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CONTRIBUTING WRITERSNastassia Czarnec

Lori Samples DuncanSusan GernhartDiana Holmes

Caroline JorgensenLisea Julien

Barbara LoFrisco, M.ARo MartinezMandy Rivers

Annette SaldanaToni Sloman

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DESIGN Melissa W. Morris

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Mom Time 10 Meet Shari Mezrah – Mom, Wife, Entrepreneur, and Author

13 Women’s Day, Your Way

14 Making Yourself a Priority

Inspiration 16 Jordan Driggers – An Extraordinary Gift

Fashion 20 Vintage Clothing is Never Out of Style!

Health & Wellness 24 Answering the Call in Your Heart for an Exceptional Life

25 A Great Summer Workout for Mom

26 Skin Talk with Toni

Business & Web Directory 27 Contact our advertisers

Personal Note 28 The Emotional Rollercoaster of Motherhood

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From the Editor 2 Summer is Here!

Events 3 What’s Happening in Tampa?

Let’s Talk 4 A Favorite Recipe: Grilled Chipotle Shrimp

5 Hillsborough County Teacher of the Year – Cynthia Crim

6 Stress in Our Schools: An Eye-opening Education for Adults

8 Hurricane Preparedness Tips

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t’s summertime in beautiful Tampa and life is good. Often when I look at a sunset or a beautiful sunny day, it’s like a love letter from God. He paints us a

picture every morning and every night and signs it, “I love you.”

I don’t want to ever take for granted all the many blessings he has given us here in America. As Memorial Day and Fourth of July approaches, it seems fitting to give thanks for the freedoms we enjoy and all those who gave their lives to ensure we continue to possess those freedoms. If you are a service man or woman we would love to tell your story. Visit www.tampawomanonline.com and submit your entry. All winners will be featured in an upcoming issue of Tampa Woman.

I hope you enjoy our first Summer issue of Tampa Woman. It is our goal to make each issue better than the last! We have filled our events page with fun things for you that support a worthy cause. Don’t miss our special feature on Jordan Driggers, and join us for the “Pour for the Cure” event on June 2nd at Grapes and Grains. We are all blessed, and when you can, make it a point to do something for someone else.

We have included a special vintage fashion feature. We also had the privilege of featuring “A Teacher of The Year” – what a special breed of men and women teachers are! They shape the young impressionable minds of our children, and sometimes it is a thankless job. We are proud to celebrate Cynthia Crim with you!

Our Survivor section will be returning next issue with an inspiring story of a local “Thriving Survivor!” What amazes me about these women is how they reach out to others who are going through similar trials. It doesn’t matter if it’s cancer or domestic violence, they use their experience to help others heal. That is what it is all about – paying it forward! If you or someone you know is a local survivor, please email us at [email protected]. We would love to feature you in Tampa Woman!

Visit us online at www.tampawomanonline.com for recent photo shoots and summer give-a-ways. You can “like” us on facebook and possibly win a subscription to your home! Our advertisers make Tampa Woman possible, and they have committed to bringing you quality products, services, and customer service. Don’t forget to tell them where you heard about them.

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Psalm 103Bless the Lord, O my soul, And forget not all His benefits.

Happy Memorial Day and 4th of July!

Don’t forget to thankall of our wonderful

service menand women.


What’s Happening in Tampa?

Women To Women Panel EventMay 24, 6 p.m. Bardmoor Outpatient Center Medical Arts BuildingBayCare Health System invites you to participate in an open discussion with a panel of physicians and clinical special-ists. The panel of women physicians will be answering questions about health and wellness. Baycare Health System is cur-rently hosting a series of free programs that focus on women’s health and well-ness issues. To register for the panel event or to find other events offered during the month of May, visit their website.www.baycare.org

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family at Grapes and Grains Wine Bar to help make a difference in the lives of those with Cystic Fibrosis. Ticket price is $25. To order tickets online, visit www.pour4thecure.com. Tickets will also be available at Grapes and Grains prior to the event and at the door during the fundraiser. Please join us for light appe-tizers and wine for a good cause.www.pour4thecure.com

Fashion on the PierJune 4, 6–9 p.m. St. Pete Pier BallroomMake plans to attend the first-ever Lo-calShops1 Fashion Show at the beautiful third-floor ballroom of the St. Petersburg Pier. This elegant evening affair will fea-ture what’s new and trendy in Tampa Bay: fashions from Designers Consigner and hairstyles from VLVT Salon. The event will also feature a Shopper’s Ba-zaar, free appetizers and a cash bar

with plenty of drink specials. Fashion on the Pier benefits the Warren Backpack Project, which helps feed low-income children.www.localshops1.com

Father’s Day WeekendJune 18–19, 9:30 a.m.–5 p.m. Lowry Park Zoo The Zoo is wild about dads – bring yours for free! In honor of Father’s Day, dads receive free admission on Saturday, June 18 or Sunday, June 19 with the purchase of their son’s or daughter’s full-priced admission ticket (son or daughter can be adult or child ages 3-11). For dads to re-ceive free ticket offer, the son’s or daugh-ter’s paid ticket must be purchased on June 18 or 19 only. Offer not combinable with other discounts. Visit their website to find out more information on this and other summer events.www.LowryParkZoo.com

7th Annual Vino, Java& Jazz To benefit Easter SealsAugust 13, 7–11 p.m.The Florida AquariumThis event is the most awesome indoor food and wine event in town and will feature musical acts from around Tampa Bay. It’s an evening of samplings of wines, specialty dishes, coffee and desserts from many of Tampa’s greatest restaurants, wine distributors and coffee houses. We are also the best place in town to see and hear your favorite local bands! Tickets may be purchased by calling (813) 769-5923 or through the website below. Ad-vance tickets are $75, and if bought on the day of the event, they are $95.www.fl.easterseals.com

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by MandyRivers

Grilled CHIPOTLE SHRIMP

Cilantro-Lime Cream Sauce1 cup sour cream⅓ cup chopped fresh cilantro2 large garlic cloves, minced¼ teaspoon saltZest from 1 lime Combine all ingredients, and stir well with a whisk. Cover sauce, and chill. Serve as dipping sauce with Grilled Chipotle Shrimp.

Chipotle Grilled Shrimp2 pounds large shrimp, peeled (tails on)¼ cup brown sugar6 cloves garlic, smashed2 chipotle chili peppers, seeded and minced4 tablespoons adobo sauce¼ teaspoon saltJuice of one lime1 tablespoon olive oil

Mix brown sugar and next six ingredients in a small sauce pan; cook over low heat for 5 min-utes. Remove from heat to cool. Add sauce and shrimp to a zip-top bag and mar-inate for 4-6 hours. Remove shrimp from sauce and place on skewers. Grill over medium-low heat 2-3 minutes on each side or until shrimp are pink. Garnish with fresh chopped cilantro and serve with Cilantro-Lime Cream Sauce.


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Cynthia Crim was named Hillsborough Coun-ty’s 2011 Teacher of the Year for her hard work and dedication to her profession as a Math Resource teacher at Palm River Elementary school.

“There are so many wonderful teachers in our district and I didn’t think in a million years I would have been selected for this great honor. All I do know is that as a product of the Hills-borough County School System, I am dedicated to our district and am proud to be a part of one of the Nation’s leaders in education,” she said.

She started teaching grades K thru 5, 7 years ago at Palm River, and has given it her all since day one. As a Math Trainer for the district, she received the Hillsborough County Elementary Mathematics Council’s P.R.I.S.M award for her leadership in mathematics.

She said that she knows how children can be-come turned off by math, so through creative learning she strives to make it a fun experience for each and every student. To keep students engaged she utilizes the school garden for ac-tivities, shows students how math is used in the media, and she also has students create a school-wide campaign to tell a company how much they love math and why they should promote math in their advertisements. The result of the campaign is a ten minute video compiled by the students to advocate for math in the media.

Cynthia believes that teaching is not just about making a connection with students while they’re in school, but also extending that con-nection with family members and peers.

“[Students] need to be cared for and loved. Once they know they are respected, they are willing to work hard and open up to what you are teaching,” Cynthia said.

Her inspiration and motivation comes from her parents and her brother. Growing up in a lov-ing household, Cynthia said her family taught her the importance of responsibility and hard work. However, it was her Aunt Melody Mur-phy who inspired her teaching career. As a teacher, Melody planted the seed for Cynthia by allowing her to volunteer in the classroom

as a teenager. It was then when Cynthia developed her love for teaching others.

