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Table of Contents
Social Service Centers………………………………………3
Food Pantries……………………………………………4
Domestic Violence………………………………………….8
Early intervention…………………………………………13
Preschools/ Daycares………………………………………16
Parenting Tips………………………………………………19
Spiritual Guidance………………………………………….24
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Social Services Quincy Community Action Programs, Inc.
Main Office
1509 Hancock Street
Quincy, Ma 02169
Phone: (617) 479-8181
http://www.qcap.org/home
Services provided:
Adult Education & Workforce Development
Financial REACH Center
Early Childhood Education & Care
Energy Assistance Programs
Food & Nutrition
Housing Programs
Bay State Community Services Inc.
1120 Hancock Street
Quincy, Ma 02169
Phone: 617-471-8400
http://baystatecs.org/
Services provided:
Prevention & Intervention Services
Child & Family/Home-Based Services
Outpatient Services
Residential Services/Day Treatment
Interfaith Social Services
105 Adams Street
Quincy, Ma
617-773-6203
Services provided:
Counseling
Emergency food and clothing program, and thrift shop
Career Closet: clothing aid for low-income women returning to the work force
*If I did not mention one in the South Shore area you can go on this website to search for more:
http://www.patriotledger.com/article/99999999/NEWS/301089485/?Start=2
*If you’re looking for something specific that was not mentioned this website can help:
http://www.mass.gov/eohhs/utility/catalog-of-services.html
http://www.qcap.org/homehttp://www.qcap.org/our-programs/adult-education-and-workforce-developmenthttp://www.qcap.org/our-programs/money-management/financial-reach-centerhttp://www.qcap.org/our-programs/early-childhood-education-&-carehttp://www.qcap.org/our-programs/energy-programshttp://www.qcap.org/our-programs/food-&-nutritionhttp://www.qcap.org/our-programs/housing-programshttp://baystatecs.org/http://baystatecs.org/http://interfaithsocialservices.org/http://www.patriotledger.com/article/99999999/NEWS/301089485/?Start=2http://www.mass.gov/eohhs/utility/catalog-of-services.html
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Food Pantries For more food pantries in other areas you can go on this website: http://www.foodpantries.org/
*For more information call the number or go on the website.
Abington
Harvest House Food Pantry
127 North Quincy Street
Abington, MA - 02351
781-961-4402
St Vincient de Paul/
Abington Food Pantry
455 Plymouth St.
Abington, MA - 02351
781-878-6087
Boston
Combined Jewish
Philanthropies of Greater Boston.
126 High Street
Boston, MA - 02110
http://www.cjp.org
Project Bread - The Walk for Hunger of Massachusetts
145 Border St
Boston, MA - 02128
(617) 723-5000
http://www.projectbread.org
Greater Boston Nazarene Compassion. Center.
130 River Street
Mattapan, MA - 02126
617-296-7450
Braintree
Braintree Community Food Pantry
594 Washington St.
Braintree, MA - 02184
781-277-1609
http://www.braintreefoodpantry.org/
http://www.foodpantries.org/http://www.cjp.org/http://www.projectbread.org/http://www.braintreefoodpantry.org/
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The Marge Crispin Center
74 Pond Street
Braintree, MA - 02184
781-848-2124
Bridgewater
The Food Pantry at Central Square Congregational Church
71 Central Square
Bridgewater, MA - 02324
508.697.6016
http://www.csccuccbridgewaterma.org/TheFoodPantryatCentralSquare.dsp
Canton
Canton Area Helpline
960 Washington St.
Canton, MA - 02021
781-821-8062
Chelsea
St Luke's-San Lucas Food Pantry
201 Washington Avenue
Chelsea, MA - 02150
(617)-884-4278
http://www.lukelucas.org/outreach/food-pantry.html
Framingham
St Bridget's Food Pantry
15 Wheeler Ave
Framingham, MA - 01702
(508) 875-5959
Hope Worldwide New England Inc.
