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Table of ContentsWeek 1 and 2: Meeting Nov. 3 - The Journey of Success........................................................................... 2

Defining Success ........................................................................................................................................ 2

Understanding Your Purpose .................................................................................................................... 3

Setting Your Goals ..................................................................................................................................... 3

Starter Goals (due next meeting) .............................................................................................................. 4

Week 3 and 4: Meeting Nov. 17 - The 6 Essential Areas of Personal Growth ............................................. 5

Three Purposes ......................................................................................................................................... 5

Three Goals ............................................................................................................................................... 6

Week 5: Meeting Dec. 1 - The Big Ten Fundamentals ................................................................................. 7

Week 6: Individual Meeting - Attitude is Everything ................................................................................... 7

Week 7: Meeting Dec. 15 - The Discipline of Discipline ............................................................................. 10

Week 8: Individual Meeting - The Pursuit of Excellence ............................................................................ 12

Week 9: Meeting Jan. 12 - The Importance of Faith and Belief ................................................................. 15

Week 10: Individual Meeting - Work: The Most Important Four Letter Word ......................................... 18

Week 11: Meeting Jan. 26 - Controlled Response: Handling Success and Adversity ............................... 21

Week 12: Meeting Feb. 9 - Love Changes Everything ................................................................................ 23

Week 13: Individual Meeting - The Discipline of Responsibility ................................................................ 26

Week 14: Meeting Feb. 23 - Understanding the True Meaning of TEAM ................................................. 29

Week 15: Individual Meeting - The Importance of Hope .......................................................................... 32

Establishing Family Goals ........................................................................................................................ 34

Establishing Trust / Faith Goals ............................................................................................................... 35

Establishing Community Service Goals ................................................................................................... 36

Establishing Football / Team Goals ......................................................................................................... 37

Establishing Strength and Conditioning Goals ........................................................................................ 38

Establishing Academics / Career Goals ................................................................................................... 39


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The Journey of Success

Suggested Reading: The Winners Manual Chapter 1

Assignment: None

Defining SuccessWe have to have a clear view of what success is, what it isnt, and what it will take to achieve it

(success).

1. Why is there confusion about the definition of success?

We tell players that we are going to work like crazy on our team goals, and if they dont want to be

champions, theyre probably on the wrong team.

Success is a peace of mind which is a result of self-satisfaction in knowing you did your best to becomethe best you are capable of becoming . John Wooden

Success is not only helping myself; its helping others reach their goals.

Success is an everyday proposition.

2. Which of the quotes above means the most to you? Why?

3. Which of these quotes is hardest for you to believe? Why?

4. Do you think it is possible for us as a leadership group to change the way that our team viewssuccess? Why or whynot?


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Whether youre a business owner, you work for a corporation, youre a coach, a player, or a mother of

three no matter what obstacles you face in your future, you can win the game of life .

Understanding Your PurposeTo be able to have peace about working towards and achieving your goals, it is crucial to understand the

difference between your purpose and your goals. In very basic terms, your purpose is why you live theway you live. This can come from your faith, your background, or your understanding of the world, butyou must have a purpose before you can set your goals.

Your purpose explains the why? question. Why do you want to score 20 TDs? Why do you want to go

to college? Why do you want to win a conference championship?

Over the next few weeks, we are going to look at both purpose and goals as it pertains to your lifeindividually and our team collectively.

5. Why do you do what you do? What is the purpose for the way that you live? (If you cannot

answer this question, you either arent being honest with yourself o r you are in great need of apurpose)

Setting Your GoalsBefore you can even start to set goals, it is important that you have the proper mindset from which tocreate these goals. More specifically, creating goals is a waste of time if you do not believe thefollowing statement:

You are in control of your life. No one else can determine your future. If you want somethingbad enough, nothing will come between you and that goal. Excuses are a waste of time thatyou could be using to overcome whatever problems are preventing you from reaching your

goal.

If you believe this to be true, then you are ready to set goals. You are ready to start moving yourself forward toward the you that you want to be. Fill out the following worksheet to start develop inggoals that you can use to guide you tomorrow and in the future.


