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The Leadership Pause™
Cultivating Your Life’s Potential
By Chris L. Johnson, PsyD.
Q4 Consulting, Inc.
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Table of Contents
Introduction ……………………………………………………………………………... 2
Quick Start……………………………………………………………………………......5
About the Author ………………………………………………………………………6
Chapter 1: Stopping to Pause………………………………………………………8
Chapter 2: How are You Juggling? ………………………………………………15
Chapter 3: Being a Beginner, Curiosity & Deliberate Practice ………….…..21
Chapter 4: Pausing into Presence and Acceptance of What Is..……….….26
Chapter 5: Stress to Resiliency …………………………………………………….32
Chapter 6: Noticing Your Breathing ……………………………………………...39
Chapter 7: Energy Bodies & Walking …………………………………….………45
Chapter 8: Triggers, Pacing & Choice …………………………………………..51
Chapter 9: Your Mindset: Fixed or Growth? …………………………..…….....57
Chapter 10: Self-Leadership ………………………………………………………..62
Conclusion ……………………………………………………………………………..66
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Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that
space is our power to choose our
response. In our response lies our growth and our
freedom.
~~ Viktor Frankl
Introduction
lad you're choosing The Leadership Pause:
Cultivating Your Life’s Potential™
Today’s leaders and their teams are shaped
in the time-crunched reality of marketplace
opportunities, workplace experiences, and personal life
choices—all evolving
out of an intricate
network of personal
relationships. It’s easy
to become
distracted.
As such, the single
biggest competitive
advantage in
business today is
training one’s
attention on what
matters most.
Future success will depend upon one’s ability to pause.
Let me say that again with a different emphasis. Your
future success will depend upon your ability to pause.
Pause is that momentary space between stimulus and
response that opens possibilities for self-awareness and
conversations to unfold naturally.
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When we don’t pause, we tend to rush through life, we
don’t even see the roses let alone stop and smell then,
and meaningful conversations just don’t have the
space to occur.
And, since the conversation really is the relationship,
both with ourselves or with others,
how we drop into them, explore
them, sustain them, prolong them
matters---a lot.
Powerful, heartfelt conversations require mindful
attention, listening with one’s whole body and
engaging in inquiry together. It happens with a pause.
The results?
New learning opportunities are generated, new insights
and skillful actions emerge, new futures created.
Definitely, a competitive advantage.
In The Leadership Pause you’ll discover how to cultivate
Pause in your life and explore the reasons it’s essential
to your well-being, your potential, and to your life as a
leader.
You’ll take steps to reflect on the pause and develop a
Pause Practice. You’ll read some tidbits of research
about pausing, stress and resilience, the impact on your
leadership, along with a story or two of how someone
Too often, our lives cease working
because we cease working at life,
because we are unwilling to take responsibility for
things as they are, and to work with
our difficulties.
We don’t understand that it is actually possible to
attain clarity, understanding, and transformation right
in the middle of what is here and now, however,
problematic it may be.
~~Jon Kabat Zinn
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used the Pause at Work™, and what happened for
them.
While I'll ask you for 5-10 minutes a day to engage in
the practices of The Leadership Pause, you'll get the
most out of what’s here if you take a few extra minutes
at the end of the practices to reflect on your own
experiences (no "supposed to's" here, only what you're
observing).
Simply notice what shows up as a key take-away of importance for you. Jot down your observations.
Simple. Pause, reflect, write out your experiences. Why bother?
Because we’re drawn to leaders with Presence. They’re self-aware, authentic and actively connect with others. They’re active learners and apply their learning to lead from heart-felt values. They’re grace under pressure and accountable for their choices. Developing a Pause Practice, an intentional, new behavior to expand your awareness and direct your attention, cultivates Presence. Your Presence. Besides, we know that highly successful leaders have
contemplative pause practices. You will too as you
develop your own Leadership Pause.
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Ready? Let's get started.
Oops, I nearly forgot.
To make this most useful, I’m including a cheat sheet
right up in front for a quick start with The Leadership
Pause. You’ll still want to read the book, but this page
can be a handy resource for you as you begin.
The Leadership Pause™ is a skill you can develop to grow your Core Presence™. Use the following questions & practices to begin.
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The Leadership Pause™ is a skill you can develop to grow your Core Presence™. Use the following questions & practices to begin.
Pause
What happens if you stop, now, tune into the sensations of your breath? Notice.
Beginner’s Mind
What do you observe if you commit to noticing three new things that you didn’t ‘see’ before?
Resiliency
What are your top three Signature Stresses?
Energy
What behaviors energize you most? Zap you of energy?
Mindset
What’s the state of your mind? Open to learning? Slipping into “I know” mind?
Juggling
What commitments are you juggling now? To what end?
Presence
What’s your body telling you about being in the present moment?
Breath
Can you follow your breath through 3 full cycles, picking it up where it’s most vivid for you?
Triggers
What triggers your stress & takes you out of the moment?
Self Mastery
Can you catch yourself being yourself today?
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About Chris Johnson
hris Johnson, Psy.D, an experienced
psychologist, speaker, and leadership coach
has worked extensively for over 20 years with
individual leaders and their teams to effectively
grapple with system-wide change.
Dr. Chris believes that creating feedback-rich
environments, where excellence in leadership and
learning has a place to take root, is the future. To that
end, she founded Q4 Consulting Inc to fulfill on her
commitment.
She’s coached executives and managers in
organizations as diverse as health care, finance,
manufacturing, local municipalities, and education.
Together they co-create customized opportunities to
cultivate leadership presence, develop 360° awareness
that facilitates embodied learning, and conversational
skills to deepen competencies. All this to take
embodied action towards results that matter.
Mindfulness--the simple yet powerful capacity to be
awake—serves as the backbone of her customized
consulting and leadership coaching practice.
To that end she’s designed The Core Commitment
Cycle™, a process integrating Awareness, Attention,
and Conversational skills, an innovative offer for teams
seeking to up their game.
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When she’s not working,
Dr. Chris is likely either gardening, reading a
great book, making art, or at the aikido dojo where
she practices and teaches
the art of peace.
Dr. Chris holds a PsyD. from the Chicago School of
Professional Psychology where she’s taught in both the
Business Psychology and the Executive and Professional
Development Programs.
She’s certified as an ‘Integral Coach’ by New Ventures
West and as a Master Somatic Leadership Coach by
the Strozzi Institute where she’s taught leadership
development.
To expand the reach and impact of mindfulness, Dr.
Chris has offered Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction
(MBSR) classes in the community each quarter for the
past sixteen years.
And currently, as part of her commitment to cultivating
Conscious Businesses, she’s a founding member of the
Executive Team for the Chicago Chapter of Conscious
Capitalism where she’s the Chair of Learning &
Practice.
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One: Stopping to Pause
fundamental skill of effectively leading
one's life, not to mention a family or a
business, is to learn to Pause.
Simple? Yes; easy, no.
Leading well--on point, with care, in
collaboration with others---requires a balance
between reflection and action to be effective,
powerful, impactful.
Yet, we live in a 24/7 workaday world where the
underlying value to constantly push and
outperform ourselves despite our natural energy
levels, reigns supreme.
