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INTRODUCTION & WELCOME Welcome to The Shadow Effect Online Workshop. This is a special feature specifically designed to introduce you to your shadow so that you can break through the patterns of your past, find the gold in the dark and be supported in living a life that you love and enjoy. I honor and acknowledge you for having the courage and desire to go on this internal exploration of your shadow. It’s been my lifelong dream to be able to bring this deep transformational work to everyone around the world who has a desire to make dramatic changes and experience more of their greatness. I know through working with your shadow, you will unveil layer upon layer of protection you carry that you no longer need. As you peel away these layers, your innate, golden essence will emerge to help guide you to a life beyond anything that you can likely imagine right now. So take a deep breath, and if you’re willing, make a commitment to trust the process. I guarantee you – it has worked for me and for millions of others around the world. It can and will work for you too if you trust and allow it to. If you wish to share any of your breakthroughs with me, you can send them to [email protected] With deep admiration for your courage and strength, Debbie Ford

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LESSON ONE Creating an Inspiring Vision: What is one breakthrough you would like to achieve as a result of going through The Shadow Effect Online Workshop?

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To Deepen Your Process: Until the next lesson, please continue in the exploration of your Vision. Take a few minutes at least once or twice during the week to journal about your Vision and continue to add to it. • If you want to go deeper with the concept of Vision, I recommend that you read Chapter 3 in

my book, The Best Year of Your Life. • Take good care of yourself as you go through The Shadow Effect Online Workshop for the next

few weeks. That means being a little extra gentle with yourself, getting plenty of rest, exercise and eating nutritious food. It’s a great way to be a little more self-loving.


LESSON TWO Insights from Lesson One:

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Finding a Core Shadow: What is the quality you like most about yourself?

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What are at least two ways you try to get people to see that quality you like best about yourself?

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What is the opposite of that quality you like most about yourself?

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Where, how and in whom, do you see that quality?

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When, where or how in your life has that quality ever served you, or how could it benefit you in the future?

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To Deepen Your Process: During this coming week, please contemplate and dwell with the concepts of the Shadow that we explored today. I also recommend that you:

• Explore your core shadow and look to find three potentially positive things about this quality. Journal about what you see or anything that came up for you out of the processes today.

• If you would like to explore more deeply, read Chapters 2 and 3, in my book, The Dark Side

of the Light Chasers.


LESSON THREE Insights from Lesson Two:

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Exploring Your Secret Life: What is your Secret Life?

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To Deepen Your Process: Until the next lesson, please continue in the exploration of the concept Secret Life. Spend a few minutes journaling about what you’re aware of in relation to this lesson. • Be aware that these concepts and exercises might stir up some emotion for you. If you find

yourself feeling any uncomfortable emotions, sit down and allow yourself to simply feel whatever is there. Then identify another time when you’ve felt those same feelings before. Then journal about the experience to help you digest whatever comes up.

• If you want to take this process deeper, I recommend that you read Chapters 8 & 9 in Debbie’s book, Why Good People Do Bad Things.

• As always, take good care of yourself this coming week by being gentle with yourself, getting

plenty of rest, exercise and eating nutritious food.


LESSON FOUR Insights from Lesson Three:

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Identifying a Projection: Who do you always point your finger at in judgment and what do you say about them?

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What do you do to try to prove to yourself that you’re not that?

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When, where or how do you display that quality you dislike in another?

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Sharing and Discussion Notes:

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To Deepen Your Process: Until the next lesson, please continue in the exploration of the concept Projection. If you feel so led, spend a few minutes journaling about what you’re aware of in relation to this lesson.

• Be aware that these concepts and exercises might stir up some emotion for you. If you find yourself feeling any uncomfortable emotions, just sit down, allow yourself to simply feel whatever is there. Then identify another time when you’ve felt those same feelings before. Take a few minutes to journal about the experience to help you digest whatever comes up.

• If you want to take this process deeper, I recommend that you read Chapter 4 in my book The Dark Side of the Light Chasers.

• Take good care of yourself this coming week by being gentle with yourself, getting plenty

of rest, exercise and eating nutritious food.


LESSON FIVE Insights from Lesson Four:

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Releasing Your Stress & Suppressed Emotion: Where was that stored emotion?

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What experience from your past is it related to?

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What’s one thing you can do this week to help release your stress in a healthy way?

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To Deepen Your Process: Until the next lesson, continue to dwell with the concept of Stress and Suppressed Emotion and notice how stress affects you and where you store emotion.