214 Concord Street
Framingham, MA - 01702
617-899-5222
Pearl Street Cupboard and Cafe
46 Park Street
Framingham, MA - 01702
508-370-4921
http://www.uwotc.org/pearl
http://www.csccuccbridgewaterma.org/TheFoodPantryatCentralSquare.dsphttp://www.lukelucas.org/outreach/food-pantry.htmlhttp://www.lukelucas.org/outreach/food-pantry.htmlhttp://www.uwotc.org/pearl
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Hanson
Hanson Food Pantry
228 High Street
Hanson, MA - 02341
781-293-1400
https://www.hansonfoodpantry.org/
Holbrook
Holbrook Ecumenical Food Pantry
322 South Franklin Street
Holbrook, MA - 02343
781-767-4656
Brookville's Basket
871 South Franklin Street
Holbrook, MA - 02343
781-767-0217
Marshfield
Marshfield Food Pantry
1981 Ocean Street
Marshfield, MA - 02050
781-837-0359
Milton
Milton Community Food Pantry
158 Blue Hills Parkway
Milton, MA - 02186
617-696-0221
Plymouth
SSCAC/ Emergency Assistance Food Program
265 South Meadow Road
Plymouth, MA - 02360
508-747-7575
Salvation Army/Plymouth Pantry
8 Carver St.
Plymouth, MA - 02360
508-746-1559
https://www.hansonfoodpantry.org/https://www.hansonfoodpantry.org/
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Christ Church Outreach
149 Court Street
Plymouth, MA - 02360
508-746-4959
Blessed Kateri Church Food Pantry
126 South Meadow Rd.
Plymouth, MA - 02360
508-746-1568
http://www.saintkateriplymouth.org
Quincy
YMCA/Germantown Neighborhood Food Pantry
33 Palmer Street
Quincy, MA - 02169
617-376-1389
Southwest Community Food Center
1 Copeland Street
Quincy, MA 02169
617-471-0796
https://www.qcap.org/our-programs/food-nutrition/#southwest
Rockland
12 Church St.
Rockland, MA - 02370
781-878-1078
http://www.firstchurchrockland.org/news.htm
http://www.saintkateriplymouth.org/https://www.qcap.org/our-programs/food-nutrition/#southwesthttp://www.firstchurchrockland.org/news.htm
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Domestic Violence
Programs
Greater Boston Area
Asian Task Force Against
Domestic Violence
Boston, MA
Phone: 617-338-2355
http://www.atask.org/site/
Casa Myrna Vazquez
Boston, MA
Phone: 617-521-0100
Hotline: 877-785-2020
http://www.casamyrna.org/
Elizabeth Stone House
Jamaica Plain, MA
Phone: 617-427-9801
http://www.elizabethstonehouse.org/
FINEX House
Jamaica Plain, MA
Phone: 617-436-2002
Hotline: 617-288-1054
https://www.finexhouse.org/
HarborCov
Chelsea, MA
Phone: 617-884-9799
Hotline: 617-884-9909
http://www.harborcov.org
REACH
Waltham, MA
Phone: 781-891-0724
Hotline: 800-899-4000
http://reachma.org/
http://www.atask.org/http://www.atask.org/http://www.atask.org/site/http://www.casamyrna.org/http://www.casamyrna.org/http://www.elizabethstonehouse.org/http://www.elizabethstonehouse.org/https://www.finexhouse.org/http://www.harborcov.org/http://www.reachma.org/http://reachma.org/
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Renewal House Roxbury, MA
Phone: 617-318-6010
Hotline: 617-566-6881
http://www.uuum.org/?page_id=199
Northeastern Massachusetts
Alternative House
Lowell, MA
Phone: 978-454-1436
Hotline: 1-888-291-6228
www.alternative-house.org/
Help for Abused Women and
their Children (HAWC)
Salem, MA
Phone: 978-744-8552
Hotline: 1-800-547-1649
hawcdv.org/
Supportive Care
Lawrence, MA
Phone: 978-686-1300
Hotline: 1-877-785-2020
http://www.supportivecaredv.org/index.html
Women's Resource Center
Haverhill, MA
Phone: 978-373-4041
Jeanne Geiger Crisis Center
Newburyport, MA
Phone: 978-465-0999
Hotline: 978-388-1888
jeannegeigercrisiscenter.org/
Central Massachusetts
DayBreak YMCA
Worcester, MA
508-755-9030
https://ywcacm.org/domestic-violence/