To Pause is to interrupt an automatic, typically
out-of-awareness behavior--a thought, an action
or even an emotion--to allow for reflection.
Pausing develops Core Presence.
Now before you go thinking something like, "sure,
if it were that easy don't you think I'd have done
this?" or, "I don't have time to pause, there's so
much work to do!" give yourself a chance to get
started. You won't know just how good this will be
for you until you start having a felt sense vs.
thinking about taking a pause.
A To Pause is to interrupt an automatic,
typically out-of-awareness
behavior to allow for reflection.
Pausing develops Core Presence™
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So beyond the commonsensical notion that it
might be a good idea to Pause, what exactly is
The Leadership Pause?
The Leadership Pause is for anyone who leads in
life. It's a ten-step process for intentionally
cultivating your Pause muscles to experience this
moment, (yes this one), fully, now. It involves:
Ø Committing to learning to Pause
Ø Momentarily pausing what you're doing
Ø Focusing your attention, on purpose
Ø Observing something tangible---typically your
breath---and returning to it again and again.
Ø Learning about your signature automatic
reactions: your thinking patterns, your
emotional reactions, your bodily responses,
your actions.
Ø Choosing effective next steps.
In fact, those who fail to learn to Pause, to renew
their energies, do so to their own peril.
Stress research reveals that those who work-
around-the-clock, who don't allow for renewal
and restoration, are prone to illness, disease,
even early death.
Stress increases the neurochemical and electrical
activity in our right pre-frontal cortex and releases
hormones that activate our 'fight or flight or
freeze' reactions. In turn, we go into a state of
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Seventy-five percent of adults
reported experiencing
moderate to high levels of stress in the
past month
~~ APA Report on Stress, 2016
heightened alert, that can become a chronic
state if not allowed to 'reset.'
A 2016 survey from the American Psychological
Association yielded some interesting results.
Seventy-five percent of adults reported
experiencing moderate to high levels of stress in
the past month, with 42% reporting that their
stress increased in the past year. Physically, 53%
reported trouble sleeping, resulting in ongoing
fatigue while greater than 60% struggle with
irritability, anger, and decreased levels of energy
and motivation as a result of their stress levels.
Our bodies (including our thinking capacity, our
ability to 'feel' into other's concerns, to take
effective action) require rest to recalibrate our
psychobiological systems, to renew ourselves for
the sake of meeting the challenges of the day.
As you can see, learning to Pause is not simply a
good idea, but physiologically essential as an
antidote to overly high stress and burnout-factors
that can impact any leader.
To begin, here’s your first Pause Practice. Have a
look below at what It involves, then set this aside
to begin (setting an alarm is useful so you don't
have to stop to notice your watch):
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Ø Sit, back straight, shoulders relaxed
Ø Close your eyes
Ø Tune your attention to your breath,
wherever you notice it most fully: at your
nose, your chest, or deep in your belly
Ø Then, after a few breaths, drop your
attention to feel your breath at your belly
See if you can keep your attention initially
focused on your breathing cycle for three
minutes.
You’re simply observing the experience of your
own breathing, and then coming back to your
breath with your attention each time it wanders
(it will, trust me on this front).
When your alarm goes off, continue to sit, for a
few moments, and reflect on what occurred.
Curiosity is your friend.
What was your body's response? Were your
shoulders up and high? How's your jaw---tight or
relaxed? What other body sensations did you
notice?
Where did your mind go? To all the to-do
decisions of the day? To your next project? To a
family concern? Blank?
Curiosity is your friend.
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What emotions surfaced? Anxiety about that
last-minute order or project due? Irritability with a
colleague or spouse? Excitement at a new
opportunity? Unsure?
Simply observe what occurred without self-
judgement about whatever came up for you.
You're developing a new muscle, the muscle of
attention. Jot down some of your experiences in
the space below. You'll be glad you did at the
end of The Leadership Pause.
Notes: ______________________________________
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Pause Tip: One simple way to get started (ok,
you've already begun because you're here!), is
to formally calendar a time to Pause. Yep, put it
in your calendar.
This may seem silly, frivolous even, but it works. It
works because you're in the process of fine-
tuning a skill, one your body already knows how
to do.
If you take the time to book an appointment with
yourself, in your calendar, you're re-committing
each day to Pausing. You're not scheduling over
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it because you're too busy! Instead you're
intentionally shifting gears from death exhausting
habits to life-giving practices.
And, if you're ready to be bold schedule in a 2nd
time to Pause in your day. I dare you!
Or, schedule in 30 minutes instead of 15. This will
allow for more transition time to arrive to the
moment, to feel the spaciousness, and to step
into the next moment with a flexible mindset.
Pushing Pause at Work: By Pausing to Slow Down You'll Find More Time
A client of mine, Joe, the VP of Operations at a
large and growing non-profit, incorporated The
Leadership Pause into the start of his day.
He sat at his desk in front of his computer before
he turned it on for the day. He practiced
focusing on his breath, and settling into himself.
Initially skeptical, he kept practicing.
He later reported that while he had, in fact,
missed a day here and there, he noticed that his
early morning, high-stress mood began to shift.
He could 'see' what was truly important to attend
to that day vs. simply reacting to email, phone
calls and the like.
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He felt more present to meet his day. His
normally stressed out stomach calmed, and the
quality of his listening changed—others reported
that they felt Joe heard them.
Practice: As you begin your day, spend three
minutes sitting quietly tuning into your breathing.
See if you can keep your attention on your
breath for the full cycle of inhalation and
exhalation. When you notice you’re off,
distracted, preoccupied, simply acknowledge
that fact, and return, again, to the breath. A
timer’s helpful here.
Notes: ______________________________________
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Two: How’re You Juggling?
lad you stopped to Pause--it's a
powerful leadership move.
You read that correctly--- to Pause is a
powerful leadership move.
As a leader, you steward energy---in your
company, organization, even in your own
family. You will inspire or demoralize others by
how well you work with your own energies
and by how well you focus, galvanize,
invent--even renew-- the collective energies
of those you lead.
Amidst the hustle and bustle of our globally
connected world, we're all challenged to be
superheroes, super bosses, super leaders.
We try to juggle so many responsibilities and
opportunities that we're easily caught up in
the activity at hand, losing sight of what's
important at any given moment.
Or, if we do know what's important to us, our
energies are spread out across our lives, like bits
of confetti floating in the wind. We're often
unsure just how to collect ourselves.
As a leader, you inevitably deal with this 'power
stress' that’s created by a combination of high
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responsibility, a constant need for self-monitoring,
and addressing the myriad of crises that exist in
day-to-day leadership. These can leave even the
hardiest leader physically, mentally and
emotionally drained.
As a leader, if you don't deal with this power
stress, you may fall prey to what Annie McKee,
managing director at Telios Leadership Institute,
and her colleagues call "the grip of the Sacrifice
Syndrome."
This vicious cycle of overmuch is fueled by being
highly responsible, which can arouse passionate
emotions involved in helping and serving:
concern, interest, resentment, fear, and result in
mental, emotional and physical fatigue of
caring. Sacrifices involved in putting others first,
(the team, the project, the community, etc)
without respite or renewal for your self begin to
deepen. The Sacrifice Syndrome is in full swing!