• Spend a few minutes journaling about what you’ve done, what you’ve experienced and what you’re aware of in regards to these ideas.

• Continue to be aware of your moods and feelings. If you find yourself feeling any

uncomfortable emotions, allow yourself to feel whatever is there without judgment. Then take a few minutes to journal about the feelings to help you process whatever has come up.

• If you want to go a little deeper, read Chapters 1 & 2 in Why Good People Do Bad Things.

• Once again, take good care of yourself this coming week, being gentle with yourself, getting

plenty of rest, exercise and eating nutritious foods.


LESSON SIX Insights from Lesson Five:

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Extracting the Wisdom from Your Wounds: What is a particularly difficult incident or experience from your past?

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What is the life wisdom you can take away from this experience? • What are at least three positive changes that have occurred for you as a result? • What qualities have you developed because of it? • How could you potentially use this experience for the benefit of others or the world?

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Additional Notes and Journaling

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To Deepen Your Process: Until the next lesson, continue to dwell with the concept of Wisdom in the Wounds covered in this lesson. Spend a few minutes journaling about what you’ve done, what you’ve experienced and what you’re aware of in regards to this idea of being able to gain gifts from your negative experiences.

• Continue to be aware of your moods and feelings. If you find yourself feeling any uncomfortable emotions, allow yourself to feel whatever is there. Then close your eyes and see if you can recall the first time when you’ve felt those same feelings before. Then take a few minutes to journal about the experience to help you process anything that comes up.

• If you want to go a little deeper, read Chapter 7 in The Dark Side of the Light Chasers

• Once again, take good care of yourself this coming week, being gentle with yourself, getting

plenty of rest, exercise and eating nutritious foods.


LESSON SEVEN Insights from Lesson Six:

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Reclaiming a Light Shadow: Who is a person you really admire and what are at least two qualities that inspire you about that person?

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What can you to do develop these qualities in yourself?

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To Deepen Your Process: Until the next lesson, continue to dwell with the concept of Light Shadows that we explored this lesson and journal about what you’ve noticed about yourself or others.

• Continue to be aware of your moods and feelings. If you find yourself feeling any uncomfortable emotions, allow yourself to feel whatever is there. Then close your eyes ask yourself what you might be resisting, afraid of or judging. Then take a few minutes to journal about the experience to help you process anything that comes up.

• If you want to go a little deeper, read Chapter 9 in The Dark Side of the Light Chasers

• Once again, take good care of yourself this coming week!

LESSON EIGHT Insights from Lesson Seven:

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Receiving the Gift of Forgiveness: What do you most need to be forgiven for?

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What would be available to you if you forgave yourself?

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I forgive myself for…

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Say a silent prayer to be relieved of the burden of your past

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To Deepen Your Process: Dwell with the concept of Forgiveness. In furthering your exploration of the Shadow, you may also find it very useful and valuable to:

• Find a way to continue your own process of personal growth. Whether it’s hiring a coach for a private coaching relationship or doing one of our group training courses, make a commitment now to build upon the work that you’ve started in this Shadow Effect course.

• If you want to come to a deeper understanding of how and why the Shadow has such a

powerful effect in our lives, we suggest that you continue reading in my books, The Dark Side of the Light Chasers, and Why Good People Do Bad Things.

• Be really great with yourself! Take good care, be gentle and self-nurturing and treat yourself

like you are worth a million pounds of gold – for you are!



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CLOSING Congratulations! You have reached the end of The Shadow Effect Online Workshop and you have officially begun your own shadow journey. You started by identifying one of your core dark shadows and you ended up basking in your light. For a wealth of shadow resources and to take the next steps on your journey, visit my websites, www.DebbieFord.com and www.TheFordInstitute.com where you’ll find brilliant coaches, a vibrant community, a calendar of events and transformative products. Even though you’ve reached the end of The Shadow Effect Online Workshop, it can be a new beginning for you. After doing years of this work, we all continue to keep finding more of our light and dark shadows all the time. They fuel our creativity and keep surprising us and guiding us to live a life beyond our wildest dreams. We support you in continuing to embrace your shadows and experiencing deeper levels of love, trust, intimacy, confidence and success. With love and blessings, Debbie Ford For information on being trained to be a coach, facilitator or leader of this work, please go to: www.thefordinstitute.com and click on the “Professional Training” menu item.


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