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The 6 Essential Areas of Personal GrowthAs we talked about last week, we all want to be a better person. The problem comes when we try todefine what that means. Chances are you have different ideals then the person next to you. At thesame time, I believe we can all agree that the three purposes and three goals that Ohio State uses help

us break down our lives so we can focus on details of getting better / achieving our goals. Here is a brief overview of the topics he discussed in words that apply more directly to us.

Three Purposes1. Family (Personal / Family)

Family is your support. It is your rock, the people that you go to in times of trial. It doesnt

always look the same (single parents, loss of siblings, adoption and the like), but that doesntmake it any less important. You have a responsibility to love, care for, and contribute to yourfamily in the same way they have given to you if not more. Our families can be a great source of purpose for us.

Examples:

2. Trust / Faith (Spiritual / Moral)

Spiritual matters are a very personal matter for many of us. For that reason, we rarely talkabout it in school settings and that is fair. At the same time, many of you derive much of yourpurpose from what you believe about this world. It is important that you embrace yourpersonal faith and develop an understanding as to how your faith should impact your life as well

as the lives around you.

Examples:

3. Community (Caring / Giving)

I believe that one person can make a difference. In fact, that is why I am here doing what I do.As varsity athletes, you too have the opportunity to make a difference. This community islooking at you. They want to know what you are going to do with your position of influence.Are you going to party it away or are you going to change this place for the better.

My mother used to always say remember who you are and who you represent every time Ileft the house. That applies to you as well. Every day you represent our school, our team, yourfamily, your church and so on. Knowing and understanding that should change the way you live.

Examples:


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The Big Ten Fundamentals1. Attitude

2. Discipline3. Excellence4. Faith and Belief 5. Work6. Handling Adversity and Success7. Love8. Responsibility9. Team10. Hope

Of the list above, which do you think are the mostimportant traits of a great leader / teammate? Explain why in the space below.

Attitude is EverythingA good attitude can overcome some other limitations, but even great talent cant overcome the wrong

attitude. (page 40)

The more players study and practice this fundamental, the more they believe they can decide how theyfeel. They realize they have power over their attitude. (page 42)

It is impossible to be grateful and unhappy at the same time. (page 44) Which do you want to be?

When youre a team member, if you enter Ohio Stadium (Ratcliffe Field) and youre not ready to play, itmeans youre taking for granted the wonderful privilege you have, and youre not really grateful. (page

48)

If we were humble, nothing would change us neither praise nor discouragement. Mother Teresa

Flaming enthusiasm, backed by horse sense and persistence is the quality that most frequently makesfor success. Dale Carnegie

There are three types of people:those who make things happen,

those who watch things happen,

and those who say, What

happened?

Which one are you?


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Questions for reflection:

1. What is your favorite of the 9 statements on Attitude from page 50?

2. What role does humility have in attitude?

3. What do you have to be grateful for?

a.

b.

c.

d.

e.

4. Do you think its really true that we can alter our lives by altering our attitude? If so, how mightthis happen in your life? If not, explain why.

5. Do you think that a change in your attitude could lead others to change theirs?

6. What can be done to change the attitude of our team as a whole? Provide specifics.


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1. Have you thought of discipline in a negative way? How can discipline be a positive thing in your

life?

2. How have you seen discipline work in your life or in the life of someone that you know? Whatwere the fruits of that discipline?

3. Focus is such a big part of discipline. What part of your life do you find it most difficult to focus to be all there every moment? How do you think you could overcome that lack of focus?

4. What about our team? What makes it hard for our team to focus? How can we overcome thatwithout losing the reps we need to be successful?

5. On page 84 and 85, Coach Tressell talks about a player that needed help in the classroom. Hewas given a 3 ring binder to help him stay organized and was told to never let it out of his site.This simple concept helped him focus on his academics and allowed him to strive towards hisgoals with a disciplined approach.

What part of your life is there anything you can do right now to make your life more focusedand disciplined? If so what is it?

Do you need help doing this? If so what do you need and from whom do you need it?