In addition to dips in self-confidence, energy and
lapsing judgment as the strain wears on, the
impact of this cycle can spread out to others too,
resulting in strained relationships.
The antidote? Being fully engaged, in a present
moment state that requires you to be physically
fit, emotionally connected, mentally focused,
Pause is a part of a larger cycle of work
and renewal, the ebb and flow of life.
It’s not simply a good idea. It’s a required nutrient, like air or water or
food.
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and spiritually aligned with a purpose beyond the
immediate interest at hand.
In other words, cultivating the power of Pause.
Why don't we Pause anyway?
We don't take time to Pause because of its
weighty baggage. Take a look at the definition
below.
Pause (poz)
a temporary stop, delay, wait, or rest, especially in speech or action
a cessation of activity because of doubt or to cause to hesitate or be unsure as if from surprise
or doubt
to make a brief stop or delay; wait; hesitate; rest; linger or tarry ~~ Merriam Webster
As you can see, Pause tends to be associated
with uncertainty, doubt, hesitation. Not exactly
what you want more of as you're juggling all
those balls in the air!
Certainly, it looks as though our very language
might be getting in the way of actively Pausing,
yet, as a leader, prone to 'power stress' you can't
sustain your effectiveness if you can't sustain
yourself.
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Reclaim Pause. To stop and pause is a leadership
move.
Pause is part of a larger cycle of work and
renewal, the ebb and flow of life. It's not simply a
good idea. It's a required nutrient not unlike air or
water.
Richard Boyatzis, professor of organizational
behavior at the Weatherhead School of
Management, specializes in the study of
leadership.
Good leaders, he says, attain resonance with
those around them through self-awareness, self-
management, social awareness, and relationship
management, all elements of Emotional
Intelligence.
As a good leader, you can easily move to an
"approach" orientation to the task - emotionally
open, engaged and innovative - from an
"avoidance" orientation characterized by
aversion, irritability and close-mindedness.
And, you guessed it, It begins with stopping to
Pause.
Pausing strengthens the tendency towards the
approach mode of mind. This is because it
teaches you to take an interest in all aspects of
Pausing interrupts your automatic
reactions to life’s events and the stories that flow
from those reactions.
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your experience and to "approach" it, treating it
with acceptance and curiosity.
Pausing interrupts your automatic reactions to
life’s events and the stories that flow from those
reactions.
Pausing allows your mind to take a break, and to
be with life as it is vs. how we’d like it to be.
To Pause is a powerful leadership move.
Pause Tip: Belly Breaths
As you go through your day today, simply stop,
drop your attention to your breath at your belly
and take three deep breaths.
You have no other agenda other than to Pause.
Look up and out at your surroundings; what do
you notice? What’s the quality of connection you
notice with yourself? With others?
Do this practice three times throughout the day
and reflect on this practice as you complete your
day. Answer the question, “What did I learn?”
Notes: ________________________________________
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To Pause is a powerful
leadership move.
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"I never do anything without an
agenda," while others nodded in
agreement.
Pushing Pause at Work: No Agenda
Jon Kabat-Zinn, founder of the Center for
Mindfulness at UMass Medical Center, tells of
leading a retreat for business executives in
Chicago. He began the day by asking these
leaders to simply 'sit and be, with no agenda,' to
let go of whatever expectations and stories they
had brought into the workshop. And, to simply
feel, or sense, into how things were for them in
that moment.
The results were astonishing.
A few began to tear up, one executive telling
him, "I never do anything without an agenda,"
while others nodded in agreement.
Seems that simply encouraging folks to Pause
and 'sit without agenda,' released grief, tension,
and frustration at not having--starving even for--
quiet, for space and stillness in their lives.
How about you? Can you sit still without an
agenda for an hour? A day? Try it and record
your learning below.
Notes: ______________________________________
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Three: Beginner's Mind, Curiosity & Deliberate Practice
ongratulations! Stop, Pause, and
acknowledge that you've just
committed to being a 'beginner' in this
new practice called Pausing.
By definition, being a beginner involves stumbling
around a bit in attempts to learn something new.
To learn something new, to create a new habit
is tough. If you've ever set out a New Year's
resolution, you'll know how hard this can be to
do.
Why is it hard?
Well, it might be that you're not really committed
to the resolution.
Or, perhaps you're not stopping to pause and be
fully in the new commitment.
Or, maybe you’re simply not giving it enough
time and patience to develop, or what I'd call
letting the practice work on you.
We're so often in a hurry to see results that we
sabotage ourselves. We tell ourselves "I don't
have enough time," or, “it shouldn’t take this
long,” or, “it won’t work anyway.”
Sound familiar?
C Being a beginner involves stumbling
around a bit in attempts to learn something new.
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In the European Journal of Social Psychology
researchers reported results from 96 people on
the length of time it took for a new, daily
practiced behavior to become automatic,
without having to consciously think about it (or
embodied-in-action).
Behaviors varied from drinking a glass of water
each morning to running for 15 minutes a day to
doing 50 sit-ups before breakfast.
Results were inconsistent in terms of actual time it
takes to develop a new habit. And, as you might
have guessed, the length of time varied with the
difficulty of the behavior: it took less long to
incorporate drinking a glass of water each day
(about 8 days) than to do 50 sit ups each day
before breakfast (about 100 days).
Research tells us that with 300 repetitions of a
new action you produce body memory, that is,
you can do the new move from memory. While
3000 repetitions produce embodiment, or what
we could call our ‘new normal’ or new second
nature.
What helps in the arduous (and tedious) process
of sustaining effort is to tap into the passion of
your commitment: how much do you want to
develop greater presence, have an impact, live
fully?
Research tells us that with 300
repetitions of a new action you produce body
memory, that is, you can do the new move from memory. While 3000 repetitions
produce embodiment, or what we could call our ‘new
normal.’
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It’s your passion (and commitment to practice)
that will provide the necessary energy to achieve
exceptional levels of ability, even the ability to
pause and be present.
Also, results indicated that early practice was
rewarded with greater increases in automaticity,
or new, embodied behavior.
So, take heart, your early commitment here will
pay off.
Pause Tip: Did you know that back in the
1950's clock makers began incorporating
something we now know as the 'snooze' on the
alarm clock? Who knew? The way the
mechanistic gears were arranged allowed for
slightly less snooze time than 10 minutes, or about
9 minutes. As a result, once you hit the snooze
button the 'snooze' was set to 'go off' in 9
minutes.
You can use this 'Snooze Technique' to your
advantage to help you begin to Pause.
You might wonder at Pausing first thing in the
morning, because isn't it about learning to Pause
in the midst of a busy day you ask?
Yes. And, what better way than to begin your
day than with an intentional Pause.
New research shows that
outstanding performance is the product of
years of deliberate
practice and coaching, not of any innate talent
or skill. Harvard Business Review,
July 2007, The Making of an Expert, Ericsson et al.
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So, hit that Snooze button, and lie there-awake--
focusing on your breathing, the sounds in the
morning, and how it feels to lie there, quiet, still
alert. When it feels right, sit up to vertical.
