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CBC acknowledges that we are meeting on the traditional country of the Kaurna people of the Adelaide Plains. We recognise and respect their cultural heritage, beliefs and relationship with the land. We acknowledge that they are of continuing importance to the Kaurna people living today. Welcome to Week 1 of Term 3 Welcome to our newest students who began their educational journey at CBC. On behalf of the community, I warmly welcome the following students and their families: Reception Purple: Enki-Boa Truong, Thomas Elston-McComb, Max Kranixfeld, Severo (Seve) Figarola and Maximillian Ruston Reception White: Andrew Robinson, Zak Sheridan, Stefan Scamoni and Shikhar Golla Justin Li (Year 1), Jerry Li (Year 3), Isaac Pham (Year 7) Year 8: Aiden Dougan-Kittel, Giorgios Soukoulis and Finn Habel We also welcome the following new members of staff replacing those on leave: Ms Coleen Bradfield replacing Mr Rick Mackereth. Mr Max Mentiplay replacing Mr Brad Genner. Mr Scott McGregor replacing Mr Colin Curnow from Week 6 this term. Mrs Rachael Mazurczak appointed as College Daily Organiser. This term we welcome the following staff from back from Long Service Leave: Ms Sara Williams, Mr Vincent Riganese, Mr Noel Karcher and Mr Doriano Lopresto. Welcome to the following student teachers Student Teachers who will be in our classrooms this term: Sarah Palmer, Helena Ivancic, Cassandra Dillon, Josip Barac, Matt Sullivan, Joe Murdoch, Sebastian Neate and Melissa Hayman. Oceania Province Conversation Circles On Thursday night members of the Edmund Rice SA community gathered at CBC to participate in a Conversation Circle. Next year will mark 150 years since Br Ambrose Tracey and a small community of Christian Brothers arrived in Melbourne and established a network of schools and ministries in Australia. The establishment of Conversation Circles provide an opportunity to engage in preparation for this event. It is anticpated that the conversation circles may continue beyond Ambrose Treacy 2018 and provide Edmund Rice people with a forum to discuss and explore the meaningful stories of their ministries, work in schools and connection. Student News in Brief Duke of Edinburgh: Congratulations to the following students who have completed their Gold Duke of Edinburgh Award: Thomson Delloso, Sriram Raj and Jack Catherwood. A significant achievement. UMAT tests: (Undergraduate Medical and Health Science Admission Test). We extend our best wishes to students who sat the UMAT test last Wednesday. Meningococcal B Vaccination: The Senior School is participating in round 2 of the National Meningococcal B Vaccination Program on August 1 2017. Term 3, Week 1 | Friday 28 July, 2017 Inclusive Community Our community is accepting and welcoming, fostering right relationships and committed to the common good. Year 5 students enjoying their Zoo Camp From the Principal Christian Brothers College Newsletter 214 Wakefield Street, Adelaide SA 5000 P 08 8400 4200 F 08 8400 4299 324 Wakefield Street, Adelaide SA 5000 P 08 8400 4222 F 08 8400 4220 178 East Terrace, Adelaide SA 5000 P 08 8223 5469 F 08 8223 7803 [email protected] www.cbc.sa.edu.au Senior Campus Junior Campus CBC Community Children’s Centre Email Website Faith Excellence Community Compassion A Birth-12 Catholic College for boys in the Edmund Rice Tradition

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Page 1: Starting School - Home - Christian Brothers College

CBC acknowledges that we are meeting on the traditional country of the Kaurna people of the Adelaide Plains. We recognise and respect their cultural heritage, beliefs and relationship with the land. We acknowledge that they are of continuing importance to the Kaurna people living today.

Welcome to Week 1 of Term 3

Welcome to our newest students who began their educational journey at CBC. On behalf of the community, I warmly welcome the following students and their families:

• Reception Purple: Enki-Boa Truong, Thomas Elston-McComb, Max Kranixfeld, Severo (Seve) Figarola and Maximillian Ruston

• Reception White: Andrew Robinson, Zak Sheridan, Stefan Scamoni and Shikhar Golla

• Justin Li (Year 1), Jerry Li (Year 3), Isaac Pham (Year 7)

• Year 8: Aiden Dougan-Kittel, Giorgios Soukoulis and Finn Habel

We also welcome the following new members of staff replacing those on leave:

• Ms Coleen Bradfield replacing Mr Rick Mackereth.

• Mr Max Mentiplay replacing Mr Brad Genner.