“We have to believe there is a greater purpose that calls us to teaching. We are blessed to get to touch so many lives. We get to shape lives and mold children to be successful, intelligent and productive citizens of society,” Cynthia said.

Aside from teaching, Cynthia dedicates her time to her family. She enjoys spending time at the beach, or on a boat with her husband and two daughters, Caroline and Chloe. Running, scrapbooking, and shopping are also some of her favorite hobbies, along with being a “die hard Seminole fan.” As winner of the Teacher of the Year award, she will go on to compete for Florida State Teacher of the Year honors, and potentially the national Teacher of the Year award.

A fter graduating from Florida State University, Cynthia Crim knew that she wanted to give back to the community as an educator, but little did she know that she’d end up as Teacher of the Year at her childhood

elementary school.

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‘I didn’t think in a million years I would have been selected for this great honor.’

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Mother turned director Vicki H. Abeles explores the widespread issue of unhappy, unhealthy, overworked, depressed, fatigued elementary, middle and high school students in her film de-but Race to Nowhere: The Dark Side of America’s Achievement Culture.

The documentary was praised and endorsed by countless experts and critics, including the George Lucas Foundation, “Race to Nowhere is a wake-up call to all of us who care about children,

the purpose of schools, and how we define suc-cess in American education. And, importantly, it provides viewers with excellent, actionable suggestions of how to begin to address change locally in our schools.”

Abeles – who had never picked up a camera in her life – became gravely concerned after her twelve-year-old daughter began exhibiting signs of depression in seventh grade when her workload became unbearable. As a result, her self-confidence faltered despite all her teachers insisting that “she looked fine”.

In a ‘Letter from the Director’ on the website (www.racetonowhere.com), Abeles stated her purpose and timing. “In trying to understand what was driving those pressures, I began speak-ing to experts. I was stunned to learn the soaring rates of youth depression, suicide, cheating, and

‘dropping out’ occurring in all types of com-munities. The problem was affecting millions of kids and yet it wasn’t being talked about. We can not keep silent any longer. If I don’t speak out and share these stories, who will? And if not now, when?”

In February 2008, teenager Devon Marvin, who lived in Abeles’ Lafayette, CA community, com-mitted suicide without warning after receiving a poor grade on her math test. Devon’s mother,

Jane, was one of the several parents interviewed for the film, along with teachers, education and child development experts, and students.

In addition to its eight premieres at various film festivals throughout the country, Race opened in theaters in New York and Los Angeles in Sep-tember 2010. During a six-month campaign to raise awareness, hundreds of theaters, schools and organizations coast to coast are hosting hundreds of community screenings, in hopes of reaching over 150,000 individuals during the campaign.

Tampa had its opportunity on the evening of Monday, April 4th when a crowd of parents and educators packed the Channelside IMAX Theater to view the film thanks to hostess Dr. Wendy Rice, licensed psychologist and founder of Rice Psychology Group.

T here is no doubt that parents want their children to have unlimited opportunities which allow them to succeed evolve, and thrive. The

real question is, at what price?

Stress in Our Schools:AN EYE-OPENING EDUCATION FOR ADULTS

by SusanGernhart

(Source: www.endtherace.org/parents)

• Discuss what success means to your family. Do your actions as a family reflect your values?• Reduce performance pressure.• Avoid over-scheduling.• Allow time for play, family, friends, downtime and sleep.• Ask your children how they are feeling.• Allow your children to make mistakes and learn from them.• Dialogue with your children about their experiences in school.• Know the signs of childhood depression. • Follow your instincts.• Attend school board meetings and other venues where education is discussed and policies are established and reinforced.• Form alliances and organize other parents to join you. As a group, talk to your children’s teachers, school administrators, and attend School Board meetings.• Challenge accepted homework practices and policies and the imposition of state and national standards that have narrowed curriculum.• Advocate for a later start time in high school.• Eat dinner regularly as a family. • Make college searches about finding the “right fit” rather than finding the “best” college. Finding the “right fit” will ensure college success and retention. View clips, subscribe to the newsletter and read reviews at www.racetonowhere.com. Students, parents, teachers, coaches, medi-cal professionals, administrators, schools of education and policy makers are encour-aged to take the next step and become part of the movement at www.endtherace.org.

Rice Psychology (www.DrWendyRice.com) is located at 3802 Ehrlich Road in Tampa. For more information on their services and treatment options for clients of all ages – children, adolescents, adults and seniors – email their office at [email protected] or call (813) 969-3878.

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After hearing about the film through patients, families, and friends, she took the initiative to plan her own screening as no one else in the community had sched-uled one. After the screening, Rice staged a Q&A session with panelists Eric Bergholm, the General Director of Advanced Academic Access for Hillsborough County Schools (who began his academic career as a sci-ence teacher 24 years ago and later became a school administrator), and Brad Randel, the Associate Di-rector of International Admissions of the University of Tampa.

Throughout the film, students ex-pressed their opinions and con-cerns about the American Dream (“success if defined by how much money you make, not by happy you are”); the use of stimulants such as Adderall (“I can keep up with everyone now”); occasional poor test grades (“I felt so ashamed”); and their overall attitude towards school (“If I’m not healthy and happy, why bother?”).

Many of the experts admitted that there is no direct correlation be-tween academic achievement and homework, despite the all-nighters that many students are logging day after day.

“The film includes some very im-portant message for educators and families. One of the most impor-tant is that homework needs to be given intelligently, and with a plan on mind. Adults need to be edu-cated about the virtues and draw-backs of homework,” said Rice.

With their futures on the line, frus-trated students admitted that they were living the all-work-no-play lifestyle. Leisure and family time was minimal, with every minute of their week structured by a strict schedule of schoolwork, extra-curricular activities, after-school sports, college prep courses, com-munity service and part-time jobs.

In an effort to stay afloat, cheating – including copying and plagia-rism – has become another course for these sleep-deprived students who struggle to retain the surplus of information they are fed.

Children weren’t the only ones feeling the heat. Parents are equally pre-occupied with performance pressures as their offspring, often debating whether their expecta-tions are too high, especially when the subject of advanced classes and SAT scores arises.

During the panel discussion, Berg-holm stated that parents have to ask themselves whether their child is working to the best of his/her ability, or could (s)he have done better with extra effort? “Focus on your child’s strengths. If they have strong writing skills, enroll them in an advanced placement-level English or Social Studies course (versus math or science),” suggests Bergholm, who confirmed that Hillsborough County averages an above-average 40% pass rate on A.P. exams.

Added Randel, “Over 3,000 col-leges and universities don’t require A.P. exams, including U.T. Do your research and find the best fit for their needs and interests.”

Rice encourages students to sit down with their parent(s) or an-other adult who understands school and has a feel of what the demands are. Scrutinize each class to determine which subjects they are succeeding in and which they are struggling with. “By analyzing each their course load in a system-atic way, they may find that some are too difficult or, simply unin-teresting. Although many students are reluctant to do it, I also propose that they talk to their teachers. One of the main ways to make learning more personal and interesting is by knowing the person who is doing the teaching,” said Rice.

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ensure that immediate plans would be carried out swiftly and efficiently should disaster strike. Thanks to these two women, the City of Tampa’s Emergency Management Program has formu-lated an ironclad plan in which everyone has an

established role. “Everyone” includes members of the Police Department, Fire Department, Public Works Directors, Storm Water Directors, Innovation & Technology (I.T.) Team, and part-ner agencies such as TECO, Red Cross, waste management companies, and local hospitals.

Together, this carefully structured team works in

But as Florida residents, we can’t ignore the fact that the season is also associated with poten-tially dangerous storms.

Fortunately, Tampa has Chauncia Willis, Emer-gency Coordinator at Office of Emergency Management (OEM, a division of the City of Tampa) and Tampa Fire Rescue on our side to navigate the city through any dangerous or threatening situations.

The St. Petersburg native, who holds a Bachelor’s Degree from Loyola University in New Orleans and a Master’s Degree in Public Administration from Georgia State University, Andrew Young School of Policy Studies, appreciates the famil-ial feeling that Tampa exudes. “The residents are friendly, open and curious, a diverse group that enjoys a variety of activities. For me, Tampa is simply a very peaceful place.”