http://www.uuum.org/?page_id=199http://www.alternative-house.org/http://www.helpabusedwomen.org/http://www.helpabusedwomen.org/file:///C:/Users/caldweln/AppData/Local/Microsoft/Windows/Temporary%20Internet%20Files/Content.Outlook/W6J0SDHZ/hawcdv.orghttp://www.supportivecaredv.org/index.htmlhttp://www.jeannegeigercrisiscenter.org/file:///C:/Users/caldweln/AppData/Local/Microsoft/Windows/Temporary%20Internet%20Files/Content.Outlook/W6J0SDHZ/jeannegeigercrisiscenter.orghttps://ywcacm.org/domestic-violence/
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Voices Against Violence
Framingham, MA
Phone: 508-820-0834
Hotline 1-800-593-1125
TTY 508-686-8686
Southeastern Massachusetts
A Safe Place
Nantucket, MA
Hotline: 508-228-2111
TTY: 508-228-0561
Brockton Family and
Community Resources
Brockton, MA
Phone: 800-281-6498
Hotline: 508-583-6498
http://www.fcr-ma.org/
Cape Cod Center for Women
North Falmouth, MA
Phone: 774-763-2222
Hotline: 508-564-7233
DOVE
Quincy, MA
Phone: 617-770-4065
Hotline: 617-471-1234
https://dovema.org/
Independence House
Hyannis, MA
Phone: 508-771-6507
Hotline: 1-800-439-6507
TTY: 508-778-6781
https://independencehouse.org/
New Hope
Attleboro, MA
Phone: 508-226-0415
Hotline: 1-800-323-4673
https://www.new-hope.org/
http://www.fcr-ma.org/http://doveinc.info/https://dovema.org/http://www.independencehouse.com/https://independencehouse.org/http://www.new-hope.org/https://www.new-hope.org/
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The Women’s Center
Fall River, MA
Phone: 508-672-1222
Hotline: 508-999-6636
http://www.thewomenscentersc.com/index.php
South Shore Women's Resource Center
Plymouth, MA
Phone: 508-746-2664
Hotline: 1-888-746-2664
http://www.thesswrc.org/index.php
Stanley Street Women's
Center (SSTR)
Fall River, MA
Hotline: 508-675-0087
TTY: 508-673-3328
https://www.sstar.org/
Women's Support Services
Vineyard Haven, MA
Hotline: 508-696-7233
TTY: 508-693-7900
https://www.mvcommunityservices.org/
Western Massachusetts Elizabeth Freeman Center Pittsfield, MA
Phone: 413-586-5066
Hotline: 866- 401-2425
https://www.elizabethfreemancenter.org/
Safe Passage
Northampton, MA
Phone: 413-586-1125
Hotline: 413-586-5066
https://safepass.org/
N.E.L.C.W.I.T.
Greenfield, MA
Phone: 413-772-0871
Hotline: 413-772-0806
http://www.thewomenscentersc.com/index.phphttp://www.thesswrc.org/index.phphttps://www.sstar.org/https://www.mvcommunityservices.org/http://www.elizabethfreemancenter.org/https://www.elizabethfreemancenter.org/https://safepass.org/http://www.nelcwit.org/
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Womanshelter/ Companeras
Holyoke, MA
413-538-9719
413-536-1628
https://womansheltercompaneras.business.site/
YWCA – Arch
Springfield, MA
Phone: 413-732-3121
Hotline: 800-796-8711
https://www.ywworks.org/
Transitional Living Programs
Hotlines :
SafeLink -- 1-877-785-2020 (toll-free)
SafeLink TTY -- 1-877-521-2601
National Domestic Violence Hotline -- 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
National Sexual Assault Hotline -- 1-800-656-HOPE (4673)
Alternative House Lowell 978-937-5777
Casa Myrna Vazquez Boston 1-800-992-2600
Elizabeth Stone House Boston 617-427-9801 x409
Second Step Newton 617-965-3999
Turning Point Amesbury 978-388-6600
The Women Boston 617-536-5651
YWCA of Western MA Northampton 413-586-6807
New Hope South Central MA 508-226-4588
YWCA of Lawrence Lawrence 978-688-2645 (Helpline)
978-686-8840 (TTY)
DOVE Quincy 617-471-1234 (Hotline)
617-770-4065
Transition House Cambridge 617-491-6050
https://womansheltercompaneras.business.site/https://www.ywworks.org/http://www.elizabethstonehouse.org/http://www.thesecondstep.org/http://www.thewomensunion.org/http://www.new-hope.org/http://www.ywcalawrence.org/http://doveinc.info/http://www.transitionhouse.org/