• Mr Scott McGregor replacing Mr Colin Curnow from Week 6 this term.

• Mrs Rachael Mazurczak appointed as College Daily Organiser.

This term we welcome the following staff from back from Long Service Leave: Ms Sara Williams, Mr Vincent Riganese, Mr Noel Karcher and Mr Doriano Lopresto.

Welcome to the following student teachers Student Teachers who will be in our classrooms this term: Sarah Palmer, Helena Ivancic, Cassandra Dillon, Josip Barac, Matt Sullivan, Joe Murdoch, Sebastian Neate and Melissa Hayman.

Oceania Province Conversation Circles On Thursday night members of the Edmund Rice SA community gathered at CBC to participate in a Conversation Circle. Next year will mark 150 years since Br Ambrose Tracey and a small community of Christian Brothers arrived in Melbourne and established a network of schools and ministries in Australia. The establishment of Conversation Circles provide an opportunity to engage in preparation for this event. It is anticpated that the conversation circles may continue beyond Ambrose Treacy 2018 and provide Edmund Rice people with a forum to discuss and explore the meaningful stories of their ministries, work in schools and connection.

Student News in Brief• Duke of Edinburgh: Congratulations to the

following students who have completed their Gold Duke of Edinburgh Award: Thomson Delloso, Sriram Raj and Jack Catherwood. A significant achievement.

• UMAT tests: (Undergraduate Medical and Health Science Admission Test). We extend our best wishes to students who sat the UMAT test last Wednesday.

• Meningococcal B Vaccination: The Senior School is participating in round 2 of the National Meningococcal B Vaccination Program on August 1 2017.

Term 3, Week 1 | Friday 28 July, 2017

Inclusive CommunityOur community is accepting and welcoming, fostering right relationships and committed to the common good.

Year 5 students enjoying their Zoo Camp

From the Principal

Christian Brothers College Newsletter214 Wakefield Street, Adelaide SA 5000 P 08 8400 4200 F 08 8400 4299

324 Wakefield Street, Adelaide SA 5000 P 08 8400 4222 F 08 8400 4220

178 East Terrace, Adelaide SA 5000 P 08 8223 5469 F 08 8223 7803

[email protected] www.cbc.sa.edu.au

Senior Campus

Junior Campus

CBC Community Children’s Centre

Email Website

Faith Excellence Community Compassion

A Birth-12 Catholic College for boys in the Edmund Rice Tradition

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Diary Dates

Parents are reminded of the 2018 Subject Selection Evening as follows:

2018 Year 10 students (Currently Year 9)6pm to 6.45pm – Staff Conference Centre

2018 Year 11 Students (Currently Year 10)7pm to 8pm – Walsh Lecture Theatre

2018 Year 12 Students (Currently Year 11)8.10pm to 9pm – Walsh Lecture Theatre

This is an important and compulsory event to ensure families are fully informed prior to choosing subjects that may affect the future aspirations and careers of your child.

Port Power Leadership Day

This week students in the Senior Campus attended a Port Power Leadership Day and tour of facilities hosted by the Port Adelaide Football Club with players Travis Boak, Ollie Wines and Jasper Pittard. These players spoke about attributes of being a positive leader in the context of being a responsible and respectful role model.

Condolences

It is with deep sadness that I announce the passing of Mr Neru Maualaivao, father of Year 12 student Tupu-Jonty. On behalf of the College community I extend our love, prayers and support to Mrs Maualaivao and her son TJ. May Neru’s soul rest in God’s loving care.

Conclusion

This week students in O’Brien House celebrated the life and memory of Br Francis Thomas O’Brien CBC’s second Headmaster (after Br Hughes) from 1879-1890. Br O’Brien was a relational principal highly regarded by his staff and students. A special liturgy was held in his honour.

Br O ‘Brien was inspired by the example of Edmund Rice who asked God to open his heart enough to let the smallest seed of love grow and spread. Edmund Rice himself shared this belief when he said: ‘Have courage; the good seed will grow up in the children’s hearts later on.’

I remain as always deeply blessed by courageous and loving students, staff, families and the wider College community who bring the love and joy of Christ to our students.