Willis’ areas of expertise include all-hazard di-saster planning and training, and exercise de-sign, conduct and evaluation, primarily in the states of Georgia and Florida.

Though more accurate information will become

available as June draws nearer, 2011 is slated to bring 17 named storms and nine hurricanes, with three of them categorized as ‘major’.

“The United States hasn’t been hit with a severe hurricane over the past five years and there hasn’t been a direct impact to the Bay area since 1921. Hurricanes are cyclical and follow the same paths. It has literally been ‘the quiet be-fore the storm’. The reality is, if it hasn’t come here before, chances are that it will return,” said Willis.

Girl PowerIn preparation for hurricane season, which of-ficially begins June 1st and ends on November 30th, the City of Tampa, Hillsborough County and MOSI have partnered for the 3rd annual Tampa Bay Hurricane. (For more information on the May 21st event held at the Museum of Science and Industry, log onto www.tampabay-hurricaneexpo.com.)

One of the other traits that Willis admires is the spirit of collaboration amongst the city’s resi-dents, and it’s that sense of camaraderie that she and (former) Mayor Pam Iorio duplicated to

S ummertime evokes an abundance of blissful, pleasant images – family vacations, barbecues, beach volleyball, picturesque sunsets.

HURRICANE Preparedness Tips

But as Florida residents,we can’t ignore the fact that the season is also associated with potentially dangerous storms.

by SusanGernhart

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HURRICANE Preparedness Tips


Tropical storms and hurricanes have been given names since 1953. Originated by the National Hurricane Center, the roster is now maintained and updated by the World Meteorological Organization.

The original lists reflected women’s name only and men’s names were added in 1979. Each named storm begins with each letter of the alphabet with the ex-ception of Q, U, and Z. The Pacific Ocean and Atlantic Ocean have their own set of names. For Atlantic storms, the names for hurricanes may be either French, Spanish or English. Six lists are used in the rotation; the 2010 list will be implemented again in 2016. Due to sensitivity issues, the WMO Tropical Cyclone Committee may strike a name from the list and select a replace-ment should a particularly deadly or costly storm arise. 2005’s Hurricane Ka-trina is an example of a “retired” name that will never be used again.

The names for 2011 are:

In the event that more than 21 named hurricanes occur in the Atlantic in a sea-son, additional storms will take names from the Greek alphabet: Alpha, Beta, Gamma, Delta, etc {Source: WMO.int}

Hurricane Namestangent with the meteorologists of the National Weather Service to not only prepare residents and visitors in advance of approaching storms, but serve the city post-event as well. As a former employee at Atlanta’s Center for Disease Control, Willis made it her personal mission to put a system into place in her home-town. And thanks to Iorio – mission accom-plished. “She (Iorio) has a great grasp on emer-gency management. She saw what happened in Katrina and vowed not to let that happen to Tampa. We are not a city that is going to stand by and let others take care of us; we’ll do every-thing in our power to care of our people first,” said Willis. Defining Basic TermsSo, what is the difference between a “watch” and a “warning”?

Basically, it’s a timing issue. You should begin preparing for evacuation during a “watch”. Though you still have time, you should be cog-nizant about what you and your family’s an-ticipated needs are. Have your bags packed and ready by the door, in case that “watch” gets up-graded to a “warning”.

During the “warning” phase, the City has ob-served significant differences in the forecast that could impact the inhabitants. At that point, people should be prepared to take what they’ve put aside and begin packing up their (fully-fu-eled) vehicles.

And although a tropical storm may not be as impactful as a major hurricane, they are still considered severe storms that should be taken lightly. “Floods kill more people than any other disaster each year. The rain that is associated with a tropical storm is just as deadly. And let’s not forget all the other dangerous elements such as lightning, that can cause considerable dam-age,” said Willis. Do You Have a Plan?The theme for this year’s expo is “Are you ready Tampa Bay?”, which leads to the critical ques-tion, Do you have a plan in place?

Here are some basic hurricane preparedness tips from Willis: • Make sure you have disasters plan in place for

your household/family, your place of business, your boat. Don’t leave anything to chance.

• To ensure your safety, follow evacuation or-ders issued by local emergency officials. Enter

your address into the city’s evacuation zone finder to find the shelter closest to you.

• Assemble a “Go Bag” that will carry you through a minimum of five days. Recovery can be a long process, especially if you’re un-prepared. This includes non-perishable food (and a can opener), fresh water, formula & diapers for infants, bathing products, clothes, prescriptions medications, flashlights & bat-teries, first aid kits, and cash.

• In order for re-entry to your home, you will need your driver’s license (reflecting your current address) or a picture ID with a bill that verifies your address.

• Do not leave your pet behind. Pack for your pet like you would any family member, with his/her food, medications and important pa-perwork (i.e. proof of shots).

• Ensure that all your important documents are safe. You can place them in a strong box and transport them with you, store them in a bank, or scan them and carry them on a por-table USB flash drive.

• Take photos of everything in your house, vital for insurance claims. You can save these on your flash drive as well.

• Do not wait for the last minute to fill up your vehicle with gasoline.

• We encourage you not leave Florida, as we don’t know how prepared other states are. You just need to get high ground 60 miles inland. Stay here and we will take care of you.

And Don’t Forget... “Be prepared and be accountable. Take this se-riously because a hurricane could very well hit Tampa Bay. Don’t just wait for the cavalry to rescue you; make sure your family is prepared and get everyone – especially the children – in-volved. If they have particular foods or toys they like, add those to your kits. Allowing them to contribute makes the process more meaningful and less confusing and scary for them. Like ev-eryone on our team, each of your family mem-bers should know their role in advance,” said Willis.

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I n between bouts of fatigue and exhaustion, you often hear new parents utter the phrase, “I wish children came with a manual.” Thanks to Tampa resident Shari

“The Sleep Mom” Mezrah, there actually is a guidebook to help parents “create order and predictable happiness”.

by SusanGernhart

Meet Shari Mezrah MOM, WIFE, ENTREPRENEUR, AND AUTHOR

Mom Time

The founder of BabyTIME has been helping anxious, sleep-de-prived couples across the country feel empowered, rested and con-nected through a practical and progressive approach based on scheduled feedings, naps and wake times.

The Columbia, MO native, who obtained her B.A. in Speech Com-munications from California State University, leans on her college ex-periences to this day. “Everything I learned in college, I am using and applying now in one form or an-other,” said the three-time National Forensics Champion, who fondly recalls her years as a member of the Speech & Debate Team. “It’s all about learning how to write and communicate your written work to people through your voice, and that’s exactly what I’m doing now.”

Diploma in hand, Mezrah wasn’t exactly sure what career path she wanted to pursue, but knew she

had two passions: public speak-ing and helping others. After a few years in the marketing and human resources industries, she formed her own firm in 1998 called Speak Write Consulting, in which she helped executives become com-fortable with both their speaking and writing/presentation skills.

She put her flourishing corpora-tion on hold when she had her first child, Maxwell (now 11) and found herself stumped, personally and professionally.

“I had no clue what parenting was going to be like. There were books out there that were big and hard to conceptualize. I just wanted someone to tell me what to do in a simple, concise manner. That’s my nature; I’m solution-oriented and I knew there had to be an easier way to handle these adjustments,” said the Sleep Schedule Specialist. The extroverted new mom began creating structured schedules for

Max’s feedings, naps and wake times, until she finally hit on a for-mula that worked for her and her son. “Getting my rest was the first step in going back to work. And it was such an incredible feeling to be in control while making my child happy,” said Mezrah, who began applying this win-win timetable to her friends’ children as well.

And like the old Faberge shampoo commercial where the woman, tells two friends, who tells two friends… Shari Mezrah’s program went viral and a brand was born. The word eventually spread be-yond Tampa, as advocates began sharing the tips with friends and family across the country, who would even call Mezrah to trouble-shoot or additional tips.

She finally realized that she was indeed helping people and making a difference in their lives. “I was helping parents around the coun-try – moms and dad who were

desperate for a good night’s sleep. I hadn’t really through about it from a business standpoint. I just want-ed to help these families get their children on a schedule so everyone could sleep through the night.”

But a friend did see the value of Mezrah’s plan morphing into a business opportunity and brought it to her attention, and BabyTIME was officially born in 2003.

