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Welcome to the
WASHINGTON STATE CHAPTERof
Community Associations Institute
The leading professional organization providing education,resources, and advocacy for community association living.
Success, Achievement And Fulfillment!
Capturing Your Best Self!
**Disclaimer: 95% of this presentation is not an original thought…
Personal Improvement:
Easier to avoid
Challenging to embrace
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Why Improve?
Do not avoid personal improvement.
“If you don’t grow, you die.”
“For things to change, you must change. If you do not change, nothing will change.”
Why Improve?
“What you get will never make you happy. What you become will either make you happy or very sad…”
“You get what you tolerate…”
Why Improve?
Change and Improvement is HARD!
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Self-Awareness –The Key Puzzle Piece
Why is Self-Awareness Important?
[ self-awareness ]
“The ability to take an honest look at your life without attachment to
it being right or wrong”- Debbie Ford, Author
Why Is It Important?
Having an awareness of: Who you are? Your are a result of the
sum-total of:
• Your past…life story. • What you’ve overcome - not what you’ve
“been through”.
• Your present & future…• Talents, beliefs, passions, values and
experiences.
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Why my journey is important for ME to understand…
Son of Doyle
“You’re A Leader”
“You’re A Loser”○ Paying the “stupid” tax
“You’re A Leader”
Self-Awareness Top 5’s
Improving your own self-awareness:
1. Feedback from peers
2. Personality questionnaires○ Strength Finders, Myers Briggs, etc.
3. Feedback from family…spouse, kids..
4. Feedback from manager
5. Feedback from clients
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Self-Awareness Top 5’s
Areas where self-awareness has been most helpful:
1. Working with others in a team
2. Coping with stress
Self-Awareness Top 5’s
Areas where self-awareness has been most helpful:
1. Working with others in a team
2. Coping with stress
Self-Awareness Top 5’s
Areas where self-awareness has been most helpful:
1. Working with others in a team
2. Coping with stress
3. Acting as a coach
4. Dealing with change
5. Managing/leading others
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Self-Awareness Top 5’s
Biggest advantages of self-awareness:
1. Understanding your reactions and what motivates you.
Self-Awareness Top 5’s
Biggest advantages of self-awareness:
1. Understanding your reactions and what motivates you.
2. Management of self/choices.
3. Ability to adapt behavior.
4. Improving relationships.
5. Personal growth.
Self-Awareness “If you think in negative terms…you will reap negative results.”
“Nothing can stop a person with the right mental attitude from achieving a goal; nothing on earth can help a person with the wrong mental attitude.”
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Self-Awareness ”You cannot always control what happens to you, but you can control what happens in you.”
- John Maxwell
The Outer World:○ Weather, stock market, trials, tragedies, good
or bad luck.
The Inner World:○ Our emotions, thoughts, reactions.
Self-Awareness
We mistakenly think that inner world problems will be fixed with outer world solutions, or that out world problems will be fixed with outer world solutions.
Self-awareness and self-control are life long pursuits.
Self-Awareness
“People are just as happy as they make up their mind to be”
- Lincoln
“Happiness is a habit of mind.”
“To change your circumstances, first start by thinking differently.”
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Self-Awareness
3 KEYS TO BREAKTHROUGH:
1. State
2. Story
3. Strategy
Self-Awareness
3 KEYS TO BREAKTHROUGH:1. STATE
○ Want to change something? Change your state of mind. Your way of thinking.
Self-Awareness
3 KEYS TO BREAKTHROUGH:1. STATE
○ Want to change something? Change your state of mind. Your way of thinking.
2. STORY○ Our story of limitations is an anchor.
Change your story, change your life.
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Self-Awareness
3 KEYS TO BREAKTHROUGH:1. STATE
○ Want to change something? Change your state of mind. Your way of thinking.
2. STORY○ Our story of limitations is an anchor.
Change your story, change your life.
3. STRATEGY○ How will you get there? One discipline
and one action step at a time.
What Shapes YOU?You are what you…
Eat, Read, Watch, Listen to (inadvertently or intentionally)
What do you feed your mind?
Is it positive in nature, destructive or just plain dull?
What shapes YOU?
You become what you behold…
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What Shapes YOU?
You are the…company you keep.
Who are your friends?
Why are they your friends?
Do you possibly need some new friends?
Self-Awareness Inventory Time!
The Life Wheel
Self-Awareness Inventory Time!
The Life Wheel:
A tool to help us discover what areas of our life need more focus in order to create balance.
