorientation of our own mental habits to both realize it and maintain it. Most of all, the achievements of happiness require a commitment to bend the arc of our lives in the direction of things that count in life rather than toward the trinkets that decorate it.”

Victor M. Parachin lives and writes from Oklahoma. He is the author of a dozen books, most recently, “Sit a Bit: Five Minute Meditations for Greater Health.”

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You got a killer deal on five pounds of bacon with your club card. Now you’re wondering how many strips your stomach and heart can take before those delectable applewood-smoked slices go bad.

Have no fear: They will keep for up to a week in the fridge and still be delicious up to a month when frozen.

Knowing how long basic foods remain edible can reduce both the waste of food and your money, says the Natural Resources Defense Council. “The average American throws away between $28 to $43 in the form of about 20 pounds of food each month…About two-thirds of household waste is due to food spoilage from not being used in time, whereas the other one-third is caused by people cooking or serving too much.”

Fortunately, many staple food items last much longer than you would expect. Are you sick of grilled cheese for lunch? Those individually wrapped slices of American cheese will keep in the fridge for a month or two.

But while frozen foods are said to keep indefinitely, that does not mean they’ll remain at top quality and be palatable.

If you have a question about a particular item’s shelf life in your

freezer or fridge, the website stilltasty.com offers a handy “Keep It or Toss It?” feature. Just type in your query or check their listings of pretty much any food or drink imaginable and the magic timing will pop up. The site also explains how to properly store foods to get the best results.

While most of us smell and visibly inspect foods suspected of being past their prime, experts say the absence of mold or foul odors is not a clear indication that an item remains edible.

“You cannot see, smell, or taste many harmful bacteria, so although the food may look ‘safe’ to eat, it is not. When in doubt, throw it out,” Weill Cornell Medical College says.

With that in mind, let’s take a look at the shelf life of some basic food groups in the refrigerator and in the freezer.

BreadsTortillas, sold refrigerated — one to two months in the fridge; three months in the freezer. White bread — five to seven days in the pantry (not the fridge); three months in the freezer. Unbaked homemade cookie dough — one or two days in the fridge; four to six months in the freezer.

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DairyButter — one to three months in the fridge; six to nine months in the freezer. Hard cheeses — four weeks if opened; six months in the freezer. Soft cheeses — one week in the fridge; six months in the freezer. Milk — seven days in the fridge; three months in the freezer. Yogurt — two to three weeks in the fridge; one to two months in the freezer.

MeatsRaw ground beef — one to two days in the fridge; three to four months in the freezer. Steaks — three to five days in the fridge; six to 12 months in the freezer. Lean fish — one to two days in the fridge; six months in the freezer. Fatty fish — one to two days in the fridge; two to three months in the freezer. Whole chicken or turkey — one to two days in the fridge; one year in the freezer. If it’s cut into pieces before freezing, the parts should be used within nine months.

Fruits and vegetablesBananas — five to seven days in the fridge after they’re ripe; two to three months in the freezer. Lemons — one to two months in the fridge; three to four months in the freezer. Broccoli — two weeks in the fridge; eight to 12 months in the freezer. Carrots — four to five weeks in the fridge; eight to 12 months in the freezer.

The National Center for Home Food Preservation says most fruits and vegetables can last from eight months to a year if packaged correctly and frozen at or below zero degrees.

MiscellaneousLeftover pizza — three to four days in the fridge; two months in the freezer. Tuna salad — three to five days in the fridge. Tuna salad does not fare well in the freezer, FoodSafety says. Opened bottle of champagne — three to five days in the fridge. Freezer time is not applicable.

In general, leftovers should be eaten within three or four days. The Mayo Clinic says that after a few days, the risk of contracting food poisoning increases. If you don’t think you’ll be able to eat leftovers within four days, freeze them immediately, the clinic suggests.

Here are some tips to reduce food waste and help food last as long as possible:

“A good policy to remember and follow is ‘first in, first out.’ Rotate foods so that you use the older items first and enjoy your food at its best quality,” the National Center for Home Food Preservation says. If you’re freezing the food, put a date on the label.

For the tastiest foods and best storage, your refrigerator should be set to 40 degrees or colder.