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Early Intervention
Allston, Brighton, Dorchester, Hyde Park, Jamaica Plain, Mattapan, Roslindale, Roxbury, West Roxbury; Brookline
Bay Cove EIP
105 Victory Road
Dorchester, MA 02122
Phone: 617-371-3010
Fax: 617-371-3044
Boston Children's Hospital EIP
75 Bickford Street
Jamaica Plain, MA 02130
Phone: 617-919-7872
Intake Coordinator: 617-919-7881
Fax: 617-971-2490
Criterion Boston EIP
25 Willow Street
West Roxbury, MA 02132
Phone: 617-469-3080
Fax: 617-469-3085
Dimock EIP 1800 Columbus Avenue
Roxbury, MA 02119
Phone: 617-442-8800 ext. 1414
Fax: 617-442-6762
Thom Boston Metro Early Intervention Program
555 Amory Street
Jamaica Plain, MA 02130
Phone: 617-383-6522
Fax: 617-383-6520
Milton, Quincy, and Randolph
Step One Early Intervention South Shore Mental Health Center
500 Victory Road
Quincy, MA 02171
Phone: 800-852-2844
Fax: 617-786-9894
Braintree, Cohasset, Hingham, Hull, Norwell, Scituate and Weymouth
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First EIP 574 Main Street
South Weymouth, MA 02190
Phone: 781-331-2533
Fax: 781-340-1337
Carver, Duxbury, Halifax, Hanover, Hanson, Kingston, Marshfield, Pembroke, Plymouth and Plympton
Kennedy Donovan Center EIP - Greater Plymouth 32 Crescent Street
Kingston, MA 02364
Phone: 508-747-2012
Fax: 508-747-4898
Abington, Avon, Bridgewater, Brockton, East Bridgewater, Easton, Holbrook, Rockland, Stoughton, West Bridgewater and Whitman
Brockton Early Childhood Intervention Program
801 Pleasant Street
Brockton, MA 02301
Phone: 508-586-5977
Fax: 508-583-5847
South Bay Early Childhood Services - Brockton
1115 West Chestnut Street
Brockton, MA 02301
Phone: 508-559-0473
Fax: 508-427-5361
REFERRAL LINE: 800-244-4691
Attleboro, Foxborough, Mansfield, North Attleborough and Norton
Kennedy Donovan Center EIP - Attleboro
25 Forest Street
Attleboro, MA 02703
Phone: 508-226-6035
Fax: 508-222-1877
Beacon Hill, Charlestown, Chelsea, East Boston, Revere and Winthrop
Harbor Area EIP
130 Condor Street
East Boston, MA 02128
Phone: 617-569-6560
Fax: 617-569-1856
Ashland, Dover, Framingham, Holliston, Hopkinton, Natick, Sherborn, Sudbury and Wayland
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Criterion Middlesex EIP
651 Franklin Street
Framingham, MA 01701
Phone: 508-620-1442
Fax: 508-875-0806
South Bay Early Childhood Services - Framingham 855 Worcester Road
Framingham, MA 01701
Phone: 508-834-3100
REFERRAL LINE: 800-244-4691
Canton, Dedham, Foxborough, Medfield, Millis, Norfolk, Norwood, Plainville, Sharon, Walpole, Westwood and Wrentham
Enable Inc. EIP 275 Prospect Street
Norwood, MA 02062
Phone: 781-255-1817
Fax: 781-762-8542
Thom Neponset Valley Early Intervention Program 101 Vanderbilt Avenue
Norwood, MA 02062
Phone: 781-551-0405
Fax: 781-551-9901
Andover, Lawrence, Methuen and North Andover
Professional Center for Child Development 32 Osgood Street
Andover, MA 01810
Phone: 978-475-3806
Fax: 978-475-6288
South Bay Early Childhood Services - Lawrence 360 Merrimack Street, Building 5, Unit F
Lawrence, MA 01843
Phone: 978-620-0290
REFERRAL LINE: 800-244-4691
Needham, Newton, Wellesley and Weston
Riverside EI at Needham
255 Highland Avenue, 2nd Floor
Needham, MA 02494
Phone: 781-449-1884
Fax: 781-449-7972
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Preschools/ Daycares A Childs View Preschool
Quincy, MA 02169 | 617-773-5437
Our day care center in Quincy MA - A Child’s View Early
Learning Center is located on Washington Street and opened
in August, 2012. It serves children 3 months thru 5 years of
age. It is currently licensed for 93 children. It’s open
Monday thru Friday at 7:00 a.m.
