Saints Cyril & MethodiusBy z a n t i n e Ca t h o l i C Ch u r C h

PARISH CLERGY (The Reverend) Fr. Richard P. Rohrer (919) 851-9266

(The Reverend) Fr. Deacon David Thomas (336) 545-9943

2510 Piney Plains Rd Cary, NC 27518-3997Parish Phone (919) 851-9266 Fax (919) 233-3997

Email: sscyrilmethodius@gmail.comSchool: stclementoflakeohrid@gmail.com

Website: www.sscyrilmethodius.orghttp://www.facebook.com/saintscyrilandmethodius

BirthChoice Confidential Pregnancy Counseling (919) 828-5433Project Rachel Post-Abortion Reconciliation and Healing (919) 852-1021

8 Days in Rome & AssisiJANUARY 26 – FEBRUARY 2, 2015

Hosted by Father Charles M. Yastishock and Father Edward G. Cimbala

Tour Includes: Roundtrip Air from Newark, ($619) Govt. taxes / Airline fuel surcharges, First Class/Select Hotel, Comprehensive Sightseeing with Professional Tour Escort, Most Meals, Admission Fees, Porterage and Hotel Service Charges Vatican City Museum & Sistine Chapel, Papal Audience, Major Basilicas, Ancient Rome and Full-day Excursion to Assisi

Space is Limited! Call Today! $2399 per person from Newark(Air/land tour price is $1780 plus $619 govt. taxes/airline fuel surcharges)

For a brochure and more info contact: Father Charles Yastishock Tel: (732) 255-6272 / Email: czarcmy@comcast.net

PRAYER INTENTIONS

Elizabeth Macario, Gail Quirk, Cheryl and Merritt Mather,

Pamela Adcock, Jim Dunbar, Nadine Connolly, Paul Cummings,

Lisa Whidbee, Jocelyn Basco, Kaylin Fechko, Deborah,

Jan Rack and Family, Noah, Virginia Taylor, Nancy, Alan,

Richard, Liz, Rob, Daniel, Mary Louise, Suzanne,

Theresa, Jim, Christine, Thomas

Please also pray for repose of the soul of

+Rose E Gentile++Evoria Bell Peele+

Please send bulletin additions/corrections to Sallie Mills at sallieq@mindspring.comby each Wednesday for that week’s Sunday bulletin. Thanks!

Welcome Visitors! !Bienvenida a todos nuestros visitantes!

If you are visiting our parish, please introduce yourself and sign our guestbook.

Be sure to join us in the hall for refreshments immediately following Divine Liturgy.

Saints Cyril & MethodiusB y z a n t i n e C a t h o l i C C h u r C h

Byzantine Catholic GreetingsGlory to Jesus Christ! Glory Forever!

Gloria a Jesucristo! Gloria por siempre!Laudetur Jesus Christus! Semper laudetur!

Slava Isusu Christu! Slava na viki!Doxa si o kyrios! Panda doxa!

Sia lodato Gesu Cristo! Siempre sia lodato!Al Maseeh Qam! Haqqan Qam! (Arabic)

Hristus A Inviat! Adeverat a Inviat! (Romanian)

We would like to remind our parishioners and friends that a donation or weekly offerings may be made to Saint Cyril and Methodius on our website through Pay-Pal. All major credit cards are accepted. www.saints cyrilandmethodius.org

............ AROUND THE EPARCHY ..............

The Benedictine Sisters of the Byzantine Church at Queen of Heaven Monastery present

A Day of SpiritualityDecember 13, 2014 1-4:30 P.M.

Saints Peter and Paul Parish Centerat 180 Belvedere Ave., N.E., Warren, OH.

The presenter will be Reverend Christiaan Kappes, Professor of Liturgy and Patristics at Saints Cyril and Methodius Seminary in Pittsburgh, PA. His topic will explain the relationship of the Theotokos (Mother of God) to the Holy Eucharist and how this knowledge could transform us. There will be time for reflection, questions, and refreshments, and an opportunity to receive the Mystery (Sacrament) of Reconciliation. You are welcome to pray Vespers with the sisters.