Mezrah, whose concept is based on predictable happiness (“the key is to stay one step ahead of your child”), states, “Getting the days and nights on track is crucial and positive, structured patterns will last a lifetime. A plan is beneficial and necessary especially in today’s society when many moms don’t have a choice but to return to the workforce. In addition, this will improve your relationship with your spouse, because Mommy and Daddy will both be well rested!” said Mezrah.

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book landed on Amazon’s Top Ten (the parenting category). To commemorate her achieve-ment, Mezrah celebrated with her friends and family at Mise en Place complete with a deco-rated stork with the words “It’s A Book” etched on its sack. She got to put those public speaking skills to use, during the whirl-wind of press interviews and book promotions and signings her publisher, Sourcebooks, Inc., had scheduled.

In her spare time, Mezrah loves great food (and names Pho Quyen, The Palm and Michael’s 717 South as some of her favor-ite local restaurants), relaxing music (smooth jazz, and Jeffrey Osborne), and acupuncture (“I swear by it; it changed my life physically and mentally”). She volunteers Alpha House of Tampa, whose mission is to “empower pregnant and par-enting women in crisis”, and also cherishes time with her husband Todd and two chil-dren (the couple also have a 9-year-old daughter Samantha). The quartet enjoys exploring the open road via their mo-tor home, hiking and camping along the way.

Her advice to other women looking to start their own busi-ness? In following the world’s most famous swoosh mark, Just Do It. Implement the in-formation you’ve attained – in college, in life – and you’ll real-ize that you have the ability to fulfill your dreams. And that is a sweet dream!

“The Baby Sleeps Tonight: Your In-fant Sleeping Through the Night By 9 Weeks (Yes, Really!)” is available through Amazon.com and Barnes & Noble. To schedule a session with Shari, call (813) 760-1111 or email her at [email protected]. Check out her website, which includes and overview of her services and testi-monials, at www.sharimezrah.com.

Although her goal is educate expectant parents while di-minishing the intimidation of (new) parenthood from day one, she often assists families with children anywhere from a one month to 4 years old.

Mezrah will meet with the par-ents for approximately 90-min-utes in her office to learn about their habits, variables, and schedules and will then recom-mend a customized outline to accommodate the entire family. “The whole idea is to eliminate potential pitfalls that may arise. I tell my clients, ‘Yes, you can enjoy your child!’ Parenthood does not have to be so challeng-ing, especially when you have a plan in place from the begin-ning stages.”

Last year, Mezrah put her ‘words of wisdoms’ to paper. Armed with a thorough book proposal – complete with sample chap-ters and marketing ideas – she and her agent quickly received a contract. Once she got re-ceived the good news, Mezrah fittingly had nine months to finish her future bestseller.

Touted and praised by several pediatricians and psycholo-gists, “The Baby Sleeps Tonight: Your Infant Sleeping Through the Night By 9 Weeks (Yes, Re-ally!)” was released on April 1, 2010. Soon thereafter, the 210-page pocket-size soft cover

‘Parenthood does not have to be so challenging, especially when you have a plan in place from the beginning stages.’

B ecause Mother’s Day is a celebration of family in many ways, creating a display of family

pictures is a perfect way to show Mom you appreciate the memories she has created in your lifetime.

MOTHER’S DAY:A CELEBRATION OF FAMILY

A beautiful way to display these memories is to use what I call “Layered Ledge.” I try to incor-porate at least one grouping in every design project I do. It has been a big hit with my clients, and each and every “Layered Ledge” is personalized to each family.

Displaying your framed photos on a ledge is also a bonus of you don’t like commitment or like to change up things seasonally. Frames can be easily swapped

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out or rearranged without the hassle of taking out hooks. In addition, the beautiful thing about “Layered Ledges” is the ability to add in accessories among the photos, creating color, texture and depth such as family heirlooms, favorite collectibles, or family initials (Example: “H”).

Happy Mother’s Day to every-one…and remember, where there is true passion, the results are amazing!

Diana Holmes is one of the Bay Area’s most renowned design con-sultants. She lives by the mantra “Where there is true passion, the results are amazing.” She is cel-ebrating over 20 years as a design consultant in Tampa Bay, com-bining simplicity with design ex-cellence. Diana helps her clients eliminate costly design errors and many other painstaking tragedies that occur during a simple decorat-ing face lift, extreme makeover, or complex build out.

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W hy, oh why, do women seem to take care of everything and everyone except themselves? If I could have a dollar for each time I have heard in my office,

“What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I do it all?” I would be independently wealthy and you would not be reading this article.

If you are in an airplane with your child, and it’s about to go down, and there’s no oxygen in the air, do you apply the oxygen mask to your child or yourself first? The child, you say? Wrong!! You apply the mask to YOURSELF first so that you can be healthy to take care of your child. How can you take care of your child if you deprive your-self of oxygen? So, if we require something so basic as oxygen in order to survive, even if it’s at the

short-term expense of our child, why do we think we can continue to run around on empty taking care of everyone except ourselves? What makes us think we are even doing a good job at this?

We say we want our husbands to be happy and our kids to turn out well. How is this going to happen when you are constantly exhausted and irritable? Don’t think they don’t notice. Hus-bands are extremely uneasy at the

prospect of your unhappiness, and kids have radar like you wouldn’t believe. Your secret is out. They know. And they don’t like it.

What women need to realize is that we cannot and should not do it all. We can’t possibly be effec-tive mothers, wives and workers if we are not taking time to rest and rejuvenate ourselves. Unfortu-nately, many of us have carried on in such a way for so long that we have trained the people around us

to rely on our worka-holic and overachiev-ing ways. Therefore, there is bound to be some readjustment and discomfort on the part of our loved ones as we readjust our priorities.

That doesn’t mean we shouldn’t do it. It will be well worth your sanity and their happiness in the long run.

But how, you say? Well…how do men do it? Don’t they have

an equal responsibility to the fam-ily? Why don’t they struggle? The feminist movement was great for giving women additional oppor-tunities, but what it didn’t do was

take away jobs we already held, like child rearing and housework. Those jobs now need to be redis-tributed.

Unfortunately, we’ve been taking over for so long that we’ve done a very impressive job at convincing our partners that such redistribu-tion is not required.

So what to do? How about STOP doing?! Have a frank discussion with your family and let them know things are going to change; and then FOLLOW THROUGH. Even if it means looking at dirty socks for a few days. And PRAISE your partner when he steps up! Do not criticize his efforts, even if they pale in comparison to yours.

Check out the lifetime movie, On Strike For Christmas, for inspira-tion. I highly recommend it. Or make an appointment with me. I recommend that, too.

Barbara LoFrisco, M.A. is a licensed mental health counselor, licensed mar-riage and family therapist and board certified sex therapist. She works with individuals and couples with relation-ship and/or sexual issues in her private practice, located just north of down-town Tampa. For more information, please visit her website, www.counsel-orbarb.com, or call (813) 404-9215.

Barbara LoFrisco, M.A.

We say we want our husbands to be happy and our kids to turn out well. How is this going to happen when you are constantly exhausted and irritable?

Women’s Day, YOUR WAYby BarbaraLoFrisco, M.A.

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BC, (www.tri-cat.org) is an Art Therapist who conducts a women’s creative group titled “The Art of Self Understanding”, which encourages women to “take time out for yourself ” while utilizing Art Therapy techniques as a form of self-expression and problem solving.

“From my experience working with female pa-tients in the mental health field and knowing how busy my own schedule gets, I’ve realize more and more how important self-care really is. Take responsibility for yourself and I guar-

Last May, CareerBuilder and Harris Interactive polled 604 working moms (employed full-time) ages 18 and older for their annual Mother’s Day survey. Results show that tough economy has taken a significant toll on their home/personal life.

Findings showed that…• 36% are the sole provider• 9% have taken on a second job to provide for their family• 43% work more than 40 hours per week• 34% take work home three days a week a more• 23% bring work home on the weekends• 29% reported missing two or more significant events in their child’s life due to work in the last year• 18% said they spend two hours or less with their children each work day In addition, a February 2001 iVillage poll found that “over 70% of working moms say they feel guilty working outside the home.”

With practically every minute of the day appro-priated to work and family, where do you fit in?

Why it’s Important for YouFirst of all, you need to recognize that you are a priority – in your own life and in others’.

Robin L. Maier, LCSW, (www.robinmaier.com) sponsors a group aptly titled, “Help Me, I Am About to Scream!,” which helps mothers find balance raising children, partners, and work.