Focal Early Education Center
Quincy, MA 02169 | (617) 860-7888
Focal Early Education Center offers licensed programs for students in kindergarten, preschool,
and toddler classrooms. We use the award-winning Creative Curriculum®, incorporating the
latest research and best practices in early childhood education into our multi-cultural program,
which includes daily language instruction in English, Spanish, and Chinese.
Little Willows Preschool, Inc.
Quincy, MA 02170 | (617) 773-6173
Providing educational preschool and pre-k programs within a happy and safe environment. Our
goal is kindergarten readiness. Incorporating education and independent life skills to encourage
your child to learn and grow at their pace.
Cornerstone Campus Preschool
Quincy, MA 02170 | (617) 774-0272
At Cornerstone Campus, learning is a hands-on and creative process that engages children in
direct experiences, appropriate for their stage of development. It is our goal to create a
stimulating, emotionally supportive environment in which each child can grow and thrive. We
encourage children to become independent learners who are confident in their abilities and
capable of managing themselves.
Jack N' Jill Chid Care At Marina Bay
Quincy, MA 02171 | (617) 773-4545
Choosing childcare is one of the most important decisions a family can make. We at Jack 'n' Jill
believe that you can change the world when a high-quality childcare enriches not only your
children; yet, entire families and the community. Jack 'n' Jill has a rich heritage of providing a
personal touch while caring for children. Our traditions have brought us from 1943 until now.
Jack 'n' Jill is committed to providing high quality care with core values that are met by utilizing
communication while responding to the needs of children and families.
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Quincy After School @ Atherton Hough
Quincy, MA 02169 | (617) 479-0124
The purpose of Quincy After School Child Care (QCARE), Inc. is to provide quality school age
programs in a group setting. Our program focuses on education, nutrition, health and social
services for children of families who reside in Quincy, Massachusetts.
Quincy After School @ Beechwood Knoll School
Quincy, MA 02170 | (617) 984-8957
The purpose of Quincy After School Child Care (QCARE), Inc. is to provide quality school age
programs in a group setting. Our program focuses on education, nutrition, health and social
services for children of families who reside in Quincy, Massachusetts.
Quincy After School @ Bernazzani School
Quincy, MA 02169 | (617) 769-9818
The purpose of Quincy After School Child Care (QCARE), Inc. is to provide quality school age
programs in a group setting. Our program focuses on education, nutrition, health and social
services for children of families who reside in Quincy, Massachusetts.
Quincy After School @ Lincoln-Hancock School
Quincy, MA 02169 | (617) 773-5559
The purpose of Quincy After School Child Care (QCARE), Inc. is to provide quality school age
programs in a group setting. Our program focuses on education, nutrition, health and social
services for children of families who reside in Quincy, Massachusetts.
Quincy After School @ Merrymount School
Quincy, MA 02169 | (617) 770-2252
The purpose of Quincy After School Child Care (QCARE), Inc. is to provide quality school age
programs in a group setting. Our program focuses on education, nutrition, health and social
services for children of families who reside in Quincy, Massachusetts.
Quincy After School @ Montclair School
Quincy, MA 02171 | (617) 770-9752
The purpose of Quincy After School Child Care (QCARE), Inc. is to provide quality school age
programs in a group setting. Our program focuses on education, nutrition, health and social
services for children of families who reside in Quincy, Massachusetts.
Quincy After School @ Parker School
Quincy, MA 02171 | (617) 471-9918
The purpose of Quincy After School Child Care (QCARE), Inc. is to provide quality school age
programs in a group setting. Our program focuses on education, nutrition, health and social
services for children of families who reside in Quincy, Massachusetts.