To register, please call 330-856-1813 or e-mail qohm@netdotcom.com by Monday, December 8, 2014.

Bishop’s Annual AppealYour Stewardship Gifts Support

Our Eparchial ProgramsOUR GOAL: $495,000

TARGETED PARISH REVITALIZATIONCapital improvements and renovations

in specific parishes$150,000

BIBLES FOR PARISHESProviding beautiful new bibles to every

parish for the people in the pews$100,000

ASSISTANCE TO EASTERN EUROPEAN PARISHES

Starting with Bishop Dudick, our Eparchy has fed the seminarians of the Uzhorod Seminary since it was reopened after

communism. Bishop Sasik has ordained 154 priests in 11 years, some of whom

serve in the Eparchy of Passaic.$50,000

DEACON FORMATIONA class of deacons is finishing this year, ready and eager to serve the faithful of Passaic. A new class is organizing now

for the next four year program.$20,000

EDUCATION: SEMINARIANS/PRIESTSSeminary studies and formation;

pastoral training programs; vocations BBQ’s and graduate studies. Tuition and

room and board for one seminarian is $22,000 for one year at Sts. Cyril and

Methodius Seminary in Pittsburgh.$25,000

EASTERN CHRISTIAN FORMATIONPublications, Youth Ministry,

Family Enrichment, Catechist, and Coordinator Formation

$25,000

PAROCHIAL SUPPORTGrants to individual parishes for support,

renovation, and maintenance$125,000

Coming Up…

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Social Hour Refreshmentsafter Liturgy on Sundays. Please make our parish wel-coming to visitors by remembering to bring refresh-ments, set up and clean up on your assigned Sunday. If you are to be absent the day of your assigned Social Hour, please switch weeks with another family. The important thing is to have enough helping hands, with plenty of food and drinks to serve. If you are a new pa-rishioner and would like to join a cooking team, or if you need a phone list for team members, please e-mail Sallie Mills at sallieq@mindspring.com.

NEW TEAMS!!!!!!!November 9 • Team 1

Barbara & Deacon Dave ThomasPatti & Travis Kingery / Lance Morgan

November 16 • Team 2Robert and Marie Taylor

Tony and Rachel Blair / Lily Yang

November 23 • Team 3John & Nancy Driscoll / David Kovach

George & Donna Ellwanger

November 30 • Team 4Michelle Sapsara / Joe Deaton

David Rinehart

December 7 • Team 5Lois Snyder / Jim & Jane Dunbar

Dave & Christine Urgo

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MichelmasNovember 9

Potluck after 10amDivine Liturgy

Please bring Meat Dishes

Feast of St. PhilipNovember 14Traditional start

of the Pre-Nativity Fast

Feast of the Entrance of the Theotokos

November 21Solemn Holy Day

St. Nicholas European

Christmas MarketDecember 5-6

PARISHVOLUNTEER

NEEDS Cabbage Roll Making

After Liturgy every Sunday until the Christmas Market

Xmas Market BakingPlease see Jane to help choose

a weekend in November

PARISH WISH LISTWhile dedicated tithing is the most constant need in the parish, we will occasionally list items that someone may have access to for donations.

Donations for painting church(Collection jar is in the narthex)

Readers ScheduleNovember11/2 .................Patti K11/9 ...........George E11/16 ....... Michelle R11/23 ........... Travis K11/30 ............Linda P

December12/7 ..............Dave R12/14 ..........Donna E12/21 ....... Michael T12/28 ........Angela T

ThanksThanks to Cathryn Parsons for pulling the Hallows Eve celebration together.

There was fun and merriment and everyone is already looking forward to next year!

Thanks to all those who came Saturday morning to work in rainy conditions to

prepare the church exterior for painting.And, thanks to those working on the repair

of the wood rot around the door area.

one thing from [either] of our pasts that has affected our marriage more than any other.”