Maier, a therapist for almost three decades, en-courages female clients to carve out time for themselves, “We all want to be the best mom/wife/daughter/employee and there are lots of expectations to fulfill. Women are programmed to be people pleasers, but doing something good

for yourself will result in happier and healthier you – physically, mentally and spiritually.”

Adds Maier, “With all the juggling going on, women often lose themselves, so it’s important for them to take a breather and regain that poise and stability.”

What it Means to Your RelationshipsLisa Jacobson (www.workplacesolutionstampa.com) is a Certified Senior HR Professional and Career Consultant with 20 Years Experience and a Master’s in Applied Positive Psychology.

She uses a long-time travel tip as an analo-gy. “In order to take care of other people you must take care of yourself. Think about what the airlines instruct you to do before take off. Put your mask on first, then help your child. You need that oxygen before helping an-other individual.”

And to emphasize their points, these experts have practiced what they preach. Before starting her own business, Jacobson main-tained a high-level position which required her to travel often. She eventually altered her schedule for the sake of her sanity and family.

“Taking time for yourself results in deeper fulfillment and greater satis-faction in your life and relationships. When I’m feeling strong, happy and healthy, I can give the ‘best of me’ to the two most important people in my life – my husband and son.”

Saudia Wadud, MA, MFA, ATR-

R emember the old Virginia Slims tagline, “You’ve Come A Long Way Baby?” Well, we certainly have ladies. The only problem with having it all – careers, families, community commitments, relationships, is that you

have little (or no) time and energy to dedicate to yourself.

MAKING YOURSELF A PRIORITYNow’s the time to make time for that special someone…you!

by Susan Gernhart

Despite what you’ve been told, multi-tasking isn’t the way to go...

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antee your family will benefit,” said Wadud, who is raising a young daughter while nurturing her own practice.

Bottom line: If you’re not a happy woman/wife/mother, you’re not good to anyone – including your-self. Scheduling “Me Time”Call it what you want – rejuvena-tion time, alone time, personal time, self-care…just make sure you write it down in your plan-ner or calendar. Yes, treat those sacred minutes as you would any other confirmed appointment – a conference call, client meeting or school fundraiser. Build it into your schedule and make the most of it because it is all about you!

Having trouble deciding when to slide it into your calendar? “It’s im-portant for a mother to know her needs. If you’re an early riser, than

schedule your alone time at 6am before the rest of the household is awake,” suggests Jacobson. You won’t feel as if you are taking time away from the family and every-body wins.

Just remember – no distractions. If you’re up at dawn because that’s your designated “me time”, don’t start throwing laundry into the washer or pulling out that crock pot! Not Sure What to Do?Despite what you’ve been told, multi-tasking isn’t the way to go, according to Jacobson. “Research shows that focusing on one activity at a time – when you are devoted to being in the moment of running/cooking/playing with your kids – is a form of meditation that creates energy rather than depleting it.”

There are no real rules, but try to steer clear of anything that requires

too much brain overload, which would defeat the purpose of re-charging your batteries and letting loose!

If money isn’t an issue, treat your-self to a nice meal, take in a movie or play, a spa treatment or shop-ping excursion.

Keep in mind that there are plenty of therapeutic activities that don’t require your wallet: catching up on your favorite DVR’d shows, tak-ing a bubble bath, people watching in the park, writing in a journal, praying/meditating, or taking your four-legged friend to the dog park.

If you’re feeling lonely, dial up (or email) that friend or relative you’ve been meaning to catch up with. Join a MeetUp group; it’s always comforting to have a social support system of like-minded individuals who you can turn to whether you need to cry, laugh or vent.

Some “chores” – such as cooking or exercising – can be construed as therapeutic if they’re not treated as a haphazard needs-to-get-done-right-this-minute task. In fact, many people find preparing a meal or going for a run invigorating and cathartic if they’re not flirting with a stringent deadline.

We know, all of this is easier said than done, but for sanity’s sake, give yourself a break. You know you deserve it!

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GIFTJordan Driggers


Jordan Driggers


I n the fall of 2002, fate handed Tampa Bay resident Brenda

Driggers a remarkable gift – a beautiful baby girl. But this

was no ordinary little girl. Only eight weeks after she was born,

Jordan was diagnosed with Cystic Fibrosis (CF) – a life threatening

genetic disorder that drastically shortens most patients’ lifespan.

Jordan Driggers

However Brenda was no ordinary first-time mother either. Before she was married, Brenda had spent seven years working as a pulmonary nurse at All Children’s Hospital assisting young children with CF. This was a disorder Brenda understood very well and, over the past eight years, Jordan has thrived under her care. To-gether with a committed support system of friends and family, this mother and daughter have become an extraordinary team in the fight against CF.

Upon meeting Jordan, you wouldn’t think she was any different from every other 8 year old. She loves hip hop dance, playing soccer and participating in Brownies. She goes to school, has made many friends and watches American Idol. But what doesn’t make Jordan like every little girl is the extensive number of nebulizer therapies, lung vest treatments and as many as 8 types of medications she takes daily. Getting up early for her treatments and skipping off to the nurse’s office before lunch is a routine part of her day. So is the potential of being admitted to the hospital, fighting life-threatening lung in-fections, and then heading back to school with an IV in her arm for two weeks of anti-biotic treatments.

While Jordan’s mother is certainly able to as-sist her with her medical condition, Brenda has done far more for her daughter and the fight against CF than simply just treat her daughter’s symptoms. Since Jordan’s birth, the Driggers Family has raised over $750,000 for the Cys-tic Fibrosis Foundation through their annual “Hook a Cure Fishing Tournament”. This is an astounding feat for one family and the Drig-gers have since become one of the top grossing

family fundraisers for the local Cystic Fibrosis Chapter.

Brenda is also aware of the breakthroughs in research that have resulted from fund-raising events like the “Hook a Cure Tournament”.

“Since Jordan’s birth, new nebulizer antibiotic treatments have been made available thanks to funded research. And a new sodium channel regulator is being developed right now.”

Both treatments mean less hospital time and potentially longer life spans for CF patients. Brenda also shared that 90 cents of every dollar raised by the Cystic Fibrosis Foundation goes directly to research. Considering these new breakthroughs and the potential they have to extend her daughter’s life, it is no surprise then that Jordan’s family works as tirelessly as they do.

Brenda emphasized that, “‘Hook a Cure’ could not have been as successful as it has been these past years without the help of our friends and family.”

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by Caroline Jorgensenphotography by HollowTree Images

Upon meeting Jordan, you wouldn’t think she was any different from every other 8 year old.

Jordan Driggers

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thanks to fantastic research breakthroughs, the average life span for children like Jordan is 37 – and this number increases every year. The cure for this disease could very well lie in the diligent hands of fami-lies and friends committed to fundraising. And if the Driggers are any example of what families can do, Jordan may see a cure for CF in her lifetime just yet.

Join Tampa Woman maga-zine and the Driggers Family at Grapes and Grains for “Pour For The Cure” on June 2 from 7–9 p.m. Tickets are $25 each, and all pro-ceeds will be used to benefit Cystic Fibrosis research through the Cystic Fibrosis Founda-tion. Tickets can be purchased at www.pour4thecure.com or at Grapes and Grains prior to the event. For more information on this event, see the ad on the front inside cover of this issue.

Together, we can make a difference!

Their heartfelt outreach and tireless commit-ment to Jordan’s fight against CF demonstrates the lengths this family will go to give Jordan the chance to live as “normal” a life for as long as possible.

There are two upcoming Driggers fundraising events to look forward to this year. On June 2, Tampa Woman Magazine and the Driggers Family will be hosting a wine tasting event at

Grapes and Grains in Tampa. For more infor-mation about the event, go to www.tampawom-anonline.com. Also, the 8th annual “Hook a Cure Fishing Tournament” is coming up in Oc-tober and more information about this event can be found at www.hookacure.com. Jordan spoke at the “Hook a Cure” event last year for the first time, and she plans to speak again this year.

Sixty years ago, children with CF did not often live long enough to attend grade school. But

...thanks to fantastic research breakthroughs, the average life span for children like Jordan is 37 – and this number increases every year.