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Quincy After School @ Squantum
Quincy, MA 02171 | (617) 770-4466
The purpose of Quincy After School Child Care (QCARE), Inc. is to provide quality school age
programs in a group setting. Our program focuses on education, nutrition, health and social
services for children of families who reside in Quincy, Massachusetts.
Quincy After School @ Wollaston School
Quincy, MA 02170 | (617) 773-3374
The purpose of Quincy After School Child Care (QCARE), Inc. is to provide quality school age
programs in a group setting. Our program focuses on education, nutrition, health and social
services for children of families who reside in Quincy, Massachusetts.
Quincy YMCA @ Bethel Church
Quincy, MA 02169 | 617-481-4477
Our Norwell Afterschool Programs include before and after school care for students grades K
through 6 at Vinal Elementary School and Cole Elementary School as well as an after school
program for students at South Shore Charter Public School. Our Scituate programs include before
and after school care for students at Cushing Elementary School, Hatherly Elementary School,
Jenkins Elementary School and Wampatuck Elementary School.
Greater Quincy Child Care Center
Quincy, MA 02169 | (617) 773-8386
Our program is based on the belief that it is imperative to foster the development of the whole
child; socially, emotionally, physically, intellectually, and creatively. Our dynamic, stimulating
environment enables growth to occur in all developmental area, while simultaneously supporting
the individual needs of each child. GQCCC admits children of any race, color, and national or
ethnic origin to all rights, privileges, programs, and activities generally accorded or made
available to children at the Center. It does not discriminate on the basis of race, color, national or
ethnic origin, religion, cultural heritage, political beliefs, gender, or marital status in
administration of its educational policies.
Jack N Jill Kindergarten & Child Care Ctr Inc Quincy, MA 02169 | (617) 773-4515
Our administrative and teaching professionals are carefully screened and selected for their
experience, education, and ability in working with young children. All of our teachers are trained
in the area of early childhood education and certified by the Department of Early Education and
Care. All staff members are CPR, First Aid, and OSHA certified and are required to continue
their education and training in the area of early childhood. Our staff is encouraged to work
individually with each child and to provide daily feedback to parents. Activities are interspersed
with morning and afternoon snacks, lunch, and an afternoon rest period. Families are always
welcomed and encouraged to attend any of our special activities and events.
*For more locations check this website :http://childcarecenter.us/massachusetts/quincy_ma_childcare
http://childcarecenter.us/massachusetts/quincy_ma_childcare
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Parenting Tips
Ten Tips to Help Your
Child Adjust to School
1. Facilitate your child’s bonding with
the teacher.
Kids need to transfer their attachment focus to
their teacher to be ready to learn. If you notice
that your child doesn’t feel good about school,
contact the teacher immediately. Just explain that he doesn’t seem to have settled in
yet, and you hope she can make a special effort to reach out to him so he feels at
home. Any experienced teacher will understand and pay extra attention to him for a
bit. Many teachers assign the child a special job, so they feel connected and like
they have a role to play each day.
2. Facilitate bonding with the other kids.
Kids need to feel bonded with at least one other child. Ask the teacher if she’s
noticed who your child is hanging with. Ask your child which kids he’d like to invite
over to play. If he isn’t comfortable with how the other child would respond to a
playdate invitation, you can always invite the mom with her kid for ice cream after
school, or the entire family for Friday night dinner. You don’t need anything fancier
than pasta, and by the end of the meal, the kids will be racing around the house like
long lost buddies. And who knows? Maybe you and the parents will hit it off.
3. Give your child a way to hold onto you during the day.
For many kids, the biggest challenge is saying goodbye to you. Develop a parting
ritual, such as a hug and a saying: “I love you, you love me, have a great day and I’ll
see you at 3!” Most kids like a laminated picture of the family in their pencil box.
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Many also like a token for their pocket, such as a paper heart with a love note, or a
pebble you found on the beach together.
4. Calm her fears.
Most school anxiety is caused by worries that adults might find silly, such as the fear
that you’ll die or disappear while she’s at school. Point out that naturally people who
love each other don’t like parting, but she’ll have fun, you’ll be absolutely fine, the
school can always contact you, and your love is always with her even when you
aren’t. End every conversation with the reassurance “You know I ALWAYS come
back” so she can repeat this mantra to herself if she worries.