It is no secret that the devastation of abor-tion brings with it many challenges. Many times the people who have participated in an abortion are not even aware of the count-less ways it is affecting their lives. Often, it is not until they recognize some of the effect it is having and become involved in a heal-ing ministry that they begin to more clearly identify their personal abortion connectors (people, places or things that trigger memo-ries of their abortion experience).

It is not uncommon for those suffering from past abortions to overreact to present situations because of the trauma they expe-rienced. For example, what would otherwise be a normal disagreement between spouses can seem like a very real act of abandonment to someone who was coerced into having an abortion. An abortion may also lead to in-fertility or difficulty conceiving later in life, which bring their own emotional strains for a couple.

Fear of intimacy is another struggle that may arise. Some women and men have kept past abortion experiences a secret and live in the fear of being exposed. They never really open themselves completely to intimacy for fear of being rejected if their spouse ever discovered their secret. Others may not be willing to practice their faith because of the guilt and shame they feel, which deprives them of spiritual consolation and drives a wedge between them and their spouse.

It is scary for a person to tell his fiancée or her fiancé or spouse about a past abortion. It requires great trust in that person’s love

for them and trust in God. Unfortunately, sometimes that knowledge can threaten the relationship, but it can also be a means for the couple to grow closer together.

Through the help of a post-abortion heal-ing ministry, couples can successfully work through abortion-related challenges, and God’s grace can bring true healing in their relationships. Matt shared his own story of this experience:

I had a hard time learning about the abor-tion and was not sure if I in fact was still going to be able to marry my fiancée. Attend-ing the retreat helped me to recognize that she was the same person I had loved the day before I learned, and that if God had forgiven her, I needed to forgive her as well. Through counseling and direction we have been able to work through the many feelings and fears I had, and I feel confident we are now able to work on any issues that come up together, and move past them through the grace of God. I feel I am now able to love her the way God intended.

Significant growth can also result from working through the pain together as a couple. For example, the spouse that was not involved in their husband’s or wife’s past abortion may choose to “spiritually adopt” their spouse’s aborted child. This spiritual adoption can be a beautiful way to unite the couple as the family God intends them to be, as Steve recognized:

“I made the decision that this was part of what was brought to our marriage ‘in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health...to love and honor...all the days of my life.’ I take that vow seriously. We had to make this

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When Susan’s* husband, Juan, told her about the abortion he was involved in when he was in college,

she finally understood why he was so de-pressed and had trouble bonding with their children. However, she wanted him to just get over it, without seeking help from a post-abortion healing ministry. It bothered her to think of him dealing with this in relation to another woman and child.

During Steve’s premarital preparation with his (now) wife, the topic of her past abortion never arose. Now married and participating in a post-abortion healing ministry, Steve notes, “It is one of the questions you never think to ask during premarital preparation.”

With an estimate of over 56 million abor-tions in our country since the infamous Roe vs.Wade decision of 1973, there’s little doubt that countless marriages are suffering from one or both spouses’ involvement in an abor-tion.

Although many of the same struggles may arise when only one spouse was involved in a previous abortion, couples who aborted their

own child before marriage may experience their own unique difficulties, as Tina shares:

“...I didn’t think it bothered me until after we were married for a year and our son was born. I was so resentful that my husband hadn’t protected me and our baby when I became pregnant before we were married. …I began to resent and hate him. It was like a great divide between us. I couldn’t and wouldn’t let go of the anger and resentment, because if I did, it would be like saying the abortion was ok, and it wasn’t. (Our baby died,) I was hurt, and he could just go on like nothing happened.”

For cases in which one spouse is unaware of the other’s past abortion experience, some feel it is crucial for him or her to be told, while others believe it is in the past and it’s not necessary to address it. But if “the two shall become one” (Mt 19:5), can the marital union be brought to its fullest potential with the secret of an abortion lingering in the past?

Steve doesn’t think so: “...looking back over our 29 years of marriage, it is probably the

Healing Within MarriageFrom An Abortion

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“I made the decision that this was part of what was brought to our marriage ‘in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health.. .to love and honor...all the days of my life.’ I take that vow seriously.

