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ST R E S S - FREE DISCIPLINE for Families and schools. By Judith Bonner, MAED. Discipline is not only Punishment. Biblical discipline stops wrong or poor choices whether you are there or not! It also starts right choices. Do you have a plan for responsibility training? - PowerPoint PPT PresentationTRANSCRIPT
STRESS-FREE DISCIPLINE for Families and schools
By Judith Bonner, MAED
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Discipline is not only PunishmentBiblical discipline stops wrong or
poor choices whether you are there or not!
It also starts right choices. Do you have a plan for responsibility training?
Proverbs 29:15 says “The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother.”
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The Hebrew word for reproof includes:
CorrectionRefutationProof (even in defense)Argument, and Reasoning. (definitions from Strong’s Exhaustive
Concordance)
Discipline is consistent consequences.
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Who am I?graduated from UC Berkeley with a
BA in English and Social Studies MA is in adult education from U of
Phoenix taught 19 years, mostly in
secondary school,raised two gifted sons,English Department Chair, 3 years, wife of Rev. Mike Bonner, Yard D
(special needs) Pastor at Donovan State Prison.
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Family
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Hobbies
Stress-free Discipline is a Love Tool Kit
What We Need to Know
1. Sources of stress2. Stress
management3. Realistic goals &
expectations4. Discipline &
teaching skills5. A “cheap” flexible
system with built in motivation
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How can we practice Stress-free Discipline?
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What We Need to Be
1. Spiritually & emotionally stable
2. Proactive3. Determined4. Educated5. Interdependent6. Self-disciplined
The Right Discipline Causes Poor Behavior to Disappear & Right Choices to Begin.
1. The right system rewards good behavior consistently.
2. It gives time-saving consequences for both good and poor behavior.
3. Small disturbances are consistently caught so children are discouraged from risking larger ones.
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The Right Discipline Builds Life-long Love•Stress Free Discipline stops
wrong choices and builds teamwork with proven
techniques.
•Basics of this system have been well researched with all types
of students and used in classrooms nationwide. 10
It Provides Reasonable Expectations &
Motivators1. Stress Free Discipline has flexible
maturity-appropriate expectations measured with points.
2. Quality control is built into the points.
3. Points become time spent in educational activities with parents.
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Stress-free Discipline Provides Systematic Growth of Adult Skills…
1. As you work this system, your child learns adult skills.
2. Hourly, daily, or weekly rewards build maturity step by step.
3. Children can be disciplined singly, in pairs or teams.
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Stress-free Discipline Factors in Growth, Fun and Accountability for Everyone.
1. A Parent’s expectations list (on a few tasks of your choice) and Points Chart educates your child in adult skills, roles, and responsibilities.
2. Call it delegating: your child helps you on your own self improvement.
3. Your authority remains intact.13
Stress-free Discipline is More than Doing Chores It is:Biblical habits such as speaking the truth
in love, Leadership, Win-win negotiation, Impulse control, Grace, Berean Teamwork training, Adult thinking skills.
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God’s The Owner, You’re the Coach, They’re the Team
There’s only one game: one chance to pass the baton
Ignorance is never bliss: you must have a plan even if you change it on the field
Lifelong love for you and for Christ is the prize
Go for the Gold
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Benefits to Parents include these:Children mature, accepting adult roles step-by-
stepThey practice being responsible, choosing what’s
right as well as stopping wrong behaviorConsistent consequences cause them to stop
pushing boundaries at home & schoolChildren have a disciplined but satisfying home
life.Children master their own impulses, and a Christ-
centered lifestyleChildren have double rewards for following rules
at school while building high-level thinking skillsTheir stress levels are lowered while building a
higher, realistic self-esteem The family team enjoys lifelong love and learning
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Benefits to Schools include:Students who have internalized mature
concepts of responsibility and consequences
Students who have a disciplined but satisfying home life
Student mastery of impulse control, higher self-esteem and a Christ-centered attitude
At-home rewards and reinforcement for right and wrong school choices
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interactive presentations and coursework. (Call 619-575-7980 or email to [email protected]).
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