Mr Noel MifsudPrincipal

2017 SCHOOL CALENDAR

Week 2Mon 31 July Junior Campus Liturgy

Vietnam Pilgrim Gathering (SMC) 4pm

Tues 1 Aug Meningococcal Vaccinations2018 Subject Information Evening – 7pm

Wed 2 Aug JC Community Prayer – 9amCommunity Mass (SC) - SmithWSA MeetingFriends of MusicPhilippines Pilgrim Meeting

Thurs 3 Aug

Fri 4 Aug Senior Campus Assembly Old Collegian – Priests/Brothers

Week 3Mon 7 Aug Junior Campus Liturgy

P&F MeetingYr 12 Parent/Teacher Interviews

Tues 8 Aug Principal’s Tours (JC)

Wed 9 Aug JC Community Prayer – 9amCommunity Mass (SC) – WalshYr 9 RetreatPrincipal’s Tours (SC)

Thur 10 Aug Yr 11 – 2018 Course CounsellingCatholic Schools Cross Country

Fri 11 Aug Junior Campus AssemblyWalk a Mile in my BootsSacrament of Confirmation – St Francis Xavier Cathedral 7pm

Sun 13 Aug Sacrament of First Eucharist – St Francis Xavier Cathedral 11am

Week 4Mon 14 Aug Junior Campus Liturgy

CBC Old Collegians Meeting

Tues 15 Aug Feast of the Assumption139th Birthday Celebration

Wed 16 Aug JC Community Prayer – 9amCommunity Mass (SC) – BourkePhilippines Pilgrim Meeting

Thur 17 Aug “Music is Fun” – JC at SC Gym

Fri 18 Aug Middle/Senior School AssemblyYr 11 Road Awareness Program Presentation (12:05pm)

Week 5Mon 21 Aug Junior Campus Liturgy

Board MeetingIntercol

Tues 22 Aug Vietnam Parent Information Evening 6.30pmIntercol

Wed 23 Aug JC Community Prayer – 9amCommunity Mass (SC) – HurleyInclusive Ed MeetingsIntercol

Thurs 24 Aug Intercol

Fri 25 Aug Junior Campus AssemblyBr Hurley Birthday LiturgyABODA CompetitionIntercol

Sat 26 Aug Intercol CBC vs Blackfriars

Full Term Planner download: www.cbc.sa.edu.au

www.facebook.com/cbcadelaide

SACE Research Project Student ExpoAs part of next month’s SACE Research Project Student Expo, Young Australian of the Year, founder of the internationally recognised fashion label Paolo Sebastian and CBC Old Scholar Paul Vasileff, will be part of an 15 minute Q&A session discussing how the research project (or its precursor, ‘extension studies’) assisted him to further his career after leaving CBC.

Paul Vasileff will be speaking at 10.30am on Wednesday 9 August.

The expo is held at the Adelaide Showground, 8-9 August 2017. More information is available at www.sace.sa.edu.au/expo2017

Continuous School Improvement – School CultureOn Monday’s Staff Professional Development Day, I announced that in the spirit of continuous improvement, I am launching a new awareness program this term in regards to school culture.

This initiative aims to further improve and strengthen College culture. Next week I am asking our community to review our standards in terms of staff and student dress. In light of this, I have provided a summary of our Uniform Policy. Please ensure your child is suitably dressed for school.

Winter Uniform (Terms 2 and 3)

• Purple CBC Blazer

• CBC striped shirt and tie

• Grey CBC jumper

• Grey trousers purchased from the Uniform Shop (Grey shorts are not permitted).

• Grey socks

• Black non-marking leather laced school shoes

• A navy scarf with embroidered College emblem may be worn with the winter uniform only

Physical Education Uniform

• Purple CBC polo top for PE

• Navy and purple CBC PE shorts (except for cricket)

• CBC sport socks or plain white

• Track Suit (Not to be worn with the school uniform)

• Navy CBC sports cap

• Please note the old navy blue track suit (without the stripes) is no longer part of the CBC uniform. This includes the navy blue shorts.

School Bags

• All students are required to use a compulsory CBC

• School bag and CBC sports bag (Years 7–12)

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Term 3 Principal’s ToursTuesday 8 August and Wednesday 13 September (Junior Campus) Wednesday 9 August and Tuesday 12 September (Senior Campus)

9.30am – 10.30am, 5.30pm – 6.30pm

Book online www.cbc.sa.edu.au/tours

An invitation to discover your son’s amazing potential!