We had to make this journey together.

BOOK STUDY

The Winter Paschaby Fr. Thomas Hopko

We will begin a new study on Thursday, November 6th at 6:30 p.m. We will also be wrapping up some final discussion of Earthen Vessels since we ran out of time. Our new book will focus on the liturgy and is called The Win-ter Pascha by Fr. Thomas Hopko. I suggest ordering it used on Ama-zon. We have enjoyed our discussions on personal prayer and so would like to invite the rest of the parish to consider attending this valuable opportunity to learn more about our eastern tradition.

Every other Thursday * 6:30pm11/6, 11/20, 12/4, 12/18Contact Matt at: mdrubush@gmail.com

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“Do you not know that you are the temple of God, and that the Spirit of God dwells in you?” Do you treat your spouse like a temple of God?

The next Worldwide Marriage Encounter Weekends are Feb 6-8, 2015 in Asheville, NC and in. Early sign up is highly recommended. For more information visit our website at: http://NCMarriageDiscovery.org or contact us at applica-tions@NCMarriageDiscovery.org or 704-315-2144.

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1 in 4 people are touched by abortion. The odds are that someone you know if suffering from the effects of an abortion. You can be instrumental in bringing the love and forgive-ness of Jesus Christ to those in great need by passing along this information!Abortion is one of the most com-mon procedures in the US, experi-enced by millions of women, many of whom are Catholic. Abortion creates a wound in post-abortive woman (and men) resulting in spiritual and emotional problems. The Project Rachel ministry assists women and men who have been wounded by abortion to find truth and healing. There is a support group beginning in the Triangle area this month. If you have experienced an abortion and would like more information about the support group, contact Project Rachel at (919) 852-1021 or email projectra-chel@nc.rr.com. For more informa-tion go to www.projectrachelnc.org (website) Calls and appointments are kept strictly confidential

journey together. ... I now look upon it that I have two sons, the one [whom] she conceived be-fore we met, and the one we conceived together. Would it be any different if the child had lived and ... [were] here present in our lives? No!! The only real difference is that we have a child who is with God and who is working and praying for us.”

Abortion affects countless marriages more than many people recognize. But there is no doubt that God will bring great healing to those who trust in his infinite mercy. If a past abortion can be acknowledged and addressed, a married couple can make great strides in experiencing even more fully God’s design that “the two shall become one” (Mt 19:5).

*The stories of Susan, Juan, Steve, Tina and Matt (their names are changed for their privacy) are just a few examples of the many marriages touched by abortion. To find out what pastoral resources for marriage may be available in your local area, contact your diocesan family life office. To find resources for post-abortion healing, visit HopeAfterAbortion.org.

Scripture texts in this work are taken from the New American Bible, revised edition © 2010, 1991, 1986, 1970 Confraternity of Christian Doctrine, Washington, D.C. and are used by permission of the copyright owner. All rights reserved.

Secretariat of Pro-Life Activities3211 Fourth Street NE • Washington, DC 20017Tel: (202) 541-3070 • Fax: (202) 541-3054www.usccb.org/respectlifeFind us at facebook.com/peopleoflife!To order materials call toll-free (866) 582-0943. Copyright © 2014, United States Conference of Catholic Bishops, Washington, D.C.

Catholic Young Professionals and Students of Raleigh ages twenties and thirties: Join us for an exciting study of St. Te-resa of Avila’s “Autobiography” Friday November 21, 7pm, Fallon Center Lounge of Our Lady of Lourdes Church, Raleigh. We will be discussing Chapters 35-40. Text available at www.ccel.org/ccel/teresa/life.pdf. Refreshments provided. Questions contact Jeremy or Nathan Kryn 803-0652, jkryn@nc.rr.com.

The Pope Francis house needs volunteers! Please sign up with Catholic Coalition: We need your time and your tal-ent. If you would like to donate, contact Rick Beech of Habitat for Humanity of Wake County. http://maybrook.habitatwake.volunteerhub.com. Please pray for us.