It goes without saying that the fresher the produce, the longer it will last once you get it home. Keep that in mind if you don’t plan to eat it right away.

The USDA suggests food be frozen at peak quality for the best taste once thawed.

If you’re freezing food, tips offered by the National Center for Home Food Preservation include:

• If you’re blanching or cooking first, cool food prior to freezing to help retain flavor, color, and texture.

• Use leak-proof packaging to protect food from other flavors and odors.

• Use containers or bags made specifically for freezer use.

• Allow enough space for the food to expand without popping the seal.

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You Don’t Have To Go It Alone

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• 1 cup cherry tomatoes, halved• 1 green onion, thinly sliced• 1 garlic clove, minced• ½ jalapeno pepper, thinly sliced• 2 Tbsps balsamic vinegar• 1 tsp brown sugar• 1 tsp olive oil• ¼ tsp cumin• Salt and pepper to taste

Put first four ingredients into a bowl. Combine the vinegar, brown sugar, and olive oil in a small bowl. Whisk to mix. Add cumin, salt, and pepper. Stir. Pour vinegar mixture over the tomato mixture. Toss to coat. Then, cover and refrigerate for at least one hour. Serve as a side dish or part of a relish tray.

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• 3 rectangular kitchen sponges, any color• Scissors• Small elastic hair band or rubber band

Cut a sponge lengthwise into four equal pieces. Repeat with two additional sponges. Lay sponge pieces in a stack of four strips wide by three strips high. Gather your sponge pile together, holding tightly at the center of the strips. Wrap hair band or rubber band around sponges. Dunk in a bucket of water, toss, and splash for refreshing summer fun.

• 1 Tbsp baking soda• Blue (or other color) food

coloring• ¼ cup vinegar• Small jar/baby food jar• Plate

Pour baking soda into the jar. Pour vinegar into measuring cup along with 4 droplets of food coloring. Hold jar over a plate, and pour vinegar and food coloring mixture into the jar of baking soda. Watch it fizz over like lava.

Brynn, age 3

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You Don’t Have To Go It Alone

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DoN’T bunt. Aim out of the ballpark. —David Ogilvy

You have to love a nation that celebrates its independence

every July 4, not with a parade of guns, tanks, and soldiers

who file by the White House in a show of strength and muscle, but with family picnics where

kids throw Frisbees, the potato salad gets iffy, and the flies die from happiness. You may think

you have overeaten, but it is

patriotism. —Erma Bombeck

Our culture has accepted two huge lies. The first is that if you disagree with someone’s lifestyle, you must fear or hate them. The second is that to love someone means you agree with everything they believe or do. BOTh are nonsense. You don’t have to compromise convictions to be compassionate.—Rick Warren

There’s something contagious about

demanding freedom. —Robin Morgan

One of the things I learned the hard way was that it doesn’t pay to get discouraged. Keeping busy and making optimism a way of life can restore your faith in yourself. —Lucille Ball

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We grow great by dreams. All big men are dreamers. They

see things in the soft haze of a spring day

or in the red fire of a long winter’s evening. Some of us let these great

dreams die, but others nourish and protect

them; nurse them through bad days

till they bring them to the sunshine and light which comes

always to those who sincerely hope that their dreams will

come true. —Woodrow Wilson

Regardless of your life circumstances or estate size, your will is perhaps the most important document you will create. It expresses your values and also effectively provides for the people and charitable causes important to you.

To learn how to create a will that ensures your wishes are carried out, contact The Village Family Service Center for a FREE Will Kit. Complete and return the form below, or call Jenny at 701-451-4957. Your FREE Will Kit will include:

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Seven Important Reasons You Need a Will

1. Without a will, your state’s laws—not you—determine how, when, and to whom your property is distributed.

2. You can designate the guardian for dependents under your care.

3. You can name your executor to manage and settle your estate.

4. You can designate beneficiaries for items such as heirlooms, art, jewelry, or real estate.

5. You may create trusts to provide for your spouse, children, and others.

6. You can support your favorite charities.

7. You can reduce (or maybe even eliminate) estate taxes and save taxes in a survivor’s estate if you make use of the estate tax exemptions.

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Suggested age: 25 and older. No physician referral required.

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