Such an early morning Pause can help you
intentionally greet the day, and determine your
mood vs. 'getting up on the wrong side of the
bed.'
Pushing Pause at Work: Snooze Here Too
You can use the "Snooze Technique" here too,
though it'll likely look a bit different.
What do you really do once at work? Use the
space below under ‘Notes’ to record your
reflections to these questions and the ones
below.
Notice your first 3 moves once you get into the
office. Drop the briefcase? Check e-mail? Grab
that first cup of coffee?
Do those actions serve to help you be more
present to the moment, or are you catapulted
into tomorrow before you even get started in
your day?
Regardless of what you actually do in those first 3
moves, you can bring the Snooze Technique in
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by pausing to pay attention to your first 9
minutes, on purpose, observing yourself as you
move through your current routine.
The trick here will be to observe those nine
minutes without judgment. Or, given that our
minds are soooo busy, notice your self-judgments
as you’re observing.
Don’t forget to record your learning below.
Notes: ______________________________________
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Four: Pausing into Presence, Acceptance of ‘What Is’
y slowing down to Pause you interrupt
your own automatic reactions to
whatever life happens to be throwing
your way at any given moment.
By slowing down to Pause you're practicing
collecting yourself, presencing yourself in this very
moment.
It’s only in this moment that you can make
critical, informed decisions and take effective
action.
By slowing down to Pause, you get
yourself on track to renew your central
nervous system, the amazing
psychobiological system you are, that
regulates your energies.
You've likely heard of the 'fight-flight-
freeze' syndrome, the body's built-in,
factory loaded mechanism for dealing
with stress and threat.
Like a zebra on the savannah, once we
perceive a threat, our survival system
kicks into high gear, flood gates open in the
central nervous system, and stress hormones--
adrenaline, cortisol, noradrenaline--begin to
cascade through the body directing us toward
B
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Some think stress
motivates people to perform at
higher levels. This is only true for the first 90 seconds after the shock of a
potential failure. If stress
and fear continue
beyond this threshold, it
will result in a rapid decline
in performance.
Make no mistake. A
brain under stress is
incapable of sustaining
peak performance.
~~~Don Joseph Goewey
actions that provide us safety and connection vs.
certain death (at least that’s how it can feel.).
The result?
You've felt it.
Your heart rate increases, your pupils dilate for
greater visual acuity, your hearing becomes
sharper, and your peripheral awareness
increases as you scan the environment looking
for additional trouble.
Whether you're aware of it or not, your digestion
slows to allow blood flow to your major muscle
groups so you can literally escape the danger at
hand.
Your thinking is momentarily hyper-focused,
overridden by the threat of the moment. Yet in
time, if the threat persists, you’ll become
irrational, overwhelmed, your judgment impaired.
You see, your brain can’t tell if the lion in pursuit is
real or not.
Sounds like a typical day at the office, yes?
Trouble is, unless you’re on safari, you're not likely
out on the savannah fearing the lion's approach.
Instead, you're in the office or the board room, at
a child's soccer game or the PTA with screaming
parents. Your centuries old fight-flight-freeze
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reaction isn't really required in any of those
situations, despite how unpleasant your current
situation may be. And, that old reaction may
actually be hindering your best performance.
The antidote to our body's overreaction--out of
context of a real, life-threatening experience---is
to invoke the relaxation response on purpose.
The fight-flight--freeze syndrome activates the
sympathetic nervous system which acts as the
gas to rev up your system. It cannot, however,
co-exist with the relaxation response. Activating
the parasympathetic nervous system is akin to
putting the brake on your reaction.
And, you guessed it, Pushing Pause allows you to
invoke the relaxation response by paying
attention to yourself, and your sensations, right
now. It allows you to be with ‘what is’ right now. It
allows you to ask yourself, ‘what pace is required
in this situation?’
Pushing Pause allows you to reset, re-calibrate
the stress hormones coursing through our bodies,
re-establish critical thinking, and relax into what
is actually occurring v.s. your fear of what might
be, or could be, occurring. Big difference.
Pause Tip: The quickest way into the moment is
to notice your physical sensations
It’s only in this moment that we
can make critical, informed
decisions and take effective
action.
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There's a portion of your cerebral cortex, called
the insula, that registers the internal sensations in
your body that you're likely not conscious of at
any given moment: balance, motor movements
(think swallowing), eye & hand coordination,
blood pulsing especially during exertion, non-
painful skin sensations like heat/coolness,
language, even empathy and compassion.
In short, this brain function integrates your body's
array of experiences and produces for you an
emotionally relevant context for your sensory
experience.
Three areas to pay attention to, sensation-wise
include: temperature, pressure, movement. Some
examples follow.
You may notice varying temperatures in different
spots in your body e.g. your hands are cold as
you prep for that stress-filled meeting this
afternoon though you're generally warm.
Pressure can take the form of a tightening or
contraction e.g. that stiff neck you've been
noticing has become painful to the point you're
ready to call the massage therapist for an
appointment.
Noticing the pulsing of your blood in your heart or
noticing the stream of your breath at your belly
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are both examples of attending to inner
movement.
Pushing Pause will allow you to tune in to yourself,
on purpose, to turn up the volume on your
awareness, take actions most suited to you in the
moment.
Pushing Pause at Work: From Story To
Sensations
The Director of Marketing in an academic
institution, let's call her Susan, came into our
coaching sessions with stories upon stories of how
the new marketing campaign couldn't possibly
fly, how she didn't feel 'heard' in the executive
meetings where key brand decisions were
discussed, how resources were denied to her
department, etc.
She felt miserable, alternating between being
overwhelmed and being angry at--well,
everyone.
While true that we all live inside of 'stories' and
the ‘what-if's’ of business, it's important to be able
to Push Pause and catch ourselves in the midst of
the juicy story we're currently telling.
As Susan began to Practice Pause, she’d catch
herself in a story, take a breath, step back to
take in more internal and external information.
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First, she learned to tune into her physical
sensations, particularly her breath. Then she
learned to take three deep breaths and direct
her attention, literally, to the soles of her feet.
Next, she’d ask a series of questions. “What was
the context of the meeting?” “What basis in fact
was there for each obstacle (vs. simply her fears
at a campaign or project not going well)?”
“Who else was in the room?” “Was I open to
them and their contribution?” “How did I
actually present myself to be heard?”
Lastly, she could determine how she wanted to
proceed in the discussion and the mood she
wanted to proceed from for the conversation.
Overall, Susan reported feeling more 'in control'
of her Self while engaging with others at work.
Practice: Pause and tune into the current story
you're living n, the one that’s contributing to your
stress. Center yourself first in your sensations and
then shift focus to the realities of the situation vs.
your feelings about the situation. Spend a few
moments reflecting and jot your learning below.
Notes: ______________________________________
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If you're over-stressed, not
attending to the current story you're living
within, it's important to
Pause, center yourself first in
your sensations and then shift focus to the
realities of the situation vs. your feelings about the situation.
A distinction worth noticing.
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Five: Stress to Resiliency
f you've stopped to Pause for the past five
days in a row you're clearly past the mid-point,
and on your way to increased resiliency and
choice.