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The Pursuit of Excellence

The foundation of excellence lies in self-control. H.L.Baugher

Excellence is not an actbut a habit. Aristotle

Risk more that others think is safe. Care more that othersthink is wise. Dream more than others think is practical.Expect more that others think is possible. Cadet Maxim,U.S. Military Academy

Our world doesnt revolve around us; it revolves aroundthe group, around the community, and its in that group

setting that our excellence will shine. (page 92)

Quality is never an accident. It is always the result of intelligent effort. John Ruskin

It is easy to be ordinary, but it takes courage to excel

and we MUST excel. Eddie Finnegan

Fear of rejection is one of the biggest hurdles in any

endeavor, but those who are courageous and take on thechallenge will ultimately excel. (page 95)

The hallmark of excellence, the test of greatness, isconsistency. (page 99)

Circle the quote that means the most to you and explain in the space below : ___________________________________________________________________

___________________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________

I can accept failure.Everyone fails at something. But Icant accept not

trying.

- Michael Jordan


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The Importance of Faith and Belief

Champions believe in themselves even if no one else does. Author Unknown

I believe that South Haven is going to win a State Championship in football. When I tell people this,there are always more than a few people that want to snicker or smile. They dont believe it is possible.They dont have faith. The great thing is that those people dont have to believe. The only ones thatmust believe are the people wearing those uniforms and headsets. You see I think that we determineour destiny on the football field. I have faith that if we all out work, out prepare, out practice, andoutwork our opponents every day it will result in success.

How about you? Do you believe or do you want to laugh under your breath when you hear me talkabout winning a title? Dont worry you dont have to answer. I can see your belief by the way that youwork.

Faith is who you are. Belief is what you do with your faith.

I think when you move past you fear and you go after your dreams whole-heartedly you become free.Know what Im saying? Move past the fear. LL Cool J

To disbelieve is easy; to scoff (mock) is simple; to have faith is harder. Louis Lamour

We are only beaten when we cease to believe what we can do. Author Unknown

Our doubts are traitors and make us lose the good we oft might win by fearing to attempt. WilliamShakespeare

Circle the quote that means the most to you and explain in the space below : ___________________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________


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Work: The Most Important Four Letter Word

But wanting to be someone isnt enough; dreaming

about it isnt enough; thinking about it isnt enough.Youve got to study it, work for it, fight for it with allyour heart and soul, because nobody is going tohand it to you. Colin Powell

Coaches and players can say anything they want, butif they dont back it up with performance and hardwork, the talking doesnt mean a thing. MichaelJordan

That is how success is achieved. You work at it bit bybit, day by day, one step here, another there. Youfall, you get up, and you keep going. (page 127)

Success is the intersection where dreams and hardwork meet. (page 130)

Passion makes every detail important. G.K.Chesterton

The way to get started is to quit talking and begindoing. Walt Disney

Work is the foundation of all business, the source of all prosperity, and the parent of all genius. Work cando more to advance a youth that his own parents, bethey ever so wealthy. It is represented in thehumblest savings and has laid the foundation of every fortune. It is the salt that gives life its savor,but it must be loved before it can bestow its greatest blessing and achieve its greatest ends.When loved, work makes life sweet, purposeful, and fruitful. Author Unknown


I hated every minute of

training, but I said, Dont

quit. Suffer now and live

the rest of your life a

champion.

-

Muhammad Ali


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1. What has been the toughest experience of your life? How did you get through that experience,and how did it affect you?

2. Does it help you do the work when you know what you are working for? Why or why not.

3. Define persistence.

a. Why is this quality important for football?

b. Why is this quality important for life?

4. How is persistence linked to passion? Can you be persistent about something for which you feelno passion?

5. What is your response to the following quote? How does it apply to our team?Some guys with a lot of natural talent come into your program at Ohio State and are

blown away by the amount of study football takes. (page 126)

6. Take Action: Who on your team is going through a tough time? How can you reach out andwalk alongside that person through this season?


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Controlled Response: Handling Success and Adversity

With champions, success is neverunexpected; its a natural result thatcomes from continuous, unselfish,unrelenting determination to win; neverletting down, never letting outsideinfluences into the game. HarveyMackay

There is no education like adversity. Benjamin Disraeli

Our greatest glory is not in never failing,but in rising every time we fall. Confucius

There is no strength where there is nostruggle. (page 159)

Face adversity promptly and withoutflinching, and you will reduce its impact.