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Fancy drawing…by Sean Hughes…
Please stand by and prepare to be amazed…
The Life Wheel:
The Life Wheel
Against each category, ask yourself the question “how satisfied am I in this particular area?” Use the scale of 1 to 10, where 1 is completely unsatisfied and 10 is completely satisfied and draw a line or place a dot where you feel you are on this scale.
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The Life Wheel Business, Career & Studies: Is your career
where you want it to be by now? Are you heading in the right direction?
Finance & Wealth: Are you earning enough income to satisfy your current needs? Are you financial setup for future growth in wealth?
Health & Fitness: How physically healthy are you? Are you satisfied with your level of fitness? Are you satisfied with your diet?
Social & Friends: Are your friends supportive of you? Are you engaging friends and socializing to your satisfaction levels?
The Life Wheel Family: Is your family supportive of you? Are you
supportive of your family?
Love: Do you feel loved? How often are you expressing love to others?
Recreation & Fun: Are you enjoying your life and making it fun? Are you satisfied with the level of activity that you do?
Contribution: How would others rate your contribution to society or them as individuals?
The Life Wheel Personal Growth: How focused are you on
personal growth? Are you satisfied with your direction? Are you trying new experiences and seeking to learn?
Spiritual: How connected are you to the inner and outer world? Are you satisfied with your relationship with your spiritual being?
Self-Image: Do you think of your abilities highly? Do you respect and love yourself? Do you appreciate yourself?
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How’s your Life Wheel ROLLIN’?
The Life Wheel:
Understanding Your Score:
If you have scores of 8 to 10 for any of the categories, congratulations! You are very satisfied in this particular area. It’s important you maintain what you are doing to ensure you remain satisfied in this area, however don’t overlook that there may be areas for improvement. This is important to ensure you are not limiting your potential for even further growth and satisfaction in this area.
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Understanding Your Score: If you have scores of 5 to 7 for any of the
categories, you are reasonably satisfied in this particular area but there is definitely opportunity to explore ideas to move this up the scale.
If you have scores of 0 to 4 for any of the categories, you are not very satisfied in this particular area and you will need to explore ways of enhancing your satisfaction here. No need to get down about these scores though! I find this exciting when someone has a lower score as often is the case the individual has not fully explored opportunities that are available to them. It's also the area where the individual can grow the most and get the most value!
Where do you go from here?
Looking at what your Wheel of Life looks like is not enough. You need to gain an understanding as to the ‘why’ in order to help you determine where you need to be spending your time and energy moving forward.
GO OVER HOMEWORK ASSIGNMENT!
Where do you go from here?
“For things to change….I must change.”
“Growth = Happiness”
“Sacrifice your present self for your future self.”
“Change is the most rewarding but difficult thing you will ever do.”
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Where do you go from here?
Keep things simple:
Complexity is the enemy of execution.
Keep it simple, methodical and measurable.
Engage one thing at a time from the Life Wheel that you want to change.
“Own your life…or it will own you.”
Where do you go from here?
Keep things simple:
Life is a “Master Class” Some classes (habits) are more expensive than
others.
Maybe “enroll” in a habit change or two that is in your mind attainable. Then step up the challenge as you have success. Similar to the “debt snowball”.
Where do you go from here?
Have “OUTCOMES” you reach for… not “goals”!
Fierce determination on each goal, one at a time.
Focus on what is in your control, not things that are out of your control. The weather
Economy
Others behaviors
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Where do you go from here?
Write it down…what’s an “outcome” you want for each category of the Life Wheel.
Which one do you believe you should take on first? Remember…start with some thing that is reasonable. Build momentum!
“Fake it til you make it”…is stupid advice! – DECIDE TO MAKE IT!
WHAT IS THE NAME OF THE GAME??
PEOPLE!
WHAT GAME ARE YOU PLAYING? WHAT IS THE GAME?
Human interaction○ People
○ Relationships
○ Co-workers
○ Roommates
○ Family & Friends
○ The barista, Wal-Mart greeter, Restaurant server
This is the game…
What IS THE FIELD?
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WHAT GAME ARE YOU PLAYING? WHAT IS THE FIELD?
Condo Board Meeting
Family dinner
Staff meeting
Volunteering at your kids school
Being a grandparent
Time in the public
The game is human interaction
The field is everywhere…
Science & Art…
The Science of Achievement
- VS
The Art of Achievement
GO FORTH!
GO FOR THE BEST IN YOURSELF AND OTHERS!
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CHEESY FINAL QUOTE:
“DON’T HAVE A GREAT DAYMAKE IT A GREAT DAY!”
- Frosty Westering
For more information on The Life Wheel
Launch Your Life Academy
www.launchyourlifeacademy.com
Sean Hughes
253.414.4433 mobile
Working Together to Serve You
Locally and Nationally
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