A Birth–Year 12 Catholic College for boys in the Edmund Rice Tradition www.cbc.sa.edu.au | /cbcadelaide

CBC Supporter Hats$25 each or $45 for two

If you would like to purchase give Ji Allen a call or text

Ph 0425 763 474All proceeds will go to the CBC Rowing Club

‘Our task is to help children communicate with the world using all their potential, strengths and languages to overcome any obstacle presented by our culture.’ - Loris Malaguzzi

This week we welcome our new brothers and their families who have started school this term at the Junior Campus. We welcome to Reception Enki-Bao Truong, Thomas Elston-McComb, Max Kranixfeld, Maximilian Ruston, Andrew Robinson, Zak Sheridan, Severo Figarola, Stefan Scamoni and Shikhar Golla. In Year 1 we welcome Justin Li and in Year 3 we welcome Jerry Li.

School is a place of possibilities, opportunities and endless discoveries in a nurturing and safe environment. Fostering the natural inquiry, curiosity, imagination and creativity of our boys provides them with the best opportunity to succeed. Every day we encourage the boys to build their learning powers using critical thinking, collaboration, craftsmanship and courage while persevering with trial and error. We value our families as the child’s first teacher and look forward to continuing on the learning journey with your child.

We welcome back to our staff Mrs Sara Papathanasopoulos who at the end of last term celebrated her wedding to Peter. Mr Vincent Rignanese is also returning to us this term after taking some time to be with his wife Kerry after the birth of their first child, Sienna.

It is with wonder and excitement that we begin another amazing term of learning across the Junior Campus. There are many activities and events planned ahead and we look forward to celebrating these in community with you.

Mrs Sharon Moten and Ms Angela GiglioReception TeachersStarting School

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Come ‘n’ Try DayThursday 14 September (Current Year 5 & 6 students)

Visit www.marymackillop.sa.edu.au for further information.

Mary MacKillop CollegeKens ing ton

know more, do more, be more

Principal’s ToursMonday 14 August, 5.00pm

Friday 29 September, 9.30am

SAVE THE DATE!The 2017 Catholic Schools Music Festival performs

in Week 9 of Term 3

Tuesday 19 September & Wednesday 20 September

Venue: Adelaide Entertainment Centre Times: 7.30pm – 9.15pm

Tickets: available Term 3

The Festival is more than just a week of performances. It is a year of education!

Students from differing backgrounds come together and share social and emotional interaction in a positive learning environment. We are nurturing their spiritual growth and fortifying one of the many strengths that Catholic schools have to offer.

It’s about being the best you can be and striving for excellence toward a common goal. Sounds cliché?

It is! And it is very valuable to our young people.

In essence it is about being able to experience the journey involving a large scale professional performance in one of Adelaide’s most prestigious venues; the learning, the focus, the goal, the practise, the personal effort, the teamwork, the comradeship, the adrenalin, the exhilaration, the bond, the support, the love and the culminating spiritual growth.

In an effort to promote a wider recognition for this excellent event and to uphold the benefits to our youth, we seek your support. Come along to the Entertainment Centre in September and see what these students have been preparing for during the past six months!

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Meningococcal B VaccineSecond Round of the Study

CBC Senior School is participating in the Meningococcal B vaccination program and study. On the 3rd of May over 200 students in Year 10 to 12 were swabbed and vaccinated.

Each participant will receive 2 doses of the Meningococcal B vaccine, and two throat swabs. They must complete a 2-page questionnaire and will receive two $20 iTunes vouchers.

The second and final round of vaccinations will occur on the 1st of August 2017 from 9:00 am. Only those students who are currently participating in the study and vaccination program will receive the second vaccination and swab.

The vaccine is licensed in Australia and recommended for use in adolescents and toddlers.

• The Meningococcal B vaccine is also licensed in Europe, Canada and the USA where is it being used to protect children against meningococcal B disease.

• Up to 25% of adolescents carry the meningococcal bacteria in their throat. While this may not cause illness to themselves, the adolescent has the potential to spread the bacteria which may cause disease in others.

• The study aims to determine whether the Meningococcal B vaccine has the additional benefit of preventing the spread of the meningococcus bacteria from person to person.

If you have any questions about this program, please contact Health and Immunisation Management Services or the Immunisation Section, SA Health, Monday–Friday, 8.30am–5pm on 1300 232 272 or visit B Part of it website www.bpartofit.com.au

Please ensure that your son has had a meal and drink on the morning of the vaccination.

