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SURROGACY

Kiran Infertility Centre Pvt. Ltd, Hyderabad, IndiaThe preferred destination for Surrogacy and Infertility Treatment

What is SURROGACY??Surrogacy is when another woman carries and gives birth to a baby for you.


What does it mean to Society?&

What Surrogate’s family and other

thinks about this?

Questionnaire given to surrogate mothers in two major cities of India-New Delhi & HyderabadParticipants: SCI/ New Life India/ Kiran Clinic/ANA Healthcare Services


How did you first hear about becoming a surrogate?- Delhi Friend 13

Board 3

Sister 20

Neighbour 21

Surrogate Mother 4

Family Member 25

T.V 5

NewsPaper 3

In general many people 19

Husband 2

First Donor than surrogate 2

Doctor 1

Combination 5

How did you first hear about becoming a surrogate?- Delhi From agent in my neighbour 1

From agent 1

somebody told me and gave agent's number 1

My friend told me 1

My sister told me 1

My nieghbour 1

My brother in law told me and then went to agent 1

My friend told me and then went to agent 1

My Aunt,she has also been surrogate 1

Heard from others and then went to my sister 1

Heard from other surrogate mother 1

From another surrogate mother 5

Neighbour 2

Friend 1

Relative 1

How did you first hear about becoming a surrogate?-DELHI

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How did you first hear about becoming a surrogate?(Hyderabad 52) Friend- 16 Surrogate mother- 3 Neighbour- 9 Newspaper- 2 Coordinator- 17 Sister- 2 T.V.- 1 Family- 2

HYDERABADHow did you first hear about becoming a surrogate?

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Sister-, 2

T.V.- , 1Family-, 2

Why did you choose to be a surrogate mother- DELHI Relief from Problem(Pareshani se Rahat)- 1

Increase in Clan(Vansh Badega)- 1

Noble act(Punya Ka Kaam)- 1

After seeing our own condition(Apni majboori ko dekh kar) - 1

Make our home(makan banana hai)- 1

For future of our child(Bacche ke bhavishya k liye)- 24

Need for Money(Paise ki jaroorat thi)- 17

My wish(Meri marzi)- 5

Home Problems(Ghar ki pareshani)- 4

For my Family(Apne parivar k liye)- 7

Think and decide(Soch k faisla liya)- 46

somebody feel to be a mother(Koi maa banne ko mehsoos kare- 1

Due to Problem(Kuch pareshani ki wajah se) 1

Feel Good(Accha laga)- 7

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Why did you choose to be a surrogate mother - DELHI

For whole life we get blessings(Zindagi bhar dua milegi)- 1

Improve finances(Aarthik sudhar)- 2

For goodness of both family(Dono parivar ki kushi)- 2

Inner Soul(Antar Aatma ki aawaz)- 1

Proud to make another woman a mother(Dusre ko maa banane ka Garv- 1

How it feels to become a surrogate(Sarogate banke kaisa lagta hai ) 1

Somebody feels being a mother happiness(Maa banne ki kushi)- 3

Debts(udhar)- 1

For sake of others(Dusro k liye)- 2

Who cannot be mothers(Jo maa nai ban sakti)- 1

Newspaper(Akhbaar)- 2

TV- 2

Somebody feel happy and for my own daughter 1

Some women gave multiple reasons

Why did you choose to be a surrogate mother- DELHI

For my kids school and want to save money for them 1

My kids are small and my husband's earning is not enough 1

Husband not earning,want to make our room and for my kids studies 1

Due to problems 1

I need money as I have nothing in my village 1

I want to educate my kid and if I can do something for somebody 1

I will make my home and for my daughters marriage 1

For my kids marriage and education 1

I want to do something for my kids and for their education 1

I will prepare my home 1

I need money ,I have one daughter 1

For preparing my home 2

To buy my house and for kids study 1

For kids study 1

Kids Future 2

To remove my problems 2

My own problems and money problem 1

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(Hyderabad 52) Future of Child(Bacche ka bavishya)- 14 Debts(Udhar)- 25 Financial Support(Paise ki sahayata)- 1 Support Family(parivaar ka saath)- 7 Good Cause(acche k karan)- 1 Husband Health(Pati ki halat)- 1 Family problem(Parivaar ki pareshani)- 1 Elder son Health(bade bete ki bimari)- 1 Purchage House(Ghar kharidna hai)- 1

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What did your Husband &family think about youbecoming a Surrogate Mother ?