Never run from anything and never everquit. Winston Churchill

The toughest thing about being a successis you have to keep being a success. Irving Berlin

I have learned more from losses than Ive learned from wins; but you can learn good life lessonsfrom both. Dont let adversity or success derail your goals and drea ms. Let them propel youforward. (page 166)


Success is a lousy teacher.It makes people think they

cant lose.

- Bill Gates.


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1. Do you agree that you can learn as much if not more from a loss than you can from a win? Whyor why not?

2. List three things that you can learn about yourself or your teammates in a loss.a.

b.

c.

3. Have you ever been in a situation when you just wanted to give up but you hung in there? Whatgood things came from that experience?

4. Often a season is likened to a roller coaster. It has ups and downs.a. How do you think championship teams deal with the ups of the season?

b. How do you think championship teams deal with the downs of the season?

c. How do you think championship teams deal with the ups of the season?

d. How do you think championship teams deal with the downs of the season?


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Love Changes Everything

If we have love, discipline will follow,

because players who love each otherdont want to let the team down. Theylldo anything within their power to makethe team better. (page 174)

True love will find an outlet in service. Billy Graham

Love is the deep sense of commitmentthat each player has for every other

player; the feeling of commitment thateach player has for each coach; and thefeeling of commitment that each coachhas for each coach. It each of these threerelationships is not based on love, theteam will not achieve its full potential.(page 175)

All I ask is that you play better than you

are. Doc Spurgeon

When you help someone up a hill, you getthat much closer to the top yourself. Author Unknown

The true measure of a man is how he treats someone that can do him absolutely no good. Ann Landers

You can give without loving, but you cannot love without giving. Amy Carmichael


Lifes most persistent and

urgent question is: what are you doing for others?

- Martin Luther King Jr.


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1. What do you think love means (excluding dating / marriage relationships)?

2. How do you show those around you that you love them and are grateful for what they do inyour life?

3. What actions on the football field make you feel the love from your teammates?

4. What actions do you intentionally take to show love to your teammates?

5. List the 5 most loving people in your life.a. b. c. d. e.

6. What do these people have in common? How do they show you love / make you feel loved andappreciated?

7. As a result of reading this chapter, has your idea of what love is changed in any way? If so how?


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The Discipline of Responsibility

The reputation of a thousand years may bedetermined by the conduct of one hour. Japanese Proverb

The reputation of a thousand men may bedetermined by a single one. Coach Nichols

Associate yourself with men of good quality if you esteem your own reputation: for tis betterto be alone than in bad company. George

Washington

Honor is better than honors. Abe Lincoln

When someone has been given much, much isrequired in return; and when someone hasbeen entrusted with much, even more will berequired. The Bible

There is a choice you have to makeIn everything you doSo keep in mind that in the end,The choice you make makes you

- John Wooden

It takes less time to do the right thing then toexplain why you did it wrong. HenryLongfellow

Circle the quote that means the most

to you and explain in the space below : ___________________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________

The truth of the matter is that youalways know the right thing to do.

The hard part is doing it. As amember of the Ohio State football team / family, I will abide by this

quote at all times in order torepresent myself, my family, and my teammates with the highest degree

of class and dignity.

Written by the 2007 Ohio State football players to guide themselves for theseason in which they won the Big 10

Championship.


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1. Have you ever experienced the chaos that results when the members of a team are self-

absorbed rather than selfless? Looking back is there anything you would have done differently?

2. Think of a time that you saw teamwork achieve something great. What did you notice?

3. Chris Gamble saw his dream change because he participated in teamwork. Have you ever seenthat principle at work in your own life?

4. Tread the poem that Nate Salley wrote to his teammates on page 222 and answer the questionsbelow.

a. What stands out to you about what Nate said about his teammates?

b. What part of this do you think you could say about our team last year?

c. What do you hope to be able to say about our team next year?