Mr Michael LucasDirector of Senior School

Year 8 Debating SA Winter WrapCongratulations to Michael Spyridonidis, Archer Lowman and Euan Stenhouse on their flexible and courageous preparation for Round 1 of the season, when illness made last minute changes necessary. The team is indebted to Michael for his availability at short notice. We argued that ‘increasing fines for parents for truancy was ineffective’, and, by just two points, we failed to match the strength of our opponents, Glenunga High. Michael, Archer and Euan effectively engaged the audience and tested the opposition, receiving congratulations from the adjudicator and opposition alike.

Team collaboration and enthusiasm is a mark of the Year 8 debating team. Careful preparation and extensive discussion, of both sides of the argument, regularly occur at practice sessions at recess, lunch and sometimes after school. New debaters are welcome, encouraged and supported.

The boys’ rebuttal skills continue to increase, and this is crucial to winning debates. The audience needs to hear the opponents’ case opposed –as concisely and constructively as possible. Thinking on your feet and using evidence and reasoning to oppose the others’ argument are the keys to success.

Round 2 required a discussion around promoting equal rights (for women and minority groups, for example,) by changing the symbols on pedestrian crossing lights, as some Australian (and London) councils have done: namely, Yarra Council in Melbourne, on whose lights appear an image of Mary Rogers, an advocate for women’s rights. The team consisted of Rowan Luke and Jack Mills, debating for the first time, and Lewis Bullen as third speaker, with Jack Dinan and Callum Warneford as timekeepers. The boys again came within two points of their opponents; St John’s Grammar, with a more accomplished final speaker, concluding their argument with conviction.

Round 3, ‘That humans could survive a zombie war’ saw a very entertaining evening, with every CBC speaker present playing an impromptu role. Despite an unexpected forfeit, the team went ahead with the night’s debate! Thanks to Ms Richards for chairing this sensational debate and Euan’s sister for time-keeping. Reserve, timekeeper and chair stepped up to the platform

and boldly seized the chance to advance their speaking skills. Finally a win, and great entertainment!! Congratulations all!

Term 3 starts next Tuesday 1 August, 7.35pm at Pembroke Middle School. The topic: ‘That parking spaces for prams are unnecessary.’ CBC has the affirmative, and hopes to win!

To conclude, a note of thanks; each round, our parent supporters are crucial to our wellbeing and confidence. Thank you mums, dads, and sisters, especially for your encouragement and fervent support.

Mrs Kaylene BarreiraCoach

Congratulations to Tupu-Jonty Maualaivao (Year 12, Hurley House Captain) who led the South Australian U18 Schoolboys Rugby team to a Division 2 National Championship on the Gold Coast which took place during July holidays.

TJ was commended as the best player in his forward position and was selected to be in the Merit Squad. TJ now looks to take his national success back to his home state to help the First XV Brothers team to a premiership. Well done!

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From the Wellbeing Team

From ‘Can’t Do’ to ‘Can Do’

Research has proven Henry Ford correct when he said, ‘whether you think you can or that you can’t, you are usually right.’ Helping young people develop a positive growth oriented mindset where they can improve over time and overcome setbacks powerfully predicts success. This shifts them from ‘can’t do’ to ‘can do’. Here are some ways that parents develop this attitude in children.

Have a policy of ‘we fall down 7 times but we get up 8’

We all have set backs. There are times when we all have to pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off and start again. Most of us are experts in this even if we’ve forgotten it because this is the way we learned to walk. Sucking at something the first few times you do it is the first step to getting good at it.

Use ‘I noticed’ feedback

Parents can use ‘I noticed’ feedback for positive and negative behaviours. The number of comments made to kids that begin with the phrase ‘I noticed’, shape behaviour powerfully. For example, ‘I noticed you like to draw’, ‘I noticed you are really trying hard to’, ‘I noticed you’re reading a good book’. Believe me, they will notice that you have noticed! Parents can use this to calmly draw attention to negative behaviours. For example, ‘I notice you are up when you are supposed to be asleep’ or ‘I notice that you are feeling upset right now’. This gives kids a chance to explain their actions or comply with parents’ wishes.

Praise effort more than ability

Tell your kids that they are geniuses but they don’t know it yet. It’s good to know that your parents think you are wonderful. Then focus most of your comments on effort. For example, ‘You really worked hard at that well done!’, ‘I noticed you really tried your best at that, I’m impressed’ or ‘Wow, your practice seems to be really paying off.’

Mistakes are opportunities to learn

If a child thinks they didn’t do well at something because they lack intelligence, they give up. When they can see they are on a pathway of improvement they persist.

Mistakes are an essential part of learning. The physicist Niels Bohr defines an expert as ‘a person who has made all the mistakes that can be made in a very narrow field.’