DELHIHusband (112)

Good (Accha) 56Happy (Kush) 11Ok (Theek) 2Permission (Poocha) 1Agree (Razi) 2Opinion taken (Salah) 5Noble (Bhalai) 6Religion (Dharm ka kaam hai) 1Together (Saath) 6Women help women 3First against, then ok 5Brave ( Sahas) 1Respect (Izzat) 1Not wrong (galat nahi) 1Single Surrogate (No need to ask) 4Love (pyar) 1No worries/No objection 6

Family (113)Good (Accha) 54Happy (Kush) 10Ok (Theek) Permission (Poocha) 1Agree (Razi) 2Opinion taken (Salah) 7Noble (Bhalai) 8Religion (Dharm ka kaam hai) 1Together (Saath) 4Women help women 3Against then ok 10Brave ( Sahasak) 2Respect (Izzat) 1Not wrong 1No worries/No objection 3Proud (Garv) 2No need to ask (Zaroorat nai) 4

What did your Husband &family think about youbecoming a Surrogate Mother Everybody is with me as I have one daughter so for her marriage 1

Everybody is with me they have asked me and I have told them everything and they said yes 1

I live alone with my kids and my mummy lives at village 1

It is both of our decision,my neighbours are aslo very happy and asked me everything 1

My husband supported me as I am doing for my kids, my mom accepted it later 1

Husband supported me 1

everybody knows it and supported me 1

Everybody says its your wish and husband was with me 1

After listening everyboday said yes as it improves our conditions 1

I told them everything and they said nothing 1

My husband want me to do it as it is good for us, we are getting money 1

Only me and my husband knows about it 5

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Only my sister in laws know 1

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What did your husband and family think about you becoming a SM?- HYDERABAD

Husband Ok(Thik)- 9 Happy(Khush)- 3 Support(Saath)- 7 Permission(Aagya)-1 No comments - 4 Single- 1

FamilyOK(Thik)- 10Happy(Kush)- 2Brother’s/Parent’s Decision- 1Mother’s Permission-2Money(Paisa)- 2Support(Saath)- 4No comments- 4

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Was it your decision to become a surrogate or a family decision?

Delhi Family(Parivar)- 10

Husband(Pati)- 3

My Decision(Mera Faisla)- 17

My Family and me(Parivar or Mera)-64

Me & My husband(mera or pati ka)- 9

Me,family and Husband- 11

No need to ask- 1

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My decision agreed by Family- 2

My decision and correct decision- 2

Hyderabad-52 Family Decision- 31 Husband- 1 My Decision- 17 Mother- 3

Was it your decision to become a surrogate or a family decision? It was me and my husband decision with our family members support

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I am a divocee so it was my decision 1

Me and my husband's decision 6

My family members supported me and said yes 2

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Was it your decision to become a surrogate or a family decision?-Hyderabad

Family Decision-, 31

Husband-, 1

My Decision-, 17

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What questions and concerns did you have at the beginning ?-Delhi

Delhi-123 I was ready so no questions(Mai taiyar thi)- 4

Yes,to whom baby should handover and how

much they need the child- (Baccha kon lega or kitni jaroorat hai) 1

First some fear was there but

after procedure started no problems at all(illaz shuru k baad koi darr nai )- 18

After seeing another surrogate I forgot the pain(Dusri surrogate ko dekhke dard bhul gayi)- 1

No concerns no worries(koi chinta koi sawal nai)- 59

No question no worries- (koi chinta koi sawal nai) 28

How much money we get (kitna paisa milega)- 1

What questions and concerns did you have at the beginning-Delhi God gift which we are doing- (Bhagwan ka prasad hai) - 1

If something happen to me(kuch hua muje toh mere baccho ka kya hoga)

Who will care about my children- 2

ET should be successful that’s my only concern -(Et ruk jaye bas) - 1

How will be my child- (Bacha kaisa hoga) 2

Work of Bravery- (Bahaduri ka kaam hai 2

Just take care of the child(bacche ko acche se rakhna) 1

First want to meet parents then no worries (pehle milungi phir koi chinta nai) 1

This is my own decision so that somebody can get happiness 1

(ye mera faisla hai k kisi ko khusi mil jaye)

Sister told me everything so I understand 1

What questions and concerns did you have at the beginning-Delhi I met other surrogates so no concerns 1

What kind of people are they and how will they keep the child 1

How will I take care of my kids but time passed away while thinking about them 1

I have no concerns as I was aware of all the things 1

I only think that nature has given me such thing that I can fulfill somebodies desire 1

I was afraid but my friend told me that it is good for your kid 1

First afraid then I met people there,only one concern that what will happen next 1

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I was told that all test will de done then only I can enter into programmae,all goes well 1

I have no concerns and fear 3

I will be pregnant or not ,only this was the fear 1

I was aware so no fear 1

No question no fear 2

Before becoming sur rogate mother I was afraid that if I died then what will happen to my kid 1

After starting of process there was no fear 1

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What would happen if you change your mind about becoming a surrogate at the begining?-Delhi