What have you observed in your five days of
Pausing?
Early on in my career I found I had a problem,
one that shook me up quite a bit, one that
reflected my drive for results. It taught me a lot,
and it increased my resilience.
Let me tell you how. And, remember, I hadn't
learned how to Pause yet.
I'll admit to being driven and self-competitive like
a lot of leaders with ideas about where to go
and how to get there.
I developed a set of painful, irritating, and
embarrassing symptoms: chronic itchy legs. Not
jumpy legs, but itchy legs---itchy to the point of
flaming red bumps that kept me up at night,
scratching (like I said, embarrassing to admit).
These symptoms went on for a few weeks before
I just couldn't stand it any longer. I consulted my
physician.
I
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I was convinced I'd developed an allergy or at
least was having an allergic reaction (both good
guesses, by the way, but wrong) even though I
could think of nothing---nothing physical---that
was different in those few weeks.
After conducting a series of allergy tests---
thankfully I wasn't allergic to anything--the doctor
concluded that I was suffering from the effects of
chronic stress. Her diagnosis? Contact dermatitis.
Ha!
I was not happy, convinced she was wrong!
You see, I was decidedly not stressed---at least
that was the story I told myself anyway! And,
while the good doctor recommended a stress
management program, which I thought was
absurd (I was then teaching such a course at a
large financial house!), I went my way, filling the
benadryl prescription, but not addressing the
stress.
It took the bumps a few months to clear up, and
all the while I was befuddled at my doctor’s
recommendation.
Hindsight being what it is, I could later 'see' that
working two jobs, while completing an
advanced degree, and moving to a new home
just a few weeks before had placed me high on
the stress scale.
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However, I couldn't 'see' it because I:
a) didn't want to view myself as stressed out;
b) believed that hard work and extra hours--for a
good cause no less--would prevail (I was quite
attached to my belief about hard work which, of
course, contributed to my stress. More on mindset
shortly);
c) hadn't taken time to pause to really reflect on
what my body clearly knew to be true: I was
indeed stressed and my body needed more
attention from me.
Pause Tip: Learn Your Own Stress
Symptoms
Learn your own stress symptoms, those you keep
overriding and that keep you from pausing in the
moment to really notice what's really occurring.
As you Practice Pausing today, tense and then
relax different muscles of your body, one by one.
Tense and hold each for 5-10 seconds, feeling
into your sensations, before moving on.
Begin with your face, move down your shoulders
and out to your arms and hands. Then expand
your awareness and move down your torso and
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ribs, then notice your butt in the chair, and on
down to your thighs, knees, calves, your feet.
When we're stressed we tend either to get way
out ahead of ourselves, or stuck in a past
situation, ruminating.
And, if we're not yet in the Practice of Pausing to
really pay attention to what's actually occurring
in this very moment, we miss all kinds of
opportunities, not the least of which is to
enhance our leadership in life by being more
consistently in the moment.
At the end of Practicing Pause today, check out
yourself in these domains: physical, mental,
emotional, and action.
Do this without judgment, simply noticing your
stress symptoms like you'd notice the time on your
wristwatch-with detached awareness.
Are you tired, in pain, hungry? Any particular
physical bugaboos showing up e.g. shoulder
pain, headaches, GI issues, sleeping
disturbances?
What's the tenor of your self-thoughts? Moving
towards a Relaxation Response, or beating you
up, sounding like, "I should've . . . known, I was
such a knucklehead"?
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How's your decision-making today? Impulsive,
thoughtful, numbed out?
What mood are you in now? Crabby, rushed,
calm, anxious, optimistic? How long's your fuse
just now?
Are you pushing too hard, ready to give up,
procrastinating, moving along at just the right
pace?
Push Pause at Work: Re-Align, Re-Set, Re-
Start
Reflect for a moment about those times
you wished you'd Paused, or maybe
noticing how you act when you're having
'a really bad day.'
Are you short with people? Do you go for
a coffee? Maybe a sweet? Do you get
brain fog, synapses moving slowly, maybe
troubled with forgetfulness and not
accessing the details you need?
Jim, a CEO client of mine in a round-the-
clock, highly regulated business, had no
idea that symptoms of stress were
catching up with him. He simply wasn't pausing
to notice.
He spent 14 hours a day at work never leaving
before 7 p.m. He'd gained over 65 pounds in the
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past year. He barked at his employees--which he
hated himself for--yet was left wondering why no
one listened to him.
Once he Paused and took a self-inventory he
was shocked! He noticed that he subsisted on a
diet of high fat foods, always felt tired (of
course!), and that his anger at a former business
partner had spilled over to his employees.
Quickly he determined to pay attention to
himself in a different way, re-aligning with what
was important to him. He re-set and shifted a few
key behaviors, like leaving work at 5 p.m. and
beginning the day with a protein breakfast so he
could have more energy. And, he re-started on
his commitment to what mattered most to him.
His efforts proved successful.
Practice: Observe all your stress 'symptoms,'
listing them on a sticky note or a brightly colored
3x5 card. Post them in a prominent place where
you'll see them during the day. Look at the list
every day for a week. Jot what you’re observing
in the ‘Notes’ below.
Then, when you observe a symptom popping up
(or a cluster, since they often occur together)
and notice you're less productive, maybe caught
up in the Sacrifice Syndrome mentioned earlier,
Pause (no you're not wasting time, merely re-
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setting your meter), re-align with yourself and
your body, re-set your intentions on what’s really
true for you in this moment, and re-start again,
moving toward what’s important to you.
Repeat this awareness practice over the
upcoming weeks, allotting time for brief pauses
to reflect. Jot your learnings below.
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Chapter Six: Noticing Your Breathing
oday when you Push Pause, notice your
breathing.
Most people look at me funny when I ask
them to pay attention to their breathing. Yes, if
you're reading this you're breathing, so, you
might ask, what
could be so
important about
paying attention to
your breathing?
You might think that
all breath is the
same--what most of
us think--until we pay
attention to our
breathing.
By nature's design, healthy breathing is circular
and flowing, much like the ebb and flow of a
wave as it moves in and then out from the
shoreline.
The Pause lives at the resting phase of the in and
out breath; Pause can be called "a point of
stillness."
When we bring our full attention to the Pause
we're sending a signal to our central nervous
T
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system that it can rest, thereby eliciting the
relaxation response mentioned earlier.
Pauses that last less than 3 seconds invite fatigue
and distressing stress. Such a short pause rate
can correlate with anxiety panic attacks, heart
conditions, high blood pressure, weight problems,
being chronically stressed out, and Type A, driven
personality.
No Pause, no rest. With too short a pause, your
body never really rests, not even while sleeping.
Elsa Gindler, a German gymnastics teacher and
somaticist in the early 20th century--and a
pioneer on the importance of breath to the
body---learned this early in life.
She healed herself from an attack of tuberculosis
by concentrating her attention on breathing with
her healthy lung while resting her diseased lung.
She tells us that the Pause is "the vital preparation
for what is to follow."
What follows from a Pause?
When we're racing around the office at
breakneck speed, not pausing to reflect and
renew, our breathing will shift and begin to
reflect our actions.