Cystic fibrosis is an inherited chronic disease that affects the lungs and diges-tive system of about 30,000 children and adults in the United States (70,000 world-wide). A defective gene and its protein product cause the body to produce un-usually thick, sticky mucus that: clogs the lungs and leads to life-threatening lung infections; and obstructs the pancreas and stops natural enzymes from helping the body break down and absorb food.

In the 1950s, few children with cystic fi-brosis lived to attend elementary school. Today, advances in research and medical treatments have further enhanced and extended life for children and adults with CF. Many people with the disease can now expect to live into their 30s, 40s and be-yond.

Symptoms of Cystic FibrosisPeople with CF can have a variety of symptoms, including:• very salty-tasting skin;• persistent coughing, at times with phlegm;• frequent lung infections;• wheezing or shortness of breath;• poor growth/weight gain in spite of a good appetite; and• frequent greasy, bulky stools or difficulty in bowel movements.

Statistics• About 1,000 new cases of cystic fibrosis are diagnosed each year.• More than 70% of patients are diagnosed by age two.• More than 45% of the CF patient population is age 18 or older.• The predicted median age of survival for a person with CF is in the mid-30s.

Since 1955, the Cystic Fibrosis Founda-tion has been the driving force behind the pursuit of a cure. Thanks to the dedication and financial backing of our supporters – patients, families and friends, clinicians, researchers, volunteers, individual donors, corporations and staff, they are making a difference.

Source: www.cff.org

Jordan with her mother Brenda

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is Never Out of Style!

by Ro Martinezphotography by Ross Krison

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is Never Out of Style!

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search. The photos will help you decide and the detailed descriptions make shopping painless.

Antique shops – If you have never been to an antique shop you are in for a treat. Sections are organized as living spaces, giving you an idea of furniture placement. The clothing is displayed to mimic old dressing rooms or dressing areas. You may pay a premium price for higher qual-ity vintage clothing and the additional service you receive.

Estate sales – Often an older person’s en-tire wardrobe is for sale along with shoes and handbags. Someone else has done the work of finding coordinating pieces and you get to en-joy purchasing them at low prices because the person holding the sale has so much to sell in a short period of time.

Yard sales – Clothing sold at yard sales often no longer fits or was inherited. The prices of-ten run between $.25-1.00. Although you don’t get to try them on, if they don’t fit you have not invested much money and can donate them for someone else to benefit from your find.

Thrift shops – Searching for bargains in a thrift shop can be overwhelming, so give yourself enough time to go through several racks. Ev-erything is mixed in; vintage with modern, summer with fall, etc. Make a list of what you want to purchase and give yourself a time limit; say two hours. Don’t get frustrated if you don’t find what you are looking for the first time

Vintage clothing is an easy to wear classic style that can be elegant and very affordable. It can be combined with new fashions and mixed in to look just as fresh as when it was new. Years ago, wearing this style meant your clothes were dated or you could not afford new and had to shop in secondhand stores. Not so today. We wear vintage by choice and enjoy hunting for that perfect piece. Searching for that one-of-a-kind piece may take time but it is well worth

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Wikipedia, The Free Encyclopedia defines vin-tage as:Vintage clothing is a generic term for new or second hand garments originating from a previ-ous era. The phrase is also used in connection with a retail outlet, e.g. “vintage clothing store.” It can also be used as an adjective: “This dress is vintage.”

Definition Generally speaking, clothing which was pro-duced before the 1920s is referred to as antique clothing and clothing from 1920 through 1980 is considered vintage. Retro, short for retro-spective, usually refers to clothing that imitates the style of a previous era. Clothing produced more recently is usually called modern or con-temporary fashion. Opinions vary on these definitions.

PurposeAlthough there has always been some demand for old and secondhand clothing, the aware-ness, demand and acceptance of it has increased dramatically since the early 1990s.

This increase in interest is due in part to greater visibility, as vintage clothing has been increas-ingly worn by celebrities including Julia Rob-erts, Chloe Sevigny, Kate Moss, and Dita von Teese.

There has also been a rising awareness of en-vironmental sustainability. People are looking for ways to reuse, recycle and repair rather than throwing things away.

Buying vintage is a way of recycling. You reduce the trash that ends up filling our landfills and give new life to an otherwise discarded item. I love to see something new from vintage cloth-ing. For example, my son used old corduroys and made a backpack out of them reusing the pockets and zippers. This was time consuming but he has a custom-made piece that he will en-joy for a long time.

Vintage clothing allows you to cut spending

without sacrificing style. It is sought after by young people, college students and people of all walks of life because of the low cost. They are wearing vintage pieces to school, parties and dates. Purchasing vintage at garage sales, estate sales and consignment stores is a way to have great style while reducing your wardrobe expense.

Vintage can also come from your mother or grandmother’s closet, entirely eliminating the need to make a purchase. My mother’s old tops are my favorites, not just because of the great style, but because they belonged to her before

me. She taught me to take pride in the way I look and to this day she continues to have great style. She has been able to achieve this without spending a fortune. Like many seniors, she con-tinues to wear some vintage pieces and holds onto them for as long as she can. If you have older pieces, reach in the back of your closet and enjoy some favorites again. Styles have a way of resurfacing. Some of the current styles, such as swing jackets, a-line dresses and peasant tops, have a vintage flair. Without even knowing it, young people are purchasing styles that may have been worn by their grandmothers.

Where can you purchase vintage clothing?Internet – Useful for those who collect vintage clothing for display or those who plan on get-ting much use out of it. Sites like Etsy, Ebay and Craigslist are good sites to use for help in your

“I f you purchase at yard sales, thrift shops, consignment stores, or borrow from friends and family, the cost is considerably reduced. Fashion repeats itself. Even stars who can certainly afford to purchase new, buy used for

the “vintage look.” You can, too. The key is to think of creative ways to cut costs,” says Ro Martinez of Modeling At Any Age.

Fashion repeats itself. Even stars who can certainly afford to purchase new, buy used for the ‘vintage look.’

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it when you create your own look. I have mentioned many rewards to wearing vin-tage clothing and the best part is that you won’t bump into anyone else wearing the same thing at an important event.

Modern AppealImagining who may have worn it before me keeps me a fan of vintage clothing. Was it made for a special occasion? Was it was handed down from mother to daughter or from sister to sister? Its appeal is more than just saving money. It’s the unique style that is timeless. Vintage is reminiscent of an era whose women, such as Ingrid Berg-man and Jackie O, were famous for their talent but also their classic style.

“People are drawn to vintage clothing be-cause they can find one-of-a-kind items with solid construction and attention to detail often not readily found in contem-porary fashions. There is also a sense of history, art and soul represented in pieces from the past. And, for many, the green aspect of recycling and re-using, rather than discarding and making new, is very appealing,” said Sherry King, owner of YesterDaze Vintage Clothing & Antiques.

“I love the 50’s and 60’s era. The style was so versa-tile. High-waist pants with lace tops and Mary Jane shoes. Or you can go dressy with a laced dress and a laced bucket hat. Today’s fashion accessories bring that style back with a current flair. Long necklaces, fashion pearls, decorative headbands and shoes!”

— Kayla Gepp (Model pictured wearing hats)

“This style has become unusual to our modern days so it generates conversation when you wear vintage pieces. An added plus is that we know styles will come back around; it’s all on a cycle. What goes around comes around.”

— Jullianne Olds (Model pictured)

“The classiness of it and the ability to mix other simple and accessory styles with it. As a little girl I watched Audrey Hepburn on the big screen. She was strikingly beautiful and it had an impact on me. Al-though she inspired me, I wear vintage clothing in-evitably to create my own style.”

— Marilou Matthews (Massage Therapist)

“To be original, not everyone will wear it. I think there is a story behind it and it’s fun to search for it. Vintage is classier and I feel good wearing it. It’s also a twist on recycling when most people think of plastic, paper and cans.”

— Amanda Duffy (Student)

“The history that surrounds vintage things. I can use unique, one-of-a-kind pieces to create a unique style of my own. The thrill of hunting for something differ-ent and finding a good deal in a thrift shop is fun.”

— Karen Benton (Collector and Business Owner)

“Being a single mother of two boys, the price is a huge plus of buying vintage. My children go through clothes so quickly that it only makes sense. One of my favorite places has always been thrift stores. I love the 60’s and 70’s era and I can always find things I love, such as faded denim and vintage tees, for myself and my children.”