Creating something new involves make a lot of mistakes. One example is the bestselling Dyson vacuum cleaner. The inventor made 5,127 prototypes of the vacuum before getting it right. ‘There were 5,126 failures. But I learned from each one. That's how I came up with a solution. So I don't mind failure’.

Parents can help children to learn that when you make a mistake all it means is that you haven’t learned how to get it right yet.

Dealing with set backs.

No one really enjoys making mistakes. If we don’t learn from our mistakes we are destined to repeat them. It is hard to keep your enthusiasm up when you’ve not been selected for a dance team or a drama part or a sports team or failed a test at school.

Parents can help kids by helping them to analyse mistakes. Some questions used to review a setback are:

‘Ok so you didn’t do as well as you would have liked. Let’s see if we can learn from this? What parts of it did you do well? What parts of it didn’t go as well as you hoped? How much work would be involved in getting better at those parts? Would you change the way you prepared for it next time? In what ways? I know you can do better at this if you want to. Do you want to try again? How can I help you with this?’

If they decide not to have another go say, ‘Ok but don’t let your decision trick you into believing you couldn’t get better if you tried.’

Turn losses into tournaments

You may have already done this as a kid. After losing at a game, you may have said, ‘Ok, best out of three is the champion’. If you didn’t win that tournament perhaps you may have said, ‘OK, best out of five is ruler of the universe’. Teach your kids that there is no loss; there is always a chance to have another go.

There is no try!

As the Jedi master puts it, do or do not, there is no try. Parents shouldn’t accept ‘try’ either. When kids say they are going to try, ask them, ‘does that mean you are going to do it or not?’

Focus on the way we do things rather than the result

Successful sports teams play the game the same way regardless of the score in the game. Focusing on the result causes people to panic or freeze up. Parents’ comments can cause a shift in their child’s awareness. Instead of commenting on the result, find something you like and notice it. For example, ‘you sang the first few bars of that song beautifully, it’s coming together.’ Avoid the temptation to then add suggestions of ways to improve.

Talk about your role models

Young people today seem to lack positive role models. The media seems determined to serve kids up role models of testosterone fuelled bozos or ditzy socialite women. The idea that you can partly shape your life on someone who you admire is alien to them. Talk about the people you admired as a kid. Explain why they have been important. Talk about the everyday heroes who have inspired you.

How to avoid a boring life

If you get scared of getting things wrong, you won’t try new things. If you don’t try new things you become bored and boring. Life becomes mundane, dull and routine. Parents can arrange to do things with their kids that they have never done before. Quirky adventures don’t have to take a lot of time or money but they do take some thought and planning. Plan to have your

child (and yourself) go somewhere they’ve never been before or do something they have never done before. Don’t settle for anything less than an interesting life.

Think of a time when it was hard

We’ve all done things that at first seemed impossible. We’ve all struggled at times in our lives. Share some of those stories with your kids so they know that you have shared the same doubts as they have. Talk about times when you could have given up but you didn’t.

How to talk with them about successes

Kids want their parents’ approval. The way you provide praise will shape their future efforts. Let them know you are proud of them. Try to include in your delight at their success a comment on the effort that went into their success. For example, ‘I am so proud of you for getting that A, I know how much work you put into that project.’ ‘You were great today. All that practice has really paid off. I’m proud of you’. ‘Wow when you put your mind towards something you really work hard and get it. That’s great’

Be exuberant

If you become the proud parent, kids will tell you that you are embarrassing them. Don’t believe them. Maybe don’t do it in front of other people but when you get them in private, let them know that you love them and think they are fantastic. They may pretend to you that they hate it but they all secretly lap it up.

Be the antidote to the drip feed of despair

Your kids will become upset at setbacks, will label themselves as ‘no good’ or stupid if they don’t get a good mark and compare themselves negatively to others. It is so tempting for parents to try to soothe kids out of this or even provide a salutary lesson, ‘well if you’d tried harder you would have done better’. Don’t do this!

Be determined to stay focused on effort and improvement. ‘I’m sorry you didn’t do as well as you hoped and if you want to have another go, let’s work out a way of getting better at it’.

At first changing your parenting language might feel a bit weird. Focusing on noticing, commenting on effort and emphasising the power of having a go are the most powerful ways parents can set kids up for success.

Andrew Fuller www.andrewfuller.com.au 2. Used with permission.

Mrs Jane GaynorSenior School Counsellor