This can result in all sorts of mischief over time,
with over 200 physical conditions and disease
Pause is the vital
preparation for what is to follow.
~~Elsa Gindler
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processes related to incorrect breathing. Dr.
Andrew Weil states that "Improper breathing is a
common cause of ill health."
Findings from a 30-year longitudinal study of over
5,200-people, reveal that one's pulmonary
function measure (how well you’re breathing) is
an indicator of general health, vigor and literally
impacts your potential life span.
Five facts about breathing that you should know:
o Shallow breathing is harmful to your body.
o Shallow breathing goes hand-in-hand with
experiencing negative emotions.
o Deep belly breathing balances out your
acid/alkaline ratio.
o Laughter engages healthy breathing (it's fun
too!)
o Deep breathing can lower your blood
pressure.
Pause Tip
Pause, inhale in through your nose, exhale out
through your mouth. Pay close attention to the
Pause that lives between the in-breath and out-
breath.
Linger there a moment observing your
experience.
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Ø More tense? More relaxed?
Ø What was the cadence of that breath?
Ø Was the breath shallow or deep?
Ø What parts of your body were involved in
breathing?
Next, as you breathe in, then out, elongate your
exhalation. Breathe in on a 5 count, out on a 7
count. Repeat this 3 or 4 times, and then let
breath simply happen.
Reflect on what you observed in your breathing.
Now this time breathe shallowly on purpose, from
the top of your chest cavity, not allowing a deep,
full inhalation.
Notice the effects on you when you do this.
Ø Feel light-headed? Faint?
Ø A bit of anxiety in the chest?
Ø Notice any so-called negative emotions
arise?
Lastly, go back and repeat the 5/7 count again,
breathing in through your nose, out through your
mouth three or four times.
Then, go ahead and allow breath to simply
happen, though keep your attention on your
breath at your belly. Keep observing your breath
and returning to it when you get distracted.
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Our breathing not only connects us with the
outer world, but it also connects and aligns our
body, mind, emotions, and spirit.
Our breath will always show us, if we can be
receptive to it, the various forces acting on us in
the moment.
Attending to our breathing can even show us
where the sticky, uninvited experiences and
emotions—those we don’t want to face—live
and resonate in our bodies.
First, by following our breathing we can stabilize
and strengthen our inner attention.
Second, our breathing reflects everything else
that is occurring in and around us, thus proving a
powerful tool of self-observation.
Jot your learnings from this Pause Tip in the
‘Notes’ below.
Pushing Pause at Work: It’s the Small Stuff
By definition, Sean is a busy guy as VP of
Operations in a professional services firm. Each
week for eight weeks he chose to focus his
attention, to Pause, and breathe during a
mundane daily task (before you open your office
door, as you step into your car, you get the idea)
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to see if he could really incorporate Pausing into
his full schedule.
For example, for a couple of weeks he chose to
stop and Pause, and take a deep full breath just
prior to answering his ringing phone v.s.
immediately picking it up while still working on
the document in front of him.
He was amazed!
After consistently practicing he reported two
things: it was hard to remember to stop as he
was so practiced at automatically grabbing up
the phone.
Yet, when he did so he realized that Pausing, and
breathing on purpose, actually increased his
attention to the caller and to that space in
between inhalation and exhalation. He reported
being more clear-headed in response to his
caller’s concerns.
Though it sounds like a small step--and it is—
Sean’s consistency in this practice opened up an
awareness that he, himself, could slow down his
day and improve his listening, simply by Pausing
to breathe!
Practice: Pick a mundane task—answering the
phone, opening your office door, opening your
mail, etc—and bring attention to Pausing before
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you complete the task. Notice what occurs for
your as you intentionally slow down your actions.
Jot your learnings down in the ‘Notes’ below.
Notes: ______________________________________
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Seven: Energy Bodies & Walking
e are energies bodies. We measure
energies in blood pressure, heart
rates, and pulmonary output to
name a few. How we manage our
energies, not our time, will
determine how well we'll perform.
Jim Loehr, principal at LGE
Performance Systems and author of
The Power of Full Engagement,
reminds us of a few key points about
energy:
1) Energy diminishes both with
overuse and underuse, requiring a
balance between energy
expenditure and energy renewal.
2) Increasing our energy, building
W
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our capacity, requires that we commit to pushing
beyond our limits, much like elite athletes.
3) The key to sustained high performance is
contained in positive energy rituals, or what I've
been calling 'developing new practices' toward
what matters most to you.
Pausing allows us to notice, with directed
attention, that our bodies are a great source of
wisdom that can guide us into the next moment
if we listen.
Pause Tip: Take a Walk
As you Pause today, take it outside and walk.
Walk around the block, feel your head clear as
you take a deep breath, feel your breath at your
belly, breathing in through your nose, out through
your mouth. Walking as practice.
As leaders, with so much to do, it's easy to get
caught moving through our days with our
attention always focused on the next task at
hand. This can look like head down, laser
attention, squinty eyes.
A part of the brain, the cerebellum, coordinates
the integration of movement, emotion, and
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action. It gets activated when we move, when
we walk.
What would happen if you lifted your head up,
took another deep breath, relaxed your
shoulders and jaw, softened your eyes as you
walked?
What if you shift from a focused attention to a
wide-angle view, taking in more of your
environment?
How much of life are you missing when you're not
pausing to notice?
Or, when you do stop to Pause, where do you
most notice your energies inside of your own
skin? around you? in the environment?
Taking another breath, notice what incoming
information from your senses emerges.
Pushing Pause at Work: From Busyness to
Center
After a few moments of Pausing today, recall a
typical busy day for you, for what I call the
‘Busyness Practice.’
Turn up the volume on the busyness—notice
what keeps you moving soooo fast.
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What time is it? What are you doing? Are you at
work? At home? Who's there with you?
Notice how you’re talking to yourself. What are
you saying to yourself?
Now let go of all the stories in your mind . . . and
tune in to your body’s energy, noticing what and
where you sense it inside yourself.
What’s the quality of your energy like right now?
Are there butterflies in your stomach? Tightness in
your chest? Are you at ease? Tense?
Stay with whatever arises for a time and notice all
that's going on inside of your own experience
without judging yourself.
Of course, emotions may arise, so allow them to
rise, crest, dissipate naturally, without fighting
them.
Simply observe your thoughts, your sensations,
your emotions without any judgment as to
whether they're good or bad.
What matters is your willingness to be aware and
stay present to your experiences.
At a workshop for leaders in health care,
attendees were asked to focus their attention to
their own ‘busyness.’ Common feelings evoked in
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this 'busyness' practice included anxiety, fear,
sadness, grief, loneliness, and anger.
Practice: Can you shift from thinking about the
length of your to-do list and how busy you are,
which reinforces staying your head, and drop
your attention down into your heart?
From there can you drop down into your belly to
feel the emotional and sensory reality of busyness
in your body?
If you're willing to do that, to Pause and follow
your sensations here, a space outside of time
can open for you.
From there you can
use your felt
experience of
sensations and
emotions to do the
work of informing,
energizing, and
motivating you to live
your life in alignment
with what matters most
to you in work and life.