— Cassie Haun (Mother)

“I like the formal dresses because of the muted col-ors and style. Also, the fashion is unique to a certain time period that can’t be found on the rack.”

— Erica Keelan (Young model)

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Sherry graciously allowed us to photo-graph our models wearing her one-of-a-kind vintage fashions. The dresses, bath-ing suits, and hats range from the 1940’s to 1980’s and look just as beautiful today as they must have back then.

YesterDaze offers men and women’s vintage ap-parel suited for a variety of ages. They also carry vintage bathing suits, hats, jewelry, shoes and home décor. Their collection of wedding dress-es and renaissance pieces is impressive. They also offer the option of renting certain pieces for that special costume party or event. Located at 5207 North Florida Avenue, Tampa 33603, this specialty boutique is centrally located and easy to find.

A special thanks to Innisbrook Resort & Golf Club for providing us with our park-like set-ting, they are celebrating their 40th birthday. This 900 wooded acre , 608 guest room resort offers numerous recreational amenities, includ-ing 5 restaurants, 6 outdoor swimming pools, a golf course (where several annual golf events are held), a full-service spa, and a fitness club. It seems they have thought of everything. From their poolside bar to their children’s club no one is ever left out of the fun!

Thoughts on Vintage:


Photos by:Ross Krison PhotographyRoss Krisonwww.itsross.com

Models provided by:Modeling at Any AgeRo Martinezwww.modelingatanyage.com

Makeup by:Monique McLaughlinwww.makeupandhairbymonique.com

Hair by:Monique Payne813.385-8109

Fashions provided by:YesterDaze Vintage Clothing & Antiqueswww.yesterdazevintage.com

Location provided by:Innisbrook Resort& Golf Clubwww.innisbrookgolfresort.com

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T he idea of deliberately shaping our lives is in itself a significant departure from the old rules. As modern and evolved as we think we are, we still cling with

tenacity to our cultural norm that “life happens to us” and then we react.

In my coaching practice, I see a lot of frustration, and anxiety pro-duced by this unexamined “rule” that we find ourselves subscribing to. Answering the call in your heart for an exceptional life requires a different view.

As women we know the degree to which our lives are intimately connected with others, how many people are counting on us, and we live with the weight of constantly striving to improve the lives of those around us. I believe in help-ing others (of course a life coach would), and I also believe in the power of individualism. I believe that the dreams and big ideas we have when we are young can be more than fantasies. Of course in the end, life is not all about you – but there is significant value in doing things entirely for yourself.

As for me, I enjoy discovering new music and travelling around the world, arriving in cities without any agenda or obligations to fulfill. Some might see this as selfish, but I believe that without the exhilara-tion and energy I derive in being by myself, and the ongoing cul-tivation of inspiring occasions, I wouldn’t be of much use to anyone else later on. Owning the right to want an exceptional life can be a particularly difficult issue for some of us who, despite years of growth and enormous changes in our so-ciety, still feel the influence of our caretaker training. I’m not sure

where the idea that branded plea-sure and self-care as selfish origi-nated from, but I know it haunts us more than we care to admit, and it gets in the way of creating an ex-ceptional life.

Lately, I’ve been researching why asking for what we want makes us feel so uncomfortable. It’s fun-ny but as crazy as it seems, com-plaining, arguing and even getting downright nasty actually feels safer to most of us than simply making a direct request. The responses in my research have been varied but they all revolve around themes of avoidance of risk, disappointment, failure and more importantly, our lacking ability to own our right to want.

If you don’t know what you want you will undoubtedly have trouble getting it. Many of us have serious trouble knowing what we want, feeling comfortable communicat-ing it, and stating it clearly. Most of the challenges we face, are from not owning what we want (or if we do) we cannot express it effectively to someone else.

Consider how often you suppress your desires – sometimes to the extent of not even being aware of them. Most of us learned in early childhood that:• Wanting is selfish and that we

should be polite and let others wants come first (“Be polite, let Susie have the toy.”)

• It isn’t OK to want (“Don’t even ask me for a cookie just before dinner.”)

• We want too much (“Of course you can’t have a new toy, do you think I’m made of money?”)

• If we get what we want, someone else will be deprived.

These internalized criticisms and restrictions make us anxious about getting what we want and even convinced that we won’t.

In addition to all these other re-strictions on wanting, you may have the idea that the consequences of wanting are bad (no one will like you), and so it is too scary to know what you want. Because knowing what you want sometimes means you risk being disappointed, (and we all have a tendency to exagger-ate the idea of how bad disappoint-ment feels… “if I don’t get what I want I’ll be miserable”), you may avoid wanting at all.

Answering the call in your heart to lead an exceptional life requires being clear about what you want. Start taking your dreams seriously, and you will be one of a small per-centage of those who are designing an exceptional life.

If you need help, there are several different ways of going about this, here are a few suggestions:

Your Perfect Day: Write out your idealized, perfect day in great de-

tail. What are you doing? How does it feel? Start with your desired wake up time and breakfast de-tails all the way through what you do for each hour of the day. The more details you add the better. It’s about letting your ideas flow freely – out into the world – and not get stopped up by self-doubt and self-criticism. It’s about feeling your own power.

Intention List: Make a list of all your current commitments and obligations. Next to each one write down the experience you would like to have while fulfilling those commitments, what values do you want to express in that area of life? What is the driving focus of that commitment?

Join us online for a conversation about what you want. Participat-ing and hearing what others want, will start to get you in touch with some of your own desires. Visit our coach’s corner for tips on achieving what you want after you have dis-covered it.

Our coaching services are available by telephone and internet. For more in-formation, call (813) 639-7664 or visit www.createnewrealities.com

Answering the Call in Your Heart for an Exceptional Life

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by Annette Saldana

Health & Wellness


TW: With warm weather season now at full thrust, fitness enthu-siasts want to break out of their indoor exercise ruts. What do you suggest?Lisea: When temperatures reach record highs and humidity lev-els soar, traditional workouts can become less appealing. So how do you stay cool while still doing physical activity? One word – wa-

ter! Water exercises allow you to exercise without overheating, a total body workout without break-ing a sweat!

TW: Don’t you need to be a vet-eran swimmer?Lisea: Aquatic workouts are not limited to just swimming. There are many forms of pool exercises and you don’t have to be a cardio fanatic to try aquatics, even fit-

ness novices can easily perform many of the moves. It’s an excellent choice for all ages, from the very young to seniors. Water aerobics is a good way to burn calories, build strength, flexibility and muscle tone while improving your cardio-vascular system.

TW: What are the other health benefits?Lisea: • Works your entire body • Challenges different muscle groups • No heavy weights as water provides natural resistance • Increase/decrease intensity by alternating between shallow and deep areas • Easier on the joints as it is low-impact • Rehabilitates injury recovery • Less stress on bones and muscles

Plus, water workouts provide a refreshing, fun and socially in-teractive exercise option. For ex-ample, parents can enjoy time at the pool with their children while also fitting in some of their weekly workout sessions. Aquatic aero-bic classes also provide a social, group-setting alternative.

TW: How do you determine your target heart rate?Lisea: Don’t judge a workout solely on how high your heart rate is. Keep in mind that swimmers gen-erate a slightly lower heart rate when compared to cyclists and runners. This does not imply that they aren’t working hard. Experts equate the lower heart rate par-tially to the cooling effect of water. So, your target heart rate may be 10 beats per minute lower when in the water. A word of caution, don’t assume you are well hydrated just because you are submerged in wa-ter. You still need to drink about ½ a cup of water for every 20 minutes of exercise.

TW: How do you get involved in water aerobics? Lisea: Once you’ve decided to take the plunge, it’s simply a matter of finding the right class for you. Check with your local club to see if they offer aquatic classes and drop in on one or two to see if they are right for your fitness level. A good class should include a warm-up, a period of cardiovascular and muscle conditioning that gradu-ally increases and then decreases in intensity, and a cool-down. The cool-down should include plenty

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of flexibility exercises for the entire body. If you have a preference for music, find a class that suits your taste and don’t be afraid to ask about instructor qualifications and safety precautions.

The pool is a fun place to feel like a kid again and get a great workout. In fact, instead of feeling out of breath or exhausted, you may feel surprisingly calm, yet energized, following an aquatic class. So, even if you’re a dip your toe in the water type of person, don’t be afraid to dive into water fitness.