DELHI- 120

I trust SCI(mujhe SCI pe bharosa hai)- 1

Mentally prepare(Mansik roop se taiyar thi) - 6

We are aware of the process-(Hume sab pata tha) 14

My commitment not to change- (maine bharosa diya hai) 2

Not change my mind(nai badlungi)- 37

If I change my mind then I will not do treatment (agar mann badla toh bacchanai rakhungi)- 1

Ready in every way(har tarah se taiyar hu)- 7

If I change than loose religious work(punya ka kaam nai kar sakti agar mannbadla 1

Everybody will be in problem (sabko pareshani hogi) 1

First worried then accepted (pehle chinta thi phir thaiyar thi) 1

I have to complete it (pura hi karungi) 1

What would happen if you change your mind about becoming a surrogate at the begining?- Delhi

Can bear every pain but not change- (Har dard sehkar bi mann naibadlungi) 3

Kids future- 2

Child is precious for Parents so not change(Baccha unke liye jaroori hai)-2

Loose something so not change(Kuch kho dungi) 14

Trust myself so not change(Muje apne pe vishwas hai- 5

Fraud if I do it(Dhoka hoga)- 7

After thinking I started it so not change(boht soch k shuru kiya) 8

Parents should not loose anything so I don’t(IP kuch kho denge) 3

For my family and children sake (Apne bacche or Parivar k liye)- 4


I will not say no as it will be my loss 1

I can't think as I have to do it 1

If my mind will change then I have to repent that I didn't do anything for my kids 1

I will not give up as I am doing for my kids 2

Doctor has faith on me I will not break it 1

After a lot of thinking we said yes,so we will go with you 3

I will never ditch 1

The baby will be like my baby so I will not go back 1

Can't say no in between 1

I will not change my mind otherwise I can not prepare my home and my kids can not study 1

I will not change as I need money 1

After lot of thinking I took decision so I can't change my mind 2

I become surrogate mother for my kids so I will not change my mind 2

Had I not want to become surrogate mother I wouldn't have contacted you 1

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What would happen if you change your mind about becoming a surrogate at the begining?- Hyderabad

Hyderabad (52)

Not change (Nai badlungi)- 43

I can do if not get pregnant(kar sakti hu agar pregnant naihui)- 4

Once pregnant have to carry child(Ek baar pregnant ho gayi to baby dungi hi)- 1

No answer- 4

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What are your plans for the money you receive for doing surrogacy? Delhi

Delhi Deposits for kids(Baccho ki liye jama Karungi 10 Prepare House(Ghar banana hai)- 25 Kids future(Baccho k bavishya k liye)- 17 Need for money(Paise ki jaroorat)- 1 Kids Education and future(Baccho ki padai or bavishya k liye)- 31 Daughter’s Marriage(Beti ki shaadi)- 6 Deposit for Kids and family(Parivvar or baccho k liye jama karungi)- 9 Myself and family future(mere or parivvar k liye) 5 Use for Noble act(punya ka kaam hai) 5 Upbringing of child(Paevarish k liye)- 3 Clear my debts and deposit for kids- 6 Do my own work(apna kaam karungi)- 3 How to use that money (kaise prayog karenge) 1 Don’t want any information 1

What are your plans for the money you receive for doing surrogacy? Delhi

I want to renovate my house and have to think about my kids 1

I want to do my daughter's marriage 1

I want to clear my debts and invest money for my kid studies 1

I will buy place and prepare home at my village 1

I want to save for my daughter,want to prepare home 1

I know parlour work, so I will prepare one room at my village 1

I will save for my daughter and invest in her studies 1

I want best school fo my kids 1

I want to prepare my home for my kids 2

I want to prepare home 1

Buy my house 4

For my baby's operation 1

For my Kid's future 1

Buy my house and for my kids studies. 1

I will deposit for my kids 1

To pay my new house instalments 1

What are your plans for the money you receive for doing surrogacy?

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What are your plans for the money you receive for doing surrogacy?Hyderabad-52 Higher Education(Badi padai k liye)- 1

Clear my debts(udhar chukana hai) 26

Clear debts & construct house(ydhar chuka k ghar banana hai)- 1

Deposits for children Education(Baccho ki padai k liye jama karungi) 19

Treatment for husband(pati k ilaaj k liye) 1

Treatment of elder son(bade bete k illaj k liye)- 1

To purchase house(ghar kharidna hai)- 1

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DelhiYes I need information 8What kind of people they are(Kaise log hai) - 5No information(Koi jankari nai Chahiye)- 57Tell parents for kids good future(Bacche k bavishya k liye bolungi)- 8 Baby should be intelligent and good(Samajdar or accha hona cahiye)- 2 Good upbringing and good person(acchi parvarish or accha insaan)- 9 Take good care(acche se dhyan rakhe)- 11Need full address(Pura pata poochna hai)- 3How they keep the child(Kaise rakhenge) - 4Where they live(Kahan rehte hai)- 7Good by nature(Swabhav k acche ho)- 2Very precious take good care(boht kimmti hai)- 2Will they give love and keep happy(Kya pyaar denge or kush rakhenge)-3What they think about me..I think good about them 1No information want just keep the child happy 1