Of course, we often
'stay busy' as a
distraction from
unpleasant emotions, facts of the matter, and
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those dirty details of life from coming up too
strong.
It takes courage to face our experiences,
especially if unpleasant.
As you Pause you may notice opportunities to
address matters you long thought were
complete.
Or, you may 'see' difficult choices to that you
need to face into (remember my story of 'not
being stressed?!)
Observe how much energy can you free up by
noticing and addressing what needs to be
addressed.
Jot your learnings in the ‘Notes’ below.
Notes: ______________________________________
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Eight: Triggers, Pacing & Choice
ou've stopped to Pause and noticed your
breathing. You've stopped to Pause and
notice your stress symptoms. Today, stop
to Pause and pay attention to your triggers.
You know, those 'things' that tick you off, set off a
domino effect of stresses and stories. Those things
that trigger you and take you away from
whatever's present in this moment.
We all have triggers. The
trick is to know them,
catch them, re-center
yourself and your energies,
Y
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To move
faster
slow
down
and re-direct the traffic of your day.
Do you fill your days completely, schedule
meetings back to back, squeezing every last
minute out of your day?
Many of us do, to our detriment.
We live in such a Type A culture. We drive hard,
we drive fast, we drive with a sole focus on
performance that it's easy to get caught up in
the vortex of busyness we call business.
At this point, of course, our breathing shifts, our
muscles tense, we quit noticing what's around us.
We run on empty.
However, it doesn't have to be this way.
Living in this culture we tend to think we must be
faster (read: beat the 'competition'), smarter
(read: be the 'expert' in our field), better (read:
better than the other guy).
Yet, it just isn't so. None of this drive, drive, drive is
sustainable on a day-to-day basis.
By Pausing to notice what's going on inside
yourself, around you with your team members or
colleagues, in the larger community of your
marketplace you'll begin to see some different
truths.
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To move faster you actually have to slow down.
To be smarter you'll have to be open to learning
and inquiring about those around you including
your people, your customers.
To be better you'll want to shift your personal
focus to that wide-angle view and give back to
those who support you.
To begin, however, you'll need an accurate view
of yourself, noticing just what triggers take you
out of this moment and catapult you into
cerebral craziness of Type A thinking: “I must be
faster, smarter, better.”
Pause Tip: By Pausing We Self-Correct
By Pausing, we can self-correct, downshift our
pace, and move more effectively through our
lives.
Slow down on purpose today. Pause and bring to
mind one of your triggers and the underlying
belief that supports it.
Listed below are a few common triggering
beliefs.
Ø I need to be 'right'
Ø What’s the right way to do X?
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Ø I can’t afford to lose face.
Ø I’ll be 'found out if I speak up.'
Ø I’ll be hurt if I say anything.
Ø Something bad will happen or I’ll
lose something or someone important.
Turn up the dial on the trigger, noticing both your
sensations and your emotions as you do so.
What are they? When and where do they show
up most frequently?
What beliefs drive your triggers?
On purpose, allow yourself to let the rising
energy of the trigger dissipate by using your
breath to do this. Reflect on what your learning is
teaching you. Jot your learning in the ‘Notes’
below.
Notes: ______________________________________
____________________________________________
____________________________________________
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Pushing Pause at Work
Derek, general manager at a global
environmental company, is mentally quick,
likeable, focused, action-oriented, and has a
hair-trigger temper, reacting quickly to almost all
incoming information!
His colleagues and direct reports called him
'defensive.' This accurate truth kept Derek
moving at too quick a pace, kept him from being
an optimal performer.
In coaching Derek over an 9-
month period we focused on
pace by first recognizing his own
triggers.
Derek needed to slow down in
order 'see' what was going on
around him vs. simply reacting to
each moment as if everything
was a crisis.
We began with a simple
exercise: He paused to notice his
triggers, observing the common belief among
each of them.
Two beliefs 'drove' his reactions.
1) ‘There's a right way to do this.'
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1) ‘I have to work hard—always.’
These beliefs drove his body—he was chronically
tensed, to the point of exhaustion. They drove his
emotions—he was consistently impatient and
irritable. They drove his actions—he was hard
driving both with himself and his direct reports.
By tuning into his triggers, Derek recognized his
exhaustion, how he contributed to it, how it
fueled his defensiveness. A relief to know!
By practicing Pause three (3) times a day,
keeping his triggers in sight, Derek could then
choose to 'let go' of his triggered reaction---in
that moment---pace himself, and to do
something else that was more effective, efficient,
on target.
Derek learned to slow down.
Within a few months his colleagues and direct
reports were noticing a difference. He smiled
more. He engaged them with questions more
readily. He incorporated their ideas about where
best to move the business. He reported 'feeling
more clear- headed, better.'
He was on track to be faster, smarter, better. On
track for optimal performance.
How about you?
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Practice: Pause for a few moments. Bring to
mind a situation that triggers you. Observe your
body’s reactions as you simply recall your own
reactions. How’s your breath, now? How would
pacing help you here?
Jot your learnings in the ‘Notes’ below.
Notes: ______________________________________
____________________________________________
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Nine: Your Mindset, Fixed or Growth?
Our world is rapidly changing. To
engage in what some have
labelled a ‘VUCA world’--volatile
uncertain, complex and
ambiguous--requires agility,
nimbleness, a willingness to ‘not
know’ or ‘be attached’ to set
outcomes while still setting goals.
Such a stance will enable us to
shift gears quickly and efficiently in
response to changing circumstances.
One of most important reasons for knowing our
triggers (beyond managing them more
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effectively) is that they reflect our existing
mindset for dealing with this increasing
turbulence, or what the Center for Creative
Leadership has called “perpetual whitewater.”
Surprisingly, triggers can serve as a hidden
doorway into the values and beliefs that
comprise our mindset, and ultimately our identity.
At the threshold to a deeper understanding of
ourselves as leaders, triggers can propel us
through the doorway to new learning, despite
not always being pleasant. Especially important
for those of us attempting to lead in today’s
world.
You likely know this to be true.
Psychologist, Carol Dweck, a well-known
psychologist at Stanford, has been studying the
phenomenon of mindset for years.
She’s found that regardless of the baseline ability
Mother Nature happened to bestow on any one
of us, nurture (effort and attitude) can produce
extraordinary gains in ability.
With a ‘fixed’ or acquired mindset, we tend to
believe that our basic qualities, like intelligence
or talent, are fixed traits. And as a result, we can
spend lots of time documenting our smarts and
talents instead of developing them.
A growth mindset
transforms and expands our mind itself by stretching it,
challenging it, and evolving to
a more expansive level
complexity.
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This fixed mindset also sets us up to believe that
our innate talent alone creates success—without
much effort. Not so much.
A more fluid, or ‘growth’ mindset allows that our
most basic abilities can be developed through
dedication and hard work, with good brains and
talent-out-of-the-box simply serving as the
starting point. This mindset creates an engaged
love of learning that results in the resiliency
essential for great accomplishments.
Unlike a fixed mindset, which just acquires and
adds new knowledge to an already existing way
of making sense of the world (without changing
any of our
underlying
fundamental
assumptions), a
growth mindset
transforms and
expands our mind
itself by stretching it,
challenging it, and
evolving to a more
expansive level
complexity.
