The Ethics of Coaching and Mentoring

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Česko-anglické gymnázium České Budějovice

Renata LukášováBoard member Anthony Achmat

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How do you build trust?

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Ways to build trust

ListenWear their shoesKeep CommitmentsApologizeDo the little things

Trust can look like this!

To Hear vs. To ListenWhat is the difference?

To listen in Chinese symbols

What is Coaching and Mentoring?

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Coaching and Mentoring

Coaching and Mentoring are processes that help individuals achieve their full potential.

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Differences between Mentoring and Coaching

Focus Individual PerformanceRole Facilitator with no agenda Specific agendaRelationship Self selecting Comes with the jobSource of influence

Perceived value Position

Personal returns Affirmation/learning Teamwork/performanceArena Life Task related

Mentor Coach

Where do you find a Coach or Mentor?

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Real life Organization

ImmediateFamily

CloseFamily

ExtendedFamily

Society You

Mentoring"off-line help by one person to another in

making significant transitions in knowledge, work or thinking"

History

Who can be a mentor?Anyone! It depends…

“Mentoring is a brain to pick, an ear to listen, and a push in the right direction.” John C. Crosby

So, again…

Who can be a mentor?

Choosing my Mentor• Be clear on why you want a mentor.• Define your personality and communication style.• Explain why you’re asking and what you’d expect.• Choose a mentor you truly respect.• Ask for input on a single specific topic.• Look for ways you can reciprocate.• Show gratitude.• Think beyond former bosses and professors.• Mentoring can take many forms.• This is your path, not theirs.• Don’t become too dependent on your mentor. • Have more than one mentor.• Good mentors are very busy people.

Who can be a mentee?The best mentees are those who:

• Want to proactively advance in their careers

• Want to proactively look at their strengths, weaknesses and opportunities for improvement

• Are willing to share their mistakes and failures in order to learn from them

• Are willing to listen to the advice of others and act upon it

• Can be honest with themselves and introspective

• Have the ability to hold themselves accountable and be self-disciplined

• Are open to new ideas and opinions

• Have a good sense of humor with the ability to take situations seriously but be able to laugh at themselves

"If you don't like something change it. If you can't change it, change your

attitude. Don't complain."Maya Angelou

Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.

Chinese proverb

Do not wait for leaders; do it alone, person to person. Mother Teresa

Coaching“Is a process that enables learning and

development to occur and thus performance to improve”.

Why Coaching?

• The relationship skills learned through coaching benefit relationships throughout the organization.

• The learning that results from coaching creates value for the entire organization.

Coaching focuses on...The person and their roll in the

organisation

Psychological, person oriented coaching

Five right attitudes of a Coach

Coach

Esteem

Empathy

TrustClarity

Interest

The toolbox of a Coach

Toolbox• Clarity about the role / when to choose the role• 6 steps of a coaching process• Active listening• Effective questions • Feedback• Work solution oriented

Six Step Model for Coaching

What excuse do you have?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hnsz8Uc3enE

Watch this…

Do you have any questions?

Thank you.