What information you want about parents of the baby you are carrying- Delhi What kind of people they are and how they keep the child 4 No information want 2 Just want to see the baby for one time and want to know how they keep the

child 1 I will know if I want to know 1 I want to meet them 1 I want to meet them and want to see the precious smile on their face 1 we want to talk with them and want to see who will take the baby home 1 No information needed 7 Parents should be good settled and take care of myself 1 I wish to know about thir caste. 1

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Would you like to meet the parents after birth?What kind of contact you prefer after birth of the child?-Delhi

DELHI Want to meet but no contact(Milna hai koi sampark nai rakhna) - 8 Not to meet(Nai milna)- 58 Yes want to meet-(milna hai) 17 Want to meet and keep contact-(Milna hai or sampark bi rakhna hai) 15 Meet through SCI- (SCI k through) 4 Given baby from mother to mother(Ek maa se dusri maa ko baccha milega)- 2 Not to meet no contact(Naa milna hai na contact rakhna hai) 4 Through letter and Photo(Sirf khat or photo k dwara)- 1 Yes, to say keep good care(accha khayal rakhna)- 3 As a friend we want contact(dost k jaisa sampark rakhna hai)- 2 I meet if parents want(milungi agar parents chahte hai toh)- 6 Just say give them love-(unhe pyar de bas)- 1 Will meet and say thank you- (milke dhanyavad karna chahte hai) 1 Only child should be happy 1


I just want to meet them nothing else 1 How they take care of child,just want to see that baby will be fine 1 If parents don't have problem then I want to meet them 1 Yes I want to meet them and but don't want to contact them 1 Yes I want to meet them to see what kind of people they are and if they want to meet 1 I want to meet them and yes I will meet them again if they keep contact with me 3 I will keep contact so that I can see the child sometime 1 Yes I want to meet them when they will take the baby, I want to see want kind of people

they are 1 Yes I want to see their happiness 1 I don't want to keep any contact with them 7 It depends on the parents whether they want to keep any contact with me 1 I wish to keep in contact with them as a friend 1


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HYDERABAD-52No contact(Koi sampark nai rakhna)- 40No relation (Hum unko nai jante) - 1Want to see the child(Bacche ko dekhna chahti hu)- 11

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What would you tell other woman who is considering becoming a surrogate? ?Hyderabad

Hyderabad-52 Clean process(Saaf prakriya hai)- 1 Good(Accha hai)- 38 No (Nahi) 1 Encourage(Protsahit karungi)- 3 Come forward and help(Aage aao or madad

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What would you tell other woman who is considering becoming a surrogate?- Delhi

Make clear before doing(Karne se pehle pooch lo)- 1 Do it if you can(agar kar sakte ho to karo) - 1 Noble work (Punya ka kaam hai) 10 Yes, should go for it-(Jaroor karo) 4 Religious work-(Dharam k kaam hai) 4 I give good advice(Mai acche vichar hi bolungi)- 21 It is not wrong(Kuch galat nai hai)- 3 It is good-(Sab accha hai) 39 Remove your problem(apni pareshaani dur hogi) - 2 It is a god gift-(Bhagwan ka prasad hai) 9 For kids(baccho kliye) 1 Give light to somebody home(Ghar ka Chirag jal jaye) 1 They need baby and we need money(unhe baccha or hume paisa chahiye) 1


For humanity-(Insaniyat k naate) 3 Help them and give happiness-(unki madad karke unhe khusi do) 9 Eat healthy,take light food-(Halka khana khao) 1 It’s destiny to be a surrogate-(Surrogate banana kismat ki baat hai) 2 I proud(muje apne pe garv hai) - 2 Do it no problem(Koi pareshani nai hai isme) 7 Good for poor people(garibo ki madad k liye sai hai)- 2


• I will tell others who want to become surrogate 1 • Yes I will tell others so that it would do good 3 • Yes I will tell others so that they also get benefit of it 1 • I will proudly say that becoming a surrogate is a good thing 1 • I will tell others who want to do something for their kids 1• I will tell others about this golden journey 1 • I will say that do it so that another women should also get ac chance to feel the joy of motherhood and

it will be good for you also 1 • If somebody ask then I will definitely tell them 1• I will tell others so that they can eanr money out of it 1 • We will encourage them as it is a noble cause 4• We can give happiness to who can not become mother on their own 1 • Being a surrogate mother. It is good for both…the parents and surrogate mother 1 • There is no harm in it and we can help each other 2 • This process helps each other so there is no harm 1


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