5. Help your child laugh out his anxieties so he doesn't have to
cry.
Giggling is your child's way of venting anxiety, and any child who is having a tough
school adjustment is feeling anxious -- fearful -- inside. Give him as many
opportunities to giggle as possible. If you can spend some time every morning
playing a chase game in your house, or whatever gets him giggling, you'll find that
his separation from you at school goes more smoothly. (But NOT tickling, since that
seems to involve a different area of the brain and may even build up stress
hormones.) Some games that help kids with separation:
"Please Don't Leave Me."
When you have been reading to him and he starts to get off your lap, pull him back
to you and tell him how much you love holding him, and to please not go away from
you EVER and you want to hold him always. Keep your voice light and playful rather
than needy so he feels free to pull away, but keep scooping him back to you and
begging hi, dramatically, to stay. The point of this is to heal that fear inside him about
how much he needs and wants you, by letting him be the one to "leave." Again, go
for giggles.
The Bye Bye Game.
This is a simple version of Hide and Seek that triggers just enough separation
anxiety to get him giggling. Say "Let's play Bye-bye." Start to leave -- but not through
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a door, as if you're really going. Instead, open the closet door. But then act like
you're the one who is scared to separate, and jump back to your child and cling. Say
"I missed you! Ok, let me try that again!" and start to leave again. But again, come
back and grab him before you are even out of sight, which should get him giggling,
especially if you play-act being silly and excessively worried. Keep playing this,
letting him yell or you yell, as long as he is giggling, to surface his anxieties about
your leaving him.
6. Stay connected.
Start your child's day with a five minute snuggle in bed or on the couch, just bringing
100% of your attention to loving her. Make sure that every day after school when
you're reunited, you have special time with your big girl to hear all about her day.
Make sure to schedule in a long snuggle after lights-out to increase her sense of
security.
7. Be alert for signs about why your child is worried.
Most of the time, kids do fine after a few weeks. But occasionally, their unhappiness
indicates a more serious issue: he’s being bullied, or can’t see the blackboard, or
doesn’t understand anything and is afraid to speak up. Ask calm questions about his
day, listen deeply, and reflect what he tells you so he’ll keep talking. Start
conversations by reading books about school together; your librarian can be helpful.
Offer your own positive school stories (“I was so nervous the first week I couldn’t
even use the bathroom at school but then I met my best friend Maria and I loved first
grade”) and the assurance that he’ll feel right at home soon. If you sense a bigger
issue that you can’t unearth, it’s time to call the teacher.
8. Ease the transition.
If your child gets teary when you say goodbye, use your goodbye routine and
reassure her that she’ll be fine and you’ll be waiting at the end of the day. If she
continues to have a hard time separating, see if the teacher can give her a special
job every morning to ease the transition.
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9. Make sure you’re a few minutes early to pick your child up.
Not seeing you immediately will exacerbate any anxieties.
10. Downplay the time younger kids spend with you at home.
If a younger sibling is at home with you, be sure your older child knows how boring it
is at home and how much the younger sib wishes she could go to big kids’ school.
11. Create a calm household routine with early bedtimes and
peaceful mornings.
If you have to wake your kids in the morning, they aren’t getting enough sleep. Kids
who aren’t well-rested don’t have the internal resources to cope with goodbyes,
much less the rigors of the school day. And get yourself to bed early too, so you can
deal calmly with the morning rush and get everyone off to a happy start.
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Spiritual Guidance
In search of a place to worship? Here are a few places in the Quincy, Ma area.
Wollaston Church of the Nazarene
37 E Elm Ave
(617) 472-5669
Union Congregational Church
136 Rawson Rd
(617) 479-6661
Wollaston Lutheran Church
550 Hancock St
(617) 773-5482
St. Ann's Parish Church
757 Hancock St
(617) 479-5400
Quincy Community United Methodist Church
40 Beale St
(617) 773-3319
Chinese Baptist Church of Greater Boston
38 Weston Ave
(617) 479-3531
Christ Episcopal Church
1132 Highland Ave
(781) 444-1469
And if these are not what you are looking for here is a website to find churches in the
denominations of your choosing.
http://www.churchangel.com/
http://www.churchangel.com/