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The Importance of Hope

Consult not your fears but your hopes and dreams.Think not about your frustrations, but about yourunfulfilled potential. Concern yourself not with whatyou tried and failed in, but with what is still possiblefor you to do. Pope John Paul XXIII

There is no medicine like hope, no incentive so great,and no tonic so powerful as expectation of somethingtomorrow. Orison Marden

Hope is putting faith to work when doubting would beeasier. Author Unknown

Creating the Winners Manual years ago was a similarexperience it took a lot of work to put down ablueprint that would help us move forward and searchfor the rewarding life, but coming up with that gameplan has helped thousands of players and coachesover the years. (Page 233)

Live in your hopes not your fears. Johnny Majors


Hope is thecompanion of power,

and mother of success; for who sohopes strongly has

within him the gift of miracles.

- Samuel Smiles


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1. Do you see yourself as a hopeful person, or do you tend to be more resistant to positive change?

2. How have you hope at work in your life either in a positive sense, when you had hope, or in anegative sense, when you lost hope?

3. How did you relate to the story of the mule that had fallen into the well? Would you say youallow your troubles to bury you, or do you look for ways they can become stepping-stones thathelp you to move closer to where you want to be in life?

4. What are the characteristics of a person that has hope?

5. What role should Hope have in our team? Explain.


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Establishing Family GoalsWhat I believe: The family is the basic social unit of our society. My family is very important tome.

Short Range Family Goals How I plan to accomplish my ShortRange Goals.

Goal #1: 1.

2.

Goal #2: 1.

2.

Goal #3: 1.

2.

Long Range Family Goals How I plan to accomplish my LongRange Goals.

Goal #1: 1.

2.

Goal #2: 1.

2.

Goal #3: 1.

2.


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Establishing Trust / Faith GoalsWhat I believe: Above all else, I believe that my spiritual beliefs and my moral values willshape my life. I will do what is right!

Short Range Trust / Faith Goals How I plan to accomplish my ShortRange Goals.

Goal #1: 1.

2.

Goal #2: 1.

2.

Goal #3: 1.

2.

Long Range Trust / Faith Goals How I plan to accomplish my LongRange Goals.

Goal #1: 1.

2.

Goal #2: 1.

2.

Goal #3: 1.

2.


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Establishing Community Service GoalsWhat I believe: How I function as a total person in society is important. I will give back to mycommunity.

Short Range Community Goals How I plan to accomplish my ShortRange Goals.

Goal #1: 1.

2.

Goal #2: 1.

2.

Goal #3: 1.

2.

Long Range Community Goals How I plan to accomplish my LongRange Goals.

Goal #1: 1.

2.

Goal #2: 1.

2.

Goal #3: 1.

2.


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Establishing Football / Team GoalsWhat I believe: I am part of a great team. I count on my teammates, and they are counting onme. I will achieve great things for this team and with this team.

Short Range Football / Team Goals How I plan to accomplish my ShortRange Goals.

Goal #1: 1.

2.

Goal #2: 1.

2.

Goal #3: 1.

2.

Long Range Football / Team Goals How I plan to accomplish my LongRange Goals.

Goal #1: 1.

2.

Goal #2: 1.

2.

Goal #3: 1.

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Establishing Strength and Conditioning GoalsWhat I believe: One of the greatest gifts we have is our gift of health. My physicalconditioning is a controllable commodity. I will develop strength and conditioning habits thatnot only help my team, but prepare me for a healthy life.

Short Range Family Goals How I plan to accomplish my ShortRange Goals.

Goal #1: 1.

2.

Goal #2: 1.

2.

Goal #3: 1.

2.

Long Range Family Goals How I plan to accomplish my Long

Range Goals.Goal #1: 1.

2.

Goal #2: 1.

2.

Goal #3: 1.

2.


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Establishing Academics / Career GoalsWhat I believe: I am in school to achieve academically and obtain a valuable degree. I want toprepare myself for my future career starting now by developing great habits and working hard.

Short Range Academic / CareerGoals

How I plan to accomplish my ShortRange Goals.

Goal #1: 1.

2.

Goal #2: 1.

2.

Goal #3: 1.

2.

Long Range Academic / CareerGoals

How I plan to accomplish my LongRange Goals.

Goal #1: 1.

2.

Goal #2: 1.

2.

Goal #3: 1.

2.

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