7/30/2019 The Makings of Volunteerism 5-17-12

1/19

May 17, 20121

The Makings ofVolunteering Mentor-Mentee Relationship

Jeanette Nadonley, DC BA

7/30/2019 The Makings of Volunteerism 5-17-12

2/19

April 19, 20122

What is Character?

Doing the right thing for the right reason.

Knowing the good, Loving the good, Doing the good.

Your character is revealed by how you behave when you

think no one is looking.

Reputation is what people thinkyou are, character is

what you are.

7/30/2019 The Makings of Volunteerism 5-17-12

3/19

April 19, 20123

Mentors

7/30/2019 The Makings of Volunteerism 5-17-12

4/19

April 19, 20124

The 4 As of Volunteering

Acceptance (Approval)

Affiliation (Connection)

Achievement (Succeed)

Altruistic (Selfless)

7/30/2019 The Makings of Volunteerism 5-17-12

5/19

April 19, 20125

The Four Corners Game

How do you work in pairs

Dove Skunk

Ostrich Bear

7/30/2019 The Makings of Volunteerism 5-17-12

6/19

April 19, 20126

The Four Corners Game

How do you work in pairs

Trumpet Violin

Drum Flute

7/30/2019 The Makings of Volunteerism 5-17-12

7/19

April 19, 20127

The Six Pillars of Character

Trustworthiness

Respect

Responsibility

Fairness

Caring

Citizenship

* Josephson Institute of Ethics

7/30/2019 The Makings of Volunteerism 5-17-12

8/19

April 19, 20128

What is TRUST? Integrity

Honesty

Promise-Keeping

Loyalty

7/30/2019 The Makings of Volunteerism 5-17-12

9/19

April 19, 20129

Trust

How do you build trust in mentees?

What does it take to lose someones

trust?

How do you build loyalty?

7/30/2019 The Makings of Volunteerism 5-17-12

10/19

April 19, 201210

Respect How you think of others and how

you treat others.

The essence of respect is to show

solemn regard to the worth of people

including yourself.

The Golden Rule: Do unto others as you would havethem do unto you.

7/30/2019 The Makings of Volunteerism 5-17-12

11/19

April 19, 201211

Respect

Sir, I will treatyou like a

gentleman,

not because you are one,

but because I am.

7/30/2019 The Makings of Volunteerism 5-17-12

12/19

April 19, 201212

Responsibility

Doing what you say you will do

or what is expected of you.

You teach by what you

do not what you say.

7/30/2019 The Makings of Volunteerism 5-17-12

13/19

April 19, 201213

Responsibility

Too many people are willing

to move the stool when the

piano needs to

be moved.

7/30/2019 The Makings of Volunteerism 5-17-12

14/19

April 19, 201214

Making Ethical Decisions

Using principles of character to

make the right decision

for the right reason.

7/30/2019 The Makings of Volunteerism 5-17-12

15/19

April 19, 201215

The Tests

The publicity test.

The over the shoulder test.

What would ________ do?

7/30/2019 The Makings of Volunteerism 5-17-12

16/19

April 19, 201216

Knowing

In 90% of the ethical problems you

face you know what you should do.

The real question is whether you are willing to do theright thing when it is likely to cost more than you are

willing to pay.

7/30/2019 The Makings of Volunteerism 5-17-12

17/19

April 19, 201217

Expectations Change Takes Time

Building Trust

Understand the Youths Everyday Life

Reverse Role Play

Use Different Approaches

Developmental Assets

Support

Empowerment

Boundaries and Influences

Constructive Use of Time

Positive Values

Social Competences

Positive Identity

7/30/2019 The Makings of Volunteerism 5-17-12

18/19

April 19, 201218

Make It Happen!!!

Set the standard and expectations

Be a role model

Modify behavior

Recognize potential

7/30/2019 The Makings of Volunteerism 5-17-12

19/19

April 19, 201219

Thanks For All You Do!!!!

Mentors make a difference in a youths life.

Understand we may not always seeour

expectations.

See yourself as the heroes that you are, dontdownplay what you do.

Mentors are the selected family a youthdeserves.

Live as if.