Like an athlete who knows the burn of pushing his
muscles to make them stronger, the leader who
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The illiterate of the future
are not those who
cannot read and write, but those that
cannot learn,
unlearn, and re-learn.
~~Alvin Toffler
trains and grows her mind also knows the
discomfort of stretching beyond her mental,
emotional and embodied limits.
Contrary to popular opinion, as we develop over
the course of our careers, we don’t tend to
become more adept or proficient but rather less
so, despite our experience and ‘expertise.’
This notion on first blush seems counterintuitive.
Yet, research by Anders Ericsson and his
colleagues, who study performance across in a
wide variety of fields--from the arts to the
sciences, athletics, and music--found that gifted
performers are almost always made, not born.
Seems that the journey to excellent performance
requires passionate commitment, a dash of
struggle and sacrifice, topped off with the
honesty of grounded assessments that come
from wise coaches and mentors.
Yet, how you view learning e.g. acquired and
fixed, or fluid and adaptive, will impact the ease
of working with new information and varying
circumstances. Do you become overly stressed
out and triggered, or able to handle new events
with ease?
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Willingness to learn, and to challenge your
mindset will impact your choices and your
practices.
Surfacing your mindset via the doorway of
triggers allows greater self-awareness and growth
to occur. Then you can employ those practices
designed to improve your competencies through
ongoing efforts and experiences, regular
feedback, and deep learning.
Pause Practice: Triggers Open Door to Mindset
Pause for a moment, and breathe slowly for a bit,
settling yourself.
Recall a situation where you were triggered. A
situation where your automatic reaction to stress
or threat showed up, maybe in spades.
Allow the recollection to be as clear as possible
(again this may not be comfortable—simply
notice without judgment).
While we’re in the middle of reacting to a trigger
it’s likely, whether we’re aware of it or not, that
some internal line was inadvertently, or even
purposefully, crossed.
Reflect for a few moments on the sensations of
your triggered reaction. Keep breathing.
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Tune into the value that the trigger surfaced for
you. What’s the belief about how things ‘should
be’ that showed up? Jot your learning in ‘Notes’
below.
Notes: _________________________________________
_______________________________________________
_______________________________________________
Ten: Self-Leadership
You're nearing the home stretch with The
Leadership Pause.
By now you're likely noticing an internal shift in
your awareness, maybe even observing that your
mood is a bit lighter, your mental faculties more
on point.
And while you knew that stress was working on
you, you may be amazed at just how much
calmer and energized you are as you've been
involved in the challenge and Practice of
Pausing each day.
All of this by practicing a simple Pause.
Stopping to pause allows us to take note of
ourselves (our sensing, feeling, thinking selves)
and the environment around us (people,
situations, landscape).
Stopping to pause allows
us to take note of
ourselves, others and
the environment around us.
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As a leader, the more keenly attuned you are to
your 'lived' experience, to 'what's important?' and
to your Self, the more effective you'll be in
moving your work forward.
As a leader, your primary source of power - what
makes others really want
to follow you - comes not
from your position or rank,
but from those qualities
that enable you to
connect, inspire, and
engage others toward
effective action.
As a leader, you've
begun a practice in
Pausing that will allow
you greater access to
your energies, focused mental acuity, more joy in
your life at work and home as you focus on what
matters most.
Pushing Pause at Work: Catching Yourself
While implementing a large-scale leadership
coaching initiative, a training colleague, Todd,
humorously stated, "you have to catch yourself
being yourself to move toward what you want in
life."
Catch yourself being yourself. Really!
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I don't know about you, but catching myself
being myself hasn't always been a great time,
especially as a leader!
And, you can't do without stopping to Pause.
As you pause to catch yourself, you'll inevitably
notice what you're practicing, your habits of
mind, mood, and action that make you, well,
you!
To pause and catch yourself
can stir a bit of discomfort
and questions:
Can I admit to foibles in my
leadership?
What impact will it have if I
admit to 'not knowing' e.g.
what to do, when to do it,
how to go about it, etc?
Can vulnerability help or hurt me, my team, my
network, my organization over all?
What do I do with the emotions that get stirred
inside of me?
Pause Tip
As you've been stopping to Pause, noticing your
own experiences, listening both internally to your
own intuition, and externally to those around you,
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you've likely become more skillful in attuning to
the following three behaviors. Check in with
yourself with the following questions:
1) Self-Correction--Once you've caught yourself
becoming reactive or being unaware of the
situation around you, can you more easily stop,
pause, and correct your responses to be in line
with your values?
2) Self-Acceptance--In catching yourself, can
you also offer yourself acceptance, that
experience of 'yes, this is me, this is what I do,
particularly under stress' and offer yourself good
will?
3) Self-Generation--In doing the above, have
you developed a greater capacity to generate
energy in the form of new ideas, new possibilities,
new actions toward what's most important to
you? Hope so. We call that resilience.
Pause. Reflect. Notice what comes up for you
across your entire experience of sensations,
thoughts, feelings. Jot your learning below in
‘Notes.’
Notes: _______________________________________
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
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Life is a dash.
Pause in the
present.
Enjoy this moment.
~~ J.R. Rim
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Conclusion
Congratulations! You’ve completed The
Leadership Pause.
At the outset of this work together, I shared my
belief that leading well--on point, with care, in
collaboration with others---requires a balance
between reflection and action to be effective,
powerful, impactful.
By now you’ve learned a bit about the
importance of Pausing, and how deliberately
practicing Pause strengthens your attentional
muscle, the one that underlies your potential as a
leader.
You’ve likely had at least a glimpse into your own
signature automatic reactions: your thinking
patterns, your emotional reactions, your bodily
responses, your actions.
This expanded awareness will serve you well in
the days ahead on your leadership journey.
Review the benefits of Pause below.
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Pausing strengthens
our resilience to life’s
stresses & challenges,
creating learning amidst
triggers.
Benefits of Pause
Ø Pausing interrupts automatic, typically
out-of-awareness thoughts, feelings &
behaviors to allow for reflection.
Ø Pausing allows us to
juggle our life commitments with greater
agility & ease.
Ø Pausing opens up the
possibility to experience the
extraordinary in each moment.
Ø Pausing expands our
awareness to 360°: we experience others
& the environment more fully.
Ø Pausing sets the stage for conversations
that matter.
Ø Pausing strengthens our resilience to life’s
stresses & challenges, creating learning
amidst triggers.
Ø Pausing allows breath to do the job of
keeping us healthy.
Ø Pausing catalyzes our energies—
physical, mental, emotional, relational--
so we can get the most out of each
day.
Ø Pausing creates opportunities for
learning, pacing & choice.
Ø Pausing creates your Core Presence.
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As you move ahead, knowing these benefits of
pausing, I’d encourage you to deliberately
commit and continue your Pause practice each
day, integrating it into your daily life.
Check out the Q4 website where I invite you to
share your Pause experiences on our blog, and
to keep abreast of new course offerings
designed to deepen your leadership presence.
All the best to you as you cultivate your
Leadership Pause.