Shapes Fitness for Women is a full service health and wellness club, exclu-sively for women. Shapes offers group classes, personal coaching, cardio con-ditioning and aqua fitness at 13 conve-nient Tampa Bay locations. Call Lisea at (813) 413-3255 for more information or visit www.ShapesTotalFitness.com

A Great Summer Workout for Mom

Lisea Julien

The pool is a fun place to feel like a kid again and get a great workout.


Toni Sloman

SkinTALK with Toniummer is about to rear its hot and humid head with promises of days at the beach, boating and water sports. The season means many of us will spend

a lot more time with our skin exposed to warm, welcome sunlight. We prepare for the beach by carefully selecting the most flattering swimwear, buying new sandals or choosing the right color of lipstick to make us look our best.

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And while we should take the time to look our best, it is considerably more important to protect our skin from the potentially deadly damaging rays that come from that wonderful sunshine. Otherwise, that beautifully made up face could become severely damaged.

Florida is where we live and we should enjoy the sun! Just know that the age spots our grandmoth-ers referred to are really more about

sun damage than normal aging. Take care of your skin proactively and prevent this needless risk to your health and appearance.

For those of us of a “certain age” who basked in baby oil, there are ways that skin care profession-als can treat superficial areas of sun damage. Intense pulsed laser (IPL), and medical strength acid treatments can help restore and re-generate damaged areas.

You can see why you hear the word sunscreen so much! Rather than harp, here are some suggestions for the upcoming months:• Consider investing in a couple of summer hats and shirts made of fabric with built-in sun protec-tion. For the men – those with the flap in the back to protect the back of the neck are highly recommended. And ladies, don’t think long hair will always protect the back of your neck. If you have

a favorite hat, remember, you can get a lightweight scarf and put it on beneath the hat around the back of your neck.

• Stop the use of retinols if you spend the summer at the beach unless your physician advises otherwise. Your skin can be put at higher risk for damage using retinols while at the beach or on the water. Remember, the reflec-tive rays from water and sand can be quite intense – yet not neces-

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sarily feel like hot sun. Those nice sea breezes can also make you feel like you are getting less sun.

• Make the summer a time to focus on the antioxidants that can help re-nourish your skin. Vitamin C is a good option for summer and a good moisturizer when needed. There is possibly no better prod-uct available than Skin Medicas TNS Recovery Complex. This product is a mixture of growth factors and antioxidants which accelerate cellular turnover and provide your skin with what it needs to regenerate and repair damaged cells – while stimulat-ing healthy cell growth. Use the summer months to continue to nurture your skin, and mix up your skin care program a little – alternate your routine.

• Sunscreen is the single most ef-fective preventative measure ex-cept for staying indoors. Be aware that you are likely to spend more time outside than you plan on, so always put sunscreen on in the morning. Why not, when it takes so little effort?

• Use a zinc oxide-based product if you are on the water. The zinc works as a physical barrier, and there are some fine products out there that combine zinc with SPF. Just because your sunscreen is labeled SPF 95 doesn’t mean you can stay out all day. It is best to use nothing more than a SPF 45, and then re-apply every two to four hours. The high chemical content present in some of the higher SPF products can irritate sensitive skin, as well as inflame any existing areas of breakout.

• A good pair of sunglasses to pro-tect against squinting and pre-venting “crow’s feet” is well worth the investment. Sunglasses also protect lighter colored eyes from damage.

• Do not forget to put sunscreen on your ears. If you are running low and only have enough to apply in one spot, make it your nose. The ears and nose are very common sites for skin cancers.

• Always help your child or grand-

child with the application of sun-screen, but never use a sunscreen you are unfamiliar with. The child will not forget stinging eyes, and you will have trouble with subsequent attempts to get it on them. Always re-apply every two hours.

• To my young readers, don’t bake in the sun unprotected because you think having a tan makes you look thinner or because you think your genetics gave you the ability to tan without damage. You can get healthy sun exposure without damaging yourself. You’re going to age faster than you expect. The cost to reverse all this damage is much higher than a tube of SPF!

Summer sunlight should be en-joyed. It is a gift that renews our mind and spirit. Enjoy summer days with the right protection, and don’t overstay. Like any gift, too much can reduce the true value. And, too much of a good thing eventually takes the good away.

Note: Your skin has the innate in-telligence to heal itself. If you have a lesion that is not healing, or a pigmented spot that is changing or growing, you must be seen by a der-matologist. Early detection is always the key to prolonged health.

Toni Sloman is an advanced registered nurse practitioner who spent the first 15 years of her career working in facial plastic surgery. For the past 8 years she has specialized in facial injections, in-cluding Botulinum A toxin and numer-ous brand name dermal fillers. In 2005, she opened Skin Savvy Rx on Azeele Street in Tampa, where she works with Dr. Scott Graham and a knowledgeable team of professionals who specialize in the latest non- surgical advances in skin care.

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A Personal Note

hen I first started Woman 2 Woman, my oldest son Trey was 8 years old. This past December he turned 15. He is becoming a man. A few weeks

ago something awful happened. Our pet Tonka, a very large black lab who has been a member of our family for more than thirteen years died.

One of Trey’s responsibilities in our home is checking on our two animals before we go to bed. This night my husband was at work and Trey went out to make sure their water was fresh and that they were tucked in safe. When he came back inside I knew immediately that something was wrong. I saw it in his eyes. He said, “Mom, Tonka is dead.” I hoped he was mistaken but it turned out he wasn’t. It was already dark outside, and our hearts were broken. The other children were sleeping, so Trey and I wrapped Tonka for burial and stood in the dark while our sweet neighbors helped us dig a grave for our four legged friend. Trey would not go to bed until it was done. I watched him as he shoveled the dirt on the grave of his first pet. Pausing only to wipe away the sweat of the humid night mingled with his tears. I am proud of him for many things. He’s a straight “A” student and a talented young man. The tears I cried that night weren’t just for Tonka. I cried for another milestone passed in the life of my son. He was the first of our children to make me a mother. He was the first person I ever loved more than I loved myself. I remember when they laid him in my arms and how my heart swelled. I literally thought I couldn’t hold all the love I had for him inside of me. I remember the tears of joy that Trent and I cried as we looked at ten perfect fingers and toes. I have prayed for each of my children every day of their lives, and I wonder if they will ever understand the depth of their parents love.

It hasn’t been an easy month for me as a mother. My daughter was dealt with a blow to her self-esteem when she tried out for a sport and didn’t make the team. I wrapped her in my arms and cried with her – it was if my own heart was breaking right along with hers. I was so certain that she would draw into herself, and not continue working hard for what she wanted but I was wrong. She congratulated the other girls and put on her best Abigail Grace smile. She has continued to go to her classes with her head held high. Children can be so cruel, and I wanted to spare her this hurt – I couldn’t. She will be singing in the school talent show next week, and I can’t wait to hear her! I might even upload it to our Tampa Woman Facebook page so you all can see how bravely she is dealing with things. I am so proud of her.

My third child Colton had a heartbreak as well. He broke his arm at the beginning of baseball season and missed six weeks of his season. He was so disappointed because he wanted to play all-stars. I comforted him by offering fall ball. It didn’t seem to help, but today at his second game back on the field after getting his cast off. He had an excellent game. After the game, the coach gave Colton the game ball. He talked about what a great game it was and let all the players sign the ball. Colton looked at his coach and gave him a big heartfelt thank you. I wanted to kiss that coach! His encouragement of my son was all he needed to forget about all-stars. If we could all find a way to encourage one another instead of tear each other down.

My youngest son Ryan was at the game. He was so sweet as he stood by the fence and watched Colton hit the first ball of the night. He began to scream, “Go Colton! Run fast!” Ryan is four and everyone was laughing as he cheered his brother on. He looked around and smiled a great big smile and said to anyone who was listen-ing, “Colton’s my brother.” His “th” sounds like a “d” so it sounded like “brotder” – it was so sweet.

Oh how I love them. Each one is different; each one needs different things from me. I pray for wisdom in all my decisions regarding them especially. I wish they came with manuals. I know that as parents we want to fix their problems – to make it all better, throw money at it, and put a Band-Aid on it. Sometimes all we can do is hold them when they cry. Happy belated Mother’s Day to all of you ladies, to those who have given birth and to those who chose to be mothers because someone else couldn’t or wouldn’t. God Bless us all.

Lori Samples DuncanEditor-in-Chief

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